They don't put gay "acting" guys on gay product advertising for the same reason they don't put drunks in beer commercials. They are selling fantasy. Beer will make you cool and attractive. This bar or that lube will get you prince charming. When I was young, back in the dark ages, people would regularly ask me if I knew I was in a gay bar. I am not sure if I am straight acting or look really dumb.
This is dumb. Just because a guy likes sports or doesnt talk in a higher pitched voice doesnt mean he hates being gay. I guess you could say I'm "straight acting" because I dont act in a feminine manner, and people are shocked to hear I like boys. That doesnt mean I hate myself. I also prefer more masculine guys... but thats what im attracted to. What does straight acting even mean? Im pretty sure I dont "act straight" because I have gay sex with my boyfriend.
Loathing feminized males that put too much work into their physical appearance. Get over yourselves. You are repulsive. Even fat lesbos look better to non conformist gay men LOL
@WriteIt4TheWorld In my world, I'd argue, "I'M THE GIRL"... Unless he really does want to be the girl... Then he can be. I really don't care; I just want him to be happy. ^_^ <3
Why do you assume that more manly acting gay guys are insecure and not accepting of their sexuality? I gay, but I don't act overly feminine. I personally prefer not to hang around super feminine guys, because they often come with a lot more drama and negative things about them. I'm a man that like men, not men that act like women. And what is exactly is straight acting anyways? Am I acting because I like football and video games? No it just how I am and you should respect it, not say I'm acting.
I think that the reason that straight-looking guys are so attractive is because we are gay. It's like when guys are attracted to lesbians. It's the forbidden. . . fruit doesn't really work in this situation. XD
To all the crazy haters... there's a difference between calling yourself masculine vs. "Str8 acting" ... I'm a masculine gay man. I'm not acting like anything, I'm just being me. People who choose to label themselves as "Str8 acting" are self-loathing gays. They're also the ones that you see on douchebagsofgrindr hating on every other gay that is not exactly like them.
so I'm self loathing because I'm attracted to masculine men...I guess by your "logic" you're sexist since you don't want to date women, not because you're gay. When you like straight guys stuff do and effeminate men want you to force to act a way you're not, it is incredibly annoying.
Looks may get someones attention but in the end personality, character, and intelligence are the sexist most sought after attributes. Be a flamer, be a D&D nerd, construction worker or jock, whatever.... What matters the most is whats inside, I know how cliché. If you look like a lumberjack you may get my attention, but if your shallow and dimwitted, you wont hold it, a Liberian that wows me with wit and kindness will. Still, I have my fingers crossed for someone that is all of these things.
I dealt with a lot of self loathing in high school as a closeted lesbian, I felt that I only had two choices, live a secret but perpetually unsatisfied and dishonest life, or come out and be forced to instantly deal with being defined by yet another label. I'm just thankful that I had understanding family and friends who helped me to see that God made me who I am for a reason.
I hope we can one day live in a world where people won't have to come out.
I guess the point is if you're naturally "masculine" then cool, but if you're not, and you're "acting" then that's where the self-loathing is a factor.
Respond to this video... wow. really? If the first thing you think about when you think the term gay is dicks that smell like shit well... i think i have some news for you: 1 you're super kinky, and 2 you might just be gay. enjoy
HEY DAVEY, NOT exactly my type, as I watch you, you get hotter and hotter. Under your frillyness, you are a hot man. Sexy. Under the stero-girlfriend stuff, is a witty hunk! LOVE YOU MAN!!!! Listen, I believe you are still growing out of the tough comming of age thing, and still over reacting to it all. TOUGH stuff, I know! 2-3 yrs.,YOU WILL B A TOTALLY HOT (gay) MAN!!! Just discovered you and John Barrowman! WOOF! to U both! The GF thing is just MILITANT, like any wronged group. LOVE!
yehh... i dnt like feminine guys at all (your body is good but your voice and mannerisms do NOT turn me on, like they dont repulse me but they dont do anything for my erection)
i like hot manly men, big muscles & broad shoulders
i dont look for str8 guys, why wuld i try get a str8 guy i mean i dnt want a girl trying to convert me
but yeah i AM attracted to "str8" guys, whether theyre acting or not
some of your points r accurate for some gays but not all, i just want you to acknowledge that :)
If a gay guy is going to act straight then I'm going to assume he is running away from being gay. What makes a person gay is if they want to be with the opposite sex/gender. That's what self-loathing is. I don't judge people. I don't label someone. I just like guys and I'm happy with the way I am. If you read this, you should be worrying about your self-contentment or lack there of.
So before you comment on this, are you really content with your own person and how YOU are on the inside?
I'm sorry, but this video is ridiculous. Just like girls often pick bad boys in the hope that they'll be able to 'fix' them, gays like straight guys/porn because they're unattainable and they want to be the ones who can change them.
I resent being told I'm self-loathing just because I like men to be men. Girls and gays like masculine types because they're the epitome of MEN. You don't see girls going after camp queens, do you? It has nothing to do with us being self-loathing. Load of crap.
what's the point of acting so girlish? i mean, say, you're gay! all right! but why is this girl-like behaviour so widely spread among gay people?!
that makes me think something subconcscious down there in gay mentality causes a normal gay attract another gay (who are actually both men) in a way that is attracting for straight person - through girl-like acting, wording and responses. it seems like almost each gay chases a pattern girl inside a pattern gay.
So, as a gay man, being attracted to "masculine" guys makes one self-loathing ? And you seem to make the point that there are only straight stereotypes but no gay ones
@GooGooGooGahGahGah Heh that's funny, because i've never seen a scientific study done like that, let alone one with actual credibility! Do you think i CHOSE to be gay? Do you think i CHOSE to be 'different', and consequently be treated like an outcast amongst other students? Do you think i CHOSE to be hit with depression and shame for the fact that i was just different? Do you think anybody would willingly CHOOSE such a difficult path? Make an opinion when you have had PERSONAL experience.
@HepburnFlicks you spend a fair bit of time loitering in the comment section of gay orientated youtube channels, don't you have somewhere to be? I recommend getting a hobby that doesn't involve obsessing over a mangy old book.
"And for this (failing to obey God), he gave them over to their vile affections"
To put it into words you brutes can understand, God cursed you with a perverts mind to PUNISH you for DISOBEYING his standards and spitting in his face!
@HepburnFlicks . with all due respect to you woman, whom I think should be more mature enough about ignorance. it is also stated in the bible that you cannot change people for who they are for it's not their choice. that is what they've always been and will always be and God has a reason for how things happen. You are not God to correct people from what you see is wrong. so cut the lecture you're not even sure if you're going to heaven anyway.
@HepburnFlicks How about Matthew 19:12-"For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it." Many scholars say another term for Eunuchs would be a gay male. So the Bible says some were born that way & others were made that way-which is exactly what happens up until today. So how can you be punished if you're born that way? Did God make a mistake?
@AlcoholicSemenStain2 but apparently being Christian goes with being an asshole who disowns their children? You're supposed to not judge or talk shit and leave it up to god, right? Hypocrisy...
@GooGooGooGahGahGah HAH! I recently came out to my parents and friends and am PROUD. I utterly pity you. To live with so much angst and hatred would be truly horrible. I think i speak for all when i say that being gay is more about BEING ones TRUE self than anything else. I'm not femenine in any way and i never will be, however i equally respect those who are; they are simply expressing their true self. I'm sure you'll have a fulfilling life with an attitude like that [LOL]. go troll elsewhere.
I believe that you can be gay without doing stereotypically gay or straight things. Like Davey said, it doesn't have to be called straight acting when that's the way you behave. Who needs to act? Don't kill me for saying this but most of the straight men I know don't have several sex partners and flirt with every girl, however, a lot gay men do. I'm not criticizing anyone or how they live their life but I'm just calling it how I see it.
I'm gay, and I'm proud of that, and of anyone who is themselves. BUT, when you start throwing the same hatered that we claim to despise, I lose all rspect for you. I'm also a Christian, and I'm VERY proud of that.
@JakeTheArmyGuy threw my son out the house when he came out the closet last christmas. you cant be a gay christain it CANT go together. contradiction!!!!
@theBgoz heya, im gay. The reason y some guy r more feminin is coz they r proud like u said and _aybe acking ore ga so people know, nd the other reason is that jus the personality..im glas to c they r people luke u who accept the lgbt members...thnx
"If it's a feminine guy or a masculine woman, people feel the need to comment on that, and that need just demonstrates their own insecurity with being gay."
No, that just demonstrates how gendered their thinking is. Especially if they find a "straight-like, masculine" guy on a magazine cover more appealing than an effeminate-looking ice skater. All about gender norms. [I hate that, too, Davey!]
i think some gay guys r more feminine coz they don't hav the role as the more masculine 1 in the relationship. i really don't no y sum r more feminine, but wen u think about it it's the same with lesbians just in reverse, so u no it has 2 with their sexuality & it's not something they r putting on (even tho sum may play it up at times!) i'm pretty sure it has 2 do with social structures of gender relations tho
butwho really cares? i love it! & by acting gay it shows they r proud of who they r.
well, there's this new wave of thought that if you are NOT a camp/femenine gay then as a gay male you're denying who you are... I have no problem with feminine gay guys but I am simply NOT attracted to that type. To think of a muscle guy with a beard as "straight acting" is also wrong. "Straight acting" simply means that you behave like a normal heterosexual guy does. Most gay don't even know how that looks or sounds like, and no it has nothing to do with sports or being macho/aggressive.
I act exactly like all of my straight friends - I play football (or 'soccer'), we go out drinking, play basketball, hang out at the beach. (Note: I'm not stereotyping these as 'straight activities', I'm merely stating this is what we personally do.)
I do not partake in any stereotypically 'gay activities' - in fact, I rather dislike them completely. I don't hate people who do them, but I don't let me sexuality rule who I am. Eurgh.
i love the culture, the people, the courage, the fun, everything!!!! but what bugs me is the over feminine gays (like guys how are more feminine than women)
I'm gay and I don't hate myself. Lol I'm just like any other person, and I dint have any hatred towards women! I just don't think about fucking them. Lol there are super feminine straight guys, same with gays, and same goes for masculinity.
This is bullshit. There are many homos out there that grew up in a certain manner of masculine behavior and are comfortable that way. Not every gay man is tormented about being in the closet and struggling to hide or cover up their gay behaviors. Some of us are just more masculine without having to try. As far as being attracted to straight and straight behaving homos, I like what I like. I will take those types any day over these catty bitches who have no respect for others boundaries.
This is really interesting. have a friend who's gay and often crushes on straight guys, but i always thought it was a "you always want what you can't have" thing. he agrees, to a certain extent. i've also noticed a lot of girls saying stuff like "the only hot ones that aren't jerks are always gay". you even see it with lots of girls that like girly-looking guys (orlando bloom, anyone?) i've never thought of either of these being a self-loathing thing in their own way...
WOAH! just because a man is gay does not mean that he has an "unbridled hate" for women. It means that he isn't sexually attracted to women. There is nothing "sorta" fucked up about gay culture. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being gay and nothing about the culture is fucked up.
"Straight acting" is referring to their behavior and is not necessarily an "act" put forth. I'm a proud homosexual male and am, consequently, ATTRACTED TO MEN. I'm not attracted to gay males that behave in a feminine way, or aim to look more feminine. Does that mean I hate myself because I'm gay? ABSOLUTELY NOT! This video may claim that, but there needs to be a double standard, here. You can be proud of who you are, without behaving like a fairy princess.
@TrebeledChild A lot of straights these days are very "gay acting"; that if you are "straight acting", then you are in fact 'acting gay', in which case if you are gay-- then you're not actually really acting? ....
A lot of straights these days are very 'gay-acting'; does that mean that if you are "straight acting", then you are in fact 'acting gay', in which case if you are gay-- then you're not actually really acting? So I don't see the point in correlating sexual orientation into it. Besides I imagine I'd imagine most (if not all) people of any sexuality are a mixture of both ‘masc’ and ‘fem’.
Anyway, you aren't actually acting straight if you demonstrating attraction to those of the same gender!
@TrebeledChild no because by doing what you say people are perpetuating the gender roles that are oppressing the people in society. if a guy acts like a "fairy princess" then he should be able to do so without scrutiny no one is saying you have to date him, but you shouldnt look down on him and classify him as less of a man for being who he is
@TrebeledChild If someone wants to act that way, let them act that way. Like really, to hate on gays and being gay yourself only makes homophobia spread easier and faster, and that's what this video is about, so you kind of missed the whole point.
"Straight-acting" means someone is attracted to women. The gay guy who says that is just accepting the popular stereotypes. If he wants to say masculine, then fine. What makes this person think that all gay people are feminine. He's been brainwashed by homophobes. He's saying "I'm not one of them." Well, when they send the gays to detention camps he;ll be on the bus with all the hairdressers and drama queens. We're all inn it together.
I'm the so-called "Straigh Acting" although I may have very small feminine things about me, I have a group of friends which are COMPLETELY feminine and sometimes I try and not see myself with them on the street too much because they simply are just over the top, like as though EVERYONE needs to know that they are gay. I love everything gay I love my feminine friends, but when it would be to come to dating I want a MAN, not a feminine guy... I mean that's why I'm gay 'cos I love a guy being a guy
sorry hunks, but femme cute dudes are the very best bottoms you can find and they´ll blow you a zillion times better and than some insecure straightacting dude: trust me I know this from experience ,-))
@rbirkin to some, TO SOME, it actually is - and any intelligent person would sample many reflections or anecdotes as you so bitchy call them, in order to understand the issue better ;-)
i totally agree with this video. its like 'straight acting' gay people wanting to be accepted for who they are ( and they would know that you cant change the way you are ) yet they decide to 'gay bash' the more effeminate men. It just doesn't make any sense why are they so embarrassed!
Are you equating masculinity with self-loathing (if you're gay)? That's pretty stupid. I am gay and as masculing as they come. Why is that self loathing?
hey i'm a "straight acting gay", but i'm not acting, i don't pretend to be straight or pretend i like sports to seem more attractive, I'm just genuinely not effeminate or camp. Probably partly because growing up in a rough area (I'm from Scotland, and the whole gayness being accepted thing just doesn't happen in the part i live in) and all my friends are straight masculine guys. But even when i am around more openly and obviously gay people i'm still masculine. P.S I LOVE your videos so good
@somebodyouthere022 What? Maybe you should stick your head out of your single-minded ass and realize that not everyone wants to be a flashy and girly gay guy.
By generalizing how a gay guy should act, you subconsciously define how a straight person should act. Which completly backtracks any progress the gay society has made to benefit their lives. Realize that you are all in this together and attacking eachother isn't leading you anywhere.
I have to admit clicked to view this vid out of curiosity, but just wanted to say I think your message is great. Too many people despise themselves for what they are or how they feel. Keep up the good work :)
Errrm your video is piontless, gay guys don't idolize the ''straight'' men in porn, they watch it because that is just simply what they are attracted to. Maybe YOUR self loathing but I'm not and I doubt most gay people are.
I've a feeling this is your worst one too. You so miss the point. Gay does not = effeminate, and "straight-acting" (a dumb phrase which I hate) does not = self loathing! Some gay men are naturally effeminate; a few act it to get laid; but most are like me- you wouldn't know unless I told you. Self loathing is caused by internalised prejudice often aggravated by religion or bullying and results in a lot of serious mental health problems for gays. Not guys on magazine covers. A missed opportunity
@androstempest gay culture is incredibly dysfunctional and of course these fuckers don't have any problems with their perfect goddamn bodies and fitting into the mold
isn't it weird....they are both acting like they have no balls. I am gay, and cannot believe gay subculture reduced itself to rejecting masculinity....it seems like we would embrace more than any group.....I like men, not men who think they are women....if I wanted to date someone ultra femmie, I would date a chick. That's not rejecting my gay side, that's embracing it
I wouldn't say that gay men being attracted to "straight" behavior traits is self loathing. It's just a facet of attraction. Attraction encompasses a myriad of behaviors and attitudes - not just physical appearance. To illustrate that it's self loathing to not be attracted to other people who act the way you seem to think that all gay people should be (ie non straight "acting", else self loathing is present) is not only convoluted, but pretty narrow, no? We are all actors on this earthly stage.
@GetTheHook man, you are so right....they really are the self hating gays because they seem to want to be women. They think if you don't buy into their stereotype, you have being gay. Fuck them....nothing wrong with a guy who likes being a guy. Nothing wrong with a guy being attracted to men who don't think of themselves as females either
I don't hate myself, but I hate most gays since they hate me cause I don't want to fuck them and because Most are caddy and they talk like girls and I have nothing in common. I once tried to talk to one when I told my best friend and I wanted to know how they dealt with it. Next day he was talking about me. SOrry! LOL!
I absolutely love that you put this up. It is very true in our culture, and espessially in our school systems. I can see some students that I know to be gay, forcing themselves to be with women, and acting like they aren't gay. It hurts to some point that they don't feel like they can be who they are.
Gay pride is simply a celebration in which gays and lesbians can recognize that they are finally reaching the point of full equality to the same extent as everyone else. There is sexuality in everything.. even ads for sodas have elements of sexuality in them.. thats just who we are as humans.. we are sexual. Try going to the Puertorican day Parade... or the St. Patricks day parade!! Those are CRAZZZY. Id rather a hot guy pinch my butt... then have to duck drunkards and dodge bullets!
@Mog087 Uh no, acting natural is acting natural, I never said there was one way to act natural. "Natural" means something different to everyone. I believe people should be whoever they want to be, not be cornered into acting more 'straight' because of societal pressures. You really think EVERY fem out there is forcing himself to act more feminine? Some men just have more of an affinity for things that are considered feminine.
@Mog087 It's true, not all gay guys are feminine, that is a stereotype..But they have every right to be feminine just like you have a right to be masculine. And guess what, most fem. gay guys aren't putting up an act, it's HYPERMASCULINE ASSHOLES like you that constantly have to reinforce what a big manly man you are, it's pathetic! We all have masculine and feminine attributes, so get over it. As for being weak, I bet all the fem gays I know are a lot braver than you, you hetero-normative cunt!
@Mog087 I would just like to sincerly thank you...I could not agree more. Gays are being accepted more and more, and I think it's time we as a group let go of this silly, campy, I hate being a gay guy and really want to be a woman mentality. We are men, we like men, so let's act like men, what's the problem with that?
idk how no one thought it was funny when he said "i want this straight guy to spit on my hole." hahahaha that was too funny, but i guess it was just me.
As someone who was gay friends of both sexes, you have no fucking idea what you're talking about. T_T Most of the gay people I know you wouldn't even know they were gay unless they told you. It's not because they're insecure, but because they don't need to fucking flaunt it to be comfortable with themselves, just as I don't flaunt my heterosexuality. And i bet most of my gay friends are a lot more self-confiedent then you are.
I don't agree with the message this video is sending. Just because a large part of the gay community is more flamboyant does not mean that ALL gay men are this way. There are straight women who are only attracted to girly men and straight women who are only attracted to masculine men. Why can't it be the same for gays?
It sounds more like you're mad that there are guys out there who aren't interested in femmy queens.
It's not just Gay people that are self loathing. Str8 girls hate other str8 girls, and str8 guys hate other str8 guys. You hear girls talking shit about str8 men, and men talking shit about str8 women all the time. And you see str8 girls attacking other str8 girls for being hotter than them all the time.
It's not a gay thing. Macho guys talk shit about artsy str8 guys, and artsy str8 guys talk shit about macho str8 guys.
I'm gay, but I pretty much hate gay culture. Manhunt is ridiculous. Most gay clubs/bars are ridiculous.Gay pride marches are ridiculous for the most part. It's all centered around sex and I hate it. Why can't we be gay men and not want to fuck everything that moves and think about sex all the time?
@itirnitii I totally agree with everything you just said dude. It sux that i'm made to feel like there is something wrong with me because I don't like random hook ups as they make me feel cheap and that I think the gay communitiy's obsession with sex is really off putting. I mean i like sex, don't get me wrong, just not in those circumstances thank you.
@itirnitii I don't think "we" do - it's a transitional phenomena in a slowly opening social order: it compels gay men to "act out" publicly the opposition's conception of their identity in order to negate it . Also, since the defining characteristic of being gay is to prefer same-sex sex, the way the minority group locates other members in public settings is through creating forums that focus on that commonality. However, choruses & many other non-sex themed gay groups do exist in large cities.
I'm not self-loathing...I think stupid people like these vapid commentators confuse gender expression with sexual orientation. Clearly cultures influenced by northern European mores have a much stronger fear - at least in the past century - of effeminacy than sexual deviance. There is nothing 'pretend' or 'straight' about a gay man who likes sports. Masculine deportment and expression is not related to sexual orientation. However, it does seem that "femme" guys are almost always gay.
@itirnitii omg i cnt believe that you have the audacity 2 say that. pride represents what we r. some people tend to pervert it but it really does mean things 2 others. there are mothers out there marching for their children that have taken their lives because they were gay. also u should have said that all clubs r ridiculous bc teveryone does the same thing. although i have to admit, manhunt is dumb. you should embrace gay culture. it is a collection of the different types of gays out there. smh
@itirnitii i think that the gay culture is changing. i think pride parades are becoming dated and the camp element to gay culture has almost disappeared. you have to realize that in the old days out gays could only be friends with other gays because of how homophobic culture was. so the gay community was very isolated, socially. and of course it was very sex-oriented because that was the biggest thing they had in common - sexuality.
@itirnitii Thank goodness someone is actually making sense! I have nothing against gays other than the disgusting obsession with sex that they have. I am equally disgusted with straight guys that act like this. If your entire culture is centered on sex then there is something wrong with the way you think. This is where the discrimination comes from.
@itirnitii Amen, dude. Amen. I think exactly like you. And I don't hate just the way it is centered around sex, it's the fucking cliché: the fashion is always the same, the music genres/artists are always the same, etc....Damn, I am gay, but I can listen something out of Lady Gaga or fancy electronic beats and I can enjoy wearing something that's not elegant, fine or whatever you can say to describe the "gay fashion". It's depressing :(
@itirnitii I'm bi and I'm the same. I don't understand why I have to conform to some trash culture just because of who I fuck. I still dress preppy, hang out entirely with straight people, listen to indie music, grow chest hair, play COD, eat tons and have love handles (which I admittedly am not proud of). Your sexuality isn't a mandate for how you act.
@itirnitii because straight men think about sex all the time. Do you hear yourself? Its men being around men. Women would usually balance that nature out but.....
@newfish09 Has it ever occurred to you that maybe men behave this way because we are socially constructed to behave this way? Sure, we have hormones that make us sexual, but that doesn't mean because I am a gay man I have to constantly be thinking about fucking other guys and even if I was, it doesn't mean gay culture should be constantly perpetuating this standpoint - as it currently does. "Men being around men" as you state doesn't have to mean "constantly want to fuck".
@itirnitii I totally agree with everything you said.
I have never been to a gay pride parade (What the fuck! Did we get liberated by the French)
ManHunt is a sex site. Although I do like a gay bar myself. Its a place that I can go and get a drink and NOT have to worry about staring at a guy and wind up tied to a fence post.
And to the video... just because I desire something masculine it doesn't mean I hate myself that's stupid. I am a guy and a like masculine male men. What guy doesn't? I don't want a woman! I don't like things about myself and for a while I hated that I was gay. But I never hated myself. It was more of a thing that I was just sad about. There was never anger or hate though.
There's a difference between self loathing and feeling sorry for yourself.
@itirnitii because we are men and most men for the most part its mostly about sex, yes gay culture is alil too flamboyant but for the most part were not gonna pretend its not mostly about sex ,just ask heteros its mostly about sex for them too! maybe ur not getting any! boohoo!
I get where you're coming from, but hate doesn't do well with most people. I've been going steady with my mate since I was sixteen, but I've always been known to be that gay kid that's more likely to take his friends gun shopping than shoe shopping. But to be honest, we're *guys.* We can't even look at most things without thinking about sex, and therefore wanting to have it. Honestly, it's weird, I know. But you'll get used to it. :D
just because you like someone to be masculine or feminine does not make you insecure! that's just bullshit. everybody will like what they like in a sexual partner, and that's just the way it is, I think it also has to do with more of a dominant/submissive situation over masculine/feminine situation. people sometimes view masculinity as dominance, and that turns them on.
btw davey i think your freind is suuuuuuuuper cute .... and i also got a semi thinking about it and i lmfao when you started that whole spit in my hole stuff
lol topdawg732 i hope you know all gay men are not feminin...guess what if you get in my face i will kick your ass and if you get in a feminin gay guys face he will bitch slapp you ... so you choose bitch
@topdawg732 Are you supposed to be intimidating? It's people like you who make me glad i'm gay. I couldn't bear the thought of sharing an orientation with some vile untermensch like yourself. I really hope you get raped by some bear so you learn not to fuck around with gay men... mind you, from what you've said, I doubt you ever get much action... if any.
xP How funny, that gay guys like straight guys, but straight girl like gay guys!
It is completely unfair! Girls would honestly rather have some sweet, feminine gay guy as a boyfriend than a tough, amsculine meathead.
Ah, life. It's a bitch.
What does that say about us Davey? Are girls... insecure about something to want gay guys, or is it just because cute guys like you have to prance around youtube shirtless?
xD Just kidding, I love you Davey, and love that you're gay! :D
i'm gay and i hate myself. and i hate australia, and i hate the australian gays. i don't know what to do.
joshipoo16 1 week ago
They don't put gay "acting" guys on gay product advertising for the same reason they don't put drunks in beer commercials. They are selling fantasy. Beer will make you cool and attractive. This bar or that lube will get you prince charming. When I was young, back in the dark ages, people would regularly ask me if I knew I was in a gay bar. I am not sure if I am straight acting or look really dumb.
Stanwoody 2 weeks ago
Also, I dont want anyone to "spit in my hole" gross.
hmigatrcrtttt 3 weeks ago
This is dumb. Just because a guy likes sports or doesnt talk in a higher pitched voice doesnt mean he hates being gay. I guess you could say I'm "straight acting" because I dont act in a feminine manner, and people are shocked to hear I like boys. That doesnt mean I hate myself. I also prefer more masculine guys... but thats what im attracted to. What does straight acting even mean? Im pretty sure I dont "act straight" because I have gay sex with my boyfriend.
hmigatrcrtttt 3 weeks ago 2
@hmigatrcrtttt you totally got the wrong message from this video. I would watch it again and you will probably get a different message
16brooke1992 2 weeks ago
Loathing feminized males that put too much work into their physical appearance. Get over yourselves. You are repulsive. Even fat lesbos look better to non conformist gay men LOL
danthecurious 3 weeks ago
it's soo hard to say straight-acting with a cock in your mouth.
61602764 3 weeks ago
I have a gay uncle, he is a interiar designer, his boyfriend is a grease mokey. They argue all the time about "whos the girl"
WriteIt4TheWorld 1 month ago
@WriteIt4TheWorld Is it "YOU'RE THE GIRL!!" arguing, or "I'M THE GIRL!!" arguing...?
Zethux 1 month ago in playlist Best Gay Videos
@Zethux yes,my uncle is all the time yelling "your the girl" and his boyfriend says," no, your the girl" and im like, both of you are girls!
WriteIt4TheWorld 1 month ago
@WriteIt4TheWorld In my world, I'd argue, "I'M THE GIRL"... Unless he really does want to be the girl... Then he can be. I really don't care; I just want him to be happy. ^_^ <3
Zethux 1 month ago
@Zethux awww thats sweet. Im straight and a girl but I dont judge
WriteIt4TheWorld 1 month ago
@WriteIt4TheWorld Thanks. =3
Zethux 1 month ago
@Zethux Ok. To be a man. Start by not caring about them being happy all the time LOL
danthecurious 3 weeks ago
@danthecurious Ok. You don't have to not care. To be a man.
Zethux 3 weeks ago
That's the spirit! I'm glad we are in agreement ;D
danthecurious 3 weeks ago
I've loathed myself for many years. I sabotaged myself many times. I didn't go to college.
I'm 23 and am finally starting to step out of the shadows.
It gets better if you want it to get better.
whyyesyes 1 month ago
Why do gay people come out the closet
NotThatAwesomeIlan 1 month ago
Why do you assume that more manly acting gay guys are insecure and not accepting of their sexuality? I gay, but I don't act overly feminine. I personally prefer not to hang around super feminine guys, because they often come with a lot more drama and negative things about them. I'm a man that like men, not men that act like women. And what is exactly is straight acting anyways? Am I acting because I like football and video games? No it just how I am and you should respect it, not say I'm acting.
MrYoungRevo 1 month ago 9
I think that the reason that straight-looking guys are so attractive is because we are gay. It's like when guys are attracted to lesbians. It's the forbidden. . . fruit doesn't really work in this situation. XD
Eyulfable 1 month ago
To all the crazy haters... there's a difference between calling yourself masculine vs. "Str8 acting" ... I'm a masculine gay man. I'm not acting like anything, I'm just being me. People who choose to label themselves as "Str8 acting" are self-loathing gays. They're also the ones that you see on douchebagsofgrindr hating on every other gay that is not exactly like them.
Lucifyr 1 month ago
I WANT THIS STRAIGHT GUY TO SPIT IN MY HOLE!
lmfao
meapersondudes 1 month ago in playlist Best Gay Videos
@halobane yeah because feminine gay guys never tried to force me to act more feminine(sarcasm)
Darkstorma1 2 months ago
so I'm self loathing because I'm attracted to masculine men...I guess by your "logic" you're sexist since you don't want to date women, not because you're gay. When you like straight guys stuff do and effeminate men want you to force to act a way you're not, it is incredibly annoying.
Darkstorma1 2 months ago
Looks may get someones attention but in the end personality, character, and intelligence are the sexist most sought after attributes. Be a flamer, be a D&D nerd, construction worker or jock, whatever.... What matters the most is whats inside, I know how cliché. If you look like a lumberjack you may get my attention, but if your shallow and dimwitted, you wont hold it, a Liberian that wows me with wit and kindness will. Still, I have my fingers crossed for someone that is all of these things.
jabezrb 3 months ago
I dealt with a lot of self loathing in high school as a closeted lesbian, I felt that I only had two choices, live a secret but perpetually unsatisfied and dishonest life, or come out and be forced to instantly deal with being defined by yet another label. I'm just thankful that I had understanding family and friends who helped me to see that God made me who I am for a reason.
I hope we can one day live in a world where people won't have to come out.
Jinxkatrina8 3 months ago
I guess the point is if you're naturally "masculine" then cool, but if you're not, and you're "acting" then that's where the self-loathing is a factor.
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dezzidy904 4 months ago
HEY DAVEY, NOT exactly my type, as I watch you, you get hotter and hotter. Under your frillyness, you are a hot man. Sexy. Under the stero-girlfriend stuff, is a witty hunk! LOVE YOU MAN!!!! Listen, I believe you are still growing out of the tough comming of age thing, and still over reacting to it all. TOUGH stuff, I know! 2-3 yrs.,YOU WILL B A TOTALLY HOT (gay) MAN!!! Just discovered you and John Barrowman! WOOF! to U both! The GF thing is just MILITANT, like any wronged group. LOVE!
rockshot100 4 months ago
yehh... i dnt like feminine guys at all (your body is good but your voice and mannerisms do NOT turn me on, like they dont repulse me but they dont do anything for my erection)
i like hot manly men, big muscles & broad shoulders
i dont look for str8 guys, why wuld i try get a str8 guy i mean i dnt want a girl trying to convert me
but yeah i AM attracted to "str8" guys, whether theyre acting or not
some of your points r accurate for some gays but not all, i just want you to acknowledge that :)
beauzuluuluz 4 months ago
you're still hot for me even after you talk :) <3 yah!
jinnakexds3 4 months ago
Im gay because i love men.
Hot, sweaty, working class, large, fat, hairy, beer gutted, lazy man.
I just dont find feminine guys because i like guys, not girls who behave like guys.
Antikukafe 5 months ago
If a gay guy is going to act straight then I'm going to assume he is running away from being gay. What makes a person gay is if they want to be with the opposite sex/gender. That's what self-loathing is. I don't judge people. I don't label someone. I just like guys and I'm happy with the way I am. If you read this, you should be worrying about your self-contentment or lack there of.
So before you comment on this, are you really content with your own person and how YOU are on the inside?
MeTocaBason 5 months ago
I'm sorry, but this video is ridiculous. Just like girls often pick bad boys in the hope that they'll be able to 'fix' them, gays like straight guys/porn because they're unattainable and they want to be the ones who can change them.
I resent being told I'm self-loathing just because I like men to be men. Girls and gays like masculine types because they're the epitome of MEN. You don't see girls going after camp queens, do you? It has nothing to do with us being self-loathing. Load of crap.
MrLemonhead2 5 months ago
what's the point of acting so girlish? i mean, say, you're gay! all right! but why is this girl-like behaviour so widely spread among gay people?!
that makes me think something subconcscious down there in gay mentality causes a normal gay attract another gay (who are actually both men) in a way that is attracting for straight person - through girl-like acting, wording and responses. it seems like almost each gay chases a pattern girl inside a pattern gay.
RmBerd 5 months ago
@RmBerd .......... lol... What?
Kurlyman2 5 months ago
So, as a gay man, being attracted to "masculine" guys makes one self-loathing ? And you seem to make the point that there are only straight stereotypes but no gay ones
Zop3 6 months ago
@GooGooGooGahGahGah Heh that's funny, because i've never seen a scientific study done like that, let alone one with actual credibility! Do you think i CHOSE to be gay? Do you think i CHOSE to be 'different', and consequently be treated like an outcast amongst other students? Do you think i CHOSE to be hit with depression and shame for the fact that i was just different? Do you think anybody would willingly CHOOSE such a difficult path? Make an opinion when you have had PERSONAL experience.
hpiercy19 6 months ago
Aussie! Aussie! Aussie!
arualyerac 6 months ago
@HepburnFlicks you spend a fair bit of time loitering in the comment section of gay orientated youtube channels, don't you have somewhere to be? I recommend getting a hobby that doesn't involve obsessing over a mangy old book.
arualyerac 6 months ago
Crack that bible and read Romans 1:26...
"And for this (failing to obey God), he gave them over to their vile affections"
To put it into words you brutes can understand, God cursed you with a perverts mind to PUNISH you for DISOBEYING his standards and spitting in his face!
HepburnFlicks 6 months ago
@HepburnFlicks . with all due respect to you woman, whom I think should be more mature enough about ignorance. it is also stated in the bible that you cannot change people for who they are for it's not their choice. that is what they've always been and will always be and God has a reason for how things happen. You are not God to correct people from what you see is wrong. so cut the lecture you're not even sure if you're going to heaven anyway.
cadreychasd 6 months ago
@HepburnFlicks How about Matthew 19:12-"For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it." Many scholars say another term for Eunuchs would be a gay male. So the Bible says some were born that way & others were made that way-which is exactly what happens up until today. So how can you be punished if you're born that way? Did God make a mistake?
viera1963 6 months ago 2
@AlcoholicSemenStain2 but apparently being Christian goes with being an asshole who disowns their children? You're supposed to not judge or talk shit and leave it up to god, right? Hypocrisy...
norrischuck23 6 months ago
@androstempest So you've met every single homosexual in the world? Go fuck yourself.
JohnTheFabulous 6 months ago
@GooGooGooGahGahGah HAH! I recently came out to my parents and friends and am PROUD. I utterly pity you. To live with so much angst and hatred would be truly horrible. I think i speak for all when i say that being gay is more about BEING ones TRUE self than anything else. I'm not femenine in any way and i never will be, however i equally respect those who are; they are simply expressing their true self. I'm sure you'll have a fulfilling life with an attitude like that [LOL]. go troll elsewhere.
hpiercy19 6 months ago
@GooGooGooGahGahGah What a sad individual. Go and express your hatred elsewhere cause it 'aint welcome here! Davey Wavey fans unite!!
danmunday1 6 months ago
I believe that you can be gay without doing stereotypically gay or straight things. Like Davey said, it doesn't have to be called straight acting when that's the way you behave. Who needs to act? Don't kill me for saying this but most of the straight men I know don't have several sex partners and flirt with every girl, however, a lot gay men do. I'm not criticizing anyone or how they live their life but I'm just calling it how I see it.
boomboxxking 6 months ago
"If I don't speak and I don't move..." Haha, that was my favorite line. :)
simplicitylost 6 months ago
Gay
xcokkijar 6 months ago
I would well smash the guy on the left. I think it's the hat that's doing it for me. Lol
mattfox06 6 months ago
I'm gay, and I'm proud of that, and of anyone who is themselves. BUT, when you start throwing the same hatered that we claim to despise, I lose all rspect for you. I'm also a Christian, and I'm VERY proud of that.
JakeTheArmyGuy 6 months ago 24
@JakeTheArmyGuy threw my son out the house when he came out the closet last christmas. you cant be a gay christain it CANT go together. contradiction!!!!
AlcoholicSemenStain2 6 months ago
@JakeTheArmyGuy Right you are sir - it's okay to be gay and better if your a christian too :)
Kisses FYIA
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1Buttonmasher 6 months ago
@theBgoz heya, im gay. The reason y some guy r more feminin is coz they r proud like u said and _aybe acking ore ga so people know, nd the other reason is that jus the personality..im glas to c they r people luke u who accept the lgbt members...thnx
drakeybabe 6 months ago
I'm confused about my sex
vanman251 6 months ago
"If it's a feminine guy or a masculine woman, people feel the need to comment on that, and that need just demonstrates their own insecurity with being gay."
No, that just demonstrates how gendered their thinking is. Especially if they find a "straight-like, masculine" guy on a magazine cover more appealing than an effeminate-looking ice skater. All about gender norms. [I hate that, too, Davey!]
seanrobertsme 6 months ago
i think some gay guys r more feminine coz they don't hav the role as the more masculine 1 in the relationship. i really don't no y sum r more feminine, but wen u think about it it's the same with lesbians just in reverse, so u no it has 2 with their sexuality & it's not something they r putting on (even tho sum may play it up at times!) i'm pretty sure it has 2 do with social structures of gender relations tho
butwho really cares? i love it! & by acting gay it shows they r proud of who they r.
TheBgoz 6 months ago
well, there's this new wave of thought that if you are NOT a camp/femenine gay then as a gay male you're denying who you are... I have no problem with feminine gay guys but I am simply NOT attracted to that type. To think of a muscle guy with a beard as "straight acting" is also wrong. "Straight acting" simply means that you behave like a normal heterosexual guy does. Most gay don't even know how that looks or sounds like, and no it has nothing to do with sports or being macho/aggressive.
Alwaysbaggyjeans 6 months ago
ooooh no you best not just called me gay girl!!
MrBreakALeg 6 months ago
Let me clear one thing up: I'm a gay male.
I act exactly like all of my straight friends - I play football (or 'soccer'), we go out drinking, play basketball, hang out at the beach. (Note: I'm not stereotyping these as 'straight activities', I'm merely stating this is what we personally do.)
I do not partake in any stereotypically 'gay activities' - in fact, I rather dislike them completely. I don't hate people who do them, but I don't let me sexuality rule who I am. Eurgh.
MrLc6 7 months ago
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i came here looking for a hookup. if youre a like minded gay man get in touch!
if davey wavey can sleep with a variety of random guys we can too! we're gay after all... thats what we want!
verysoliy 7 months ago
i love the culture, the people, the courage, the fun, everything!!!! but what bugs me is the over feminine gays (like guys how are more feminine than women)
seriously!!!! :/
moony9013 7 months ago
LOL... getting a semi. ^ O ^
rikochan4ever 7 months ago
I'm gay and I don't hate myself. Lol I'm just like any other person, and I dint have any hatred towards women! I just don't think about fucking them. Lol there are super feminine straight guys, same with gays, and same goes for masculinity.
ogredan100 7 months ago
This is bullshit. There are many homos out there that grew up in a certain manner of masculine behavior and are comfortable that way. Not every gay man is tormented about being in the closet and struggling to hide or cover up their gay behaviors. Some of us are just more masculine without having to try. As far as being attracted to straight and straight behaving homos, I like what I like. I will take those types any day over these catty bitches who have no respect for others boundaries.
mymailbox4404 7 months ago 3
This is really interesting. have a friend who's gay and often crushes on straight guys, but i always thought it was a "you always want what you can't have" thing. he agrees, to a certain extent. i've also noticed a lot of girls saying stuff like "the only hot ones that aren't jerks are always gay". you even see it with lots of girls that like girly-looking guys (orlando bloom, anyone?) i've never thought of either of these being a self-loathing thing in their own way...
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Snutih 7 months ago
WOAH! just because a man is gay does not mean that he has an "unbridled hate" for women. It means that he isn't sexually attracted to women. There is nothing "sorta" fucked up about gay culture. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being gay and nothing about the culture is fucked up.
LilMountainGirl1989 7 months ago
race issues. masculinity issues. unbridled hate for women. gay culture's sorta fucked up.
DominicanoOR 7 months ago
You're good company don't worry
JohnEbony 7 months ago
"Straight acting" is referring to their behavior and is not necessarily an "act" put forth. I'm a proud homosexual male and am, consequently, ATTRACTED TO MEN. I'm not attracted to gay males that behave in a feminine way, or aim to look more feminine. Does that mean I hate myself because I'm gay? ABSOLUTELY NOT! This video may claim that, but there needs to be a double standard, here. You can be proud of who you are, without behaving like a fairy princess.
TrebeledChild 7 months ago 44
@TrebeledChild A lot of straights these days are very "gay acting"; that if you are "straight acting", then you are in fact 'acting gay', in which case if you are gay-- then you're not actually really acting? ....
ddemaine 6 months ago
A lot of straights these days are very 'gay-acting'; does that mean that if you are "straight acting", then you are in fact 'acting gay', in which case if you are gay-- then you're not actually really acting? So I don't see the point in correlating sexual orientation into it. Besides I imagine I'd imagine most (if not all) people of any sexuality are a mixture of both ‘masc’ and ‘fem’.
Anyway, you aren't actually acting straight if you demonstrating attraction to those of the same gender!
ddemaine 6 months ago
@TrebeledChild no because by doing what you say people are perpetuating the gender roles that are oppressing the people in society. if a guy acts like a "fairy princess" then he should be able to do so without scrutiny no one is saying you have to date him, but you shouldnt look down on him and classify him as less of a man for being who he is
hollywoodcourt21 5 months ago
@TrebeledChild AMEN! this video is FULL of bullshit!
TheTvstuff 1 month ago
@TrebeledChild If someone wants to act that way, let them act that way. Like really, to hate on gays and being gay yourself only makes homophobia spread easier and faster, and that's what this video is about, so you kind of missed the whole point.
chocletemilkshards 1 month ago
that cap dude is so damn cute :))
martinlindsgaard 7 months ago
"Straight-acting" means someone is attracted to women. The gay guy who says that is just accepting the popular stereotypes. If he wants to say masculine, then fine. What makes this person think that all gay people are feminine. He's been brainwashed by homophobes. He's saying "I'm not one of them." Well, when they send the gays to detention camps he;ll be on the bus with all the hairdressers and drama queens. We're all inn it together.
FatJeffNYC 7 months ago
I'm the so-called "Straigh Acting" although I may have very small feminine things about me, I have a group of friends which are COMPLETELY feminine and sometimes I try and not see myself with them on the street too much because they simply are just over the top, like as though EVERYONE needs to know that they are gay. I love everything gay I love my feminine friends, but when it would be to come to dating I want a MAN, not a feminine guy... I mean that's why I'm gay 'cos I love a guy being a guy
kevinklot 7 months ago
sorry hunks, but femme cute dudes are the very best bottoms you can find and they´ll blow you a zillion times better and than some insecure straightacting dude: trust me I know this from experience ,-))
martinlindsgaard 7 months ago
@martinlindsgaard Possibly so, but anecdotal argument from one's person's limited experience, however vast, is never very persuasive.
rbirkin 7 months ago
@rbirkin to some, TO SOME, it actually is - and any intelligent person would sample many reflections or anecdotes as you so bitchy call them, in order to understand the issue better ;-)
martinlindsgaard 7 months ago
If you wathc this video because you hate yourself you MUST !!!
Androphilia: Rejecting the Gay Identity, Reclaiming Masculinity
it is such a good book. Thumbs up so everyone can see this comment
Gaydude95 7 months ago
Well , Im Bisexual :PP So Half Gay :o . Yay ? :D
DeadPeopleSpeakLoud 7 months ago
@DeadPeopleSpeakLoud *brofist* or *high five*
Shiptonio 7 months ago
@Shiptonio High Five :D ,
DeadPeopleSpeakLoud 7 months ago
gotta say, the background music is epic.
juanmora19910209 7 months ago
Am amazed you let yourself be seen with a non-muscle-mary! Most muscle boys are so arrogant - you seem a little less pompous than your other videos.
Rogue2808 7 months ago
I'm a self-loathing human! T_T
PaxiPeanut 7 months ago
@wickydkewl I love Chris' accent! I just couldn't figure it out. What is it?
TheTechnoTurtle 7 months ago
Hahaha the Oprah hug haha
jhp0725 7 months ago
i totally agree with this video. its like 'straight acting' gay people wanting to be accepted for who they are ( and they would know that you cant change the way you are ) yet they decide to 'gay bash' the more effeminate men. It just doesn't make any sense why are they so embarrassed!
nicholasts11 8 months ago
Are you equating masculinity with self-loathing (if you're gay)? That's pretty stupid. I am gay and as masculing as they come. Why is that self loathing?
gombis666 8 months ago
hey i'm a "straight acting gay", but i'm not acting, i don't pretend to be straight or pretend i like sports to seem more attractive, I'm just genuinely not effeminate or camp. Probably partly because growing up in a rough area (I'm from Scotland, and the whole gayness being accepted thing just doesn't happen in the part i live in) and all my friends are straight masculine guys. But even when i am around more openly and obviously gay people i'm still masculine. P.S I LOVE your videos so good
nicknok99 8 months ago
south park did a whole episode making fun of the oprah thing. u 2 are funny.
MrZerox123 8 months ago
which one is kenfo0?
MVPgoalie 8 months ago
Fem, Butch, or a Mix, who cares go out live your life have fun and if people don't like that you are too feminine or, too masculine. FUCK EM.
JonnCakez 8 months ago
@xCait741x urgh I said that with my other account,if you want to say something to that, reply to this, sorry
TheLoveisGenderless 8 months ago
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somebodyouthere022 8 months ago
@somebodyouthere022 What? Maybe you should stick your head out of your single-minded ass and realize that not everyone wants to be a flashy and girly gay guy.
By generalizing how a gay guy should act, you subconsciously define how a straight person should act. Which completly backtracks any progress the gay society has made to benefit their lives. Realize that you are all in this together and attacking eachother isn't leading you anywhere.
JRV95 8 months ago
I have to admit clicked to view this vid out of curiosity, but just wanted to say I think your message is great. Too many people despise themselves for what they are or how they feel. Keep up the good work :)
erijanea 8 months ago
when you turn to the side, you look exactly like Ryan Secrest (sp)? :)
aLittleGagaMonster 9 months ago
Errrm your video is piontless, gay guys don't idolize the ''straight'' men in porn, they watch it because that is just simply what they are attracted to. Maybe YOUR self loathing but I'm not and I doubt most gay people are.
24Nik92 9 months ago
@24Nik92 are you "most" gay people? you may be gay, but i have gay friends myself, and two of them pretty much follow this, except their lesbians.
magixtwister 9 months ago
@magixtwister I didn't say I was ''most'' gay people.
24Nik92 9 months ago
@24Nik92 the comment was towards you saying "i doubt most are", in other words: you don't know what other gay people are like just because you are.
magixtwister 9 months ago
I've a feeling this is your worst one too. You so miss the point. Gay does not = effeminate, and "straight-acting" (a dumb phrase which I hate) does not = self loathing! Some gay men are naturally effeminate; a few act it to get laid; but most are like me- you wouldn't know unless I told you. Self loathing is caused by internalised prejudice often aggravated by religion or bullying and results in a lot of serious mental health problems for gays. Not guys on magazine covers. A missed opportunity
rogoldomedonfors 9 months ago
@rogoldomedonfors I totally agree
CorvusBruxo 8 months ago
I don't hate gays, I just hate being associated with people who behave in (what I see as) an embarrassing way.
androstempest 9 months ago 17
@androstempest gay culture is incredibly dysfunctional and of course these fuckers don't have any problems with their perfect goddamn bodies and fitting into the mold
Frizzurd 6 months ago
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isn't it weird....they are both acting like they have no balls. I am gay, and cannot believe gay subculture reduced itself to rejecting masculinity....it seems like we would embrace more than any group.....I like men, not men who think they are women....if I wanted to date someone ultra femmie, I would date a chick. That's not rejecting my gay side, that's embracing it
alicevana 9 months ago
umm wow. such a juicehead...
bootsthamonkey 9 months ago
I wouldn't say that gay men being attracted to "straight" behavior traits is self loathing. It's just a facet of attraction. Attraction encompasses a myriad of behaviors and attitudes - not just physical appearance. To illustrate that it's self loathing to not be attracted to other people who act the way you seem to think that all gay people should be (ie non straight "acting", else self loathing is present) is not only convoluted, but pretty narrow, no? We are all actors on this earthly stage.
Lokispawns 9 months ago
Who cares what these stupid queens have to say? They're just bitter cus they don't have a vagina. lol
GetTheHook 9 months ago
@GetTheHook man, you are so right....they really are the self hating gays because they seem to want to be women. They think if you don't buy into their stereotype, you have being gay. Fuck them....nothing wrong with a guy who likes being a guy. Nothing wrong with a guy being attracted to men who don't think of themselves as females either
alicevana 9 months ago
@GetTheHook YOU DO NOT
HAVE PUSSY EITHER , GAY MEN GET MORE PUSSY THAN STRAIGHT MEN BECUASE THEY ARE GAY DUMBASS
maxjosh12 9 months ago
I don't hate myself, but I hate most gays since they hate me cause I don't want to fuck them and because Most are caddy and they talk like girls and I have nothing in common. I once tried to talk to one when I told my best friend and I wanted to know how they dealt with it. Next day he was talking about me. SOrry! LOL!
Harleybear09 10 months ago
did you have sex after this vido or befor
just wanna know
thunderssound 10 months ago 2
I find that being gay because of my disability I am not accepted. was told by another gay male that I'd be better off dead.
phoenix9ty 10 months ago
I absolutely love that you put this up. It is very true in our culture, and espessially in our school systems. I can see some students that I know to be gay, forcing themselves to be with women, and acting like they aren't gay. It hurts to some point that they don't feel like they can be who they are.
fffan93 10 months ago
Gay pride is simply a celebration in which gays and lesbians can recognize that they are finally reaching the point of full equality to the same extent as everyone else. There is sexuality in everything.. even ads for sodas have elements of sexuality in them.. thats just who we are as humans.. we are sexual. Try going to the Puertorican day Parade... or the St. Patricks day parade!! Those are CRAZZZY. Id rather a hot guy pinch my butt... then have to duck drunkards and dodge bullets!
StellarTwilight33 11 months ago
Maybe its just a case of wanting what you can't have. Do straight guys who watch lesbian porn want to be feminine? No.
You're wrong.
LatumWay 11 months ago
@Mog087 Uh no, acting natural is acting natural, I never said there was one way to act natural. "Natural" means something different to everyone. I believe people should be whoever they want to be, not be cornered into acting more 'straight' because of societal pressures. You really think EVERY fem out there is forcing himself to act more feminine? Some men just have more of an affinity for things that are considered feminine.
sarahs075 11 months ago
@Mog087 It's true, not all gay guys are feminine, that is a stereotype..But they have every right to be feminine just like you have a right to be masculine. And guess what, most fem. gay guys aren't putting up an act, it's HYPERMASCULINE ASSHOLES like you that constantly have to reinforce what a big manly man you are, it's pathetic! We all have masculine and feminine attributes, so get over it. As for being weak, I bet all the fem gays I know are a lot braver than you, you hetero-normative cunt!
sarahs075 11 months ago
@Mog087 I would just like to sincerly thank you...I could not agree more. Gays are being accepted more and more, and I think it's time we as a group let go of this silly, campy, I hate being a gay guy and really want to be a woman mentality. We are men, we like men, so let's act like men, what's the problem with that?
alicevana 11 months ago
idk how no one thought it was funny when he said "i want this straight guy to spit on my hole." hahahaha that was too funny, but i guess it was just me.
ryanlively1 1 year ago
Watch Davey Wavey PWNED!!! in 90 seconds.
TomDarkwulf 1 year ago
As someone who was gay friends of both sexes, you have no fucking idea what you're talking about. T_T Most of the gay people I know you wouldn't even know they were gay unless they told you. It's not because they're insecure, but because they don't need to fucking flaunt it to be comfortable with themselves, just as I don't flaunt my heterosexuality. And i bet most of my gay friends are a lot more self-confiedent then you are.
TomDarkwulf 1 year ago
I don't agree with the message this video is sending. Just because a large part of the gay community is more flamboyant does not mean that ALL gay men are this way. There are straight women who are only attracted to girly men and straight women who are only attracted to masculine men. Why can't it be the same for gays?
It sounds more like you're mad that there are guys out there who aren't interested in femmy queens.
helloluisito 1 year ago
It's not just Gay people that are self loathing. Str8 girls hate other str8 girls, and str8 guys hate other str8 guys. You hear girls talking shit about str8 men, and men talking shit about str8 women all the time. And you see str8 girls attacking other str8 girls for being hotter than them all the time.
It's not a gay thing. Macho guys talk shit about artsy str8 guys, and artsy str8 guys talk shit about macho str8 guys.
Strop tryna make it into a gay thing.
lostalex77 1 year ago
I'm gay, but I pretty much hate gay culture. Manhunt is ridiculous. Most gay clubs/bars are ridiculous.Gay pride marches are ridiculous for the most part. It's all centered around sex and I hate it. Why can't we be gay men and not want to fuck everything that moves and think about sex all the time?
itirnitii 1 year ago 141
@itirnitii I totally agree with everything you just said dude. It sux that i'm made to feel like there is something wrong with me because I don't like random hook ups as they make me feel cheap and that I think the gay communitiy's obsession with sex is really off putting. I mean i like sex, don't get me wrong, just not in those circumstances thank you.
jeffinsight 1 year ago
@itirnitii
agree,
gay pride is ridicilous,
but there´s no gay culture,
culture doesnt change due to your orientations guys.
so thats just silly.
janar17 1 year ago
@itirnitii agreed
Linternauter 1 year ago
@itirnitii So tell me. What do straight guys think about most of the time? Your problem isn't that you're
gay. Your problem is that you refuse to accept yourself!
mrsand0z 1 year ago
@itirnitii I don't think "we" do - it's a transitional phenomena in a slowly opening social order: it compels gay men to "act out" publicly the opposition's conception of their identity in order to negate it . Also, since the defining characteristic of being gay is to prefer same-sex sex, the way the minority group locates other members in public settings is through creating forums that focus on that commonality. However, choruses & many other non-sex themed gay groups do exist in large cities.
musicalidea 11 months ago
I'm not self-loathing...I think stupid people like these vapid commentators confuse gender expression with sexual orientation. Clearly cultures influenced by northern European mores have a much stronger fear - at least in the past century - of effeminacy than sexual deviance. There is nothing 'pretend' or 'straight' about a gay man who likes sports. Masculine deportment and expression is not related to sexual orientation. However, it does seem that "femme" guys are almost always gay.
musicalidea 11 months ago 4
@itirnitii omg i cnt believe that you have the audacity 2 say that. pride represents what we r. some people tend to pervert it but it really does mean things 2 others. there are mothers out there marching for their children that have taken their lives because they were gay. also u should have said that all clubs r ridiculous bc teveryone does the same thing. although i have to admit, manhunt is dumb. you should embrace gay culture. it is a collection of the different types of gays out there. smh
ed102196 11 months ago
@itirnitii i think that the gay culture is changing. i think pride parades are becoming dated and the camp element to gay culture has almost disappeared. you have to realize that in the old days out gays could only be friends with other gays because of how homophobic culture was. so the gay community was very isolated, socially. and of course it was very sex-oriented because that was the biggest thing they had in common - sexuality.
oxysean 10 months ago
@itirnitii
FIGHT THE POWER!!
sidar87 10 months ago
@itirnitii Could not agree with you more!!
rickynlevy 9 months ago
@itirnitii Lol, it's contradictory because it has 69 likes :P Just kidding budday!
Jaakunakuma 9 months ago
@itirnitii Thank goodness someone is actually making sense! I have nothing against gays other than the disgusting obsession with sex that they have. I am equally disgusted with straight guys that act like this. If your entire culture is centered on sex then there is something wrong with the way you think. This is where the discrimination comes from.
LukeeeeeeMr 9 months ago
@itirnitii Amen, dude. Amen. I think exactly like you. And I don't hate just the way it is centered around sex, it's the fucking cliché: the fashion is always the same, the music genres/artists are always the same, etc....Damn, I am gay, but I can listen something out of Lady Gaga or fancy electronic beats and I can enjoy wearing something that's not elegant, fine or whatever you can say to describe the "gay fashion". It's depressing :(
CorvusBruxo 8 months ago
@CorvusBruxo thats true, gay pride fails to highlight the diversity present within the LGBT society!
zaeem166 8 months ago
@itirnitii I'm bi and I'm the same. I don't understand why I have to conform to some trash culture just because of who I fuck. I still dress preppy, hang out entirely with straight people, listen to indie music, grow chest hair, play COD, eat tons and have love handles (which I admittedly am not proud of). Your sexuality isn't a mandate for how you act.
JermzzzyFTW 8 months ago
@itirnitii gay culture is centred around sex cause we r men .. str8 men always think about sex .. its the way men r wired
mmann66666 8 months ago
@itirnitii because straight men think about sex all the time. Do you hear yourself? Its men being around men. Women would usually balance that nature out but.....
newfish09 8 months ago
@newfish09 Has it ever occurred to you that maybe men behave this way because we are socially constructed to behave this way? Sure, we have hormones that make us sexual, but that doesn't mean because I am a gay man I have to constantly be thinking about fucking other guys and even if I was, it doesn't mean gay culture should be constantly perpetuating this standpoint - as it currently does. "Men being around men" as you state doesn't have to mean "constantly want to fuck".
itirnitii 8 months ago
@itirnitii Amen to you.
mikedean643 7 months ago
@itirnitii I totally agree with everything you said.
I have never been to a gay pride parade (What the fuck! Did we get liberated by the French)
ManHunt is a sex site. Although I do like a gay bar myself. Its a place that I can go and get a drink and NOT have to worry about staring at a guy and wind up tied to a fence post.
Mattgoot 7 months ago
@itirnitii
i know what i say isnt nothing big, but
i think instead of it centering sex its a lot about expressing ur-self and enjoying who u r
yaoifangirlful 7 months ago
@itirnitii Brilliant comment (y)
kornrocktwistedfreak 7 months ago
@itirnitii i know right!
And to the video... just because I desire something masculine it doesn't mean I hate myself that's stupid. I am a guy and a like masculine male men. What guy doesn't? I don't want a woman! I don't like things about myself and for a while I hated that I was gay. But I never hated myself. It was more of a thing that I was just sad about. There was never anger or hate though.
There's a difference between self loathing and feeling sorry for yourself.
renerdrat 7 months ago
@itirnitii i agree
zainzachass 7 months ago
@itirnitii because we are men and most men for the most part its mostly about sex, yes gay culture is alil too flamboyant but for the most part were not gonna pretend its not mostly about sex ,just ask heteros its mostly about sex for them too! maybe ur not getting any! boohoo!
thrashdouche21 7 months ago
@itirnitii
I get where you're coming from, but hate doesn't do well with most people. I've been going steady with my mate since I was sixteen, but I've always been known to be that gay kid that's more likely to take his friends gun shopping than shoe shopping. But to be honest, we're *guys.* We can't even look at most things without thinking about sex, and therefore wanting to have it. Honestly, it's weird, I know. But you'll get used to it. :D
ChanceTheBandit 7 months ago
just because you like someone to be masculine or feminine does not make you insecure! that's just bullshit. everybody will like what they like in a sexual partner, and that's just the way it is, I think it also has to do with more of a dominant/submissive situation over masculine/feminine situation. people sometimes view masculinity as dominance, and that turns them on.
oOsprinklesOo 1 year ago
btw davey i think your freind is suuuuuuuuper cute .... and i also got a semi thinking about it and i lmfao when you started that whole spit in my hole stuff
Gaydude95 1 year ago
lol topdawg732 i hope you know all gay men are not feminin...guess what if you get in my face i will kick your ass and if you get in a feminin gay guys face he will bitch slapp you ... so you choose bitch
Gaydude95 1 year ago
@topdawg732 Are you supposed to be intimidating? It's people like you who make me glad i'm gay. I couldn't bear the thought of sharing an orientation with some vile untermensch like yourself. I really hope you get raped by some bear so you learn not to fuck around with gay men... mind you, from what you've said, I doubt you ever get much action... if any.
Lydiard91 1 year ago
Will and Grace - Good for you!
OldNewsThinker 1 year ago
xP How funny, that gay guys like straight guys, but straight girl like gay guys!
It is completely unfair! Girls would honestly rather have some sweet, feminine gay guy as a boyfriend than a tough, amsculine meathead.
Ah, life. It's a bitch.
What does that say about us Davey? Are girls... insecure about something to want gay guys, or is it just because cute guys like you have to prance around youtube shirtless?
xD Just kidding, I love you Davey, and love that you're gay! :D