I agree with this fine women,from my point of view Alot of black females only date thug niggas.They wait until that good guy has a nice house and a nice car and then thats when they want the good man,when that thug leaves them with a gazillion kids and leaves,that's when that women who turned you down prior wants you!,but by then it's to late lol so boo hoo hoo.:(
i'm glad to see that their are still open minded strong women that do not label all men as dogs. because i know that i am not a dog and i know a lot of other men that are not dogs as well. but to keep it real their are men who are dogs! i myself has always wondered why (some) women choose to be with guys who beat them,cheat on them, abuse them mentally. is it low self esteem, maybe they grew up with an abusive father in the home and maybe they think that it's normal. women wake up.
I'm impressed, not only are you wise but you are beautiful. I know most of us guys only focus on the visual but I'm really trying to learn to focus on intangible, more important qualities such as mind, emotions and spirit. I was once told by a girl that I was shallow because I said she looked nice, Lmao. That was a bad experience but it did teach me about focusing on more nonphysical things from now on. I know you were speaking to ladies but I can also apply this to me. Great video, thanks :)
so this is why i have problems keeping a woman??..i bring a lot to the table...i have my own house car good job..and im ready to settle down..the last 2 females i was dealing with ran from me..the first 1 was she was afraid.. and she was listening to other people..smh!! the last one..she told me that things were to intense with us..basically she couldnt focus on anything else but me..smh again!!.. women want a good man and when its in there face they run..what are your thoughts on that?
Except the men get praise and promote that all/most women are shallow gold digging sluts and only a small few are good and they are hard to find.
Guys have the same amount of lists and they often don't bring much to the table. Look all at all the ugly/average guys who a hot girl and want to judge girls on their looks but want the hotties to judge them on their personality.
LMAO at this king/queen bs only good part was the love yourself bit
Very well put Loved One. I have found that many want to get,but not give. They want all these beautiful things in a person,and relationship,but don't want to work for it.
Well said Shanel, I agree with you 100%. I always ask women who say, "that all men r dogs" Have u dated every man on the planet, and of course they reply "no". And then I say do u think it's fair to label all men in that catergory. How would u feel if men were to say that about all women. My philosophy is you receive what u put out. A lot of of women have very unrealistic ways of thinking. Most of them expect to be swept of their feet like Cinderella. They want so much, but don't have ish...
I DO NOT AGREE WITH HER SHE IS PROBABLY ONE OF THOSE WHO GIVE ADVICE ABOUT GETTING OR KEEPING A MAN AND DOESN'T HAVE ONE HERSELF OR CAN'T KEEP ONE HERSELF.. I DO AGREE THAT U MUST BRING THE SAME TO THE TABLE BUT A WOMAN HAS EVERY RIGHT TO SAY WHAT SHE DOESN'T WANT IN A MAN WHETHER HER BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND IS LIKE THAT KNOWING WHAT U DON'T WANT IS HALF THE BATTLE ONCE U FIGURE OUT WHAT U DO WANT U CAN MOVE TOWARD GETTING WHAT U WANT SHE SEEMS QUITE STUCK UP TO ME
@Blahblahblahman I beg to differ, I am 46 & damn proud that I can honestly say I have never cheated, or abused a woman. Even though I'm a borderline atheist, I'd put my hand on a bible & swear on it. I'd even take a polygraph test, if you wanna pay for it.
FINALLY a woman that understands! A beautiful woman as a bonus. Too many women dump "boring" guys for "bad boys." Look at the "boring" guys ladies, odds are they are MEN that do the tedious things like work, & are responsible with money etc. A "bad boy" tend to be exciting, but will he stay once the newness has faded? Will he be a good father? Will treat you well? Will he be faithful?
yes all men are dogs in your bitch mind . you know how this world exist ? the way your mind set and your mind set is a bitch that is why u think all men are dogs .
All men ARE "dogs". They may not all even be assholes and they may mean well, but they will cheat on you... whether it be physically, emotionally, or mentally (desiring/drooling after other women). It's in a man's "biology" to be unfaithful and to want to fuck many women, no matter how old they get.
There is no such thing as a "good man". Men don't deserve women, and they will never understand how to treat a woman. They will ever understand what women need emotionally, mentally, etc.
Diablo mami tu si estas buena. I believe all men are not dogs and I am a dog my self. I believe that my mind is incorrigible. I would never change. I believe some women just aren't attracted to the typically nice guy. Some guys might be too boring, some of them might be weird in a sense. I also believe that most men in relationships are not looking to cheat on their mates, but rather women are out there throwing it and for the most part, it is hard to resist.
this is an awesome Video... im sure Women everywhere was thinking it was a Men bashing one.. SIKE........... yall got fooled....... stop looking for an NBA, NFL Baller to pay ur bills... Heck I am Richly Supplied,,, but I dont pay bills for women... You Some women use their Pretty faces to get by... but Pretty Hips Lips and FIngertips dont put gas in my BENZ.. just saying,,,,
These gems coming from a light skin beautiful sister who probably has never had problems attracting men. Although there are sisters that are not realistic and look for men far out their league and have crazy expectations but what about the sisters who are not like that? Many of these sisters have their flaws of course but are pretty much together and still have problems with not just loser men but even brothers who are successful or supposedly spiritual but straight up cheating dogs.
@718nYse That's why she said that in some case its true that good women attract bad men (0.20-0.22)...she isn't talking about ALL women, she is talking about the ones you have just mentioned- the one with the crazy expectations. And please don't start the whole light skin/dark skin thing- its' getting so tired. You can be dark skinned and still be beautiful and attract men. As a community we really need to stop dividing ourselves like that.
These gems coming from a light skin beautiful sister who probably has never had problems attracting men. Although their are sisters that are not realistic and look for men far out their league an havecrazy expectations but what about the other sisters who are not like that? Many are them are sisters who of course have their false but are pretty much together and still have problems with not just loser men but even brothers who who successful but straight up cheating dogs.
What is a good man??? A man who provides for his family & pay bills? A man who is christian/ God fearing man? A man who can give you guidance & is a seeker of knowledge? A man not concern with things of the world? A man who is physically strong? What is a good man? Even if every man decide to get married to one woman that still leaves million & I mean millions of woman single! Just face the fact that we live in a culture that really damage most black men & still does!
I agree with what you are saying but there are a lot of women including myself who are cute in great shape and stable and love ourselves. But the problem is you have men out there who dont know what they want. when they get something good they dont know how to treat it. You can be all that and they still cheat. If there are good men out there can you tell me where they are at and do you have a good man yourself. But i like what you wrote real talk
Hi. I had a man telling ME, that men are dogs. hehe. When that is said, i agree with you on most of it. I don't want one like me,I want one that bring new thoughts and ideas to the table.New interests. Also, you cant hold on to your man forever if a woman things that sex is the only way to hold on to him.In the long run.he will be bored and go somewhere else. He needs to love you for you as you are. Focus on love and not attitude and having way to big an ego. Egoes does not nurish the soul
Thank u4 making this Video. I have heard women saying this year after year & I have mentioned the same things 2 them that u have said in this video. I find that so many woman I have very unreasonable prerequisites. Many of these woman can care less about a recession lol they just want want want & say nothing about what they will give n return. & as they grow older they get even more bitter,, because they can't find the white Knight to ride in & make them rich. So I thank u,, 4 seeing this
I dont care this video never gets old..well none of her videos get old..Wisdom lasts FOREVER!! I had to listen to this one this morning and it was the perfect medicine!! Peace and Blessings Shanel!!
You better go girl!!!!!!! So Ture!!!! So True!!!!!!!it's just like you get what you pay for, you pay cheap, you get cheap, same with life you act cheap you get cheap. Change you for the better and you will get better!!!!!! Amen!!!!!!My motto this year is "When you know better you do better" Your King or Queen is out there, just be patient When your ready God will send them!!!!!!!!! Be Blessed Thanks Sis for that ♥
You better go girl!!!!!!! So Ture!!!! So True!!!!!!!it's just like you get what you pay for, you pay cheap, you get cheap, same with life you act cheap you get cheap. Change you for the better and you will get better!!!!!! Amen!!!!!!My motto this year is "When you know better you do better" Your King or Queen is out there, just be patient When your ready God will send them!!!!!!!!! Be Blessed Thanks Sis for that ♥
u cant judge all men by the few experiences that u happen to have. That's just not fair. I could say that all women are prostitutes based on what i have seen in my life but that's not right ethier. You should aim accusations such as that to the INDIVIDUAL, not the gender they belong to.
what the fuck is this hair cut? oh no do you feel like strapped in a man's body sometime and felt the need to cut your hair like a man? poor woman you are sick
Respect. Stop being disrespectful. It's that easy. The more disrespectful you are, the more likely it is that the man you DO get is the type that just doesn't give a **** about anything, much less you.
Thank you, Shanelcooper, for being honest with yourself and others, and standing up for family and fairness.
ALL MAN! WOW A NUBIAN WOMEN SPEAKING THE TRUTH!!!!!! WHEN THE BLACKMAN SPEAK'S THE FACTS WE ARE EVIL!!!!! WELL, I LOVE YOU FOR BEING NUBIAN AND PUSHING THE FACTS! I WISH WE COULD CLLONE YOU SO MANY OF US NUBAIN MAN WANT ONLY NUBIAN WOMEN BUT SOME OF US HAVE JUMPED SHIP THANK YOU... YOU LOOK LIKE MAAT THE EMPRESS FROM OUR CULTURE IN ANCIENT EGIPT, AND YOU HAVE HER ENERGY AND WISDOM!!
Thank you sista for being one of the few thats taken notice of the fact that there are plenty of good black men out there. Too much stuff in the media just bashing an tearing down black men (and women). Glad to finally hear some love from the sistahs speakin on our behalf! BTW You are beautiful and its not just because of your face!
any woman who says there are no good men, probably only date bad men, im in highschool, and i do notice the douchebags get all the girls, many of those girls deserve much better.
you are so absolutely EXTRAORDINARY! I can not believe it.... I pray GOD in heaven rain down sooooo many blessing upon your life that you cant handle it.
Good message sweetheart. It's just to bad that it's falling on to many deaf ears. What you said is to intelligent for hoodrats to understand. So they are going to keep on trying their best to dig for gold.
Most people gotta realise that relationships are about accepting other peoples bullshit and vice versa. Plus each person in dat relationship has gotta remember its not just about them
Maybe yall can't find a good man because he might be a non-believer. I think i'm a great guy, but there are NO BLACK FEMALES around who would even talk to an atheist. Also, when did submissiveness= power? Submission is the ANTITHESIS OF POWER!!!
Want to know what happens to good men? They become smarter about relationships and choose not to do them for it becomes a financial and emotional liability. She's in that 10% of decent women who thinks logically like I do as a man. Fact is when a guy has nothing to give a woman but love and ambition for a greater future in life ends up in constant failed relationships that wasn't his fault, future relationships lose value because the only thing extra you have to offer a woman is material.
I AGREE WITH MOST OF WHAT YOU SAY I JUST WONDER WHY BLACK WOMEN DO NOT APPRECIATE GOOD BLACK MEN . STANGE I WORK I TAKE OF MY HOME BUT MY WIFE DOESNT WORK ( THE SISTER HAS HAD TOOO MANY BAD RELATIONSHSIPS PRIOR TO ME )WELL TALK TO BLACK WOMEN WHO NEED TO LUV THEMSELVES AND STOP CHOOSING LOSER BROTHERS AND THEN HATEING GOOD BROTHERS.
I gotta lotta love for you sister!!!! I mean men have their moments too, but this is the first time I'm hearing a woman actually say something that's well grounded and I have a lot of respect for you. Good reasoning.
females I run into want lots of material attention some even wants me to get a job that pays more (but I like my job and I make descent money) but some females wants so much more then what they cant do for themselves (no job, no car ,can never hold a job) if they have money its from there parents who have money but that's not the same as a women holding her own and who is truly independent and who don't mind helping her man when he's down, knowing he will get back up and back in the game.
So true! It's all about being ready to receive good things in life and being in the place you expect your partner to be. Loving yourself and focusing your energies on making yourself the best person you can be is so important. And not just arrogant lip-service about how much you love yourself. I love that you made this video!
all Men are dogs,yeaah agree..... but not so much!
so hard so find the right man,who lives for love and care about emotions and the happiness of other ppls r around,yh but I'll keep thinkin about it like what u said
btw ,is this office in ur house,soooooooooo cool! i
ya know what !!!!!!!!!!!? I like u girl - Im a black male and I think u would be the girl that I would like to be with ! I mean I dont know u but ...... 1st impressions last right ?
ya know what !!!!!!!!!!!? I like u girl - Im a black male and I think u would be the girl that I would like to be with ! I mean I dont know u but ...... 1st impressions last right ?
Love this video, Shanel love the words of wisdom you provide!!! I wish females all over the world shared the same thoughts you do... Would make dating all that much easier!
A powerful word spoken in due season; keep up to awesome work. For the Lord has His hand upon this work. Prayer: It is my prayer that the Lord God would grace you with all the inner wisdom you need; in order, to continue writing to fulfill His glory in your life. God bless you.
Steve Harvey couldn't have said it better....oh wait he did, he said the exact same thing in his book " Act like a lady, Think like a man"....time to get some origional material for your vids hun.
OMG!!! This young lady hit it right on the freaking head of the nail!!! OMG, I have never heard it put this well, other than once I had a speech!!! OMG!!!
Young lady, I so freaking agree, I just wish everyone looked at it this way
I agree, aligning yourself with your own expectations of someone else is very important. Wanting honesty begets BEING honest, right? And this is all well and good and while men may not have the same issues with loving themselves that women do, men are also widely guilty of unrealistic expectations and ideals.
Furthermore, what are these "GOOD MEN" proactively doing to find someone on their level? Are they aligning themselves? Are they making the same efforts? Well MORE than enough "Dogs" are.
gul u need to shut da hell up u do not kno wat u talkin bout every man is a dog if dey got a dick dey will cheat lie all of dat bullshit. ion kno where u from but where we from..men is dogs..even da good men so i think u need to check yo man again an u might find wat u been overlookin cuz u givin dem too much credit an bangin dey head up so wen u open yo eyes an realize wat we sayin..u gon be like damnnnn dem bitches was right
@lilsista2007 you obviously first of all are not worth a good man just by how you talk....if i seen you outside in public and heard you speaking like this, i wouldn't even approach you. So ye all the good men are steering far clear from you.
Inside the journal of a black man. Searching for true happiness. Why is it so hard to find? Are my standards set to high, does my tolerance level have flaws? Sometimes I question myself, but f-u-c-k that. I know what I want, and that is balance in a relationship. I'm not looking to be a sugar daddy, a one night stand, a can you pay my bills man, a quicky, or a nigga on the side. I look for harmody in a woman. Most men look for plutonic relationship not a toxic ones.
Wow, why can't I find a woman like you? I love your honesty, it's really refreshing. You are extremely open minded and intelligent. Thank you for this video <3
Finally, a woman that speaks the truth. I feel that I'm a good man and will someday make a great husband to a woman, but I'm not gonna bring my chips to the table if a woman aint ready. Just like women get tired of broke down dudes, men get tired of draggin dead weight, I know that I do. You need to write a book woman and put these women on some real talk.
Very good points!
jazmyneclash 1 month ago
I love black woman with short/natural hair
Dacky1989 1 month ago
I agree with this fine women,from my point of view Alot of black females only date thug niggas.They wait until that good guy has a nice house and a nice car and then thats when they want the good man,when that thug leaves them with a gazillion kids and leaves,that's when that women who turned you down prior wants you!,but by then it's to late lol so boo hoo hoo.:(
MegaPsycho84 1 month ago
Im ready to walk into your life...
Onemillionmoney 1 month ago
Thank you so much for posting this video. You speak the truth and you answered a few questions for me.
larrymalone96 2 months ago
genius
luckywolfgirlsbx 3 months ago
i'm glad to see that their are still open minded strong women that do not label all men as dogs. because i know that i am not a dog and i know a lot of other men that are not dogs as well. but to keep it real their are men who are dogs! i myself has always wondered why (some) women choose to be with guys who beat them,cheat on them, abuse them mentally. is it low self esteem, maybe they grew up with an abusive father in the home and maybe they think that it's normal. women wake up.
scottpaul39 3 months ago 2
You are so right, love the video! You are simply beautiful!
lee2tre 3 months ago
i cant stand that "woe is me" syndrome...but i agree good people are everywhere!! and u gotta give to recieve.
ebeledi 3 months ago
I'm impressed, not only are you wise but you are beautiful. I know most of us guys only focus on the visual but I'm really trying to learn to focus on intangible, more important qualities such as mind, emotions and spirit. I was once told by a girl that I was shallow because I said she looked nice, Lmao. That was a bad experience but it did teach me about focusing on more nonphysical things from now on. I know you were speaking to ladies but I can also apply this to me. Great video, thanks :)
RandomUsername010 3 months ago
so this is why i have problems keeping a woman??..i bring a lot to the table...i have my own house car good job..and im ready to settle down..the last 2 females i was dealing with ran from me..the first 1 was she was afraid.. and she was listening to other people..smh!! the last one..she told me that things were to intense with us..basically she couldnt focus on anything else but me..smh again!!.. women want a good man and when its in there face they run..what are your thoughts on that?
DunnDem 4 months ago
I have a good man :]
Khristle402 4 months ago
No different from men complaining about women.
Except the men get praise and promote that all/most women are shallow gold digging sluts and only a small few are good and they are hard to find.
Guys have the same amount of lists and they often don't bring much to the table. Look all at all the ugly/average guys who a hot girl and want to judge girls on their looks but want the hotties to judge them on their personality.
LMAO at this king/queen bs only good part was the love yourself bit
udolipixie 4 months ago
Very well put Loved One. I have found that many want to get,but not give. They want all these beautiful things in a person,and relationship,but don't want to work for it.
Nubias 5 months ago
Well said Shanel, I agree with you 100%. I always ask women who say, "that all men r dogs" Have u dated every man on the planet, and of course they reply "no". And then I say do u think it's fair to label all men in that catergory. How would u feel if men were to say that about all women. My philosophy is you receive what u put out. A lot of of women have very unrealistic ways of thinking. Most of them expect to be swept of their feet like Cinderella. They want so much, but don't have ish...
tammybr100 5 months ago
I DO NOT AGREE WITH HER SHE IS PROBABLY ONE OF THOSE WHO GIVE ADVICE ABOUT GETTING OR KEEPING A MAN AND DOESN'T HAVE ONE HERSELF OR CAN'T KEEP ONE HERSELF.. I DO AGREE THAT U MUST BRING THE SAME TO THE TABLE BUT A WOMAN HAS EVERY RIGHT TO SAY WHAT SHE DOESN'T WANT IN A MAN WHETHER HER BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND IS LIKE THAT KNOWING WHAT U DON'T WANT IS HALF THE BATTLE ONCE U FIGURE OUT WHAT U DO WANT U CAN MOVE TOWARD GETTING WHAT U WANT SHE SEEMS QUITE STUCK UP TO ME
Sanetha3900 6 months ago
That's a wise lady right there!
Kinosis79 6 months ago
just cuz you got a overdose of dick doesnt mean you should call men dogs
Ash12241991 6 months ago
bitch get a man
ugotmefukdup412 6 months ago
@ugotmefukdup412 hoe you should be on yo knees likcing a clit right now. fuck you mean ;)
Gangsta95758 4 months ago
Great dating advice....we have more men as dogs in LA, but we aren't giving up!
BadOnlineDates 7 months ago
PREACH! To call men dogs is actually a compliment when you consider the true nature of Dogs. People get what they're worth.
WhiteWoodEnt 7 months ago
@Blahblahblahman I beg to differ, I am 46 & damn proud that I can honestly say I have never cheated, or abused a woman. Even though I'm a borderline atheist, I'd put my hand on a bible & swear on it. I'd even take a polygraph test, if you wanna pay for it.
Big0Red0Biker 7 months ago
FINALLY a woman that understands! A beautiful woman as a bonus. Too many women dump "boring" guys for "bad boys." Look at the "boring" guys ladies, odds are they are MEN that do the tedious things like work, & are responsible with money etc. A "bad boy" tend to be exciting, but will he stay once the newness has faded? Will he be a good father? Will treat you well? Will he be faithful?
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DaSharkAgetoldmeto 7 months ago
women know all men aren't dogs.thats just some shit u say after u fail
repeatedly&repeated failure comes from poor choices or something u
lack. Many people need 2b by themselves&dont even realize it&keep
trying&failing blaming other people 4 each failure.There are people who
bring nothing&expect everything. Selfish 2 the core w high standards
4 everyone but low accomplishments 4themselves. This is common
now days due 2an epidemic of vanity & selfishness.
Bringing silver but expecting diamond.
DoomCity202 7 months ago
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So True! I Agree!!
JayBlount23 7 months ago
Shanel, I love you videos, I had sent a message in your inbox, can you please check that out thanks!
MsSubmitVideos 7 months ago
yes all men are dogs in your bitch mind . you know how this world exist ? the way your mind set and your mind set is a bitch that is why u think all men are dogs .
satansatan777 7 months ago
All men ARE "dogs". They may not all even be assholes and they may mean well, but they will cheat on you... whether it be physically, emotionally, or mentally (desiring/drooling after other women). It's in a man's "biology" to be unfaithful and to want to fuck many women, no matter how old they get.
There is no such thing as a "good man". Men don't deserve women, and they will never understand how to treat a woman. They will ever understand what women need emotionally, mentally, etc.
blahblahblahman 7 months ago
abundance, what a joke! lol sex sex is all these boys want.
Fatal616 7 months ago
Diablo mami tu si estas buena. I believe all men are not dogs and I am a dog my self. I believe that my mind is incorrigible. I would never change. I believe some women just aren't attracted to the typically nice guy. Some guys might be too boring, some of them might be weird in a sense. I also believe that most men in relationships are not looking to cheat on their mates, but rather women are out there throwing it and for the most part, it is hard to resist.
TSGS21 7 months ago
22 people are outta shape!!! lol
koolaidofthegtwins 7 months ago
THANKS SISTER!! YOUR THE BEST!!
malcolm2746 7 months ago
If all men are dogs,all woman are bitches (thats what female dogs are called)
deividas56 8 months ago
amen my sister....thanks for sticking up for us dogs.
Josh18R 8 months ago
All women are pussies
Dakotamiz 8 months ago
ALL men no that may never be the case those women are just stupid
MrSuprise22 8 months ago
Thanks for help setting the record straight shannell
Tquarius1 8 months ago
How u been Chanel....(good)
ironically the women that say all men are dogs are the ones who actively
seek thugs & weak bitch ass nigreaus that have no real plans in life.
Ask them what their plan is they will say some broad shit like "get paid"
Choices u make shape ur life out here.
Niggas always want to cry when they losing but its all good when
they were getting free coach&fendi bags & weekly hair dues
Study these niggas choices&see who wins&who loses.
Follow the winners.
That Simple!
DoomCity202 8 months ago
@DoomCity202 So thugs & bums are the only ones who mistreat women, YEAH RIGHT.
bread1000 7 months ago
@bread1000 well a person can only do 2u what u allow them 2. so if
u tolerate a lot of shit chances are u will be mistreated. I was telling my
boy today it makes no sense 2argue wi a woman about something more
than once..if u express 2her that something she does bothers u & u
stay w her anyway she will keep on doing it because u tolerate it. So it
works both ways. If ur 2 weak 2 leave not argue leave then u will
get treated however.
If u settle 4 less u will get less than what u settled 4.
DoomCity202 7 months ago
wow, I am very appreciative of your openness to speak the truth!
Klimatik 8 months ago
this is an awesome Video... im sure Women everywhere was thinking it was a Men bashing one.. SIKE........... yall got fooled....... stop looking for an NBA, NFL Baller to pay ur bills... Heck I am Richly Supplied,,, but I dont pay bills for women... You Some women use their Pretty faces to get by... but Pretty Hips Lips and FIngertips dont put gas in my BENZ.. just saying,,,,
Francojacko 8 months ago
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all women are materialistic!!
33ehsan 9 months ago
you have to be good to find a good man, bitch!!
33ehsan 9 months ago
These gems coming from a light skin beautiful sister who probably has never had problems attracting men. Although there are sisters that are not realistic and look for men far out their league and have crazy expectations but what about the sisters who are not like that? Many of these sisters have their flaws of course but are pretty much together and still have problems with not just loser men but even brothers who are successful or supposedly spiritual but straight up cheating dogs.
718nYse 9 months ago
@718nYse That's why she said that in some case its true that good women attract bad men (0.20-0.22)...she isn't talking about ALL women, she is talking about the ones you have just mentioned- the one with the crazy expectations. And please don't start the whole light skin/dark skin thing- its' getting so tired. You can be dark skinned and still be beautiful and attract men. As a community we really need to stop dividing ourselves like that.
missffreedom2000 9 months ago
These gems coming from a light skin beautiful sister who probably has never had problems attracting men. Although their are sisters that are not realistic and look for men far out their league an havecrazy expectations but what about the other sisters who are not like that? Many are them are sisters who of course have their false but are pretty much together and still have problems with not just loser men but even brothers who who successful but straight up cheating dogs.
718nYse 9 months ago
What is a good man??? A man who provides for his family & pay bills? A man who is christian/ God fearing man? A man who can give you guidance & is a seeker of knowledge? A man not concern with things of the world? A man who is physically strong? What is a good man? Even if every man decide to get married to one woman that still leaves million & I mean millions of woman single! Just face the fact that we live in a culture that really damage most black men & still does!
KingWithoutACrown919 9 months ago
wolf wolf
YogaFlame24 9 months ago
let me taste that black pussy, i would eat her out for hours
KBoogs719 10 months ago
"When the Queen is ready the King will appear."
illuzuntv 10 months ago 7
She is so gorgeous. I'd marry her right now.
windwalker1313 10 months ago 13
I agree with what you are saying but there are a lot of women including myself who are cute in great shape and stable and love ourselves. But the problem is you have men out there who dont know what they want. when they get something good they dont know how to treat it. You can be all that and they still cheat. If there are good men out there can you tell me where they are at and do you have a good man yourself. But i like what you wrote real talk
HarrietS100 10 months ago
Tell them again and again. this is the nest i ever hear. God bless
MRMUTOONI 10 months ago
bitch shut up
ILOVESHAUN047 11 months ago
I can't get enough of this clip and this part....2:51
arouse0099 11 months ago
When the Queen is ready, the King will come. Love it!
krissybug 11 months ago
Hi. I had a man telling ME, that men are dogs. hehe. When that is said, i agree with you on most of it. I don't want one like me,I want one that bring new thoughts and ideas to the table.New interests. Also, you cant hold on to your man forever if a woman things that sex is the only way to hold on to him.In the long run.he will be bored and go somewhere else. He needs to love you for you as you are. Focus on love and not attitude and having way to big an ego. Egoes does not nurish the soul
angeldust2217 1 year ago
you make alot of sense i like you. you know what your saying hun
YELLOWdancer24 1 year ago
so true
kenyakeoni 1 year ago
I soulda never married the jerk..were the total opposite..the hell with " opposites attract" im too good for his ass...now hes a true DOG!
but good vid..makes sense..but not in all cases..not mine, i work, he dont..im fit, he aint..i can go on for days...
So0Nonchalant 1 year ago
Real Talk!
eazyduzitcpt 1 year ago
Thank u4 making this Video. I have heard women saying this year after year & I have mentioned the same things 2 them that u have said in this video. I find that so many woman I have very unreasonable prerequisites. Many of these woman can care less about a recession lol they just want want want & say nothing about what they will give n return. & as they grow older they get even more bitter,, because they can't find the white Knight to ride in & make them rich. So I thank u,, 4 seeing this
Majorjoy6565 1 year ago
I dont care this video never gets old..well none of her videos get old..Wisdom lasts FOREVER!! I had to listen to this one this morning and it was the perfect medicine!! Peace and Blessings Shanel!!
CallieShabazz123 1 year ago
Amen sista!!!'
tahiramickens95 1 year ago
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You better go girl!!!!!!! So Ture!!!! So True!!!!!!!it's just like you get what you pay for, you pay cheap, you get cheap, same with life you act cheap you get cheap. Change you for the better and you will get better!!!!!! Amen!!!!!!My motto this year is "When you know better you do better" Your King or Queen is out there, just be patient When your ready God will send them!!!!!!!!! Be Blessed Thanks Sis for that ♥
Kalimakiaro510 1 year ago
You better go girl!!!!!!! So Ture!!!! So True!!!!!!!it's just like you get what you pay for, you pay cheap, you get cheap, same with life you act cheap you get cheap. Change you for the better and you will get better!!!!!! Amen!!!!!!My motto this year is "When you know better you do better" Your King or Queen is out there, just be patient When your ready God will send them!!!!!!!!! Be Blessed Thanks Sis for that ♥
Kalimakiaro510 1 year ago
only women that say all men are dog are bitch's and that all they get is dogs cuz that you oppisite
Thre3KProductions 1 year ago
SAOMEONE MUST HAVE REALLY F@## OVER YOU NOT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME BABE
letsshoot53 1 year ago
SAOMEONE MUST HAVE REALLY F@## OVER YOU
letsshoot53 1 year ago
u cant judge all men by the few experiences that u happen to have. That's just not fair. I could say that all women are prostitutes based on what i have seen in my life but that's not right ethier. You should aim accusations such as that to the INDIVIDUAL, not the gender they belong to.
ninjaaman08 1 year ago
what the fuck is this hair cut? oh no do you feel like strapped in a man's body sometime and felt the need to cut your hair like a man? poor woman you are sick
ExecuteToT 1 year ago
Say im 19 and u kept it real on this shit mayne. cuz these fee's out here in houston got that same attitude. and them hoes prostitute for free
studewood1 1 year ago
THIS WOMEN IS BEAUTIFUL!!!!
lemonlime818 1 year ago
Im a brotha and i learned a lo from this :)
eddierob 1 year ago
you look a bit like lisa raye
love83forever 1 year ago
shes actually making me wanna shave me hair now
groovy2yetty 1 year ago
amen...and thankyou that goes both ways..
chucktownKidsc 1 year ago
you couldn't have said it many better then that
GriffinKN 1 year ago
Thank you for highlighting the fact that a lot of women don't consider what they are bringing into a relationship =]
Copywrightmyass1 1 year ago
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Yes we are here :-)
80mthomas 1 year ago
16 people have NPD. (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).
dumbestname 1 year ago 12
I think i love her
BigDaddyFraz 1 year ago
this video is official....REAL spoken words..
tucarameloalways 1 year ago
wow hot and intelligent
abcanz 1 year ago
I am so into you, thanks for posting, it makes me feel good to see!!!
brotherfuture 1 year ago
Now this is a real, smart, amazing WOMAN right here...we need more people like you...
8989edgar 1 year ago
Y cant i find a woman like u.
justinchayce 1 year ago
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You keeping it straight real... God is dealing with u.
justinchayce 1 year ago
You keeping straight real... God is dealing with u.
justinchayce 1 year ago
Respect. Stop being disrespectful. It's that easy. The more disrespectful you are, the more likely it is that the man you DO get is the type that just doesn't give a **** about anything, much less you.
Thank you, Shanelcooper, for being honest with yourself and others, and standing up for family and fairness.
masaruX3 1 year ago
women complain a lot...
iteslabot 1 year ago
Thank you!
Paul
Pjazzyazz 1 year ago
I'm a woman and I totally agree with Shanel!!! Soooo refreshing to know you put this out.
sweettease30 1 year ago
DAng You FIZZINE! WOMAN!
Joesire 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this post. To hear this from a woman makes my day.
roundtree49 1 year ago
ALL MAN! WOW A NUBIAN WOMEN SPEAKING THE TRUTH!!!!!! WHEN THE BLACKMAN SPEAK'S THE FACTS WE ARE EVIL!!!!! WELL, I LOVE YOU FOR BEING NUBIAN AND PUSHING THE FACTS! I WISH WE COULD CLLONE YOU SO MANY OF US NUBAIN MAN WANT ONLY NUBIAN WOMEN BUT SOME OF US HAVE JUMPED SHIP THANK YOU... YOU LOOK LIKE MAAT THE EMPRESS FROM OUR CULTURE IN ANCIENT EGIPT, AND YOU HAVE HER ENERGY AND WISDOM!!
REISM1 1 year ago
I sometimes wish I WAS a dog :-)
gronkar66 1 year ago
Spac-Tabulous Video!! ;-)
ybcool 1 year ago
I love this video!
raslopez 1 year ago
outstanding
brooklynfinest08 1 year ago
you have to madly passionately fall in love with YOU!!
love it
msbaboolal 1 year ago
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Thank you sista for being one of the few thats taken notice of the fact that there are plenty of good black men out there. Too much stuff in the media just bashing an tearing down black men (and women). Glad to finally hear some love from the sistahs speakin on our behalf! BTW You are beautiful and its not just because of your face!
fmcneillii 1 year ago
any woman who says there are no good men, probably only date bad men, im in highschool, and i do notice the douchebags get all the girls, many of those girls deserve much better.
TheEnviroFriend 1 year ago
you are so absolutely EXTRAORDINARY! I can not believe it.... I pray GOD in heaven rain down sooooo many blessing upon your life that you cant handle it.
latabelleza 1 year ago
Can we go out Shanel?
madden82 1 year ago
i love you.ur perfect,i love ur mind n thought married me
binh555 1 year ago
I love your way of thinking, people... i really mean women, don't think like that. I'd love to help people who are BROKE, check my channel.
SmoothG88 1 year ago
Good message sweetheart. It's just to bad that it's falling on to many deaf ears. What you said is to intelligent for hoodrats to understand. So they are going to keep on trying their best to dig for gold.
sigma20xx 1 year ago
Simply Brilliant. Way to keep it real!
ACB3000 1 year ago
i completely agree wit this
spadesTPC 1 year ago
Your so pretty!
dearestjen 1 year ago
I'm in love!!!
dblueinferno 1 year ago
Every woman should see this video.
loqutor 1 year ago
Most people gotta realise that relationships are about accepting other peoples bullshit and vice versa. Plus each person in dat relationship has gotta remember its not just about them
JustinCredibleAMS 1 year ago
Preach Sista!
shan2kJ 1 year ago
Maybe yall can't find a good man because he might be a non-believer. I think i'm a great guy, but there are NO BLACK FEMALES around who would even talk to an atheist. Also, when did submissiveness= power? Submission is the ANTITHESIS OF POWER!!!
oakaveli 1 year ago
Want to know what happens to good men? They become smarter about relationships and choose not to do them for it becomes a financial and emotional liability. She's in that 10% of decent women who thinks logically like I do as a man. Fact is when a guy has nothing to give a woman but love and ambition for a greater future in life ends up in constant failed relationships that wasn't his fault, future relationships lose value because the only thing extra you have to offer a woman is material.
rickdarko 1 year ago
If you need a man personally I'm single now so what up? lol jk
skillian09 1 year ago
She ain't lied nay nay
eillnana1000 1 year ago
When the Queen is ready the King will appear.I loved that statement.
ALROBERTS2000 1 year ago
You Won't have that problem!! And Thank You so much for Posting!
hunibakatun 1 year ago
cute red bone ass looking all fly and talking like a diva..thats what im talking about..im not just subbing im loving
brickbandits09 1 year ago
A good cattle dog can do the work of 3 men pushing a herd of cattle...
DeWoodyard 1 year ago
Ladies please listen to this woman she is right. You want a good man first you have to be a good woman.
Demonicwolf300 1 year ago
but a woman finds a good man she runs him out...i guess my x wasnt ready for a good man
mm23203 1 year ago
Goddamn Sister, You are SOOO right! I am sick of the Feminist Backlash against Men for all these years!
apocalypto1 1 year ago
Yep I agree
Be the kind of person you want to become & that will attract those kind of people around you
YungHarmoni 1 year ago
I AGREE WITH MOST OF WHAT YOU SAY I JUST WONDER WHY BLACK WOMEN DO NOT APPRECIATE GOOD BLACK MEN . STANGE I WORK I TAKE OF MY HOME BUT MY WIFE DOESNT WORK ( THE SISTER HAS HAD TOOO MANY BAD RELATIONSHSIPS PRIOR TO ME )WELL TALK TO BLACK WOMEN WHO NEED TO LUV THEMSELVES AND STOP CHOOSING LOSER BROTHERS AND THEN HATEING GOOD BROTHERS.
SAIF70 1 year ago
marry me
rickytan04 1 year ago
OMG! she was spittin' fire!
gambit1357 1 year ago
I gotta lotta love for you sister!!!! I mean men have their moments too, but this is the first time I'm hearing a woman actually say something that's well grounded and I have a lot of respect for you. Good reasoning.
KhaosdragonPSN 1 year ago
BRILLIANT !!!
gihonjaya 1 year ago
Didn't hear a word she was saying.....just make em shake!
tbnunu12 1 year ago
Well done and well said young lady.
transmittransmit 1 year ago
females I run into want lots of material attention some even wants me to get a job that pays more (but I like my job and I make descent money) but some females wants so much more then what they cant do for themselves (no job, no car ,can never hold a job) if they have money its from there parents who have money but that's not the same as a women holding her own and who is truly independent and who don't mind helping her man when he's down, knowing he will get back up and back in the game.
rob46409 1 year ago
@rob46409 You make sense man.
FrantzBenjamin 1 year ago
So true! It's all about being ready to receive good things in life and being in the place you expect your partner to be. Loving yourself and focusing your energies on making yourself the best person you can be is so important. And not just arrogant lip-service about how much you love yourself. I love that you made this video!
byootifulmynd 1 year ago 5
all Men are dogs,yeaah agree..... but not so much!
so hard so find the right man,who lives for love and care about emotions and the happiness of other ppls r around,yh but I'll keep thinkin about it like what u said
btw ,is this office in ur house,soooooooooo cool! i
Maryfenty 1 year ago
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ALL women need to see this video!
8989edgar 1 year ago
ya know what !!!!!!!!!!!? I like u girl - Im a black male and I think u would be the girl that I would like to be with ! I mean I dont know u but ...... 1st impressions last right ?
mford50100 1 year ago
ya know what !!!!!!!!!!!? I like u girl - Im a black male and I think u would be the girl that I would like to be with ! I mean I dont know u but ...... 1st impressions last right ?
mford50100 1 year ago
nice boobs!!!!!!
GetzuCero 1 year ago
Chicken Head
anaheimLOUIe 1 year ago
Love this video, Shanel love the words of wisdom you provide!!! I wish females all over the world shared the same thoughts you do... Would make dating all that much easier!
Cjltravel 1 year ago
Amen!
TrueStoryTV 1 year ago
Agreed. It's like what Lye Jennings said in his song "Be the person you wanna find; don't be a nickel out her looking for a dime."
frisebelle 1 year ago 2
Wisdom!
MzDonylle 1 year ago
Tell it like it is mama!
jrperez8283 1 year ago
u got it u got it girl ;-) rock on
imdawoman 1 year ago
Thank you sister!!!! Big up yourself sister!!! very powerful message to those who are sincere!!
SutTekhEL 1 year ago
A powerful word spoken in due season; keep up to awesome work. For the Lord has His hand upon this work. Prayer: It is my prayer that the Lord God would grace you with all the inner wisdom you need; in order, to continue writing to fulfill His glory in your life. God bless you.
TheFellowship2010 1 year ago
wow your real will you marry me lol !!!!
tim2479 1 year ago
Steve Harvey couldn't have said it better....oh wait he did, he said the exact same thing in his book " Act like a lady, Think like a man"....time to get some origional material for your vids hun.
GloriaPW 1 year ago
OMG!!! This young lady hit it right on the freaking head of the nail!!! OMG, I have never heard it put this well, other than once I had a speech!!! OMG!!!
Young lady, I so freaking agree, I just wish everyone looked at it this way
drkchocol8princess 1 year ago
WOOF WOOF! HAHA
notabadguy06 1 year ago
I agree, aligning yourself with your own expectations of someone else is very important. Wanting honesty begets BEING honest, right? And this is all well and good and while men may not have the same issues with loving themselves that women do, men are also widely guilty of unrealistic expectations and ideals.
Furthermore, what are these "GOOD MEN" proactively doing to find someone on their level? Are they aligning themselves? Are they making the same efforts? Well MORE than enough "Dogs" are.
thefkncomplex 1 year ago
gul u need to shut da hell up u do not kno wat u talkin bout every man is a dog if dey got a dick dey will cheat lie all of dat bullshit. ion kno where u from but where we from..men is dogs..even da good men so i think u need to check yo man again an u might find wat u been overlookin cuz u givin dem too much credit an bangin dey head up so wen u open yo eyes an realize wat we sayin..u gon be like damnnnn dem bitches was right
lilsista2007 1 year ago
@lilsista2007 you obviously first of all are not worth a good man just by how you talk....if i seen you outside in public and heard you speaking like this, i wouldn't even approach you. So ye all the good men are steering far clear from you.
gtkconnectionz 1 year ago
Amen! Thanks for the reminder...
Switchplaytv 1 year ago
Inside the journal of a black man. Searching for true happiness. Why is it so hard to find? Are my standards set to high, does my tolerance level have flaws? Sometimes I question myself, but f-u-c-k that. I know what I want, and that is balance in a relationship. I'm not looking to be a sugar daddy, a one night stand, a can you pay my bills man, a quicky, or a nigga on the side. I look for harmody in a woman. Most men look for plutonic relationship not a toxic ones.
smoothshawn 1 year ago
Wow, why can't I find a woman like you? I love your honesty, it's really refreshing. You are extremely open minded and intelligent. Thank you for this video <3
Lokim23 1 year ago
tru
NiggaNo3 1 year ago
lmfaooo do u got a good man cuz if you dont im here o.O
someblackguy100 1 year ago
Finally, a woman that speaks the truth. I feel that I'm a good man and will someday make a great husband to a woman, but I'm not gonna bring my chips to the table if a woman aint ready. Just like women get tired of broke down dudes, men get tired of draggin dead weight, I know that I do. You need to write a book woman and put these women on some real talk.
MG44563 1 year ago
truth!
cbmuzik 1 year ago
WE ARE ALL DOGS UNDER THE SKIN,
observant09 1 year ago
wow well spoken !
doctorsex19 1 year ago
If you think this was something...check out her book "Stilettos in the Kitchen"...AMAZING!
gonnabfamous2003 1 year ago
omg u are the first woman that tells it how it is i agree with u and im going to subscribe to u :)
SpikedYum 1 year ago