Dan Savage at Manitoba - Trying to be the perfect girlfriend.

[HaploidCell]

Sadly I fall into the "don't want to get my dick burned"-category.

On the one hand my live is stress-free because I have no relationships,

on the other hand it's also pretty lonely.

Welp, at least the panic attacks have stopped. For the most part.

[Snoep76239]

Dan your videos are more addictive then crack (both kinds). I just lost two days' productivity at work watching all your videos. :-)

Give us MORE!

[xxxDAPROBLEMxxx]

he's gay. no seriously he's gay

[TruthSpeaker1010]

"You're ass your dick you ass your dick." This fucking guy is off his rocker. "If you don't ever wannt get your dick burnt, don't have relationships." LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOO What a fucking gross pervert. Sick freak.

[TruthSpeaker1010]

What the fuck is the pervert pig doing talking to young girls? Who the fuck would let their daughter in the room with this fucking shit-dick. Talking about "pocket pussy" to underage girls? This fucking guy needs a bullet in his head.

[Snoep76239]

@TruthSpeaker1010 Sounds like your priest or daddy buggered you a few too many times, Mr. Falwell.....

[TruthSpeaker1010]

DUMB INARTICULATE UGLY FAGGOT

[smashclover]

LOL that was so funny. If you don't want to get your dick burnt, don't have relationships.. XD

[colincoolness]

"'Broken Hearth, The American Family and How to fix it' which includes Killing homos. Because we don't come from American Families, we jump out of a tubs of lube in the back of gay bars." Lol!!! God, that's nothing short of a brilliant line!

[metalburb]

Dan is starting to sound like a stuck record. Just 'cause monogamy is not natural (like wearing clothes and using

the Internet) doesn't make it invalid to want it. I think a bit of personal bitterness of his is behind these rants.

[dlund42179]

@metalburb

you might be missing the point of why he keeps bringing it up..

its totally valid to 'want' it.. what people seem to have trouble learning is that since its not natural.. its really hard to make it work the way we imagine it..

[XiaoGui17]

@metalburb

It's not invalid to want it; it's just invalid to expect everyone else to want it, too. If you read his column, he's made it clear that his position is: You CAN have monogamy if that's what you really want, but you don't have to, and not everyone else has to, either.

[Tokorai]

He got really metaphorical on this one

[prolefeedprocessor]

The look on that woman's face. She was NOT pleased with the answer.

[NinkaPanda]

Wtf is he on about?

Always being cheated on? WTF seriously. NOT EVERYONE IS A FUCKING WHORE DAN.

[nashadoe]

Ugh.  Hate it when Dan takes out his shitty mood, cynicism, and unhappiness on his audience. When he just gives advice he's not personally invested in, he's much better. Yeah, let's advocate cheating. Awesome move, Dan.

[ZeLrocker]

I agree with dan on everything else but cheating.

[Lijacote]

Dan is so down-to-earth. Nice.

[thepdw]

I love Dan, but he strikes me as kinda cynical sometimes.

[pendulousphallus]

@thepdw What's wrong with being cynical?

[thepdw]

@pendulousphallus In being cynical, people miss out on a more nuanced experience of life. It's like viewing a black and white world through gray glasses.

[pendulousphallus]

@thepdw I relate cynicism with skepticism. So maybe I may not fully understand the word. I do truly trust and appreciate Dan's advice as far as it is reasonable to do so.

[thepdw]

@pendulousphallus Me too, I just think some of his own personal issues spill over into his advice. On his podcast, I've heard him advocate using humiliation as punishment for children and then intimate that's not such a bad thing because they might have kinks later on in life because of that. Stuff like that makes me listen carefully to what he says. Regardless, I still love him.

[Rillion12]

@thepdw I don't think it's cynical to tell people to expect to be cheated on. It's realistic, and it doesn't mean condoning cheating. He wants people to see affairs as a bump in the relationship rather than The End of All Things, which I think is refreshingly practical.

[thepdw]

@Rillion12 I agree, but the way he encourages people to vengefully cheat comes across as bitter and a bit passive aggressive.

[XiaoGui17]

Very, very true. Also, don't ever try to be the "perfect girlfriend." Nobody's perfect, and trying to be perfect will tear you up inside. If your partner is a decent guy, he'll feel guilty and undeserving. If your partner is a jerk, he'll take advantage of a woman he doesn't deserve. It's a lose-lose. Be yourself, and you'll find the perfect person for YOU.

[himansku]

@XiaoGui17 Why if he's a decent guy should he feel undeserving? That's 90% percent of the problem today... to boost women's selfesteem we have to demote men's selfesteam? Why should the guy feel guilty for your failure? If he's a "decent" guy, he learn to accept you for your positives and learn to look past the negatives, and realize that you are human and trying your best, as he would hope you to do the same.

[XiaoGui17]

@himansku

You totally did not understand what I was saying. It's clear to me from reading your comment you misunderstood my post, so I don't know why I should dignify this with a response. I'm not here to defend a strawman.

[pendulousphallus]

Why hasn't Dan written a book?

[dragonstorm83]

@pendulousphallus he has actually written several

[RuleNr34]

@pendulousphallus off the top of my head I can think of 4: skipping towards gomorrah, the kid, the commitment and savage love. A trip to amazon might be in order.

[pendulousphallus]

@RuleNr34 Well then, don't I feel like an asshole at the moment.

[cherrymaryx]

@pendulousphallus he has

[bestukonyou]

@pendulousphallus He has...

[pendulousphallus]

@bestukonyou I know, I know. I'm an idiot. I should learn to Google before I comment.

[geeoffchin]

perfectly put

[hippiewhenconvenient]

this is such good advice.