i discovered your clip because of "theAtheistAntidote2". Perhaps we don't share the same beliefs about God, but I wish to tell you that I too had so called "plans" for my life. I waited 'til I was 35 to get married for the 1st time. I've also wanted & still desire to be a father, even now at 47. In 2003 my wife decided to divorce me. Divorce sucks & I would not wish it on my worst enemy. I'm not perfect. None of us are. I believe your life is not over and you can get through this... peace :)
If you take a look at the Holmes and Rahe stress scale, divorce is second only to death of a spouse-which is the number one cause of stress. Adding in other stress values can give you an idea of the level of stress you are experiencing. Eating and sleeping right may seem small, but this helps to reduce stress. Keep in touch with your support network of family and friends and hang on-it does get better as time passes.
divorce sucks. i should know, i've had 2 - the feeling of loss isn't just limited to losing a person/relationship, its also everything you'd predicated on that, and the whole "what am i gonna do now?" feeling can really bite.
words of consolation only go so far. you're gonna feel crappy until you don't anymore, that's just how it is. sorry you are going through such things. you deserve happiness.
This is the best YT video I've seen in a long time, it's rare to see such raw honesty. My life has been a wild roller coaster ride and I have been in some very and I mean very difficult spots. Your life could be total shit from here on out, but I can easily see a " .... and that's how your mother and I met" in there too. (thumbs up,subbed)
I used to think that way, TA...saying, "How's it going," as a turn of phrase as opposed to actually asking a sincere question. Unfortunately, using such a turn of phrase insincerely virtually guarantees a continuing superficial discussion. The result is that they remain alone with their problem as you, also, will remain alone with your problems if all your friends don't really care.
Concerning your present situation...be the type of person that you would like to have as your own friend.
hey keep your head up man. i can't imagine what it is like to get divorced. i think it's supposed to hurt for a while. i think your just in the worst emotional place and know that the pain will subside in due time. much love. all the best.
and remember, when you get out of this funk, your going to go to a bar and take home some strange, and you will feel much better. lol
I can't say I sympathise with your perspective, I kind of like the feeling of uncertainty, of having very little pinned down. It makes me feel like I can reinvent myself at any time I feel the need (with the same fundamental values, of course)
However, I can understand why you would want to live like that, and I don't claim that it is any lesser life than I have. In fact, I'm pretty much in the same situation as you, but my perspective makes me feel that it is a good thing.
In a typical male response (offer solutions instead of sympathising), how about filling the time you mentioned with learning something online eg programming, or, since you seem to want contact with people, doing some volunteer work (it'll might help to have it on your resumé too). Best of luck.
i discovered your clip because of "theAtheistAntidote2". Perhaps we don't share the same beliefs about God, but I wish to tell you that I too had so called "plans" for my life. I waited 'til I was 35 to get married for the 1st time. I've also wanted & still desire to be a father, even now at 47. In 2003 my wife decided to divorce me. Divorce sucks & I would not wish it on my worst enemy. I'm not perfect. None of us are. I believe your life is not over and you can get through this... peace :)
Eagle13Eric 4 months ago
Take care of yourself. Life can be a bitch...Easy to say. Hard to live through.
2bsirius 4 months ago
Have some music:
watch?v=2TMw92_q8Ac&NR=1
zarkoff45 4 months ago
If you take a look at the Holmes and Rahe stress scale, divorce is second only to death of a spouse-which is the number one cause of stress. Adding in other stress values can give you an idea of the level of stress you are experiencing. Eating and sleeping right may seem small, but this helps to reduce stress. Keep in touch with your support network of family and friends and hang on-it does get better as time passes.
phenixwryter 4 months ago
divorce sucks. i should know, i've had 2 - the feeling of loss isn't just limited to losing a person/relationship, its also everything you'd predicated on that, and the whole "what am i gonna do now?" feeling can really bite.
words of consolation only go so far. you're gonna feel crappy until you don't anymore, that's just how it is. sorry you are going through such things. you deserve happiness.
gothatfunk 4 months ago
some are not even asked once today.
thickshadesSUB 4 months ago
This is the best YT video I've seen in a long time, it's rare to see such raw honesty. My life has been a wild roller coaster ride and I have been in some very and I mean very difficult spots. Your life could be total shit from here on out, but I can easily see a " .... and that's how your mother and I met" in there too. (thumbs up,subbed)
SpaceFrawg 4 months ago
I used to think that way, TA...saying, "How's it going," as a turn of phrase as opposed to actually asking a sincere question. Unfortunately, using such a turn of phrase insincerely virtually guarantees a continuing superficial discussion. The result is that they remain alone with their problem as you, also, will remain alone with your problems if all your friends don't really care.
Concerning your present situation...be the type of person that you would like to have as your own friend.
1140Cecile 4 months ago
hey keep your head up man. i can't imagine what it is like to get divorced. i think it's supposed to hurt for a while. i think your just in the worst emotional place and know that the pain will subside in due time. much love. all the best.
and remember, when you get out of this funk, your going to go to a bar and take home some strange, and you will feel much better. lol
freethinker3161 4 months ago
16 minutes isn't long to me :) 1 hour would be long. Anything less than that I enjoy listening to while doing laundry and other chores. <3
wobina 4 months ago
I just realized: IIRC you're younger than me FFS and I'm nowhere you are not.. Suck it up.
sp4zzer 4 months ago
I have a problem with the like/dislike thingy here.. I sympathize, so I should like, but it feels weird to "like" your misery as well..
sp4zzer 4 months ago
I can't say I sympathise with your perspective, I kind of like the feeling of uncertainty, of having very little pinned down. It makes me feel like I can reinvent myself at any time I feel the need (with the same fundamental values, of course)
However, I can understand why you would want to live like that, and I don't claim that it is any lesser life than I have. In fact, I'm pretty much in the same situation as you, but my perspective makes me feel that it is a good thing.
scottie0904 4 months ago
Hey Man, I know just how you feel. Not much more I can say.
prodigyat9 4 months ago
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MrSantiagoandDunbar 4 months ago
In a typical male response (offer solutions instead of sympathising), how about filling the time you mentioned with learning something online eg programming, or, since you seem to want contact with people, doing some volunteer work (it'll might help to have it on your resumé too). Best of luck.
SpookyFan 4 months ago