So why can't it be BOTH...? I think this is just continuing the cycle of men hiding what they feel when they need to talk about it as well as bringing up young boys not to talk about their feelings. I know guys are less likely to talk about it that's why I said need instead of have to or even want to. Guys don't have to do it all the time either but men have feelings too. Can't they say what they feel and then do what's right or vice versa, Mark? Men bottling up has been proven to be unhealthy.
Most of the time people indeed do the right things based on how they feel, absolutely. But the thing is, feelings can be twisted and warped, and thus lead someone to do the wrong thing. It's like that old saying, "the road to hell is paved with good intentions." Don't get me wrong, its is a it extreme, and no, your not going to burn for all eternity for something trivial. But people have done horrible, horrible things--because they feel it was the "right" thing to do.
What I mean is that what most people feel is the right thing to do,most of the time is what is the right thing to do.
But we humans are flawed and somethings we go the wrong path and commit sin. Why? Because what is right and what we think is right is different. How to live righteously? That answer doesn't change. Live honestly, faithfully, loyally...you get the idea. But what we perceive to be right can and does change, sometimes for worse. Right doesn't change. Feelings do.
There is no such thing as right. There are only consequences. We define right with consequences this way:
Right is something you are ready to take the consequences for until the end of your life no matter what happens and what they are.
Punishing a child for what he did wrong is a consequence. Mark speaks here about that a boys should experience the consequences through external "events" and not through internal exploration. That will create proper "sense of right" for boys.
So why can't it be BOTH...? I think this is just continuing the cycle of men hiding what they feel when they need to talk about it as well as bringing up young boys not to talk about their feelings. I know guys are less likely to talk about it that's why I said need instead of have to or even want to. Guys don't have to do it all the time either but men have feelings too. Can't they say what they feel and then do what's right or vice versa, Mark? Men bottling up has been proven to be unhealthy.
HappyAtheist76 5 days ago
do we not do what is right based on feelings? This man is spewing garbage.
coonchrocket7 1 year ago
@coonchrocket7
Most of the time people indeed do the right things based on how they feel, absolutely. But the thing is, feelings can be twisted and warped, and thus lead someone to do the wrong thing. It's like that old saying, "the road to hell is paved with good intentions." Don't get me wrong, its is a it extreme, and no, your not going to burn for all eternity for something trivial. But people have done horrible, horrible things--because they feel it was the "right" thing to do.
elzombito5678 10 months ago
@elzombito5678
What I mean is that what most people feel is the right thing to do,most of the time is what is the right thing to do.
But we humans are flawed and somethings we go the wrong path and commit sin. Why? Because what is right and what we think is right is different. How to live righteously? That answer doesn't change. Live honestly, faithfully, loyally...you get the idea. But what we perceive to be right can and does change, sometimes for worse. Right doesn't change. Feelings do.
elzombito5678 10 months ago
@elzombito5678
There is no such thing as right. There are only consequences. We define right with consequences this way:
Right is something you are ready to take the consequences for until the end of your life no matter what happens and what they are.
Punishing a child for what he did wrong is a consequence. Mark speaks here about that a boys should experience the consequences through external "events" and not through internal exploration. That will create proper "sense of right" for boys.
kobor42 10 months ago
I'd love to have this series.
Destructos 2 years ago