jesussavesist, you rock! hang in there. by the way I enjoyed the film and it does make a point. so lemmie ask you this, angry ass women: what do you propose should be done about the situation? Please, I'm gentleman of gentlemen. Always treated women with respect. BUT I HAVE SOMETHING CALLED SENSE. If you aint lookin for trouble dont ask for it cover you ish. hmmmm some of you have been watching that Beyonce video too much.
@inkwell16 This is great! I teach WGST and am working on a resistance media assignment. I would like to link this as an example of what I am looking for to my course. What do you think?
SINCE YOU ALL KNOW THAT SOME GUYS CAN BE RUDE, if you go out and dress how you want, FINE!!! but dont get pissy when someone gets rude!! i THINK MOST OF YOU ON HERE ARE A BUNCH OF ANGRY ASS WOMEN..nevermind ya'll dont get it. if I walk out with a rainbow pin and I just happen to like rainbows or something, gay guys are gonna act up and even start talking to me and I'm NOT guy. DONT EXPECT SOME GUYS TO NOT SAY ANYTHING IF YOU DRESS LIKE A GO-GO DANCER. dress how u like and be angry then.
@blueneon You're a moron. Street harassment happens even when you are fully covered, with women in burkhas, in sweat pants and windbreakers, in baggy clothes, dressed like a boy, etc, etc, etc. ALL YOU NEED TO POSSESS IS A VAGINA. And yes, we are angry. Because retarded misogynists like yourself have no idea what the fuck you are talking about. Ever. EVER.
@causticstorm You can't change people. But you can cut it down a bit. and yes there are some rude dudes out there I didn't say they weren't but you can cut down the nonsense by not having your ass hanging out. other than another country, where the hell are women in FULL ON BURKAS getting harrassed? cuz I dont see it around here! And I live in the hood.
@blueneon So we have to wear burkas to not get harassed? While you fools walk around without shirts in the summer whether? Of course. Many of us don't have our asses all hangin out. Many of us that get harassed can put on a pretty summer dress, or jeans and still get harrassed. Maybe you should just tell your friends to learn how to have more respect for themselves and stop acting like a bunch of wild animals in a god damned zoo.
@TheBestMusicChannel8 and I agree with that. How man times I gotta say I DONT agree with how guys act?!! I dunno, maybe I'm in tha ingnorant zone or something. Do what you can to avoid the situation. But when i comes down to it, you can't stop nobody from saying anything. So just do what you can. or you can do the Queen Latifah thing and "punch 'em dead in his eye..." U.N.I.T.Y. But what's that gonna solve? SO, you have sons, you have nephews and male cousins, teach 'em right. and calm down.
@causticstorm I don't know about burkas. But definitley in all the other types of clothes you've listed. I used to try that. Just dressing in wind breakers, hoodies and sweat pants and sacrificed my love for fashion because of these types of idiots. You defintley don't have to dress anything close to resembling hoorish to get this treatment. Luckily for the past several years I've been living in a place where men don't do this to me at least. And I avoid places that I know it's likely to happen.
@jesussavesist Typical angry Feminist? Right. Because women have NO reason to be angry....right? I think while people like you exist, we have every reason to be pissed off. Too much stupidity in the world.
@jesussavesist who said anything about sin? religion ain't got nothing to do with this. and no one said women are always right. the rape thing i referred to because you sound like the type of guy who when learning a girl has been raped asks "well, what was she wearing?"
@jesussavesist bud, you are gonzo. look at eashayo's top comment. and i don't really understand your point of view, maybe you could be clearer as to what you mean? playboy wouldnt exist if 1.- a man wouldn't have invented it and 2.- men wouldn't keep buying it. anyway, you're not making sense. you're saying a woman offering to be paid for sex is as bad a person as a man trying to rape a woman???
@jesussavesist wtf? i dont get your comment.. the fact that you say that women should be ashamed because there are hookers is sad. men created prostitution. do you really think a woman would prostitute herself because she wants to? NO. she might do so because she's being forced to, on drugs (maybe because she's depressed because of, say, having been raped at 14), etc. so don't come on this vid trying to call people out, because equality hasn't been achieved in the slightest.
@jesussavesist I'm with you. that's why I had let Ms.tai know. The rejection of God is a rejection of the Father. The Father set in motion ALL THINGS. He gave Adam charge of the garden. when Adam wasn't watching, Eve listened 2 the serpent. not saying it was her fault, but the man wasn't keeping watch and disobeyed God. Since then the FATHER mantle has been all but destroyed, there's no order so women had do for themselves. when a man tries to suggest order and decency, they wanna fight us
while I'm at it, XWING, I personally never spoke to a woman out of line like that in my LIFE because my father and mother taught me better. taught me respect. but since you know that there are guys out there without any proper upbringing, I'm just saying avoid the problem. u can be sexy without lookin like you about to work the pole. I HAVE sense, do you? if not I'LL GIVE YOU A DOLLAR SO YOU BUY SOME. it's NOT "my buisness" what you wear, BUT don't get pissy when u get called out.
tai, I see you're a bit angry. I was just saying if your not for sale take down the sign. and i did say i agree with the fact that guys can act out of line. they actually embarass me as a male. com'on all that cussin at me? get some confidence and self esteem then get back to me.
Males who behave this way are anything but men. They are vile, worthless and reprehensible. They are the farthest thing from a real man it is possible to be. There is no excuse, no reason - none whatsoever - to treat women this way. I dont care how a woman is dressed, how she walks, how she talks, or what she does. As long as she isnt breaking the law or actively hurting someone else, a woman should be free to walk down the street without being accosted and or molested. Women, FIGHT BACK.
yes how men treat women can a be very disgusting truth and men need to learn to be gentlemen. BUT HOW DO U EXPECT TO BE TREATED LIKE A LADY WHEN SOME OF YOU DRESS LIKE YOU WANT ATTENTION?! breasts out, short shorts belly showing... "I'LL DRESS THE WAY I WANT TO DRESS" Yeah it's that type of attitude that gets you no respect. so respect yourselves and dress respectABLE! Or you get what you non-verbally asked for. just sayin.
@blueneon It is none of your fucking business how ANYONE dresses. That does not give anyone license to harass or intimidate people. I hope you dont call yourself a man. If you reserve respect for only the people whose appearance you approve of, that says far more about you - and none of it good - than it will say about them, believe me. Your attitude is selfish, disgusting and juvenile.
@blueneon It does not MATTER how you dress. You are not entitled to harass a woman. No matter what. Putting it up to how a woman is dressed? You're ASKING for women to assume you are pompous, entitled and think of us as subhuman. Reading your post made me have to remind myself not to hate men. I've never had to do that.
@BloodandthunderVII I'm saying, dont have your butt cheeks out and boobs out and expect people not to look or some rude guy say anything. dang get you heads out your ASSES!!
@charliesacoolkid No need to be ashamed if you do not perpetrate this behaviour. Just dont behave like this, and make sure the other males you hang around with know it's completely unacceptable. That's all we ask.
i was in brooklyn..dude hollering at a girl she wouldn't respond.. he took the vienna sausages he was eating at the time and threw it at her head! i hate street harrassment so so much
@MarijuanaMichelle Thats sometimes easier said then done. I applaud you to have the guts to do this but when I'm alone (fearing for my safety) I'm not likely to confront a group of men.
this is an amazing and powerful piece. as i woman, i experience this feeling at least 2-3 per week. and i mean every week. it gets so annoying. you're only trying to get to your destination but you're constantly dealing with the hormones of some young man or old man. you found a very moving way to convey this experience. some people will never understand what it is like to walk down the street as a woman dealing with these issues but i applaud you for opening the dialogue. kudos!
this is an amazing and powerful piece. as i woman, i experience this feeling at least 2-3 per week. and i mean every week. it gets so annoying. you're only trying to get to your destination but you're constantly dealing with the hormones of some young man or old man. you found a very moving way to convey this experience. some people will never understand what it is like to walk down the street as a woman dealing with these issues but i applaud you for opening the dialogue. kudos!
Street harassment to me shows how silly men are. Maybe it's true that men's brains get smaller as they age. I mean why would a man think that it's okay to harass a woman when she's trying to walk down the street. These guys need to grow the heck up.
I have a question.Since a majority of the kids in the United States are raised in single-mother households are the mothers raising and instructing their sons how to treat women?In the 18 years it takes to raise a boy to a man;do these women teach their sons how to treat ladies or do they allow tv and the streets to teach the sons what to do.THINK ABOUT IT!
I have a question.Since a majority of the kids in the United States are raised in single-mother households are the mothers raising and instructing their sons how to treat women?In the 18 years it takes to raise a boy to a man.Do these women teach their sons how to treat ladies or do they allow tv and the streets to teach the sons what to do.THINK ABOUT IT!
@level242 That's a good point but we often forget that the very nature of being a single mother means spending more time at work to be able to support the family, therefore the boys have to rely on friends and other surrounding role models to raise them. And unfortunately, as with all vicious cycles, some women simply allow themselves to be treated that way by men which can also be observed and learned by the child. Not everyone has the privilege of a strong woman role model.
@level242 assigning blame to marginalized people for their own oppression is a classic tool of privileged people to weasel out of their responsibility. no matter who you are raised by, we are all raised in the same CULTURE that devalues and debases and demeans women. i know many many many men who love and respect and cherish their mothers and would be humiliated if their mothers knew how they treated women, and yet they still treat women like that,
Good work. The other day I saw a poor woman walking down the street and some guy literally ran up to her and stood in her way and while he was pulling at his pants said, "Damn sweet baby girl...what yo name is?" I felt pretty bad for the girl
Good work. The other day I saw a poor woman walking down the street and some guy literally ran up to her and stood in her way and while he was puling at his pants said, "Damn sweet baby girl...what yo name is?" I felt pretty bad for the girl
@Thespianland, absolutely not. ive found that street harassment cuts across lines of race, ethnicity, class and age, just like all forms of violence. i do feel like the silence around this issue within the blk community needs to be broken. but the issue is bigger than "black boys." i think we all have work to do.
@inkwell16 There is nobody silencing the issue.... if you have something to say then it must be said... No one is rallying around trying to sweep an issue under the carpet. Maybe it is just something that people have not bothered to address as it is not physical harm. Verbal harassment is only just now getting an ear and all races do it so that must be shown.
@Thespianland i have been sexually harassed and threatened by countless white men, more than any other race- perhaps by virtue of the fact that there are simply many, many more white men in america than any other race, or for the fact that white men are the most privileged, least oppressed class across the board.
Walking Home is an important response to a practice that goes unquestioned by most men. It raises significant questions about how the women we claim to 'love' are in fact treated when they are isolated and vulnerable.
Would you want your sister. mother, daughter, wife or girlfriend treated like this in the street? Something to think about ...certainly!
STOP POLICING OTHER WOMEN'S BODIES. By the way if you dont know what feminism means, you dont get to talk about it. Also, its "You" not "u", you stereotypical slag.
the video really brought the poem to life. I like the way you brought it around at the end. i feel like this piece needed that direction. also i loved the section where the girls list their names. it solidified the message of "hey, i have an identity. i am someone." i feel like without that part, the poem would have been too vague. keep writing. you have skill.
@jesussavesist I'm a Black woman and I don't do this. I respect my brothers--gay, bi and straight alike--who make it their mission to not make me feel scared in a public place.
Some guys don't do this--they come leering and grabbing, making nasty comments--how should I react to that? If they ask for my number, should I had them the Holy Bible instead?
SO let me get this straight. They believe they need to put us in in our "place" by degrading, de-ranking, and depersonalizing us with offensive disrespectful comments, and expect us women to be obliged to reply?! and if not, they insult us?!
So what is the best course of action? It seems they want attention, so what is the best way to bruise them, to give unwanted attention? or what?
but it is insidious nontheless. What is going on is that, just like the situation in Ciudad Juarez, men are lashing out at womyn's independence and attacking us for daring to leave "the kitchen." They use cat calls to keep us indoors. The "compliments" were never meant to be compliments, but an attack posture for them to make the womyn feel uncomfortable which is especially shown when they attack you for rejecting their "compliment." I get that alot - well - the stares, but when it is overt,
Someone on another board said it perfectly...this has NOTHING to do with attraction, but EVERYTHING to do with misogyny. I recall when I was a younger, I read a book in my English class that mentioned that women in Victorian society Spain were subject to "the lewd comments and stares of their male suitors" a code term for street harassment. Miosgyny is alive and well in our world; just look at the Congo, Haiti. America is just experiencing a more benign form of it,
@HappyHookerTV and especially if they are working, I make sure to find out their name, business and file a sexual harassment complaint. Problem is, men still run the show and some womyn have taken the aunt jane approach of accepting that insult to their dignity that turns them into mere sex objects. I have been kicked out of a crooked hotel for complaining about this. Fortunately, more womyn who are understaning are taking charge and taking these complainst seriously.
@HappyHookerTV I hate when men are always telling me to "smile" and if I have a problem with it they are all like "WHOA someone's got an attitude problem!" When really I was happy before they said anything.
Why are women expected to smile all the time? I don't see men smiling all of the time.
@AquaStar0 Well, simple. It plays into the whole notion that women are supposed to be like objects andlike objects we are not supposed to express or have any thoughts, emotions and feelings of our own. It's meant to sexually denigrate us and to "put us in our place" by reminding us that, as women, we are supposed to be nothing more than sexual objects, nothing more and that we are always supposed to expect to be critiqued by men while we are NOT supposed to critique those same men "since they
@AquaStar0 have an ego" and can therefore hurt us. Basically, it's to remind us that they are rulers of our society and that they can choose us, but we are not supposed to have any rights since we are second class citizens, and, thus inferior. Better yet, it's to reaffirm that we are property of men, usu by men who have nothing to offer and are pieces of shit and merely fall back on their hatred of women. Also, I find a lot of closet cases fall into this
@AquaStar0 I also want to add that the directive to "smile" actually has a very malicious intent behind it. See, it rough neighborhoods, going around "smiling" and being happy is a sign of weakness and lack of defense. Thus, they are looking to take advantage of you when they tell you to be like that; estentially, it's a rapist looking to see how you will react and, thus, how vulnerable you are.
..I have seen and encountered the smile=weakness problem, and it is one heck of a problem. Life is short, women have a right to smile. The mofos believing that smiling is a sign of weakness need to be shown better......but how exactly? Now that's a tough question. Any ideas?
A very powerful video. As a volunteer at a Rape Crisis Center, the reality of harassment is very disturbing...and this idea that we are objects of these mens affection and somehow we should feel flattered. it comes down to respect. U show me respect and i will give you respect!
@28pada It's really showing no respect for us as womyn. The fact alone that they can judge us, but we can't critique them, is proof enough that they don't care what we think and feel; it's all about them, male entitlement.
i remember at six teen as i was walking down the block to catch the public bus in new york. A random man walked behind me and grabbed my breast. I had to fight him off of me with my umbrella. I cried so hard and it made me feel dirty. I tell this story to men and they laugh at it.
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. And I hope you have found your own peace despite the fact that these "men" (children; boys, we should say) do not take this seriously. I wish I could have been there to help you... someone.
I appreciate this. Its amazing how many guys (the ones who cat call) are unaware how degrading it is. It is honestly one of the worst feelings in the world. You just feel so small and irritated, it's not flattering at all.
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@inkwell16 YOU MAKE ME SICK....THIS IS AN ATTACK ON BLACK MEN IF NOT I WOULD BE VERY, VERY SURPRISED. IF THIS VIDEO WAS NOT MADE BECAUSE OF BLACK MEN I WOULD BE REALLY , REALLY SURPRISED!! BLACK MEN DO NOT DO ASIAN GIRLS LMAO....YOU SHOULD BE STONED TO DEATH AND THAT REAL TALK!!!
@freedomreeves ATTACKS AND INSULTS ON A RACE OF MEN IS DISGUSTING!!! DONT GIVE ME THAT BULLSHIT SIS. WE KNOW WHAT THIS VIDEO IS ABOUT..... LETS LOOK ON YOUTUBE AND ALL MEDIA OUTLETS AND SEE HOW MANY OTHER RACES OF MEN ARE BEING ATTACKED? IS IT JUST ME OR ARE BLACK WOMEN IN CAHOOTS WITH EVERYONE AGAINST BLACK MEN?
@freedomreeves I KNOW THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE AT THE CORE OF FEMINISM, WITHOUT THEIR OUTSPOKEN WORDS, ATTITUDE, STRENGTH WOMEN WOULD NOT BE WHERE THEY ARE TODAY I CAN GUARANTEE YOU THAT!! TWO OPPOSITES ATTRACT!! BUT BLACK WOMEN ARE AT ONE WITH BLACK MEN SO WE REPEL...TELL ME THIS IS NOT TRUE? CHECK MY PAGE ABOUT MOST OF YOU BLACK WOMEN!!
Thank u for making this, I think it'll make a lot of men see things differently. A lot of them dont realise what we have to go through even just to go to the shop to get some milk!
I really appreciate this. There is no reason why we as women have to feel disrespected by perfect strangers and then they call us a "b" when we respond by ignoring their ignorance. If you want to appreciate a beautiful woman, say " hello, how is your day." Instead of " A shorty, let me holla at you!" from your car window with all your boys hanging out the back. What kind of woman would accept that?! Please men, where have the manners gone? When did women become pieces of meat??
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So, uhh, how do you expect to be spoken to? It seems as if you can't even say "hello", without you accusing the fellow that asked you to only view you as a body and nothing more. What's the correct way to acknowledge you as a person?
The correct way to acknowledge a person is with respect and humility. Interrogating us, giving us commands and complimenting us with the expectation that we then "owe" the person (a stranger) a certain response, is not fair. Obviously many of us have learned that we often must respond a certain way for safety reasons, but this does not mean we should dismiss these interactions as natural, non-problematic or non-changing. I believe we can do better.
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I assumed females liked that.
I'll try and have a intelligent conversation with a girl and she'd think I'm boring. She'd prefer the one who keeps calling her sexy and hitting her "playfully".
Thanks for making this and putting it out. When i lived in NYC i experienced this on a daily, several times a day walking to and from the train station on my way to work. It started to really get to me so I found out about a group called Street Harassment Project but not sure if they're still around.
Ladies I can somehow feel your pain but don't walk around angry believing all men are disrespectful. Evidentially your mother married someone with respect to have you. Some men are jerks. But not all
I appreciate the dialogue... and a few men have asked that question after seeing this. It's a good question. Clearly, not all men are "scummy." But it's not just about those who talk.. its about all of us. Including those of us who watch this stuff happen, and stay silent or just laugh. This is about creating a safe public space for all of us.
god.... this is one of the few instances in my life that I have wanted to lash out and really hurt someone. I am not a violent person by nature, but you really need to have thick skin and nerves of steel to walk down some streets in new york city! I have actually had my arm grabbed by some guy. Sometimes I dream about my response; short, to the point and guaranteed to hit home and make a fool think twice.
This is beautiful. Thank you. :-)
elmundopasa1 1 month ago
this is such a bull shit video!!
WiseNubianPolygny1 2 months ago
@WiseNubianPolygny1 I'm surprised you don't like it. I'm pretty sure you were in it. Weren't you one of the misogynistic men cat-calling?
elmundopasa1 1 month ago
@elmundopasa1 go get a life weak writer you know nothing about me coward...
WiseNubianPolygny1 1 month ago
PASS A FREAKING LAW AGAINST HARASSMENT NOW!
dizzy365 5 months ago 4
great video!
mustbol 6 months ago
jesussavesist, you rock! hang in there. by the way I enjoyed the film and it does make a point. so lemmie ask you this, angry ass women: what do you propose should be done about the situation? Please, I'm gentleman of gentlemen. Always treated women with respect. BUT I HAVE SOMETHING CALLED SENSE. If you aint lookin for trouble dont ask for it cover you ish. hmmmm some of you have been watching that Beyonce video too much.
blueneon 6 months ago
@inkwell16 This is great! I teach WGST and am working on a resistance media assignment. I would like to link this as an example of what I am looking for to my course. What do you think?
tbeaudrymellor 6 months ago
@jesussavesist Oh, now you're the victim. Tell me, do they still have sandwiches in this dreamworld you live in?
causticstorm 6 months ago
SINCE YOU ALL KNOW THAT SOME GUYS CAN BE RUDE, if you go out and dress how you want, FINE!!! but dont get pissy when someone gets rude!! i THINK MOST OF YOU ON HERE ARE A BUNCH OF ANGRY ASS WOMEN..nevermind ya'll dont get it. if I walk out with a rainbow pin and I just happen to like rainbows or something, gay guys are gonna act up and even start talking to me and I'm NOT guy. DONT EXPECT SOME GUYS TO NOT SAY ANYTHING IF YOU DRESS LIKE A GO-GO DANCER. dress how u like and be angry then.
blueneon 6 months ago
@blueneon You're a moron. Street harassment happens even when you are fully covered, with women in burkhas, in sweat pants and windbreakers, in baggy clothes, dressed like a boy, etc, etc, etc. ALL YOU NEED TO POSSESS IS A VAGINA. And yes, we are angry. Because retarded misogynists like yourself have no idea what the fuck you are talking about. Ever. EVER.
causticstorm 6 months ago 4
@causticstorm You can't change people. But you can cut it down a bit. and yes there are some rude dudes out there I didn't say they weren't but you can cut down the nonsense by not having your ass hanging out. other than another country, where the hell are women in FULL ON BURKAS getting harrassed? cuz I dont see it around here! And I live in the hood.
blueneon 6 months ago
@blueneon So we have to wear burkas to not get harassed? While you fools walk around without shirts in the summer whether? Of course. Many of us don't have our asses all hangin out. Many of us that get harassed can put on a pretty summer dress, or jeans and still get harrassed. Maybe you should just tell your friends to learn how to have more respect for themselves and stop acting like a bunch of wild animals in a god damned zoo.
TheBestMusicChannel8 6 months ago 3
@TheBestMusicChannel8 and I agree with that. How man times I gotta say I DONT agree with how guys act?!! I dunno, maybe I'm in tha ingnorant zone or something. Do what you can to avoid the situation. But when i comes down to it, you can't stop nobody from saying anything. So just do what you can. or you can do the Queen Latifah thing and "punch 'em dead in his eye..." U.N.I.T.Y. But what's that gonna solve? SO, you have sons, you have nephews and male cousins, teach 'em right. and calm down.
blueneon 6 months ago
@causticstorm I don't know about burkas. But definitley in all the other types of clothes you've listed. I used to try that. Just dressing in wind breakers, hoodies and sweat pants and sacrificed my love for fashion because of these types of idiots. You defintley don't have to dress anything close to resembling hoorish to get this treatment. Luckily for the past several years I've been living in a place where men don't do this to me at least. And I avoid places that I know it's likely to happen.
TheBestMusicChannel8 6 months ago
@jesussavesist yeah whatever, a woman won't prostitute herself for fun. you don't know what you're saying.
livingthelife194 6 months ago
@jesussavesist Typical angry Feminist? Right. Because women have NO reason to be angry....right? I think while people like you exist, we have every reason to be pissed off. Too much stupidity in the world.
BloodandthunderVII 6 months ago
@jesussavesist who said anything about sin? religion ain't got nothing to do with this. and no one said women are always right. the rape thing i referred to because you sound like the type of guy who when learning a girl has been raped asks "well, what was she wearing?"
livingthelife194 6 months ago
@jesussavesist bud, you are gonzo. look at eashayo's top comment. and i don't really understand your point of view, maybe you could be clearer as to what you mean? playboy wouldnt exist if 1.- a man wouldn't have invented it and 2.- men wouldn't keep buying it. anyway, you're not making sense. you're saying a woman offering to be paid for sex is as bad a person as a man trying to rape a woman???
livingthelife194 6 months ago
@jesussavesist wtf? i dont get your comment.. the fact that you say that women should be ashamed because there are hookers is sad. men created prostitution. do you really think a woman would prostitute herself because she wants to? NO. she might do so because she's being forced to, on drugs (maybe because she's depressed because of, say, having been raped at 14), etc. so don't come on this vid trying to call people out, because equality hasn't been achieved in the slightest.
livingthelife194 6 months ago
@jesussavesist I'm with you. that's why I had let Ms.tai know. The rejection of God is a rejection of the Father. The Father set in motion ALL THINGS. He gave Adam charge of the garden. when Adam wasn't watching, Eve listened 2 the serpent. not saying it was her fault, but the man wasn't keeping watch and disobeyed God. Since then the FATHER mantle has been all but destroyed, there's no order so women had do for themselves. when a man tries to suggest order and decency, they wanna fight us
blueneon 7 months ago
while I'm at it, XWING, I personally never spoke to a woman out of line like that in my LIFE because my father and mother taught me better. taught me respect. but since you know that there are guys out there without any proper upbringing, I'm just saying avoid the problem. u can be sexy without lookin like you about to work the pole. I HAVE sense, do you? if not I'LL GIVE YOU A DOLLAR SO YOU BUY SOME. it's NOT "my buisness" what you wear, BUT don't get pissy when u get called out.
blueneon 7 months ago
tai, I see you're a bit angry. I was just saying if your not for sale take down the sign. and i did say i agree with the fact that guys can act out of line. they actually embarass me as a male. com'on all that cussin at me? get some confidence and self esteem then get back to me.
blueneon 7 months ago
Males who behave this way are anything but men. They are vile, worthless and reprehensible. They are the farthest thing from a real man it is possible to be. There is no excuse, no reason - none whatsoever - to treat women this way. I dont care how a woman is dressed, how she walks, how she talks, or what she does. As long as she isnt breaking the law or actively hurting someone else, a woman should be free to walk down the street without being accosted and or molested. Women, FIGHT BACK.
taifighter 7 months ago
yes how men treat women can a be very disgusting truth and men need to learn to be gentlemen. BUT HOW DO U EXPECT TO BE TREATED LIKE A LADY WHEN SOME OF YOU DRESS LIKE YOU WANT ATTENTION?! breasts out, short shorts belly showing... "I'LL DRESS THE WAY I WANT TO DRESS" Yeah it's that type of attitude that gets you no respect. so respect yourselves and dress respectABLE! Or you get what you non-verbally asked for. just sayin.
blueneon 7 months ago
@blueneon It is none of your fucking business how ANYONE dresses. That does not give anyone license to harass or intimidate people. I hope you dont call yourself a man. If you reserve respect for only the people whose appearance you approve of, that says far more about you - and none of it good - than it will say about them, believe me. Your attitude is selfish, disgusting and juvenile.
taifighter 7 months ago 3
@blueneon It does not MATTER how you dress. You are not entitled to harass a woman. No matter what. Putting it up to how a woman is dressed? You're ASKING for women to assume you are pompous, entitled and think of us as subhuman. Reading your post made me have to remind myself not to hate men. I've never had to do that.
BloodandthunderVII 6 months ago
@BloodandthunderVII I'm saying, dont have your butt cheeks out and boobs out and expect people not to look or some rude guy say anything. dang get you heads out your ASSES!!
blueneon 6 months ago
I so agree with this!
dizlee86 7 months ago
I feel ashamed to be male
charliesacoolkid 7 months ago 4
@charliesacoolkid No need to be ashamed if you do not perpetrate this behaviour. Just dont behave like this, and make sure the other males you hang around with know it's completely unacceptable. That's all we ask.
taifighter 7 months ago
Love this... When this happens to me, I give them one of those looks, then I walk away fast. I just wish it wouldnt be an issue to begin with.
livingthelife194 7 months ago
fantastic video!!
louloumatou 7 months ago
AWESOME VID! Thanks!
SherryBlossomBeauty 7 months ago
HAPPENS IN THE CARIBBEAN ALL THE TIME. THEY SAY NICE THINGS THEN WHEN YOU DON'T RESPOND YOU ARE UGLY ETC ETC ETC!!!!!!!!!!!
petranilla14 7 months ago
Great ...
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@MarijuanaMichelle why should we feel the need to entertain their disrespect?
pinkaddiction13 7 months ago
i was in brooklyn..dude hollering at a girl she wouldn't respond.. he took the vienna sausages he was eating at the time and threw it at her head! i hate street harrassment so so much
evileyez504 7 months ago
Nice.
QueenSemiramis 7 months ago
powerful....
MC0090 7 months ago
@MarijuanaMichelle Thats sometimes easier said then done. I applaud you to have the guts to do this but when I'm alone (fearing for my safety) I'm not likely to confront a group of men.
wheresmycrownyo 7 months ago
You might like to know that "Nuala" is pronounced "NEW-lah" in Ireland. It's a solid Irish name :)
DeWittAlbright 7 months ago
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this is an amazing and powerful piece. as i woman, i experience this feeling at least 2-3 per week. and i mean every week. it gets so annoying. you're only trying to get to your destination but you're constantly dealing with the hormones of some young man or old man. you found a very moving way to convey this experience. some people will never understand what it is like to walk down the street as a woman dealing with these issues but i applaud you for opening the dialogue. kudos!
afdeezie 8 months ago
this is an amazing and powerful piece. as i woman, i experience this feeling at least 2-3 per week. and i mean every week. it gets so annoying. you're only trying to get to your destination but you're constantly dealing with the hormones of some young man or old man. you found a very moving way to convey this experience. some people will never understand what it is like to walk down the street as a woman dealing with these issues but i applaud you for opening the dialogue. kudos!
afdeezie 8 months ago 6
AMEN!!
crpdm1965 9 months ago 2
So the same rules should apply for men right??? cause men aren't the only ones putting their hands where they shouldn't be!
juanloko2 9 months ago
Street harassment to me shows how silly men are. Maybe it's true that men's brains get smaller as they age. I mean why would a man think that it's okay to harass a woman when she's trying to walk down the street. These guys need to grow the heck up.
littleeva 10 months ago
I have a question.Since a majority of the kids in the United States are raised in single-mother households are the mothers raising and instructing their sons how to treat women?In the 18 years it takes to raise a boy to a man;do these women teach their sons how to treat ladies or do they allow tv and the streets to teach the sons what to do.THINK ABOUT IT!
level242 10 months ago
I have a question.Since a majority of the kids in the United States are raised in single-mother households are the mothers raising and instructing their sons how to treat women?In the 18 years it takes to raise a boy to a man.Do these women teach their sons how to treat ladies or do they allow tv and the streets to teach the sons what to do.THINK ABOUT IT!
level242 10 months ago
@level242 That's a good point but we often forget that the very nature of being a single mother means spending more time at work to be able to support the family, therefore the boys have to rely on friends and other surrounding role models to raise them. And unfortunately, as with all vicious cycles, some women simply allow themselves to be treated that way by men which can also be observed and learned by the child. Not everyone has the privilege of a strong woman role model.
Dimora 9 months ago 2
@level242 assigning blame to marginalized people for their own oppression is a classic tool of privileged people to weasel out of their responsibility. no matter who you are raised by, we are all raised in the same CULTURE that devalues and debases and demeans women. i know many many many men who love and respect and cherish their mothers and would be humiliated if their mothers knew how they treated women, and yet they still treat women like that,
maryandchild 9 months ago 5
so true
aetuip 11 months ago
I love this!
AmberManifesto 11 months ago
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Good work. The other day I saw a poor woman walking down the street and some guy literally ran up to her and stood in her way and while he was pulling at his pants said, "Damn sweet baby girl...what yo name is?" I felt pretty bad for the girl
office75 1 year ago
Good work. The other day I saw a poor woman walking down the street and some guy literally ran up to her and stood in her way and while he was puling at his pants said, "Damn sweet baby girl...what yo name is?" I felt pretty bad for the girl
office75 1 year ago 11
@Thespianland, absolutely not. ive found that street harassment cuts across lines of race, ethnicity, class and age, just like all forms of violence. i do feel like the silence around this issue within the blk community needs to be broken. but the issue is bigger than "black boys." i think we all have work to do.
inkwell16 1 year ago 20
@inkwell16 There is nobody silencing the issue.... if you have something to say then it must be said... No one is rallying around trying to sweep an issue under the carpet. Maybe it is just something that people have not bothered to address as it is not physical harm. Verbal harassment is only just now getting an ear and all races do it so that must be shown.
Thespianland 10 months ago 2
Interesting. Is it only black boys who show you this type of attention?
Thespianland 1 year ago
@Thespianland no!
Gwyn142 1 year ago
@Thespianland Not even a little bit.
Homewrecker47 10 months ago
Whites and Asians have libidos too you know.
level242 10 months ago
@Thespianland i have been sexually harassed and threatened by countless white men, more than any other race- perhaps by virtue of the fact that there are simply many, many more white men in america than any other race, or for the fact that white men are the most privileged, least oppressed class across the board.
maryandchild 9 months ago 3
@maryandchild I am sorry that you have experienced this. I have too... From all races. Keep strong!
Thespianland 9 months ago 3
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if u really want to get rid of Harrasment then u must wear islamic hijab,,,,,
junaid1404 1 year ago
wonderful video
lucidparody 1 year ago
GOD loves you , but what do you expect coming out brawless
borya87 1 year ago
Walking Home is an important response to a practice that goes unquestioned by most men. It raises significant questions about how the women we claim to 'love' are in fact treated when they are isolated and vulnerable.
Would you want your sister. mother, daughter, wife or girlfriend treated like this in the street? Something to think about ...certainly!
manchildemusic 1 year ago 4
@jesussavesist Blah blah blah "Church", "god", dressing.
STOP POLICING OTHER WOMEN'S BODIES. By the way if you dont know what feminism means, you dont get to talk about it. Also, its "You" not "u", you stereotypical slag.
causticstorm 1 year ago
@jesussavesist How about you not use Netspeak with me and I might give a fuck about what you are saying? Hmm?
causticstorm 1 year ago
@jesussavesist Why do you have to be so stereotypically stupid? You make me ashamed to be black. Way to wear the token proudly, "Sister". Ugh.
causticstorm 1 year ago 3
the video really brought the poem to life. I like the way you brought it around at the end. i feel like this piece needed that direction. also i loved the section where the girls list their names. it solidified the message of "hey, i have an identity. i am someone." i feel like without that part, the poem would have been too vague. keep writing. you have skill.
thismanonfire 1 year ago
If you don't want attention then why do you wear such revealing clothes? Men are hardwired to be sexually drawn to scantily clad women.
Castaril 1 year ago
@jesussavesist I'm a Black woman and I don't do this. I respect my brothers--gay, bi and straight alike--who make it their mission to not make me feel scared in a public place.
Some guys don't do this--they come leering and grabbing, making nasty comments--how should I react to that? If they ask for my number, should I had them the Holy Bible instead?
FlamebergeDuster 1 year ago
SO let me get this straight. They believe they need to put us in in our "place" by degrading, de-ranking, and depersonalizing us with offensive disrespectful comments, and expect us women to be obliged to reply?! and if not, they insult us?!
So what is the best course of action? It seems they want attention, so what is the best way to bruise them, to give unwanted attention? or what?
TFWC88 1 year ago 3
oh, because white women don't get harassed on the street.
ihazachi 1 year ago
but it is insidious nontheless. What is going on is that, just like the situation in Ciudad Juarez, men are lashing out at womyn's independence and attacking us for daring to leave "the kitchen." They use cat calls to keep us indoors. The "compliments" were never meant to be compliments, but an attack posture for them to make the womyn feel uncomfortable which is especially shown when they attack you for rejecting their "compliment." I get that alot - well - the stares, but when it is overt,
HappyHookerTV 1 year ago 2
Someone on another board said it perfectly...this has NOTHING to do with attraction, but EVERYTHING to do with misogyny. I recall when I was a younger, I read a book in my English class that mentioned that women in Victorian society Spain were subject to "the lewd comments and stares of their male suitors" a code term for street harassment. Miosgyny is alive and well in our world; just look at the Congo, Haiti. America is just experiencing a more benign form of it,
HappyHookerTV 1 year ago 7
@HappyHookerTV and especially if they are working, I make sure to find out their name, business and file a sexual harassment complaint. Problem is, men still run the show and some womyn have taken the aunt jane approach of accepting that insult to their dignity that turns them into mere sex objects. I have been kicked out of a crooked hotel for complaining about this. Fortunately, more womyn who are understaning are taking charge and taking these complainst seriously.
HappyHookerTV 1 year ago
@HappyHookerTV When they tell ya, "Smile," that is a directive, an intrusion into your space without your consent, just like rape.
HappyHookerTV 1 year ago 4
@HappyHookerTV I hate when men are always telling me to "smile" and if I have a problem with it they are all like "WHOA someone's got an attitude problem!" When really I was happy before they said anything.
Why are women expected to smile all the time? I don't see men smiling all of the time.
AquaStar0 1 year ago 7
@AquaStar0 Well, simple. It plays into the whole notion that women are supposed to be like objects andlike objects we are not supposed to express or have any thoughts, emotions and feelings of our own. It's meant to sexually denigrate us and to "put us in our place" by reminding us that, as women, we are supposed to be nothing more than sexual objects, nothing more and that we are always supposed to expect to be critiqued by men while we are NOT supposed to critique those same men "since they
HappyHookerTV 1 year ago 3
@AquaStar0 have an ego" and can therefore hurt us. Basically, it's to remind us that they are rulers of our society and that they can choose us, but we are not supposed to have any rights since we are second class citizens, and, thus inferior. Better yet, it's to reaffirm that we are property of men, usu by men who have nothing to offer and are pieces of shit and merely fall back on their hatred of women. Also, I find a lot of closet cases fall into this
HappyHookerTV 1 year ago 2
@AquaStar0 I also want to add that the directive to "smile" actually has a very malicious intent behind it. See, it rough neighborhoods, going around "smiling" and being happy is a sign of weakness and lack of defense. Thus, they are looking to take advantage of you when they tell you to be like that; estentially, it's a rapist looking to see how you will react and, thus, how vulnerable you are.
HappyHookerTV 1 year ago 4
@HappyHookerTV
..I have seen and encountered the smile=weakness problem, and it is one heck of a problem. Life is short, women have a right to smile. The mofos believing that smiling is a sign of weakness need to be shown better......but how exactly? Now that's a tough question. Any ideas?
TFWC88 1 year ago
THIS IS BEAUTIFUL!
DeLaSoul246 1 year ago
sista sista, very powerful. We all can relate to this as women. Thank you for this piece
myabaker 1 year ago
Wow, some asshole actually "dislike"d this?
moviemonkeys 1 year ago 4
This is so AWESOME!
Love, Light & Blessings!
Ingrid0424 1 year ago
A very powerful video. As a volunteer at a Rape Crisis Center, the reality of harassment is very disturbing...and this idea that we are objects of these mens affection and somehow we should feel flattered. it comes down to respect. U show me respect and i will give you respect!
28pada 1 year ago 6
@28pada It's really showing no respect for us as womyn. The fact alone that they can judge us, but we can't critique them, is proof enough that they don't care what we think and feel; it's all about them, male entitlement.
HappyHookerTV 1 year ago
i remember at six teen as i was walking down the block to catch the public bus in new york. A random man walked behind me and grabbed my breast. I had to fight him off of me with my umbrella. I cried so hard and it made me feel dirty. I tell this story to men and they laugh at it.
eashayo123 1 year ago 18
@eashayo123
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. And I hope you have found your own peace despite the fact that these "men" (children; boys, we should say) do not take this seriously. I wish I could have been there to help you... someone.
DeLaSoul246 1 year ago
I appreciate this. Its amazing how many guys (the ones who cat call) are unaware how degrading it is. It is honestly one of the worst feelings in the world. You just feel so small and irritated, it's not flattering at all.
AmaryllisTV 1 year ago 7
College Student Shot Because She Would Not Give Man Her Phone Number
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inkwell16 1 year ago 25
@inkwell16 wow, some idiot male neanderthals can't take a cue can they? They harass, then become rejected and can't take the rejection! unbelievable!
TFWC88 1 year ago 3
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@inkwell16 YOU MAKE ME SICK....THIS IS AN ATTACK ON BLACK MEN IF NOT I WOULD BE VERY, VERY SURPRISED. IF THIS VIDEO WAS NOT MADE BECAUSE OF BLACK MEN I WOULD BE REALLY , REALLY SURPRISED!! BLACK MEN DO NOT DO ASIAN GIRLS LMAO....YOU SHOULD BE STONED TO DEATH AND THAT REAL TALK!!!
dwkironde1 9 months ago
@dwkironde1 Words and communication are gifts. Don't misuse them.
freedomreeves 8 months ago 2
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@freedomreeves ATTACKS AND INSULTS ON A RACE OF MEN IS DISGUSTING!!! DONT GIVE ME THAT BULLSHIT SIS. WE KNOW WHAT THIS VIDEO IS ABOUT..... LETS LOOK ON YOUTUBE AND ALL MEDIA OUTLETS AND SEE HOW MANY OTHER RACES OF MEN ARE BEING ATTACKED? IS IT JUST ME OR ARE BLACK WOMEN IN CAHOOTS WITH EVERYONE AGAINST BLACK MEN?
dwkironde1 8 months ago
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@freedomreeves I KNOW THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE AT THE CORE OF FEMINISM, WITHOUT THEIR OUTSPOKEN WORDS, ATTITUDE, STRENGTH WOMEN WOULD NOT BE WHERE THEY ARE TODAY I CAN GUARANTEE YOU THAT!! TWO OPPOSITES ATTRACT!! BUT BLACK WOMEN ARE AT ONE WITH BLACK MEN SO WE REPEL...TELL ME THIS IS NOT TRUE? CHECK MY PAGE ABOUT MOST OF YOU BLACK WOMEN!!
dwkironde1 8 months ago
Thank u for making this, I think it'll make a lot of men see things differently. A lot of them dont realise what we have to go through even just to go to the shop to get some milk!
coupdegrace11 1 year ago 2
I can so relate. Just last week I was walking to go and get my son and out of no where i was called a slut and a bitch because I wasn't interested
cfogle1000 1 year ago 7
I love it.This right here is my birthday present just watching it.
TrynaGetBacToMyLuv 1 year ago 5
I really appreciate this. There is no reason why we as women have to feel disrespected by perfect strangers and then they call us a "b" when we respond by ignoring their ignorance. If you want to appreciate a beautiful woman, say " hello, how is your day." Instead of " A shorty, let me holla at you!" from your car window with all your boys hanging out the back. What kind of woman would accept that?! Please men, where have the manners gone? When did women become pieces of meat??
TonyeStarr1 1 year ago 3
I've NEVER been spoken to this way. What kind of shit are American parents raising these days?
CanadiaNecro1 1 year ago
Girl, this video is spot on. Can't tell you how many times I've had to deal with similar situations.
Nono992 1 year ago 2
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So, uhh, how do you expect to be spoken to? It seems as if you can't even say "hello", without you accusing the fellow that asked you to only view you as a body and nothing more. What's the correct way to acknowledge you as a person?
JmanPSU 1 year ago
Think how you would treat a man, if simply thinking how you would treat a person doesn't give you the answer for a person who happens to be a woman.
Rhube13 1 year ago 3
Clearly, "hello" isn't the issue.
But it seems you missed the point of this piece.
37thBlitz 1 year ago 3
The correct way to acknowledge a person is with respect and humility. Interrogating us, giving us commands and complimenting us with the expectation that we then "owe" the person (a stranger) a certain response, is not fair. Obviously many of us have learned that we often must respond a certain way for safety reasons, but this does not mean we should dismiss these interactions as natural, non-problematic or non-changing. I believe we can do better.
inkwell16 1 year ago 35
@inkwell16 Great Video! Hope the men are watching this! Always respect women!
Chicago10281 10 months ago 5
@JmanPSU FYI walking down the street is NOT the way to approach a women. Watch this video: /watch?v=5k7tSStyhAI
rainonmebi 11 months ago
thanks for the feedback everyone! glad this has struck a chord with so many of you. i really appreciate your support.
In Solidarity,
Nuala
inkwell16 1 year ago
Scumbags should be strung up with some rope!!! That's how to deal with them. These scumbags have no right to bother this young woman.
Biscom 2 years ago
This is so perfect, it gave me shivers. Thank you for it.
bakobakocat 2 years ago 3
very powerful, lyrical, and needed. thank you
nij1189 2 years ago 4
Love this.
alwaysfades 2 years ago
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I assumed females liked that.
I'll try and have a intelligent conversation with a girl and she'd think I'm boring. She'd prefer the one who keeps calling her sexy and hitting her "playfully".
OVee91 2 years ago
Maybe that's 'cause you ARE boring :)
hebesphenomegacorona 2 years ago
@hebesphenomegacorona
Well, my comment made me seem boring, but I'm quite energetic.
I meant some girls, not all. So...
OVee91 2 years ago
We have been walking home
for these ten thousand years
and we walk still, my sister,
let me walk with you?
that I may not walk alone,
free from dread and fears.
Walk with us, our daughters,
and our daughters daughters too!
Thank you for this...
GeaVox 2 years ago 4
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wear a fat costume and the problem will go away
MeIsArtTickYouLet 2 years ago
really powerful, and beautifully shot too.
juanitagangle 2 years ago 2
Beautiful! Pure art, telling the truth.
SamiDoinDriveBys 2 years ago 2
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jtboll00 2 years ago
Thanks for making this and putting it out. When i lived in NYC i experienced this on a daily, several times a day walking to and from the train station on my way to work. It started to really get to me so I found out about a group called Street Harassment Project but not sure if they're still around.
Fatima74 2 years ago 9
LOVE I hope I will always work to be less oppressive.
RapahelakaMac 2 years ago 2
Nice one! Go bro!
GeaVox 2 years ago
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Sakuradroppsu 2 years ago
Thank you for this. So many forget that women are human, we are not for consumption.
knitterwoman 2 years ago 35
Ladies I can somehow feel your pain but don't walk around angry believing all men are disrespectful. Evidentially your mother married someone with respect to have you. Some men are jerks. But not all
BedfordsUSA 2 years ago
I see no reason for this comment to get a thumbs down.
He has a point, you cannot overgeneralize that all men are as scummy as some of them are.
37thBlitz 1 year ago
I appreciate the dialogue... and a few men have asked that question after seeing this. It's a good question. Clearly, not all men are "scummy." But it's not just about those who talk.. its about all of us. Including those of us who watch this stuff happen, and stay silent or just laugh. This is about creating a safe public space for all of us.
inkwell16 1 year ago 9
I wonder how a man would feel if some 6'4" gay man harassed them in the street.
littleeva 2 years ago 12
I'd love it!
solidsmooky 2 years ago
@littleeva exactly
Avalita07 1 year ago
I matter! This is my home too! Man one of these days I will tell one of these men who I am, what I am about, and the story behind MY name.
lautour 2 years ago 7
god.... this is one of the few instances in my life that I have wanted to lash out and really hurt someone. I am not a violent person by nature, but you really need to have thick skin and nerves of steel to walk down some streets in new york city! I have actually had my arm grabbed by some guy. Sometimes I dream about my response; short, to the point and guaranteed to hit home and make a fool think twice.
spacemama 2 years ago 3
I hate when men grab your arm! It makes me want to kick them in the balls.
MistressBellatrix 2 years ago 8
THat touching .2:58.......thats a NO..no.
Call me a bitch but dont put your fucking hands on me.
traviesote1 2 years ago 6
This really hits home for me, wow. Thank you for making this :)
VentriloquistLane 2 years ago 4
Great film, great message. Keep up the good work Nuala!!!
fkobernew 2 years ago 2
Thank you for making this video. Many of us women have to put up with this kind of harassment. I like what the wind whispered. It's the truth.
fogggygyrl 2 years ago 49