What if I have Asperger's as well? (Women are different in the emotions department) - How is a man who also has Asperger's going to accommodate my needs as well? Or is it just a bad match?
Both myself & my boyfriend have Asperger's Syndrome. We actually have A LOT in common from being Followers in Christ to enjoying video games to being fans of Anime & so on. He asked me out in August of this year, but I have strong feelings for him. He also fixed my laptop for free by the generosity of his own heart instead of spending hundreds of dollars. We've been on dates, but we treat each other as being "equal" for both of us as Aspies. My James also supports me learning Japanese too!
i do not want their women really, even if they can put on a good act, it is still mi misigenation as far as I am concerned. I want no part of the non-Asperger's tainted bloodlines!
@DChatc It took a long time for our genetic profile to develope, and it is still not finished, I would hate to see all that work and effort, which has survvied the adversity of a hostile environment, to suddenly be ruined and diluted simply because our would-be hosts have some issues with panphelia.
This would be a fascinating video for me, being since many years married to a man with suspected Asperger's. But the sound is terrible. Can you redo this so that we can understand what she says? I push for more books teaching adult men (and women of course, too) to know, understand and learn what non-Asperger's partners expect. I am at the edge of leaving my marriage because I have spend every year trying to make it work and bridge the disability of my partner by understanding HIS side.
Thank you for your compliments, but I feel they are not necessary. I have been blessed by knowing someone like him and have grown even more as an individual by having him in my life. ; )
My hunch is, there are MANY with similar success stories... for marriages/relationships and parenting. EVeryone has a gift. Our collective responsibility is to SEE and NURTURE that gift in everyone (Aspies and NTs alike). And yes, it can ABSOLUTELY work! Again, thanks for your comments!
Craig, He was the main reason they suceeded with their education. He morally supported me all this time to. He is big on education and would let them come and go as needed to complete college education since we lived together for 10 years. I truly believe if it was not for him they or I could not have made it. If a NT woman is nuturing, open, and the agressor physically it can work. He does want to please but just not know how. If she is needy, self interst it will not.
Maginificent, kandi391. Thank you SO MUCH for your honest, insightful comments. And thanks for being such an incredible human being. No wonder your kids are so compassionate. I'm sure your husband had something to do with that, too. We all need to see people for their strengths. Thank you for your life's experience. Craig at Autism Hangout
Cont. I am writing this for the NT woman . They are worth the time and effort. Just be an open and nurturing individual and know routine is the best formula for him. If he loves you he will make the effort, but understand it will be slow. Now my children are grown and college educated. Two are special education teachers one is a physical therapist the other is in a masters program for psychology. They all knew he had aspergers, but never said anything. Would it really made a difference anyways?
I thought when I met him I noticed he was different immediatelly. What makes this relationship work is I look at him as just having quirks and don't we all. It is a relationship that I have to be forward in to express directly how I feel and openly to my needs. We both give each other space when needed. As to physically I have to be the forward one of course. Someone once said would you change him. My reply was would you change a mustang? I love him and will keep him for the animal he is...
I date a man with aspies for 10 years b4 marrying him. It is a working relationship, but he is a very trusting and a strong man. I was divorced with 4 kids and needed space to raise my kids. He was very encouraging and supporting thru all these years. He is an auto engineer and excellent at it. He is like a computer and downloads any information on a topic of his interst that he can find and then moves onto another topic. Our home is filled with numerous books and dvd because of it. Gonna cont.
my husband has aspergers we have been married 10 years-13 together(since high school. I love that there is more and more info comming out to help us keep building our realtionship!!!
@cnuber01 did you know he had aspergers before you married him? And I don't mean this to be insulting but I am somewhat surprised to hear that a person who does not have aspergers is in a relationship with someone who does. I know aspergers can be hard to detect in some cases but it does have a profound impact on relationships
@somotastic21 No i did not find out he had Aspergers until about 4 years in our realtionship. We are still to this day in love and are so happy together. We just work with one anothers little differences. We also have two wonderfull children!
@cnuber01 Im glad to hear that. So since you did not find out about it until 4 years into the marriage I'm guessing that means that aspergers really is hard to detect
@cnuber01 thats inspiring, i feel asperger's hurts men more than women since men traditionally, majority of the time always have to make the first move and all the other moves, initiate the date and relationship
I was married to a man with Aspergers. We have four kids, two have aspergers as well. I didn't know about all this till I was already well into the diversion procedure. My then husband thought it was all made up and silly. He still does but knowing about Aspergers has helped my kids out so much. My daughter accepts herself now. My son is 8 and still having trouble but we'll figure it out.
I am married to a man I believe to have autism. Our oldest son was diagnosed to Asperger's syndrome but my husband now believes he has it. I am not really sure if he does or not but he has some traits. What if he isn't sensitive to sounds or touch?
I am married to a man I believe to have autism. Our oldest son was diagnosed to Asperger's syndrome but my husband now believes he has it. I am not really sure if he does or not but he has some traits. What if he isn't sensitive to sounds or touch?
This is a great entry, in this first rate channel. I think it is so important that aspies get to describe themselves 'in their own words', as well as the experts take us deeper. Because, we are so various and unique; so it's good to learn about each other, because the 'barrier/divide' can be there as well. CULTURE is so important too! kudos. Because really, everything is a 'culture', a routine of/for comm-unity. So it's wonderful to learn more about that. Thanks. (3rdly, romance is a big issue!)
Hi folks. This is Craig Evans of Autism Hangout. I'm sorry Rudy's audio is difficult to hear. I've changed the microphone set up since this interview and it's improved, but sometime SKYPE just makes what's bad even worse.
@brooklynlulu i suppose you have an autistic partner then? right off the bat your lucky as is if he actually approached you for a relationship at all. to us initiating that sort of thing is like trying to jump a canyon. if he actually started something with you of his own accord he definitely feel strongly. however i believe we have trouble at times communicating affection to people. i myself actually randomly pop out affectionate phrases to my mom in an effort to show more affection.
@mump4 ditto, i myself have sensitivity to sounds as well only for me it's loud sudden noises, really loud prolonged noises and oddly enough writing with pencils. i can't stand the scratch of a dull pencil on paper. when a loud bang or something happens without me expecting it my whole brain basically reboots.
Hey hangout, I would re do this and try to get better audio from Simone. It is hard to understand. Maybe you can get a better mic or change mic position? Maybe upload a video with less compression ie better quality mpeg bigger file size. it's hard following her audio it is muffled. Good luck
pitiful audio. just do it over please, and make the information understandable.
izzgal7 1 month ago
What if I have Asperger's as well? (Women are different in the emotions department) - How is a man who also has Asperger's going to accommodate my needs as well? Or is it just a bad match?
MissMeowsic 1 month ago
So sad that the sound was so bad, I can't watch it. :(
antiHUMANDesigns 2 months ago
Both myself & my boyfriend have Asperger's Syndrome. We actually have A LOT in common from being Followers in Christ to enjoying video games to being fans of Anime & so on. He asked me out in August of this year, but I have strong feelings for him. He also fixed my laptop for free by the generosity of his own heart instead of spending hundreds of dollars. We've been on dates, but we treat each other as being "equal" for both of us as Aspies. My James also supports me learning Japanese too!
iristhevampiress 2 months ago
i do not want their women really, even if they can put on a good act, it is still mi misigenation as far as I am concerned. I want no part of the non-Asperger's tainted bloodlines!
DChatc 3 months ago
@DChatc It took a long time for our genetic profile to develope, and it is still not finished, I would hate to see all that work and effort, which has survvied the adversity of a hostile environment, to suddenly be ruined and diluted simply because our would-be hosts have some issues with panphelia.
DChatc 3 months ago
The twenty-two things: #1 thru #22, find someone else.
Am I missing something here?
oracle2world 3 months ago
This would be a fascinating video for me, being since many years married to a man with suspected Asperger's. But the sound is terrible. Can you redo this so that we can understand what she says? I push for more books teaching adult men (and women of course, too) to know, understand and learn what non-Asperger's partners expect. I am at the edge of leaving my marriage because I have spend every year trying to make it work and bridge the disability of my partner by understanding HIS side.
Joandthefish 4 months ago
Add subtitles for the woman. Can't make out a word
DantePattarozzi 5 months ago
I Love this!
Xsmellycatsx 5 months ago
Thank you for your compliments, but I feel they are not necessary. I have been blessed by knowing someone like him and have grown even more as an individual by having him in my life. ; )
kandi391 6 months ago
My hunch is, there are MANY with similar success stories... for marriages/relationships and parenting. EVeryone has a gift. Our collective responsibility is to SEE and NURTURE that gift in everyone (Aspies and NTs alike). And yes, it can ABSOLUTELY work! Again, thanks for your comments!
frailinflix 6 months ago
Craig, He was the main reason they suceeded with their education. He morally supported me all this time to. He is big on education and would let them come and go as needed to complete college education since we lived together for 10 years. I truly believe if it was not for him they or I could not have made it. If a NT woman is nuturing, open, and the agressor physically it can work. He does want to please but just not know how. If she is needy, self interst it will not.
kandi391 6 months ago
Maginificent, kandi391. Thank you SO MUCH for your honest, insightful comments. And thanks for being such an incredible human being. No wonder your kids are so compassionate. I'm sure your husband had something to do with that, too. We all need to see people for their strengths. Thank you for your life's experience. Craig at Autism Hangout
frailinflix 6 months ago
Cont. I am writing this for the NT woman . They are worth the time and effort. Just be an open and nurturing individual and know routine is the best formula for him. If he loves you he will make the effort, but understand it will be slow. Now my children are grown and college educated. Two are special education teachers one is a physical therapist the other is in a masters program for psychology. They all knew he had aspergers, but never said anything. Would it really made a difference anyways?
kandi391 6 months ago
I thought when I met him I noticed he was different immediatelly. What makes this relationship work is I look at him as just having quirks and don't we all. It is a relationship that I have to be forward in to express directly how I feel and openly to my needs. We both give each other space when needed. As to physically I have to be the forward one of course. Someone once said would you change him. My reply was would you change a mustang? I love him and will keep him for the animal he is...
kandi391 6 months ago
I date a man with aspies for 10 years b4 marrying him. It is a working relationship, but he is a very trusting and a strong man. I was divorced with 4 kids and needed space to raise my kids. He was very encouraging and supporting thru all these years. He is an auto engineer and excellent at it. He is like a computer and downloads any information on a topic of his interst that he can find and then moves onto another topic. Our home is filled with numerous books and dvd because of it. Gonna cont.
kandi391 6 months ago
Cannot hear or understand what she is saying.
debkahora 6 months ago
Could you translate her words into the Description please?
zo0m14 6 months ago
my husband has aspergers we have been married 10 years-13 together(since high school. I love that there is more and more info comming out to help us keep building our realtionship!!!
cnuber01 10 months ago
@cnuber01 - Yes! I see you've already discovered Louise Weston, too. Lots of good advice out there today.
autismhangout 10 months ago
@cnuber01 did you know he had aspergers before you married him? And I don't mean this to be insulting but I am somewhat surprised to hear that a person who does not have aspergers is in a relationship with someone who does. I know aspergers can be hard to detect in some cases but it does have a profound impact on relationships
somotastic21 3 months ago
@somotastic21 No i did not find out he had Aspergers until about 4 years in our realtionship. We are still to this day in love and are so happy together. We just work with one anothers little differences. We also have two wonderfull children!
cnuber01 3 months ago
@cnuber01 Im glad to hear that. So since you did not find out about it until 4 years into the marriage I'm guessing that means that aspergers really is hard to detect
somotastic21 3 months ago
@cnuber01 thats inspiring, i feel asperger's hurts men more than women since men traditionally, majority of the time always have to make the first move and all the other moves, initiate the date and relationship
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
This is so interesting, but I can't make out a single word the woman is saying..
mmysticus 11 months ago
Is there a video re; what a man married to an Aspie woman should know?!
sybeve 1 year ago
i was dxed 2 years ago is it normal to have constant anger and hatred with aspergers???
PhilMyBod41 1 year ago
definitely going to look into this further.
LKJslain 1 year ago
I was married to a man with Aspergers. We have four kids, two have aspergers as well. I didn't know about all this till I was already well into the diversion procedure. My then husband thought it was all made up and silly. He still does but knowing about Aspergers has helped my kids out so much. My daughter accepts herself now. My son is 8 and still having trouble but we'll figure it out.
lorenakoran 1 year ago
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I am married to a man I believe to have autism. Our oldest son was diagnosed to Asperger's syndrome but my husband now believes he has it. I am not really sure if he does or not but he has some traits. What if he isn't sensitive to sounds or touch?
arikafannieheath 1 year ago
I am married to a man I believe to have autism. Our oldest son was diagnosed to Asperger's syndrome but my husband now believes he has it. I am not really sure if he does or not but he has some traits. What if he isn't sensitive to sounds or touch?
arikafannieheath 1 year ago
@arikafannieheath - Why not encourage him to take the test himself? There are some simple ones online, if he's not yet ready for something official.
autismhangout 1 year ago
thats interesting. my gf needs one of those books :P
WolfgangPain 1 year ago
This is a great entry, in this first rate channel. I think it is so important that aspies get to describe themselves 'in their own words', as well as the experts take us deeper. Because, we are so various and unique; so it's good to learn about each other, because the 'barrier/divide' can be there as well. CULTURE is so important too! kudos. Because really, everything is a 'culture', a routine of/for comm-unity. So it's wonderful to learn more about that. Thanks. (3rdly, romance is a big issue!)
welcomesodoing 1 year ago
Hi folks. This is Craig Evans of Autism Hangout. I'm sorry Rudy's audio is difficult to hear. I've changed the microphone set up since this interview and it's improved, but sometime SKYPE just makes what's bad even worse.
I can tell you, Rudy's book is exceptional. :)
Craig
autismhangout 1 year ago
@autismhangout thank you
hawkdreaming 7 months ago
This is frustrating, I want to hear it so much and can't understand a word she is saying. I want that book though.
brooklynlulu 1 year ago
@brooklynlulu i suppose you have an autistic partner then? right off the bat your lucky as is if he actually approached you for a relationship at all. to us initiating that sort of thing is like trying to jump a canyon. if he actually started something with you of his own accord he definitely feel strongly. however i believe we have trouble at times communicating affection to people. i myself actually randomly pop out affectionate phrases to my mom in an effort to show more affection.
thuzan117 1 year ago
Hi, i really wanted to listen/watch your video, but when Rudy Simone speaks, it hurts me, i have Asperger's the audio, is harsh
mump4 1 year ago
@mump4 ditto, i myself have sensitivity to sounds as well only for me it's loud sudden noises, really loud prolonged noises and oddly enough writing with pencils. i can't stand the scratch of a dull pencil on paper. when a loud bang or something happens without me expecting it my whole brain basically reboots.
thuzan117 1 year ago
place microphone more closely to the speaker but do no turn vol too loud to avoid distortion.thx. good stuff!
hopefuldad 1 year ago
I am so interested but cant hear the sound
mshomefire 2 years ago 13
Hey hangout, I would re do this and try to get better audio from Simone. It is hard to understand. Maybe you can get a better mic or change mic position? Maybe upload a video with less compression ie better quality mpeg bigger file size. it's hard following her audio it is muffled. Good luck
Throweasy03 2 years ago 3
It never twigged with me that my husband might have Aspergers, until both our children were diagnosed with Autism.
tenderheart17 2 years ago
@tenderheart17 in all fairness it's only been widely diagnosed recently. my mom seems convinced my father had it now that i've been diagnosed.
thuzan117 1 year ago