And, I'll also say, the reason why some guys tend to lose interest and "get turned off" by some of us girls is because some tend to get so caught up "in the relationship" & the guy, and we slowly lose ourselves. To a guy, it looks like clingyness. And what turns a guy off bout clingyness is that he can no longer "chase you." Guys love "the thrill." The excitement that comes from pursuing a lady he has the likings for. If a girl comes off too close or too easy, they more than likely back away.
3:35 Key words right there... "give up their lives" and "get turned off"
Guys love a girl who is about themselves and their happiness and success in life. Doesn't mean you have to be stuck up, materialistic and "independent," but learn how to put your values, standards, and priorities first and in-check. And KNOWN to the ones you date. You shouldn't have to pretend or hide who you are. The right one respects you and your opinions and dreams for yourself. <3
It has everything to do with fear and lack of love for self. And there are those who recognize this, then we complain about how they treat us so badly, but we allow/or have allowed them to do so. We must remember our environment and those around us are a reflection of ourselves. Love self, true love manifests. Very good video, darling!! Blessings
If i girl is staying with a gguy even wen she knows hes cheating ur probaly desperate and u think ur not good enuf for someone.else so u stay with that jerk bcuz he broke ur self esteem down but ur bettr then that so just get out there theres plenty of fish in the c
So, tell me, when did you get your degree in relationships from Bimbo University? This sounds like a mish mash of every pop psychology book ever written. So Dr. Phil. Truth of the matter is that the vast majority of women today are attracted to irresponsible, grotesque, venal fuktards who, for some reason have the power to disconnect the brains of even the rare intelligent girl. It used to amaze me, but now it's just funny. When they get to be 30 and alone they start to panic! Hilarious!
@warwolfii And where did you get your degree? Desperate-Bitter-Loser-Nice-Guy(TM)-Misogynist-who's-been-rejected-one-too-many-times University? Got news for you warwolfii, you're not a nice guy. You're a jerk. Oh, and you're not that intelligent either.
There is some very good advice on twitter! I actually took this advice and improved my relationship a tremendous amount just trust me and follow: @iRelationship_ (only one underscore) you wont regret it!
I think you're right, I totally agree. But I also think that you forgot about the feelings that come when you break up with someone. You're just like: eat some icecream and cry for 2 weeks, then move on. You know, sometimes it's harder than that, because sometimes you really love that person, and that's probably why you hang on to him or her... I hope all of you out there, that aren't happy in a relationship find the courage to start "riding solo" and be happy;)
i love you and your channel! I love this video and its in my top favorite. You are so inspirational. I haven't watched this in a while, and as i watch this now, i feel like you're coaching me and giving me back my confidence. I used to be so happy on my own until a recent bf and i just feel like he's brought me down so much. This is giving the reality check i needed for a while. Thank you. <3
I LOVE this video, She just said the same things i have been saying to myself for the past few weeks i just ended it with a guy i have been with for 6years.there was just to much fighting and craziness going on and in the end of it all i really saw that i was doing more crying and worrying while i was with him than now that iam alone I am so much happier now and yea i have my bad moments but i just let it out and keep it moving.I know one day ill find mr.right but im just loving being me for now
@calicold21 I just posted pretty much the same thing you did before i read this. lol. Im really happy that you were able to finally end it. Ive only been in this unhealthy relationship for 2 yrs, with all the fighting and stressing out, but i feel like if its starting to change me and i dont want to be that person that is so unhappy and negative. I know its time for me to be on my own again too and just enjoy my life again.
what if you try to dump him because he makes you miserable, but he keepssaying he is cutting himself and he actually does? How would one deal with this?
You definitely make me want a sister sooo bad. I had to figure this out on my own, but it would have been nice to have someone tell me these things before I went through that horrible relationship. Either way, lesson learned and NEVER AGAIN!!
Real men don`t love bitches. Real men who don`t demand idolaterous worship, like women who don`t demand idolaterous worship. They both posess sense. And that is the only way to have a relantionship, and then you need to be a monotheist. Which at an esoteric level is, there is nothing but consciousness and it`s creation :) Which should be the most interesting relationship there is. If you are an idolater, atheist, or some other creep, any relationship is not going to work. Booze and whores awaits
it is sooo true :=) I was that type of afraid girl before, now that I focus on my goals and myself I found the boyfriend that do respect me but if one day it ends, well it will end and I will find someone else. Life goes on. The most important is to always stick to what you are and to respect yourself because at the end of the day, you will always have to look at you in a mirror and you will see that as time goes by you will always be with yourself
This is so true!! I don't understand why there are so many girls, who act exactly like you say. First of all, they dump their girlfriends because of the guy and then contact them when suddenly everything is falling apart. And right after the breakup they again looking for the next guy. I prefer to be single instead of dating someone just because..
P.S. I really enjoy your videos, they are fun and informative! Great job!
@mantainingfaith4ever because my name is rian.. idiot.. lmao obviously. it's typically a male name and people often mistake me for a boy. i don't care about anything else you said so i didn't read it~xo.
@mantainingfaith4ever I didn't read any of that shit lmao.. sucks to be defensive and embarrassed that someone caught you on your bad grammar. Womp =( </3
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First I LOVE YOU. Second. I just got out today from a bad relationship.It took me almost 6 years to realize that it was't healthy. He was jealous, I couldn't do anything, I had no one because of him. Now when I told him that it's over he beat me, he took everything that he ever bought me, money.I am so glad that I found your video. Now I just have to get trough this and I am so afraid because he is going to look for me and I don't know what to do. I wanna have fun because in 5 years I never had.
Thanks for posting...sometimes girls just need helpful opinions to walk out a bad r/s...to realise that most of us will need to experience that to grow n move on.
I know what your talking,about.I'm a guy and i notice lots of people in relationships,don't know is.To keep a relationship good is mostly being understanding,and to listen to your partner.When you start a relationship it's a partnership.
This is so true. And once you do begin to embrace your self (enjoy your own company and have hobbies/interests) he'll wanna know you again. Cause you're interesting all of a sudden :D
Thanks for the advise. Recently dumped my bf because he told me I wasn't good enough and anyways he was using me for popularity reasons and to meet other girls then he would dump me for one of the girls he meet through me. We then fought and I can't talk to him anymore after using me like that. I just like not being alone.
So true. I totally agree with everything you've just said and this is definitely what I would say to most girls out there...
It is hard when emotions and attachment is involved, but ultimately you have to be happy with who you are and respect yourselves. AND also not be afraid to demand respect from your partner. However some girls just have to learn it the hard way....
Well said! And another important thing to say is that girls need to respect themselves, because if you don't respect yourself why should other people?
I totally agree both should try hard to make other person happy in a relationship. I just got of of the relationship because we fought for the same matter and I feel like I am the only one who tried to put us back together. I really wish he changed for me but all I got from him was 'so what do you want from me'. That was the moment I feel like I am done. I still love him and still hoping we get back together. But won't go back unless he insist to stay the same stubborn person.
Great advice Andrea. Not only are you beautiful you're wise too. But regardless of looks, it's about self esteem, and many girls and women suffer from low self esteem from all walks of life. Low self esteem = desperate=vulnerable. This is ripe for anyone to walk all over you. I hope that girls/ladies and men come to value themselves and not define their self worth based on what someone else thinks of them and being in a relationship. I learned this lesson the hard way but I finally learned.
I am honestly one of those girls, who gives up their lives for that one guy but whenever I need help or whenever I get dumped my friends are always there for me so I always have them with me no matter what even if my actions were terrible. I used to think that this guy was all I needed that he was the one for me. It was the happiest moment in my life when I was with him but he didn't respect me. He just kept yelling at me for not wanting to lose him and I was blind to see that I don't need him.
@HeyyKaii good on you for seeing that! :D And I hope when the next guy comes, he's going to be awesome...AND you will still have time for the friends who has helped you. :)
@Bratneey123 just a thought, and I'm sure you don't want to hear this from someone you dont know and doesn't know you, but instead of constantly apologizing to him, maybe you should've taken action and actually did something about treating him better. Sometimes apologies don't mean anything unless you actually do something to make things right.
Latley i've been going through a lot and i never noticed that i haven't been treating my boyfriend as good as he deserves to.. he brought it up and now he's mad and i feel terrible.. i can't even count the times i've apoligized already but he still keeps ignoring me. he wants to talk to me on tuesday about it at school.. what do i do? I feel soooo bad.
i think when girls go through allot of relationships they learn much better. If any of you out there is feeling not happy , just pack and leave, there are millions out there are looking for you as much as you are looking for some one.,,,, just don't get pregnant lol.... i mean for sure you have to take care of yourselves. ... forget about he is the only love in my life. .. try to go out and see the world how is it...
rule number one DO NOT GIVE ADVICE everyone in this world already knows what they want to do in there own mind regardless, people just need someone to sit and LISTEN to them.
@missxmarie0990: well i still talk to guys but really theres only one guy ive gotten really far with in almost relationship terms.. I did some really bad things over the summer that he didnt like and he didnt want me anymore and im finally over that after 5 months of thinking i could get him back i finnaly realized that he was also talking to my best friend and i now know theres better guys then him i just dont know where to start. But thank you for that bit of info :)
@blueskinneyjeans If you're going to college soonish/ in the future that really helps!!! Like tons, there are tons of guys there and the places are riddled with guys with values and don't want to be sleezy little buttheads. Also if you don't have a job, get one- even if its for like a day a week you end up meeting a lot of people (especially if it's a place people your age tend to work). Last if youre not in a sport like track- do it! lol You only do three events, then have the
@blueskinneyjeans whole rest of the day to walk around and talk to people from other schools and place, that one helped me a lot. Sometimes it's hard to put yourself out there, but if you try and go out and do things with people/go places you always meet TONS of people. And even if they arent "boyfriend material" (or someone you'd typically go for) hell you've got a million friends lol.
Oh yeah on a serious note the only way anyone can truly be happy and know what makes them happy is 1 you gotta experiment and be like oh I don't like this or Oooooooo that's good... And 2 be by yourself to get to know yourself... Then you can show someone how to get to know you...
This is one of the first intelligent videos ive seen from a woman on youtube..i like how you dont point fingers at men in every situation because i believe a strong woman knows that there are great men out there because they attract them
its hard for me to even find a guy that likes me. i always do my hair and makeup to look good. but ik thats not enough. I talk to guys but i dont really like guys from my school. And then when i meet a guy ill text them but the conversations are not always fun :( How can I make my personality stick out?
@blueskinneyjeans don't, don't try- i know it can suck being single but if guys aren't going for YOU (the real you- subtle personality and all) then they are looking for different things in a relationship. which isn't a bad thing against you, it's just that you two didn't connect on that level. just keep being yourself, eventually someone will love you because of EVERYTHING you are- you won't have to try to nab them.
I have been in a bad relationship, after being unhappy for over a month, I finally duped him. But I couldn't get away from him. We kept talking and stuff, altough looking back now I know that was not a good choice. 1 month after I duped him a rushed into another relationship, just because I couldn't manage being single somehow. There I realized quite fast that what I was doing was wrong, I wasn't in love, I just needed a boyfriend.
After that I decided to stay single for quite some time. I wanted to figure out who I was and what I wanted in a guy. I became stonger and much more selfconfident. I have a new boyfriend now, for like a month after being single for 6 months and he's great. He is just what I needed. I waited for the right guy and I'm really happy I did.
@XXxrawrimadinosaurx .. been there , have the "ive been cheated on t-shirt" .. i let it happen a few times before walking away , give it a week or two and trust me you will look back and laugh girls !! you will think , man why did i ever put up with that for more then a second? stay strong and move on ;)
you mean "SOME" teen moms should watch this not all teen moms date a loser & give their life 2 them, & the guy cheats on them & they still with them & blah. NOT all teen moms go through that, i didn't i totally agree w/andrea. honestly it gets me mad when ppl say "teen moms" like we are all one? im a teen mom, the guy was scary & wanted me, just 4 him & he wanted me to have his baby & did anything to make that happened, he went 2 jail 4 what he did, ruined my life.
@ebayyb1 "the teen mom" girls as in the girls from mtv teen mom show... you goin in for nothing im a teen mom too, and i wont let a dude disrespect me
well yes i totally agree with you "the teen moms" from the mtv show should see this because seriously they are making a lot of teen moms look like the B word. like we are animals and guys have the right to treat us bad. nonono..
NOT all teen moms are that stupid. some are strong and leave the disrespected guy and take care of their little one. but yeah they should watch this the girls from mtv. i hate watching that show it makes me mad.
You give Awesome advice! Everything you said is 100% correct. I use to be the girl who was always heartbroken in the past. I actually jst got out of a horrible relationship. I use to wonder why my relationships always failed. Now i realized that I was the reason they always failed. I use to be so scared to speak up for myself & i would let my my exes run all over me. I learned that being too nice will NOT help at all. U gotta go hard sometimes to get respect. I can say that I'm truly happy now:)
@BeautifulJADExx i really need to stop thinking that being nice all the time is good, its not! i recently broke up with my first love and he was such an asshole but i let him be one, i just wish i could just speak up and be more respectful of myself x
@BeautifulJADExx i really need to stop thinking that being nice all the time is good, its not! i recently broke up with my first love and he was such an asshole but i let him be one, i just wish i could just speak up and be more respectful of myself x
Dont you hate those girls who give up their friends and their lives altogether for a guy? Those silly serial daters who can't live without a guy are ridiculous. Get to know and love yourself...no want wants to live as your eternal emotional crutch.
@kcl060 totally agreed, the year 5's at my previous school (a grade lower than me)... 1/2 of them are in a relationship and i was in a compostie class and all the girls that were in a relationship became stingy and mean and jsut didn't care about their friends at all, i just felt like bitch-slapping them
@kcl060 It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made. People and priorities change. As some relationships fade others will grow. Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever
I think this is great advice, but it's a lot harder to end a relationship when there are children involved, but it's also a process. Love is blind and it's not as easy as it seems from an outside stand point. I have been through this and have severed ties but it was one of the hardest things to go through.
One lesson I learned from the last few women I dated is if they have serious issues, bail out fast. O and never trust anyone with anything you're not willing to lose. I was happiest when I was in a good, healthy relationship, but I'm at the point where the momentary high isn't worth the trouble that comes with it. Funny thing is, I actually tried. O well, fuck it drive on. Nice video.
I soooo get you when you say that some girls have been dating all their lives ...that's all they know. I feel the same way and feel bad. I was allowed to date, I just didn't and did like you and your sister and focused my attention on a lot of things so I'm selective as well. I wish other girls would do the same. I don't recommend dating young.
You are an inspiration. You are so beautiful and your videos are so helpful. That color shirt really suits you :) Keep posting amazing videos, they're amazing. Could you maybe do a video on cutting your own bangs? if you don't mind. Thanksss so much. Please reply:) It would make my day!:)
@erizefm Calm down I`m just saying that it`s not easy to let them go not that it`s not right. What i mean is if you love someone who treats you like crap you probably did have good times with this person before otherwise you wouldn`t love them and it`s very hard to except that those times are over and will never come back and that it`s time to walk away. And by the way crying on the couch for only 2 weeks as Andrea said isn`t enough to get over someone you truly loved. Otherwise I totally agree.
Love your videos! You absolutely gorgeous:) just subbed
gabimadeline 4 hours ago
I am in so much agreement with this. Move on with your life and make yourself number 1!
LoveFireStarter 1 day ago
Aahahah! You're not respecting me Devaughn. Soooo funny.
LoveFireStarter 1 day ago
;) AMEN.
wefoundchai 1 day ago
What lip color do you have on?
KendallScreechOwl 2 days ago
3:26 MOST FLEXIBLE THUMB EVER.
kittycatcatherine 2 days ago
Amen, Andrea!
iDuskerz 3 days ago
@iDuskerz lol i was gonna comment the same thing!
TiiABooSKeeH 3 days ago
And, I'll also say, the reason why some guys tend to lose interest and "get turned off" by some of us girls is because some tend to get so caught up "in the relationship" & the guy, and we slowly lose ourselves. To a guy, it looks like clingyness. And what turns a guy off bout clingyness is that he can no longer "chase you." Guys love "the thrill." The excitement that comes from pursuing a lady he has the likings for. If a girl comes off too close or too easy, they more than likely back away.
TheKawaiiBoricua 5 days ago
3:35 Key words right there... "give up their lives" and "get turned off"
Guys love a girl who is about themselves and their happiness and success in life. Doesn't mean you have to be stuck up, materialistic and "independent," but learn how to put your values, standards, and priorities first and in-check. And KNOWN to the ones you date. You shouldn't have to pretend or hide who you are. The right one respects you and your opinions and dreams for yourself. <3
TheKawaiiBoricua 5 days ago
Soooo true
Your amazing !
Jacquelinaaa23 5 days ago
<3 <3 <3
cristinamarie1019 1 week ago
It has everything to do with fear and lack of love for self. And there are those who recognize this, then we complain about how they treat us so badly, but we allow/or have allowed them to do so. We must remember our environment and those around us are a reflection of ourselves. Love self, true love manifests. Very good video, darling!! Blessings
Soulessaint 1 week ago
If i girl is staying with a gguy even wen she knows hes cheating ur probaly desperate and u think ur not good enuf for someone.else so u stay with that jerk bcuz he broke ur self esteem down but ur bettr then that so just get out there theres plenty of fish in the c
levanna2015 1 week ago
kudos
eho1019 1 week ago
So, tell me, when did you get your degree in relationships from Bimbo University? This sounds like a mish mash of every pop psychology book ever written. So Dr. Phil. Truth of the matter is that the vast majority of women today are attracted to irresponsible, grotesque, venal fuktards who, for some reason have the power to disconnect the brains of even the rare intelligent girl. It used to amaze me, but now it's just funny. When they get to be 30 and alone they start to panic! Hilarious!
warwolfii 1 week ago
@warwolfii And where did you get your degree? Desperate-Bitter-Loser-Nice-Guy(TM)-Misogynist-who's-been-rejected-one-too-many-times University? Got news for you warwolfii, you're not a nice guy. You're a jerk. Oh, and you're not that intelligent either.
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There is some very good advice on twitter! I actually took this advice and improved my relationship a tremendous amount just trust me and follow: @iRelationship_ (only one underscore) you wont regret it!
ixtazxi512 1 week ago
I think you're right, I totally agree. But I also think that you forgot about the feelings that come when you break up with someone. You're just like: eat some icecream and cry for 2 weeks, then move on. You know, sometimes it's harder than that, because sometimes you really love that person, and that's probably why you hang on to him or her... I hope all of you out there, that aren't happy in a relationship find the courage to start "riding solo" and be happy;)
LucyMaybelline 2 weeks ago 5
i love you and your channel! I love this video and its in my top favorite. You are so inspirational. I haven't watched this in a while, and as i watch this now, i feel like you're coaching me and giving me back my confidence. I used to be so happy on my own until a recent bf and i just feel like he's brought me down so much. This is giving the reality check i needed for a while. Thank you. <3
dollface889 2 weeks ago
i agree---until you value yourself , until you enjoy life without a relationship, you are gonna have relationship problems
ladida8628 2 weeks ago
i love you!!!!!
Marthekt1994 2 weeks ago
thank you.
honeybee24511 2 weeks ago
I LOVE this video, She just said the same things i have been saying to myself for the past few weeks i just ended it with a guy i have been with for 6years.there was just to much fighting and craziness going on and in the end of it all i really saw that i was doing more crying and worrying while i was with him than now that iam alone I am so much happier now and yea i have my bad moments but i just let it out and keep it moving.I know one day ill find mr.right but im just loving being me for now
calicold21 2 weeks ago
@calicold21 I just posted pretty much the same thing you did before i read this. lol. Im really happy that you were able to finally end it. Ive only been in this unhealthy relationship for 2 yrs, with all the fighting and stressing out, but i feel like if its starting to change me and i dont want to be that person that is so unhappy and negative. I know its time for me to be on my own again too and just enjoy my life again.
dollface889 2 weeks ago
D.S.L.'S
illad3lph 2 weeks ago
i promise i will love you Andreea
silviuurs 3 weeks ago
what if you try to dump him because he makes you miserable, but he keepssaying he is cutting himself and he actually does? How would one deal with this?
youtubing8286 3 weeks ago
i think the reason people stay with jerks is because girls feel like they can force people to change, but people won't change unless they want to.
lasmiss98 3 weeks ago
You definitely make me want a sister sooo bad. I had to figure this out on my own, but it would have been nice to have someone tell me these things before I went through that horrible relationship. Either way, lesson learned and NEVER AGAIN!!
NikkisView 3 weeks ago
Real men don`t love bitches. Real men who don`t demand idolaterous worship, like women who don`t demand idolaterous worship. They both posess sense. And that is the only way to have a relantionship, and then you need to be a monotheist. Which at an esoteric level is, there is nothing but consciousness and it`s creation :) Which should be the most interesting relationship there is. If you are an idolater, atheist, or some other creep, any relationship is not going to work. Booze and whores awaits
ParadoxEternal 3 weeks ago
it makes me think of the book "Why men love bitches " :)
Somakeuphie 4 weeks ago
it is sooo true :=) I was that type of afraid girl before, now that I focus on my goals and myself I found the boyfriend that do respect me but if one day it ends, well it will end and I will find someone else. Life goes on. The most important is to always stick to what you are and to respect yourself because at the end of the day, you will always have to look at you in a mirror and you will see that as time goes by you will always be with yourself
Somakeuphie 4 weeks ago
great video
0xpaulax 4 weeks ago
it makes me soo sad when your puppy's biting and playingg with youu.. makes me miss mineeeee :'/
but anywhooooo.. GREAT VIDEO ! (:
sokrzy619 1 month ago
This is so true!! I don't understand why there are so many girls, who act exactly like you say. First of all, they dump their girlfriends because of the guy and then contact them when suddenly everything is falling apart. And right after the breakup they again looking for the next guy. I prefer to be single instead of dating someone just because..
P.S. I really enjoy your videos, they are fun and informative! Great job!
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mantainingfaith4ever 1 month ago
@mantainingfaith4ever because my name is rian.. idiot.. lmao obviously. it's typically a male name and people often mistake me for a boy. i don't care about anything else you said so i didn't read it~xo.
rianrobot 1 month ago
u dont read it but yet u keep replying to my messages..hmm i n t e r e s t i n g..and im the liar ...ha!
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rianrobot 1 month ago
@rianrobot you act like I called u the "N" word u are overexagerrating
but whatever think what u want the irony of all this the conversation did not involve u to begin with..
mantainingfaith4ever 1 month ago
@mantainingfaith4ever now you're criticizing me by discrediting my feelings and deeming them an exaggeration lol. say what you mean to say~~~~
rianrobot 1 month ago
@mantainingfaith4ever it's also ironic and not a coincidence that you deleted your initial comment.
rianrobot 1 month ago
@mantainingfaith4ever I didn't read any of that shit lmao.. sucks to be defensive and embarrassed that someone caught you on your bad grammar. Womp =( </3
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Relationships are challenged by circumstances and social influences. They fail if they are not managed with care and consideration of the other person's feelings. The mismanagement of these relationships ultimately bring grief and pain to all the people involved. Seek to manage your relationships with care and consideration of the other person's needs. Recognize that sometimes you cannot repair the errors of your past; however today is the first day of the rest of your life.~Ervin Jackson, PhD
TheErvinjackson 1 month ago
@TheErvinjackson well said thank you!
mantainingfaith4ever 1 month ago
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Truth987Seeker 1 month ago
First I LOVE YOU. Second. I just got out today from a bad relationship.It took me almost 6 years to realize that it was't healthy. He was jealous, I couldn't do anything, I had no one because of him. Now when I told him that it's over he beat me, he took everything that he ever bought me, money.I am so glad that I found your video. Now I just have to get trough this and I am so afraid because he is going to look for me and I don't know what to do. I wanna have fun because in 5 years I never had.
21cosminutza 1 month ago
Thanks for posting...sometimes girls just need helpful opinions to walk out a bad r/s...to realise that most of us will need to experience that to grow n move on.
DoraAmon1988 1 month ago
true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
mzsarasara1987 1 month ago
hell yes! took me a long time to realise it!ur soo right, ive been single a while and it gave me time to know and love me
2upakaveli 1 month ago
lovee u :)
tia3094 1 month ago
omg, amen ;DD
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Can you please do a makeup tutorial for this video......PLEASE????????:)thanks
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@anaguevara9 i totally agree with you 100%:)
SuperMeadow13 1 month ago
I know what your talking,about.I'm a guy and i notice lots of people in relationships,don't know is.To keep a relationship good is mostly being understanding,and to listen to your partner.When you start a relationship it's a partnership.
Elementalsoulreaper1 1 month ago
This is so true. And once you do begin to embrace your self (enjoy your own company and have hobbies/interests) he'll wanna know you again. Cause you're interesting all of a sudden :D
ShamRockssince81 1 month ago in playlist More videos from AndreasChoice
you always say the right things..i love you<3
dancer132455 1 month ago
PREACH!
AmiliaBelin 1 month ago
AMEN!
AmiliaBelin 1 month ago
you are my inspiration. <3
Ljisindahous 1 month ago
Soooo true!
samath1985 1 month ago
i admire you sooo much just wanted to let you know (: i loved alll your videos
Rainbowsndturtle 1 month ago
i agree with you soo much!
Rainbowsndturtle 1 month ago
Thanks for the advise. Recently dumped my bf because he told me I wasn't good enough and anyways he was using me for popularity reasons and to meet other girls then he would dump me for one of the girls he meet through me. We then fought and I can't talk to him anymore after using me like that. I just like not being alone.
Luvtheluckyducks 1 month ago
Must love yourself first!
TheMsDestiny11 1 month ago
Omg u remind me of my friend desting XD ur awesome
juarezsanchez102 1 month ago
So true. I totally agree with everything you've just said and this is definitely what I would say to most girls out there...
It is hard when emotions and attachment is involved, but ultimately you have to be happy with who you are and respect yourselves. AND also not be afraid to demand respect from your partner. However some girls just have to learn it the hard way....
darkanj3l 1 month ago
Well said! And another important thing to say is that girls need to respect themselves, because if you don't respect yourself why should other people?
LooveSummer91 1 month ago
we all girls are precious !
you receive guys that can build a golden bridge for you (just example)
xhezeii 1 month ago
I totally agree both should try hard to make other person happy in a relationship. I just got of of the relationship because we fought for the same matter and I feel like I am the only one who tried to put us back together. I really wish he changed for me but all I got from him was 'so what do you want from me'. That was the moment I feel like I am done. I still love him and still hoping we get back together. But won't go back unless he insist to stay the same stubborn person.
jennoh1112 1 month ago
Great advice Andrea. Not only are you beautiful you're wise too. But regardless of looks, it's about self esteem, and many girls and women suffer from low self esteem from all walks of life. Low self esteem = desperate=vulnerable. This is ripe for anyone to walk all over you. I hope that girls/ladies and men come to value themselves and not define their self worth based on what someone else thinks of them and being in a relationship. I learned this lesson the hard way but I finally learned.
nancydrew5 1 month ago 20
I'm So Glad That I have The Best Boyfriend In The World And I Think Just Like You do <3
rebeccababovic 1 month ago 29
Yes!
hollywood2newyork 1 month ago
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The show is much better in mute, LOL:)
You would get more view if you showed more of your body
alontoCrust 1 month ago
I am honestly one of those girls, who gives up their lives for that one guy but whenever I need help or whenever I get dumped my friends are always there for me so I always have them with me no matter what even if my actions were terrible. I used to think that this guy was all I needed that he was the one for me. It was the happiest moment in my life when I was with him but he didn't respect me. He just kept yelling at me for not wanting to lose him and I was blind to see that I don't need him.
HeyyKaii 1 month ago
@HeyyKaii good on you for seeing that! :D And I hope when the next guy comes, he's going to be awesome...AND you will still have time for the friends who has helped you. :)
loveyourself77 1 month ago
i meant to say relationships aren't worth wasting your life over.
lovelysango144 1 month ago
I think every female and male should look at this and listen to what she is saying. Because a relationships are worth wasting your life over.
lovelysango144 1 month ago
@Bratneey123 just a thought, and I'm sure you don't want to hear this from someone you dont know and doesn't know you, but instead of constantly apologizing to him, maybe you should've taken action and actually did something about treating him better. Sometimes apologies don't mean anything unless you actually do something to make things right.
simsvideoshahaha 1 month ago
Latley i've been going through a lot and i never noticed that i haven't been treating my boyfriend as good as he deserves to.. he brought it up and now he's mad and i feel terrible.. i can't even count the times i've apoligized already but he still keeps ignoring me. he wants to talk to me on tuesday about it at school.. what do i do? I feel soooo bad.
Bratneey123 2 months ago
@Bratneey123 If you still love him them nothing you worry about. just treat him right and show an action not just telling him how much you love him
jennoh1112 1 month ago
talk more slow ¨!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wnb13e 2 months ago
Lol.. it won't play past Andrea saying "the relationship needs to end" at 2:46.
It just stops dead like all such relationships should.
blodfyre 2 months ago
i think when girls go through allot of relationships they learn much better. If any of you out there is feeling not happy , just pack and leave, there are millions out there are looking for you as much as you are looking for some one.,,,, just don't get pregnant lol.... i mean for sure you have to take care of yourselves. ... forget about he is the only love in my life. .. try to go out and see the world how is it...
validvalidvalid1234 2 months ago
3:39 i thought the dog pooped lhh i had 2 rewind it...im slow...i was like wtf is dat
lyricnemily 2 months ago
whenever im having problems with a guy im going to watch this vedo for encouragment!
thank you so much ;)
KISSxoMISSxo 2 months ago
you look like that one girl actor from seven pounds, the one who will give his heart to.
JuicyWuSea 2 months ago
rule number one DO NOT GIVE ADVICE everyone in this world already knows what they want to do in there own mind regardless, people just need someone to sit and LISTEN to them.
VeeGotti 2 months ago
thankyou so much for this video. it is perfect for my mom. imma make her watch it!! thank you thank you soooo much!!
JustMe19959 2 months ago
i wanna wife her
iCharmCity410 2 months ago
i know its cheesy but if you can't love yourself then how can you expect someone else to love you? Andrea you're a guru btw :) x
chocokey44 2 months ago
Ur sooo great:)
tasiavlasia 2 months ago
@missxmarie0990: well i still talk to guys but really theres only one guy ive gotten really far with in almost relationship terms.. I did some really bad things over the summer that he didnt like and he didnt want me anymore and im finally over that after 5 months of thinking i could get him back i finnaly realized that he was also talking to my best friend and i now know theres better guys then him i just dont know where to start. But thank you for that bit of info :)
blueskinneyjeans 2 months ago
@blueskinneyjeans If you're going to college soonish/ in the future that really helps!!! Like tons, there are tons of guys there and the places are riddled with guys with values and don't want to be sleezy little buttheads. Also if you don't have a job, get one- even if its for like a day a week you end up meeting a lot of people (especially if it's a place people your age tend to work). Last if youre not in a sport like track- do it! lol You only do three events, then have the
missXmarie0990 2 months ago
@blueskinneyjeans whole rest of the day to walk around and talk to people from other schools and place, that one helped me a lot. Sometimes it's hard to put yourself out there, but if you try and go out and do things with people/go places you always meet TONS of people. And even if they arent "boyfriend material" (or someone you'd typically go for) hell you've got a million friends lol.
missXmarie0990 2 months ago
Oh yeah on a serious note the only way anyone can truly be happy and know what makes them happy is 1 you gotta experiment and be like oh I don't like this or Oooooooo that's good... And 2 be by yourself to get to know yourself... Then you can show someone how to get to know you...
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NostalgicRebirth 2 months ago
I so agree... With everything... And crying is very healthy... Sometimes I just go to my room and cry myself happy... I feel so free afterwards...
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NostalgicRebirth 2 months ago
This is one of the first intelligent videos ive seen from a woman on youtube..i like how you dont point fingers at men in every situation because i believe a strong woman knows that there are great men out there because they attract them
ThaFlyGuy89 2 months ago
you're so beautiful andrea. and i love your confidence and attitude<3
sweetbunniie 2 months ago
God I'm trying to pay attention to what she's saying, but she's so DAMN FINE!
... God I'm lonely..
windkai 2 months ago
you did this on my bday:D gwed advice
dazoe122 2 months ago
Rasario Dawson's Look Alike :)
NikkiRoseification 2 months ago
This video gave me the strength to dump somebody today ,true story
Blopiu26 2 months ago
amazing advice. I agree on everything, especially about the self respect.
neonlightsxp 2 months ago
You are a genious:)
PandaLimon42 2 months ago
its hard for me to even find a guy that likes me. i always do my hair and makeup to look good. but ik thats not enough. I talk to guys but i dont really like guys from my school. And then when i meet a guy ill text them but the conversations are not always fun :( How can I make my personality stick out?
blueskinneyjeans 2 months ago
@blueskinneyjeans don't, don't try- i know it can suck being single but if guys aren't going for YOU (the real you- subtle personality and all) then they are looking for different things in a relationship. which isn't a bad thing against you, it's just that you two didn't connect on that level. just keep being yourself, eventually someone will love you because of EVERYTHING you are- you won't have to try to nab them.
missXmarie0990 2 months ago
I totally agree with you, you're great Andrea <3
TheFckyall 2 months ago
I have been in a bad relationship, after being unhappy for over a month, I finally duped him. But I couldn't get away from him. We kept talking and stuff, altough looking back now I know that was not a good choice. 1 month after I duped him a rushed into another relationship, just because I couldn't manage being single somehow. There I realized quite fast that what I was doing was wrong, I wasn't in love, I just needed a boyfriend.
Elisekisses 2 months ago
After that I decided to stay single for quite some time. I wanted to figure out who I was and what I wanted in a guy. I became stonger and much more selfconfident. I have a new boyfriend now, for like a month after being single for 6 months and he's great. He is just what I needed. I waited for the right guy and I'm really happy I did.
Elisekisses 2 months ago
Thank you,Andrea! :)
Jovannisima 2 months ago
what breed is your dog? x
juicemoosexo 2 months ago
This video sounds like you have never been in love. It is much harder to end things when you're in love.
BlakelySage1 2 months ago
@BlakelySage1 if its an unhealthy relationship like the ones described, then its most likely not true love
SamanthaPauletteM 2 months ago
this is such amazing advice. Your awesome!
fangisnotmyname 2 months ago
Any girl who stays with a guy who cheated is an idiot who is just asking to be disrespected.
gugugaga55 2 months ago
truuuuue!
lifeisgolden41 2 months ago
This is brilliant
RahRah0990 2 months ago
if you're not happy being single , you'll never be happy in a relationship . get your own life first , then share it .
XXxrawrimadinosaurx 2 months ago 130
@XXxrawrimadinosaurx .. been there , have the "ive been cheated on t-shirt" .. i let it happen a few times before walking away , give it a week or two and trust me you will look back and laugh girls !! you will think , man why did i ever put up with that for more then a second? stay strong and move on ;)
XxSarahable 2 months ago 11
the teen mom girls should watch this
shortiisweet99 2 months ago 2
@shortiisweet99
you mean "SOME" teen moms should watch this not all teen moms date a loser & give their life 2 them, & the guy cheats on them & they still with them & blah. NOT all teen moms go through that, i didn't i totally agree w/andrea. honestly it gets me mad when ppl say "teen moms" like we are all one? im a teen mom, the guy was scary & wanted me, just 4 him & he wanted me to have his baby & did anything to make that happened, he went 2 jail 4 what he did, ruined my life.
ebayyb1 2 months ago
@ebayyb1 "the teen mom" girls as in the girls from mtv teen mom show... you goin in for nothing im a teen mom too, and i wont let a dude disrespect me
shortiisweet99 2 months ago
@shortiisweet99
oh...ok then
well yes i totally agree with you "the teen moms" from the mtv show should see this because seriously they are making a lot of teen moms look like the B word. like we are animals and guys have the right to treat us bad. nonono..
NOT all teen moms are that stupid. some are strong and leave the disrespected guy and take care of their little one. but yeah they should watch this the girls from mtv. i hate watching that show it makes me mad.
ebayyb1 2 months ago
Wow a lot of ppl really do need tohear this.
indysshow 2 months ago
you're amazing!
LiaraChantell 2 months ago
You give Awesome advice! Everything you said is 100% correct. I use to be the girl who was always heartbroken in the past. I actually jst got out of a horrible relationship. I use to wonder why my relationships always failed. Now i realized that I was the reason they always failed. I use to be so scared to speak up for myself & i would let my my exes run all over me. I learned that being too nice will NOT help at all. U gotta go hard sometimes to get respect. I can say that I'm truly happy now:)
BeautifulJADExx 3 months ago
@BeautifulJADExx i really need to stop thinking that being nice all the time is good, its not! i recently broke up with my first love and he was such an asshole but i let him be one, i just wish i could just speak up and be more respectful of myself x
slnh123 2 months ago
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@BeautifulJADExx i really need to stop thinking that being nice all the time is good, its not! i recently broke up with my first love and he was such an asshole but i let him be one, i just wish i could just speak up and be more respectful of myself x
slnh123 2 months ago
Dont you hate those girls who give up their friends and their lives altogether for a guy? Those silly serial daters who can't live without a guy are ridiculous. Get to know and love yourself...no want wants to live as your eternal emotional crutch.
kcl060 3 months ago 133
@kcl060 totally agreed, the year 5's at my previous school (a grade lower than me)... 1/2 of them are in a relationship and i was in a compostie class and all the girls that were in a relationship became stingy and mean and jsut didn't care about their friends at all, i just felt like bitch-slapping them
activegirl02 2 months ago
@kcl060 It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made. People and priorities change. As some relationships fade others will grow. Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever
validvalidvalid1234 2 months ago
This video helped me so much. THANK YOU
baylie611 3 months ago
you're really down to earth for someone so ridiculously pretty. love your vids + personality! :]
StopThatSquirrel 3 months ago
I love you! <3
Niecee44 3 months ago
I think this is great advice, but it's a lot harder to end a relationship when there are children involved, but it's also a process. Love is blind and it's not as easy as it seems from an outside stand point. I have been through this and have severed ties but it was one of the hardest things to go through.
diamondztreasure 3 months ago
your tv is on
nickypetoussis 3 months ago
OMG That's really inspiring.. "why would anyone want to be in a miserable relationshiop"
SheDesignR 3 months ago 2
Go andreaaaaaaaa
Lotusflowerbomb1 3 months ago
i agree. one of the best relationship video i had ever seen.thanks!
holdlov41 3 months ago
One lesson I learned from the last few women I dated is if they have serious issues, bail out fast. O and never trust anyone with anything you're not willing to lose. I was happiest when I was in a good, healthy relationship, but I'm at the point where the momentary high isn't worth the trouble that comes with it. Funny thing is, I actually tried. O well, fuck it drive on. Nice video.
mistereveready 3 months ago
great vid!!
bladiebla11 3 months ago
This is some REAL TALK <3
Aleu 3 months ago
I've just been dumped by my bf and I feel so sad
14watchtower 3 months ago
@14watchtower Ha Ha!
Auwa419 3 months ago
theres something about full lips and pearly whites that make the back of my tingle
MarzetJunior 3 months ago
THAT PINK MAC IN THE BACKROUND!!!!
WHERE DID YOU GET IT !!!???
xxXJemxJOXxx 3 months ago
@xxXJemxJOXxx its a pink cover ;P
bigsislittlebrother 3 months ago
@xxXJemxJOXxx its not a pink mac..they make covers...to put on them
xPrettyThings87 2 months ago
I soooo get you when you say that some girls have been dating all their lives ...that's all they know. I feel the same way and feel bad. I was allowed to date, I just didn't and did like you and your sister and focused my attention on a lot of things so I'm selective as well. I wish other girls would do the same. I don't recommend dating young.
punky298705 3 months ago
You Just Got Yourself A New Subbie. ♥
MissHeart13 3 months ago
hey girl, you just made my day!!!!!!!! :**
justitias 3 months ago
Your amazing.:)
EmmaTheGame5683 4 months ago
Your so gorgeous.
SmokingJoePot 4 months ago
i just came here to watch this. my boyfriend and i broke up and i needed advice. thankyou for this video
jenwexxx820 4 months ago
AMEM SISTA
woosiex3 4 months ago
You are an inspiration. You are so beautiful and your videos are so helpful. That color shirt really suits you :) Keep posting amazing videos, they're amazing. Could you maybe do a video on cutting your own bangs? if you don't mind. Thanksss so much. Please reply:) It would make my day!:)
RomaToms93 4 months ago
Andreaschoice I absolutely love you. YOu are so real and I love that. you've inspired me to make my own channel and help other women :)
daiserz89 4 months ago
It`s not that easy Andrea. When you really love someone it`s very hard to let them go even if they treat you like crap.
chanelbanana 4 months ago 2
@chanelbanana Very true. :/
babygurrlxoxo 4 months ago
@chanelbanana if you think you love someone who treats you like crap, maybe you don't really understand what love is.
and do you think she'd mention crying on the couch for weeks if she implied you weren't in 'love' anywho?
erizefm 4 months ago
@erizefm Calm down I`m just saying that it`s not easy to let them go not that it`s not right. What i mean is if you love someone who treats you like crap you probably did have good times with this person before otherwise you wouldn`t love them and it`s very hard to except that those times are over and will never come back and that it`s time to walk away. And by the way crying on the couch for only 2 weeks as Andrea said isn`t enough to get over someone you truly loved. Otherwise I totally agree.
chanelbanana 4 months ago
i feel so motivated after watching this. <3 i wish i had a friend like you.
apriLovee 4 months ago