5 Tips On How To Get Over Your Ex- Shay Your Date Diva

[24pixiegirl]

wonderful! sometimes we alreayd know all these things, but dont really follow them untill some one else talks about it! great advice!

[beatlesband686]

thnx i just broke up with my boy friend yesteryday im in middle school

[grace4et]

not so easy when you work with the man and it just fell apart with him telling me he doesnt want to do "this anymore" and left me with no real explanation and here it is i thought we were just fine after 1 yr and a half. feel like i didnt do anything to deserve that and i dont deal with anyone to keep from ever getting jurt like that again. its been 2 years and still cant let go. he was a great guy besides that unexpected moment. still hurts:(

[mermaidmelodylilnike]

Am gonna try these, I hope am strong enough to do so

[kendarious91]

i love this thank you! <3 ;')



[massta223]

OK i get it there´s an issue ...i have to see him at church all the time .............. he broke my heart ...:( he was my first boyfriend :/ and i have to see him there I AIN´T gonna change church cuz of him ... NO WAY

[KkBeAr15]

@massta223 You might as well

[macewindu52444]

i love your videos girl!!

[iamchevyman5]

yur mah girl, girl <3

[SecretxStyle]

Your not filming live.

Your driving while holding a camera infront of you. And you have a child in the back... Lmfao!!

[Lilinvader34]

lmao youre so cute!

[lyricalhealer]

Shay thanks so much for your advice, I so needed to hear this word. Keep it coming. LH:)

[KittyzKatterz]

Lol after you move on, get in shape, get hot, and then go back to that gym with a guy when you know he's going to be there so that he regrets fucking with your heart. If you make yourself noticed and you're so much happier, he''ll feel like crap knowing that you're better without him.

[ladydharris]

i love yhu shay...lol...thank you soooo much!!!! ^_^

[naiveaddictionz]

just what I need.

[RonnieWestwood]

@TheLovelyMichelle thankyou :)x

[marianaGodschild]

Thank you for the tips Diva! I just broke up with my ex today and your advise will come in handy :)

[brjuliane87]

Thank you for the tips! You are beautiful, girl!

[StudioMonstar]

@TheLovelyMichelle I can understand, my ex cheated on me 4 times. Finally I had the initiative to let go. I just hope that I will be able to move on as well as you did. I know it's hard for me right now, but I'm trying to stay positive. So great comment!!

[Carlybee1]

So if you can't contact them at all, what happens if you were both married and have a child together that you need to stay in contact to deal with??

[hateallthemhaters]

man im trying 2 break up wit my bf but wen i did he started crying then i couldnt but i need ur advice do i stay or go? we've been together 4 a year

[2Cool4YouuX]

@hateallthemhaters STAY1!!! and looks arent everythig

[Irishslave55]

Thank you so much. Just broke up with him 2 hours ago and started feeling bad. Thank you from getting me out of this crying spell:)

[Mexicanbirdyo]

Thanks hun :)

That made me smile. Just broke up with him yesterday..

[TheCentralQueen]

I really like your advices its different from what most people give and I just bought a copy of your book.

[krazykindalove]

But what if he was perfect in every single way possible?? and he never did anything wrong to me EVER. except for breaking up with me :( .. You told me to write a list of his bad qualities, I sat down and couldn't think of ONE. :[ He was the sweeeetest most genuine, kindest, most loving guy ever. :[

[adriamac]

Completely deleting him from your life works. My ex cheated on me and I was constintly checking his facebook to see his relationship status and look at his photos...once I deleted him I forgot about him.

[hopelessthug]

why only 4 girls?

[Asja05]

I think this is on point.

[siLLyXIV]

He broke up with me. And i dnt kall at all. but he kalls me almost daily. How am i suppose to get over him if hes still around.??? help...

[jpxtream22]

I was watching your vedio but you seem to be just talking to the girls out there I'm kind a hopeing if you could maybe give me some advise my girlfriend broke up with me about almost a week ago, we been together for four years in a way I do want her back because I love her so much but I know I shouldn't go back because in the passed she cheated on me three times can you help.....

[lovein30days]

@jpxtream22 Yes, I can help...follow the same advice I give to the ladies and walk away! She doesnt deserve you!

With Love,

Shay Your Date Diva

[StudioMonstar]

@jpxtream22 She don't deserve you bro, your way too better for her than that. Cause truthfully the same thing had happened to me. Hopefully you found someone else by now, cause she not worth it.

[massta223]

@jpxtream22 WELL HONEY if the girl cheated on u 3 times just the first time was enough to break up with her not wantin´her back why well seriously if u let her not respect u the very first time she will never do the proof the 2 other times she did so move on look for a girl likes u and cares about u for real

[DragonSeb911X]

@jpxtream22 :'( dude same thing happened to me she cheated on me 3 times and today she broke up with me to go out with my friend we had been together for about a year she said she loved me but i dont think she meant it and i actually loved her :'(

[mac95b5]

what he tries and contacts me ?

[KkBeAr15]

@mac95b5 ~ tell him that you dont want to talk to him in a nice way

[jenjeskai10192]

thank you so much! this totally helped i didnt think i would ever feel better and finally i am over him!

[Likeu120]

Well said and very true! Thank you 

[MsJessism]

I almost feel its an asset to have a few broken hearts under my belt. My skin is alot thicker than it use to be. In the past I thought I'd die after a breakup especially with someone who I became really attached to. I dont get broken hearts anymore. The most I feel now when a man dissapoints me or we break up is aggravation because nothing suprises me anymore. My expectations were far too extreme in the past thinking every relationship would turn out to be a fairytale.

[cyndivee]

ms. shay, your video's comforting. i'm currently having a hard time moving on from my ex. I guess, I really have to accept the fact that he's not worth it. Please do post more videos about moving on. God bless!

[lukem2866]

lol typical woman, she waits for more money!

[MorganoftheFaeries]

First successful advice in months. Thanks. :)

[TheMisstazz18]

Last time I deleted his number and e mail he just texted me saying how much he missed me even tho hes the one that like killed me. then he just left me again. so lets see if it works this time im deleting him of any contact =]

[Bdebraganza93]

even my mom told me to get over him, but i never listened to her, and i always found myself running back. but after watching this video u gave me strengh and pride in myself, and that there is someone else out ther for me that will love and respecr me, im just going to let go and let god handle the rest. thank u so much, and god bless u really helped me.

[Bdebraganza93]

hi im 16 and my ex broke u with me, after the breakup, i still txted him, wrote him on facebook, but all it did was make me feel bad inside and depressed, and i seen that he moved on and didnt want me anymore, today i txted him and some gurl txted me from his phone saying what she was doing to him. and in the back of my mind i was thinking f he loved me te way he said he does then y would he allow that, and thought that he really didnt love me, right there i really wanted to kill myself.

[Lebanondonette92]

Haha I was actually nodding when she was talking about how we remember all the good times and forget all the bad. So true.

[chilli8701]

thank you so much for this information

[princess4life49]

wow thank you so much im going to do everthing you said

[MsPeaceandjoy]

thank u :)

[xalimo13]

Thnk u soo muchh...Am having a really badd time gettin over my ex. bcoz last nyt we woz talkin so i told him dat i dont trust hiim..and he sed its over!!!!!

[NinaTheDiivax3]

Thnk u sooo muchhh [ =

[Domi81456]

thanksss bro ive been trying to let goo man shes in my mind all the time

[awnMYownBUZZ]

thanks soo much foh th advice :)

[nanaama19]

good talk!..thnx

[777ILOVEDUNKS777]

DAMN THNK U S0O0O0O MUCH!

[cnleiva]

Thank you girl.

[21strength007]

Keep your pants up divas and you won't fall in love. NO touching until you tie the knot. Great advice but I have some that will keep you from getting in that situation in the first place.

[FunnyChloeMichelle]

Yo!! Your advice is dead on!

[FunnyChloeMichelle]

Lol!! I love how this woman was driving while making this video! She's so cute! And I appreciate all the advice too!!!

[KLRKRIS]

Tell your best friend how you feel about the situation. If your best friend still goes behind your back cut him or her off.

[lizelleee]

thank you so much for this !

[DoomCreeper2]

My best friend and a few others still hang out with my ex behind my back.....someone please message me if you know how to deal with this frustration

[KLRKRIS]

Then they really ain't your friends

[DoomCreeper2]

what do?

[KLRKRIS]

I can't tell you what to do but if I were you I stop hangin out with them

[DoomCreeper2]

@KLRKRIS

this includes my best friend...

[anitaskates]

dude its nott easyy but i can try..

[Beatwize6]

dosent look like she respond to people comment of asking advice. I'm reading alot of comments asking for advice and see sooo very few replies. Listen lady... if this is what you do then do it... respond!

[lovein30days]

Look sweetie,

Many (more like tons) of people send me emails to my youtube email and because I get so many request I have had to start taking appointments. Please go to my website and my an appointment to ask me an advice question. I love helping as many people as I can but there are just not enough hours in the day:)

With Love

Shay Your Date Diva

[babierockstar239]

Ugh. Hope dis works I hate my ex....kinda

[cpt216]

but what if his friends were your friends from your start?

[BTYLCS725]

i loved it! ur super sweet!

[KkBeAr15]

so forgetting about him makes it easier to get over him?

what happens if he's from your hometown & is your best friend's cousin?

[Scaryluver]

but what if your ex never treated you bad?

[youngsplash85]

i know the number one day...gettin sum brains from them beautiful lips of yours =) i LOVE me sum full lips..cure for just about everything *smiles*

[yeogangsta]

this was great girl

[kim2webber]

Me and my ex broke up about a week and a half ago. I am having such a hard time dealing with the lost and also I'm 8 months pregnant with his baby. I have not been calling him but he's been calling me after we broke up. On Sept.23,2009, we lost our last baby at 5 months of pregnancy and he calls saying he forgot about that and had just remembered, I really don't believe him. See when he broke up with me, he said that he didn't need me, so why is he still calling then?

[caseymw25]

its so hard tho for me and my ex were back and forth fighting during my pregnancy and after and i pushed him away he then just started going to a community college and broke up with me after 6 years and a baby, and hes talking to some other girl and we share cell phone bills,. so i see when he txts her and calls all that i tell my self not to look but i do, and its so painful. his mom calls me her daughter in law. i miss him so much. he says he doesnt want to be in a relationship right now.

[caseymw25]

i know txting and calling all that is bad and its pushed him away further we were going to work on it. hes not in love with me anymore. i want him back. i wish i could get this bitch he goes to school with to F off!!!!! we were supposed to get married one day. every relationship has its problems and yeah i messed up but i want him back!! what do i do to get him back?

[caseymw25]

and next month i have to his bros wedding in missouri from tx with him and our son,. thats how close i am to the family. could he just be really mixed up in the head?

[lovein30days]

Sweetie, Dont go to that wedding at all. He has moved on and even if he may come back, you are doing things to push him away. You wont give him a chance to miss and value you because you dont value yourself. I know it hurts and you love him but please stop calling him! If he wants to be involved with his child, let him and you work on moving on, healing and getting better.

With Love

Shay Your Date Diva

[caseymw25]

i know im trying my best i went 2 days NC but he called me to check on our son. i broke today and sent him a txt! its driving me nuts. but i know i have got to stop. i will. hes using this girl as a crutch to get over me. and shes doing a damn good job of keeping his mind off me.

[iLOVEDEVIN90]

I LIKE THIS VIEDO....

[talentedyoungband]

I deleted wen i try to stop my self it work sumtimes

[KkBeAr15]

what if he still wants to be friends? cuz my ex still wants to be friends & its kind of hard for me to do that when i'm not exactly over him.....

[MzAngel19]

me too

[KkBeAr15]

yeah ex-bfs are such a pain in the ass :(

[kerinapetshop]

i know they suck

[brendita079]

lovee it lol

[sekhmet2008]

is she driving and making a video?

[tanz83]

THANK YOU for this video! And reading through these comments have made me feel less alone.

I never thought it would, but heartbreak actually physically hurts.. deep in the pit of your stomach and soul. I definitely agree with the NOT looking at his email. You might find something you don't want to see (like I did.. doh!!)

If anyone wants to vent or talk about what they're going through, feel free to message me through youtube. You're not alone in what you're experiencing! Much love XOX

[beedable]

thanks.. i like it

[stherez23]

4me no 4 is what seems invetible coz we go to da sme campus so i c hm every wik

[mand1sh3p]

Hard part for me is my ex WAS all that. He treated me like a queen...he started working 60-70 hrs a week THEN started treating me shitty. Not answering my calls. His own brother called me pissed off cuz he's been avoiding his own family. The thing is I recently was diagnosed w/a medical condition that will require surgery. He hasn't said not one word of encouragement. I dont know who else he started seeing or if he had a breakdown, but I had to let go

[mand1sh3p]

he had always been there for me until about a month ago and it's like he lost his mind. He warned me about this in early months of us dating. He says he wants us to stay together and be patient with him, but I need some support. I wont sleep with anyone else for sure, but I feel forced to find love/comfort elsewhere. Im trying to do right by him and be patient but he just might not be man enuf to handle his problems and mine...but he expects me to handle both. Wtf is that?

[vonniewit]

No. #3 is an excellent idea. I made a LONG list of the negatives.

[brnize1969]

I agree with the delete his number out of your phone...that worked for me.

[Exhalia]

omg you have helped me soo much and i want to thank you for that..iguess i need to stop crying over him now

[leilaniburr12]

I love this thx so much your great!

[dabdatgurl]

omgshhh i love you sooo much.hahaha i cnt seem to get over my ex.itsz funni how when i didnt want hem at 1st now i want hem bckk but ur right why would i want hem bck?..he wasnt worth it.

[onlyjoetee]

Prayer prayer prayer

Philippians 4;6 Be careful for nothing;but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving,let your request be known unto God!

Humans were not made to carry the load,thats what a Saviour is for

[maasonmom]

thanks for the scripture because i need god to bring me through this heartbreak and the others before. I think i was born to be single, pray for me

[mand1sh3p]

That SOUNDS good but u still go thru the fire...if God took all the responsibility we wouldn't need emotions and we wouldn't learn anything.

[thejonasbros1fan]

I got dumped yesterday.

this is going to be so hard not

writting notes,talking,or emailing him

[eritreasunshine]

i luv this video....

[solomonpilot767]

fuck ur ex get a new one,so many women out thre and,never tell all ur personnal life story 2 a woman,trust me they will use it against u,my ex wanted 2 b my friend i told her 2 fuck her self,bitche love 2 make man suffer move on w/ur life and,throw all the memory of ur ex and,it hurts just take it like a man,don,t revenge let the arma does it's job good luck!

[ace200599]

your advice is good but you speak as if guys are the ones that push girls away when many times its the OTHER way around.

[nvmee8]

you are going to crash!!!!!!! but good advise tho lol!

[YAYAREA37]

omg i love wat you said about the penny and a million dollars!!

its takin me a while to get over it but now that i saw this,,, :))))

[apack444]

omg I LOVE YOU. you made me realize im not alone-- you also made me crack up after three days of crying.

[topele40]

Thankyou, I am forty plus and just getting over my 2nd heart break. Everthing you said is so true, unfortunately I had broke all those rules. For my sanity I will not break anymore rules :)

[mzrobinsondotcom]

I luv this video, its so on point. I wish I had it 5 years ago when I was stressin over my ex. It took me 3 years to get over him cause I kept breaking all the rules.

[zie20000]

this is perfect! thank you sooo much! you've really helped me

[1HeavenSenT1]

I'm glad I've found you on here. I'm new to youtube and I'm dealing with a heartbreak and came across your page. I'm going to start on the journal tonite and deleting his stuff. it's just soooo hard, especiall when you love someone so deeply. I know I will be alright tho, because I'm not the first to experience pain this way. Thank you sooooo much! I subbed. ;)

[malathea]

wow, u are hilarious =D

Ur advice is definitely helpful...

[gemmabro]

Why have I never thought of #3? Thanks!

[notmyeverything]

Multitasks :D

[reynoirjr]

wtf.... STUPID ME!!!!! I'm over my ex now but.... damn... playing the vid felt way to late ... b/c i broke all those rules.... BOLDLY.... and....i aint even REALLY want er back....Btw im on my friends joint srry Scoop if ya gf reads this...( its InFo )

[DivineMystic1111]

Thank you so much for your advice! I have been looking for tips and yours helped so much! I knew all of this already but I guess I just had to hear it from somebody else who has apparently been through a heartbreak. I am a lesbian, but the sames rules still apply. She moved across the country, so I guess I am kind of lucky. I can't seem to stop myself from looking at her myspace constantly though. We were together for five years and just broke up 2 days ago, so I guess it will get better.

[rastan1977]

Thats quite good but my ex is round all the time to get the kids,now how do you get out of that 1?

[eurasianbarbie]

THANK YOUUUUU :D

[keripersi]

Amen to this video !!!

[iceman30five]

Well JayWerx is right in some way, findin dudes in clubs and them hittin it before the week ends. Man my ex confessed to me a few things that I would of never thought she would do. Man its always the man fault for the break up. And some women get good dudes but they don't know how to act when they get em because they're so used to being treated badly. That's why most of my relationships don't work out cause women think i'm "Runnin game" when I actually want a true relationship.

[ExoticATLMamii]

Great advice....I just started watching your videos and I like you :) Oh yeah, I live by Camp Creek and I'm in Atlanta too!

[HIMAY10NENCE]

I sent this to all my friends .

[Neneliiciiousz]

Thankz. This Helpd Alot

[KirksMerkin]

I know this was for 'DIVAs" - but I had a little bit of a rough holiday season. What you had to say was really helpful. Thank-You.

[JayWerx]

Yo,I was just being sarcastic sweetie .I thought you was witty enough to had figured that out.

[lovein30days]

Not every body can keep up with you...lol. Thanks for clarifying!

SYDD

[JayWerx]

Just do what most women do...fuck every nigga they met in the club for the first 3 monhs of the break up.

[lovein30days]

Not the best advice...that will just lead to more pain. And "Most" is a strong statement. I do not have any girl friends that got over an ex like that :/

SYDD

[nicoleparisfx3]

I would like to be friends with my ex, but it's just so difficult. We haven't talked since the break up. It's weird to talk.

[flynpretty]

that's true . its very rare that an ex can be ur friend after u just break up. i know cuz i try to be my ex boyfriends.. friend but it hurt 2 much so i just let it go.

[lastingoptions]

I sooooo needed this...after a 3yr relationship, I don't know what to do.

[racer1d]

i finally left my penny, but she still constantly tries to contact my mother and calls my cell from different phone numbers... what would you suggest?

[lovein30days]

Much Love to all of you who leave your positive comments and "thank you's." It is my honor to be able to serve you and I pray that my words are a blessing to many of you:) Stay sweet yall...lol

Shay Your Date Diva

[penny71]

Very positive and focused, love the penny to a million dollars comparison!

[hugandkissme33]

Thank you Shay!

[creamyalmondz]

Okay question, how do you hold the camera and drive?  Thanks for the advice!

[lovein30days]

Magic powers...Lol. I have a docking stand:)

SYDD

[imanisankofa]

Good vid.

[lilcoco77007]

Thank You Diva!

[siggyboss]

Happy Belated Thanksgiving! Florida sounds nice & warm.

[whitelighterangel78]

I got a question for you on that Shay...what if say, a breakup or something has occurred but the guy just wants to still keep in contact and be friends? Is it still worth it?

[lovein30days]

Break up means break up! Friendship stills gives them a way back AND makes it harder to get over your ex. Make a clean break and move on. It is very rare that an ex can immediately after a break up be just your friend!

Shay Your Date Diva

[coffeesharp1]

OMG! This Woman is Sexy,look at those Juicy lips! The only thing that I would need to get over an Ex-girlfreind is to kiss those juicy lips just One Time!!! Im in Love! (No Disrespect intended).