He did something selfish and stupid. You have the rite to be mad at him. Just because that is the last fuck up thing he did and last fucked up thing he'll ever do don't mean you cant be mad about it. It just means you were a true friend that looked out for his best intentions. As long as you can forgive him like any other stupid thing he's ever done and miss him instead of hate him in death, every feeling you have about him right now is justified. Trust me man, I know how yo feel.
As an Army Ranger Combat Veteran of 24 years and a Suicide Attempt Survivor, on May 19, 2009 my life changed…"My Story"
You can connect with me on Facebook under this name "Veterans Courts Nationwide" . Keep pushing this issue we need more veterans just like you to fight for the ones who cannot fight or don't know how to fight. HOOAH, Keep your head up! Rick
this video gave me goosebumps... especially the last question... "is it wrong to be angry at somebody who killed themself?"
good question but maybe its not. Suicide, im my opinion, is a very selfish matter because it affects those who are left behind the most. So it must be normal for those left behind to be angry and sad about it.
blow out of the haze, and do something.... for real, do it! While we are all still young. C'mon, I need to find someone else to start picking on, so post that video that ends this. Be like Nike.....Broseph, DO IT!
YOu should make a difference, in the "Real World". Lose the whole Rock-Star Mind Crusher thing, and put your power to the pavement. Even what I m doing now, is a perfect example of how much time can be wasted. Fortunate for me, I am harassing you while some stuff renders, so it's justified, but for a mind crusher, you really aren't that sharp.
Sit'n around trying to figure out why things are the way they are, talkin into the mic, so people like me can sit and take pot-shots at will, when you're really missing the point, you're under-achieving in all the important place, and over-achieving in the screen of your Mac.
You're not really that down about your friend, I mean, peace and God bless his situation, but your problem is all of this energy, and brainpower, dumped in a cheesy arena like You-Tube.
Nothing wrong with being angry unless it controls you. I don't have so much anger as grief over the What If's. What if we had seen the signs, what if we had asked the right questions. Guilt.
I think it's hard not to be angry....I know I'm hurt over what I've been through....but I'm also still angry. Thank you for sharing your feelings about this...it helps to know your not alone.
Not only is it not wrong to be angry, it's a normal reaction to suicide. Sometimes it's the very first emotion survivors experience and I've felt it myself. Years ago, I had a soldier in my unit commit suicide and had to explain what happened to his parents. I've counseled (as a friend-I'm not a therapist) probably 3 people over the years who were comtemplating it. The psyche is a very complex thing and this is something neither you nor I can always foresee or fix, much as we want to.
Yes it's ok to be angry. As for what I was taught religiously as well, as long as you do not sin from it, it is okay. But sometime I think you will have to let it go Allen. That anger is stress that you don't need. You can, but I certainly know it is hard to do it as I still carry anger from something similar when I was 5.
The anger is understandable. It's difficult processing the death of a friend, especially when it is at their own hand. Thank you for talking about a subject that is difficult for many to comprehend. Discussing the topic will hopefully increase awareness and the availability of help.
I too have been impacted with suicide. She was my best friend and I had no clue she was in bad shape. The anger I felt after that was all consuming. It still is. I was mad at her for doing that and angry at her family for not seeing what was happening in front of their eyes. I get it
Allen...I am so sorry to hear about this. The day after my last day of high school, my best friend's mom took her life. I've seen first hand what this can do to friends and family. Anger is a normal, and justifiable reaction. I am glad that our paths have crossed here on YT, proud of you for being an American soldier, and glad to call you a friend. If you need anything....
Life is incredibly hard; I suspect suicide will increase in the future due to a bad economy and escalating wants and needs (which goes along with technology, computers, IPODS, X boxes, etc etc). But it does have a profound effect on the loved ones who naturally blame themselves; it's nobody's fault though.
This is a very hard subject to discuss. Over the years, I've lost a lot of old friends to suicide. I'm very saddened to hear of our troops falling victim to this. You are in my thoughts. <3
I don't respond to death really well in terms of knowing what to say, I sometimes don't say the right things nor do know how to hold my tongue on certain subjects, so I'll just say this.
I know a person who commited suicide once.
It's OK to be angry; it's OK to hate someone who takes their life because they had an impact on yours. You will end up forgiving them at some point rather you realize it or not.
I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Don't beat yourself up about this, anger is a normal emotion when a close friend or family member commits suicide.
He did something selfish and stupid. You have the rite to be mad at him. Just because that is the last fuck up thing he did and last fucked up thing he'll ever do don't mean you cant be mad about it. It just means you were a true friend that looked out for his best intentions. As long as you can forgive him like any other stupid thing he's ever done and miss him instead of hate him in death, every feeling you have about him right now is justified. Trust me man, I know how yo feel.
NiggaWiddaAttitude 3 months ago
As an Army Ranger Combat Veteran of 24 years and a Suicide Attempt Survivor, on May 19, 2009 my life changed…"My Story"
You can connect with me on Facebook under this name "Veterans Courts Nationwide" . Keep pushing this issue we need more veterans just like you to fight for the ones who cannot fight or don't know how to fight. HOOAH, Keep your head up! Rick
veteranscourts 1 year ago
i also forgot to mention that if you hang on to that anger it will eat you alive, literally devour you. its your choice to let it go or not
marksman55 3 years ago
this video gave me goosebumps... especially the last question... "is it wrong to be angry at somebody who killed themself?"
good question but maybe its not. Suicide, im my opinion, is a very selfish matter because it affects those who are left behind the most. So it must be normal for those left behind to be angry and sad about it.
marksman55 3 years ago
Also, the anger may be a more 'comfortable' feeling than just plain grief...which can be shattering... it's a process babe.
CityzenJane 3 years ago
Your not wrong =/
The closer you are to a person, the more it hurts when they leave/die yet no one wants to be alone. such is the nature of us.
You cant change the past now Allen, dont let it hold you back but try to learn from it, I hope you know this already...
cheer up dude =)
bleeder9o0 4 years ago
So desperate to be heard. Take some advise, talk to people on PLANET EARTH, then maybe you'll realize your purpose, it's a start.
EchoOverTheVoice 4 years ago
blow out of the haze, and do something.... for real, do it! While we are all still young. C'mon, I need to find someone else to start picking on, so post that video that ends this. Be like Nike.....Broseph, DO IT!
ChongoTheShatMonkey 4 years ago
YOu should make a difference, in the "Real World". Lose the whole Rock-Star Mind Crusher thing, and put your power to the pavement. Even what I m doing now, is a perfect example of how much time can be wasted. Fortunate for me, I am harassing you while some stuff renders, so it's justified, but for a mind crusher, you really aren't that sharp.
ChongoTheShatMonkey 4 years ago
Sit'n around trying to figure out why things are the way they are, talkin into the mic, so people like me can sit and take pot-shots at will, when you're really missing the point, you're under-achieving in all the important place, and over-achieving in the screen of your Mac.
ChongoTheShatMonkey 4 years ago
You're not really that down about your friend, I mean, peace and God bless his situation, but your problem is all of this energy, and brainpower, dumped in a cheesy arena like You-Tube.
ChongoTheShatMonkey 4 years ago
TENEMOS CYBER9
TJNarcoGang 4 years ago
WE HAVE CYBER9ROUNDER1
TJNarcoGang 4 years ago
Nothing wrong with being angry unless it controls you. I don't have so much anger as grief over the What If's. What if we had seen the signs, what if we had asked the right questions. Guilt.
RiddleSpider 4 years ago
Its alright to be angry.
MBRHIndustries 4 years ago
your anger is proof of your love. i'm sorry for your pain.
randalldowney11 4 years ago
Anger is fine, holding onto anger is not.
MutinyInJonestown 4 years ago
Be angry, just don't go numb.
peace and healing
mass respect
(kristen, in hiding)
halfemptyfull 4 years ago
I think it's hard not to be angry....I know I'm hurt over what I've been through....but I'm also still angry. Thank you for sharing your feelings about this...it helps to know your not alone.
UFGatorJenn 4 years ago
I've been faced with this also in life...it's so hard. It doesn't seem to get easier to deal with...all you can do is pray. Hugs to you!
UFGatorJenn 4 years ago
Not only is it not wrong to be angry, it's a normal reaction to suicide. Sometimes it's the very first emotion survivors experience and I've felt it myself. Years ago, I had a soldier in my unit commit suicide and had to explain what happened to his parents. I've counseled (as a friend-I'm not a therapist) probably 3 people over the years who were comtemplating it. The psyche is a very complex thing and this is something neither you nor I can always foresee or fix, much as we want to.
breezin48 4 years ago
Yes it's ok to be angry. As for what I was taught religiously as well, as long as you do not sin from it, it is okay. But sometime I think you will have to let it go Allen. That anger is stress that you don't need. You can, but I certainly know it is hard to do it as I still carry anger from something similar when I was 5.
TheEyesOfTheSouth 4 years ago
i think the type of anger you are talking about stems from love, in which case you can be angry, in a way it shows love.
pornfartin 4 years ago
I watched this Video, I don't know much about
the Topic in which you spoke of And I honestly
Just simply don't know what to say but, Thank You For sharing What's on your mind and stuff...It's always good to share.
GreenxXxPeace 4 years ago
The anger is understandable. It's difficult processing the death of a friend, especially when it is at their own hand. Thank you for talking about a subject that is difficult for many to comprehend. Discussing the topic will hopefully increase awareness and the availability of help.
National Suicide Hotlines:
1.800.784.2433
(1.800.SUICIDE)
1.800.273.8255
(1.800.273.TALK)
girlganja 4 years ago
I too have been impacted with suicide. She was my best friend and I had no clue she was in bad shape. The anger I felt after that was all consuming. It still is. I was mad at her for doing that and angry at her family for not seeing what was happening in front of their eyes. I get it
Fringe111 4 years ago
Allen...I am so sorry to hear about this. The day after my last day of high school, my best friend's mom took her life. I've seen first hand what this can do to friends and family. Anger is a normal, and justifiable reaction. I am glad that our paths have crossed here on YT, proud of you for being an American soldier, and glad to call you a friend. If you need anything....
anakin1814 4 years ago
Hi Gary, Allen is vry special to me as you are
Fringe111 4 years ago
Life is incredibly hard; I suspect suicide will increase in the future due to a bad economy and escalating wants and needs (which goes along with technology, computers, IPODS, X boxes, etc etc). But it does have a profound effect on the loved ones who naturally blame themselves; it's nobody's fault though.
WinterHaven 4 years ago
This is a very hard subject to discuss. Over the years, I've lost a lot of old friends to suicide. I'm very saddened to hear of our troops falling victim to this. You are in my thoughts. <3
Gemm73 4 years ago
:(
I don't respond to death really well in terms of knowing what to say, I sometimes don't say the right things nor do know how to hold my tongue on certain subjects, so I'll just say this.
I know a person who commited suicide once.
It's OK to be angry; it's OK to hate someone who takes their life because they had an impact on yours. You will end up forgiving them at some point rather you realize it or not.
My Condolences.
TGMousie 4 years ago
Allen,you are just a special good true Americian ,a real man with a heart .You have my prayers.
arvinwynn 4 years ago
That means a lot. Thank you.
JustA11en 4 years ago
It's OK to be angry; we get angry at our friends all the time, it doesn't mean we love them any less.
digger96 4 years ago
Thank YOU for posting this. =[
* hugg *
xxitsmyfault 4 years ago
*hugs back*
JustA11en 4 years ago
heavy shit bro. thank you for sharing this. it means a lot personally.
xRemx 4 years ago
Thanks Rem.
JustA11en 4 years ago
thank you.
xRemx 4 years ago
I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Don't beat yourself up about this, anger is a normal emotion when a close friend or family member commits suicide.
mtamorphis 4 years ago
Thank you, for the kind words.
JustA11en 4 years ago