My ex-girlfriend always makes comments about how I'm not out to my dad (he's pretty much the last to know), and it angers me so much cause her parents are two women. Like she has no right to tell me just to do it already, cause she has no idea.
good for you. don't let that dummy make you feel bad. it is a sensitive topic because as you say, not everyone is privileged and had an easy time or easy reaction from their family.
Every person has a different method and story. I think you are absolutely right that some are privileged to have more accepting parents and peers, not everyone has this. One of my friends parents are very religious, and they tell her constantly that she is going to hell. Coming out to them has not made her life easier it seems.
yes, i totally agree (this is also my theory with the "it gets better" campaign. i had originally made a video but quickly put it down after re-thinking what kind of message i was giving to the youth out there.
@yesmamyes Yep, I can see what you are saying there, because of the sensitive nature of the "It gets better" campaign, it is in its own interest we retain a positive spin. In some cases though, as members of the Gay and trans community, we need to step in, in place of extremely bigoted family members. In those extreme cases, coming out (to biological family) may be a much longer process (unfortunately) and we should support the person involved whatever their decision may be.
@yesmamyes that's understandable......it took me a while to come out to my parents. I don't really know if i was completely ready or not but i was far away from home and by myself and during a harsh break up so i needed to get it off me badly. I don't regret it, but at the same time i wish i would have came out right now, when i'm sure i wouldn;t have had to make the "deal" of not telling it to my brother.......but someday....when he's ready he'll know.....if he hasn't figured it out yet lol
My ex-girlfriend always makes comments about how I'm not out to my dad (he's pretty much the last to know), and it angers me so much cause her parents are two women. Like she has no right to tell me just to do it already, cause she has no idea.
vinylreality 1 year ago
good for you. don't let that dummy make you feel bad. it is a sensitive topic because as you say, not everyone is privileged and had an easy time or easy reaction from their family.
scrabblechampion72 1 year ago
As you said, "Everyone's process is valid" - AMEN! That's all any queer person needs to know. I totally agree with this vid. Thank you!
voulezvous88 1 year ago
Every person has a different method and story. I think you are absolutely right that some are privileged to have more accepting parents and peers, not everyone has this. One of my friends parents are very religious, and they tell her constantly that she is going to hell. Coming out to them has not made her life easier it seems.
LiquoriceLexi 1 year ago
@LiquoriceLexi
yes, i totally agree (this is also my theory with the "it gets better" campaign. i had originally made a video but quickly put it down after re-thinking what kind of message i was giving to the youth out there.
yesmamyes 1 year ago
@yesmamyes Yep, I can see what you are saying there, because of the sensitive nature of the "It gets better" campaign, it is in its own interest we retain a positive spin. In some cases though, as members of the Gay and trans community, we need to step in, in place of extremely bigoted family members. In those extreme cases, coming out (to biological family) may be a much longer process (unfortunately) and we should support the person involved whatever their decision may be.
LiquoriceLexi 1 year ago
You're awesome! SO right on. What part of the US are you in?
thetreethetree 1 year ago
@thetreethetree
thanks, i live in northern california. (bay area)
yesmamyes 1 year ago
You're awesome!!!!! and the fact that you're queer inside or outside of the closet makes you more awesome to my eyes :)
love love
skurttie 1 year ago
@skurttie
aw thanks! yeah, the only folks who don't know about my queer-ness is my parents. my brother and sister know now, even know that i'm poly! yay!
yesmamyes 1 year ago
@yesmamyes that's understandable......it took me a while to come out to my parents. I don't really know if i was completely ready or not but i was far away from home and by myself and during a harsh break up so i needed to get it off me badly. I don't regret it, but at the same time i wish i would have came out right now, when i'm sure i wouldn;t have had to make the "deal" of not telling it to my brother.......but someday....when he's ready he'll know.....if he hasn't figured it out yet lol
xox
skurttie 1 year ago
... I can def relate to this. People should respect your privacy. Thumbs up for you!
badazzrockchic 1 year ago
@badazzrockchic
thumbs up for this comment!
yesmamyes 1 year ago
you're amazing :) <3 Happy Holidays :) <3
you're such a beautiful person and i love watching you:) keep vlogin:)
PlayMyPokerFace 1 year ago
@PlayMyPokerFace
thanks! happy holidays to you too! :]
yesmamyes 1 year ago
You're queer enough! Just thought I'd put that out there. 'Cause you are.
boy0boi 1 year ago
@boy0boi
haha thanks! i'm also good enough for this world too :]
yesmamyes 1 year ago