Stuttering Help - How to Stop Stuttering - The Start Speaking Training Center

[MadMrConin]

It sucks I can never say my name to other people and im 13 in school.

[TheCaptMicro]

MESSEGE TO ALL THAT STUTTER: If ur a school student dont be afraid to read bc i have overcome, like sometimes when ur class is reading and its about to be ur turn tell the students next to u that u will stutter and act like its a joke because that will releive the pressure of stuttering, and if ur stuck on a word for a long time then just skip it. I never stutter when im reading at school... hope it works for u

[TheCaptMicro]

@StartSpeakingAhora I stutter sometimes like at the minimum when im around friends and people my age but when i speak to my parents or principal at school or clerk then thats a whole diffrent story bc i stutter like hell i just want to ask how to aviod that

[djBC10000]

hey this stuff is 10 dollars now, what happen to it being free.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@djBC10000 Great question. It's still free to watch and listen to. There's all kinds of ways to get stuff on the web for free as well. However, to download the audios or videos and support this work I do charge what is normally a very small amount. So, yes, it is still free and yes, there is a fee, but only to download.

[djBC10000]

@StartSpeakingAhora lol sorry to ask very rude question, i just want to say after watching ur videos i feel so much better, so thank you.

[MajiMarie]

@tony3611liao dude i stutter just as bad. i hate it when i read out loud i get laughed at and when i answer the fones and i wana be an administrative assistant. its embarrassing :( so i feel you

[Ksharp1fan]

his hand palms are whiter than mine and i'm white

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@Ksharp1fan :-) 

[britneymyangel]

@StartSpeakingAhora I'm 11 years old and i stutter so bad that i hit my leg when i talk and in school i hit the desk and a lot of the kids make fun of me and stuff my speech teacher is teaching me doesnt help me and i need help what can i do ?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@britneymyangel Hello and thanks for your comment. Sometimes Speech Therapy helps. Along with this, you may try our strategy.  Here it is in a simplistic format: 1. Affirm that you are or are becoming a great speaker. 2. Find a good speaker to model and pretend to speak like them. 3. Practice making presentations or having conversations using this new fluent way of speaking. There's more to it, but that's it in a gist. You can retrain or learn to speak fluently.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@StartSpeakingAhora It may take time and be difficult, but with time and practice, practice, practice you can use this challenge to become an even better communicator than you would have been without it.

[britneymyangel]

@StartSpeakingAhora ok because what I have been doing is taking a breath before talking and it helps me sometimes and thank you that's what ill try

[tony3611liao]

i stutter so much nobody can understand me.

[robitsme]

My advice to help people who stammer is try talking with an accent or different tone or consciously try and beware that you are talking differently to the way you normally would. You might find that the concentration and effort you are putting on your new accent takes away the stress and fear of speaking. It works very well for me. Takes the stammer away completely. Not saying it will work for everyone, but something people might want to try

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@robitsme Hey, this is an excellent comment or suggestion!!! This is very similar to modeling. Modeling or patterning is based on the same principle as is suggested by this comment. You may see one of the other videos on Patterning.

[robitsme]

@StartSpeakingAhora Yes it's like modelling. For me, the stammer can be quite deeply ingrained into your personality, so by being someone new, or at least mimicking someone else, takes you out of the state of mind, or state of being which is the stammerer. I tried by accident, joking with friends about different accents, then noticed the stammer went away completely when I did it. Eventually, through habit and repitition, the model becomes you

[robitsme]

@StartSpeakingAhora I'm an NLP practitioner, and in my experience, you can tinker and play around with your personlity or beliefs which may cause the stammer, and you may get some refief, or you can reinvent yourself, to someone who dosnt stammer... and modelling works very very quickly.

[ThisIsHatman]

@robitsme i acctually found that out myself, but its not much of a good idea if u talk with a different accent at work or class, my solution is to try and imagine everyone u talk to is the same person you talk to at home, it really reduces the stutter!

[robitsme]

@ThisIsHatman Good idea, i'll give it a try. With this in mind i'd say its very probable that stammering is linked to the personality, or our id, who we think we are, rather than any hard wiring. I firmly believe the way to beat stammering is not to use our present way of thinking, create a new personality if you like.

[zRenzoh]

I'm 14, and I stuttered really bad when I was like 6-8, then it stopped and started happening since 12 years old to this day. I speak fine infront of my friends but to people I don't know or when talking in class about the work we're doing I stutter... it sucks.

[Brentypooz]

@zRenzoh Dude im the exact same, i went through stages but now (im recently 15) i cant talk to literally anyone, but! i cant talk to my parents or close friends, but girls and teachers and stuff i talk rather normally. STRANGE stuff :L

[caladbolge]

stuttering is a pathalogical sign of irregular neurotransmitters being passed across an axon too quickly and you don't have enough time to process it. in my opionion, it would be best to practice talking slow and less enthusiastic when around people. This is y excitement or nervousness makes some people stutter but when they aren't, usually they don't... if you have a more rare disorder, then there is no cure

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@caladbolge Thank you for your insightful comment. I would most definitely agree that for some people trying to relax and speaking more slowly would be a great strategy. Thanks again.

[caladbolge]

@StartSpeakingAhora By making this video i think you will be a great public speaker in the future because you want to help people. Thanks for telling us your stories, very much appreciated. 

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@caladbolge You are quite welcome. And thank you for your comments.

[Exuvium97]

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[Exuvium97]

Stuttering sucks, it really effects your daily life. Sometimes in school I'm nervous to ask questions because I might stutter. I speak 95% fluent with friends, but when it ckEd to a whole classroom, I can't do it. Inreally only stutter with certain words. Like the d's. Doodle, different, dire, discipline, and more. I don't see how I sometimes stutter in public and not with friends! :(

[MrCoggyTNAWWE]

@StartSpeakingAhora Thanks for telling me the story about the woman with amnesia it really got to me. So all I have to do is try and forget my stutter?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@MrCoggyTNAWWE Well, it actually involves creating a new memory or belief about yourself as a speaker. This can be done through the repetition of speaking (practice presentation), modeling and affirmations. Of course I'm being succinct here, but this is the basic formula.

[qpmonoqp]

I been sturtting since i was about 8..i hate it! I stutter about 45-65% in a day worth of talking,and it makes me really mad because people like my ideas,or come to me about problmes,or want me to explain how something works,and i can NEVER say any of thease things i want to say without stuttering,then when i stutter,some people think i dont know what im doing,or think im wrong..im 17 now,and i been looking for a job,and i think im get fired because of sturrting, :( and look ,i guss stuiped to

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@qpmonoqp Hello. I do understand what you're saying. Here a piece of good news. You say you stutter 45-65% of the time. This means there is 55-45% of the time that you don't stutter. When are those times? You are obviously capable to speaking fluently 55-45% of the time. This is great. Now we need to expand those successful speaking periods. The vast majority of people I talk with stutter in certain situations and not 100% of the time.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@StartSpeakingAhora Check this out: the start speaking training center.org/elite/ also, be sure to watch and study all of The Power Coach Videos. Put into practice the affirmations, practice presentation sessions and modeling particularly. All three are important.

[ButteryassLalo]

@qpmonoqp Your not alone bro!

Im 17 as well.. suffering from the same thing.. i been stuttering ever since i can remember.. ive gotten better over the years compared to elementary and middle school but i havent completely conquered it. It can get very fustrating :(

A lot of times i cant even explain something or ask a question without worrying about stuttering :(

[Super123Xxxxxxx]

I stuttered A LOT when I was a little kid. In school I went to speech class, and I got better. But I still stutter. My problem is that I talk too fast! I recorded myself talking and realized that I need to think about what I want to say before I said it. :)

[denyze2008]

thanks for giving me confidens

[sKoTyo]

You are an excellent speaker, its hard to believe you once stuttered. I feel as though I can reach the same goal you have because I am really determined to overcome my stutter. Thank you so much for making the majority of the program free, as at present I cannot afford it. It really warms my heart that people out there are still willing to help other people like you are.Congratulations on overcoming your stutter by the way, and I know I will be joining you soon..

[stutteringexpert]

hi michael, I liked your professionally made videos. I look sometimes at the stuttering forum and noticed some comments about you and your work. Why do they give you such a hard time about your program? I don't understand this.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@stutteringexpert Wow! What a refreshing comment. Thank you and I mean that from the bottom and top of my heart. Negative comments and skepticism are to be expected when doing this kind of work. I believe the reasons are: doubt, unbelief, fear, misplace anger and in a few cases perhaps jealousy. In any case, their comments let me know that I'm on the right track or I wouldn't even be on their radar. In fact, and this is kind of amusing, I've been banned from the forum.

[stutteringexpert]

@StartSpeakingAhora Hi Michael nice to hear back from you but I am bewildered why you have been banned from the forum. Can I ask what rationale they offered as to why you were banned, this makes no sense at all, what you wrote was reasonable and well measured in response to the attacks you took at the forum??

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@stutteringexpert Hello Stuttering Expert. Of course they did not provide a reason. There was just a message saying I was banned FOREVER or something like that :-) I was careful not to advertise. I only offered my advice just as others had done. The truth is, I found that forum to be very negative. Whenever I entered it, I literally felt a negative vibe. I had already cancelled my email notifications, before they banned me, so I didn't mind. I do think they provide a good resource for some

[stutteringexpert]

@StartSpeakingAhora I read all of your postings to see what you had said that could have caused them to ban you "forever", as you said, from the Suttering Forum and could absolutely not find anything that wrong with what you had said, and how you expressed yourself, and I even did not completely agree by the way with everything you said! Even though I think sometimes minorities yell "foul play" when there is none I think you are genuinely being discriminated against my friend in this case.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@stutteringexpert Thank you again for your kind comments. I did not want to think that or even say it. Perhaps it is true, but, it is what it is. I will continue to do my work and help those who want to be helped. By the way, tell me a bit about yourself. I see your name is Stuttering Expert. I'ld love to know more about your work.

[MrJanester]

Great website and interesting comments Can I ask a question about something I don't understand? You said " I do have a world-wide network of therapists to whom I could refer, so I try to make it clear that that one should check out the program and see if they think it will work them." Then elsewhere you said " Hello Bruce. I hope I said that I do not have a world wide network. If not, that's what I meant." Do you have a world wide network of therapists, your first answer was that you do?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@MrJanester Hello Sir. Thanks for your comment. I have made a reply above and I do apologize for the misprint. Again, I do not, but wouldn't mind if I did.

Thank you again for comment.

[MrJanester]

I did not know that there was help for stuttering like this. I saw that others commented so am eager to watch the other videos you have put on.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

Hello Bruce. I hope I said that I do not have a world wide network. If not, that's what I meant.

[tallerbruce]

Hey Michael thank you for your extensive answer and explanation. I had often wondered how a person could provide a service and not need a license, Your explanation that you are only offering advice and do not need a license really clarified it for me. You are a generous person to explain this!

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce Hello Bruce. I'd also like to thank you for your kindness in asking these extensive questions. They were quite helpful to me and I hope I answered them sufficiently for you. I wish you well and let me know if you have any other questions. Also, this goes without saying, take a look at this program and I hope it can be of some help. I still continue to use the principles and ideas in my daily life.

[tallerbruce]

Michael, I wanted to add that this is a program based upon something called operant conditioning, it is a behavior modification program I wonder how this compares with your program which is based on the subconscious mind or something. 

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce By the way, what is your name? Should I call you Bruce? Great questions. When I say total transformation, I mean to say that people who stutter tend to think of themselves as stutterers. Therefore, they continue to stutter. This approach places the emphasis more on Cognitive modification or reconditioning. HOWEVER, a major component of the program encourages systematically desensitizing one from the natural fear of speaking in public by practicing it in private first. . .

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora Bruce would be okay. Are there any other reasons why a person thinks of themselves as a stutterer besides stuttering for perhaps most of their lives? I mean you would think that a person could be aware that they think of themselves this way but I wonder if there are other reasons why a person has this concept of themselves, maybe they were told that this is who they are and will always be. What does desensitization mean?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce Well Bruce, again great question. I'm sure there are many answers. I think the primary reason is that for whatever reason, they started stuttering and this behavior started a cyclical belief that system. In other words, I stuttered, therefore, I will continue to stutter. . .see, I stuttered again. And so on, and so on. Studies show it it probably genetic. But this can be overcome in the vast majority of cases with various programs such as you are researching.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora is it possible that a parent could have a reason why they would want a child to have a problem with their speech maybe they did something terrible to the child and they would like the child to have a speech problem so that they won't tell others what the parent had done to them so, because of this and because the parent induces fear into the child to further make sure that the child won't tell, the child thinks of himself as a stutterer to get approval and love from parent?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce I do think that fear stemming from either traumatic events or living conditions can induce stuttering. Negative comments from parents, teachers, sibling, friends, oneself can also reinforce this behavior. Whether or not a parent could purposely induce stuttering is an interesting question. I did have an associate whose Mother treated her in such a way that she felt as if she did not have real voice, so she started to stutter for several years.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora for a situation like this, is it realistic to think that stuttering from this kind of source could react favorably to desensitization and change in self concept or would a person have to work on feelings and attitudes and thoughts resulting from these traumas and then do desensitization and modeling techniques?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce In some cases, therapy may be needed to work through those feelings, absolutely. In other cases, a person may be able to use books, audio, video and sheer determination to make the necessary changes. It really depends on the person.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora Okay thanks. Are you able to determine which people would need to work thru the feelings or would you refer this person to someone who can help him and would you know who to send him to?Did Brian Tracey provide you with information on this situation? DId he help you apply his principles to stuttering?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce No, Brian Tracy did not. I adapted information from a variety of sources, he being one of them, and used it to create a systematic method for overcoming my stuttering. I started this process in or around 1993-4. Because these principles are pretty universal, they could be applied to many challenges. I do have a world-wide network of therapists to whom I could refer, so I try to make it clear that that one should check out the program and see if they think it will work them.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora Thanks again Michael for the clarification on this .Can I ask something: how were you able to acquire a world wide network of therapists to refer someone to and may I ask what their qualifications are, for example are they licensed and educated in the psychology field and therapy field? For example, are they perhaps clinical psychologists, or psychiatric social workers or psychiatrists or are they something else? Thanks.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora Hi Michael, might you tell us what the other influences were besides Mr .Tracey?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@StartSpeakingAhora Correction to this post: "I DO NOT have a world-wide network of therapists. But it would be great if I did :-)

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce A few other factors that both affect and are affected by stuttering is self-esteem and self-confidence. When a person has low self-esteem and/or confidence, combined with stress from various sources, this can trigger or perpetuate stuttering. And, of course we cannot ignore the biological causes. Again, I believe most of these can be overcome. Desensitization means repeating something over and over again until it no longer has the same impact it had on your initially.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora I understand but what went thru my mind is that other people have low self esteem and confidence and they don't stutter. Other people also have stress and don't stutter also. What is meant by "biological" causes? Does the desensitization automatically cause you to not experience the same impact the negative experiece had on you initially or does one need guidance and therapy to realize this new non-impact?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce Yes, this is an obvious question point. What's the difference? Could be genetic and/or environment. By biological I mean an accident, stroke, brain damage and, yes genetics. Guidance and encouragement as well as training can provide one with the tools and external motivation necessary to realize this new impact. As in the movie "The King's Speech", as with James Earl Jones and with many others who in some way became more fluent. They needed a coach to guide and push them.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora I don't understand what "genetics" means, it sounds like a convenient way to avoid doing the real work or has some work been done on applying the genetic findings to stuttering? Are you able to take into account the genetic factors in your program? Micheal,I think you are a smart, sincere guy but do you not need a speech therapy license in your State to practice or does the using the internet negate all these requirements, I don't want to do something illegal let's say....

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce Hello Bruce. On my website, I make it very clear that I am not a Speech Therapist. This is NOT Speech Therapy. This program is compilation of my personal experience with stuttering, education and work over the years with people in various life circumstances. It is advice, not therapy, and therefore may not be appropriate for everyone. The advice speaks for itself. If one watches or listens to it and says, "Hey, this not only makes sense, but it actually works" then great.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

Respond to this video... Continued. . .If one studies this information and finds that it may not work for them, then I encourage them to find an approach that does. This is approach has worked for me and is apparently working for many of the people who are trying it. Because this is advice, I do not need a license to share it. I recently had a licensed Speech Therapist review my course and find that there was nothing in it conflictual or counter therapeutic. Hope that helps.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

Respond to this video... . . .and then doing it (speaking in public) over and over again. Additionally, I share a technique called "modeling" or "patterning." It's similar to what an actor would do, but a bit less extensive.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

Respond to this video... I think I naturally discovered ways to modified how I made sounds or pronounced certain words, but only as a short-term transitional strategy while I modified or reformatted my subconscious and self-concept to the point where I no longer thought of myself as a stutterer. Each time I spoke successfully, this reinforced this believe and the cycle continued. Does this make sense?

[tallerbruce]

Forgive me Michael I did not take it yet I want to take it but some friends took it and they say they are fluent but they have to do a lot of work in order to be fluent and they are talking slowly right now. It is a program where you learn how to say fluently all types of sounds and sound combinations using a gentle onset to sounds and stretched syllables as well and easy full breathing. This is a 3 week course you said yours is 6 months or so until one sees success. I wondered what you thought.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce Haha, yes I see the point to your question. If you know of people who have taken that course and it is working for them, then most certainly it is worth further investigation. My course is holistic and not only works to improve your speech, but also provides you with life-long tools to use in virtually every area of your life. Therefore, there is no reason one could not use both. I said 6 months to be safe. Some see improvement in hours, days and of course months.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora That other program I mentioned indicates that people who stutter do not make sounds and combinations of sounds in a normal way that they have to almost relearn how to make sounds and syllables and words. You said your program is a holistic approach, does it include relearning how to makes sounds and to speak, is it based on operant conditioning and behavior modification? What does holistic mean? I don't know if I would want a total transformaton, clarify please.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

Respond to this video... This course involves a total transformation of ones thinking, beliefs and attitudes about himself. You'll improve your self-confidence, self-esteem, self-concept and with that your ability to handle a wide range of challenges in life, not just overcoming stuttering. Since you can check out the entire course online for free, watch it and listen to it and then let me know what you think. But, it sounds like the other course would a great investment.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora Okay thanks Michael. Would not a total transformation as you described require more than just listening to your program on the internet would not a total transformation of the type you described require more of an in-person once or twice a week session with you to accomplish this kind ot total transformation? Do you offer these services and can they be performed using skye or the phone?

[tallerbruce]

Hi, you know you sound like a nice guy so here goes. I took the Hollins Fluency Program, the one developed by Ronald Webster in Virginia, I wondered if you know of this program at all? It was once know as the Precision Fluency Shaping Program, perhaps that might ring a bell with you.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce Actually I had not heard of it until you mentioned it. I did look it up though. Was it effective for you? I'd love to hear more about your experience with it. Looking forward to your response.

[tallerbruce]

Hi, Good video it was interesting. I noticed several comments were removed, could you tell us why they were removed?

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce Hello. Thanks for the question. I initially removed my comments to a poster because it became clear to me that the poster "heckle" me. Every reply would turn into several more attacks on whether or not I really stuttered, to creating videos me stuttering now, to my religion and then to my removing my own comments. I welcome and love honest comments both constructive and even critical. This, however, reached the point of disruptive.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora Oh I understand, you should not have to take that kind of annoyances. You never described religious beliefs in your video, that makes no sense, there is nothing to comment on. One question I did want to ask, thanks for responding, is did you get the idea of self concept from only this one person you mentioned or did you study psychology, I thought I came across this concept in my readings over the years.....

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce Thank you for your kindness. It's been a rough day to say the least. I did study human psychology in various forms while in graduate school. However, the idea of the self-concept I primarily learned from Brian Tracy.  In fact, if it were not for him, it's safe to say, I would not be who or where I am today. So, yes, you probably have come across this concept in your reading throughout the years. It's such a basic, yet critical concept to grasp and apply.

[tallerbruce]

@StartSpeakingAhora your welcome, did you get a degree in psychology, did you study anything relating to stuttering and the psychological causes for it or from it? I will check into Brian Tracy thanks.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce Actually, my graduate degree was in Divinity with a concentration in education. I am a professor at a community college and work as a Relationship Coach as well. This program is simply an organized approach from someone who used to stutter. I say used to, but everyone stutters now and then, so of course I do as well. But I no longer think of myself as a stutterer, therefore, it happens rarely and does not affect me as it used to. I hope I answered your question.

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@tallerbruce I also wanted to say that I realize there are a lot of scammers and skeptics out there, so that's why I make this information available for free. Then, after trying it, if it works and one wants to download or go further, they can do so at a relatively nominal cost, depending on where you live of course.

[jayblac]

I STUTTER HELP ME

[StartSpeakingAhora]

@jayblac Hello and thanks for commenting. Please visit: thestartspeakingtrainingcenter­. org for great free resources and check out our free Webinar where we can interact. You'll find that at the thestartspeakingtrainingcenter­. org as well. I hope to see you there.