My brother has Asperger's Syndrome and his symptoms are a lot more severe than yours. If you have it, then I even have it! I'm 20 times 'weirder' than you and proud of it! ;) You are very beautiful, clear thinking, make perfect eye contact, and you don't speak in a mono tone...again, I realize there's a spectrum, but hat's my sweet, honest explanation. The only symptom you have is extreme self absorption, lol. Just remember, everyone has awkward feelings, insecurities, and anxiety in school. :)
@TheAnMish I feel you are over thinking this. Some people are just idiots. These are the same personality types that bullied you as a child. I suggest you ignore it, after all every drop of energy you spend on this issue is that much energy you won't have for your music.
Thank you, TheAnMish, for sharing parts of your self with me and the world. I hope I didn't cause you any distress by pointing out aspects of your self-description that would not fit with my assumptions about Aspies in general. You have a highly analytical mind, which most definitely fits the Aspergers profile. You also come across as quite charming and emotionally expressive, which probably surprises many people who do not expect that from an Aspie.
@JenFindling She's a woman; even as an Aspie,that will work in her favor. Male Aspies aren't typically like that.
In fact, I think you've identified precisely the issue that causes confusion and frustration among female Aspies, and which prompts people like TheAnMish and the other posters like her to create these informative and often quite intimate channels.
NT males aren't particularly emotionally analytical in the first place, so males Aspies aren't questioned in that regard.
Oh, and charming? Even at twice her age, I think she's positively, breathtakingly dreamy :-)
Which is to say, ahem, that, um... er, what was I going to say again? Ah yes, it was that in Aspies, male and female alike, it's not the emotions that are missing, so much as the ability to detect and identify the complex ones, especially when expressed by others. Even NTs can have trouble with clear identification of emotions: Daniel Gilbert wrote about that in "Stumbling on Happiness".
@JenFindling Oh, it was just a comical opportunity to send somebody a compliment and to "celebrate" my own "maturity split". She doesn't need me to validate her.
@opijules Ummm... emotions... missing? We feel as intensely as any NT, and as completely and deeply. Our inability to express it with the same manifestations as NT does not mean they are missing from any of us.
@feralucce Exactly. My sentence using the words "emotions" and "missing" was :'it's not the emotions that are missing, so much as the ability to detect and identify the complex ones, especially when expressed by others."
@feralucce You see, this is what I love about the people here. You're another one of those wonderful people who make the world a better place. The simple act of saying "oops!" and "I'm sorry" costs nothing, and it makes us all look better.
The fact that you write poetry also doesn't quite fit with the typical Aspie profile, because poetry requires an ease with metaphor that "most Aspie's" don't possess. The typical (or stereotypical?) Aspie doesn't 'get' poetry at all, even when it is explained in detail. Creativity of the intuitive kind is not a hallmark of Aspie's, in general. So...maybe people who see themselves as having Asperger's...see you as different from them...and feel that you are spreading misinformation? Peace.
@JenFindling Your assertion that "creativity of the intuitive kind is not a hallmark of Aspies" is misinformed. My son is an Aspie and is in college for creative writing. My career in engineering is well punctuated with elements of intuitive creativity. Aspies have trouble with human communication, but intuition - association of existing abstract knowledge toward a synthesis of new concepts - is something we're actually particularly good at.
@opijules Thank you for responding to my comments. I am just fascinated by human behavior, learning about myself and others. There is a particular kind of creativity that tends to be associated with Aspies, usually the scientific, technical sort of creativity that is often not acknowledged as creativity in the mainstream. I agree that engineering, say, requires a great deal of creativity and intuitive ability. There is an equal and opposite form of creativity at the other end of the spectrum
@opijules that has nothing to do with scientific thought but everything to do with interpersonal communication and intuition/metaphor as it relates to human interactions. So...the type of creative writing that a person engages in would be interesting to explore in relation to diagnostic categories. Someone whose creative writing is primarily related to abstract ideas or technical/scientific concepts would be more likely on the Aspie side of the spectrum...
@opijules whereas someone whose creative writing is primarily related to relationships and the 'human condition' might be on the opposite end of the spectrum. There is not a name for this other form of exceptionality, as far as I know. Perhaps the closest thing to describe it would be Elaine Aaron's term, "The Highly Sensitive Person" (book of the same title). Maybe I could find some excerpts of literature on either side of the spectrum to illustrate the differences...
@JenFindling OK, but I don't see it that way. I don't see that the subject matter itself determines a spectrum (a word usually used to describe or approximate the disabling severity of autism). The issue with AS is not the topic of creativity but the ability to understand the non-logical component of emotional communication. Once the actual emotion is identified, Aspies can understand and empathize as well as anybody.
@opijules What I'm curious about is how the ASD mind differs from the neuro-typical mind as it relates to creative expression. Could we read an author's collection of short-stories, for instance, and make an informed guess about whether or not that person was on the Autism spectrum? The "non-logical component of emotional communication" shows up in creative endeavors so frequently that it seems as though ASD's should be reflected in the products of those endeavors.
@JenFindling I'm sorry, but I disagree again :-( Many (most?) Aspies can understand Of metaphor ! Of course we get poetry! Where do you get all that from??
Thanks for the fascinating conversation, but I really don't think you understand what AS. I honestly don't mean to offend or criticize !
@opijules I've heard many people with Autism described as taking comments literally when the comments were intended metaphorically. For instance, "your ears are on fire" might be interpreted as a true statement for someone with Autism. I have known Aspies who say that they don't 'get' poetry. This is just the view from my little corner of the world ~ I'm not easily offended. It IS fascinating conversation...you've had me thinking about this stuff all day!
@JenFindling The "ears on fire" issue is very valid, but if I may, I would suggest that that the problem occurs primarily in verbal communication, where the context tends to be transient and dynamic. In written form, most (but certainly not all!) Aspies can handle it. But I agree with your point. Good to discuss this with you, it's so refreshing to have intelligent, respectful conversation in this type of venue :-)
I wondered if you might have been misdiagnosed with Asperger's...not any deceptive intent on your part, just a simple misdiagnosis. I would have guessed that you have ADD and social anxiety disorder. The creativity and ability to hyper-focus would fit with an ADD diagnosis, and the social phobia would explain your early recollections of feeling overwhelmed by peers, more comfortable with adults, averse to small-talk, etc. Your'e also clearly gifted, which contributes sensitivity and intensity
@JenFindling Could you explain to me how Attention Deficit Disorder supports hyper-focus? I would have thought the opposite would be true. And I don't think she mentioned "phobia". I don't think there's fear there: discomfort maybe, but not fear. Why are you trying so hard to disallow TheAnMish's diagnosis? I'm looking for your motivation here.
@opijules I really am not trying to disallow TheAnMish's diagnosis. I am interested in the subject of Asperger's because my son has Autism and his father is likely Aspie. I am fascinated by these conceptual categories and human behavior in general. I see myself as being on the opposite end of the spectrum of most Aspies, but I am personally drawn to Aspies because of their honesty, intelligence, creativity, etc. If I were the type of person to wear slogan-y t-shirts, "I heart geeks" would fit
@JenFindling Could you explain what you mean by opposite end? If AS is almost the same as "high functioning autism", wouldn't opposite end mean low? Try to understand you properly, 'cos the discussion is really interesting :-)
@opijules It is a bit challenging to have a discussion like this in disjointed chunks of text that are 500 characters or less. When I mentioned the "opposite end" of the spectrum, I meant those who are gifted in the ability to understand "the Non-Logical Component of Emotional Communication" (to borrow your phrase). If there is a range of ability on this N-LCEC, then people with severe Autism would be at the lower end of this ranger, Aspies would be just above them, then neurotypicals, then ??
@JenFindling It is. Ah, I understand your spectrum. At the top end? We need a term like "super-sensors", don't we?! Gifted, as you say above, in the area of emotional atunement. I think we call those "poets" in the wild ;-)
@JenFindling I think my comment here was vague, in the interest of humility. I see myself as gifted in the area of emotional attunement. I hear the emotional subtext of every conversation before I can process the content of the words. Art, poetry, music, dance, etc. all have a very immediate emotional impact for me. I find myself serving as 'interpreter' in some sense for my Aspie friends. I think I'm drawn to Aspies because I was always terribly shy and Aspies seemed safe to me.
You're a woman, you're young and attractive, therefore, everything you say gets extra scrutiny and criticism because women who have opinions and are well spoken make enough (str8) men uncomfortable in a patriarchal world. I think there'd be far fewer accusations if you were a man making these videos.This strikes me as boringly predictable systemic sexism trend stuff. You'd get the same critiques if you were talking about depression or the loss of a loved one, anything that might invoke sympathy.
The best proof that you aren't a faker is the fact that people think you are!! If you were pretending to be an Aspie, you would probably do all the things people WOULD expect of an Aspie in order to be convincing. That is, if you studied Asperger's and were trying to convince others you had it, your performance probably would meet everyone's expectations. It just doesn't seem like you're trying to convince anyone of anything, which ironically is why some of these morons aren't convinced. (ha ha)
I'm an Aspie, I'm 28, female and I have this issue too. I've managed to disguise most of the telltale signs I showed as a child and teenager and as a result some people seem to find it hard to believe I am 'for real', which is ridiculous because Aspies are often very good at systematising and pattern recognition and it's totally possible to acquire normal seeming behaviour and social skills up to a point by analysing that of others without AS. But you're still the same inside..
... about their own frustrations on others who seem to be doing well. Or something. I like you, and your pretty, and I'm happy for you that you seem to be able to be quite well-recieved (I receive you well, that's where I get that hypothesis) socially. I feel like being an Aspie won't keep you from finding connection (though I don't know you, and I'm sorry if I'm acting like I do- I just feel like I get a lot from watching people), and that would be cool haha. Sending goodness to you
First of all, I believe you that you're an Aspie. I see a certain struggle in you that I find endearing, I guess because I can relate to it, even though I'm not an Aspie.
I think you do seem pretty "normal", and I can sort of see where people might think you're faking- not to condone the hurtful things they may say- and I think that's just about them being angry, to put it simply, that you seem to be doing so well with your problem, and other people, Aspie or no, I'm sure take out anger...
Are other people's opinions of you important to you? I tend to think that those people who judge you are not actually defining who you are but rather are merely defining themselves as someone who needs to judge.
I've watched a handful of your videos, and you're honest and you obviously understand the deepest feelings that go along with your experience and those of other Aspies and I 100% believe you when you say you are one. But from the subsection of your videos I've watched I can see where people are confused. In the videos you don't show any of the prototypically Aspie "ticks" and mannerisms, so my assumption is that your pattern of Asperger's issues is simply somewhat different than people expect.
Ha, ha, ha ... you're so funny. I perfectly understand why you're raising this question, but what "normal" people don't understand is that most aspies and autistic people are incapable to pretend or to manipulate; we don't even understand the purpose of doing it. I guess you should be aware that manipulation and pretending is a very common behaviour in the "normal" population, and therefore it's normal that most people would assume you're faking.
@LauraArendt nail on the head; I find that the most a normal person can understand of not putting on a show is putting on a show of not putting on a show. It's not just that it's intrinsic to neurotypical humans to lie and manipulate; we live in a culture that glorifies it under the title "social skills" I will also mention that my experience is that people who say these things are not denying my Asperger's as much as denying (in their deep wisdom) the edistence of Asperger's in general. Jerks
To act or not to act NT. That is the question. How much and when should we act NT? Do we lose the best parts of our positive Aspie traits when we try to pretend to be NT all the time? This is not to even mention how draining it is on us mentally and physically.
@ndeminmantis i agree with you!! -look at morphological changes.. our thin upper cupid bow lip w/a full lower lip, high palatal arch, our wider intercanthus legnth, our unique eyebrows, and our earlobes which are connected to our skin. many others, but with just a quick look , morphologically she has facial features of an ASPIE. So in my mind she LOOKS like an aspie and TALKS/ACTS like an aspie . SHE IS AN ASPIE! how much more proof do those people/trolls need? Thanks AnMish for your help.
I completly believe you have the aspergersyndrom. I have it and I dont speak the way people expect aspergers to speak or behave aswell. I even have amplified facial expression because all my life I tried so hard to fit it appear normal.
I've heard some people claim that there are a bunch of people out there who claim to have Asperger's syndrome to get sympathy or so that they can be anti-social and not get criticized for it. If such people do exist, I hate their guts because they give unneeded legitimacy to people who think that Asperger's syndrome is just lazy people whining about shit.
Sorry to hear what you went thru there. I think it's rude that there's people out there who say that you or anyone else who goes thru doesn't have Asperger's Syndrome.
I have Spina bifida and because I'm not wheelchair-bound and can walk around almost normally I often get the "No way!" reaction from people whenever they find out about my condition. I think it's just a matter of people building their own image of what a person with a certain condition/diagnosis is supposed to look like and behave. It's usually an image built on, let's face it, ignorance, and yet if you don't conform to it you're met with disbelief. People are weird.
Honestly, I think people think you aren't really aspergic/mentally retarded because you're good looking. Why must people always think good looking people are perfect? Seriously? We have our mental problems too just like the rest of the world!
@Notebookwriter1 People with Asperger's Syndrome are not "mentally retarded" (intellectually disabled). They have average or gifted intelligence. There is at least one Nobel laureate who has Asperger's Syndrome (Vernon L Smith). The diagnostic criteria for Asperger's Syndrome state that a psychiatrist must not diagnose someone with Asperger's Syndrome if they are cognitively impaired. If people think that Asperger's means "mentally retarded" then they are very poorly informed.
I love your bit about "picking one that is more attention grabbing" I am thought to have it by a psychologist... I am very sympathetic to your cause. I might have it I might not, I'm an objective jerk. lol. I ask the question myself, Is it possible to "fake" Asperger's anyway. I do not think its possible. How does one fake being highly intelligent? ;) Your fine love, most people are jealous idiots and you don't have to love the ones who could care less. If you still do, then do. Its your right.
You ask, why people says to you that you are not aspie, so I ask you now, why you ask of those people why they say to you that you are not aspie cos if you were aspie, you wouldnt care of that so much.You have talked of this thing in so many of your videos,so you really seem to think this thing a lot.
As an aspie I dont think you would spend your time to think this thing SO much. You would think more that it is nice that people cant see that you are aspie.
@Silenzio1979 That's an interesting perspective. I'll tell you the reason it bothers me, though. It's that the people who don't believe me, also don't believe all the other mild aspies.
Many don't understand that this is a spectrum, and that different problems come along with having the syndrome, depending on where on the spectrum you are.
Not believing me to be an aspie because I'm "well funtioning" is part of a much greater, widespread ignorance.
@Myrtone I don't know what my score is.. I probably went through the test at some point, but I don't remember, tbh. I also don't particularly care. I think I'm probably of around average intelligence when it comes to logical/mathematical intelligence (which of course, is all the standard IQ test measures).
"It's that the people who don't believe me, also don't believe all the other mild aspies." Well, I dont get what youre trying to say? So you think that if someone says that you are not AS, he/she cant think that someone else is?
@Silenzio1979 Kind of, but I'm not sure if you're missing the point or not.
What I'm saying is.. if people can't see I'm an aspie in my videos, then they likely also can't see that a whole bunch of other mild aspies, are aspies. I never claim to be a severe case, because I'm not. And many others also aren't. But if people don't accept that it's a spectrum, and that some of us can seem normal some of the time, but aren't normal, then many don't get the help they need.
@TheAnMish I dont know if in that comment from you was some hiding meaning, but thats how my AS brain got your comment.
Well, I know what you mean when you say that your function is not allways same kind of. My functioning goes up and down all day long. I cant never be sure how I will function tomorrow or even after one hour. It is not something you can predict.
I've learnt to some extend to predict it, but if something happens that I didn't plan for.. well, you can probably imagine.
Luckily, over the last 10 years or so, I've become more and more stable in my every day life - now it's the long run that's difficult. I usually have a "breakdown" of sorts every few months. Hard to figure out how to deal with that...
@TheAnMish I even had two cousins saying to me "I think I have Aspergers". They just have no clue about what AS is :) They think they have because they are a little bit shy sometimes. Just don't get upset or mad if no one understands you, it's like when no one understood that our planet is round. Only time can make them get it. A pity though...
@TheAnMish Excellent point. I get that a lot. My HR guy at work once said "I still don't see anything wrong with you". Ignoring the "wrong" bit, (we know how to respond to that) he had inadvertently complemented my NT simulation, yet had missed the fact that in talking to him about it I was doing what many Aspies , including TheAnMish in her videos here, and others do: continuously and almost obsessively analyzing, dissecting, discussing, and explaining the AS phenomenon to an NT !
@Silenzio1979, I was diagnosed with Asperger's, and I call tell you your statement is completely false. Asperger's people can definitely be aware of the reactions of others, know something is lacking in their social responses, and feel guilty and anxious as a result. Only those with severe autism are so unaware of the responses of others that they simply do not think about it.
@KhagarBalugrak Moni ihminen on diagnosoitu aspergeriksi vaikkei ole sitä. Moni ihminen on myös jätetty diagnosoimatta aspergeriksi vaikka on sitä. Luulen että esim. jenkeissä saa diagnoosin hyvin helposti.
Well, I dont think you have AS/that you are autistic, because you can so easily put your self as thinking the way NT:s do and you just look just like NT.
If you were aspie, it would be much harder to you.
I think that you maybe have OCD and you just want so much have AS.
Its very easy to say this but I think the reason is simply : People are stupid. They have a percieved way of thinking. They think they know how a person with asbergers is supposed to behave so when you arent doing whats according to their beliefs you must be an impostor. I guess you could say they are narrowminded. And its not your fault you are dealing so well with the dificulties of your syndrome.
I have also occasionally found myself being told I couldn't be autistic (when I am myself HF autistic). I think it comes first from the success of intervention programs (I was treated from an early age by counselors, speech therapists, etc.) and second possibly from fear or discomfort. That second one is not as easy to prove but perhaps there's a fear in some when they learn that the person next door who looks/acts normal really isn't.
Well.There was that lonelygirl Bree thing. And you do seem like you are acting. But seeing your transition from a year ago. That tells me this isn't a fake TV show.I hope.People have their doubts because Hollywood and advertisement companies been known to pull stunts. Like you said being NT is an act for you and it takes energy. People can sense it's an act.It makes them uncomfortable.Maybe.
I dont know maybe I feel a bit fifty fifty, but then again Maybe it could be possible that you do have aspergers I dont know? Anyway its none of my business and I wish you luck in the future with your videos.
I have all the answers you crave. I don't want to dissect it all here, with the character limitations imposed on me, the publicity and all, so if you want a meaningful conversation I kindly ask you to pm me. I won't turn you down. I'm in a happy relationship so you can rest assured I won't be hitting on you either! No mind games, I will be completely honest and expect the same in return. By the way good call staying away from chemer et al, him and his associates are some fucked up people.
OK, "American" Hahaha, so true. I really do not care about pronunciation (unless it's to rid the world of that aweful "ass burgers" joke which I gets taken...rid...of) You are a video blogger too, I've started my own personal video blog and it'd mean a whole lot to me if you watched it.
Yea, but she was also modelling before and that habituates you to have a certain poise/manner. I had a gf who was attractive and could turn on this charisma beaming thing almost at will if she wasn't tired but she was also fabulously, secretly torqued and whacky at the same time....
I'm a woman with AS and I get people saying things like that alot. Then if I do something aspie I get attacked again for being weird. Go figure. That just ignorant human beings that can't understand things or people that are not exactly like them :D
My Favorite line is from Monty Python - the life of Brian where he says you have to learn to think for yourselves, you're all individuals, You're all different and a guy at the back says "I'm not" and they all sush him :) hee hee.
I think people get angry because 1. They expect you to behave like the lady in this video if you are on the autisic spectrum. In My Language by silentmiaow
2. Some people just enjoy being trolls
3. Women with AS seem to be better at acting "normal" and if people can't see you behaving "Odd" they are to stupid to understand that you can have AS and seem totally normal. :)
@twirlingchair She IS an aspie , no doubt there. I agree with her .Why would anyone want to pretend to be an aspie? Heck, When I found out I had aspergers, I think i cried for about 30 minutes. Having aspergers is what we are. Having aspergers is not winning the championship....even if it allows us to get high IQs and do very special/amazing things.......I doubt anyone would want to pretend they have aspergers. being an aspie is lonely/ difficult. in nt world.
Idk but I really enjoy reading all the comments on your vids lolz also, as I said before, I do believe you are genuine about the majority of what you say but at the same time perhaps just as the rest of the female population...you crave the attention! :D even if it is undesired. I'll let you in on a little secret.. Guys like attention too. Oh it's true! tho most would refute that and beg to differ. I like your opinions about stuff and ya, you look a hella good too.
You need to chill out and stop dignifying comments from ignoramuses who practice medicine without a license. If they can't see anything wrong with you, take it as a compliment.
I'm really surprised that people would accuse you of faking AS because you're too "normal." A lot of aspies, myself included, have gone out of their way to live functional lives and can mask our AS in different ways. I figure this is why so many aspies go undiagnosed for such a long period of time. I find it ironic that being able to dismiss your AS because you appear to think like most people, and therefore must be, is usually the thinking process of oblivious neurotypical folks.
also I don't understand why people would think we would pretend to be an aspie. This is something you don't want to have. It can cause a lot of attention, specifically negative attention in your life. Why would anyone want that? I just think that most NTs want conformity. They want us to pretend to be like them. This is something that people have to except. We are part of a new evolution of people and it is not something we should hide, it should be embraced.
Hello, I enjoy all your video's. I am also an aspie. I have been diagnosed for about 5 years now. I can tell that you are an aspie, there is no question, but the problem with this disorder is that it's an invisible disability. The fact of the matter is that if you were to meet me, it would never come across your mind that I was diagnosed. This is the difficulty of the disorder and it can cause a lot of confusion for obvious reasons.
I have spent the better portion of the last 15 years of my life acting "normal." It has gotten to the point that when I explain to someone that I have this "disorder" that they will almost outright call me a liar. To answer your question people, especially NT's, assume that anyone who is altruistic in nature must be a liar. I have studied human interactions and consider myself a bit of an expert. If you want to meet a truly honest person meet an Aspie.
you are being accussed of being charming.. personally i find your "shyness" very compelling and charming (i would even say sexy, but that would be sooo inappropiateee)
People probably don't believe you're an Aspie because you're "too normal" because they've never seen you being an Aspie (I recognize enough from your videos to believe you) and thus consider you as just being an attention seeker.
My personal impression is also that people nowadays cannot cope with the fact that somebody provides help to people they don't know for the sole purpose of helping, without expecting anything in return. Unselfishness gets punished. Sadly enough.
Also, these soft symptom spectrum disorders like "asperger" can allow for societal/parental abuse/trauma to be masked as inherent in the child and not having at all to do with parents or society while still selling books, charging fees for diagnosis/therapies and writing prescriptions. If you catch my drift. No one's going to like this comment, I bet.
@TheSchemer1 Way back when, he made some comments that made me not want to hear any more from him, so, as with anyone else who continuously says rude things on my comment pages (to me or anyone else), I blocked him. He has been unblocked for quite some time, and I'm sure none of us have an issue with the other.
I don't know what the feud is.. Don't think there ever was one. I just didn't particularly like him, on the basis of some comments he posted.
theres a certain comfort to be found in a label, be it aspergers syndrome or some other recognized (and socially acceptable) condition; just admitting one is different from most people can be a very lonely place; at least under the guise of a label one can feel a little less naked when accused of being weird, an outlier; its a shield of sorts; what kind of sillyness is reducing someone to a set of symptoms anyways?
you seem to be a fairly awesome person, how about that label: awesome syndrome;
Don't look for reason. I doubt there IS any. Some seem to doubt me, as they want me to follow THEIR expectations. SOME seem to doubt me because they don't want to think I do ANYTHING better than they do, though they and I admit that THEY are better in some things. Who knows? I STILL see NO real logic. I have looked at it for about 40 years and STILL can't understand it.
BTW your accent sounds American. In response to another video you made, you DON'T sound boring!
Attwood does say that females are more creative-clever in masking the "symptoms." Dissolving seamlessly into the texture-rhythm that makes up everyday interaction...What IS normal anyway...once you get to know someone...C'mon ! That doc, "I Fear Normal People (?)"
Maybe it's hard to believe your an aspie is because most of your viewers are men and have never witnessed a female aspie, who could have better social skills than men..... I don't know if it's possible, to tell just by watching your videos, but you are weird acting and your vocabulary is spotty at best and very literal, so chances are you probably are.....
you are an aspie, i much like many of us im sure have studied people my entire life and altho very subtle i can see the traits in you, your body language for instance, the frequent pauses to gather the correct wording to convey your message, and how you kind of over explain some things. on the other hand though i can see why someone with a more severe condition would think you are nt, we see things in black and white most of the time, and you seem to be in the grey area
Id say the reason why people dont think your aspie is because you come across as very NT in your videos. Cause you articulate yourself very well and show good body language. Most aspies cant do that, we'd talk to the camera in monotone with little body language. I saw your other video on how you "act" NT. Im asking do you put on the NT act in your videos? If I met you on the st, I dont think I would think aspergers in a million yrs.
@lindseywong919 I don´t feel like I put on an act. I´ve spent so long learning to adjust my behavior, and understanding why people do things, that this is natural to me now.. until I run out of energy, at which point I´m back to not being able to cope with any social behavior at all, can´t carry a conversation, have any eye contact (even with a camera) or express my emotions in a reasonable way. So it feels natural to act NT most of the time, but there are times when I can´t even if I try.
@TheAnMish I can see CLEARLY you have ASPERGERS.......most definitely! "normal" people have no idea! I think you have done a wonderful job posting these videos, I couldn't do it! You are very brave...... keep up the good work, you have helped me a lot, and because of you I'm able to help my kids with the same isues. The world needs more people like you in it! Thank you.
@TheAnMish one thing I have noticed (mind you I have only watched a few of your clips so far) is that when you think you look away, which to me is a dead give away that you are an aspie, I know I do the same thing all the time, sometimes I do it while mid sentence. And I can't believe how well you have perfected the NT body language, I can only hope to match that really (I have even had shrinks trying to teach it to me)
@sdeawsa I look away when I am thinking. I also close my eyes sometimes when I am speaking in public. It can annoy some people, but I cannot think about very significant things and look at people at the same time. And I cannot look at people when they say "Hello". I just look down and quickly mutter a reply.
@himbo754 I can totally understand that. Putting together the best possible sentence to express what I'm trying to say and playing the facial expression interpretation game are two different activities that each require my full concentration.
@lindseywong919 Most people be it those with Asperger at different levels autism, ADHD, ADD, what ever have learned to over the years as the get older to mask it with NT like behaviour. The NT is the act. If you were to see us in are homes or around family or those really close to us we act like are selves. Now if someone has aspergers, autism, ADHD, etc really really bad then no for them they would not be able to put on the NT act.
@lindseywong919 The problem is you have watched waaaaaay to many hollywood movies and let them make you think that people with aspergers, or autism, or ADHD, etc all act like Rain Man. I'm sorry but that is just a movie. I have Dyslexia, and half ADD half aspergers. You would not know it though because after 30 years I have learned to mask it. But like AnMish at some put I run out of energy and many of us with the problems run out of energy. Once we do you don't want to see us.
I hope you upload a lot of videos and i hope to find you on facebook because your videos helped me a lot and i dens them to others as well and i use them for my facebook group as well. you help many people- most of the people whom you help dont post a comment- so please keep on postin and deactivate the part where people are allowed to post comments. those who understand you understand you in silence. dont stop please, you are great.
@lindseywong919 Taking off the Nt mask is not that easy -many of us aspies grew up wearing the mask daily so we could function, not a matter of being NT on street and full aspie at home , for many of us it ends up being a blended external fascade, ALL THE TIME. but only on inside an aspie . I love my aspie part - but i only show that to my siblings. Like many aspies, everyone else is only allowed to see my blended fascade. Maja- your the best! you go girl :)
I love what you said........"Don't yell at me over text cuz, it's just weird!" lol I don't think you should give these people attention who question you. Most of the people in my family don't want to accept the fact my daughter is an Aspie, but as long as you know who you are, who cares what they think! Just know that you are helping a lot of parents out there who get on your channel to learn more about their children's behavior and way of thinking. Everyone is different, but yet the same!
I think this video is very typically Aspie in itself. Most people wouldn't give the amount of thought to this that you clearly have and that isn't a bad thing, its an Aspie thing.
Your open mindedness combined with your deeply analytic Aspergers wiring and perhaps a bit of self doubt, is making you over analyze the possibility that you are in fact having ill intentions with your video.
I think as aspies we natrually speak the truth and accept that others do as well. So its hard for us to interpret lies from NT's trying to bring us down.
I do not think you are pretending. If people think, it might be because you are attractive and I am sure you work on it. Make a few videos when you get out of bed and no make up and I have a feeling most of them would be less suspicious? :-)
I feel that your Asperger focus is Aspergers itself. To relate, i took one of those Facebook tests where they try to determine if i was Aspergie. I am according to the test. But then for the fun of it I took it again and tried to "ace" the test. I was confident i could. And i in fact did. (45 points?) So like with my knowledge being able to test more [ultimately] asperger than i am. Certainly the reverse could be accomplished. And not necessarily consciously. You're a fine Asperger either way.
I highly doubt you arean't faking your "aspieness". Seriously, you could pick like.....some attentiony disorder other than AS.
I have AS as well so I can relate sorta to the things that you say. I have only one thing that I am disagreeing with you on, and that is how you pronunciate AS I'm pretty sure it's "Asperger's" not "Asperjer's" (pronunciation wise). But maybe it's a spelling thing, eh? haha. Yeah.
Coolness aspects? There's soooo many that I love being an aspie.
@theshawngorton No matter how I pronounce it, some people don't like it, so.. rather than listen to the silly jokes that come along with pronouncing the g correctly, I've decided to stick with an "american" pronounciation.
I think you are aspie, because you dont seem like a European, but are European. You take things literally, and thus cant understand how to be a European properly.
Ok. I am an OFFICIALLY diagnosed Aspie... days and DAYS of testing.
I haven't viewed all of your videos, but have watched many of them. I COMPLETELY understand your question. Are you a faker? I simply don't know. Much of what you say is very "aspie". However, your mannerisms are definitely NOT apergerian. Why? Probably a combo of many things.
I personally do NOT come across to NT people as an Aspie. The reasons are many, but the main two are: (continued next post)
1. I developed a LOT of coping skills to make it through this world. Many of them involve "appearing" to behave more "normally".
2. Autism and Aspergers = fall across a SPECTRUM of symptoms, and MOST importantly varying degrees of SEVERITY. For the most part, I believe that I fall on the least severe end of the spectrum.
So, are you faking? Maybe. A little critical thinking, like you tried to get your viewers to engage in... will show that it is MOSTLY pointless (continued)
Another factor. You are an attractive woman. Preconceived notions of us lead most NTs to see aspies as more "geeky" or "nerdy" looking... definitely NOT fashionable. However couldn't even that be an obsessive interest?
Anyway... there are a TON of reasons to SUSPECT you don't have it. My standard aspie response:
"Who gives a shit what they think. The truth is the truth, irrespective of their OPINION."
@markietube I know that you think that you are more evolved than other aspies, but I just wanted to leave people with one little tip. DON'T CAPITALIZE for emphasis! NTs hate it & misconstrue it for arrogance or whatever. Sorry, I learned this the hard way & actually didn't realize it for years until I noticed that I got so many people being defensive when I went overboard with whole emphasizing thing. Later I realized that it was easy enough to stop doing it to not offend people.
@TheAnMish Really?! I'm easily triggered, but stoic. I also laugh at inappropriate times, and cry over the most pathetic things--that's just me, I guess. Anyway, I really appreciate your videos and you just happen to be gorgeous :p
@krstcmjns I cry a lot too.. but with this I just find it funny. I think, making this video, I was also really trying to be respectful about my question (while, as I said, trying not to laugh), which I guess can make me seem like I'm upset. Oh well...
Well, pretending is fun to do when you're bored. At least it is for me. Heh. I think the main problem people have with you ( especially other people with AS ) is that you have a lot of things going for you even though you have AS. Mainly the fact that you're attractive and talented. That's had to have helped you in dealing with others even though you have AS. I think the people who struggle with having AS and none of your advantages just get jealous when they watch your vids. I'm just sayin tho.
the thing with people is that whatever you say, you are allways going to meet people who belive what you are saying are Bullshit and trying to correct you, even if you are right.. =).. And with your channel you are multiplying the amount of people that hear you by the thousends. Thus you are going to "meet" much more people that think what they know is right and what you know is wrong... its just mathematics... =).. great vids... keep making them... =)
one more comment, just to say that i am learning a lot as i get further into this and i have found your videos great and very beneficial for exploring my own issues, so i just want to say thanks for that :)
btw i am not diagnosed and am not sure yet if i will ever want to be (still not sure if it will be beneficial at all, other than perhaps explaining to a few people why i am the way i am...and not sure if i even care about that). but i have a lot of the traits of aspergers i think. i'm an awkward confused social retard 70% of the time, an okay faker of being normal about 20% of the time and and a kind-hearted, loving weirdo 10% (which is only really shown to a few people i am close with).
you seem quite genuine to me and i usually have a knack for seeing fakeness in people (or i think i do....but i can also be pretty naive...but often that is when i am ignoring my internal emotions in an attempt to be normal or caring). what struck me here was the way that you got emotional/almost teary (i hope you don't mind me saying pointing that out, i'm sorry if so)...it reminded me of myself when i get upset/confused about something and am trying to express myself w/out freaking out.
you make Asperger's videos to help and support people who have the same kind of social differences. and make people with Asperger's aware that what ever happens you,ll be here to listen and understand us. During my 19 years of being an aspie i,ve gained the ability to Recognize my own kind. i know your an aspie because your honest,emotional,cleaver,understanding and random like most Aspies. It was your channel that inspired me to make my own videos about Asperger syndrome
You have a great goal! I believe you have it. There are enough wacky's on this world. Of coure it can not be seen all the time. You' re nice i do not have it but have autism like syndrome's,. Its nice to look at this somethime. You see i did not cancel you. Because i like the video's on this subject. Dislike the others subject. I just dont watch them any more. Great weekend and beautyfull and long dreams.
As an aspie myself, I can tell you all for sure she's not faking it. Just take a few minutes to look at her mannerisms. Her default mode is to avoid eye contact, and that includes camera lenses. Certainly we can overcome that to some degree, but not a hundred percent.
You do these videos and pretend to be an aspie because (like many other girls) you desperately seek attention in any possible way. And try to get as much of it as you can. Some girls post pictures of themselves in panties or bikini, others are known as "drama queens", in this case you'd be the later.
And/Or it is to boost your musical career, by creating more followers, admirers and suscribers to your channel.
Just to be clear, I'm not saying you are a fake, I believe you.
Its because you are talkative in these videos and you come off being somewhat confident that people assume that you cant possibly be an aspie. People also assume that because these videos are viral and so many people see them.. that making the videos wouldn't be something that a typical aspie would do, even though being in front of a camera by yourself is 10 times easier for some aspies than being around people themselves (cameras arent as confusing as human interaction).
My brother has Asperger's Syndrome and his symptoms are a lot more severe than yours. If you have it, then I even have it! I'm 20 times 'weirder' than you and proud of it! ;) You are very beautiful, clear thinking, make perfect eye contact, and you don't speak in a mono tone...again, I realize there's a spectrum, but hat's my sweet, honest explanation. The only symptom you have is extreme self absorption, lol. Just remember, everyone has awkward feelings, insecurities, and anxiety in school. :)
mirandarichards75 1 hour ago
Purpose of your channel? To be arrogant and an yet another youtube attention whore.
Arrogance seems to be the defining trait of what makes one an aspie on youtube. You have no traits of it whatsoever.
You could define yourself as just being left handed. They're about as different.
bigmack0033 7 hours ago
@bigmack0033 shes too dahm gorgeous to have to claim false shit for attention, here or on youtube, dumbass
TheFoxandTheRabbit 4 hours ago
@TheAnMish I feel you are over thinking this. Some people are just idiots. These are the same personality types that bullied you as a child. I suggest you ignore it, after all every drop of energy you spend on this issue is that much energy you won't have for your music.
Best Wishes.
nigelrhodes 1 day ago
Thank you, TheAnMish, for sharing parts of your self with me and the world. I hope I didn't cause you any distress by pointing out aspects of your self-description that would not fit with my assumptions about Aspies in general. You have a highly analytical mind, which most definitely fits the Aspergers profile. You also come across as quite charming and emotionally expressive, which probably surprises many people who do not expect that from an Aspie.
JenFindling 6 days ago
@JenFindling She's a woman; even as an Aspie,that will work in her favor. Male Aspies aren't typically like that.
In fact, I think you've identified precisely the issue that causes confusion and frustration among female Aspies, and which prompts people like TheAnMish and the other posters like her to create these informative and often quite intimate channels.
NT males aren't particularly emotionally analytical in the first place, so males Aspies aren't questioned in that regard.
opijules 6 days ago
Oh, and charming? Even at twice her age, I think she's positively, breathtakingly dreamy :-)
Which is to say, ahem, that, um... er, what was I going to say again? Ah yes, it was that in Aspies, male and female alike, it's not the emotions that are missing, so much as the ability to detect and identify the complex ones, especially when expressed by others. Even NTs can have trouble with clear identification of emotions: Daniel Gilbert wrote about that in "Stumbling on Happiness".
opijules 6 days ago
@opijules Breathtaking, indeed! Ha.
JenFindling 5 days ago
@JenFindling Oh, it was just a comical opportunity to send somebody a compliment and to "celebrate" my own "maturity split". She doesn't need me to validate her.
opijules 5 days ago
@opijules Ummm... emotions... missing? We feel as intensely as any NT, and as completely and deeply. Our inability to express it with the same manifestations as NT does not mean they are missing from any of us.
feralucce 3 days ago
@feralucce Exactly. My sentence using the words "emotions" and "missing" was :'it's not the emotions that are missing, so much as the ability to detect and identify the complex ones, especially when expressed by others."
I believe are in violent agreement :-)
opijules 2 days ago
@opijules I mean to write "I believe We're in violent agreement". I shouldn't try to write intelligently at 3:45 AM.
opijules 2 days ago
@opijules I am sorry... I COMPLETELY misread that.
feralucce 2 days ago
@feralucce You see, this is what I love about the people here. You're another one of those wonderful people who make the world a better place. The simple act of saying "oops!" and "I'm sorry" costs nothing, and it makes us all look better.
Kudos to you, Feralucce, I salute you.
opijules 2 days ago
@opijules:I'm a guy Aspie myself
INDLIS 4 days ago
@INDLIS You're in good company here :-)
opijules 2 days ago
The fact that you write poetry also doesn't quite fit with the typical Aspie profile, because poetry requires an ease with metaphor that "most Aspie's" don't possess. The typical (or stereotypical?) Aspie doesn't 'get' poetry at all, even when it is explained in detail. Creativity of the intuitive kind is not a hallmark of Aspie's, in general. So...maybe people who see themselves as having Asperger's...see you as different from them...and feel that you are spreading misinformation? Peace.
JenFindling 1 week ago
@JenFindling Your assertion that "creativity of the intuitive kind is not a hallmark of Aspies" is misinformed. My son is an Aspie and is in college for creative writing. My career in engineering is well punctuated with elements of intuitive creativity. Aspies have trouble with human communication, but intuition - association of existing abstract knowledge toward a synthesis of new concepts - is something we're actually particularly good at.
opijules 1 week ago
@opijules Thank you for responding to my comments. I am just fascinated by human behavior, learning about myself and others. There is a particular kind of creativity that tends to be associated with Aspies, usually the scientific, technical sort of creativity that is often not acknowledged as creativity in the mainstream. I agree that engineering, say, requires a great deal of creativity and intuitive ability. There is an equal and opposite form of creativity at the other end of the spectrum
JenFindling 6 days ago
@opijules that has nothing to do with scientific thought but everything to do with interpersonal communication and intuition/metaphor as it relates to human interactions. So...the type of creative writing that a person engages in would be interesting to explore in relation to diagnostic categories. Someone whose creative writing is primarily related to abstract ideas or technical/scientific concepts would be more likely on the Aspie side of the spectrum...
JenFindling 6 days ago
@opijules whereas someone whose creative writing is primarily related to relationships and the 'human condition' might be on the opposite end of the spectrum. There is not a name for this other form of exceptionality, as far as I know. Perhaps the closest thing to describe it would be Elaine Aaron's term, "The Highly Sensitive Person" (book of the same title). Maybe I could find some excerpts of literature on either side of the spectrum to illustrate the differences...
JenFindling 6 days ago
@JenFindling OK, but I don't see it that way. I don't see that the subject matter itself determines a spectrum (a word usually used to describe or approximate the disabling severity of autism). The issue with AS is not the topic of creativity but the ability to understand the non-logical component of emotional communication. Once the actual emotion is identified, Aspies can understand and empathize as well as anybody.
opijules 6 days ago
@opijules What I'm curious about is how the ASD mind differs from the neuro-typical mind as it relates to creative expression. Could we read an author's collection of short-stories, for instance, and make an informed guess about whether or not that person was on the Autism spectrum? The "non-logical component of emotional communication" shows up in creative endeavors so frequently that it seems as though ASD's should be reflected in the products of those endeavors.
JenFindling 6 days ago
@opijules Agreed, Aspies can understand and empathize as well as anybody once the emotions are identified.
JenFindling 6 days ago
@JenFindling I'm sorry, but I disagree again :-( Many (most?) Aspies can understand Of metaphor ! Of course we get poetry! Where do you get all that from??
Thanks for the fascinating conversation, but I really don't think you understand what AS. I honestly don't mean to offend or criticize !
opijules 6 days ago
@opijules I've heard many people with Autism described as taking comments literally when the comments were intended metaphorically. For instance, "your ears are on fire" might be interpreted as a true statement for someone with Autism. I have known Aspies who say that they don't 'get' poetry. This is just the view from my little corner of the world ~ I'm not easily offended. It IS fascinating conversation...you've had me thinking about this stuff all day!
JenFindling 6 days ago
@JenFindling The "ears on fire" issue is very valid, but if I may, I would suggest that that the problem occurs primarily in verbal communication, where the context tends to be transient and dynamic. In written form, most (but certainly not all!) Aspies can handle it. But I agree with your point. Good to discuss this with you, it's so refreshing to have intelligent, respectful conversation in this type of venue :-)
opijules 6 days ago
I wondered if you might have been misdiagnosed with Asperger's...not any deceptive intent on your part, just a simple misdiagnosis. I would have guessed that you have ADD and social anxiety disorder. The creativity and ability to hyper-focus would fit with an ADD diagnosis, and the social phobia would explain your early recollections of feeling overwhelmed by peers, more comfortable with adults, averse to small-talk, etc. Your'e also clearly gifted, which contributes sensitivity and intensity
JenFindling 1 week ago
@JenFindling Could you explain to me how Attention Deficit Disorder supports hyper-focus? I would have thought the opposite would be true. And I don't think she mentioned "phobia". I don't think there's fear there: discomfort maybe, but not fear. Why are you trying so hard to disallow TheAnMish's diagnosis? I'm looking for your motivation here.
opijules 1 week ago
@opijules I really am not trying to disallow TheAnMish's diagnosis. I am interested in the subject of Asperger's because my son has Autism and his father is likely Aspie. I am fascinated by these conceptual categories and human behavior in general. I see myself as being on the opposite end of the spectrum of most Aspies, but I am personally drawn to Aspies because of their honesty, intelligence, creativity, etc. If I were the type of person to wear slogan-y t-shirts, "I heart geeks" would fit
JenFindling 6 days ago
@JenFindling Could you explain what you mean by opposite end? If AS is almost the same as "high functioning autism", wouldn't opposite end mean low? Try to understand you properly, 'cos the discussion is really interesting :-)
opijules 6 days ago
@opijules It is a bit challenging to have a discussion like this in disjointed chunks of text that are 500 characters or less. When I mentioned the "opposite end" of the spectrum, I meant those who are gifted in the ability to understand "the Non-Logical Component of Emotional Communication" (to borrow your phrase). If there is a range of ability on this N-LCEC, then people with severe Autism would be at the lower end of this ranger, Aspies would be just above them, then neurotypicals, then ??
JenFindling 6 days ago
@JenFindling It is. Ah, I understand your spectrum. At the top end? We need a term like "super-sensors", don't we?! Gifted, as you say above, in the area of emotional atunement. I think we call those "poets" in the wild ;-)
opijules 6 days ago
@JenFindling I think my comment here was vague, in the interest of humility. I see myself as gifted in the area of emotional attunement. I hear the emotional subtext of every conversation before I can process the content of the words. Art, poetry, music, dance, etc. all have a very immediate emotional impact for me. I find myself serving as 'interpreter' in some sense for my Aspie friends. I think I'm drawn to Aspies because I was always terribly shy and Aspies seemed safe to me.
JenFindling 6 days ago
@JenFindling Sounds like a wonderful match :-)
opijules 6 days ago
You're a woman, you're young and attractive, therefore, everything you say gets extra scrutiny and criticism because women who have opinions and are well spoken make enough (str8) men uncomfortable in a patriarchal world. I think there'd be far fewer accusations if you were a man making these videos.This strikes me as boringly predictable systemic sexism trend stuff. You'd get the same critiques if you were talking about depression or the loss of a loved one, anything that might invoke sympathy.
VibrancySF 2 weeks ago
The best proof that you aren't a faker is the fact that people think you are!! If you were pretending to be an Aspie, you would probably do all the things people WOULD expect of an Aspie in order to be convincing. That is, if you studied Asperger's and were trying to convince others you had it, your performance probably would meet everyone's expectations. It just doesn't seem like you're trying to convince anyone of anything, which ironically is why some of these morons aren't convinced. (ha ha)
alumbo 2 weeks ago
I posted a response video. It explains how I think the people who question your legitimacy are seeking attention.
learning2journey 3 weeks ago
I'm an Aspie, I'm 28, female and I have this issue too. I've managed to disguise most of the telltale signs I showed as a child and teenager and as a result some people seem to find it hard to believe I am 'for real', which is ridiculous because Aspies are often very good at systematising and pattern recognition and it's totally possible to acquire normal seeming behaviour and social skills up to a point by analysing that of others without AS. But you're still the same inside..
n31348 1 month ago
@Cuandoeranino look u may had ur ups and downs but when u think u can conpear that an AS mind u r shit ok u have no idea and you have no right to say
ghosts2kewl 1 month ago
Once you find a answer, tell it to me! Because i don't understand why people say things like that either...
HalfRaccoonScientist 1 month ago
... about their own frustrations on others who seem to be doing well. Or something. I like you, and your pretty, and I'm happy for you that you seem to be able to be quite well-recieved (I receive you well, that's where I get that hypothesis) socially. I feel like being an Aspie won't keep you from finding connection (though I don't know you, and I'm sorry if I'm acting like I do- I just feel like I get a lot from watching people), and that would be cool haha. Sending goodness to you
cuandoeranino 1 month ago
First of all, I believe you that you're an Aspie. I see a certain struggle in you that I find endearing, I guess because I can relate to it, even though I'm not an Aspie.
I think you do seem pretty "normal", and I can sort of see where people might think you're faking- not to condone the hurtful things they may say- and I think that's just about them being angry, to put it simply, that you seem to be doing so well with your problem, and other people, Aspie or no, I'm sure take out anger...
cuandoeranino 1 month ago
I don't understand why someone would say that you're not an aspie. It's clear to me.
truthville33 1 month ago
Are other people's opinions of you important to you? I tend to think that those people who judge you are not actually defining who you are but rather are merely defining themselves as someone who needs to judge.
rotatingorb 1 month ago
I've watched a handful of your videos, and you're honest and you obviously understand the deepest feelings that go along with your experience and those of other Aspies and I 100% believe you when you say you are one. But from the subsection of your videos I've watched I can see where people are confused. In the videos you don't show any of the prototypically Aspie "ticks" and mannerisms, so my assumption is that your pattern of Asperger's issues is simply somewhat different than people expect.
Loudinidog 1 month ago
DEATH TO NEUROTYPICALS!!!
denniscoenen1975 1 month ago
@panda5061
Totally! I have all those same features. Earlobes attached to skin and all!! X D Full bottom lip, curved tiny upper lip. Also I have "blank eyes" : )
ndeminmantis 2 months ago
Ha, ha, ha ... you're so funny. I perfectly understand why you're raising this question, but what "normal" people don't understand is that most aspies and autistic people are incapable to pretend or to manipulate; we don't even understand the purpose of doing it. I guess you should be aware that manipulation and pretending is a very common behaviour in the "normal" population, and therefore it's normal that most people would assume you're faking.
LauraArendt 2 months ago
@LauraArendt nail on the head; I find that the most a normal person can understand of not putting on a show is putting on a show of not putting on a show. It's not just that it's intrinsic to neurotypical humans to lie and manipulate; we live in a culture that glorifies it under the title "social skills" I will also mention that my experience is that people who say these things are not denying my Asperger's as much as denying (in their deep wisdom) the edistence of Asperger's in general. Jerks
TOMHYLE88 2 months ago
To act or not to act NT. That is the question. How much and when should we act NT? Do we lose the best parts of our positive Aspie traits when we try to pretend to be NT all the time? This is not to even mention how draining it is on us mentally and physically.
aspietrait101 2 months ago
Forget "Them"! You are an aspie, it's very apparent! I am too, and am very animated : )
ndeminmantis 2 months ago
@ndeminmantis i agree with you!! -look at morphological changes.. our thin upper cupid bow lip w/a full lower lip, high palatal arch, our wider intercanthus legnth, our unique eyebrows, and our earlobes which are connected to our skin. many others, but with just a quick look , morphologically she has facial features of an ASPIE. So in my mind she LOOKS like an aspie and TALKS/ACTS like an aspie . SHE IS AN ASPIE! how much more proof do those people/trolls need? Thanks AnMish for your help.
panda5061 2 months ago
I completly believe you have the aspergersyndrom. I have it and I dont speak the way people expect aspergers to speak or behave aswell. I even have amplified facial expression because all my life I tried so hard to fit it appear normal.
johmarie7 2 months ago
I'm pretending not to troll you right now so I wont be blocked from your channel.
g0dh4x 2 months ago
I've heard some people claim that there are a bunch of people out there who claim to have Asperger's syndrome to get sympathy or so that they can be anti-social and not get criticized for it. If such people do exist, I hate their guts because they give unneeded legitimacy to people who think that Asperger's syndrome is just lazy people whining about shit.
yerk3 2 months ago
Sorry to hear what you went thru there. I think it's rude that there's people out there who say that you or anyone else who goes thru doesn't have Asperger's Syndrome.
jweinrub 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I have Spina bifida and because I'm not wheelchair-bound and can walk around almost normally I often get the "No way!" reaction from people whenever they find out about my condition. I think it's just a matter of people building their own image of what a person with a certain condition/diagnosis is supposed to look like and behave. It's usually an image built on, let's face it, ignorance, and yet if you don't conform to it you're met with disbelief. People are weird.
Kalevala87 2 months ago
Honestly, I think people think you aren't really aspergic/mentally retarded because you're good looking. Why must people always think good looking people are perfect? Seriously? We have our mental problems too just like the rest of the world!
Notebookwriter1 2 months ago
@Notebookwriter1 People with Asperger's Syndrome are not "mentally retarded" (intellectually disabled). They have average or gifted intelligence. There is at least one Nobel laureate who has Asperger's Syndrome (Vernon L Smith). The diagnostic criteria for Asperger's Syndrome state that a psychiatrist must not diagnose someone with Asperger's Syndrome if they are cognitively impaired. If people think that Asperger's means "mentally retarded" then they are very poorly informed.
himbo754 2 months ago
I love your bit about "picking one that is more attention grabbing" I am thought to have it by a psychologist... I am very sympathetic to your cause. I might have it I might not, I'm an objective jerk. lol. I ask the question myself, Is it possible to "fake" Asperger's anyway. I do not think its possible. How does one fake being highly intelligent? ;) Your fine love, most people are jealous idiots and you don't have to love the ones who could care less. If you still do, then do. Its your right.
skinspikes 2 months ago
One more thing came to my mind.
You ask, why people says to you that you are not aspie, so I ask you now, why you ask of those people why they say to you that you are not aspie cos if you were aspie, you wouldnt care of that so much.You have talked of this thing in so many of your videos,so you really seem to think this thing a lot.
As an aspie I dont think you would spend your time to think this thing SO much. You would think more that it is nice that people cant see that you are aspie.
:)
Silenzio1979 2 months ago
@Silenzio1979 That's an interesting perspective. I'll tell you the reason it bothers me, though. It's that the people who don't believe me, also don't believe all the other mild aspies.
Many don't understand that this is a spectrum, and that different problems come along with having the syndrome, depending on where on the spectrum you are.
Not believing me to be an aspie because I'm "well funtioning" is part of a much greater, widespread ignorance.
TheAnMish 2 months ago 11
@TheAnMish Indeed.
saiyanmage 2 months ago
@TheAnMish I'm told that Dyslexia is similar in this respect. Also, what is your scoure in the standard IQ test?
Myrtone 2 months ago
@Myrtone I don't know what my score is.. I probably went through the test at some point, but I don't remember, tbh. I also don't particularly care. I think I'm probably of around average intelligence when it comes to logical/mathematical intelligence (which of course, is all the standard IQ test measures).
TheAnMish 2 months ago
@TheAnMish
"It's that the people who don't believe me, also don't believe all the other mild aspies." Well, I dont get what youre trying to say? So you think that if someone says that you are not AS, he/she cant think that someone else is?
Silenzio1979 2 months ago
@Silenzio1979 Kind of, but I'm not sure if you're missing the point or not.
What I'm saying is.. if people can't see I'm an aspie in my videos, then they likely also can't see that a whole bunch of other mild aspies, are aspies. I never claim to be a severe case, because I'm not. And many others also aren't. But if people don't accept that it's a spectrum, and that some of us can seem normal some of the time, but aren't normal, then many don't get the help they need.
TheAnMish 2 months ago
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Silenzio1979 2 months ago
@TheAnMish I dont know if in that comment from you was some hiding meaning, but thats how my AS brain got your comment.
Well, I know what you mean when you say that your function is not allways same kind of. My functioning goes up and down all day long. I cant never be sure how I will function tomorrow or even after one hour. It is not something you can predict.
Silenzio1979 2 months ago
@Silenzio1979 No hidden meaning.
I've learnt to some extend to predict it, but if something happens that I didn't plan for.. well, you can probably imagine.
Luckily, over the last 10 years or so, I've become more and more stable in my every day life - now it's the long run that's difficult. I usually have a "breakdown" of sorts every few months. Hard to figure out how to deal with that...
TheAnMish 2 months ago
@TheAnMish I even had two cousins saying to me "I think I have Aspergers". They just have no clue about what AS is :) They think they have because they are a little bit shy sometimes. Just don't get upset or mad if no one understands you, it's like when no one understood that our planet is round. Only time can make them get it. A pity though...
johnnywengluu 2 months ago
@TheAnMish Excellent point. I get that a lot. My HR guy at work once said "I still don't see anything wrong with you". Ignoring the "wrong" bit, (we know how to respond to that) he had inadvertently complemented my NT simulation, yet had missed the fact that in talking to him about it I was doing what many Aspies , including TheAnMish in her videos here, and others do: continuously and almost obsessively analyzing, dissecting, discussing, and explaining the AS phenomenon to an NT !
opijules 2 days ago
@Silenzio1979, I was diagnosed with Asperger's, and I call tell you your statement is completely false. Asperger's people can definitely be aware of the reactions of others, know something is lacking in their social responses, and feel guilty and anxious as a result. Only those with severe autism are so unaware of the responses of others that they simply do not think about it.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak Moni ihminen on diagnosoitu aspergeriksi vaikkei ole sitä. Moni ihminen on myös jätetty diagnosoimatta aspergeriksi vaikka on sitä. Luulen että esim. jenkeissä saa diagnoosin hyvin helposti.
Silenzio1979 2 months ago
@Silenzio1979, I don't speak Danish. ;p
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak Neither do I.
Silenzio1979 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak I think that was finnish.
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Silenzio1979 2 months ago
Well, I dont think you have AS/that you are autistic, because you can so easily put your self as thinking the way NT:s do and you just look just like NT.
If you were aspie, it would be much harder to you.
I think that you maybe have OCD and you just want so much have AS.
Silenzio1979 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
come to kansas and we'll get married
W1F3B34T3R 3 months ago
Its very easy to say this but I think the reason is simply : People are stupid. They have a percieved way of thinking. They think they know how a person with asbergers is supposed to behave so when you arent doing whats according to their beliefs you must be an impostor. I guess you could say they are narrowminded. And its not your fault you are dealing so well with the dificulties of your syndrome.
kamileishon 3 months ago
Hey there,
I have also occasionally found myself being told I couldn't be autistic (when I am myself HF autistic). I think it comes first from the success of intervention programs (I was treated from an early age by counselors, speech therapists, etc.) and second possibly from fear or discomfort. That second one is not as easy to prove but perhaps there's a fear in some when they learn that the person next door who looks/acts normal really isn't.
kevinbreeman 3 months ago
Well.There was that lonelygirl Bree thing. And you do seem like you are acting. But seeing your transition from a year ago. That tells me this isn't a fake TV show.I hope.People have their doubts because Hollywood and advertisement companies been known to pull stunts. Like you said being NT is an act for you and it takes energy. People can sense it's an act.It makes them uncomfortable.Maybe.
MiniFrostGiant 3 months ago
ass burger
pspjerry 3 months ago
I dont know maybe I feel a bit fifty fifty, but then again Maybe it could be possible that you do have aspergers I dont know? Anyway its none of my business and I wish you luck in the future with your videos.
MrRobfullarton 3 months ago
I have all the answers you crave. I don't want to dissect it all here, with the character limitations imposed on me, the publicity and all, so if you want a meaningful conversation I kindly ask you to pm me. I won't turn you down. I'm in a happy relationship so you can rest assured I won't be hitting on you either! No mind games, I will be completely honest and expect the same in return. By the way good call staying away from chemer et al, him and his associates are some fucked up people.
CorneliusFractogram 4 months ago
I just read my original post.
Back @TheAnMish
OK, "American" Hahaha, so true. I really do not care about pronunciation (unless it's to rid the world of that aweful "ass burgers" joke which I gets taken...rid...of) You are a video blogger too, I've started my own personal video blog and it'd mean a whole lot to me if you watched it.
Back @asperger15
Yeah, my thoughts exactly, I wanna get rid of that horrid joke, plus I kinda misunderstood the asperjers point. I guess great minds think alike?
theshawngorton 4 months ago
Yea, but she was also modelling before and that habituates you to have a certain poise/manner. I had a gf who was attractive and could turn on this charisma beaming thing almost at will if she wasn't tired but she was also fabulously, secretly torqued and whacky at the same time....
pallid56 4 months ago
I'm a woman with AS and I get people saying things like that alot. Then if I do something aspie I get attacked again for being weird. Go figure. That just ignorant human beings that can't understand things or people that are not exactly like them :D
My Favorite line is from Monty Python - the life of Brian where he says you have to learn to think for yourselves, you're all individuals, You're all different and a guy at the back says "I'm not" and they all sush him :) hee hee.
MsDigitalMelody 4 months ago
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MsDigitalMelody 4 months ago
I think people get angry because 1. They expect you to behave like the lady in this video if you are on the autisic spectrum. In My Language by silentmiaow
2. Some people just enjoy being trolls
3. Women with AS seem to be better at acting "normal" and if people can't see you behaving "Odd" they are to stupid to understand that you can have AS and seem totally normal. :)
Great Videos by the way.
MsDigitalMelody 4 months ago
I notice throughout some of your videos some thunderous footsteping from the floor above. how do you cope with people that walk like elephants?
twirlingchair 4 months ago 8
@twirlingchair I play loud music back at them :D
Nah.. I've gotten used to it, really.. mostly I can ignore it.
TheAnMish 4 months ago
@twirlingchair She IS an aspie , no doubt there. I agree with her .Why would anyone want to pretend to be an aspie? Heck, When I found out I had aspergers, I think i cried for about 30 minutes. Having aspergers is what we are. Having aspergers is not winning the championship....even if it allows us to get high IQs and do very special/amazing things.......I doubt anyone would want to pretend they have aspergers. being an aspie is lonely/ difficult. in nt world.
panda5061 3 months ago
Idk but I really enjoy reading all the comments on your vids lolz also, as I said before, I do believe you are genuine about the majority of what you say but at the same time perhaps just as the rest of the female population...you crave the attention! :D even if it is undesired. I'll let you in on a little secret.. Guys like attention too. Oh it's true! tho most would refute that and beg to differ. I like your opinions about stuff and ya, you look a hella good too.
twirlingchair 4 months ago
You need to chill out and stop dignifying comments from ignoramuses who practice medicine without a license. If they can't see anything wrong with you, take it as a compliment.
SwineForkbeard 4 months ago
I'm really surprised that people would accuse you of faking AS because you're too "normal." A lot of aspies, myself included, have gone out of their way to live functional lives and can mask our AS in different ways. I figure this is why so many aspies go undiagnosed for such a long period of time. I find it ironic that being able to dismiss your AS because you appear to think like most people, and therefore must be, is usually the thinking process of oblivious neurotypical folks.
gerbilshavetoparty 4 months ago
also I don't understand why people would think we would pretend to be an aspie. This is something you don't want to have. It can cause a lot of attention, specifically negative attention in your life. Why would anyone want that? I just think that most NTs want conformity. They want us to pretend to be like them. This is something that people have to except. We are part of a new evolution of people and it is not something we should hide, it should be embraced.
axelvideoandfilm 4 months ago
Hello, I enjoy all your video's. I am also an aspie. I have been diagnosed for about 5 years now. I can tell that you are an aspie, there is no question, but the problem with this disorder is that it's an invisible disability. The fact of the matter is that if you were to meet me, it would never come across your mind that I was diagnosed. This is the difficulty of the disorder and it can cause a lot of confusion for obvious reasons.
axelvideoandfilm 4 months ago
I have spent the better portion of the last 15 years of my life acting "normal." It has gotten to the point that when I explain to someone that I have this "disorder" that they will almost outright call me a liar. To answer your question people, especially NT's, assume that anyone who is altruistic in nature must be a liar. I have studied human interactions and consider myself a bit of an expert. If you want to meet a truly honest person meet an Aspie.
kaoswithak 4 months ago
you are being accussed of being charming.. personally i find your "shyness" very compelling and charming (i would even say sexy, but that would be sooo inappropiateee)
P.S. don't sweat too much what others think;)
twi11ght 4 months ago
People probably don't believe you're an Aspie because you're "too normal" because they've never seen you being an Aspie (I recognize enough from your videos to believe you) and thus consider you as just being an attention seeker.
My personal impression is also that people nowadays cannot cope with the fact that somebody provides help to people they don't know for the sole purpose of helping, without expecting anything in return. Unselfishness gets punished. Sadly enough.
Champieke 4 months ago
Also, these soft symptom spectrum disorders like "asperger" can allow for societal/parental abuse/trauma to be masked as inherent in the child and not having at all to do with parents or society while still selling books, charging fees for diagnosis/therapies and writing prescriptions. If you catch my drift. No one's going to like this comment, I bet.
pallid56 4 months ago
Haters gunna hate.
joeprice07 4 months ago in playlist Videos from TheAnMish
If you dont mind me asking, is part of this what caused the fued between you and Aspergianstar2009? If you dont mind me asking...
TheSchemer1 4 months ago in playlist More videos from TheAnMish
@TheSchemer1 Way back when, he made some comments that made me not want to hear any more from him, so, as with anyone else who continuously says rude things on my comment pages (to me or anyone else), I blocked him. He has been unblocked for quite some time, and I'm sure none of us have an issue with the other.
I don't know what the feud is.. Don't think there ever was one. I just didn't particularly like him, on the basis of some comments he posted.
TheAnMish 4 months ago
@TheAnMish I think you are lying to get attention and mabie some man will feel sorry for you and give you money
Jimmyretired 4 months ago
@TheAnMish Aspergers isn't real. If there was a social development disorder, you wouldn't call it "Aspergers." That's just...that's just mean. :-)
psx2514 4 months ago
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1CONK1 4 months ago
@TheAnMish What's "Ass Burgers"? Is that a disease that causes hamburgers to grow out of your butthole? :-)
psx2514 4 months ago
theres a certain comfort to be found in a label, be it aspergers syndrome or some other recognized (and socially acceptable) condition; just admitting one is different from most people can be a very lonely place; at least under the guise of a label one can feel a little less naked when accused of being weird, an outlier; its a shield of sorts; what kind of sillyness is reducing someone to a set of symptoms anyways?
you seem to be a fairly awesome person, how about that label: awesome syndrome;
eyhexs 4 months ago
I have felt this way often, and I wish these people would be nicer. No reason for anger. Than you for thevideos
kc0eks 4 months ago
Don't look for reason. I doubt there IS any. Some seem to doubt me, as they want me to follow THEIR expectations. SOME seem to doubt me because they don't want to think I do ANYTHING better than they do, though they and I admit that THEY are better in some things. Who knows? I STILL see NO real logic. I have looked at it for about 40 years and STILL can't understand it.
BTW your accent sounds American. In response to another video you made, you DON'T sound boring!
ukkr 4 months ago
@ukkr One could only wish she sounded more Kiwi.
Myrtone 2 months ago
Attwood does say that females are more creative-clever in masking the "symptoms." Dissolving seamlessly into the texture-rhythm that makes up everyday interaction...What IS normal anyway...once you get to know someone...C'mon ! That doc, "I Fear Normal People (?)"
pallid56 4 months ago
Maybe it's hard to believe your an aspie is because most of your viewers are men and have never witnessed a female aspie, who could have better social skills than men..... I don't know if it's possible, to tell just by watching your videos, but you are weird acting and your vocabulary is spotty at best and very literal, so chances are you probably are.....
drakegod84 4 months ago
I have autistic spectrum and sorry but very little English + 3 liters of alcohol at this time
As for your question mmmmmmmmm
If I was pretending, what would be the purpose?
could be a psychopath who seeks victims weak to violate
challenge accepted.
Your address and country?
bye
slash24787 4 months ago
you are an aspie, i much like many of us im sure have studied people my entire life and altho very subtle i can see the traits in you, your body language for instance, the frequent pauses to gather the correct wording to convey your message, and how you kind of over explain some things. on the other hand though i can see why someone with a more severe condition would think you are nt, we see things in black and white most of the time, and you seem to be in the grey area
junkie2100 4 months ago
Sorry, didn't watch the vid, but am hoping your heart opens to Jesus. Hope life is going well with you.
klein1626 4 months ago
Id say the reason why people dont think your aspie is because you come across as very NT in your videos. Cause you articulate yourself very well and show good body language. Most aspies cant do that, we'd talk to the camera in monotone with little body language. I saw your other video on how you "act" NT. Im asking do you put on the NT act in your videos? If I met you on the st, I dont think I would think aspergers in a million yrs.
lindseywong919 4 months ago
@lindseywong919 I don´t feel like I put on an act. I´ve spent so long learning to adjust my behavior, and understanding why people do things, that this is natural to me now.. until I run out of energy, at which point I´m back to not being able to cope with any social behavior at all, can´t carry a conversation, have any eye contact (even with a camera) or express my emotions in a reasonable way. So it feels natural to act NT most of the time, but there are times when I can´t even if I try.
TheAnMish 4 months ago 3
@TheAnMish I can see CLEARLY you have ASPERGERS.......most definitely! "normal" people have no idea! I think you have done a wonderful job posting these videos, I couldn't do it! You are very brave...... keep up the good work, you have helped me a lot, and because of you I'm able to help my kids with the same isues. The world needs more people like you in it! Thank you.
justgetafix1 3 months ago
@TheAnMish one thing I have noticed (mind you I have only watched a few of your clips so far) is that when you think you look away, which to me is a dead give away that you are an aspie, I know I do the same thing all the time, sometimes I do it while mid sentence. And I can't believe how well you have perfected the NT body language, I can only hope to match that really (I have even had shrinks trying to teach it to me)
sdeawsa 3 months ago
@sdeawsa I look away when I am thinking. I also close my eyes sometimes when I am speaking in public. It can annoy some people, but I cannot think about very significant things and look at people at the same time. And I cannot look at people when they say "Hello". I just look down and quickly mutter a reply.
himbo754 2 months ago
@himbo754 I can totally understand that. Putting together the best possible sentence to express what I'm trying to say and playing the facial expression interpretation game are two different activities that each require my full concentration.
yerk3 2 months ago
@lindseywong919 Most people be it those with Asperger at different levels autism, ADHD, ADD, what ever have learned to over the years as the get older to mask it with NT like behaviour. The NT is the act. If you were to see us in are homes or around family or those really close to us we act like are selves. Now if someone has aspergers, autism, ADHD, etc really really bad then no for them they would not be able to put on the NT act.
Epica124 4 months ago
@lindseywong919 The problem is you have watched waaaaaay to many hollywood movies and let them make you think that people with aspergers, or autism, or ADHD, etc all act like Rain Man. I'm sorry but that is just a movie. I have Dyslexia, and half ADD half aspergers. You would not know it though because after 30 years I have learned to mask it. But like AnMish at some put I run out of energy and many of us with the problems run out of energy. Once we do you don't want to see us.
Epica124 4 months ago
DEAR THEANMISH,
I hope you upload a lot of videos and i hope to find you on facebook because your videos helped me a lot and i dens them to others as well and i use them for my facebook group as well. you help many people- most of the people whom you help dont post a comment- so please keep on postin and deactivate the part where people are allowed to post comments. those who understand you understand you in silence. dont stop please, you are great.
gustav864 4 months ago
@lindseywong919 Taking off the Nt mask is not that easy -many of us aspies grew up wearing the mask daily so we could function, not a matter of being NT on street and full aspie at home , for many of us it ends up being a blended external fascade, ALL THE TIME. but only on inside an aspie . I love my aspie part - but i only show that to my siblings. Like many aspies, everyone else is only allowed to see my blended fascade. Maja- your the best! you go girl :)
icebergelishious 3 months ago
I love what you said........"Don't yell at me over text cuz, it's just weird!" lol I don't think you should give these people attention who question you. Most of the people in my family don't want to accept the fact my daughter is an Aspie, but as long as you know who you are, who cares what they think! Just know that you are helping a lot of parents out there who get on your channel to learn more about their children's behavior and way of thinking. Everyone is different, but yet the same!
sandyandgregg 4 months ago
I think this video is very typically Aspie in itself. Most people wouldn't give the amount of thought to this that you clearly have and that isn't a bad thing, its an Aspie thing.
Your open mindedness combined with your deeply analytic Aspergers wiring and perhaps a bit of self doubt, is making you over analyze the possibility that you are in fact having ill intentions with your video.
Yivarn 4 months ago
@Yivarn
I think as aspies we natrually speak the truth and accept that others do as well. So its hard for us to interpret lies from NT's trying to bring us down.
Yivarn 4 months ago
WHATTT 1 dis likeee thats makes me sad :'(
zimdot1 4 months ago in playlist More videos from TheAnMish
I do not think you are pretending. If people think, it might be because you are attractive and I am sure you work on it. Make a few videos when you get out of bed and no make up and I have a feeling most of them would be less suspicious? :-)
blackcat1981 4 months ago
I feel that your Asperger focus is Aspergers itself. To relate, i took one of those Facebook tests where they try to determine if i was Aspergie. I am according to the test. But then for the fun of it I took it again and tried to "ace" the test. I was confident i could. And i in fact did. (45 points?) So like with my knowledge being able to test more [ultimately] asperger than i am. Certainly the reverse could be accomplished. And not necessarily consciously. You're a fine Asperger either way.
ClickBeetles 4 months ago
I highly doubt you arean't faking your "aspieness". Seriously, you could pick like.....some attentiony disorder other than AS.
I have AS as well so I can relate sorta to the things that you say. I have only one thing that I am disagreeing with you on, and that is how you pronunciate AS I'm pretty sure it's "Asperger's" not "Asperjer's" (pronunciation wise). But maybe it's a spelling thing, eh? haha. Yeah.
Coolness aspects? There's soooo many that I love being an aspie.
theshawngorton 4 months ago in playlist More videos from TheAnMish
@theshawngorton No matter how I pronounce it, some people don't like it, so.. rather than listen to the silly jokes that come along with pronouncing the g correctly, I've decided to stick with an "american" pronounciation.
TheAnMish 4 months ago
@theshawngorton i assumed people started using a j sound so there wouldn't be as much of the ass burgers jokes, bu hey, i could be wrong
asperger15 4 months ago 2
I think you are aspie, because you dont seem like a European, but are European. You take things literally, and thus cant understand how to be a European properly.
schlachthauz 4 months ago
Ok. I am an OFFICIALLY diagnosed Aspie... days and DAYS of testing.
I haven't viewed all of your videos, but have watched many of them. I COMPLETELY understand your question. Are you a faker? I simply don't know. Much of what you say is very "aspie". However, your mannerisms are definitely NOT apergerian. Why? Probably a combo of many things.
I personally do NOT come across to NT people as an Aspie. The reasons are many, but the main two are: (continued next post)
markietube 4 months ago
@markietube
1. I developed a LOT of coping skills to make it through this world. Many of them involve "appearing" to behave more "normally".
2. Autism and Aspergers = fall across a SPECTRUM of symptoms, and MOST importantly varying degrees of SEVERITY. For the most part, I believe that I fall on the least severe end of the spectrum.
So, are you faking? Maybe. A little critical thinking, like you tried to get your viewers to engage in... will show that it is MOSTLY pointless (continued)
markietube 4 months ago
@markietube
to pretend or fake aspiness.
Another factor. You are an attractive woman. Preconceived notions of us lead most NTs to see aspies as more "geeky" or "nerdy" looking... definitely NOT fashionable. However couldn't even that be an obsessive interest?
Anyway... there are a TON of reasons to SUSPECT you don't have it. My standard aspie response:
"Who gives a shit what they think. The truth is the truth, irrespective of their OPINION."
BTW... I'm a vocalist too.
Contact me sometime.
markietube 4 months ago
@markietube I know that you think that you are more evolved than other aspies, but I just wanted to leave people with one little tip. DON'T CAPITALIZE for emphasis! NTs hate it & misconstrue it for arrogance or whatever. Sorry, I learned this the hard way & actually didn't realize it for years until I noticed that I got so many people being defensive when I went overboard with whole emphasizing thing. Later I realized that it was easy enough to stop doing it to not offend people.
aspietrait101 2 months ago
You seem genuinely upset. Sorry. People are pathetic and easily provoked--I believe it's called jealousy :)
krstcmjns 4 months ago
@krstcmjns I seem upset? I was trying to supress laughter while filming this.. I find it truly amusing, although also confusing at the same time.
TheAnMish 4 months ago
@TheAnMish Really?! I'm easily triggered, but stoic. I also laugh at inappropriate times, and cry over the most pathetic things--that's just me, I guess. Anyway, I really appreciate your videos and you just happen to be gorgeous :p
krstcmjns 4 months ago
@krstcmjns I cry a lot too.. but with this I just find it funny. I think, making this video, I was also really trying to be respectful about my question (while, as I said, trying not to laugh), which I guess can make me seem like I'm upset. Oh well...
And thank you :)
TheAnMish 4 months ago
Lol. You are cute. You are definately an Aspie.
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3asung 4 months ago
Well, pretending is fun to do when you're bored. At least it is for me. Heh. I think the main problem people have with you ( especially other people with AS ) is that you have a lot of things going for you even though you have AS. Mainly the fact that you're attractive and talented. That's had to have helped you in dealing with others even though you have AS. I think the people who struggle with having AS and none of your advantages just get jealous when they watch your vids. I'm just sayin tho.
sylarwins 4 months ago
It took me a year to understand aspergers syndrome.
And it's true,...
And you are "beautiful"
jaylasen1 4 months ago
the thing with people is that whatever you say, you are allways going to meet people who belive what you are saying are Bullshit and trying to correct you, even if you are right.. =).. And with your channel you are multiplying the amount of people that hear you by the thousends. Thus you are going to "meet" much more people that think what they know is right and what you know is wrong... its just mathematics... =).. great vids... keep making them... =)
anchor83 4 months ago
one more comment, just to say that i am learning a lot as i get further into this and i have found your videos great and very beneficial for exploring my own issues, so i just want to say thanks for that :)
luxvoyager1111 4 months ago
btw i am not diagnosed and am not sure yet if i will ever want to be (still not sure if it will be beneficial at all, other than perhaps explaining to a few people why i am the way i am...and not sure if i even care about that). but i have a lot of the traits of aspergers i think. i'm an awkward confused social retard 70% of the time, an okay faker of being normal about 20% of the time and and a kind-hearted, loving weirdo 10% (which is only really shown to a few people i am close with).
luxvoyager1111 4 months ago
you seem quite genuine to me and i usually have a knack for seeing fakeness in people (or i think i do....but i can also be pretty naive...but often that is when i am ignoring my internal emotions in an attempt to be normal or caring). what struck me here was the way that you got emotional/almost teary (i hope you don't mind me saying pointing that out, i'm sorry if so)...it reminded me of myself when i get upset/confused about something and am trying to express myself w/out freaking out.
luxvoyager1111 4 months ago
The simple truth
you make Asperger's videos to help and support people who have the same kind of social differences. and make people with Asperger's aware that what ever happens you,ll be here to listen and understand us. During my 19 years of being an aspie i,ve gained the ability to Recognize my own kind. i know your an aspie because your honest,emotional,cleaver,understanding and random like most Aspies. It was your channel that inspired me to make my own videos about Asperger syndrome
william52905 4 months ago
You have a great goal! I believe you have it. There are enough wacky's on this world. Of coure it can not be seen all the time. You' re nice i do not have it but have autism like syndrome's,. Its nice to look at this somethime. You see i did not cancel you. Because i like the video's on this subject. Dislike the others subject. I just dont watch them any more. Great weekend and beautyfull and long dreams.
masterkey14 4 months ago
Also, Maja, don't worry about these fools. This is Youtube. The n00b to normal ratio is seriously out of whack.
Jerkwad152 4 months ago
As an aspie myself, I can tell you all for sure she's not faking it. Just take a few minutes to look at her mannerisms. Her default mode is to avoid eye contact, and that includes camera lenses. Certainly we can overcome that to some degree, but not a hundred percent.
Jerkwad152 4 months ago
Two possibilities:
You do these videos and pretend to be an aspie because (like many other girls) you desperately seek attention in any possible way. And try to get as much of it as you can. Some girls post pictures of themselves in panties or bikini, others are known as "drama queens", in this case you'd be the later.
And/Or it is to boost your musical career, by creating more followers, admirers and suscribers to your channel.
Just to be clear, I'm not saying you are a fake, I believe you.
bbbbbb222222 4 months ago
Its because you are talkative in these videos and you come off being somewhat confident that people assume that you cant possibly be an aspie. People also assume that because these videos are viral and so many people see them.. that making the videos wouldn't be something that a typical aspie would do, even though being in front of a camera by yourself is 10 times easier for some aspies than being around people themselves (cameras arent as confusing as human interaction).
scatterbrainedfish 4 months ago