Dating Tips for Men : How to Get Women to Approach You in a Bar

[houstondodgeball]

someone told me "women make the first move always." it means women check you out before you check them out, if they don't, then you need to get her to check you out before approaching her. Doing so, allows you to view her body language. Is she repelled by your image or attracted - that matters a lot! Men stare at body parts, women stare at the whole physical pkg (clothes, shoes, hair, facial features, body build).

[Ibiscyclist]

Smooth move. Thanks for the tip!

[totalmalfunction]

Does this associate anybody to:

My name is George. I'm unemployed and I live with my parents. :D

[Youngd2007]

Fuck what she is talking about. Put a gun to her head and say "Give me your number and stop crying!" It works 100% of the time! trust me on this one guys.

[MrAss707]

Meeting random women is the hardest unless you keep crossing paths in a store or some shit. sometimes a good lookin lady will hit the isle your in and get kinda close. the golden question is..... how do you spark conversation?

tell her she smells good?

im unually looking at her ass, then her face.

I usually say, oh, we cross paths again as i look her right in the eye, if she smiles, i say, you have such terrific skin,

that boost them so they feel actractive.. women like attention.

[sseanm124]

They copied that from drake and josh..

[blick1986]

works 99%

[MrOrthopedia]

..........................

[eedo123]

one thing alot of these videos are not taking into account is the fact that women are use to every trick in the book and they assume everything a man does to be part of a master plan to ultimately try to pick them up, including these subtle sincere compliments which they can easily distinguish as a pick up in disguise

[C63AMGestate]

"Get a woman to approach you"

"Approach her first"

wut.

[DylanOkyere]

when i used that the she just said : Ok ... 

[dangwood91887]

@DylanOkyere lol



[prissweb]

step 1 : have money

step 2 : profit

Sorry but women are just as shallow as men. Not hard to attract them at all.

[cosg9531]

Your first mistake is actually believing that the odds are good that you are going to find someone worthwhile in a bar. While there is an extremely remote possibility, the odds of doing so approaches zero. Unless it is only a very occasional evening with a specific intent (listening to music, as an example), spending time in a bar is worthless.

[PixilatedMystic]

*give it a try (stupid auto correct)

It should look like this: apologize for interrupting whatever she's doing, pick out something she's wearing that you like (make it genuine, she'll know), tell her you "just had to tell you that your earrings/necklace/hat/dress is beautiful, but that she'd be just as attractive without it, then walk away and let it stew for a while, which it will, NO MATTER WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE.

....

[PixilatedMystic]

...minutes later he asked me to dance. I was 22 at the time but I'm sure this would still work at 30, and it would certainly work on me.

I know this sounds like BS, but seriously, hive it a try. All you have to lose are 30 seconds of your life.

[PixilatedMystic]

As a woman, I will say that this works. I've also done it myself, I was dating someone at the time and when I saw another attractive man I really just wanted to let him know that he was attractive (kind of an "I'd want someone to tell me" kind of thing), but I wasn't looking to pick him up because I was seeing someone already. I walked up, apologized for interrupting his conversation, complimented how he looked in his hat and told him he'd look good without it anyway, then I walked away. Two mi

[thewannabe696]

doesnt seem to be effective like my duct tape and gun method

[shym0nk3y]

What a load of horse crap. You expect me to believe this? Seriously all chicks want in a guy is either looks, or sex. They could seriously care less about a guy's personality all they're interested in is "Oh is he cute, does he have a 6 pack?" they don't care to give guys like me a chance. Even my best friend who's a female gives me the whole attitude like "Your only good enough to be my friend, you can't be with me other than that" show me one girl who isn't that way and I will take it all back

[udolipixie]

@shym0nk3y

Point being?

Guys & girls are shallow.

Guys need to stop expecting girls to be better than guys in that regard.

[shym0nk3y]

What a load of crap, all girls want is the guy with the 6 pack, the muscles ect. They don't care to give us who don't have a six pack or the muscles or the looks any notion other thanthat we're not good enough for them. I know this for a fact. Every girl I've liked has turned me down even my best friend who is a girl told me I'm not hott enough to be with them as more than a friend.

[shan19key]

What?? They have dating coach in NY?

[ALSHAMAQMAQ]

what a silly woman

and what a silly job

[istanbultravellers]

lady 0.33 not wearing a bra

[palindrome06]

Nonsense. A girl would never do that..

[Rrumiiii]

Guys, watch this clip muted. She is very impressive.

[shiznak55]

are pick up lines and pick up tactics the same thing? or wont girls catch on eventually and notice it as a technique? like the notice pick up lines?

[DimebagVision]

Oh yeah, this will work perfectly. Tell a girl at a bar that she looks stunning and amazing then leave. After a while, you'll see her walk out of a bar with someone else.

[gmx1100]

@DimebagVision Maybe, maybe not. Point is, you want to be casual, relaxed - not TRYING to impress women - this works a lot better than running "game"

[pred123424]

important thing to do in a bar....get drunk and try to get laid.

[blabblab1212]

Continue feeding the girls at the club like this for a few weeks, then remove the seed. The girls will start to fret and show dismay. Up the ante and place peanuts in your palm instead. Smiles will return. Don't forget to set out bottles of spring water because they will be very thirsty. Girls like to be fed and watered.

[mipmipmipmipmip]

@blabblab1212 Dear blabblab1212, I followed your advice, and managed to get the girls to approach me on a frequent basis. As a positive side effect, they also have started to lay eggs. How do I proceed from here?

[blabblab1212]

@mipmipmipmipmip Place the eggs in an incubator. Wait exactly 21 days. As the eggs hatch, look very closely to see whether the babies chicks look like you. If they do, you have done your job properly. Make sure you feed them lots of ground corn and when they grow up, send them to a good school.........

[blabblab1212]

@mipmipmipmipmip Place the eggs in an incubator. Wait exactly 21 days. As the eggs hatch, look very closely to see whether the babies chicks look like you. If they do, you have done your job properly. Make sure you feed them lots of ground corn and when they grow up, send them to a good school.........

[blabblab1212]

I read this on the net. Take a handful of sunflower seeds and place them in your palm and hold your palm out. Wait a few minutes and you will notice that the girls in the room will start watching your hand. After a little bit, a brave one will casually walk by and snatch one with her teeth and then go into a corner and nibble on it. Once the other girls see this, others will soon be eating out of your hand.

[eman198]

i swear i saw this on drake&josh

[LeoLovesNature]

so this shows that the woman knowing shes not the most important thing going on with him, she has the desire to be it

[JEEminn3000]

For what I know, the only way to get a woman to approach you is become a BILLIONNAIRE LOL

[Sly88Frye]

Hm. I've complimented many women and they appreciated it and said thanks. They never come up to me later, ever. How can complimenting a woman in a bar the same way get them to approach you? I don't get that.

[jw11432]

@Sly88Frye for the same reason you shouldnt hit in a woman at a funeral; the setting is everything. at a bar, a woman expects to be hit on, and maybe even picked up. no one goes to a bar just for the thrill of going to a bar..who likes overpriced drinks and inattentive bartenders? no one i know. in the setting of a bar where a woman expects interest from men, this inadvertance sparks their own interest. thats my interpretation of the video anyway, id never pick up a chick from a bar.

[Sly88Frye]

@jw11432 Well now that you explained that, it makes sense.  Thanks!

[HighPriestofLemuria]

Just tell her she is the sexiest tranny you've ever seen. Guaranteed to work.

[feriousity]

@HighPriestofLemuria hahahahahahahahaha I am going to have to try that sometime later today......seriously

[jarden69]

Now this is the total opposite of the advice from David DeAngelo who tells men to NEVER compliment a woman you just met, but to actually tease her about the way she is dressed.

Women...PLEASE tell us guys....Which is it? COMPLIMENT you like the NICE GUY when we first meet you, or TEASE you like we don't really care if you like us?

[mzenji]

"Important things to do in a bar setting" LOL It's a bar not the United Nations! How important can something else be? Dont compliment a woman on her looks as a first step, if you must compliment, compliment an accessory in a light that makes you look interesting. As in "Hello thats a very interesting necklace you have on. it reminds me of the fertility necklace of Queen Aureisius.. blah blah."

Don't say "you're so hot" cause thats what everyone else says.

FYI This is Still a man approaching.

[Bravesfan4500]

@downtownLAking truer words were never spoken 

[superseit82]

It all depends on how interested she is in you.

[DaBrute]

that doesn't count as her approaching you, because you actually aproached her FIRST. so this is more like "how to get women to follow up"

[BluTrilobite]

Really? Really, Jessica? Well, it's worth a shot and who knows, maybe after saying something nice to 50 different women, one just might want to talk to me.

[mklpoiucvfgtrd]

Be Happy with Asian bride  *lushfmlk.info*

[ITHEREONETHATHASNT]

flash money?

[downtownLAking]

wave a hundred dollar bill all women want is your money and everything else that come along with it

[FreeBlago1]

I do that all the time, not because I want to talk to her. No, because I am a chick hater, and I wait till she reciprocates, then I turn her down. I am like a hot chick turned inside out with a penis, getting even for all my guys. I once put a playboy playmate of the year on a bus after staying with me for a week, cause I couldn't handle her anymore. Yes, the bus, not a taxi. You're welcome, fellow chick haters.

[pdhag]

00:52 guarantee ???

[lorrenzopicozzi]

i have a question...HOW MUCH DO YOU PAY TO GET POSITIVE FEEDBACK ON YOUR VIDEOS?

[SDAddario88]

Oh my God... that's BRILLIANT!!!

[KerryDoan]

@Ninjalada "most of the time that women will find you later" Not if youre a friggen ninja. ROFL

[jankren]

Wanna know how to get approached by women? LOOK GOOD!

If you look like that guy in the video, until you die you will never ever get a woman.

[faquiado]

Profesional dating coach = Prostitute.

[darpachief]

@faquiado ...looooool

[killersushi99]

Wear a tee shift that says "Im a hunter and its YOU season" No?

[UzumakiJustice]

wut do u mean wen u said tell em they look stunning,wut kinda way can u say tht?in a calm n un creepy manor

[karlsmith00]

@boosomentity yeah i'm the nut job!

oh my god, males need to be tested before they're allowed on line.

[boosomentity]

@karlsmith00 through out our exchange you never questioned my views or how i came to them, you just went off on one. im assuming you are a female and would like to know what it is you look for in a bloke and give me an honest answer.

[TheXboxSmartass]

@boosomentity Hmm that is actually very well thought out. I am surprised that someone with a higher I.Q. than that of a shovel has actually commented on a video... Then, of course, no intelligent statement goes unpunished online. You already have a troll nipping at your heels but I feel you have handled it well. Congratulations, you have scared it off by not letting it get to you.

[boosomentity]

@TheXboxSmartass thank you i guess

[boosomentity]

@karlsmith00 opinions are subjective but the method by which you come to an opinion can be either subjective or objective.i choose a level of abstinence as sex is at best just glorified masturbation, so i let things flow and when i get that perfect swell i ride that wave(no pun intended) and its all the sweater for the patience i invested in it. plenty of girls resist me but the opposite is also true(yes i got the sarcasm as i am evidently such a moron) point is i am happy with my life. are you?

[xXxalibabaxXx]

ah yes very good ya big whore

[1968DodgePolara]

dam these videos are very contradicting they tell you too do this and another vid they tell you not to do it LOL Just be yourself .

[zoonica]

That is soo true, I did that once at a club and it worked.

I gotr the girl like an hr later , and we had a great time

[boosomentity]

blokes if you wanna get a woman its simple convert your soul to toilet paper when your done wiping flush it down the drain, alternatively you can just be happy your not at the mercy of some psychotic sucubus. realise that you as yourself hold no importance to a woman and that only what you accumulate have any real appeal to the vicarious egotism that lies at the root of womanhood. there are women who do not fall foul of their nature but chances are slim that you'll find em iv only ever met one.

[karlsmith00]

@boosomentity and then you wonder why you can't get laid. you're a disgusting piece of trash, why would any woman want you? stop blaming your problems on women. you're the problem.

now go get help before you snap and shoot up a gym, loser.

[TheXboxSmartass]

@boosomentity Hmm that is actually very well thought out. I am surprised that someone with a higher I.Q. than that of a shovel has actually commented on a video... Then, of course, no intelligent statement goes unpunished online. You already have a troll nipping at your heels but I feel you have handled it well. Congratulations, you have scared it off by not letting it get to you.

[KwNJn1]

@Ninjalada rofl that comment made my day. I know its old but thats awesome.

[farhannius]

women are so clueless. Just be confident in yourself. Ask yourself this: why would any girl want to be with me? You have to believe that you are worth being with. Self worth. It basically all boils down to one simple truth. Confidence. Luckily, confidence can be learned, it isn't based on genetic make up, it is a skill that is learned. So go out there and learn it fellas.

[MrKMAnZee]

aussie chks dont respond well to a bloke playin the nice card.

[24yotenor]

yeah right! haha! BS

[yubarraboo]

I wear my wizard hat, it works eery time!

[Rollman1]

I'm 250 lbs. at 5ft.5in. So what good looking lady is gonna give me the time of day? Only if i win the lotto. Yes i know lose the weight and ill look more confident. Not so easy to do at 55 and ill still wont be 5'7 or 8

[djcutetyrone]

girl loves guys who take cares of them selves... so work out.... diet dont work... I was 5'6 195 after highschool.... and I work out play tennis and basketball .... and thats it till now im 150lbs....

[OneRing19]

@djcutetyrone dude 195 lbs is nothing

[Rollman1]

@MigllaKill I agree but what number 3 ?

[UniteForgetLeftRight]

expert village is full of crap in general

[Raspout1981]

Ill try that next time, and ill do it with 20 wemens, we will see if this trick works. If it does, they will think i am a chick magnet since many wemens come to talk to me and they will want me even more. hahaha

[TheXboxSmartass]

@Raspout1981 You, my inexperienced friend, have already had to much to drink and your judgment is now impaired... Do not attempt this. lol

[Raspout1981]

@TheXboxSmartass I dont remember writing this....i guess i was drunk when i did...my comment was kind of dumb...

[jonatimc]

wait, she says "I guarantee, most of the time the woman will come and find you later" lol thats a contradiction..some professional advice..lol why not say I guaranteed ALL the time the woman will come find you..who pays her for your troubles..save your money..

[Raspout1981]

....if you think something can work 100% of the time you got a problem...

[tastemirainbow1122]

i guarantee that most of the time?

yeah that makes sense

[marinedr77]

You could just identify a potential mate and then follow her/him around for a few weeks. After some time you will be noticed and a quick romance is bound to follow. You will rarely be rejected or identified as long as you wear a romantic halloween mask or something.

[6VampireHeart6]

@marinedr77 , is that a joke?

[mronionsalad]

gets em every time.

[dnlcast2]

A super easy way to meet women is to visit foreign countries...americans are as good as gold, and you will meet at LEAST, 10 times the women you meet here in america...guaranteed!

[Kaspergaling]

dnlcast2

You're very right. Specially countries that are least superior than America. I was surprised how much easier it was to pickup girls at those countries and I'm talking about beautiful locals, not prostitutes. All they really have to hear is your American accent. It was almost effortless.

[Rollman1]

@Kaspergaling Like what country are you talking about? I can understand in a third world country

[Kaspergaling]

@Rollman1, most likely in a 3rd world.

[TaiMaiShu0k]

"COME HERE" usually works for me.

[TeamLibertyExpress]

Maybe we should all move to china.

I think it all goes down like a business transaction over there, just compare documents and away you go.

[92benno92]

Yeah and when you walk off you can go plant more seeds! Haha

[philpont]

Hey guys. Check out the stuff John Alanis has. I'll tell you,I went from no dates 2 years ago without my phone barely ringing to a phone ringing off the hook. I had women wanting to meet me from all over the east coast and over 150 phone numbers since the beginning of 2008. Even if you have a relationship that fails,you will quickly be back on your horse in a week. Trust me and listen to John.

[geobreezy]

mind games i luv it

[zest4livin]

When I was dating and went to bars and met men, I picked the guy out I liked. I would sit back and watch to see who caught my eye. Then I would send him a drink, tell the waitress to let him know it was from me. If he is interested he will then walk over with the drink. I never ever got turned down. The guy will be flattered:

1. You noticed him, and picked him out.

2. You sent him a drink.

3. You spent your money on him.

[Shuley76]

4. He wants to get laid.

[stperkin]

LOL "schmeggie"

[nVei06]

they won't let me post

[stperkin]

clearly.

[gusphraba]

I guarantee, most of the time

[mesy103]

lol same thing i thought

[TheUniverse3000]

Additionally... once she has your attention, listen to her but not with intensity, doing that also makes you appear desperate. Listen to her but occasionally look away, then back to her. This sends a message to her that you are listening to her, but you're not the type that is just looking to get some. Being subtle works best.

If you want to sit at a table with her, never ask "do you want to sit over there?" you sound unsure of yourself, instead say "Let's sit over there".

[DjPyro2010]

Amen to that, I feel you completely

If you come on to her way to strong it will make you look desperate and sex driven (MOST girls aren't THAT easy)

If you don't act like you care about what she has to say then she will also think you are sex driven.

It's really funny how (MOST of the time) the less you talk about sex (especially if you don't bring it up) the more likely she will let you hit at some point, gotta be patient

[TheUniverse3000]

No, how to get women to approach you, to follow you.

Look around the room first. Find the woman that tickles your fancy. Sit across from that woman. Do not make eye contact. order your drink. Make eye contact once strongly. Look away, (forward if you have to), Wait for her to speak to you. If you say everything first, you'll be looked at as a loser and desperate. Make her fight for your attention!!

[pepperpeter007]

doing all this crap in bars is a total waste of time, worrying about this and that, and at the end of the day, you won get laid, and youll have a crap night.

go out with mates dont think about women and what will be will be

[flamingcookbook]

omg. excellent advice!!!!!!

finally a seduction video which speaketh the truth. the truth i tells ya.

[JurishzteR]

really? you guarantee huh? :-D

[JurishzteR]

hahaha yeah were the same. this happened to me many times..

[Funkyew]

hahahaha!

[threetoedhobbit]

I honestly don't think you could have said anything more perfect lol

[kingbleah]

undo yer fly spanker her with yer tool.

[preeshcode]

its simple...dont be a creep and if the woman is a creep run away from her...I have dated women who have been fun to be with and have had a nice intimate time..if you feel you have to invent lines, abide by certain "talking" rules etc...it simply does not work..it has to be random and all natural...we arent computers you know?

[preeshcode]

Any conversation in which you have entered the uncomfortable zone means you are trying too hard....I dont think dating is like cracking a SAT test...I dont think the results are proportional to how hard you try etc. etc...your approach has to be non chalant, your ways have to be easy going and if the woman disrespects you, you need to let her know that right back...I tell them right away: listen, if you are not into me, you are not into me...I really dont appreciate your morose attitude

[nobodysperfect06]

I always thought women wanted men to approach them

[oldfool666]

Hey buddy, that fat guy happens to be me!! You got a problem with that? You're not dealing with an ordinary fatty boomba here my friend! And yes that hot girl and I happen to be going kite flying this weekend sir. I would invite you to come with us to see the strength of our romance but I dont know how you'd would handle the wind conditions.

[krazy16dude]

Kite flying? How romantic. I wish I could date you too.

[brickman73]

its because women want the attention of men...they all do..cause at the core they are whores..toally and completely bipola whores...and when a guy they LIKE..doesnt give it..they will seek out that guy and chase and analyze what they have to do to get him into her...they wanna win the guy...but be warned..after you date these women...they eventually get bored very fast....if some guy they arent interested in does it..wont work at all..

[Videofrigate69]

You are exactly right! And those are the women you DO NOT want to be with, not if you are a decent guy anyway.

[jaydoubleyou23]

i pity you.

[Videofrigate69]

I think I have a much better grasp of women than you do Jay. You "pity" me? Seems like me and the other guys here just know what a woman acting like the one described is like. She's not atypical especially in a bar setting. The point I was making is that both parties involved in that scenario would start the whole relationship off with deception and lies. If that is the kind of guy you are you will have luck getting lots of floozies who might suit other liars perfectly.

[preeshcode]

women date men they are comfortable with...who they know through their friends and social settings...generally security and comfort is what women crave most. Also, you should be dating people who you've met in secure. comfortable settings...certainly not a noisy bar. We are talking about a relationship that you want to last, right?

[availabillity1]

these words are music to my ears

[JBthree24]

Women don't want to be our sex object right? well gues what ladies we dont want to be your credit card!!

[tico8007]

Bars are very boring some times, and expensive

[tico8007]

haha haha

[Zac6230]

burrrp!

[mpoweralb]

ahahahahhaa

[MysteryManoLove]

That doesn't work most of the time, especially on women that get hit on all the time, besides, most beautiful women are not sitting alone.

[RedOrchestraPro]

that's why you bring a friend ;)

[mearcl01]

I guarentee....most of the time. doesnt sound like much of a guarentee.

[kc243243]

no this one doesnt work every thing else she said works ok but this one no

[cibertronix]

wrong!!!!!!!

u should be very stupid if u think that works!!!!!

[kidchrisjet]

I will use that think you girl

[777appleguy]

Jessica this is great advice , can't wait to use this one !