I've noticed discomfort in some vlogs with this top/bottom question. I'm not sure what the problem is. The answer will either be top, bottom, depends on chemistry, or I don't do anal sex. I think people get bent out of shape when they conflate it with gender presentation; then their answer gets all political on a question that is straightforwardly sexual.
Frankly, it's an important question if you are trying to establish sexual compatibility and one or both are polarized in either direction.
I love when I see a gay couple play a girl and a guy role. Most of my gay friends have feminine boyfriends. Feminine guys are amazing, and have awesome personalities. I want a boyfriend like that!. Masculine guys are cool, but they make me wet sometimes because I want them. They're so hot! Gay guys are hot! I want a boyfriend like that! Who is attracted to me, and not scared of my pussy. lol . . .
hey, i liked rent, however the story could have been better developed, there are maybe two or three songs that i liked but were connected to things going on in my life so i take it thats why i liked it... as always great video
I loved the movie Rent, it was amazing music, didnt bug me so much about the defined roles because for some reason I like seeing that. I think when I saw it I was struggling with my own sexual desires and it helped me knowing there were others like me which is why it didnt bother me at all.
Didn't love the movie - but have seen the musical 3 or 4 times - pretty good.
I think people ask the question because they have a general curiosity about gay sex...and want to know who's the bitch...and since media portrayals prefer to show the Jack McFarland-esque characters of the world (who are likewise portrayed as being bottoms / effeminate - not saying it's true - just saying it's assumed), it can be confusing to find a couple of masculine guys I assume. Never been asked though :-)
I don't want to sit here and write an essay about why I liked rent, so I'll just respectfully disagree. :)
It does have very hetero-normative gay couples, admittedly.
To answer the main question of the video: I do get asked more often by gay people than by straights, but it seems straight people who understand the concept are usually more determined to get an answer. You're "studies" seemed to lead you to a pretty reasonable hypothesis. I would have to agree.
I do not think the question is a very classy question. The question is equivalent to asking a woman if she engages in oral, vaginal, or anal sex. I don't recall the last time I was asked. The impression I get is straight people want to know what gay people do in bed, and gay people want to know if you are a top or a bottom.
@garysdeskcom but it's an important question to ask -- it's a good feeler for how the sex will turn out, because incompatibility over the 'role' during sex can lead to... bad sex.
@ZephyrFate I have no problem if somebody says, "I think you are cute and am interested in sex. Are you a top or a bottom?" Unless a person wants to have sex with me, I think it is TMI. :-D
@kevinlionel Yeah, I only talked about the movie, because that's the only one I've seen. If Chris Columbus can ruin Harry Potter, he can ruin Rent. So the actual, factual musical is better...?
@machelli Believe me the musical IS WAY BETTER... and its on DVD (2008 final performance) as a fellow gay guy im suprise that U didn't saw that musical :P
Also, in The Sting, is Paul Newman the top or the bottom?
rabbitfish63 1 year ago
I've noticed discomfort in some vlogs with this top/bottom question. I'm not sure what the problem is. The answer will either be top, bottom, depends on chemistry, or I don't do anal sex. I think people get bent out of shape when they conflate it with gender presentation; then their answer gets all political on a question that is straightforwardly sexual.
Frankly, it's an important question if you are trying to establish sexual compatibility and one or both are polarized in either direction.
rabbitfish63 1 year ago
I love when I see a gay couple play a girl and a guy role. Most of my gay friends have feminine boyfriends. Feminine guys are amazing, and have awesome personalities. I want a boyfriend like that!. Masculine guys are cool, but they make me wet sometimes because I want them. They're so hot! Gay guys are hot! I want a boyfriend like that! Who is attracted to me, and not scared of my pussy. lol . . .
candygirlx101 1 year ago
hey, i liked rent, however the story could have been better developed, there are maybe two or three songs that i liked but were connected to things going on in my life so i take it thats why i liked it... as always great video
countvladdracule 1 year ago
I loved the movie Rent, it was amazing music, didnt bug me so much about the defined roles because for some reason I like seeing that. I think when I saw it I was struggling with my own sexual desires and it helped me knowing there were others like me which is why it didnt bother me at all.
nwnman05 1 year ago
Didn't love the movie - but have seen the musical 3 or 4 times - pretty good.
I think people ask the question because they have a general curiosity about gay sex...and want to know who's the bitch...and since media portrayals prefer to show the Jack McFarland-esque characters of the world (who are likewise portrayed as being bottoms / effeminate - not saying it's true - just saying it's assumed), it can be confusing to find a couple of masculine guys I assume. Never been asked though :-)
DuhWittyOne 1 year ago
The only person that needs to know the answer to the question "top or bottom" is the person you're about to have sex with!!
caseyflorida 1 year ago
Oh, man, I LOVED Rent, don't make me feel unconfortable about it! ;)
TezQuetz 1 year ago
I don't want to sit here and write an essay about why I liked rent, so I'll just respectfully disagree. :)
It does have very hetero-normative gay couples, admittedly.
To answer the main question of the video: I do get asked more often by gay people than by straights, but it seems straight people who understand the concept are usually more determined to get an answer. You're "studies" seemed to lead you to a pretty reasonable hypothesis. I would have to agree.
Heyaitsjohn 1 year ago
Hey. I like Rent. But maybe I'm just projecting my feelings about things that were going on in my life around the time it came out onto the film.
I at least like the musical a lot. Or at least did. Until this week. My boyfriend won't stop singing songs from it. I'm getting annoyed.
Juanitothegreat 1 year ago
@Juanitothegreat Has he been singing the songs for five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes straight?
thamewt 1 year ago
@thamewt No. He only discovered it a week and a half ago. How many minutes is that?
Juanitothegreat 1 year ago
@Juanitothegreat roughly 15,840.
thamewt 1 year ago
@thamewt Rhetorical question did not require an answer.
Juanitothegreat 1 year ago
@Juanitothegreat Yeah, but I gave one anyway. Bonus!
machelli 1 year ago
@thamewt good one..
gvcdkg 1 year ago
I do not think the question is a very classy question. The question is equivalent to asking a woman if she engages in oral, vaginal, or anal sex. I don't recall the last time I was asked. The impression I get is straight people want to know what gay people do in bed, and gay people want to know if you are a top or a bottom.
garysdeskcom 1 year ago
@garysdeskcom but it's an important question to ask -- it's a good feeler for how the sex will turn out, because incompatibility over the 'role' during sex can lead to... bad sex.
ZephyrFate 1 year ago
@ZephyrFate I have no problem if somebody says, "I think you are cute and am interested in sex. Are you a top or a bottom?" Unless a person wants to have sex with me, I think it is TMI. :-D
garysdeskcom 1 year ago
I don't want to alarm you, but you may just be the coolest person ever (with only a few exceptions).
jiklar 1 year ago
Well... the Movie might Sucks... BUT THE MUSICAL ROCKS!!!!!
Rent is my LIFE!!!!
kevinlionel 1 year ago
@kevinlionel Yeah, I only talked about the movie, because that's the only one I've seen. If Chris Columbus can ruin Harry Potter, he can ruin Rent. So the actual, factual musical is better...?
machelli 1 year ago
@machelli Believe me the musical IS WAY BETTER... and its on DVD (2008 final performance) as a fellow gay guy im suprise that U didn't saw that musical :P
kevinlionel 1 year ago