Some of you ladies who are virgins need to WATCH OUT! for these douche bags! I got a friend who is dating a virgin and though I feel they have a connection he does brag about him getting her virginity. He says how he's gonna "get it" and it's "just a matter of time". I told him he's an ass for saying that but this is how some of these men think. So please if you don't want to give it up to anybody make sure he's not a douche bag!
All the ladies who are virgins.....CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Your virginity is the one gift that you CANNOT GET BACK! Be confident and if a guy just stays with you because he wants to get in your pants.......he's not the one for you. Only God Almighty knows what kind of man is for you.
Also sex after marriage doesn't mean it will be a beautiful or even fulfilling experience. Many people get married to have "legal sex", especially Christians and they don't truly love each other. To me you are still very much fornicating because no one can convince me that God will look at the heart in certain aspects of our lives but when it comes to something so important and deep as marriage his focus will be on a piece of paper.
I shared myself (had sex) with my first love at the age of 21 & have no regrets. It was beautiful cherished the experience. I can say I don't see any great advantage of having sex before marriage because sexual experiences change every time you have sex & as you age you get aroused by different things. Thus, the talk of "I need to know what I'm getting" is simply ridiculous. Many people have amazing sex & then get married to that person & the amazing sex or sex ends.
umm im not goin tah put a date or time on my V I FILL LIKE WHEN IM READY IM READY IM NOT SAYN ONE DAY ILL BE LAYN DOWN N BE LIKE IM READY TO LOSE MY V TAH DAY N GO FIND SUM NIGGAH I DONT NO N GET IT IN........IF I FILL LIKE U THE RIGHT ONE OK
PREACH! I'm a confident virgin and I'm 18 in college. I don't try to pretend that I'm not and I know if I wanted sex I could get it but that's just not my lifestyle. I'm just waiting for the right person. I don't want to get with a guy just to HAVE a guy. I want it to mean something.
I want to encourage all the virgins out there to 'wait until you are married'. Be strong and confident in who you are and forget the men that don't respect that - they are not for you. Sex is not the world. Know your worth and you are worth the wait! It's not about religion - it's about your relationship with God and He will keep you if you want to be kept.
Virgins in the house!!!! What?! What?! No, but seriously. I am a virgin, and I will be 22 next month (whew getting up there). I totally agree with @TiffaniAnderson. Thanks @taren916 for being real and honest! :)
16 year old virgin right heaa! Whoop Whoop! I agree with your views on sex before marriage, I think you should do it when you feel the time is right. I mean, you can get married and have sex, but people get divorces nowadays so marriage isn't the surefire set in stone thing it used to be. I do, however think it's important to wait until the right person. I want my first time to be special and beautiful, and I refuse to lose it to some tool in the back of a truck like all the other girls my age.
this is irresponsible. A kid watching this who thinks they love this "Mr right" and he's special will think yes, I'll do it now. Fact is you driving without a license is wrong. Marriage is the only license for sex. Its not just something that everyone should experience. I can't walk into an exclusive club and ask for free cookies and milk just because I want the experience...If you want sex, get married
I am a virgin and i personally don't mind if a guy can't handle that AS LONG AS they are up front with the fact that they can't handle that, instead of actin like he's ok with it and then cheating on me. I mean what is that?? Just leave lol. I will not hold nobody back
Ahh thank you! you've given me confidence to be in my situation! cos it was getting to a point where I thought I'd have to just give it up to any old person!
There are more ways to have sex other than intercourse, but you (and your partner) have to have the discipline to know where/when to draw that line. If you don't, leave the whole thing alone.
lol...your voice imitations were funny. Anyway, I like your idea about being a confident virgin. That's very important. You have to let him know that this is my decision and that he has to respect that through your demeanor. It is a decision and something you have to be very firm about. When a girl decides to give it up whether for marriage or not is a very personal choice and no one else should dictate it to her.
I'm half thumbs-upping this vid...while I can agree that sex (in our culture) is best engaged in mindfully and safely, the idea of a "whore" has no legitimacy. To the men you interviewed...what is the difference between being a whore and being "sexually experienced"?
I don't think that an insecure virgin is relevant because if she is insecure it won't take her that long to no longer be a virgin. When the "right" guy says the "right" thing then she is done. So if you are a virgin over 21 then you have to be confindent or do date.
I believe to encourage your daughter be strong minded is an awesome thing. To allow her to make her own decisions/right decisions. I must say that I am married now but I wasn't a virgin when I married. Having sex creates soul ties and consequently prohibits our decisions to walk away from relationships that are detrimental to our natural, spiritual, physical, and emotional well-being. Not saying that waiting will eliminate grief and life experieces. But I'm to encourage my chrn to wait.
becuz if a guy fidns out your a virgin..he MIGHT try and stay with you, just so he can go back to his friends and say. :I took her virginity and left"...& if he finds out your not a virgin, he'll think your gonna give it up easy...so i say dont give him any kind of answer
Well in my opinion, You dont have to straight up tell that guy your a virgin. I'm 20 and im one & out of the guys i was interested in, Everyone of them asked me if i was a virgin, I tell them "Do i have to answer right now?" becuz in my case ladies, thats really none of their bussiness.especially if your JUST BEGINNING to get to know each other. Plus it really shouldnt be a big deal because once upon a time EVERYONE! was a virgin, so it really doesnt matter, If we have sex, we just have sex
Also would like to say that strippers, skanks, and sluts just like everyone else can be good and bad. And personal behaviors and decisions that have been made DOES NOT mean that they are not deserving and worthy of LOVE.
Very informative video, BUT a total downer. lol. Yes, confidence is the key to EVERYTHING and people have PREFERENCES. But you would think with all of the other variables that exist men would be stoked meeting a nice woman who thought enough of herself to wait until she was ready. So seeming doing the right thing has once AGAIN left single gals chasing the 8ball. So a virgin is Xed off the list at first chat while strippers, skanks, and sluts are what men are happily taking home to meet mom. WOW
I agree with you Taren, sex is indeed a wonderful experience. That is what it is meant to be... only not outside marriage. God created sex to be beautiful and awesome and to be shared between only two people: a husband and his wife.
Thank you for this video ! :) It's nice for once to hear that being 22 and a virgin is necessarly bad. Moreover, I like your view on sexuality. I'm not waiting til marriage, I just wait for someone I really want to share something important with.
@taren916 I just wana say THANK YOU for this vid..im a 21 yo V & im been real insecure about it. I hate talking about it bc people, men & women give me looks as if im an alien. Some dont believe me or think i say it to attract men. I find it hard to date men because I feel like they won't accept me.You helped me to realize that I shouldnt have to settle. I should let them know what I want and let them take me as I am.This vid helped me to wise up and be more strong minded. Thanks!!
Look at all of the problems the BC has as the result of sexually active men and women. Households ran by single mothers 70% or close. Black men subject to an unfair child support system, STD's perpetuated. Whenever black people discuss sex they only discuss the good side of it. They say that sex is a beautiful feeling but they dont discuss the problems that can result if sex is not had responsibly. (Sex inside of marriage). We would be better off if we did what the bible said.
As far as never getting married. Understand that Sex in it self is not the problem. Sex had outside of marriage is the problem. According to the bible, if you find it difficult to control your sexual urges, you are supposed to marry, do you hear me?, MARRY the person you are having sex with. Whether they have children or not. So if you count how many partners you've had in your life. You had that many chances to get married. If you cant marry your sex partner than you shouldnt be with them.
@RealmofNight50 Can I just say that according to the Bible, you are not supposed to marry the person you are having sex with. You should marry and THEN have sex. You are not supposed to have a sex partner before marriage. Period.
@crazycoconut777 Yes you are correct. I may have overstated this point. However what I was refering to was Corinthians Chapter 7 verse 9 (Living Bible) "But If you cannot control yourselves, go ahead and marry. It is better to marry than to burn with lust."
Sex doesnt have to be dirty, disgusting, but 9 times out of 10 when someone is sexually active before marriage it is. If it wasnt most would find it boring. How many sexually active people have given blow jobs, muff jobs, rim jobs, consumed the male ejaculate or had the male ejaculate deposited on their back. Trying things they saw in porn. Even if they didnt do these things how many men refer to women as whores and treat them disrespectfully? It is better to wait until marriage to have sex.
I think marrige means to commit to one another and wanting a future together,, wedding is only a celebration of the marrige so having a serious relashionship, knowing echothers family could be called marrige!
love that you made this video and the words (you wont loose anything by waiting ) means alot :) -only 18 but im still a virgin and plan to stay that way till marriage
we need to stop teaching our daughters to seek a prince or teach our sons to save some lady in need of him. we need to talk about self-awareness and -appreciation and meeting their our best HALF, that person that completes you, not the person that saves you or who needs your salvation.
PS: I love what Taren said about discipline in the gym vs. discipline with sex! there's nothing else to add to that.
For the perspectives, I would also suggest thinking about having male & female conversations. I think the best way men & women can empower each other is by having RESPECTFUL conversations (Taren can be the impartial mediator or you can co-host w/ a male host for partiality). We can have male perspectives and female perspectives and try to conform to the perspective of which ever gender we're attracted to but is that really efficient to conform, rather than meet each halfway or agree to disagree?
I totally agree with you! If you're gonna be a virgin be a confident one. I'm 25 and a virgin and proud of it. When dating I let it be known up front that we will not be having sex. And if that's a problem they can keep it moving. I consider myself a prize and there will only be one winner... my husband.
Just to say something about the whole "In this day and age, do you really want to wait until marriage?" thing: In this day and age, women have the right to choose whether or not to have sex; therefore, they should have the right to choose WHEN they want to start having sex as well.No one has to force them to wait; it's a commitment they make to themselves. And if they don't have sex for the whole of their lives, as long as they're content in doing other sexual things, who cares?
Totally agree! I’m not virgin but I play some kind of chastity. I would only share my body someone who’s worthy. And if a guy can’t wait until I have a clear vision of him, if he is worthy or not, well then of course he isn’t worthy! You said it all!
Those of u who keep replying to these old comments of mine--WIL U PLZ STOP! I'm tired of seeing these crazy comments in my inbox. Move on with yr sinful lives & leave me alone as I left u alone. My words make you act like a vampire who has just had sunlight shined on it. Stop playing yrself son. MOVE ON!
@daishabnjmn I hav always & wil always LET PEOPLE either follow Devil or God.It’s called free wil! The Devil’s motto is “Do u, boo.” And God’s motto is “put me 1st in yr decisions” If some1 decides 2 follow devil or God based on otha followers of the devil or God that makes them crazy. There are almost 7 bill unique persons on this planet & if u hav crazy irrational delusional fears of becoming like 1 of them that’s yr problem not God’s. God doesn’t need u or me. HE IS GOD! We need him! Goodday
I don't believe that anyone HAS to wait until marriage to have sex, but I will because it is my choice. I'm not doing it because I have to due to religion, or culture, or because I have to to experience life...I am saving myself because it is my choice and in my heart it is what I am meant to do
Our society has gotten too comfortable with the "anything goes" ideology and you can look all around you to see the consequences. Until we start acknowledging God, then we will continue to live in a world full of disease, chaos, and violence. I'm sorry, but sex should never be taken lightly and if you die a virgin, then you can't miss what you didn't know to begin with.
Marriage doesn't mean a thing when it comes to sex. I'm sorry but as far as I see it, the things that are required in a relationship are the same things needed for a healthy marriage. And for those confused, I mean: Acceptance, Trust, Loyalty and Respect. Overall, it's chivalry, a term that many women and men believe to be dead. I'm 20 years old, just lost my virginity to a man I've been with for 3 years and known for 5. Hard and harsher times, he's always been there and he accepts 190% of me.
I'm waiting until marriage to have sex due to religious reasons. It's nice to see that some other people are waiting too. :-) But, I'm not dying to get married....so I may be one of those people that Taren talked about. These are just decisions that I will have to live with and I feel confident enough to stand by them. Hopefully I'll meet someone great, but I won't ditch the plan and give it up if I don't get married.
@asielle you are looney tunes if that is what you got from what I posted. Of course sex is not the only thing special about a woman. When you talk about the heart of a woman, guess what, your body is part of the package. We are not men and we can't have sex and not expect an emotional connection. You're crazy if you think you can give you a body sexually to someone and not form an connection... couple that with many sexual partners and you're gonna be a basket case by the time it's all done.
Im watching this for the 100th time and Im still getting so much from it. That was a really good point about giving vs sharing. My concern is how do u know the difference? So far its been much more of a depleting experience for me,I haven't experienced that positive sharing experience yet. So I decided to put that sex on hold, 'til I can really be sure I wont feel depleted and lessened after the act.
Thanks so much for this video ! People should have more open discussions like this about sex
Funny thing, I actually feel more comfortable talking about sex than my peers who did have sex. Im waiting till marriage, but Im ok with talking about it, its a normal topic.
@zairekrieger I think once you start having sex, it will be much harder to discuss it. Like Taren said its a subject that hits deep with people, especially women. Ur right tho, it is a normal topic, but its a hard one to face for those of us who have had negative experiences.
@Dlover2k5 I understand and respect that. Im glad that I never had a bad experience with that, cause Im not planning on having any experience with that before marriage, but I feel for people who did have a bad experience. Sex is such an intimate and beautiful thing, (even though I never did it, I can imagine it being like that) it should never be misused, sad truth is that thats very different nowadays. Its just so sad.
Like you said, the person should be worthy, and I just love my husband allready and I think there is no one else worthy of having me except for him. And of course, marriage doesnt mean alot if your not a believer, cuz for us, officially announcing your love for someone before God means alot. And I think a marriage would be better if the first time is shared between a wife and husband
This is not an issue. If a guy doesn't appreciate your virginity move on. I wished I had a virgin in my life, I would have married her. A true husband quality man will treasure your virginity.
Wow.....all this talk about The Big "V" and women.... there are some men that are virgins. R we suppose to think that are gay because their "Saving themselves"!
I'll say this about virgins and sex. I agree with Tyra Banks when she told one of the ANTM contestants (I'm paraphrasing) that being a virgin doesn't mean you can't or don't know what it's like to be sexy. Sex starts b4 the act itself. If you are not sure of yourself and who your are, then (even if your are married) you'll not enjoy it and still view "it" as nasty. Yes, you should be careful. As women, we must look out for ourselves. We cannot do what the guys do. Love your mind, body, and soul.
23 y.o. virgin, will be 24 in January! I believe in waiting until marriage and not leaving THAT choice up to what society says because society says some crazy stuff sometimes, lol but thats my view. But I DO think its foolish for someone to say "Imma be a virgin and wait for marriage/therightperson" with out making a lifestyle change with it. Thats like ppl who say I'm not gonna drink like my momma and don't do a self eval. and end up doing the same thing too. It's not a decision to take lightly
I'm a 17 year old confident virgin :) considering many of my friends have already had the cherry popped I don't feel rushed into having sex. Guys respect me for that and many of them say that I'm a good girl.
I think Darien's (sp) perspective is way out of whack with reality, but if that's what he is into you can't really knock him for his preference. I personally don't know any men that expect sex on a first date, which is basically what he is saying by stating there is no waiting period. The men I know wouldn't take the give it up at first sight girl seriously. With that being said, most men I know aren't up for dating virgins either, which is understandable. Basically, to each it's own, and d
If you feel like all the guys are jetting because your a virgin your probably looking in the wrong places and circles. Sex before marriage can be beautiful and fun and whatever but it is still a sin. Blessed are those who can with hold from sex and do not need another human being to fulfill their needs. How much easier my life would have been if I could have figured this out earlier.
You are the perfect person for this topic simply because you HAVE an experience. I applaud you for your boldness, honesty and self awareness. Thank You
you can be a virgin especially if the options are limited and does not meet to your standards....and I agree with the gym thing...I just think those type of men are just being selfish.
After dating my best guy friend for 4 months I told him I was a virgin and he stopped talking to me. I was so crushed and it really hurt my self-esteem. I was 21 but I'm so glad it happened. He is scum.
I agree with u, most people who are i have encountered that are 21 and are virgins are some awkward ass people i'm sorry but that's just what I have seen
No longer a virgin but I was WELL over the age of 21 when I lost it. lol I never thought that it was anything to be ashamed of but I hated telling people becuz the first response would always be, "Ur lying.".... That irritated the hell out of me but on the other hand, I took pride in my virginity and though it was hard to keep a bf due to the fact, my vrginity only furthered my knowledge for who was with me for me and who deserved me sharing myself with them.
Great points Taren. Knowing yourself, loving yourself, and being confident in your own skin are key. If you don't know what you want, why should someone else take the time to figure it out? If you don't love yourself and are not confident, how can you expect someone else to love you or respect you? Everyone has been a virgin before, so regardless of how long you've been a virgin, experiences (and freedom of speech) give people license to share opinions on the topic.
Your analogy about men and the gym was quite clever Ms.Taren! I'm 24, and a virgin, I've learned that most men CAN wait...but they WON'T wait, because many women give sex more freely these days, and they know they have other options rather than to wait :(
i agree and disagree with .what you said.yes being a virgin is really hard.i lost mine wheni was 20 an just waiting till then was kinda hard.but to say its archaic to want t o wait till marriage is kinda insulting in a way.because i want to save myself for someone who wants to or try to be with me for da rest of my life is archaic.i dont believe that i personally believe u should try to wait till your married or at least with sum1 who will respects you and cares for you deeply.
Why do some men prefer a woman w/experience? My take: because they are selfish, mostly concerned with getting-not giving. Shouldn't it be- I want to make love WITH
you, not TO you. For all the single ladies out there remember, don't just settle, find a man
who is unselfish.
No there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Who has to teach us how to smile or
laugh- some things just come naturally, no experienced needed!
Jakki
Taren, thanks for the way you handled this subject.
Keeping your virginity isn't an archaic thought and no one should be ashamed of being a virgin. And their worth shouldn't be equated to losing their virginity. You kept saying "your worth, the experience of sex" as if those who have had sex know themselves more, they're worth more. However, someone who waits could easily know more about themselves and more about their worth.
@missgajidas definitely! God made sex for marriage anything outside of that is sin of course it can be forgiven but it does not mean that you will have a better sex life or know yourself better.
@jm123111 so unless you actually personally know my walk with God, don't tell me I am "only" a believer. I am focused on my walk and don't need people like you telling me what I only am and telling me the wrong and right things to do. My spiritual mentors have that covered. thanks.
@jm123111 I know your intentions are good but you can NOT judge my path with God and how I view things. You don't know me, or where I am with my walk with God. I'm just a sinner(like you) who is trying to do my very best. How dare you insinuate you know my walk with God by saying "if you are doing the right thing out of your fear of God". My personal relationship with the Lord is my business and something I work very hard at every single day. People may not be where you are spiritually, yet.
Our life here is only tempoary. If you have a 12 inch ruler: 1 inch is your life here and the other 11 inches are eternity. If you have messed up, God fogives and you can start over. I would never advise/endorse someone to have sex outside of marriage, that's wrong. When we become adults and we know better, we do better. That includes not haveing sex until married. God sacrificed so much for us...so I can sacrifice sex. I would tell my daughter to wait... I would never tell her to sin.
It is ok to give your opinion ,but always remember we are all held accountable for what we say whether right or wrong. It does not matter if you are spiritual, religious or not even a believer.
i never understood why virgins feel the need to volunteer that info to the person they are dating without being asked, especially when they aint plannin on havin sex. why would u do that???
Enjoyed the video and thought it was very informative. I can see the issue on all sides. You may not be an expert which has alot of people on here complaining that you're not qualified to give spiritual advice, but i believe you have a right to your opinion and to share it with others. Of course, we won't all agree. I look forward to more videos from you.
i think its about guys not having to wait. theres no real short cut to muscles or a career goal but if the goal is sex and there are women out there that give it up fairly quickly or right away then a guy doesn't have to wait for the woman that wants to wait.
i agree with EVERYTHING you said. im 19 and a virgin and i wont settle for anybody and i will lose it when i feel tha time is right, whether that is before or after marriage.
I liked & agreed w/ most of what you had to say. But I'll be a virgin my entire life if I never do get married. I just feel that my virginity is a special gift from God I can only give to one person & I feel that the only person who deserves it is my husband. I'd rather go through life saying "I'm so glad I never had sex with that guy" or "I wish I would have has sex with that guy" instead of saying "Damn I wish I never had sex with him"
@Floraiton And why can't I? I can talk about whatever I feel and if I feel ppl can relate that's all that matters... We all have experienced things in our past that we have learned from so therefore that does not exempt me from expressing myself about subjects such as this one... Sooooo... Um... Why shouldn't I?
Taren, I totally agree with you! I commend anyone who is a virgin, especially if they're 18+. In fact, I've always encouraged my friends who are/were virgins when I was not! Like you said, virgins are a rarity afterward. Great advice and words of wisdom, too!
Taren, this is a great video, I agree with all of your views and you presented them to us in an educated articulate manner :) I totally agree with the marriage before sex issue. In my opinion, it's like who does that anymore? Marriage doesn't define your love and connection with somebody. Anyways, well done you! So glad to be a subscriber, all of your videos from your hair videos to vlogs have been informative and helped me alot! xxx
It was really interesting to hear your opinions. I don't agree with all of them, but that's ok! LOL I definitely agree that women should be proud of their virginity. I was a virgin until I got married, and I have absolutely NO regrets about that. The emotional ties to men who don't act right and bad sex are so not worth it...thinking about doing a video response...maybe. :)
the deal with the waiting period is men are weak in that area lollk. its too easy for guys to get sex these days. they dont respect woman in that area because other women give them selves up to easily thus men ( like darian lol ) think, "if she aint giving I know someone else who will". Its kind of pathetic. but true When we lose respect for ourselves others(men) lose respect for us. What I say to that...dont date darian ( or men like that). they looking for weak sauce women. lol srry darian lol
I completely agree that virginity seems to be something pushed for females. Remaining a virgin should be something that both genders aspire to until they are in a monogamous, fulfilling and committed relationship. I am tired of the woman having to save herself for a man, I would love to see a man saving himself for his wife for a change. Most virgins will not end up with men who are virgins, so they should exercise the same caution with respect to getting tested, using protection etc..
I liked this video. I know some people prob don't but everyone needs to understand that they are not gonna agree with everything you say. That being said, I am 23 and a virgin and recently I started to feel abnormal. I am probably not going to wait until marriage because it's not realistic but I do want to wait until I am with someone I deeply trust and care about, and am in a monogamous relationship. Is that so much to ask? Sometimes it really seems like it is.
I'm 22 and a virgin and I don't even tell guys that I'm a virgin until I feel they need to know. If/when the subject comes up, I just say that sex is not an option at that time. As far as the whole stone aged thing, I don't think it's stone aged, I think people over time have just lost their value of themselves and the act of sex that they just don't care. And the reasons I'm a virgin has nothing to do with my religion.... And yes, it's extremely hard.. pun intended(sometimes) lol
Oh excuse me. I didn't mean "you you." I should've used third person for that example to get this msg across: I respect people's beliefs, but if someone says they're a vegan, then I shouldn't catch him/her eating pork. The whole reason I'm typing this was in response to your comment that "Muslims/Christians have sex before marriage." I'm just saying people should commit wholly(not 1/3) to their ideals, whatever they may be-black, white or gray.
reallly though, i think guys are more intimidated by virgins b/c they actually have to really blow their mind. they never had sex and what if they hate it b/c he isnt up to par. guys arent that good as they think they are.
If a virgin gives herself to a man who hasn't made a COMMITMENT to her she’s stupid.I am 18 and a virgin and proud of it. I will wait until I'm married due to the morals, pride, honor and knowledge my mother and religion gave me. Sex is for those who are married,if not then why once married you’re supposed to only have sex with your partner. If I never get married than I won't have sex.If God can sacrifice his son, I can sacrifice sex.But I will marry, there are men with the same ethics as me.
@tavie2is4u You have to careful of not calling ppl 'stupid '. You never know what the situation is. Try to be understanding of what others may go through. Not everyone has the same strength or the same outlook on sex, that doesn't make them 'stupid ', its what makes us all different.
@rosesdiary Amen let your beliefs dictate your behavior...your beliefs dictate your behavior...So if you are christian it will show through behavior and not just words...Amen sister
Christian or Muslim because really what that represent is values. If you can't commit to your values, then how can you commit to anything else in life? People can actually LIVE, yes LIVE!!! without sex. If someone chooses to wait until marriage or to remain forever abstinent due to beliefs, I don't think anyone should down on that just like no one should judge people who want to have casual sex. It's not up to anyone but the individual to determine whether it's "realistic".
awesomeeeeeeeeee vid love you taren.. I'm not a virgin but I respect them..I can feel for them BC I'm cliebate and Have been for almost 2 years so i can feel for them..love your vids
Great vid and topic Taren! I completely agree about the waiting for marriage viewpoint. For me personally, waiting for marriage to have sex is/was not realistic.Im 25 now and I do not see marriage in the future with my significant other for at least another 2 years or so. Sex is a part of life, it's a personal choice, and I think that it should be taken seriously and not abused, but at the same time I do not religate sex to the marriage only territory.
I love your video. It would be nice if men placed a greater value on sex, love and intimacy. But then again, it may take a true movement of women who are willing to stand up and honor themselves before that happens.
@NeasTube what us women fail to realize that we are the foundation. If we say no and wait until marriage, then it should be. We have the power for it to happen that way. Look how eve made adam eat that apple lol. Problem is we no longer know our position and strengths so men have no reason to respect us as we should.
I love you Taren, but I have to disagree with you. Wait for marriage. Those who don't always experience consequences that they would not have experienced had they waited.
The discipline that we show in other areas all come back to getting in our desire pants! We get buff for women. We work and make money to attract women. The end goal is them panties.
Umm so why aren't you making more videos like this? I love "sensitive" topics such as this. Also, you're putting positive thoughts out in the air. Being a virgin takes a lot of discipline and is very commendable. Let's be real tho...virgins past the age of 15 are rare let alone 21. Sex is a spiritual bond just as marriage is. I understand and appreciate your perspective, people don't know themselves so it's hard for them to operate spiritually. People need to spend time with themselves.
*stands up and takes a bow* thank you thank you for that round of applause. I'm 24 ;-)
britany06 2 days ago
Some of you ladies who are virgins need to WATCH OUT! for these douche bags! I got a friend who is dating a virgin and though I feel they have a connection he does brag about him getting her virginity. He says how he's gonna "get it" and it's "just a matter of time". I told him he's an ass for saying that but this is how some of these men think. So please if you don't want to give it up to anybody make sure he's not a douche bag!
elm1230 3 days ago
but yet i am happy that i am a virign! waiting for the right person
angiembrew1 4 days ago
Im a virgin and its always hard on me to get a guy and im 20
angiembrew1 4 days ago
All the ladies who are virgins.....CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Your virginity is the one gift that you CANNOT GET BACK! Be confident and if a guy just stays with you because he wants to get in your pants.......he's not the one for you. Only God Almighty knows what kind of man is for you.
choxieemerald007 5 days ago 5
I'm 20 and still a proud virgin :-)
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Also sex after marriage doesn't mean it will be a beautiful or even fulfilling experience. Many people get married to have "legal sex", especially Christians and they don't truly love each other. To me you are still very much fornicating because no one can convince me that God will look at the heart in certain aspects of our lives but when it comes to something so important and deep as marriage his focus will be on a piece of paper.
MichyGW 5 days ago
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MichyGW 5 days ago
I shared myself (had sex) with my first love at the age of 21 & have no regrets. It was beautiful cherished the experience. I can say I don't see any great advantage of having sex before marriage because sexual experiences change every time you have sex & as you age you get aroused by different things. Thus, the talk of "I need to know what I'm getting" is simply ridiculous. Many people have amazing sex & then get married to that person & the amazing sex or sex ends.
MichyGW 5 days ago
umm im not goin tah put a date or time on my V I FILL LIKE WHEN IM READY IM READY IM NOT SAYN ONE DAY ILL BE LAYN DOWN N BE LIKE IM READY TO LOSE MY V TAH DAY N GO FIND SUM NIGGAH I DONT NO N GET IT IN........IF I FILL LIKE U THE RIGHT ONE OK
101mspiggy 6 days ago
Lost my V-Card like yesterday... Best night of my life
SkullcandifiedDj 1 week ago
PREACH! I'm a confident virgin and I'm 18 in college. I don't try to pretend that I'm not and I know if I wanted sex I could get it but that's just not my lifestyle. I'm just waiting for the right person. I don't want to get with a guy just to HAVE a guy. I want it to mean something.
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pianorox8 1 week ago
I want to encourage all the virgins out there to 'wait until you are married'. Be strong and confident in who you are and forget the men that don't respect that - they are not for you. Sex is not the world. Know your worth and you are worth the wait! It's not about religion - it's about your relationship with God and He will keep you if you want to be kept.
aivey11 1 week ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@aivey11 AMEN!!!..Totally agree!!
MsBeauty145 6 days ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Lmfao, " some people have experience and are still bad and alot of you men are in that CATERGORY!!!
xxUniqueMiraclexx 1 week ago
Not only girls are virgins . . .guys are too .
devinlaw4 1 week ago
"sex is a dangerous game to play, if you want to treat it as a game" loveeee
iSang345 1 week ago
I'm 23 and still a virgin and proud of it baby...I don't care what people think i care what GOD thinks!!
MsBeauty145 1 week ago in playlist Uploaded videos 3
i lost my virginity at age 21... to my husband and im 26 years old now!!
Mrsethnicbeauty 1 week ago 3
Thanks for this video.. Needed this.. Im 24 and still a virgin and your so right.. I just want to wait till I'm love so I can share the love!
MalaikaQ 2 weeks ago
Virgins in the house!!!! What?! What?! No, but seriously. I am a virgin, and I will be 22 next month (whew getting up there). I totally agree with @TiffaniAnderson. Thanks @taren916 for being real and honest! :)
msadrienne33 2 weeks ago
I agree 10,000 percent on every thing!
Finittto 2 weeks ago
16 year old virgin right heaa! Whoop Whoop! I agree with your views on sex before marriage, I think you should do it when you feel the time is right. I mean, you can get married and have sex, but people get divorces nowadays so marriage isn't the surefire set in stone thing it used to be. I do, however think it's important to wait until the right person. I want my first time to be special and beautiful, and I refuse to lose it to some tool in the back of a truck like all the other girls my age.
ChristyChats13 3 weeks ago 4
@ChristyChats13 Teen virgins unite! Lol I agree with you also waiting until marriage is good, but it's never gauranteed.
Finittto 2 weeks ago
lmbo you rock that lil girl voice u did had me laughn im finna be 20 and Im still a happy virgin and PROUD OF IT
WithinBueaty92 3 weeks ago
this is irresponsible. A kid watching this who thinks they love this "Mr right" and he's special will think yes, I'll do it now. Fact is you driving without a license is wrong. Marriage is the only license for sex. Its not just something that everyone should experience. I can't walk into an exclusive club and ask for free cookies and milk just because I want the experience...If you want sex, get married
mapsyleta 3 weeks ago
iam still a virgin an proud of myself even tho there was times when i (almost)lost it!
crazybreeful 4 weeks ago
I am a virgin and i personally don't mind if a guy can't handle that AS LONG AS they are up front with the fact that they can't handle that, instead of actin like he's ok with it and then cheating on me. I mean what is that?? Just leave lol. I will not hold nobody back
Brihappy42 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos 3
Ahh thank you! you've given me confidence to be in my situation! cos it was getting to a point where I thought I'd have to just give it up to any old person!
yodaleheehoo 1 month ago
There are more ways to have sex other than intercourse, but you (and your partner) have to have the discipline to know where/when to draw that line. If you don't, leave the whole thing alone.
hotdrumchick 1 month ago
@hotdrumchick Maybe I should have said, "There are more ways to give pleasure", lol.
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misscamara12 1 month ago
lol...your voice imitations were funny. Anyway, I like your idea about being a confident virgin. That's very important. You have to let him know that this is my decision and that he has to respect that through your demeanor. It is a decision and something you have to be very firm about. When a girl decides to give it up whether for marriage or not is a very personal choice and no one else should dictate it to her.
misscamara12 1 month ago
I think its different for us in the UK seeing as you can lose it at 16
TheDandelionblush 1 month ago in playlist More videos from taren916
I'm half thumbs-upping this vid...while I can agree that sex (in our culture) is best engaged in mindfully and safely, the idea of a "whore" has no legitimacy. To the men you interviewed...what is the difference between being a whore and being "sexually experienced"?
Windysmoke 1 month ago
I don't think that an insecure virgin is relevant because if she is insecure it won't take her that long to no longer be a virgin. When the "right" guy says the "right" thing then she is done. So if you are a virgin over 21 then you have to be confindent or do date.
DeeNT1 1 month ago
@DeeNT1 I meant don't date.
DeeNT1 1 month ago
I believe to encourage your daughter be strong minded is an awesome thing. To allow her to make her own decisions/right decisions. I must say that I am married now but I wasn't a virgin when I married. Having sex creates soul ties and consequently prohibits our decisions to walk away from relationships that are detrimental to our natural, spiritual, physical, and emotional well-being. Not saying that waiting will eliminate grief and life experieces. But I'm to encourage my chrn to wait.
Thankfull13 1 month ago
Taren what's your opinion on a man who's a virgin past 21yo like Tim Tebow?
I know people were not expecting that from him.
zetas5777 1 month ago
becuz if a guy fidns out your a virgin..he MIGHT try and stay with you, just so he can go back to his friends and say. :I took her virginity and left"...& if he finds out your not a virgin, he'll think your gonna give it up easy...so i say dont give him any kind of answer
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Miameow91 1 month ago
Well in my opinion, You dont have to straight up tell that guy your a virgin. I'm 20 and im one & out of the guys i was interested in, Everyone of them asked me if i was a virgin, I tell them "Do i have to answer right now?" becuz in my case ladies, thats really none of their bussiness.especially if your JUST BEGINNING to get to know each other. Plus it really shouldnt be a big deal because once upon a time EVERYONE! was a virgin, so it really doesnt matter, If we have sex, we just have sex
Miameow91 1 month ago
you're gorgeous...more power to u gurl :)
honeyclaypot 1 month ago
Also would like to say that strippers, skanks, and sluts just like everyone else can be good and bad. And personal behaviors and decisions that have been made DOES NOT mean that they are not deserving and worthy of LOVE.
bftscgirl1977 1 month ago
Very informative video, BUT a total downer. lol. Yes, confidence is the key to EVERYTHING and people have PREFERENCES. But you would think with all of the other variables that exist men would be stoked meeting a nice woman who thought enough of herself to wait until she was ready. So seeming doing the right thing has once AGAIN left single gals chasing the 8ball. So a virgin is Xed off the list at first chat while strippers, skanks, and sluts are what men are happily taking home to meet mom. WOW
bftscgirl1977 1 month ago 6
I agree with you Taren, sex is indeed a wonderful experience. That is what it is meant to be... only not outside marriage. God created sex to be beautiful and awesome and to be shared between only two people: a husband and his wife.
crazycoconut777 1 month ago
Thank you for this video ! :) It's nice for once to hear that being 22 and a virgin is necessarly bad. Moreover, I like your view on sexuality. I'm not waiting til marriage, I just wait for someone I really want to share something important with.
144Sushi 1 month ago
@taren916 I just wana say THANK YOU for this vid..im a 21 yo V & im been real insecure about it. I hate talking about it bc people, men & women give me looks as if im an alien. Some dont believe me or think i say it to attract men. I find it hard to date men because I feel like they won't accept me.You helped me to realize that I shouldnt have to settle. I should let them know what I want and let them take me as I am.This vid helped me to wise up and be more strong minded. Thanks!!
Sweetheartbabez 1 month ago
Look at all of the problems the BC has as the result of sexually active men and women. Households ran by single mothers 70% or close. Black men subject to an unfair child support system, STD's perpetuated. Whenever black people discuss sex they only discuss the good side of it. They say that sex is a beautiful feeling but they dont discuss the problems that can result if sex is not had responsibly. (Sex inside of marriage). We would be better off if we did what the bible said.
RealmofNight50 1 month ago
As far as never getting married. Understand that Sex in it self is not the problem. Sex had outside of marriage is the problem. According to the bible, if you find it difficult to control your sexual urges, you are supposed to marry, do you hear me?, MARRY the person you are having sex with. Whether they have children or not. So if you count how many partners you've had in your life. You had that many chances to get married. If you cant marry your sex partner than you shouldnt be with them.
RealmofNight50 1 month ago
@RealmofNight50 Can I just say that according to the Bible, you are not supposed to marry the person you are having sex with. You should marry and THEN have sex. You are not supposed to have a sex partner before marriage. Period.
crazycoconut777 1 month ago
@crazycoconut777 Yes you are correct. I may have overstated this point. However what I was refering to was Corinthians Chapter 7 verse 9 (Living Bible) "But If you cannot control yourselves, go ahead and marry. It is better to marry than to burn with lust."
RealmofNight50 1 month ago
Sex doesnt have to be dirty, disgusting, but 9 times out of 10 when someone is sexually active before marriage it is. If it wasnt most would find it boring. How many sexually active people have given blow jobs, muff jobs, rim jobs, consumed the male ejaculate or had the male ejaculate deposited on their back. Trying things they saw in porn. Even if they didnt do these things how many men refer to women as whores and treat them disrespectfully? It is better to wait until marriage to have sex.
RealmofNight50 1 month ago
@18beautyisskindeep,
Amen,sister! I'm 18 and a virgin,too.
jezibellika 1 month ago
I think marrige means to commit to one another and wanting a future together,, wedding is only a celebration of the marrige so having a serious relashionship, knowing echothers family could be called marrige!
GuidetteExpert 2 months ago
love that you made this video and the words (you wont loose anything by waiting ) means alot :) -only 18 but im still a virgin and plan to stay that way till marriage
18beautyisskindeep 2 months ago in playlist Liked videos
we need to stop teaching our daughters to seek a prince or teach our sons to save some lady in need of him. we need to talk about self-awareness and -appreciation and meeting their our best HALF, that person that completes you, not the person that saves you or who needs your salvation.
PS: I love what Taren said about discipline in the gym vs. discipline with sex! there's nothing else to add to that.
Marush 2 months ago
For the perspectives, I would also suggest thinking about having male & female conversations. I think the best way men & women can empower each other is by having RESPECTFUL conversations (Taren can be the impartial mediator or you can co-host w/ a male host for partiality). We can have male perspectives and female perspectives and try to conform to the perspective of which ever gender we're attracted to but is that really efficient to conform, rather than meet each halfway or agree to disagree?
Marush 2 months ago
I'm 18 and a proud virgin! Confident too and waiting till marriage. I love you Taren :)
anewmeePassion 2 months ago
I totally agree with you! If you're gonna be a virgin be a confident one. I'm 25 and a virgin and proud of it. When dating I let it be known up front that we will not be having sex. And if that's a problem they can keep it moving. I consider myself a prize and there will only be one winner... my husband.
TiffaniAnderson 2 months ago 58
Just to say something about the whole "In this day and age, do you really want to wait until marriage?" thing: In this day and age, women have the right to choose whether or not to have sex; therefore, they should have the right to choose WHEN they want to start having sex as well.No one has to force them to wait; it's a commitment they make to themselves. And if they don't have sex for the whole of their lives, as long as they're content in doing other sexual things, who cares?
TheAfroClub 2 months ago
This was great...very honest :)
courtneysmiley596 2 months ago
i needed this! thank you!!!
mahrreesole 2 months ago
damn , you had a kid at 17 o_O
prettykirsten1 2 months ago
lmfaoo , your facial expression for the insecure virgins !!
prettykirsten1 2 months ago
Totally agree! I’m not virgin but I play some kind of chastity. I would only share my body someone who’s worthy. And if a guy can’t wait until I have a clear vision of him, if he is worthy or not, well then of course he isn’t worthy! You said it all!
carlaserejo 2 months ago
now i'm done. & i leave in peace
jm123111 2 months ago
Those of u who keep replying to these old comments of mine--WIL U PLZ STOP! I'm tired of seeing these crazy comments in my inbox. Move on with yr sinful lives & leave me alone as I left u alone. My words make you act like a vampire who has just had sunlight shined on it. Stop playing yrself son. MOVE ON!
jm123111 2 months ago
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@daishabnjmn I hav always & wil always LET PEOPLE either follow Devil or God.It’s called free wil! The Devil’s motto is “Do u, boo.” And God’s motto is “put me 1st in yr decisions” If some1 decides 2 follow devil or God based on otha followers of the devil or God that makes them crazy. There are almost 7 bill unique persons on this planet & if u hav crazy irrational delusional fears of becoming like 1 of them that’s yr problem not God’s. God doesn’t need u or me. HE IS GOD! We need him! Goodday
jm123111 2 months ago
Since devil worshippers have chosen to bother me even after I voluntairly left the conversation over 3 weeks ago I have returned.
jm123111 2 months ago
I don't believe that anyone HAS to wait until marriage to have sex, but I will because it is my choice. I'm not doing it because I have to due to religion, or culture, or because I have to to experience life...I am saving myself because it is my choice and in my heart it is what I am meant to do
misscourtney2010 2 months ago
Our society has gotten too comfortable with the "anything goes" ideology and you can look all around you to see the consequences. Until we start acknowledging God, then we will continue to live in a world full of disease, chaos, and violence. I'm sorry, but sex should never be taken lightly and if you die a virgin, then you can't miss what you didn't know to begin with.
LilNikita2011 2 months ago
Marriage doesn't mean a thing when it comes to sex. I'm sorry but as far as I see it, the things that are required in a relationship are the same things needed for a healthy marriage. And for those confused, I mean: Acceptance, Trust, Loyalty and Respect. Overall, it's chivalry, a term that many women and men believe to be dead. I'm 20 years old, just lost my virginity to a man I've been with for 3 years and known for 5. Hard and harsher times, he's always been there and he accepts 190% of me.
Dark0Malkavian 2 months ago
I'm waiting until marriage to have sex due to religious reasons. It's nice to see that some other people are waiting too. :-) But, I'm not dying to get married....so I may be one of those people that Taren talked about. These are just decisions that I will have to live with and I feel confident enough to stand by them. Hopefully I'll meet someone great, but I won't ditch the plan and give it up if I don't get married.
tinatyme 2 months ago
@asielle you are looney tunes if that is what you got from what I posted. Of course sex is not the only thing special about a woman. When you talk about the heart of a woman, guess what, your body is part of the package. We are not men and we can't have sex and not expect an emotional connection. You're crazy if you think you can give you a body sexually to someone and not form an connection... couple that with many sexual partners and you're gonna be a basket case by the time it's all done.
divinelynaptural 2 months ago
I swear you look like Phyllis Hyman. This was a great video, just like your others!
zeanian 2 months ago 2
Im watching this for the 100th time and Im still getting so much from it. That was a really good point about giving vs sharing. My concern is how do u know the difference? So far its been much more of a depleting experience for me,I haven't experienced that positive sharing experience yet. So I decided to put that sex on hold, 'til I can really be sure I wont feel depleted and lessened after the act.
Thanks so much for this video ! People should have more open discussions like this about sex
Dlover2k5 2 months ago
Funny thing, I actually feel more comfortable talking about sex than my peers who did have sex. Im waiting till marriage, but Im ok with talking about it, its a normal topic.
zairekrieger 2 months ago
@zairekrieger I think once you start having sex, it will be much harder to discuss it. Like Taren said its a subject that hits deep with people, especially women. Ur right tho, it is a normal topic, but its a hard one to face for those of us who have had negative experiences.
Dlover2k5 2 months ago
@Dlover2k5 I understand and respect that. Im glad that I never had a bad experience with that, cause Im not planning on having any experience with that before marriage, but I feel for people who did have a bad experience. Sex is such an intimate and beautiful thing, (even though I never did it, I can imagine it being like that) it should never be misused, sad truth is that thats very different nowadays. Its just so sad.
zairekrieger 2 months ago
Like you said, the person should be worthy, and I just love my husband allready and I think there is no one else worthy of having me except for him. And of course, marriage doesnt mean alot if your not a believer, cuz for us, officially announcing your love for someone before God means alot. And I think a marriage would be better if the first time is shared between a wife and husband
zairekrieger 2 months ago
This is not an issue. If a guy doesn't appreciate your virginity move on. I wished I had a virgin in my life, I would have married her. A true husband quality man will treasure your virginity.
Phoenixspin 2 months ago 2
V-cards! whoo! You called DARIEN out like crazy! great vid :D
BlakLotus 2 months ago
I did not agree with everything you said but you had some wonderful points!
Jazzmon2009 2 months ago
Wow.....all this talk about The Big "V" and women.... there are some men that are virgins. R we suppose to think that are gay because their "Saving themselves"!
missnatural4 2 months ago in playlist More videos from taren916 2
I'll say this about virgins and sex. I agree with Tyra Banks when she told one of the ANTM contestants (I'm paraphrasing) that being a virgin doesn't mean you can't or don't know what it's like to be sexy. Sex starts b4 the act itself. If you are not sure of yourself and who your are, then (even if your are married) you'll not enjoy it and still view "it" as nasty. Yes, you should be careful. As women, we must look out for ourselves. We cannot do what the guys do. Love your mind, body, and soul.
zheahra 2 months ago
23 y.o. virgin, will be 24 in January! I believe in waiting until marriage and not leaving THAT choice up to what society says because society says some crazy stuff sometimes, lol but thats my view. But I DO think its foolish for someone to say "Imma be a virgin and wait for marriage/therightperson" with out making a lifestyle change with it. Thats like ppl who say I'm not gonna drink like my momma and don't do a self eval. and end up doing the same thing too. It's not a decision to take lightly
Meedifyufosho88 2 months ago 21
@Meedifyufosho88 Happy Birthday! I am behind you 100 percent! I lost mine at 30 (a while ago, lol), but many a day I wish I had stayed a virgin.
hotdrumchick 1 month ago
I'm a 17 year old confident virgin :) considering many of my friends have already had the cherry popped I don't feel rushed into having sex. Guys respect me for that and many of them say that I'm a good girl.
vikki12307 2 months ago 2
@vikki12307 Same!
kraziibutkool 2 months ago
I think Darien's (sp) perspective is way out of whack with reality, but if that's what he is into you can't really knock him for his preference. I personally don't know any men that expect sex on a first date, which is basically what he is saying by stating there is no waiting period. The men I know wouldn't take the give it up at first sight girl seriously. With that being said, most men I know aren't up for dating virgins either, which is understandable. Basically, to each it's own, and d
143living 2 months ago
If you feel like all the guys are jetting because your a virgin your probably looking in the wrong places and circles. Sex before marriage can be beautiful and fun and whatever but it is still a sin. Blessed are those who can with hold from sex and do not need another human being to fulfill their needs. How much easier my life would have been if I could have figured this out earlier.
rosebudloves 2 months ago
You are the perfect person for this topic simply because you HAVE an experience. I applaud you for your boldness, honesty and self awareness. Thank You
dee281109 2 months ago
Great video and perspective :-D
ivylove14 2 months ago
you can be a virgin especially if the options are limited and does not meet to your standards....and I agree with the gym thing...I just think those type of men are just being selfish.
wiwut 2 months ago
I can relate 100%!
halliezmandy 2 months ago
After dating my best guy friend for 4 months I told him I was a virgin and he stopped talking to me. I was so crushed and it really hurt my self-esteem. I was 21 but I'm so glad it happened. He is scum.
Lik3Cinnamon 2 months ago
I agree with u, most people who are i have encountered that are 21 and are virgins are some awkward ass people i'm sorry but that's just what I have seen
bxcutie4life2007 2 months ago
No longer a virgin but I was WELL over the age of 21 when I lost it. lol I never thought that it was anything to be ashamed of but I hated telling people becuz the first response would always be, "Ur lying.".... That irritated the hell out of me but on the other hand, I took pride in my virginity and though it was hard to keep a bf due to the fact, my vrginity only furthered my knowledge for who was with me for me and who deserved me sharing myself with them.
britneyc89 2 months ago 2
Great points Taren. Knowing yourself, loving yourself, and being confident in your own skin are key. If you don't know what you want, why should someone else take the time to figure it out? If you don't love yourself and are not confident, how can you expect someone else to love you or respect you? Everyone has been a virgin before, so regardless of how long you've been a virgin, experiences (and freedom of speech) give people license to share opinions on the topic.
NaturalCure86 2 months ago
Your analogy about men and the gym was quite clever Ms.Taren! I'm 24, and a virgin, I've learned that most men CAN wait...but they WON'T wait, because many women give sex more freely these days, and they know they have other options rather than to wait :(
dnyknight05 2 months ago 30
i agree and disagree with .what you said.yes being a virgin is really hard.i lost mine wheni was 20 an just waiting till then was kinda hard.but to say its archaic to want t o wait till marriage is kinda insulting in a way.because i want to save myself for someone who wants to or try to be with me for da rest of my life is archaic.i dont believe that i personally believe u should try to wait till your married or at least with sum1 who will respects you and cares for you deeply.
nellblue21 2 months ago
Why do some men prefer a woman w/experience? My take: because they are selfish, mostly concerned with getting-not giving. Shouldn't it be- I want to make love WITH
you, not TO you. For all the single ladies out there remember, don't just settle, find a man
who is unselfish.
No there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Who has to teach us how to smile or
laugh- some things just come naturally, no experienced needed!
Jakki
Taren, thanks for the way you handled this subject.
jakki1980 2 months ago
Keeping your virginity isn't an archaic thought and no one should be ashamed of being a virgin. And their worth shouldn't be equated to losing their virginity. You kept saying "your worth, the experience of sex" as if those who have had sex know themselves more, they're worth more. However, someone who waits could easily know more about themselves and more about their worth.
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@missgajidas definitely! God made sex for marriage anything outside of that is sin of course it can be forgiven but it does not mean that you will have a better sex life or know yourself better.
24angelmama 2 months ago
Good job. Couldve said it better
back2natural1 2 months ago
eww raw sex? that is nasty
tt21292 2 months ago
5 stars
5 mics
5 afro puffs
willame1 2 months ago
@jm123111 so unless you actually personally know my walk with God, don't tell me I am "only" a believer. I am focused on my walk and don't need people like you telling me what I only am and telling me the wrong and right things to do. My spiritual mentors have that covered. thanks.
wfriday100 2 months ago
@jm123111 I know your intentions are good but you can NOT judge my path with God and how I view things. You don't know me, or where I am with my walk with God. I'm just a sinner(like you) who is trying to do my very best. How dare you insinuate you know my walk with God by saying "if you are doing the right thing out of your fear of God". My personal relationship with the Lord is my business and something I work very hard at every single day. People may not be where you are spiritually, yet.
wfriday100 2 months ago 2
Our life here is only tempoary. If you have a 12 inch ruler: 1 inch is your life here and the other 11 inches are eternity. If you have messed up, God fogives and you can start over. I would never advise/endorse someone to have sex outside of marriage, that's wrong. When we become adults and we know better, we do better. That includes not haveing sex until married. God sacrificed so much for us...so I can sacrifice sex. I would tell my daughter to wait... I would never tell her to sin.
4mySISTERZ 2 months ago 4
It is ok to give your opinion ,but always remember we are all held accountable for what we say whether right or wrong. It does not matter if you are spiritual, religious or not even a believer.
tjsg2011 3 months ago
i never understood why virgins feel the need to volunteer that info to the person they are dating without being asked, especially when they aint plannin on havin sex. why would u do that???
sjsafety18 3 months ago
@sjsafety18 could you clarify your question a bit? I'm curious and may be able to answer your question....being a virgin myself:)
dnyknight05 2 months ago
preach boo!
hopover1 3 months ago in playlist More videos from taren916
i'm gonna get me some
20jandrews 3 months ago 2
Enjoyed the video and thought it was very informative. I can see the issue on all sides. You may not be an expert which has alot of people on here complaining that you're not qualified to give spiritual advice, but i believe you have a right to your opinion and to share it with others. Of course, we won't all agree. I look forward to more videos from you.
MzLimeLight 3 months ago
Conpletely right-on Taren! I can't add on or take away!
LuvitHeart 3 months ago
i think its about guys not having to wait. theres no real short cut to muscles or a career goal but if the goal is sex and there are women out there that give it up fairly quickly or right away then a guy doesn't have to wait for the woman that wants to wait.
CaiLex81 3 months ago
i agree with EVERYTHING you said. im 19 and a virgin and i wont settle for anybody and i will lose it when i feel tha time is right, whether that is before or after marriage.
SmooVeshea 3 months ago 2
I liked & agreed w/ most of what you had to say. But I'll be a virgin my entire life if I never do get married. I just feel that my virginity is a special gift from God I can only give to one person & I feel that the only person who deserves it is my husband. I'd rather go through life saying "I'm so glad I never had sex with that guy" or "I wish I would have has sex with that guy" instead of saying "Damn I wish I never had sex with him"
makeupvixen13 3 months ago 29
Good topic and input. Like to hear talk on younger women dating older men.
Shukamina 3 months ago
Work!
bossin88 3 months ago
VIDEO 300!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
loladiva1184 3 months ago
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I dont know if she should be giving sex and virginity talks - just sayin
Floraiton 3 months ago
@Floraiton And why can't I? I can talk about whatever I feel and if I feel ppl can relate that's all that matters... We all have experienced things in our past that we have learned from so therefore that does not exempt me from expressing myself about subjects such as this one... Sooooo... Um... Why shouldn't I?
taren916 3 months ago 47
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You go head taren... lol tell these people to stop hating on you... you can do whatever you want to and I am looking forward to your future vids ;)
daishabnjmn 3 months ago
@Floraiton Leave her alone.
xCandyRazorzx 2 months ago
Taren, I totally agree with you! I commend anyone who is a virgin, especially if they're 18+. In fact, I've always encouraged my friends who are/were virgins when I was not! Like you said, virgins are a rarity afterward. Great advice and words of wisdom, too!
Sidenote: I love your new intro; it's hot!
PearlfectJourney 3 months ago
i have an old friend who waited until she was 27 !!! wow
GemRubyDiam0nd 3 months ago
that give vs share convo is so #REAL
COutland 3 months ago
Taren, this is a great video, I agree with all of your views and you presented them to us in an educated articulate manner :) I totally agree with the marriage before sex issue. In my opinion, it's like who does that anymore? Marriage doesn't define your love and connection with somebody. Anyways, well done you! So glad to be a subscriber, all of your videos from your hair videos to vlogs have been informative and helped me alot! xxx
YouAndStephanie 3 months ago
LOL I love you Taren..girl you are a hot mess. and the hair didnt do anything but give me more life. SMH
DaStraggler 3 months ago
It was really interesting to hear your opinions. I don't agree with all of them, but that's ok! LOL I definitely agree that women should be proud of their virginity. I was a virgin until I got married, and I have absolutely NO regrets about that. The emotional ties to men who don't act right and bad sex are so not worth it...thinking about doing a video response...maybe. :)
myroyaltresses 3 months ago 2
Taren, have you read Juanita Bynum's book, No More Sheets ?
InsideBeauty28 3 months ago
the deal with the waiting period is men are weak in that area lollk. its too easy for guys to get sex these days. they dont respect woman in that area because other women give them selves up to easily thus men ( like darian lol ) think, "if she aint giving I know someone else who will". Its kind of pathetic. but true When we lose respect for ourselves others(men) lose respect for us. What I say to that...dont date darian ( or men like that). they looking for weak sauce women. lol srry darian lol
JazzRockablity 3 months ago
Hahahaha, Taren you are something...
prettycarmencurls 3 months ago
I completely agree that virginity seems to be something pushed for females. Remaining a virgin should be something that both genders aspire to until they are in a monogamous, fulfilling and committed relationship. I am tired of the woman having to save herself for a man, I would love to see a man saving himself for his wife for a change. Most virgins will not end up with men who are virgins, so they should exercise the same caution with respect to getting tested, using protection etc..
taleeni 3 months ago 6
I liked this video. I know some people prob don't but everyone needs to understand that they are not gonna agree with everything you say. That being said, I am 23 and a virgin and recently I started to feel abnormal. I am probably not going to wait until marriage because it's not realistic but I do want to wait until I am with someone I deeply trust and care about, and am in a monogamous relationship. Is that so much to ask? Sometimes it really seems like it is.
mwehpakonne 3 months ago
I'm 22 and a virgin and I don't even tell guys that I'm a virgin until I feel they need to know. If/when the subject comes up, I just say that sex is not an option at that time. As far as the whole stone aged thing, I don't think it's stone aged, I think people over time have just lost their value of themselves and the act of sex that they just don't care. And the reasons I'm a virgin has nothing to do with my religion.... And yes, it's extremely hard.. pun intended(sometimes) lol
windycitynatural 3 months ago 37
@taren916
Oh excuse me. I didn't mean "you you." I should've used third person for that example to get this msg across: I respect people's beliefs, but if someone says they're a vegan, then I shouldn't catch him/her eating pork. The whole reason I'm typing this was in response to your comment that "Muslims/Christians have sex before marriage." I'm just saying people should commit wholly(not 1/3) to their ideals, whatever they may be-black, white or gray.
rosesdiary 3 months ago
reallly though, i think guys are more intimidated by virgins b/c they actually have to really blow their mind. they never had sex and what if they hate it b/c he isnt up to par. guys arent that good as they think they are.
yagurlbubblez 3 months ago 7
Great video and opinion. Thanks for sharing! Time is always on your side...nothing wrong with waiting.
awilson1986 3 months ago
If a virgin gives herself to a man who hasn't made a COMMITMENT to her she’s stupid.I am 18 and a virgin and proud of it. I will wait until I'm married due to the morals, pride, honor and knowledge my mother and religion gave me. Sex is for those who are married,if not then why once married you’re supposed to only have sex with your partner. If I never get married than I won't have sex.If God can sacrifice his son, I can sacrifice sex.But I will marry, there are men with the same ethics as me.
tavie2is4u 3 months ago 7
@tavie2is4u You have to careful of not calling ppl 'stupid '. You never know what the situation is. Try to be understanding of what others may go through. Not everyone has the same strength or the same outlook on sex, that doesn't make them 'stupid ', its what makes us all different.
Dlover2k5 2 months ago
@rosesdiary Amen let your beliefs dictate your behavior...your beliefs dictate your behavior...So if you are christian it will show through behavior and not just words...Amen sister
ReformationOfBeauty 3 months ago
Great Video !!!!
PiNKandLuV 3 months ago
Great vid!!! Love your perspective...keep it coming
Tiffronee 3 months ago
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Pt 2
Christian or Muslim because really what that represent is values. If you can't commit to your values, then how can you commit to anything else in life? People can actually LIVE, yes LIVE!!! without sex. If someone chooses to wait until marriage or to remain forever abstinent due to beliefs, I don't think anyone should down on that just like no one should judge people who want to have casual sex. It's not up to anyone but the individual to determine whether it's "realistic".
rosesdiary 3 months ago
awesomeeeeeeeeee vid love you taren.. I'm not a virgin but I respect them..I can feel for them BC I'm cliebate and Have been for almost 2 years so i can feel for them..love your vids
Uniqu3neverway 3 months ago
Great vid and topic Taren! I completely agree about the waiting for marriage viewpoint. For me personally, waiting for marriage to have sex is/was not realistic.Im 25 now and I do not see marriage in the future with my significant other for at least another 2 years or so. Sex is a part of life, it's a personal choice, and I think that it should be taken seriously and not abused, but at the same time I do not religate sex to the marriage only territory.
Curlypad 3 months ago 3
I love your video. It would be nice if men placed a greater value on sex, love and intimacy. But then again, it may take a true movement of women who are willing to stand up and honor themselves before that happens.
NeasTube 3 months ago 4
@NeasTube what us women fail to realize that we are the foundation. If we say no and wait until marriage, then it should be. We have the power for it to happen that way. Look how eve made adam eat that apple lol. Problem is we no longer know our position and strengths so men have no reason to respect us as we should.
DOITNOW4ever 2 months ago
Great vid
Blopiu26 3 months ago
I love you Taren, but I have to disagree with you. Wait for marriage. Those who don't always experience consequences that they would not have experienced had they waited.
nnmiles1 3 months ago
The discipline that we show in other areas all come back to getting in our desire pants! We get buff for women. We work and make money to attract women. The end goal is them panties.
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AlbisLondon 3 months ago
great video! virgins ftw :)
girlabee 3 months ago
Its a double standard men too shd be virgins.Its feels dirty when u sleep with men who are hores and yet u,re a virgin yourself.
MultiNaturals 3 months ago 3
You're right not all christians wait til marraige, Are you a christian?
SoniaMia7 3 months ago
I wish i were a vigrin shit!
SoniaMia7 3 months ago
Umm so why aren't you making more videos like this? I love "sensitive" topics such as this. Also, you're putting positive thoughts out in the air. Being a virgin takes a lot of discipline and is very commendable. Let's be real tho...virgins past the age of 15 are rare let alone 21. Sex is a spiritual bond just as marriage is. I understand and appreciate your perspective, people don't know themselves so it's hard for them to operate spiritually. People need to spend time with themselves.
monirobin91 3 months ago