[How to] Talk about SEX & Pregnancy with Your Teenager

[NEWBSOLJA357]

beautiful fam

[watchfuleye2008]

Great Video...My son will be 14 next month and I keep it very REAL with him about sex! Praise God that he wants to wait till he's married...it is very real and we have to be raw with them just like they are getting the info raw from their friends!...

[TwiinStar1224]

Your daughter is 13? You better keep her on a leash cuz id love to tap dat ass lol. But seriously when I was 13 my hormones were RAGING. How ive made it to 18 without having sex, its pretty hard actually. You have to be strong willed, and you better have a hobby lool mine was ball so I was pretty busy with that. Good luck to both of you in the future :)

[kirbygirl49]

@TwiinStar1224 LMFAO! :)

[tayboox33]

@TwiinStar1224 EW. You're 18 and would have sex with a 13 year old? DISGUSTING.

[TwiinStar1224]

@tayboox33 and your a youtube troll who has nothing better to do with their life than comment on a comment from a year ago. Why not leave a comment that has to do with the video you fool. And btw how much older is your dad than your mom? I bet around 5 years is the answer.

[tayboox33]

@TwiinStar1224 Lol what? I'm not a youtube troll... in fact I never make "troll comments" and I don't consider that a troll comment. I didn't even notice it was from a year ago. My dad is actually only 3 years older, but it's COMPLETELY different when they are both adults. If you don't see the difference in a 38 year old man being with a 28 year old woman, & a 20 year old man, being with a 10 year old CHILD or "wanting to tap dat ass", then you're really messed up in the head.

[SPARKWISDOM]

@TwiinStar1224 @tayboox33 Hey ya'll! Thanks for watching. Remember, it's not personal. This was just a video about MY opinion. Let's keep the comments as they're related to the video. You BOTH had thoughtful comments and truly, it's a different world now than it was years ago. Children are starting to have sex younger because of all the hormones that are raging. My goal is to inform and hopefully inspire my daughters' to wait. Thanks ya'll again for commenting!

[lilnichi]

I think you it's GREAT for you to have that bond with your kids like that! My mom always had that type of conversation with me but was very understanding of me. I like to talk to her about guys and the way they act, and he'll incorporate her own experience in her advice. Over time, I think that bond has grown because she is aware of what I do and it has made our bond so strong. You remind me of her! I love the vid and I'm so glad that u talk with your daughter the way u do. It's so important!

[SPARKWISDOM]

@lilnichi wonderful! Moms and daughter's have to bond and communicate. I pray that I can always be wise enough to know what to say to encourage her to move forward as a virtuous woman.

[Rook3800]

This is crazy a 13 yr old having a baby. Im 21 and I was raised by my Grandparents so maybe its old fashioned values but my family is Catholic and my Grandmother always told me to wait until I get married to have Relations. It wasn't until I started high school that I realized people of my generation are crazy. Keep it in your pants people of my generation. What has the world come too. God our father help our children please.

[SPARKWISDOM]

@rook3800 I agree "God our Father, help our children please."

[Rook3800]

your videos are very enjoyable keep them coming.

[SPARKWISDOM]

@Rook3800 Thank you and thanks for watching!

[Rook3800]

@SPARKWISDOM your very welcome I really enjoyed the video you seem like a very wise women.

[dish9901]

I was watching your hair product videos when I came upon your video talking to your daughters. I think you are a great mom. I have two sons and one is about to go to middle school this year and I am scared to think about what he will now have to deal with. I am trying to prepare him now and hopefully, he will make some good choices. Thanks for sharing your special moments with your daughters.

[SPARKWISDOM]

@dis9901 I work daily at being a better mom. I want them to know that I will ALWAYS be there for them. God has not given you the spirit of fear...but of POWER, LOVE and a SOUND MIND.Talk to him NOW, watch the movie KIDS with him and talk about these girls. The girls' are aggressive. Tell him not to allow them to suck on him or show him their cookies. He will make good choices...NO WORRIES.

[dish9901]

You are so kind. Thank you!

[msfullroller]

13 is too late to start talking to kids about sex. This needs to happen as early as 8-9 years old because they are starting to experiment that young and girls can start their cycles as early as 9-10 yrs old. I was 10 but Mom started talking to me LONG b4 that. I am forever grateful for that. It warms my heart to see you teaching your kids. Keep it up Sis!

[SPARKWISDOM]

@msfullroller I'm glad your mom talked to you! I started about 3 talking about good touch/bad touch. I stopped washing their privates at that time. I explained that NO ONE should ever touch them there and included mommies and daddies too. I want them to know that the are precious jewels and that anyone that they choose should be their spouse because they matter that much.

[shedozi]

Yes, it's true these kids are asking ques we didnt ask until we were late in or teens. I remember signing a sex ed discussion permission slip for my daughter when she was in middle school. She came home &said, "Mom everything you told me was right!. I'm glad a didnt lie to her when she asked ques. They showed pics of STDs & scared them 2 death.I think kids should know what dangers lie ahead. aabstinence should be taught as well as safe sex. THX again 4 sharing your video. Be Blessed!

[SPARKWISDOM]

@shedozi the schools show those crazy pics! I remember those too. I just think that they're way too unrealistic to those kids. The reality is the hurt, disappointment, HIV and BABIES are more true. I think they should bring in the actual teens to talk to them. Thanks for watching!

[tl82685]

Hey Tina,my name is Teena also.I came to your page because I went natural and wanted to view your homemade products.However I watched your video talking to your daughter and I loved it,thank you so much.I have two younger kids and its scary to think of the day Im going to have to talk to them about sex.I admire the relationship you have with your daughter and you are doing such a great job.Thank you for letting us see a personal moment in yall relationship.Stay Blessed :)

[SPARKWISDOM]

@tl82685 Thanks for taking time to watch! Yes, you will be talking about sex. Just make it natural and bring up references about marriage when you discuss it. Remember, if you don't those kids at school will. We have to teach our kids what's normal instead of what social media says is normal. You'll be fine, I'll be here for you!

[angelsnupnup7reborn]

Peace 4 ever & always, Glad 2 meet a good mother. You & your daughter almost look like twins. RespectU

[SPARKWISDOM]

@angelsnupnup7reborn I do my very best to be a good mom and work hard to get better. She's my "mini-me" LOL!

[shedozi]

Great video! I have been answering questions about where babies come from, what is sex,why do ladies have periods? etc. ever since my oldest was 8 years old. (my girls are now 16 & 19) It wasnt my plan to discuss these subjects so early but when they asked, I knew I had to respond before they went elsewhere for answers. You have a beautiful relationship with your daughter!.It's so important especially in this day and age...Be blessed and continue to inspire those around you!

[SPARKWISDOM]

@shedozi Thankss! 8? Wow, these kids know it so we MUST tell them the truth. I talk about how at their age it WILL hurt and they have a high chance of contracting a STD and being called names AND hurt. I refuse to continue the single mom cycle in my family.

[oulove935]

I LOVE the level of comfort and trust you have with your daughter especially now when almost EVERYthing is shown on TV. I know about the concentric zone theory...my classes aren't going to waste lol. If I could share one piece of advice w/your daughter is she's worth the wait. Guys are ALWAYS persistent as long as there is a female willing to give it up. Don't put yourself in a situation that you can avoid. God does not tempt you beyond what He knows you are able to bear. I Cor. 10:13 be blessed

[SPARKWISDOM]

@oulove935 She read your advice, thank you. We are all worth the wait. If we would value ourselves more, we would raise the bar and guess what? The men would rise with our standards too. She's a sweetie and we've come a LONG way in our relationship. Mainly, it's me being prayed up and kind.

[BIGBKELtheGOD]

LOL at 0:56!

When you said, "It's not my daughter."

She confirmed it loud and clear with a "NO"!

[SPARKWISDOM]

@BIGBKELtheGOD LOL! She KNOWS that she is destined for greatness. She can have babies in her 30s when she AND her husband are ready. :)

[NATURALCAPRICORN23]

wow, that was so awesome. thank god for single moms like you. i am also a single mom raiising two young men. my oldest is eighteen and yes he is still a virgin. i am so proud of him. he is going to college in the fall and he has his head on right. we have a wonderful close open relationship. i have talked to him and his brother about sex from day one. we have to keep our children informed and healthy and alive. they are our future.. god bless you keep up the talking.. love your vids..

[SPARKWISDOM]

@NATURALCAPRICORN23 I am so proud of your son too! Tell him to save himself, he is so worth it. Our young men need to understand that it is not "cool" or "fun" to have sex, an emotional attachment and no physical ties. We have to educate and inform our youth. Thank God you're educating your awesome sons. They'll one day be marrying wonderful daughters! Thanks for watching!

[memyselfandlifevideo]

Ahh, how sweet. You have a lovely daughter. She is just like you, a great communicator.

Yes, when I was 12 in the seventh grade, my friend was pregnant (she was 12 and had a baby girl). Her mom had her when she was a teenager. Her Grandmother had her mom when she was a teenager as well. Its great you are talking to your daughters early.

Good Job...

[SPARKWISDOM]

@memyselfandlifevideo Thanks! She is my sweetie! Yes, we have to start early...I couldn't even imagine sex at 12...I was scared at 18!