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  • u are teh man

  • like your advice, going to try tonight, nervous but going to try and be confident

  • @275roger glad to hear that - yes, go for it - let me know what happens

  • this is not true actually when you give woman value (attention) like u say they will only ignore u really , why cuase woman think, if he chase me i run, if he runs i chase him

  • Step 1. Dont wear stupid sunglasses on your head. 2. don't wear a red leather motorcycle jacket ever. 3. don't have a gap in your teeth big enough to eat a cheeseburger through

  • @FlashingFountain lol. true dat.

  • Just bear her like a horse and lock her up in a cage, eventually she'll fear you enough to never leave you and will have sex with you when you want to.

  • I like what you're saying and it makes sense to me but that jacket is a nightmare. Just sayin.

  • Ok why is a man doing this shouldnt it be a woman. This is kind of stupid although some of your points are acctually quite affective your a man you dont know what woman want they may tell you but all woman are diffrent you need to know the woman you are trying to attract you have made some good points and alot of them will work on some woman but not all but cool video love your accent :P

  • this masculine feminine thing works..me raises my cock and she has her tits tight rigthaway

  • lol shutup that be yourself shit dont work

  • Most important thing is to be yourself, and if she doesnt like that, she doesnt deserve you :)

  • u have to not talk "like zis" okay? lol good luck bud... all about the complements

  • I like how these say for men only, lsebo's stick to redtube :L

  • faucking awesome dude

  • this is retarded. the exact shite that men use and fail with. this will only work with pug ugly girls who never have guys talk to them

    mystery advocates the exact opposite

  • dude, ya dont know shit.

  • Yes! This is true.

    Also, it is likely to attract beautiful/confident women with this approach, because you are confirming to them what they feel about themselves.

    Conventional dating wisdom to men may also get them laid, but it will usually be with ugly/desparate women who do not like themselves and will not make you likeable with other men/women.

    This kind of advice will make you not only sexually attractive, but likeable and trustable. I have seen it many times.

  • you have to be smart hmmmm ya what if ur shy or fuck up then yea.... i got gf but im just saying its hard man

  • THANKS!!!!!!!!!!

  • very well said! I'm a woman, and I agree with him completely!

  • @0Kristen101 ironically I thought the video said men only :P

  • thats the opposite of what mystery and those other puas say. They say that if your giving women value then you are lower your value as a guy because it makes it appear that you are not used to being around an amazing girl because you are giving value to her in desperation for her to stay focused with you instead of giving yourself value so she attaches to you.

  • Good point but I think that this aopproach may work if the woman is low confidence or if she has done something good for you. Then you gotta give her value.

  • hahaha..old school stuffs..goddamn it..but i agree with being the alpha male makes anyone attract towards u. watch REAL social Dynamics - Transformations

  • I'm a woman and I call bullshit on this video. Either I wanna fuck the guy or I DON'T! Which will be known in 5 seconds!

  • guesss dat makes u a ho

  • I guess that makes your mom a ho you dumb fuck!

  • i know my "mom" isn't, but your daughter will grow up too be just like you ;), starting with a threesome with your dog

  • thanks for speaking the truth.

  • I take from what you are saying - "express your "malehood", not your humanity. It's all about this strict divide between men and women, and this mentality that man equals "power/control" and woman equals "needy/weak/simple".

    I'm sorry, but I just think your advice (where ever you got it from) is neither healthy, or logical on many levels. I know a lot of men have come to believe in these ideals, and women have been enslaved to accept them, but that doesn't make them right...

  • im suprised you havent got jumped by a hairy femminist for that one

  • wow...i'm a woman and i totally agree with what you are saying.

  • or put a roll of 100s in your pants!!

  • hey dude can you do a video for 14 year old guys . . . cheers

  • you want to have sex with 14 year old guys???? lolol jk man

  • rofl >=P

  • i understand, but how is it that you change if you dont like how you are like down the road, you start paying attention to things that shouldnt. its a dead end road, but i wanna know how to change by doing it myself and for me to make me better than how iam now..

    somebody message me

  • These are behaviors your change through practice - You take a specific situation - I dentify the best attitude and then PRACTICE IT A LOT until it becomes yours

  • Why do only a few people question the nature of the dating advice people give out these days? It all amounts to treating women as if it was 40 years ago. It still amounts to the woman having all the power, the power to say "yes" or "no". Doesn't anyone else find the concept of the approach degrading? I don't care how smooth an approach it is. And I ask again, what exactly is the woman's role in all this? Does anyone else think about this or just eat up every bite of the pua thing?

  • if you don't like what you hear in PUA world feel free to reinvent your own rules, strategies or approaches - Maybe you will find something that works best for you - If this does not work for you, don't use it - That simple! - Good luck

  • I'm not "frustrated" it just makes no sense. Absolutely none. This chivalry crap is from a time when women were different. Their roles, their rights were different. We have women wanting equal treatment across the board but still expect a man to pay for things, or to approach bla bla bla. What does protection have to do with complimenting a woman you know nothing about? I'm not trying to be argumentative, I'm asking a legitimate question. Why the fuck should I stroke a woman's ego?

  • if you don't want to, try something else - YOU ARE FREE to approach women any way you want

  • Thanks dude for ur advice. It worked dude.

  • excellent!

  • So....what exactly is the woman's role in all this? Just to look good? To just receive your attention unconditionally? There is something wrong here. Why all this ridiculousness about approaches and this and that, how come, in the year 2008, a guy is still expected to do all this crap? We almost had a female presidential nominee and women can't approach a man? I have to "compliment" her? How do I know she is even worth complimenting?

  • I understand ur frustration but you you don't get rid of thousands of generations of evolution in one generation. The dominant male is the reason why women have survived hundreds of thousands of yrs. Dominant doesn't mean a prick, it means knowing what you are doing/fast decisions ie confidence and being able to get it quickly. Also protection still applies now. The woman will want you to fight the intruder if need be not her and when she cant lift something she will need you to lift it etc

  • After listening to the clip properly as I could hardly understand his accident the first time, I don't agree with half of what he says as the best thing to do as it usually wouldn't work on the hottest women. Check out mystery and vindicarlo, they know their shit!

  • Your first drink can be when you are ready for the first drink usually is if your having a hard time talking to anyone but your buddies. Sometimes the first drink is when that hottie gave you a wink to play pole or shoot darts. It depends really on how you work your self when your at a bar.

  • WOW i can sum this 6.34 video up as

    "kiss her ass"

    Thats great advice

  • Ok going to the bar you order your first drink how long do you wait to order the drink?

    I would say depends on the crowd get the feel of the crowd know your competition. If you see five guys sitting with two chicks dont go over to the table with two chicks with the five guys your just asking for trouble.

  • Here is my way of a great introduction

    Lets do the bar scene since  everyone knows that one pretty well not all guys like the bar scene and not all women want the bar scene or partake in it. This is for the people who are in the bar scene only.

  • Now going with what we have to day and how women are well i would say there all different you cant say to a woman you know them and you also know what immediatly turns her on or her offs. I turn women on and i also turn them off.

  • Accoring to the roman catholic church they believe they would be before the orignal quakers since the quakers would be considered pilgrims because the roman catholic priest they believe to be the first pope was Peter and they call him Saint Peter.

  • btu we know which leads to fact that the bible is filled with scriptures which came from the language of greek which can be found in Corinthians where paul ministers to the greeks which gave us greek orthodox before the catholics even came in hand with the roman catholics. The quakers also before the catholics and the roman catholic church.

  • ANOTHER SEPERATION FORMED FROM THE ROMAN CATHOLIC CHURCH TO ANYONE PRAISING GOD ANY WAY THEY FELT NESSECARY SINCE NOW EVERYONE PRETTY MUCH could read the bible before it was only priests who could read it and was only writen in one language at the time.

  • I like to respond using religion if i may.

    Ok first off we have christians so many groups not just one group out there because of history teaches us from Martin Luther King the white one before black history martin luther King Jr. We have roman catholic priest that took the bible to other languages then just romes language or Europeans.

  • I like what you are saying, now you need to talk about how men can KEEP the woman they have instead of just put it in "neutral" and act like it doesn't matter anymore.

  • coming soon...

  • clever advice, very simply put

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  • I used to be like that :( Can't lie to yourself forever

  • Naw man. Go to a club. Walk up to a random girl. and just grind on her. Just do it. IT's fun. She'll let you

  • I understand your frustration but you shouldn't give up. Most girls ARE a waste of time and have poor taste in men, dating losers or assholes that treat them like shit. Others just go for the money. But there are a few out there that are worthwhile. Finding them is hard but not impossible.

  • I'm not muscular but i'm 6'1 and 14 200 pounds does that count?, i'm more beefy than muscular.

  • Can't read through all previous comments. But I thought of a few things that are important to remember for guys aswell.

    1. Don't say things that "gives her a value" too often, because if it happen to be a girl like me, she will think you're just saying it/lying etc.

    2. Talking about your life might be something that she indeed is interested of, but then she will ask about it. Don't just start talking about your ex or whatever. I think that goes for women aswell. Ex-talking is.. bleh.

  • half decent looking Western women (of which there is few), particularly british & northern irish ones, are very cold, unfeminine and ultra feminist, most of em are ugly yet they expect the man to have a 6ft3 frame of chisled muscle, with perfect straight white teeth and a shitload of confidence, yet they haven't even got much going for themselves, beggers can't be choosers, so they should accept what get, and should be flattered that a normal guy would even pay them attention.

  • sounds like someone has been shot doen a few times....

  • HAHAHAHHA. good call!

  • your like an evil genuis man! haha but seriously good advice m8 most of these things i already knew tho but my trouble is after a while i forget about valuing her and listening etc which is why my relationshops don't last very long i gotta learn to keep it up lol

  • thanks!

  • i met a new girl in school (I'm also a new guy) we talked about our other schools and how our day was as new kids. I asked her questions and she answered them, didn't talk about myself much but, i didn't tease her how to i do. she is also in my second class and, in class i also came over to her and worked on a project with her we talked a little. what do i do to get her I'm a fairly OK looking guy not fat. we had short conversation what do i talk about?

  • confident but kind men are awesome

  • true!

  • ive done it my own way a better way

  • good on you!

  • @jablono there , id no way that is better, this man , This man, is The relationship GOD. Get that through your head.

  • i find that girls are sexually attracted to me when i walk into the room..

  • hahahaha u a pimp

  • 16 only :))))

  • lawren... u scare me

  • Wow. You know what you're talking about. It's funny; I'm an attractive woman so I'm used to guys giving me gross stares and feeling like I have to defend myself whenever someone approaches me. But recently a man came over to me and obviously was interested, but looked at me in a way that was -appreciative- instead of "I want to jump on you". It was wonderful. For once I felt I could be feminine without worry, you know? Like what you're explaining, it's nice knowing you're valued.

  • exactly!

  • good job buddy i cna relate to your videos lol not that im desperate lol im not at all i just struggle to enguage in conversation when thiers like nothing to talk about reply if you go ideas

  • hey guys my girls and me r goin gr8 but she gets quite when i get angry or mad and sometimes she never talks to me for days just because of that!!!

    please help me wat can i do to make her happy COMN GUYS I LOVE HER !!

  • stop getting mad - It's no fun being around a jerk who verbally abuses you - That's why she stays away from you

  • why u get mad try to stay calm

  • alright man. ask yourself one thing "am i mad because of her?" if thats a no then DONT be mad around her. if she's the one you love then her presance alone should put you at ease. just chillax when you're with your girl and things will be alright.

  • couldn't be more true mate, during the period just before me and my ex broke up i was allways angry at her for some things and over the phone or txt message i'd have a go at her but when i was with her i was happy and we didn't argue but she broke up with me eventually cuz she said i was too controlling and she was right but at the time i didn't realise that i learnt from my mistakes i just wish she would realise that now and give me a chance but its tough when she got a new bf already ya know

  • SEX =D

  • my cock is 16 inches and girls always get scared when they see it how can i make them want to suck it without fear?

  • cut it in half....u freak!

  • lmfao, there u go

  • This guy is so damn cool. :D

  • btw how old are you jrk17???

  • Go away, kid.

    These rules do not apply to you until you are like, atleast, 15.

  • lol realy dont care jrc17

  • im 13 years years old, and theres this girl who i realy like but i barely no her much and i only have 4 days too try too ask her out, when i see her i get too shy to even say hi.i never wanted her to know i liked her, but my friend told her i did.i wanted to start out a relationship with her thats why i didnt want her too know i liked her what should i do? lol

  • kid, you are 13 years old. you dont wanna start messing around with sex or relationships that young.

  • if you want to connect, you need to at least give her a sign - Say - Play super cool and tease her on something - watch my vid on how to tease girls - a good place to start

  • listen kid im 21 and i would know if i can do it all over i would catch NO FEEELINGS. jus have sex your young

  • are you telling him to have sex at thirteen?

  • lol no im not

  • What if she doesn't talk a lot? =(

  • tease her on that - It will get her to open up

  • thnx for the vids they r very usefull i think that u should keep on posting stuff like that but what if am only 178cm tall how can i overcome the height issue . and what if a girl keep checkin' me out repeatidly every 4-10 seconds(happens all of the time) what shall i do in this situation

    P.S: i never had the ballz to talk to a girl to be honest i have no self-esteem plz reply asap thnx in adavance

  • 178 cm is good - you are tall enough ;)

    Have the ballz to talk to girls, it will change EVERYTHING! even if you get some rejection after first...

  • dude abooodangel I'm 5'10 (1.78 m/178 cm) and that's the average height in America, but my heritage is Asian so I'm really tall for my race. 5'10 is not short at all, plus height doesn't matter, it's all about personalities, if you are a sweet guy then girls would like you no matter what.

  • Good advice, i am just learning these PUA techniques and my game has increased so much better. You can do this, anyone can just learn a little about communicating techniques liking KINO, look for IOI (indicators of interest) and make yourself diffirent from other men. Worse case senerio, she is flattered but taken, no interested, or just a plain out bitch that is not worth your time anyways.

  • true! Any guy can learn these things

  • oh man, so well said. :)

  • thanks!

  • Russian?

  • vladivodstok

  • hey nice vid...i really like a girl...she feels i am a big flirt....how do i ask her out for a date or get to know her feelings for me

  • watch the vid on my channel called "How to ask her out"

  • Whats up, I am a shy guy because i don't know if i am ugly or not. And I am deeply scared of rejection, how do i make the first move? Just say hi?

  • Sure! - Work on your inner game too - Watch the vid on how to master your self talk on my channel - That's a big part of your success - believe in yourself!

  • quick question when a girl gives you the "once over" does that mean she is attracted to you

  • it's a good start - she's checking you out ;)

  • the thing is now she is like ignoring me before we would make occasional eye-contact now it's like she doesn't even notice me...

  • the get some balls n talk to her, tell her u like her or she looks nice. ppl tend to complicate the simplest things...

  • when she checks you out, you have 3 seconds to take action ;) - If she sees you hesitating or afraid of approaching she locks you in the insecure category - Plenty other girls out there - Obsessing about one girl is a dead end anyway

  • Very accurate. Some people are reading value to mean gifts or validation. However, this video is also talking about time and respect. He is so spot on to how it might work for anyone, men and women, it's kind of scary... lol!

  • thanks

  • how do u know if she likes you?

  • if she enjoys your company

  • How can I tell if she enjoys my company?

  • if she smiles, answers back and does not look for excuses to run away

  • Giving her value? This "trick" will probably not work on women who already have a strong sense of self-value and know that they are worth "more than rubies." What REALLY works on a woman who knows she's worth it is respect. Respecting her character, her purity, & her intelligence. Cherishing who she is as a human being. I have never been attracted to a man more than my current boyfriend. That's because he is gentle and compassionate and tender. He's a sweetheart and he respects me. I love him.

  • a lot of compliments are cheesy,the only compliment that has ever worked for me are those that comment I look amazing, and finish by saying that even though the conversation was brief, thanks, but they have to go... gotta tell you, because he's not hanging around on a hope and wish (that strained silence as you struggle to say something, instead you want them to fuc* off!), he walks away, it leaves the girl 'hooked' and she'll be intrigued.. ignore for a short while then smile..bingo!

  • true!

  • hey, whats up?

    Are you from Albania? You look like a pretty cool guy.

  • Thanks! - Albania? Tadjikistan actually - I was raised by a nomadic tribe of Mongolians who were travelling the silk road on their way to Venice...

    What about you? Your accent sounds exotic... Papua New Guinea?

  • no, I'm from New York..ha :)

    I'm white

  • It's a game.. being a woman can tell you it's the confidence thing..eye contact, the smile, raise of an eyebrow, shows interest but at a respectable distance..what you guys should realise that what this comes down to is a hunt.. a woman does not like to feel she's the prey but that she is on an even playing field.. giving her empowerment makes a woman feel sexy (not domination but selection) you HAVE to make feel that she is the only one in that room..

  • dude, most of the time complements does not work for american girls, they hear it all the time and then they catergorize you as the other losers that try to hit on her

  • dudes i know the the secret to make a girl say the first word.

  • can you get a demonstration please?

    (Help me! im insecure and it killed me to write this, therefore you must help me by giving an example of a proper conversation)

  • Cool idea! - I'll keep this in mind for future vids

  • oohh shit u online now! =D son i just saw ur videos today..ur vids rock!

  • VERY COOL from you! - Thanks

  • Your da best xD

  • That makes two of us!

  • hey coach . i have a problem where girls only except me for a firend and nothing els, its been a problem all my life and i cant seen to get around it, im not fat , i dont think im that ugly, i dont know what im doing wrong. any advice would be great thx

  • guys who end up in the friend zone are usually too "kind" too comforting and not challenging enough. they are afrid to hurt a girl by being too direct or sexually explicit. A girl needs rto know you are a MALE to see you as potential mate, not just friend. That's an essential clue! ;) - More on this in other vids on my channle and on my site

  • thx that actually helps alot cause... sadly i am a nice guy ... nice guys finish last always

  • dude, if ya want to go out with one of your "friends", invite them over and have a good time. then keep getting to know them better and then assk them out

  • lol i have that same problem mercury :P

  • what if the girl you like already liks an other guy, can you get her to get over him and start likeing you.

  • Sure it can work. The dating world is a very competitive environment. A girl will go for who is number one in her mind. If they are already together, I would respect their couple though. If they are not yet dating it's different

  • How can I tell if a girl is interested in another guy if you like her but you suspect that she is getting closer to the other guy? And how can I win her over?

  • play fair and be at your best - let her decide who wins ;) - Important! have other options as well - If she knows your whole attention is focused on her, it makes you appear needy or desperate

  • Thanx coach! The thing is the other guy is older than me and her by about two years (and the guy's a taller). The girl and I are about a month apart in age (her BDays in July, mine August, we're both 15). I'm hoping that she'll choose the one closer.

    As for other options, I have those, but I believe in fate, and I feel that she is the one; I've never been in love like this ever (and for so long: 8 months already). I'll play off interests because I've discovered her interests are close to mine.

  • Fate? Then if it's fate, you have nothing to be worried about...

    She's the one? - You are 15, right? ;)

  • ;P lol, I get it.

    I'm sorta serious though. I've had plenty of 'crushes' before. THis is something entirely different and it's not even besed off of looks. I love her personality and she like the things that I like. SHe also has the same values...IDK. So far I've been unsucessful in pushing this girl out of my mind. Your video's given me new hope, so thank you so much.

  • sure, enjoy ;) - you don't have to push her out of your mind - simply don't get infatuated - Love addictions enslave you - Learn to master them - the sooner you do, the happier you are in life

  • sure, enjoy ;) - you don't have to push her out of your mind - simply don't get infatuated - Love addictions enslave you - Learn to master them - the sooner you do, the happier you are in life

  • same here exact

  • and also where do you live?

  • I am in The netherlands right now. My contact info is on my site

  • hey coach, i'm 15 years old and i wanted to know wich one of your book is the best for me and since i don't have a paypal, visa or any other credit card because i'm under 18, i wanted to know if there is any other way to get your e-books. can i just send you the cash and you send me the books after you get my payment.

    PS: i live in canada so you will get canadians dollars.

  • The books are e-books and are in digital format - I give aan access page with all resourecs when you buy my stuff - sending me payments by mail is usually risky - there is no guarantee - If that's the option you choose, yes, I'll be happy to send you the links when I get a payment by mail - All I'll need is your name and email (ad a contact number in case your email is wrong)

  • What book? depends on what you are interested in? - I offer a vital membership on my site which gives you access to all e-books, audios and videos on my site - that's an option - You can chack it on my site

  • For payments, if you don't have a credit or paypal, what would work best is that you ask someone to make the payment for you and you give them the $20 for the e-book or product you just bought - That's what I would recommend - They will get an email with download links and can forward that to you

  • LOL I love the video series you have going! I actually don't have much problem getting women myself at all, but love your style and am glad to see a comprehensive way of helping other guys out (I've tried to do the same a few times lol)

    But, after watching them I was disappointed that you didn't really touch on what I think are two KEY topics to women:

    1. Approaching random girls (what to say specifically, but also how to act)

    2. Overcoming the "shes out of my league" self-mindfuck :)

  • Thanks for sharing ;) - I'll keep this in mind for future vids

  • I do hope to see them. Quite curious on your outlook on those 2 topics. I personally run into the #2 far too often :\

  • PS: Be aware as well that I only published a fraction of the dating success for men videos on youtube. The full set is for sale on my site. You will find the link on my home page...

  • Ohhh, I should have guessed THAT :D I'm not nearly curious enough to *pay* for it, but I'll give your site a look :P

  • hey coach, ive got a problem , i know that the girls like me, becouse they tell me, but i still dont have confidence in myself , i never know how to start a conversation with a girl i know alredy.. i never get ideas of what to talk about... help me please =D

  • Check the vid on how to tease girls on my channel - A few good starters

  • ive seen all of your videos.. they give a lot of good advices , but i still dont know how to start a conversation...i cant start teasing a girl without starting a conversation..

  • Sure you can start a conversation by teasing her ;) - here is an example: in the supermarket: "Hey, you are not planning to eat THAT, are you?"... get the idea? - Take a white page and write down 20 teasing lines that come to mind. Some will be good, some won't - Next step, go in the field and practice! - Practice a lot! - Within one month, you'll be a natural... - Gor that?