Adoption - An Adoptee on her Mom's Perspective

[FreedomOfTheUSA]

Asians are ugly.

[jetrpg22]

I posted two definitions of ethnicity . By both of them you can argue she is not Korean or that she is. These these are not black and white, Koreans are not Koreans many of them are more Chinese or Mongolian . Yet would never think that for a day of their lives, becuase they don't have that information. In that way they are Korean and not other ancestral groups.

See, its how a person self identifies, not so much about the reality of the situation.

[The3rdHiltonSister]

urghhh...asians are just fucking ugly. this hoe needs to eat a dog and call it a day....no one cares!!!! Why am I watching this shit how did I get from a Britney video to this shit.....fuck youtube for allowing these salon owners to put up videos.....arrrhhh America sucks for this.

[sandinyourshoes]

We should not be surprised that Lynne struggled with issues of racial identity. I really was not her fault, either. If her adoptive mom was white, then I am not stunned that she felt white growing up. Why not? Each one of us can choose how she wishes to see herself. Culture is not just reflected in how one looks. It is in the heart, too.

I cannot blame Lynne for being in tears at the end. Who wouldn't wish to be truly loved and accepted? That is an amazing feeling and good for anyone.

[tubedude101]

thats correct you koreans difinately look white hahaha

[sheepo78]

I'm korean adopted into a chinese family. I was raise chinese. I have found no problems with the culture differences nor have I ever really thought about the fact that I had missed out on another culture. Jst being "Asian" made it okay for me to be assimilated into another asian culture. It wasn't pointed out that I was out of place or something was missing... interesting

[GNDcherryblossom]

@sheepo78

Wow the difference between American and Korean is much bigger than that between Chinese and Korean.

[bubbles02010]

i think her mother accepted that her daughter was asian (idk), but what she was mainly trying to accomplish was that it doesn't matter what her daughter looked like. she was her daughter and she loved her

[MrHasnodong]

lol this is going to happen to my neighbor he's an adopted chinese baby

[jeremiah3754]

One also has to look at the environment she was in. Where did she live that people make such a huge deal about her being asian? Probably in some hick town. It should just be a non-issue.

[Asaseya18]

i feel bad for her.

[TheBlarges]

yup, this is the natural end point of lunatic leftard policy. You have a worthless woman adopting a non-white from some foreign country, and she will naturally never fit in. This is not "racism" only a retard would think such a thing. This is just the natural response to blatant rejection of reality by liberals.

The woman should be killed for adopting a non-white instead of having white children. The gook shipped back to her home country where she will fit in. All reasonable solutions.

[MeTaLdUdE02]

@TheBlarges please tell me you're being sarcastic about that last paragraph.

[GisSlicknSmooth]

NOT to satisfy their superiority complex

[SoulfulLova]

Sounds like the person that adopted her did a pretty shitty job. Now you've got a mentally damaged Asian that spends her days wanting to be white. Sad.

[infantrydivision11]

she sure talks like one.. :)

[minaroar]

 I hate being adopted, you have no right to buy children, you PIGS!!

[GuyWithBluePoop]

FREAK!

[VinnyCons]

I think when you ignore your loved one's ethnicity, you're saying "What you are isn't good enough for me and I can't handle that." Sweeping differences under a rug and pretending they don't exist is immature and hurtful.

[pvrp115]

@FlyingMimi i'd love to make you my pet, piggy

[sonofmanchu]

What is wrong being asian? I am god damn proud of it. I am glad I am not a white pig! period.

[deadbutmoving]

She is ugly you white people can have her!

[nytobake]

id rather live and be raised as an orphan than getting adopted by some random rich white family, calling them my dad and mom. adoption is a cruel. treating human beings as if they are their pets. Not cool. white people should just adopt white babies/infants rather than adopting asians, it may be joyful and fun for you white folks, but not for kids while they are growing up. it's cruel. i would rather be raised as an orphan than being treated like a pet in a white family.

[Airstrik3]

omfg her new parents needa take care of her holy shit, u can tell that they only bring her to Mcdonalds for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

[antisocialist87]

I think that this video sadly shows the sorry state that the Asian community is in. There are too many Asians that think that they are white, and therefore feel no affinity or empathy with any other group of people, not even their own, so when they feel racism, it goes over their heads, or they try to rationalize it with, "They can't POSSIBLY mean me! I'm white! I'm ~*SPECIAL*~! I'm not a freak like the black/latino/other asian kids!"

We have got to do better.

[Sojujinn]

It looks like she had White adaptive parents who were simply being in denial and afraid to address racial issues.

These type of White parents were doing a disservice to the adopted children, as obviously racist Whites were teasing and discriminating against the children because of their race.

Smarter parents would celebrate racial diversity and allow the children to be proud of being Asian and adopted by White parents, to create an interracial connection to show how good the world can be.

[carisma0302]

우와 영어 잘 하시네요! 이분 오오오오오~

[jamesngjh]

@carisma0302

그녀가 어렸을때부터 미국에서 자랐고 당연히 영어 잘하죠......

[gamehazard101]

I'm Asian and damn proud of it. Why the hell would I want to be anything else? It's who I was born as and there's no point in dwelling on something you can't change.

[visitnajr]

chink

[JennNikole]

I understand.

[realvoice09]

its the kids who has to suffer throught all those race problems not the parents...in western culture as the children moves out of the parents house at a very early age,,just imagine those racial slurs and mental setbacks they face without parents and those questions that keeps arising intheir minds

[theDirtyGupta01]

It's a well known fact that most Asians who are adopted by whites will only hang around whites and eventually believe that they are white themselves. Instead of embracing their won culture or spending time around those who are non-white so that they get to learn what it's truly like being different.

[chibangin007]

she only got adopted cause she wouldve gotten killed for being a second child and a girl. blame china.

[avtrox]

@chibangin007 she just said she's korean, and this has nothing to do with china's population controls it's about adopted children and their parents ignoring their heritage.

[Imhornydadcomeinside]

@chibangin007 Isn't she korean?

[dwadenuke]

It's called white-washed. Haha.

[Jahaziel84]

No more tears no more pain or sorrow. No matter where you're from or what you look like or who your parents are God has a plan and a wonderful purpose for our lives. He is our heavenly father. Don't feel like you don't belong in fact no one belongs here. The truth "Jesus" shows us and sets us free.

[GenyaArikado]

They didn't bully her because she had asian eyes, they bullied her because she surely wasn't pretty. If she were pretty and asian they wouldn't have bullied her. The guys always looks after hot girls. That's our way of thinking.

[MondoBeno]

If you're going to adopt foreign children, the right thing to do is to have the child raised bilingually. You need to respect where the children come from.

[shootthedevil]

White people don't understand what it is like to be non-white.

[bugsy4173]

I believe your mom really loves you just like any mother would love their own. If she ever loved you any less, she would have told you that you look different and you are different. Do you really wants to hear those words from your mom? When your mom accepted you as her own daughter and loved you so much, how could she ever utter those words to your face? Have you ever thought about how she felt when you confronted her or told a story of that stupid boy in your school? Call her today!

[pinkflower7783]

@bugsy4173 are you a korean adoptee? if not then it's clear you have no idea what it's like. I am a korean adoptee and know exactly what she's going through and how it feels. her mom may love her with all her heart but she shouldn't deny that her daughter isn't Korean. so don't talk like you know everything.

[derekfisher82]

why are white people colonialist pigs?

always fucking invading and pillaging other lands

[osdeus777]

The Only Reason why Orientals in America cling towards Americans(Caucasians) are because they have the Money and Power!!!!! So it's understandble for people of Foreign to try to be "White". But Just keep in mind, YOUR NOT WHITE and Caucasians will let you know it, with a smile too hahahaha!!!

[chabi3000]

I hate it that still today people have prejudices and have certain behaviors connected to certain races .. if all people would speak the same language live in the same country and had many things in common .. racism and prejudeces where history ... so the best solution would be to create a global government !

[WarshipAngelus]

@chabi3000 That's what the New World Order is doing behind the screens.

But You're never going to get rid of racism and prejudices in the world, because without those things most governments wouldn't be able to mind control the mass of people in their nation and most countries don't want a group of free thinking people with no prejudices to anyone. I hate to say it, but when You look at the world, that's how it is run behind screen.

[message2blackwomen]

if you feel threated by a child's heritage then don't adopt that child. If you feel that everyone should only learn western world heritage because we are the "EXACT" same you are wrong. True we are all HUMAN so we are the same that way. Yet we have to be taught the knowlege of ourselves to function in a balanced fashion.

[langknow]

I don't have the same story, but my sister was raised for about 1 year with white couple, because of my own's family situation (my sister looks chinese, but she's not really chinese, it's a bit complicated, because being "Chinese" doesn't mean much, because, just like europe, there are so many cultures , anyways back to my point, those white couple were really loving and nice, and they were such nice people.....

[aguswidjaja]

Any parents who adopt a racially different child should know that the child will look different, and that difference cannot and should not be concealed.

[DigiLife4eva]

I guess her mom..just didn't know how to deal with it..or teach her about her Asian Culture..but i sounds like her mom loved her..~p.

[dun4ukwitmebiach]

STOP ADOPTING CHINESE or KOREAN BABIES YOU LAME ASS, BORED ASS, WHITE AMERICANS! ADOPT BLACK BABIES! THERE IS A FUCKING SURPLUS IN YOUR GODDAMN COUNTRY YOU FUCKING RACIST RETARDS! WHAT? YOU TOO SCARED OF BLACK PEOPLE SO YOU ADOPT THE RACE OF MODEL IMMIGRANTS YOU TWATS? GO FUCK YOURSELVES!

[dun4ukwitmebiach]

So what?! Be proud that your Asian! Jesus!

She doesn't have race issues. She's got face issues.

She wouldn't be having these issues if she had a white boyfriend now would she? I swear, some Asian Americans are pathetic!

[TrixTwins]

I wonder why people are making so many abortions while other so many people desperately want a child and get it from abroad.

The good thing is that these adoptees have been raised by families of the nation they've been brought into, and hence are they better than immigrants. And Koreans are much better people than all others from who knows what 3rd world countries who export their babies at the lowest price of the market.

[hjteeter]

This woman seems to not get her mom just saw her daughter. A mother does not see race or nationality when she looks at her child, but rather see just her child who she loves the world over. This woman should be thankful for a mother who loves her, and doesn't treat her daughter different. I believe I would of said I saw my daughter to if I were in the same situation.

[beloved113]

Just curious, what are the reasons why people adopt children from different countries??

[nomorefunds]

There are too many ethical problems with foreign adoptions.

[hanzocloud]

koreans r cool, she should stop wining and discover the beauties of her asian heritage.. perhaps go visit asia for a holiday to check it out..

[Jetbus90]

And Last But not Least the Way they use there size. 95% Of Asians Are under 6 feet tall or shorter than A European American But they created Such a good fighting style

They Can Be Short and still beat up people taller than them.

[Jetbus90]

She Should be happy for herself

Her Race/ethnicity Made Special types of lotion that gave themselfs a brighter color

The Way they sell $130 Pair of Jordans for the price of $20

They can make Expensive stuff in the United States HomeMade!

And How They Invented a game where no one can get hurt

Online Games, Great games and no risk involve .

[joshua81em]

Maybe your Mom should have disowned you since she's a racist white woman.

[xxxAlesanaFan4everxx]

she should'nt care about what others think, when I was like 5-9 I was teased for being asian and different I did feel the way she did but I got over it I love to be different and im mixed on top of that xD. she should embrase it plus its not like there are'nt other asians here seriously wth your not the only asian in america! get over yourself, she makes it seem like its embarrassing to be asian >.>

[joshua81em]

I think it's shameful to be white. That's why white people commit suicide the most.

[loveallhappiness]

white people always in denied. they will never admit that there is a huge race problem in the world.

[utube793]

Delusional much?

Damn some serious issues and insecurities

[xxNightberryx]

what kind a stuped head should you be to think that ur white?? wtf didn't u got internet or books at school? why didn't you research urself???

[AriXBerrie]

Her mother should have at least tried to inform her on her Korean culture.Her mother kept ignoring what her daughter tried to ask her instead of telling her about her culture. What did she think she could just keep ignoring this until she was an adult? Her daughter would have gone around town saying shes white when shes asian. That's not fair to the child.

[donnat]

More than four million people have been adopted between 1971 and 2001. A quarter million of those were adopted from other countries.

Four Million!

Why don't we hear more about these problems if they affect all adoptees?

Growing up is a painful process for all kids and being different is certainly a big obstacle but it's not the only obstacle. There are far worse things that can and do happen to kids.

This young woman's pain is real but, sadly, I think we're a nation of crybabies.

[1siin]

@donnat @ xxNightberryx @ utube793

As a Korean adoptee, the issue with her and most adoptees are very complex....we deal w/identity issues that stem from lack of "mirroring". (look it up). They deal with being raised in cultural differences that biologically affect our view of ourselves.

[1siin]

@donnat @xxNightberryx @utube793

(continued)

Without the proper parenting and raising of an adoptee, this identity complex becomes lessened, however it takes unique parents to help us with this. If you look at the nation as a whole, then yes, we are a lot of things, including unempathetic. So please, if you've never experienced being an adoptee refrain from comments. Just like I would never comment about the repercussions of being raped.

[1siin]

@donnat

Adoption is a well-kept misinformed issue across the board. that's why documentaries like this are around...to educate the public. the lack of communication on the subject and knowledge of it mirrors the complexity of the issue that we as adoptees, parents, and a society are just fully coming to understand. so please become educated before you become exacerbated.

[thisismewhy]

Don't worry!! just be happy you did not grow up to be a sweat shop owner full of Filipinos and Mexicans

lol

[thisismewhy]

Don't worry!! just be happy you did not grow up to be a sweat shop owner full of Filipinos and Mexicans

[YunSeung]

White people love adopting asian children... I wonder why that is...

[TheySaidSheSays]

Thing would've been easier on her if people in school didn't act so stupid and her parents wouldv'e talked to her

[stimsWonderland]

Nah things would've been easier if she decided to be more clear about things and not hope for some perfect future where her perfect white prince charming will come to her rescue and make amends for all the prejudiced white people.

[yexey]

It feels good to blame whitey for "stealing" Korean kids, but life in a Korean orphanage is worse.

There is very very little adoption within Korea, but plenty of orphans because family lines are so important. Kids in Korean orphanages are starved for attention, and their adult lives will be stunted due to the lack of family connections. Plus, women in Korea face a lot of impediments unheard of in America.

[miraeja]

oh great. another fat asian american girl with baggage. ㅡ.ㅡ

[tybash]

What a girl.

Remember my Korean friend, never wish to be white, you'd only be unhappy.

[dun4ukwitmebiach]

The problem is not that you are Korean, White American or some gay shit like that. It's just that you're so incredibly ugly. You are crying all the time because people in school remind you how ugly you are. Since you like to be in denial, you play the race card and say the problem is racism... One day you got to face the reality that you are just the ugly duckling raised by a bunch of people who thought: "Asian adoption is in these days, let's give it a whirl!"

Go back to Korea girl.

[FlyingMimi]

My husband and I are in the process of adopting from China. This video confirms our pledge to make sure our child always knows where she came from. Maybe some of you think it's wrong, that's your opinion, but in our hearts we know we are doing the right thing; we will never discount our child's heritage.

[bluepenguinflyboi]

@FlyingMimi

Congrats! As an adoptee of color I suggest one thing. Don't forget that HISTORY defines the CULTURE. The child needs to know the history before the culture. Other wise good Luck. :)

[shadesparty]

@FlyingMimi It is certainly not wrong. I have a somewhat similar story to Lynne. I'm black but adopted in a white family. My parents gave me all the love in the world. They were great parents. But they did not understand that I was too black for for white people, too white for black people and was given wrong advice. I think it's important when adopting a child to truly understand the childs background yourself. But then again, I was a child in the 70's and 80's. May be now it's different.

[upcycle]

@shadesparty very interesting story. I imagine there are many folks in similar situation as u.. being black, and adopted by a white family.. i wonder if there are any societies or associations for black kids adopted by white families.. Obama is kind of in a similar situation.. being raised by a white family in a white majority community? hmm...

[cornelius386]

@upcycle That's false. Obama grew up in racially diverse Hawaii and some years in Indonesia with an Indonesian step father.

[12ilovesky]

@FlyingMimi My sister is adopted from China and we raised her that way; she knows she is adopted and infact she's very proud of it because it makes her the "chosen" one.

[ashatbulaparanormal]

@FlyingMimi Adoption is not right! You are buying a human being.You are helping ripping families apart.You are supporting adoption agencies/social services get rich and badgering birth-mothers and birth-parents into giving up their blood line simply cause you want a child.You selfish human.

[WhatWham]

@ashatbulaparanormal

well sometimes you aren't ripping families or being selfish apart when the adopted child is an orphan dying on the side of a street.

just saying...

[WilliamMarshall01]

Chinese communist heritage, how great is that?

[chibangin007]

@FlyingMimi have a good job fucking up a childs culture

[slimithy12]

@FlyingMimi good for you. i hope all has gone well for so far. i personally think that if you inform him/her of their heritage it will lead to a healthy and stable childhood. they will be part of both the eastern and western culture. they will be very lucky.

[n0gar]

@FlyingMimi: Why adopt/import from abroad? Adopt right here in this country! Stop using these Asians and Africans as exotic pets!

[Alyn08]

@FlyingMimi I don't think you're wrong at all. I think it's important that you treat the child as your own, but see to it that she's aware of her heritage. Nothing wrong with that.

[VioletSpanxx]

@FlyingMimi Agree 100%! Best of luck with the adoption.

[DollaBiIIz]

@FlyingMimi Get one of your own race.

[Geeeez100]

i rather be asian than white ... we are the future they are the past...

[cloudhidden]

@FlyingMimi It's not just about knowing where the child comes from, but how his/her race influences where she is.

[A86]

@FlyingMimi - I don't think your conviction is wrong. If you adopt a child of another so-called "race" it is important to raise the child so that they're aware of their heritage. Not because "race" is so important but because, whether we like it or not, at this point in the evolution of human society a lot of people do treat or relate to you different based on your "race". If a transracial adoptee isn't aware they're a different "race" than their parents society will damn sure rub it in.

[Suisyo]

It's very sad, I believe that most adoptive parents mean well, but probably dont know how to deal with the situations that come up in regards to adoptees and their feelings. I dont now how the programs work, I know classes are involved in the adoption program, most of the time, but in some cases it doesnt seem extensive enough. Communication and empathy are really important when connecting to your loved ones, especially when that loved one is an adoptee, there is a different level of emotions.

[Sammicsno]

Knowing who we are and where we come from and where we fit in, is a right that normal people take for granted, and that adoptees don't have.

Adoption sucks.

[silthefitter]

I don't think adoption sucks, but there are certainly adoptive parents who could do a much better job. I think that that is one of the key points to this film - that we as adoptive parents need to do better and also not act if racism doesn't exist.

[aliciaftw]

I'm trying hard to understand the psychology of this all. Is it more that the adopted children have the feeling of not fitting in, or is it how some of the parents seem to dance around the subject and refuse to acknowledge it or play it off as something that doesn't matter, although it mattered to their kids? Like, if the mother had atleast tried to understand and see it thru her daughter's eyes would the issue have been half as painful?

[batmanzena]

I say it's more of the adoptee feeling like they don't fit in. Some adoptive parents do have a part in thinking their adopted baby is a blank slate, with no previous history, and that all the love in the world will make the differences go away.

it helps if the mother at the bare minimum acknowledges that her daughter is going through a lot. adoptive parents need to support their adoptee, even if they themselves feel uncomfortable.

[1siin]

@aliciaftw

you're absolutely right! In fact....that's just called good parenting...adopted or not!! I am a korean adoptee by the way.

[scata99]

Get over it and thank god your white parents were kind enough to take you to a first world nation.

[batmanzena]

it's always the non-adoptees who think they know most about adoptees. i hope you never adopt.

[silthefitter]

I'm a (white) adoptive parent to an Asian child. My daughter should not have to be grateful for being given a basic human right - every child deserves a loving family. Your attitude is part of the problem. These children aren't charity cases - and they go through much loss before they are adopted. Stupid comments such as yours are part of the problem.

[JazzyZenBrotha]

Scata99, you're yet another person with a superiority complex.

Leave your hateful supremacist remarks back at your dog house.

[bakeher]

This is somewhat me.

I was born and raised in America. But my nationality is pure 100% korean.

I never got anything about it though. Maybe once in junior high when I was starting to dress with skate clothes I think someone told me "you trying to be white?".

Like what the...Isn't skating a subculture anyways?

Other then that throughout that and even highschool and the little time I actually spent in college I never got shit from it.

[Huba588]

I think the parents should at least awknowledge and maybe educate their daughter about her "native" Korean culture, if she's interested.

[zyxkenkid]

Compansion

Since i have sort of same problem before。

if u cant change it，

then the only solution would be be strong doing much better than the white laughs at your race

[stevehwan]

damn... this is some crazy shit son.. i was born in korea and moved here... so i know both cultures really well and can also speak both languages..

[zyxkenkid]

then u think u fit in？

[baddamom]

I feel bad that her mother didn't try to understand her. That's not a mother at all.

[jizzking]

i feel for you ... i knew a couple of adopted asians in hs but i didnt think they were going thru what you were going thru, now i feel like i shouldve talked to them more

[jenkinscrowe]

How very sad. How dare anyone want to know hwo they are and where they come from?