Chalene Johnson's How to Deal with Negative People www.chalenejohnson.com

[MsPharaon1]

I LUV U CHALENE!!!!

[awsomemommy71]

This would be my entire family lol. Seriously.

[YumeNK]

I realized this the other day. I was bumping into people who were ''damaged goods'', having a problem with themselves I always wanted to help them. But they didn't want to help themselves. So it always backfired on me. I no longer have time to deal with such people, and look for only quality people, who strive to be better and better.

Also, 'bout bad days, it's amusing how mood can change. One morning I didn't want to live anymore, later in the afternoon I felt like going for another 80 years.

[lightbrownpoop]

if you comment on this comment, my life will be complete

[SpearofDestiny0]

That's EXACTLY what it is....a challenge...you are trying to gain another victory over a negative person. And it's such a waste lol

[girlpower02445]

Thank you so much for this video. I am so inspired by you and your words.

[icewalker1000]

Give me some love, baby ;) I wonder why they killed Jesus the most loving soul..:(

[icewalker1000]

Give me some love, baby ;)

[phmoisan]

Wow, Chalene, all I knew of you were the infomercials of a few years ago, when I had problems going to bed early and was stuck in front of the TV, I am so happy to have found out this video, I can relate 100%, I wish I could convince negative people that their views are wrong, your video here gives me the truth about what to expect, thanks a lot. :)

Philippe

[carbload]

Great video. Really had a good friend, helped him start a business since he was trying to turn his life around, but alas his negativity just got way too out of control. I almost about jumped in with him. Had to let him go....

[Chloey39]

Thanks so much for your video I have 2 friends who when they show up it feels like the energy is drained from me. I just remodeled my home and spent a lot of time and money I'm very proud of my home. They show up uninvited and had not one good thing to say everything was negative. Let me just add they don't own a house as a matter of fact there home was repossessed last year. They just berate everything I don't want to hurt there feelings but enough is enough.

[brieanna1992]

im in love

[brieanna1992]

shes hot



[Candeegirl77]

I guess 2 people are negative lol

[TigerBacon]

Oh Chalene! Will you marry me?! Ha ha :-)

[cutevwbug]

I really love your videos. Lots of great advice and very inspiring. 

[MinWooLee]

omg! turbo jam lol.

[espearite3]

I pretty much figured this out but still, as a positive person, continue to automatically want that "rush" she describes. It takes work and practice like she says to STOP the other person from pulling you down with them. Very good words of advice.

[FitClubGeorgia]

I have a friend named Debbie who adds life to every situation, and so I call her "Debbie Delighter".... she is 180 degrees NOT a Debbie Downer.... but I know a Cathy who is one of those individulas and I had to cut her off. I miss so much about her, but she was like poison to me and everyone she touched...eventually.

[gdwx33]

Omg you are so right. Thanks for your advice!

[cutiepie101779]

Chalene I know I'm just a kid, I'm not even 13 yet but I love doing your workout, I do it 3 times a day, everyday, do you think that's too much? I do a full 80 mins of turbo jam a day. Please message back, I really hope you do chalene bye

[katiemilker]

You said you can train your brain, that sounds like brainwashing to me. I have a lot of negative people around me and most of the time I am not 100 percent happy, but I don't want to be 100 percent happy because that would be just living in a pretend world.

The reason people are negative is indeed because of negative things have happening to them in the past, they need help and as a free thinking human I would never just ignore their pain.

there's seems to be a cruelty behind your logic.

[cutevwbug]

@katiemilker You sound like a Debbie Downer Katie...

[SMorris228]

Chalene,

I have been doing your Turbo Jam videos off and on for a few years (and I'm 19 now). I discovered your YouTube videos today and I am so pleased with this one. Being a delegate of my college's student government, I am constantly around negative energy. After going on retreat one weekend, I recognized how much focusing on their bad energy was sucking the good out of me. It's a challenge to not focus on them but rewarding when I do. Thank you for posting this video to remind me each day!

[gshineman]

Hey Chalene I hope you can help. What if the negative person is your mother that you live with and the fact I cant move out because im not financially secure yet. Im22 yrs old and have a big plan to become wealthy and im goin to changes in life and its like I cant talk to anyone so i'd raher talk to my own family but its like they're all negative. I dont know what to do anymore, its like im better off leaving and just starting from the bottom up. Its such a negative vibration that I feel.

[loyolaf]

Want to say that overall your video is great and has its applications with your normal negative mentality but there are people who really do need real help and not just the help of talking positive with them they need the walk the walk not talk the talk kind of help.They should not be abandoned.People who are depressed and don't know it and people who are lonely are examples.

[learntoday]

Love it



[learntoday]

Love it

[jsaltshake]

ot unlike you hey?

[seachelle70]

Great video and worth sharing!

[yabigslev]

Ive alienated all my friends cos they drink and I hate my family and the world.

I only love myself. I AM positive cos thats the only energy I operate on. Above sentence is true and results from this mindset proves positive. You are the vehicle that drives you, everyone else is expendable.

[yabigslev]

people around me are SO negative cos Ive visualized draining them of their positive energy for years and I apply this technique everywhere I go. SO EVERYONE AROUND ME is having a nervous breakdown. What should I do?

[SlaughteredInside]

@yabigslev are you serious?....If so than STOP doing what your doing.

[Baskadin]

I have a mother-in-law & husband who are both negative and unfortunately that rubbed off on our eldest daughter as she was looked after by her grandmother....I'm surrounded by them, now that I am home with my youngest I feel that I am in more control. ...just have to work on myself :-)

[kopadarmano]

The first video I watches of you. Great voice, great message, still positive eacen though your talking about something negative. So controlled in your message. LOVE IT! Thanks for shearing!

Elin

[isabelbean]

so very true chalene. great meeting you at the summit btw :). anywho-sometimes it's just better to remove the negativeaty (sp?) from your life, and you're SOOO right, it's NOT our responsiblity to help these people get happy-it's a life/energy zapper. Focus on the good, and be positive, and maybe change will happy. Maybe it won't. But we can't feel bad about things happening in a less than positive way. As always great video! :)

[camaro02girl]

Everyone on Earth should not have to struggle in life. Everyone should be rich. There would be no negative. Greed is negative. Some people can't live the life you do. Some people struggle.

[katdoesdiets]

Totally agree! I have had to distance myself from a few people like this lately. I used to BE a negative Nelly. But I've changed. And I ain't goin back. Now, when people comment on my blog that they love my positive outlook and encouraging attitude, I giggle.

I just found your youtube videos after buying ChaLEAN Extreme, thanks for all your inspiration and encouragement.

[paraisoat]

Once again thank you! I was dealing with a really negative person who kept attacking me and BeachBody and P90X on my recent video. This reminds me that those are just unhappy people who sometimes all you can do is pray for... nothing I can do can help them understand or be better. I'm going to get my sanity back now.

[loves714]

You are so right Chalene!! I recently let go of a "friend" I had in my life who was completely jealous of me. I would have to down play my successes to be friends with this person....I didn't like being that way. I had to hear her complain about everything and all the bad things that were happening in her life. I was always helping her and I could never share my experiences because I guess they were too positive.....Now that she is gone, I feel so much weight lifted off my shoulders. :)

[CThiers]

great advice, love the analogy, YOU ROCK CHALENE

[cassieoaks87]

@ceoaks Thanks for the video Chalene! I just posted it on my Facebook page for my friends to view. Hopefully, they will learn something from it since many of them have negative people in their lives that they need to get rid of. =)

[4490red]

Wow, this is so insightful. Now go fvck yourself.

[gingerlita]

Some of my co workers are very negative a lot of the time, so I forbid them to complain or talk bad about themselves or someone else. If they do, they have to pay a nickel!

[shieva]

Yeah this is the problem ive been having all week and normally I already know how to deal with ppl like that but wow this week ..ugh.. I'm just having a bad week and there the (ICING) on the cake lol to make it worst.. theirs 1 person that is negative in my life that "I CANT GET RID OF" they will be in my life forever.. it just sucks..but I know ill be okay.. im glad u made this video though.

[mzebony]

Ahhh The Secret, very informative and holds such excellent tools on how to deal with life and get what you want in life. The universe does not know negative, so whatever you attract is exactly what you're putting out there. Think positive and only positive things will happen. Awesome video Chalene!!

[melissabufford]

When did you film this?? Did you do your hair in a non- OC style?? ha ha! :) It looks great either way!

[stepngal]

LOVE the "protectionist" motto. Majority of the time I am optimistic-look for silver lining in situations, but sometimes, I have a bad day and think I am better off NOT interacting with people at that time because it's not "me" until I have come to terms and am back to "normal." What do YOU do when you're having a less than PAR day? This is a GREAT and useful post, Chalene! Thank you for doing this!

[Chalenejohnson]

I would have to say I do nearly exactly what you do. A bummer day is a rare day, but we all have them. If I can I try to to just veg out and do something that turns my mood around...like a long run! Thanks for sharing!

[FitClubGeorgia]

@Chalenejohnson What is that music at the end...stuck in reverse... I have that CD somewhere, I think I ordered it off the guy that recorded it... I am gonna be up all night going through my stuff looking for it..... sounded so good.......

[SanRamonValleyFitnes]

Love the yellow jacket --- fantastic collar!!! :) Great advice too.

[iluvbuckethead]

Oh my god this is my grandfather. Thank you very much for telling me how to deal with 'debbie downers'. Not that I don't love him, but... you know. :D

[EricaSnyder1000]

I love this and it was so helpful!! thank you thank you thank you!! :-)

[hkelly8454]

I always love your videos, you speak the truth girlfriend!!

[embernevill]

You never let me down.

[xxxAngelikaxxx]

I soooo know what you're talking about, I dated a Debbie Downer (male:D) for half a year and he just pulled me down with him and I constantly wanted to help him and it didn't work...thank God it came to a point where I realized this won't work and I need to save MYSELF now, not him anymore...so I left and I feel so happy...you cannot help someone who doesn't wanna be helped...

[mstyana]

Questions.  How long will I see doing results using turbojam?

[mzebony]

@mstyana if you follow the rotation that comes with Turbo Jam and eat healthy, you can see results by the end of the first week, even more if you continue with it.

[mstyana]

@mzebony Hey mzebony. I cant even find the plan..

[mzebony]

@mstyana the rotation come with the DVDs, but if you can't find it, you can google it with either Turbo Jam Beginner Rotation or Turbo Jam Advanced Ripped Rotation (these will include the more advance TJ workouts).