Anthony de Mello - Awareness pt. 3 and 4

[YoSerio]

Yes, I am ready to be happy at your expense...this is my ignorant belief, this is what I was told to expect/demand. I didn't know that happiness was an inside job!!

Thanks, Tony!

[YoSerio]

Anthony DeMello has been one of my best mentors. he opened my eyes to see what really love is!!!

[Guuster00]

real love is letting go of the things we love, to have no attachment anymore, then you will be really free as a person. Real love is unconditionally :)

most people believe they own their loved ones, by loving them, but that's no real love. Real love, unconditional love, has no judgment ;)

[godwithin060988]

Well there IS something wrong with that quote "the test of love is sacrifice".

People don't understand it, love = GOD, so the test of GOD is sacrifice, but not sacrifice in a sense of giving up your life, sacrifice in the sense of HELPING another by carying some of their pain.

For god NEVER asks one to kill oneself, that would be selfish of god, and god is not selfish, just like love is not selfish.

[godwithin060988]

The TEST of Love is Sacrifice, so by sacrificing some of my happiness in order for ANOTHER person to be happy i have tested my love.

So how can you chose happiness over Loving someone when the test of love is sacrifice (in the sense of sacrificing happiness for someone elses happiness)?

[Ozonmyown]

Where could I get this in One downloadable condition ??

[NoPainNoGain200]

what a lovely tortoise! I am mesmerised. I am thinking of someone i adore...i would rather have happiness than have you! oh i feel so sad! if i had a choice no question about it i would choose happiness! I dont feel selfish just sad that its true its more important that i get aligned rather than persue attatchment to those i adore! lol

[philfreud]

its a beautiful message.

[rockmalai]

I do agree. It is a powerful talk.

[billyysands]

some of the most miserable people i hav ever met, are those that threw away all their commitments and responsiblities

to pursue a good time"i just want to be happy" and they end up unbearably lonely and miserable

[WrenElessedil]

I can bring an example of two couples. One couple where the wife wanted her husband to become a brilliant lawyer in order to have more money and be happy, the other where the wife was not attached to money and was happy to see her husband happy in his wish not to make any career. The first are divorced, the second are still together. So I agree with him when he says: be happy to see me happy, I will be happy to see you happy. If you are not happy with the way I am, you'd better change partner

[WrenElessedil]

instead of trying to change me into who I am not and will never be able to be.

[billyysands]

true find someone who accepts you for who you are and has similair goals

you cant force someone to be something they are not nor should you

find someone who will be what you want because thats who they are.

[billyysands]

i dont think that is necessarilly the case though it may be.compatibility is important to have the same goals and values.being poor is miserable.

you can devote to much to carreer but often staying with a dead beat is misery

life is a balance

some may be happy working at minum wage at the local conveneince store

but i doubt many women would be happy

married to someone poor with no ambition. many doesnt buy happyness

but i'll tell you I AM ALWAYS MORE HAPPY WHEN I HAVE MONEY

its complex

[2TheOpenSea]

That's confusing happiness with thrills.