Tips for Parenting Defiant or Out-of-Control Children

[Ricmsr1]

....taking them to the counselor and saying see what they did.....90 percent of teh time it is a family as a whole problem not just one kid. Find out what makes them angry and for the love of god dont make them hold everything inside because of mistrust. No one should ever grow up like I did.

[Ricmsr1]

IT was always drugs and counselors that blamed me for everything that was wrong with my family and behavioral centers, police visits weekly, and sometimes juvenile hall trips all because no one would help me to understand how to release my anger constructively..... So every time I see one of these videos that puts the blame solely on the kids I want to throw up. Take responsibility parents and realize that if you are pressing the child's buttons on purpose just so you can call the police or....

[Ricmsr1]

In all these methods of parenting out of control children...i see no explanation on what if the child is displaying SYMPTOMS and mot causes or problems. When I was young i had an anger problem....I could not open up to anyone in my family so talking things out was out of the question. I didnt have the tools I needed to deal with my anger and release it. And NO ONE ever said anyhting about that to me. NO ONE gave me anything to help start to control my anger.

[twinkers760]

i need to get this

[MondoBeno]

My parens rarely smacked me or my siblings, and he best behaved kids in my family NEVER get smacked. The worst-behaved kids are the ones who get a smack.

Tantrums? Try feeding the kid BEFORE you do your shopping. Then go over the shopping list with the kid and let them help. It keeps them busy.

[TheLomomma]

@AngryActivist45 Could you respect and love someone who treated you as you suggest we treat children? Parenting is about respecting and guiding, not threatening and abusing. Children who are raised by domineering adults become defiant and withdrawn, and when grown are far more likely than others to have drug/alcohol or psychological problems.

[hellokittycutie2003]

@TheLomomma Spankings and abuse are 2 different things. I'm a mommy's girl to the core, and I'd lay my life on the line to save her. I'm 23 yo, have my degree, never been pregnant or arrested (don't drink or do drugs); and guess what...I got whoopings. My mom taught me to respect my elders and that there's repercussions when you do wrong, point blank.

[TheRipperRypien]

I tend not to act up because I look down at my arms and hands and I notice indentations and scars from when I GOT MY DUMB ASS BEAT WITH A WOODEN SPOON!

[97karenlacey]

Childrten need consisent discipline and routines if a child knows that thier are consquenses for good and bad behavior a child will be a healthy better behaved child

[kotetsu131]

yay behaviorism.

[Matt713ful]

Kids, push the limits see how far they can go and get away with stuff and get things done.

Hell its how they learnt to walk, not tolerating just crawling and screwing around till they got walking right.

IT IS VITAL that you teach them its not okay to shoot someone with a gun or hit someone with a shovel DESPITE being cabable of it.

And HELL if the parent doesnt even listens to rules or pays taxes, that kid has NO HOPE in HELL learning from that parent.

even if you did beat them.

[suzukigixxer1300]

You beat the shit out of them! easy as that!

[nowwithmorekick]

@suzukigixxer1300 I think sometimes that works it depends on the child and what they do. If you just settle with beating your child to settle everything or with just any child they can become very violent at other people.If you can find something that works just as good or better then do that even if it's just taking something away.If my kid says no to me when i tell him to turn off the video games i just take the video games away for a week.

[kiyka]

How about impart them with knowledge, and not all this social bullshit, and let them make their own mind up?

Fucking pricks.

Child misbehavior stems from social issues that infect youths like a plague in today's society.