That one doctor who kept saying there's something wrong with us was really annoying. I am not narrow-minded, I'm not unadventurous, I'm just not interested. I was never abused, I just don't care for sex.
I have a feeling she would say being LGBT is a choice.
I used to know someone who disliked chocolate cake 'headdesk' this whole thing is so typical from people who don't get it. Trying to justify stuff they don't understand by claiming it's a disorder... Oh humanity...
Alright, well, that woman is a "sex therapist." This means she's always been focused on helping people to have sex. Although she can claim asexuals are predisposed by something, it's really her who is predisposed to not believe asexuality is a possibility.
Dear Doctor who supports sex even if those involved do not want it, perhaps you should look into being not narrow-minded yourself. It seems to be something you're struggling with. :)
like...what if you really really like sex, but your really really crappy at it? Recent New Yorker cartoon, doctor tells patiant after exam, "Your healthy enough for sex, just not attractive enough for it." :-)
I want to punch that Dr. so hard her head fall off. I am asexual and I am not narrow minded. That speaker is. I don't think she knows what the fuck she is talking about. This video really pissed me off. Really really pissed me off. So I am asexual so I am not real?
@Laughtraxx You do know people can have and enjoy sex and still be asexual, right? Asexuals can still fap, have sex, and have fetishes. There are people who fall under asexuality, such as demisexuals or grey-As, who are caught somewhere between being sexual and asexual. The main factor behind sexual orientation is sexual attraction (NOT sexual behaviour) and who it's directed at, if anyone at all. The only person who has a right to speculate on your own orientation is yourself, not anyone else.
@sakurabaka Now this is gonna sound really stupid but I have to ask.....if you're asexual, what do you do? I mean how do you find happiness in life???
@teddybeartoe I still have relationships, I just don't have sex in them. I still cuddle, kiss, hold hands, joke around, love, have hobbies... lol. Why do you need any one thing in your life to be happy, anyways? For me, I find happiness in many different things. I just don't see sex as something I need to have with others. crazy concept?
@sakurabaka It is crazy...because sex is scientifically proven to be the best feeling in the world. It releases the most units of dopamine naturally in the body. Nothing comes close to it. Only meth tops the amount of pleasure released in sex. So for you to reject something so amazing...is very hard to understand.
@teddybeartoe I still do find sexual things to be pleasurable, I just do not have a drive in me that in any way reaches out or desires it. I don't inherently reject it, I just do not go and seek it out. Besides, personally, I would rather masturbate than have sex. Some asexuals DO have sex and DO enjoy it. being asexual just means there is a lack of sexual attraction to others. Asexuals do not look at people and see them as something that is sexually pleasurable.
@teddybeartoe Accomplishment, learning, flirting, cuddles, witty conversation/stories? Haha. I'm a very content person. I've had sex and good sex and mind-blowing sex, and I'm just as fine without it and without desiring it. :P It's not like you could throw "good sex" at me and "fix me" because that's not how it works.
@sakurabaka one word for you. Pornhub.com. After you see all these hot ass girls, you'll never be the same. ( Or if you're a girl type in big cocks or something. Then get like a massive, vibrating, dildo.) if you ain't cured in the morning after that, i got nothin.
@teddybeartoe lol. I've seen porn and I've been on that website before. I have a hitachi magic wand, too, and vibrators. HOWEVER. I have no desire to have sex with people because I am not sexually attracted to them, only romantically or intellectually attracted to people. :P Awesome orgasms or not, it has nothing to do with it. Attraction is something that is there or it isn't, and I have zero sexual attraction to men or women.
@asubjectiveopinion There actually is. There's a video of a sex therapist explaining asexuality the way it should be explained (mostly, it was little confusing at first) on an Australian morning show. The hosts were the immature ones though.
From what I see asexuality is a gift.Imagine not having to spend most of your time chasing pussy and wasting money on dates just to get a woman in bed.It would save people lots of heartache and energy.
@SciFiFanatic101 im a sexual person,and i never spent most time chasing pussy or wasting money on dates just to get woman in bed lol and im not thinking of doing it so i dont need to imagine something i already do
I consider myself asexual, because the thought of me having sex with another person does not arouse me and it it not a life or death situation if I never get it!!
notice the confusing language asexual means with out sexual classifican or organs. celibacy means abstinance. do me and yourself a favor and look uptthe borg agenda and robot human conspiracies here on utube. a robot can be made to look and asexual human. humor this as you did the video.
asexuality isnt a choice.......it just means that you arent attracted to anyone sexually. It doesnt mean you are choosing to not have sex (abstinence).
I fully support any and every type of sexuality due to the fact that you fall in love with a person not based on their gender but personality and I think that's what society doesn't understand just as long as you love someone and they love you too you should be allowed to have every given right as a straight person
Last post: We have philias -unusual sexual attractions. There is pedophilia, which is forced upon a young child/teenager inable to develop relationships with adults. But some like maiseiophilia: sexual attraction to women while (or look) pregnant, are explainable & can involve mutual partners. Maiseiophilia is an inborne neurological focus: to have arousal by a female's appearance or sexual aspects of her being pregnant. It's about feminine beauty & has nothing to do with the unborn baby. +
In the past 40-some years, we witnessed the rise of alternative sexual lifestyles: But we hadn't fully accepted being gay, bisexual, asexual & certain kinks within legal or moral limits, is part of what people are or how they wish to live their lives: freedom to associate with whoever we want & how to perform love-sex acts in the bedroom. Asexuals can't be forced to live a "sexualized" life, but I fear the US mainstream culture still has an outmoded warped view of romance, love or sexuality. +
Asexuals are part of the GLBT-Allied movement: things like "asexual pride" & "community" has become renowned. Our society still learns about sexual orientation or identity differences: whether its' gender, sexual attraction & lifestyle different from a majority's view, are only differences. There's nothing wrong with Asexuality: it isn't caused by fear of sex or puritan/retro-conservative morals on how we associate with sex: as a "scary, dirty, taboo & sinful" thing. Asexuality is just there. +
the woman at 6:28 - that's a load of crap. Of course Asexuals don't miss sex. Missing something is a feeling of want that involves once having something, then not having it. I'm sure most or all straight guys don't miss gay butt sex. How could they miss it? What's the significance of not missing it? I'd say none. But she's saying it like it's some kind of argument against Asexuals being broken. Well, when she's ready to try having butt sex with my boot, maybe I'll consider her not narrow minded.
Think of it this way: Sex is a recipe for a cake. It's important that the recipe is passed down to everyone, but since when is actually baking the cake (Having sex) important at all?
And another thing: How many straight people had to have gay sex to prove they were straight? And the other way around? It's called instinct. You automatically know you're orientation, there's no "trying" involved
how is asexual problematic? these people aren't going out to rob or kill people. who's to say that being sexually abstient is unhealthy? engaging in having sex with various partners is risky. i'm asexual, perfer to be called abstient.
@mrchristian87 Well, I have a normally functioning healthy body, and things are sensually pleasing to it. Swimming, clothes out of the dryer, etc. Things still feel good, including physical interactions with others that would be read as sexual. The difference is that there is no sexual drive or desire accompanying any sort of interaction. Kissing someone can feel nice, but that's all there is to it. It's like sharing a delicious meal with someone. Nothing sexual about it.
6:48 Whatever your name is Miss, I for one had never had a sexual trauma or some of the sorts you say. I did have sexual experience with a wonderful partner who respected me, but I couldn't feel a thing ALL 20 times I had sex with him! I didn't find it enjoyable or pleasurable, in fact it was boring and many times hilarious. My first time was not a painful experience either because he stopped the moment felt pain. so I had a very nice sexual experience BUT I had no desire of need for it!!
Yes, people who are members of very strict or shaming religions often have sexual issues. Many women have a hard time being intimate with their husbands because they can't relax their muscles enough. It's a common problem among those sectors of our society.
ok first mistake...it is NOT abstence for ever! as the aces say..abstinence is CHOICE not design! second mistake...that sex therapist is an idiot! she should learn to recognise the different aspects of sexual orientaion. yes asexual is stil a sexual orientation...we jsut dont do it physicall at all or as much!
finally victoria & karl should stay with us. just cuz they like to get cuddly with each other doesnt mean that they're not ace. im quite cudlding...just not the REAL penatration sex!
@fornow100000 Yeah me too. Evolutionarily, as a species I think it is probably biologically normal for a human to have sex maybe once every month or two. Other enjoyable daily activities, rituals, story telling, hunting, foraging, exploring, and creating take up much of their time. I don't know what amount of sex is healthy or not, but I know that sex everyday can throw off your dopamine cycle like heroine; for some it is worse than others.. especially bipolar people.
@Muffin7Dembski I disagree. I feel like it's her job to play devil's advocate and challenge these people on their convictions in order to make the interview interesting. Keep in mind that this is a foreign concept to a lot of people so it's her job to ask the questions that many people would ask if they were given the chance and it's this group's job to perhaps show people a different kind of possibility.
@controversyking I absolutely agree with you..being attractive doesn't mean you have to show off or have sex just because everybody you know around you is "doing it"...I am not disagreeing with his choice...I actually have a lot of respect for anyone how remains true to his\hers beliefs (whatever they may be).
I was only commenting on his appearance and NOT his choice...there is no need for you to be so aggressive!!!
The sex expert made that analogy based on her own feelings about sex. Obviously not everyone feels the same! For some it's a basic drive like hunger, for others it's more emotional, for most people it's a mix. For some it means nothing and has no appeal, as in the case of asexual people.
I don't really believe in asexuality. A lot of people don't like the idea of sex, especially when their young. When i was 12 it was gross and i thought that would never happen. I dont see it having sex now, I see it as making love. sure you can never have sex or make love, but don't rule it out. I think once you met the right person you will be willing to try anything.
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i swear all asexual people are gay and unaware of it. and virgins cant be asexual since theyve never had it. its like saying i dont like ice cream yet ive never had a taste of it. please........
@NiggaPopzJ That's tripe. Millions of people are straight or gay and know it, but have never had a sexual encounter. Explain why on earth that can't also be true of asexuals.
@JyginsGreenBird why would you nab or "buy" pussy. you can buy a cat literally. but not a human. Sex a sport or not body function of yours? if you hadnt worded it the way you did I'd asume you were a god guy friend to some gal.
that question of "how would you know you won't like it if you don't try it?" is retarded. How do you know you don't like getting shot if you haven't tried it? how do you know you don't like being raped if you've never tried it? extreme examples yes, but your answer is as clear as day. it is the same with asexuals. its that clear.
I am a homoromantic asexual. I have intense romantic feelings towards other women, but absolutely no arousal. Tired men and women, and it was like I was dead down there. I actually have left in the middle of sex because it was grossing me out- all that sweat and those noises! Ew! I'm not frigid either- I can make myself cum in less than a minute, and my orgasms are GREAT- I am just not sexually aroused by other human beings and I don't want sexual contact with them.
@JyginsGreenBird I think I'm a biromanitc, if that's even possible. LOL. (I can like a male or female, physically, but never sexually attracted.. as in, I don't want sex with them. o_O)
But yeah, I know how you feel. I have a boyfriend, and I LOVE him, dearly, I really do. But I never get aroused or anything when we kiss. Hell, I don't even like making out. I'd rather cuddle with him more then anything.
@CaptainCrunchityzer I actually immediately searched for the text in dutch, and well it's not God who says it's better not to marry, It's Paul. and it's obviously his own opinion
so... are we supposed to browbeat color-blind people into being sad that they can't see color if it doesn't upset them? Is that what that lady is saying? Because that doesn't seem right to me. It's not like missing color will enable them to magically will themselves to see it. Same with asexuals: we cannot will ourselves to experience sexual attraction, or many of us would have accomplished it already. So what's wrong with being happy and content with who we are?
Well, it definitely is disappointing to listen to these sex therapists... Of course there are people who are asexual because of a psychic trauma etc but I'm pretty sure that there are others being it without. I am that sure because we're individuals, the sex drive differs - as long as some have a high one, others are addicted to sex - it's pretty logical that some don't have a sex drive at all.
By the way - as my ID showes I adore chocolate (cakes) - but I can't eat raisins, jelly and honey...
I would just LOVE if someone could make a tribute song to being asexual. We may not be as common as gays, but we'll still people. Society must accept who we are!!!!
@CaptainCrunchityzer exactly. God obviously never said that you HAVE to be married. " if they cant control themselves, then they should marry." that is talking about lustful. it is a way to prevent pre-marital sex, which is highly looked down on in God's eyes. like i said earlier, lust is wrong, like it says here about them not being able to control themselves, but if they get married, then they have a right to have sex.
@CaptainCrunchityzer and okay lets go with the fact that youre an atheist and that you dont believe in the bible. then lets go with nature. in nature, animals of almost every species fight or somehow earn their right to mate with the female. some even lose their lives to do so. plants send their pollens and shit and they produce new flowers after fertilization. this is all part of nature. this is just not normal to have humans or animals not have sexual attraction to any gender.
@CaptainCrunchityzer when the fuck did the bible EVER say not to get married. his commandments were to not LUST, not dont have sex. you shouldnt look at another woman lustfully because lust is considered adultery but you have the right to have sex with her if she is married to you. it even says that God does not approve pre-marital sex. and that one in the 10 commandments is about adultery. dont convet with your neighbor's wife. well no shit. its common sense not to sleep your neighbor's wife.
@keaverkite fine maybe not destined but certainly is one of our purposes. animals fight to the death in order to mate with a female. its all laws of nature, which these ppl are breaking. and plus, God made us to mate when married and consummate the marriage and have a child. He only required abstinence until marriage, not afterwards. these ppl are breaking both the laws of God and laws of nature.
Lately, I've been noticing that neither gender is really attractive to me. I couldn't find a word for it, but maybe this is what I am, I don't know.....
Obviously, a therapist only knows her own experience and what she read in some book (about that authors experience).There can be no expert on psychology,considering all humans have a mind which is limited at best and disturbed in general.Most ppl have relationships out of boredom,loneliness or escape from their lives.Being happy alone really takes more intelligence,than telling somebody there must be sth wrong if they are not interested in sex.=Having sex does not guarantee mental health...
I look @ it like this, Doin crack is something not known to a human unless another one shows you it exists. But sex is natural and you could be absolutely lost and still know a penis works well will a vagina. My point? Something is broke. No different than a man who cant get an erection or is allergic to peanuts.
@zombiielover498 Freud came to his conclusions mostly by studying rich Viennese women. Most scientists would agree that the only way to come to reasonable conclusions about these things is to start with a simple random sample, which Freud did not do.
@katrachosps The problem with that argument, is that some asexuals have tried sex with both genders, and do not like it with either. If you can accept that homosexuality is legitimate, why can't you accept that asexuality is?
The sex therapist's opinion is hardly surprising. A sex therapist claiming no one is asexual is like a car salesperson saying that everyone is into cars.
@nicks210684 I know. Her opinion is also awfully unprofessional and biased. She's pretty much lashing out at them angrily, like "how dare they declare themselves something?" Her fascist statements don't end. She's incredibly close-minded herself, even if she calls them close-minded.
no offence but i honestly dont believe humans can not have sexual attraction to something, its built in us.
They clearly are just gay and not admitting it or have some weird sexual outlet that they dont tell anyone, like the people who are in love with building lol , like that woman who was "in love" with that rollercoaster!
@SuperYellow1989 Not true. I know someone who is 27 and they have no interest in marrying, sex, etc. That person has never had a relationship with anyone.
@SuperYellow1989 I wish I was gay, so I wouldn't have to explain myself to anyone! I did have sex a couple of times when I realized that something was off since I didn't feet the desire or need for sex, I was doing it just for my partner, I was finding it extremely boring and hilarious, my mind after the first time was like "WTF? That's it? Where is the rest?". I broke up with my partner, thinking I was gay but I didn't actually had sexual desire for a same sex person either.
Of course sex therapists are going to disagree with asexuality because sex is their business! That doesn't give them the right to say that just because they haven't tried it, they don't know. Lots of asexuals have tried sex, at least two of them in this clip, but they just didn't enjoy it. That's fair enough! And I doubt every single person who identifies as being asexual has been abused, or represses their memories or has just experienced bad sex. Some people should think before they speak.
I doubt sex therapists are going to be losing money. If anything they'll be gaining money with people seeing them who haven't yet discovered asexuality.
Oh absolutely. The society we're in is charged with sexuality, so that makes people who don't want sex freaks in the eyes of others. It's sad but hopefully asexuality can get more recognition in the coming years.
@glowythelugia well imean ishud stop being ignorant & understand their point of view but iguess tha society we are in & tha way iwas raised makes you belieave tht you knw ?
What's the big debate? It's a free country, and if you're not going to have sex that's your business. If you want to live together and not get married, so what? If you're kid is a boy and decides he wants to dress like a girl, well let them.
I'm Asexual/Pansexual (personality over gender). I guess Asexual's prefer simpler things such as touch, a hug, holding hands, a light kiss here and there, a hand on the shoulder or a pat on the back, but that's pretty much it.
Relationships shouldn't be purely based on sex anyway, its about looking out for each other and standing side by side together.
That stupid doctor, what about Asexuals that have been raped or molested? Pleasurable my ass.
@H0tkebab I like what you wrote here '' I guess Asexual's prefer simpler things such as touch, a hug, holding hands, a light kiss here and there, a hand on the shoulder or a pat on the back, but that's pretty much it.'' ...
Actualy I'm Bisexual , I can have a crush on a woman or a man ... I have libido too XD But I don't think I'm asexual ... But I really feel like what I need is touch,hug,holding hands and kisses... Cuz seriously I'm not interesting in sex relation and all that stuff ...
This is simply another branch of the sexuality spectrum that has been here since the dawn of time that modern day advancements in society has simply allowed people to discover and address. This is the first time i've heared of this and i'm sexually active and i'm a gay man, but I think with my experience of being misunderstood and ostrocized because of MY sexuality and not being understood it's maybe easier as a gay person to understand that other sexualities do exist and its simply normal
It doesn't quite work that way. I've had sexual relationships before which left me unhappy. But it's not that I'm asexual because they left me unhappy. They left me unhappy because I am asexual. The orientation takes prerequisite. It's not a matter of finding the person who's right for you; there is no such thing for an asexual, at least sexually speaking.
That one doctor who kept saying there's something wrong with us was really annoying. I am not narrow-minded, I'm not unadventurous, I'm just not interested. I was never abused, I just don't care for sex.
I have a feeling she would say being LGBT is a choice.
OboeDuck 2 days ago
@OboeDuck I totally agree. I'm gay and get all that choice nonsense, she is the narrow minded one.
TheAlexKiernan 15 hours ago
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"You might as well label yourself ... narrowminded"
Oh the irony.
You're the one trying to impose your views on those like me, you annoying bleeeeeeeep.
stathamajf 1 week ago
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stathamajf 1 week ago
face it folks, not everyone wants to meet another human's crotch....end of story
DiscordianDisciple27 1 week ago 2
I used to know someone who disliked chocolate cake 'headdesk' this whole thing is so typical from people who don't get it. Trying to justify stuff they don't understand by claiming it's a disorder... Oh humanity...
Insaneagram 2 weeks ago 2
If I could take a pill to become asexual I would take it.
cavejourney 3 weeks ago
I would be asexual too if one of these girls were my girlfriend no wonder that dude doesn't want sex because the girls he hangs out with are hideous
mespina0 1 month ago
that is the strangest stuff I have ever seen LOL!!!!!
sarahrain3 1 month ago
Alright, well, that woman is a "sex therapist." This means she's always been focused on helping people to have sex. Although she can claim asexuals are predisposed by something, it's really her who is predisposed to not believe asexuality is a possibility.
Dear Doctor who supports sex even if those involved do not want it, perhaps you should look into being not narrow-minded yourself. It seems to be something you're struggling with. :)
TheSandBoxGirl 1 month ago
like...what if you really really like sex, but your really really crappy at it? Recent New Yorker cartoon, doctor tells patiant after exam, "Your healthy enough for sex, just not attractive enough for it." :-)
gurlsingerfan 1 month ago
they masturbate to much..
jellyboy123 1 month ago
I was in the same boat as victoria there for awhile but my friend helped me realize who I was...
ZX008Y 1 month ago
I want to punch that Dr. so hard her head fall off. I am asexual and I am not narrow minded. That speaker is. I don't think she knows what the fuck she is talking about. This video really pissed me off. Really really pissed me off. So I am asexual so I am not real?
ZX008Y 1 month ago
I am asexual and this little piece of drivel makes me want to throw up
krfkeith 1 month ago
god some people are just suffering so terribly
I'd like a piece of that chocolate cake!
n4979338 1 month ago
god some people are just suffering so terribly
n4979338 1 month ago
Agreed @ Sakurabaka
ChadsBish 1 month ago
I think that the people who came close to sex were not asexual, but pansexual. Agreed?
Laughtraxx 1 month ago
@Laughtraxx You do know people can have and enjoy sex and still be asexual, right? Asexuals can still fap, have sex, and have fetishes. There are people who fall under asexuality, such as demisexuals or grey-As, who are caught somewhere between being sexual and asexual. The main factor behind sexual orientation is sexual attraction (NOT sexual behaviour) and who it's directed at, if anyone at all. The only person who has a right to speculate on your own orientation is yourself, not anyone else.
WiresAndCallouses 1 month ago
that suuuucksss! but just keep doing it if you believe thats the way to be...cant miss what you never experienced :S
dessiilove1 1 month ago
holy shit I want to slap that sex-therapist.
I've had a lot of sex, lots of different kinds of sex, and with different people.
Still apathetic to sex. Has nothing to do with adventurousness or not. You could eat all the cake, and still be like "No, I really don't like cake."
Sometimes, I wish I could like chocolate cake so I could eat it with everyone else, but, no big deal. It's just cake.
sakurabaka 2 months ago 2
@sakurabaka Now this is gonna sound really stupid but I have to ask.....if you're asexual, what do you do? I mean how do you find happiness in life???
teddybeartoe 2 months ago
@teddybeartoe I still have relationships, I just don't have sex in them. I still cuddle, kiss, hold hands, joke around, love, have hobbies... lol. Why do you need any one thing in your life to be happy, anyways? For me, I find happiness in many different things. I just don't see sex as something I need to have with others. crazy concept?
sakurabaka 1 month ago
@sakurabaka It is crazy...because sex is scientifically proven to be the best feeling in the world. It releases the most units of dopamine naturally in the body. Nothing comes close to it. Only meth tops the amount of pleasure released in sex. So for you to reject something so amazing...is very hard to understand.
teddybeartoe 1 month ago
@teddybeartoe I still do find sexual things to be pleasurable, I just do not have a drive in me that in any way reaches out or desires it. I don't inherently reject it, I just do not go and seek it out. Besides, personally, I would rather masturbate than have sex. Some asexuals DO have sex and DO enjoy it. being asexual just means there is a lack of sexual attraction to others. Asexuals do not look at people and see them as something that is sexually pleasurable.
sakurabaka 3 weeks ago
@sakurabaka I just have one final question. What makes you happiest in life?
teddybeartoe 3 weeks ago
@teddybeartoe Accomplishment, learning, flirting, cuddles, witty conversation/stories? Haha. I'm a very content person. I've had sex and good sex and mind-blowing sex, and I'm just as fine without it and without desiring it. :P It's not like you could throw "good sex" at me and "fix me" because that's not how it works.
sakurabaka 3 weeks ago
@sakurabaka one word for you. Pornhub.com. After you see all these hot ass girls, you'll never be the same. ( Or if you're a girl type in big cocks or something. Then get like a massive, vibrating, dildo.) if you ain't cured in the morning after that, i got nothin.
teddybeartoe 3 weeks ago
@teddybeartoe lol. I've seen porn and I've been on that website before. I have a hitachi magic wand, too, and vibrators. HOWEVER. I have no desire to have sex with people because I am not sexually attracted to them, only romantically or intellectually attracted to people. :P Awesome orgasms or not, it has nothing to do with it. Attraction is something that is there or it isn't, and I have zero sexual attraction to men or women.
sakurabaka 3 weeks ago
@sakurabaka So you've never experienced lust? You've never just been like DAMN that girl has a nice ass. I'd would **** the **** out of her.
You may be the only human I've ever met that's immune to lust.
teddybeartoe 3 weeks ago
@DASRH Freud was a prideful idiot. He projected his own psychological problems onto everybody else.
OriginalAkivara 2 months ago 4
I'd love to see an item about asexuality that didn't have a "sex-therapist" saying that we're all abused fuck-ups.
I wonder if that will ever happen.
asubjectiveopinion 3 months ago 4
@asubjectiveopinion There actually is. There's a video of a sex therapist explaining asexuality the way it should be explained (mostly, it was little confusing at first) on an Australian morning show. The hosts were the immature ones though.
Boolglunk 3 months ago
From what I see asexuality is a gift.Imagine not having to spend most of your time chasing pussy and wasting money on dates just to get a woman in bed.It would save people lots of heartache and energy.
SciFiFanatic101 3 months ago 12
@SciFiFanatic101 im a sexual person,and i never spent most time chasing pussy or wasting money on dates just to get woman in bed lol and im not thinking of doing it so i dont need to imagine something i already do
trgthy 1 week ago
I consider myself asexual, because the thought of me having sex with another person does not arouse me and it it not a life or death situation if I never get it!!
lcchill 4 months ago
notice the confusing language asexual means with out sexual classifican or organs. celibacy means abstinance. do me and yourself a favor and look uptthe borg agenda and robot human conspiracies here on utube. a robot can be made to look and asexual human. humor this as you did the video.
Jusplais 4 months ago
Now I finally know that asexuality does exist! Lol gosh us humans can have sex with anything…or nothing…
YourBiggestFan2552 4 months ago
so f-in stupid
Zathinean 4 months ago
im into sex with lampshades....what does that make me??
CumInAsses 4 months ago
@CumInAsses An object sexual
dunokuba 4 months ago
@dunokuba lol im strange
CumInAsses 4 months ago
Oh hey, and here I am trying to assure myself that asexuality doesn't mean I'm broken... This doesn't help.
HawockHain 4 months ago
An interesting lifestyle choice, though it seems alien beyond all measures to me.
Would asexual people still have romantic desires and needs for emotional intimacy?
NiHuWi 4 months ago
@NiHuWi
It generally isn't a lifestyle choice, it just exists like any other sexual orientation.
And yes, most asexual people, unless they are aromantic, do still desire emotional intimacy.
glowythelugia 4 months ago
"Some studies show that asexual behavior does exist in the animal world."
So humans aren't mammals anymore? Hmm I wonder when that happened. So arrogant.
Ediblelies 4 months ago
asexuality isnt a choice.......it just means that you arent attracted to anyone sexually. It doesnt mean you are choosing to not have sex (abstinence).
baahhhFATALITY11 5 months ago 18
I fully support any and every type of sexuality due to the fact that you fall in love with a person not based on their gender but personality and I think that's what society doesn't understand just as long as you love someone and they love you too you should be allowed to have every given right as a straight person
lexy659 5 months ago
Last post: We have philias -unusual sexual attractions. There is pedophilia, which is forced upon a young child/teenager inable to develop relationships with adults. But some like maiseiophilia: sexual attraction to women while (or look) pregnant, are explainable & can involve mutual partners. Maiseiophilia is an inborne neurological focus: to have arousal by a female's appearance or sexual aspects of her being pregnant. It's about feminine beauty & has nothing to do with the unborn baby. +
demikede1 5 months ago
In the past 40-some years, we witnessed the rise of alternative sexual lifestyles: But we hadn't fully accepted being gay, bisexual, asexual & certain kinks within legal or moral limits, is part of what people are or how they wish to live their lives: freedom to associate with whoever we want & how to perform love-sex acts in the bedroom. Asexuals can't be forced to live a "sexualized" life, but I fear the US mainstream culture still has an outmoded warped view of romance, love or sexuality. +
demikede1 5 months ago
Asexuals are part of the GLBT-Allied movement: things like "asexual pride" & "community" has become renowned. Our society still learns about sexual orientation or identity differences: whether its' gender, sexual attraction & lifestyle different from a majority's view, are only differences. There's nothing wrong with Asexuality: it isn't caused by fear of sex or puritan/retro-conservative morals on how we associate with sex: as a "scary, dirty, taboo & sinful" thing. Asexuality is just there. +
demikede1 5 months ago
If I could take a pill that would make me asexual, I would.
pokemon111990 5 months ago
the woman at 6:28 - that's a load of crap. Of course Asexuals don't miss sex. Missing something is a feeling of want that involves once having something, then not having it. I'm sure most or all straight guys don't miss gay butt sex. How could they miss it? What's the significance of not missing it? I'd say none. But she's saying it like it's some kind of argument against Asexuals being broken. Well, when she's ready to try having butt sex with my boot, maybe I'll consider her not narrow minded.
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RunningP123456 5 months ago
Asexuality is NOT a choice! What the fuck.
FM897 5 months ago
I Understand Their Point. I Mean Of Course, Sex isn't the Root to Happiness. But They Shouldn't Say it Does Nothing. It Creates People!
JewForJesusAlways 6 months ago
i dont get it.
mrchristian87 6 months ago
im 20, ive had a boner since i was about 12....
mrchristian87 6 months ago
Think of it this way: Sex is a recipe for a cake. It's important that the recipe is passed down to everyone, but since when is actually baking the cake (Having sex) important at all?
And another thing: How many straight people had to have gay sex to prove they were straight? And the other way around? It's called instinct. You automatically know you're orientation, there's no "trying" involved
Ramen86861 6 months ago 2
Does anyone else notice that all of these people are dorks?
aaron3299 6 months ago
@aaron3299
it does affect their growing up process and self confidence resulting in no being interested because no one is actually interested in them.
still, just like homosexuality, it gives me room for less competition with the girls :D
bcoolnotfool 5 months ago
I can't stop staring at those huge red lips! o.O
Kgbrybik1 6 months ago
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2020Bookworm 6 months ago
how is asexual problematic? these people aren't going out to rob or kill people. who's to say that being sexually abstient is unhealthy? engaging in having sex with various partners is risky. i'm asexual, perfer to be called abstient.
npaujbais 6 months ago
Asexuality =/= abstinence or celibacy.
I am Asexual, and I can have sex. I have had sex, and I have enjoyed sex on purely a sensual basis.
Not all asexuals are the same, just as not all sexual people are the same.
And just because you're Asexual doesn't mean you can't have sex.
I simply do not and have never experienced sexual attraction.
I experience romantic attraction and sensual attraction, but that is different.
iusedtohaveaname 6 months ago
@iusedtohaveaname sensual attraction? how does that happen?
mrchristian87 6 months ago
@mrchristian87 Well, I have a normally functioning healthy body, and things are sensually pleasing to it. Swimming, clothes out of the dryer, etc. Things still feel good, including physical interactions with others that would be read as sexual. The difference is that there is no sexual drive or desire accompanying any sort of interaction. Kissing someone can feel nice, but that's all there is to it. It's like sharing a delicious meal with someone. Nothing sexual about it.
iusedtohaveaname 5 months ago
@iusedtohaveaname did u hav sex with a man or woman?
mrchristian87 5 months ago
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those men must have really small penises
Lineriderrocks123 6 months ago
6:48 Whatever your name is Miss, I for one had never had a sexual trauma or some of the sorts you say. I did have sexual experience with a wonderful partner who respected me, but I couldn't feel a thing ALL 20 times I had sex with him! I didn't find it enjoyable or pleasurable, in fact it was boring and many times hilarious. My first time was not a painful experience either because he stopped the moment felt pain. so I had a very nice sexual experience BUT I had no desire of need for it!!
makazeharuka 6 months ago
@onilunchbox
Yes, people who are members of very strict or shaming religions often have sexual issues. Many women have a hard time being intimate with their husbands because they can't relax their muscles enough. It's a common problem among those sectors of our society.
Ihopyourpancakes 6 months ago
Where, exactly, does one qualify as a "sex therapist"?
asubjectiveopinion 6 months ago 2
'its kinda fun to break that rule' FTW
John3285 7 months ago
ok first mistake...it is NOT abstence for ever! as the aces say..abstinence is CHOICE not design! second mistake...that sex therapist is an idiot! she should learn to recognise the different aspects of sexual orientaion. yes asexual is stil a sexual orientation...we jsut dont do it physicall at all or as much!
finally victoria & karl should stay with us. just cuz they like to get cuddly with each other doesnt mean that they're not ace. im quite cudlding...just not the REAL penatration sex!
mystiquesword 7 months ago
sex is overrated. I know I know...Not popular to say but it s TRUE
fornow100000 7 months ago 21
@fornow100000 shut up faggot ass nigga
deepde50cent 6 months ago
@fornow100000 Yeah me too. Evolutionarily, as a species I think it is probably biologically normal for a human to have sex maybe once every month or two. Other enjoyable daily activities, rituals, story telling, hunting, foraging, exploring, and creating take up much of their time. I don't know what amount of sex is healthy or not, but I know that sex everyday can throw off your dopamine cycle like heroine; for some it is worse than others.. especially bipolar people.
drchen054 3 months ago
"severe religiosity" what the fuck?
OniLunchbox 7 months ago 4
i think that they need to do an update on these people ....
FemmedelaCaraibe 7 months ago 5
I wouldn't want to have sex with any of these people anyways. haha
boricuamm707 7 months ago
"unadventurous, narrow minded, blind to possibilities" words that best describe their speaker in this case.
Muffin7Dembski 7 months ago 50
@Muffin7Dembski I disagree. I feel like it's her job to play devil's advocate and challenge these people on their convictions in order to make the interview interesting. Keep in mind that this is a foreign concept to a lot of people so it's her job to ask the questions that many people would ask if they were given the chance and it's this group's job to perhaps show people a different kind of possibility.
xxxglitterglamxxx 1 month ago
@controversyking I absolutely agree with you..being attractive doesn't mean you have to show off or have sex just because everybody you know around you is "doing it"...I am not disagreeing with his choice...I actually have a lot of respect for anyone how remains true to his\hers beliefs (whatever they may be).
I was only commenting on his appearance and NOT his choice...there is no need for you to be so aggressive!!!
IrishCat04 7 months ago
The sex expert made that analogy based on her own feelings about sex. Obviously not everyone feels the same! For some it's a basic drive like hunger, for others it's more emotional, for most people it's a mix. For some it means nothing and has no appeal, as in the case of asexual people.
CamillaCalamity 7 months ago
@controversyking Sorrry, I didnt mean to make it sound inferior, its true that someone people may never find the right one :(
xtocityx0 7 months ago
I don't really believe in asexuality. A lot of people don't like the idea of sex, especially when their young. When i was 12 it was gross and i thought that would never happen. I dont see it having sex now, I see it as making love. sure you can never have sex or make love, but don't rule it out. I think once you met the right person you will be willing to try anything.
xtocityx0 7 months ago
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i swear all asexual people are gay and unaware of it. and virgins cant be asexual since theyve never had it. its like saying i dont like ice cream yet ive never had a taste of it. please........
NiggaPopzJ 7 months ago
@NiggaPopzJ That's tripe. Millions of people are straight or gay and know it, but have never had a sexual encounter. Explain why on earth that can't also be true of asexuals.
steelvenom2003 7 months ago
"Is there anything WRONG with abstinence forever?"
....why would it be wrong? Why exactly does it matter what I do with my vagina??
KikyoChanXD 7 months ago 4
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HE JERK OFF ALL DAY TO EURO ANAL PORN SO RUN OUT OF ENERGY FOR THE REAL WOMAN MOST OF THEM R UGLY NO 1 WANT THEM ANIWAY
samantha34ize 8 months ago
LOSER'S.....
ophirjet 8 months ago
@ophirjet I'm not the one wasting all my time and money on trying to nab pussy. Seriously, it's like your addicted to drugs.
JyginsGreenBird 7 months ago 2
@JyginsGreenBird why would you nab or "buy" pussy. you can buy a cat literally. but not a human. Sex a sport or not body function of yours? if you hadnt worded it the way you did I'd asume you were a god guy friend to some gal.
Jusplais 4 months ago
@Jusplais I tried so hard to make sense of that comment...
JyginsGreenBird 4 months ago
@JyginsGreenBird ahahhaah hilarious!
drchen054 3 months ago
Wow, the sex therapist was really getting herself worked up. It's like the thought of people not having sex makes her really angry or something. XD
TheAsexualHermit 8 months ago 4
I love women,I like girls,but..the idea of having sex(with anyone) is not an option for me.
JanIsBoy5 8 months ago 18
that question of "how would you know you won't like it if you don't try it?" is retarded. How do you know you don't like getting shot if you haven't tried it? how do you know you don't like being raped if you've never tried it? extreme examples yes, but your answer is as clear as day. it is the same with asexuals. its that clear.
terranark 8 months ago 3
I am a homoromantic asexual. I have intense romantic feelings towards other women, but absolutely no arousal. Tired men and women, and it was like I was dead down there. I actually have left in the middle of sex because it was grossing me out- all that sweat and those noises! Ew! I'm not frigid either- I can make myself cum in less than a minute, and my orgasms are GREAT- I am just not sexually aroused by other human beings and I don't want sexual contact with them.
JyginsGreenBird 8 months ago
@JyginsGreenBird I think I'm a biromanitc, if that's even possible. LOL. (I can like a male or female, physically, but never sexually attracted.. as in, I don't want sex with them. o_O)
But yeah, I know how you feel. I have a boyfriend, and I LOVE him, dearly, I really do. But I never get aroused or anything when we kiss. Hell, I don't even like making out. I'd rather cuddle with him more then anything.
Sex... even the word is just gross to me! XD
KikyoChanXD 7 months ago 3
@CaptainCrunchityzer I actually immediately searched for the text in dutch, and well it's not God who says it's better not to marry, It's Paul. and it's obviously his own opinion
glossgirlxoxo 8 months ago
I think it's possible to be a-sexual,
but I have to disagree with one thing, live is all about sex,
I mean everybody knows by now that kids don't come from Storks, right..
glossgirlxoxo 8 months ago
the 23 year old guy is hot!
IrishCat04 8 months ago
ok the second guy was married to a woman. I'm sure he's gay. no wonder he doesn't like sex with a woman!
black4pienus 8 months ago
so... are we supposed to browbeat color-blind people into being sad that they can't see color if it doesn't upset them? Is that what that lady is saying? Because that doesn't seem right to me. It's not like missing color will enable them to magically will themselves to see it. Same with asexuals: we cannot will ourselves to experience sexual attraction, or many of us would have accomplished it already. So what's wrong with being happy and content with who we are?
LizaiTebalise 9 months ago
Well, it definitely is disappointing to listen to these sex therapists... Of course there are people who are asexual because of a psychic trauma etc but I'm pretty sure that there are others being it without. I am that sure because we're individuals, the sex drive differs - as long as some have a high one, others are addicted to sex - it's pretty logical that some don't have a sex drive at all.
By the way - as my ID showes I adore chocolate (cakes) - but I can't eat raisins, jelly and honey...
schokolade975 9 months ago
I would just LOVE if someone could make a tribute song to being asexual. We may not be as common as gays, but we'll still people. Society must accept who we are!!!!
Gununderman 9 months ago
Narrow minded STFU bitch
Rockyhorrorfan5 9 months ago
It's weird cause I see these people who don't have sex and...
my BRAIN DOES NOT COMPUTE
tiffyj85 9 months ago
I just realized the therapist looks like Cortney Love, but with dark hair..
tiffyj85 9 months ago
all they are lacking is their natural hormornes that their brain should be producing but it's not..
tiffyj85 9 months ago
Asexual = Narrow Minded? This lady is fucking stupid.
Insouciantly 9 months ago 3
This can be thought of as simply a glitch in the program!
LOLiverify 9 months ago
@CaptainCrunchityzer exactly. God obviously never said that you HAVE to be married. " if they cant control themselves, then they should marry." that is talking about lustful. it is a way to prevent pre-marital sex, which is highly looked down on in God's eyes. like i said earlier, lust is wrong, like it says here about them not being able to control themselves, but if they get married, then they have a right to have sex.
xcode394 9 months ago
@CaptainCrunchityzer and okay lets go with the fact that youre an atheist and that you dont believe in the bible. then lets go with nature. in nature, animals of almost every species fight or somehow earn their right to mate with the female. some even lose their lives to do so. plants send their pollens and shit and they produce new flowers after fertilization. this is all part of nature. this is just not normal to have humans or animals not have sexual attraction to any gender.
xcode394 9 months ago
@CaptainCrunchityzer when the fuck did the bible EVER say not to get married. his commandments were to not LUST, not dont have sex. you shouldnt look at another woman lustfully because lust is considered adultery but you have the right to have sex with her if she is married to you. it even says that God does not approve pre-marital sex. and that one in the 10 commandments is about adultery. dont convet with your neighbor's wife. well no shit. its common sense not to sleep your neighbor's wife.
xcode394 9 months ago
there's no such thing as a highly attractive asexual
NinetiesYouth 9 months ago
these ppl are just weird... we have penises and vaginas because we are destined to have sex or mate to reproduce and have a new generation.
xcode394 9 months ago
@xcode394 not really were not destined for anything dimwit
keaverkite 9 months ago
@keaverkite fine maybe not destined but certainly is one of our purposes. animals fight to the death in order to mate with a female. its all laws of nature, which these ppl are breaking. and plus, God made us to mate when married and consummate the marriage and have a child. He only required abstinence until marriage, not afterwards. these ppl are breaking both the laws of God and laws of nature.
xcode394 9 months ago
@xcode394 i dont care what your god says i also dont care about the laws of nature there is enough people in the world we dont need more children
keaverkite 9 months ago
P.S. if there is anyone out like there like me, please message me. It would be fun to talk.
pwlover91 9 months ago
Lately, I've been noticing that neither gender is really attractive to me. I couldn't find a word for it, but maybe this is what I am, I don't know.....
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cracker416 9 months ago
NOTICE HOW THEY ARE ALL UNATTRACTIVE? HMMMM......... WONDER WHY THEY'RE VIRGINS AND ''NOT INTERESTED'' IN SEX.
416RIZZLE416 9 months ago
@416RIZZLE416 anyone can get sex easy it has nothing to do with the way they look
keaverkite 9 months ago 4
Obviously, a therapist only knows her own experience and what she read in some book (about that authors experience).There can be no expert on psychology,considering all humans have a mind which is limited at best and disturbed in general.Most ppl have relationships out of boredom,loneliness or escape from their lives.Being happy alone really takes more intelligence,than telling somebody there must be sth wrong if they are not interested in sex.=Having sex does not guarantee mental health...
kzam717 10 months ago
Michael Jackson was Asexual
HBK344356 10 months ago 2
I look @ it like this, Doin crack is something not known to a human unless another one shows you it exists. But sex is natural and you could be absolutely lost and still know a penis works well will a vagina. My point? Something is broke. No different than a man who cant get an erection or is allergic to peanuts.
breadfan9 10 months ago
I Would Rock Davids World ;)
rakash100 10 months ago
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DeyaGrey 10 months ago
They're all too ugly to get a root.
elecsexation 10 months ago
im i the only that sees that all of them are ugly haha
arkonastriborg123 10 months ago
If only I could get famous because of my sexuality..... Boobs
brucecake 10 months ago
so ironic that that stupid sex therapist calls the asexuals narrow-minded
emailjwr 10 months ago 2
@emailjwr Quite the opposite if you ask me.
jmilco 10 months ago
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grifsplif 11 months ago
Freudians theory: they are not happy and are stupid fucks :)
zombiielover498 11 months ago
@zombiielover498 to bad many of freuds theorys were disproved
keaverkite 10 months ago
@zombiielover498 Freud came to his conclusions mostly by studying rich Viennese women. Most scientists would agree that the only way to come to reasonable conclusions about these things is to start with a simple random sample, which Freud did not do.
LizaiTebalise 9 months ago
as long as they don't feel deprived!
runtubefantasy 11 months ago
"chocolate cake"? "everything was okay with their plumbing"? Gee, I'm glad we're all adults here and don't have to use euphemism...
vanitykx 11 months ago
I wanna get married, but it wouldn't be fair to "trap" someone into a sexless relationship.(I'm asexual)
AvaSimmons 11 months ago
they are not horny bastards big deal.
SquishyCandyftw 11 months ago 10
2:25, I think the problem is that he is having sex with the wrong gender for him.
katrachosps 11 months ago
@katrachosps The problem with that argument, is that some asexuals have tried sex with both genders, and do not like it with either. If you can accept that homosexuality is legitimate, why can't you accept that asexuality is?
pumpkinqwerty 10 months ago
whatever floats your boat...
ouch2112 11 months ago
The sex therapist's opinion is hardly surprising. A sex therapist claiming no one is asexual is like a car salesperson saying that everyone is into cars.
nicks210684 11 months ago 54
@nicks210684 Ironically enough, I'm an asexual that isn't into cars. XD
AntiSocialBug 11 months ago
@nicks210684 I know. Her opinion is also awfully unprofessional and biased. She's pretty much lashing out at them angrily, like "how dare they declare themselves something?" Her fascist statements don't end. She's incredibly close-minded herself, even if she calls them close-minded.
Darksunshinerain87 10 months ago
@nicks210684 I'm asexual and I want to be a sex therapist. How's them apples?
JyginsGreenBird 8 months ago
no offence but i honestly dont believe humans can not have sexual attraction to something, its built in us.
They clearly are just gay and not admitting it or have some weird sexual outlet that they dont tell anyone, like the people who are in love with building lol , like that woman who was "in love" with that rollercoaster!
SuperYellow1989 1 year ago
@SuperYellow1989 Not true. I know someone who is 27 and they have no interest in marrying, sex, etc. That person has never had a relationship with anyone.
deathskull99 1 year ago
@SuperYellow1989 I wish I was gay, so I wouldn't have to explain myself to anyone! I did have sex a couple of times when I realized that something was off since I didn't feet the desire or need for sex, I was doing it just for my partner, I was finding it extremely boring and hilarious, my mind after the first time was like "WTF? That's it? Where is the rest?". I broke up with my partner, thinking I was gay but I didn't actually had sexual desire for a same sex person either.
makazeharuka 11 months ago 4
Why is there always someone asking people if they had a pill that would "cure" them on all these shows? It's pretty ridiculous.
KyuubiBloodSucker 1 year ago 2
Of course sex therapists are going to disagree with asexuality because sex is their business! That doesn't give them the right to say that just because they haven't tried it, they don't know. Lots of asexuals have tried sex, at least two of them in this clip, but they just didn't enjoy it. That's fair enough! And I doubt every single person who identifies as being asexual has been abused, or represses their memories or has just experienced bad sex. Some people should think before they speak.
ASHEKEH 1 year ago 29
@ASHEKEH
yeah because they are going to loose all their income
1% (all ages)of the u.s population is estimated to be asexual? oh wow...they are loosing billions and trillions
lol so naive
4042516 9 months ago
@4042516
I doubt sex therapists are going to be losing money. If anything they'll be gaining money with people seeing them who haven't yet discovered asexuality.
ASHEKEH 9 months ago
@shininqbabe
Misspelled your screen name in my last comment, my bad.
glowythelugia 1 year ago
@shiningqbabe
Oh absolutely. The society we're in is charged with sexuality, so that makes people who don't want sex freaks in the eyes of others. It's sad but hopefully asexuality can get more recognition in the coming years.
glowythelugia 1 year ago
you do need sex
Shininqbabe 1 year ago
@Shininqbabe
Nah. Asexuals don't want sex, hence they don't need sex either. It's not like you die if you don't feel the need to have sex with people.
glowythelugia 1 year ago
@glowythelugia well imean ishud stop being ignorant & understand their point of view but iguess tha society we are in & tha way iwas raised makes you belieave tht you knw ?
Shininqbabe 1 year ago
@Shininqbabe unless you want to reproduce, no you don't.
thezombiereviwer 1 year ago
What's the big debate? It's a free country, and if you're not going to have sex that's your business. If you want to live together and not get married, so what? If you're kid is a boy and decides he wants to dress like a girl, well let them.
MondoBeno 1 year ago 4
@MondoBeno You know what one of the main problems in the world is...no one minds their own fuckin business...
HBK344356 10 months ago
I'm Asexual/Pansexual (personality over gender). I guess Asexual's prefer simpler things such as touch, a hug, holding hands, a light kiss here and there, a hand on the shoulder or a pat on the back, but that's pretty much it.
Relationships shouldn't be purely based on sex anyway, its about looking out for each other and standing side by side together.
That stupid doctor, what about Asexuals that have been raped or molested? Pleasurable my ass.
H0tkebab 1 year ago
@H0tkebab I like what you wrote here '' I guess Asexual's prefer simpler things such as touch, a hug, holding hands, a light kiss here and there, a hand on the shoulder or a pat on the back, but that's pretty much it.'' ...
Actualy I'm Bisexual , I can have a crush on a woman or a man ... I have libido too XD But I don't think I'm asexual ... But I really feel like what I need is touch,hug,holding hands and kisses... Cuz seriously I'm not interesting in sex relation and all that stuff ...
XCutePupa 1 year ago
@drastaify
Women have low testosterone either way. What on earth is your point?
glowythelugia 1 year ago
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they all have low or no testosterone
drastaify 1 year ago
This is simply another branch of the sexuality spectrum that has been here since the dawn of time that modern day advancements in society has simply allowed people to discover and address. This is the first time i've heared of this and i'm sexually active and i'm a gay man, but I think with my experience of being misunderstood and ostrocized because of MY sexuality and not being understood it's maybe easier as a gay person to understand that other sexualities do exist and its simply normal
Maticallo 1 year ago 7
@joedaplumber
It doesn't quite work that way. I've had sexual relationships before which left me unhappy. But it's not that I'm asexual because they left me unhappy. They left me unhappy because I am asexual. The orientation takes prerequisite. It's not a matter of finding the person who's right for you; there is no such thing for an asexual, at least sexually speaking.
glowythelugia 1 year ago
@glowythelugia so what exactly is it that arouses you sexually (if I may ask)? or is libido absolutely gone?