The real truth is that problems that are afflicting the black family are afflicting every family in America, the same problems that we are having with black women and black men being divided are also going on within the white family and women are not our true enemies just as Islam is not our true enemy, however, the true source of all of these problems is in fact that America is a great experiment that was set up and is being collapsed by Hindu Brahmans who have set up are collapsing everything.
Madame Ali served the cause of the equality of sexes well: she demonstrated that men are not alone in their ability to dress up in fake-ass Halloween African rags and spew ebonics-inspired, unscholarly, personal-to-universal ridiculous mumbo jumbo. LOL
Her book states "By the year 2000, 70% of Blackmen will be unemployed, in jail or dead" well, we're knocking on the year 2011 and...her statistics were wrong 20 years ago. How can people not see that this woman is trying to profit off racisim? I wonder what she has to say about President Obama OR the fact that his wife is Black. I am sure she will come up with something negitive. Sad
how are statisics wrong, are black men not the race that is most unemployed that is not a myth and she probably knows all about Michelle and Barack" I use blacks when it is convenient for me" OBAMA but this isn't about them.
@lrmxr1 You make the wrong comment about her book. The truth is right in front of you. I have all her books and tape on this issue and it makes sense to me. We have a very serious issue about BLK relationships and it needs to be addressed and changed. Your comment about 1 example the Obamas was just that 1 example out of millions. Who were our examples before them, the Huggstables? This sister is on point.
THIS WOMAN IS A JOIKE, SHE BELIEVES THAT THE BLACK MAN CAN FOOL AROUND AS LONG AS HE CAN AFORD IT., SHE HAS A LOT OF FALSE BELIEF. SHE IS NOT IN MY OPINION TELLING THE TRUTH. SHE SEEM TO MIX IT UP
@peeweemc88 i listened carefully to this video and have not heard that. your statement is not only incorrect but false, reflects no basis for your point
Some of the smartest and toughest black guys I know are also the most pussy whipped guys I know and this woman is not helping. What ever happened to the good old fashioned alpha male?
the only thing i am not in agreement is that, sister Ali is muslim or islam. the first true religion given to us and we follow from the beginning of the creation is Christianity. first the old Testament and after the birth of Christ is Orthodox Christianity.
the world will be a great place when we unite and follow the Orthodox Christianity.
@waffiki That seems to be the problem. We are still believing and serving in the Whitemans false religion the Orthodox Christianity and church that help made us slaves in the first place. Much love to you Sister!
the church that made us slaves are the catholic, protestant, muslim or islam. in the first place they took the religion from us. do not believe what you read. please research for yourself. we blacks have the writing, the alphabets, the civilization.....when we start to educate them and improve them, they destroy us and took everything of ours and claimed it's theirs.
How can this be a black mans guide? and under the pretense its Biblical? 1Timothy says that women do not teach men, not have authority over them.
older woman are to teach younger woman to love their husbands...not criticize them
DO NOT HEAD this foolish woman, The Bible gives one course for believing woman to win unbelieving men....submission, quietness, and respect...then GOD will turn their eyes to the truth, as she falls into the order GOD intended, and the man sees The LORD is true.
@DoulosQuinn "older woman are to teach younger woman to love their husbands...not criticize them" "The Bible gives one course for believing woman to win unbelieving men....submission"
is she not saying the same thing? what are you quarrelsome about?
@DoulosQuinn- How can a women not teach men as you say? When the women is the first teacher and nurse from the time we are born? It was my mother that taught me right from wrong, how to take care of myself and be a decent young man. My dad taught me how to be a man and how to take care of and protect women. We take the bible and read it wrong with out proper teaching and it may been your mother a woman that first taught you about that book. Much love to this Sister for being a great example.
@bigreef2007 women canonly teach on a elementarylevel&with thatbeing said itslimited scope.women do what is bio-designed in theirnature which is a preprogrammed set of offspring nurture as allspecies.
But as theworld becomescomplicated forsurvival she is leftbehind? So in lieu of your statement,
you only get a form of kindergarden teachings.You were'nt born with a book thru conception,that is
for peoplewho don't haveupdated internal hardwiring which is why your mom revere
She ain't lying though. I just don't like when they put the pressure on this lady she wrote the black woman guide to the black man just out of fear the white man putting her out of a job. She should've held her ground. I love this book. I've learned first hand the viciousness of a black women. Before I can date another one I need to purchase this book again.
lol...he's read the book three times in two days. he clearly loved this book. but as a black woman, i do believe shahrazad ali simply told the TRUTH. Of course people are going to get mad b/c the truth hurts.
BW have a problem with the word SUBMIT. Submission is not automatically given. It is earned and conditional, but when it is earned, MANY BW still fail to submit to her good husband. Even Sarah washed her man's feet and called him lord.
SUBMIT!!!! sums up the reason why our families are destroyed as a whole!
But everytime I ask what has this "independent woman,cant no man tell me what to do" mentality do for better to the black the family none of them can give a legitamate answer?
re:8:52 why are you so enraged if there's no truth in it?
Dear Sir, they're enraged b/c the book contains some truisms but arrives at a FALSE and TOXIC conclusion. They're enraged b/c ppl who aren't used this type of educated, slick-talking Black nationalist will be easily duped by the book! I'm "enraged" by lead and asbestos in walls though I don't live with that problem. Get it? You can be "enraged" about something that you are not.
IT's crazy how black teens have a high pregoo rate when these mexicans are walking around here with 15 toddlers and 2 babies in the stroller..... but it's cool bash the black women
@HONEYBCRISSY: ya know, when does it start 2 beome critical observation? I mean, the friggin vid is a case study in itself about bw but u vehemently ignore that & take the typical "bash the bw" retort, fuck outta here! ps, yeah, i'm a bm & my mother is currently on dialysis waiting 4 me 2 give her my kidney, so dont reply with that 'i dont love my mother shit" had me when she was 19 (1980), ONLY CHILD! not like these sluts im pose 2 marry/settle down with! & mexican women, yeah they have alot
@HONEYBCRISSY: of babies but its usually by ONE MAN! I know, i lived amongst them while in Phoenix, AZ, u dont know what the fuck you're talking about. hell, those are some of the most faithful/devoted women 2 their men.
U have Issues... first I was only speakin of the fact that we are the only ones who are frowned upon when we have Babies.. does the bible not say be Fruitful and multiply... It's not bw fault that the bm aren't in the home.. what man would allow anyone to run him away from his child lets guess a weak one and just so happens to be the bm.... but your quick to call the bw out for your short comings... agree not? as for mex's the word Usually does not fit... more like some..... but anywho
@honeybcrissy: r u even trying 2 look at the whole vid? Look, the lady specifically talks about the bm being under scope since forever! She specifically states that the bw has NEVER been scrutinize! R u choosing 2 ignore that? That's the whole point of the vid is 2 (quickly) call out bw, look u know that u just wanna fucking argue, leave me the fuck alone, I have issue, lol, ok ma whatever
granted, i was bogus 4 telling u 2 leave me alone but hell ma, you're comments dont even support the sisters vid, but its cool ma, trust me i;m just having fun on youtube didn't mean 2 get u going.
Your real cute.... I am 500 miles from being angry.....I did reply to one statement that was made you on the other hand took a lil far but don't worry I'll go as far as you take me... you go 90 I'll go 85 just I'm right on that ass
Question what kind of man lets anyone run him away from his dhildren..his seed... one guess..weak men.... So to your question yes..a weak man will run away from his kids because thats what he's use too....being away it's deeply inrooted can you say slavery it's that simple
@HONEYBCRISSY The man will get away from THE WOMAN and NOT the children. But if the man were to stya and slap the woman in the mouth, then he is a monster. People like you place men in general at a NO WIN situation. Would it be better for the man to stay and take shit from the woman? would it be better for the children to see the parents in a loveless union? YES it is better to walk or else many men would go to jail for domestic abuse even though she may have laid hands on him first.
@HONEYBCRISSY Like I said you place men in a no win situation. We will either be weak or an abusive monster. To walk away from a volatile situation IS strength. I tell these self proclaimed "strong women". It takes more strength to STFU than it does to keep running off at the mouth. MANY BW tend to believe that talking and yapping is a display of strength.
dantej strength is allowing a slave owner rape you while your punk as husband watched to save your husbands neck thats the anger deeply inrooted in blk women today the nerve of you you had no prob. with us protecting your neck then... I trust and believe woman came from mans rib and last I checked that was on the side of him not at his foot, his knee, nor his back but his side.... so if you can't handle a face to face word battle then run punk becuz blk men will be the last ...
@HONEYBCRISSY Do you know any slaves walking around now? Why do you women always want to compare contemporary BW to the QUEENS of the past. There are not nearly as many of those queens around nowadays. that slave stuff you talk is for the birds. try being a little more contemporary. Men do not like to argue. BW love drama, so if it takes a slap in the mouth to get some peace rather than walking away, I will take your advice under advisement. Like I said. A man cant win
DID I SAY WE ARE SLAVES NOOO.. PAY ATTENTION AND READ.... it is a feeling something deeply inrooted in all of us from generation to generation.... I never met a slave never been one but trust in believe if we were in person you would have brought one out of me.....
@HONEYBCRISSY how can things be rooted in us from generation to generation? Some things culturally I can understand. But to say that the rape of the woman by massa while the punk ASS man as you stated stood by is irrelevant to today's BW. If that were the case, many of these sistas on youtube would not be promoting interracial relationships with white men so highly.
Thats just an example of the type of anger and the orgin of it..... I will like to hear how the blk man stood up to other races like they do to the white man MLK preached non-violence in which a million men marched to bring about togetherness of the mass races had things thrown in there face and did nothing yet a few words out of a womans mouth makes a blk man slap her....ummm sounds backwards to me
you can't be for reals blk women promoting interracial relationships is from blk men promoting interracial relationships through the media... Interracial relationships aren't new it's just that today ppl aren't shamed by it nor hung for it
@HONEYBCRISSY I just used the IRR as an example as to slavery being used as an excuse that is all. Not few words makes him slap her. THE CONSTANT badgering and challenging his authority is the problem. SHE needs to know when to stop. But to stop would be considered a weakness, right?
Authority lol lol lol...well thats your believe your... I personally don't see andy authority when your going hand and hand noway will I start a family with someone I can't flow with natually... the problem with ppl today is that they RUSH and get mad when things don't turn there way or when things do not go Hand and Hand... Abuse is never the answer
@HONEYBCRISSY Abuse is never the answer. The word of God is the answer. MANY BW do not listen to the word of God when they get a good man. And vice versa, but the man is the HEAD. Submission IS supposed to be natural to women when treated well. Instead BW become spoiled and start being defiant.
@HONEYBCRISSY Genisis 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you." THAT is authority
But you gotta understand brother, that our women measure men by their finances First and far most! And they believe in the perception of what a man is according to the picture that society has painted for what a real, or good man is.
Just listen to the views of that sister you debating with. They are all worldly and arbitrary
have you ever heard of how our women used to always tell the masters wives,
Lol my bad for constantly interjecting, lady but..... WOW! The fact that she came from Adam (not literally his Rib) Doesnt translate to: EQUAL IN AUTHORITY! the most high gave us laws on whos the head.
UGHHHH!!!!! and BLK MEN CALL BLK WOMEN UNSTABLE LOL... if a woman wants to be a house wife and wait on her man she is labled a gold digger, lazy and worthless... when a sista go get her own and say it's not your money I want it's just you blk men seem not all maybe the ones like you danteJ can't handle that so you lable blk women too strong.... ......and btw it takes Strength to IGNORE.... another fact women of all cultures are known to YAP amongt ea. other and at others so come again
Judging by how you keep this going you must have been raised by a woman not a man becuz your YAPPING OFF AT ME... isn't that what women do as you say.... wow.... ppl like you are the reason blk fathers need to stick around so there sons won't grow up surfing the web to argue with women.... I'm gonna be the bigger person and IGNORE YOU lil dantej32
@HONEYBCRISSY Well ignore me then. Let me get the last word. Get your facts str8. I do not label BW too strong. That was your imagination. Do not assume. I was raised in a 2 parent HH so I KNOW from experience how it is. Do YOU? I am not Arguing with you. BW aregue. I am discussing. Having civil discourse. I want a woman that works like I do. She wants to be treated equally, damnit WORK. Or else I pay the cost to be the boss. Latinas are known to yap, but when the man says be quiet she STFU
LIKE i SAID WOMAN CAME FROM MANS RIB THERE FOR WE GO SIDE BY SIDE NOT BEHIND YOU NOT AT YOU KNEE NOR YOUR FOOT SO THAT STFU STUFF YOU CAN CUT.... IN MY HOME MY FATHER TREATED MY MOTHER WITH RESPECT THEY WENT HAND AND HAND THERE WAS NO I PAY THIS AND YOU DO THAT....AND THE COMMENT YOU MADE ABOUT LATINAS IS REALLY MESSED UP....
@HONEYBCRISSY Going to the bible? It states that the wife is to submit to her husband. the husband must treat her well in order for her to submit. If he does not treat her well, she does not have to submit. the problem is that when MANY BW are treated well, they still will not submit to her husband. MAN is the boss because GOD told EVE to OBEY Adam
I agree no God told Eve to obey Adam... meaning be his helping hand not run his bath water rub his feet when he say so... I agree with you somewhat on that but when you say treat her well what do you mean I hope not giving of Material things like I said many BW can get there own Material things we want YOU be a man let me help you through let me pick up your slack not carry your lunch bag
@HONEYBCRISSY You need to read your bible more carefully, because when adam and Eve were kicked out of the garden, eve was told to listen to Adam. Go read it. Treating her well is caring for the weaker vessel as it says. Treating her well means to care for her mind and body. She was to be a HELP mate. ADAM was the head. MAN IS HEAD OF THE wife as CHRIST is head of the church. Christ loved the church and never abused it, That is how the husband should treat his wife for her to submit.
Exactly her MIND and her body but more so her MIND so If my man ask me to do a certain thing I expect him to know it will be done to the best of my knowledge and abliity I do not need him to tell where to put because he needs to trust that I already know and If he questions that then we are together for.....
Glad you noticed...Yes my perspective is based on worldly observations meaning that both black women and MEN are far from living whats written... yes the word SUBMIT and OBEY tiggers and channels a deeply inrooted part of all of us and todays blk men use that towards his pleasure verse helping a sista see the better side of that through spirtual and biblical understandings....that explains why so many blk men marry STRANGE WIFES.... any thing else my brotha
Well regardless to wether any man may use it to benefit his agenda, does that negate the righteousness of the commandments? Just as i may feel some of your points are taylored to your views,but regardless to your agenda, if your preference is in sync with righteousness and progress then wouldnt it only be wise to hearken to your philosophy rather than contend it and scoff based on "wordly observations" which will always give us deluded perspectives such as:
both of us has issues so YOU CANT TELL ME NOTHING!!! LOL Kanye!
Where will that frame of mind ever get us?
And lets be honest, since when in 90's girl era,have a black man been able to talk to our women without them being combative?
And you are absolutely right about our men marrying "strange wives" especially the ones marrying white girls!! They need the pigments snatched off of they skin fa that shit!!
But one of the main reasons for that is the mentality of our ribs.
You know... the whole fuck men! im a independent woman movement! The convoluted perception of a "strong" black woman thats being indoctrinated into the minds of our women.
At the same time, these are the same women in church faithfully on Sundays, but not caring or humbling themselves to the fact that the most high despises this behavior from his women, and LITERALLY considered them BITCHES!
Ecclesiasticus 26:25-27 You know you are a Israelite so whats up with your perspectives?
@guitarbyous They think being strong is nagging and never shutting up and being defiant. I tell these so called BW that if they want t oshow real strength, try to STFU when the man asks me to. Cause they do not know when to do it.
it's hard to shake whats deeply inrooted the words SUBMIT TO ME or OBEY ME hits home with a lot of us me never being a slave maybe I'm reading into it to much but it brings distrust out of many of us and I'll admit that... but If a black man shows his good intentions towards a good black woman and not a jezebel mind you I do believe things will change but as we see it today the jezebels is what many blk men go for
Well black men where in slavery too. Were black men not in slavery?
But regardless to what we went through, we are still held accountable for our actions! our women still are blaiming us for the down fall of our people, without saying,Oh they went through salvery so cut em some slack. No we still have to be men.
You must admit blk men today plays a big role in this the standards they set for many blk women is superficial and in the image of women who can't stand in the light of the sun for 4 minutes without being burned.... Young men today wants a woman with stright flowing hair.. light complection, thin, and has there own...
And you are right, but that was the Willie Lynch effect that was conditioned throughout us and all the nations in central America that were enslaved.
But for the record, I used to be prejudice to that red chick BS, but found out as i got older that, they were no prettier,smarter,sexier or nothing else if you get my drift! And am a living witness to that!
cont'- and get upset when he realizes that Jezebel is Untameable those takes his angry on all blk women when the one he is looking for is right in his face ready to go hand and hand and follow his lead....
Where she at? Lets be honest, Our women are Western minded now and are fulfilling prophecy. I wish there was a way, but our women dont wanna be saved!! not necessarily talking to you lady,but......
Not all of our Women are Western minded some of us actually want to follow behind and pick up the slack when you grow tired I am here to continue at your request but to limit a woman to only cleaning and cooking and cartering only to your worldly PLEASURES and not to your NEEDS will be hard for todays woman because todays woman who wants to live right is constantly over shadowed by Jezebel to the point she's over looked thus gets use to tending for her own growing an ""independent ""mind set
And this where our people tend to go astray. See you and our women keep interpreting the term SUBMIT to words like LIMITED and COOKING AND CLEANING LOL! But that is not the point! what righteouss men are asking for are women that put family and home first,Not advertising they ass to a million other men on the street, stop fighting us, stop measuring our fortitude by our finances.
You gotta understand that our women's perception and attitude towards us is detrimental to our downfall.
Yet when a blk woman comes along with her only establisments she is labled too strong and too independent at the same time young women who does not have her own establishments are called a gold diggers when she tries to find a man who is well established so she can be of assistance in bearing children, raising, cleaning, cooking, and in my eyes being strong meaning ready to pick up the slack when her man falls.... yet again the woman with good intentions is overlooked and Jezebel provails
The issue with women with many accomplishments is the fact that it tends to make them 10x more haughty than our women already are. You know how women are(especially our women) Its all about out doing the next woman. And if you aint that token nigga you cant do nothing for them because other women are not covetous of that man. thats like when i were a little younger i went to dinner with a chick and she told me,straight up hold my hands because these hoes goin be mad when they see me with you!
Many blk women like myself do not look at what job a man has how much money he brings in...I do not compare... I do not mind picking up where he lacks wheather that be in the home or in the field....I do however pay attention to what is it that he ask of me.. IF it's just for show because of my hips or sexually desires or if it's for money becuz some blk men are gold diggers too... I pass them by but It is rare to find a man with good intentions quite like yourself juding from your views
lol I know I see it everyday... I'm 24 I work in the medical field with women blk women who are 20yrs my senior who asks younger than myself and mimics what they see on TV... and we all know who runs the media and the subliminal messages they send....
cont. Now i didnt think nothing of it at the time, but later on all i could say is wow! So basically i was a object to make other women envious of her some kinda way. Now aint that a B!!! So its not about accomplishments, but its about they're intentions,strength dependence and confidence in their money. And when a woman's faith is in her money and accomplishments,all a man really feels he can do for her is have sex!! because all of these things are naturally a mans job,And what makes him proud
con't you never have to work another day in your life...you can have maids to do that etc etc leaving the young blk woman to believe this is what she needs and thats how it's suppose to be not alot of our SO CALLED Leaders or shall I say OUr BOULE are misleading the masses and giving disinfo.... there was a point when music use to inspire a movement but for reason we as ppl have gotten no higher
Its like, if your husband had a lady friend and he did all the things with her that you feel he should be doing with you(except sex) would that not cause problems somewhere down the line? Because you feel she is taking your place as HIS WOMAN! And the gold diggers issue is, they could care less about that man or being a wife! but they are focused on MONEY!! without regard to the fact that money dont last forever. And i guess if the money leaves she would be justified because you are....
are you for real... Have your wife do as told and please the lady "FRIEND" who has no obligations as your wife does emotionally and mentally??? while the wife gets the wow of 2mins of your sexual pleasure.... You must have fell and bumped your head...HARD.... but on a real note BLk men need to lead by example please name one blk man that acutally has access to reach and deliver the message that we are to hear not just by saying but leading by example... most get a girl with the line.....
Lol i never acknowledged it. i was just giving you an example of how money replaces some of the roles that men place in maintaining the family, In the form of another woman taking the role you are supposed to play. go back and re read it.
Are you speaking of rap cats? cause if you are i cant speak for them. the relationships they have are NEVER based on love and family but, Smash whoever i want because all they standards, and morals go out the door when it comes to money.And also they dont have the naggin issue to worry about because.... you know! Our women will get Humble for money! which goes back to what i said before, OUR WOMEN MEASURE MEN ACCORDING TO THEIR BANK ACCOUNT!
NOT ALL WOMEN measure men according to their account now a JEZEBLE would... And becuz so many men get upset with the untameable JEZEBLE he over looks his lady friend who he does everything with him(except sex) he runs he gives up and wonder to strange women... when the one he should of noticed was in his face the whole time it's just that she didn't fit the description of what worldly prospectives deem as a desireble woman.. leaving that friend to tend to herself or yearning for that attn....
so with that "accodint to your experiences" to come up with a estimate of 10-90% do it ever make you wonder if the problem with you being that the type of women you choose and the preferences you set forth...
Na you misunderstood me. First off i havent been with that many women in that manner(Thanks to the most high and me comming into the truth) But i was speaking on just conversing with em, like at school, talking to them at work,just all out seeing MANY altercations, meeting thousands of them(i used to skycap), just listening to motives as a whole all trinkles back down to just about the same thing. And also in that 10% I added my mother and Two grandmas! LOL aint that cold blooded!
lol your silly,( but not in a mean way), but I understand what your saying it's sad but true..... I will like to say it was nice :) debating with you... very rarely during any disagreement a brotha and sista can agree to disagree without being disrepectful we were the exception... hopefully you'll find your counterpart as Yah intended ...... Shalom, my brotha
And when you first meet a woman, 9 times out of 10 she will put on her representative.And wont show her colors until you have fell in love with that kind, obedient,lady like individual, but was only a substitute until the real her came back from her sabbatical.
And last but not least, what our women have to grasp into their thick heads(not necessarily you) is that this society WAS NOT BUILT FOR BLACK MEN TO PROSPER! And thats where our womens standards and expectations slay us in the middle of the streets. And they also have to understand that our condition was cunningly devised to destroy our family and they used our women as double agents!! i mean do you really think that our women that are going up in the
same houses as we are,eating the same foods,raised by the same parents, follow the same rule etc, are just all out goin in two different directions in success rates because all them niggas just dont want shit,but the women wanna make something of themselves? HELL NO!
We have to pay for food and clothes once we make it to the front register just like anybody else. So in order for our families to get back righteous,our women would have to measure us as they did before we became westernized!
Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
Tts 2:5 [To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, OBEDIENT to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Rom 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to [her] husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of [her] husband.
& btw what I mean by blk women and men go hand and hand Before there was a MLK or a Malcom X there was a woman a BLK woman A strong Black woman who punk as husband dismissed her strength to survive and protect who you may ask HARRIET TUBMAN GOOGLE HER MATTER OF FACT READ UP ON IT
@HONEYBCRISSY As it pertains to what I said about latinas, it is true. I was a caseworker and saw many latino families. the man was the HEAD of the home and he took care of the home, but he also loved the wife in many cases. Nothing fucked up with what i said. The latinas are brought up to listen to the husband. i am old enough to know. that is the problem with you young ones, you do not listen to reason or the experience of others.
Ecclesiasticus 25:20 As the climbing up a sandy way is to the feet of the aged,so is a wife full of words to a quiet man.
Ecclesiasticus 25:18 her husband shall sit amoung his neighbours;and when he heareth it shall sigh bitterly.
Now tell me that aint on point with dealing with our women? If you ever dealt with our women, these scriptures will give you instant goosebumps due to its accuracy!
As a black man i would not say i have given up on bw, but like many bw women like to say, i have expanded my horizon, been doing it for a couple of years now. Stress level has always been to the min. African American women are a joke, invest in an African or Afro Caribbean woman because they are more closer to planet earth than the AABW, she is on a totally different planet that has not been defined by scientist yet.
Why even think of the notion of trying to talk sense to bw? Anything critical of their behavior and character will always be deemed as bashing, it have many good brothers who try to speak real sense to these women but they not listen, so i say let them be, BW know everything, you can tell them what to do or what so say or how to dress or how to conduct themselves in public, so fuk it. It have tons of other women out there, why stress over a race of women who always want to play the victim?
I never read the book,but who wouldn't be upset if someone is constsntley bashing you for what you do when you're the only one putting in the work.Pure foolinshness.
Try to be objective and listen to her? Has she ever watced herself on a talk show? All she does is interrupt, talk over people and shout them down. She's a clown.
Black women fell into the white women's liberation movement in the 1970's and literally kicked the black man out the house and out the family. The white ass devil didn't help matter either by giving Black Women jobs at the expense of Black Men having jobs. That's why we need strong Black Men that recognizes our need to seperate from white people.
We need strong warrior black men like Hannibal and Nat Turner. Black women have raise a bunch of sissy black men, no wonder we don't have soldiers like Hannibal. Black women want their sons to serve in the white man's military which is where they are brainwashed even further to serve the white man!
So the obvious question is: If black women are doing such a terrible job raising black boys, where are their fathers and why are they not stepping up to do the job of raising their sons?
Black women are doing a bad job it a fact. 75% of black men in prison were raised by black women, 70% of black women single, the highest teen pregnancy are black girls. as the saying goes judge a tree by the fruit it bears we black men are the fruits of black women, everybody knows what black men are doing wrong the white man has told you a thousand times, but the problem is the sisters have not excepcted her part in this problem. the truth shall set you free
You totally missed the point of my question. If 70% of black women are single and the highest rate of teen pregnancy is within the black community, are black/absentee fathers not partially responsible for that? I already recognize that black women are partially responsible. The truth shall also set you free... Just because a woman is not with the child's father doesn't mean that the father can forfeit his fatherly duties. So once again, why are these fathers not stepping up?
A boy learns to be a man by watching a man, which should be his father, in most black homes there is no man in the house, alot of black women have been taught that they don't need a man, and the only thing a man provides is money, 90% of black men were raised by black women. think about it
I will ask you the question again, why are black fathers not participating in the rearing of their children? You stated "alot of black women have been taught that they don't need a man". What does that have to do with his responsibility to his children? He doesn't have to be living in the home to do his fatherly duties. I am thinking about it, and i think you are just dodging the real question here. Where are these black fathers?????
Well when you meet a man if you can tick the boxes above, the chances are he will still be around when you get pregnant, if women want to make a change in black men leaving their kids, if you have a boy find him a male role model, the only way a boy can be a man is from a man. it's not natural for any man to abandon his kids, the men that do it, are damged, black women have been saying that they can do it alone, as we can see they can't.
So, let me get this straight...It's the black woman's responsibility to make a black man not leave his children??? I am going to cease further conversation with you. You are totally bypassing a simple question, and you keep insisting on making excuses for the irresponsible black father while requesting that black women take full responsibility for everything. Black man, you need to face your faults just as the Black woman needs to face hers.
A black woman is responsible for who she sleeps with, the point am making is 99% of black woman who have their baby father leave, knew from the begin that he was no good, I know women in that situation, the writing was on the wall from the begining, I would tell any young black girl to make sure the guy your sleeping with is the one you want to father your children, too many black women have spent to long building their career, and then pick up any old guy when time is running.
A black man is also responsible for where he puts his dick. If 99% of black men leave their children (according to you), that speaks volumes about the average black man. You have yet to hold black men accountable for their part. While you are out there preaching to young women, you need to be preaching to young men as well. Good luck with that whole facing facts thing you seem to have such a terrible time with. Peace...
I did not say 99% black men leave their women to look after the kids on her own, i said 99% of the cases that the man left the women knew he wasn;t any good from the start. but still went ahead to have children with the guy.
Sounds like she's giving all the responsibility to the woman to lift their man up. WHERE IS HIS RESPONSIBILITY?? But why would ANY woman listen to a man you doesn't DIRECT. GUIDE. FULFILL. GRATIFY OR HAVE DISCIPLINE. NO ONE. It is a 50-50 partnership. "For every child out there out of control, disrespectful, ignorant and uneducated- they have a BLACK MOTHER WHO FAILED TO DO THEIR JOB AND A BLACK FATHER WHO FAILED TO DO HIS."
ok but we as black women have got to stop thinking that our nagging and complaining is going to change them b/c obviously it's not. We need a new strategy and that strategy is that we can only what we do we can't control bm so we need to chose better men and if we find ourselves single parents then we have to raise those boys and girls to be better than us b/c we obviously don't have any choice
Who gives a shit about lost African American women who wants white men?
Let 'em have them! Plenty and I mean plenty, plenty, plenty of black woman all around the world, 99,98% of continental African women loves black men, not to mention all white women, latinos, etc who loves black men.
You sisters who love white men: Just go and dont look back! Dont think we are suffering without you...
I don't know about the white woman part, but your are right, in saying let them go, the chances are that the one that are going over to white men are not any good, if they was they would have a black man.
all those who go to white men are no good, no chances its fact and 100% generalizable, all of them, because white men are no good and if a black woman wants a white man, obviously she cares alot about material, status and all these other no-good virtues.
My sisters are lost chasing the White woman's dream and the Black man is chasing it too!! Intergration became "assimilation"! The devil has totally divided us!!
i think negroid women in america know who they are.... unfortunately, most of negroid women arent concerned with connecting with their true bloodline because it will force them to be responsible for their intentions and most importantly "ACTIONS"!! this free world is designed to glorify caucasoid women and negroid women are stuck in the middle with trying to be successful,make it in corporate america, attempting to live the "american dream" it's a crazy world she's in.....
Kamaui you know it's very interesting how when black men are the perps it's cool,but the minute we put the magnifying glass under the sisters we should stop pointing fingers.
Men aren't bashing you for the past decades the black men has been bashed by all, now that you finally get criticized there's a problem?
I'm a young black man & I've seen behaviors outlined by Ms. Ali demonstrated by BW in other relationship. I agree with her 100% and some of you posters need to stop being ignorant actually read the book for yourself before making assumptions.
I am a sista in her twenties, I wanna know what is this agenda everybody says I have? All my life since I could remember I had love 4 BLACK/AFRICAN men (incl my father) even if it wasnt returned & I never thought 2 give up on them or bash them. So what is this all about... Just curious
I don't think there was this much controversy when she released Blackmen guide to understand the blackwoman. I think I may have the title backwards. I think ill by her book. I nevered even heard of her.
I bought all of her books. She is the most influental Black woman to write. Sure, Terry McMillan & Toni Morrison (*yawn*) were good, but this is the woman that people need to read about and everything she said was true. The book came out decades ago, but the message still rings true even today.
I ahve not read the book. But Let's br honest. WE BOTH HAVE ISSUES! We need to stop pointing fingers at eachother and start looking within and change ourselves. That's the only way we as brothas and sistas will unite. Sistas you have issues. Men we have issues. Sisas like my man say, if theres no truth in this book about you why are you so angry. Brothas lets stop bashing our sistas because we are not perfect.
I've read this book over and over (and I've read the sequel). While I can understand the things we women need to change about ourselves, I feel the book makes black men look very innocent and forgive me, but dumb. Aside from that, I take what I can use (because I can't fully relate to any of the characteristics of any of the women in that book) and the rest I let it fly. Not talking about me.
obdiane you would have to ask sister ali that question. if you listen to what the brother said about this secret agenda on this video clip then you would have a better understanding of what he meant by the secret agenda. I just agreed with the brother. thats all. have you exhausted your possibilities in using the agenda to keep tha black man in the home and raising his kids. if so I understand where you are coming from
How does the black women have a "secret agenda that the black man is not aware of".If so, I think we would have used that "agenda" to keep black men in the home,employed and raising his childern. Not to mention, using it to keep him from fathering more childern outside of a current relationship. Hell, if Ms.Ali knows this secert.Why, is she sharing her man with another women?
Justice I respect you reply to my comment but dont point the finger back at blackmen having an agenda. if so what is out agenda. do you think hat the black man actually has one. i would like to know what it is.hit me on
the brother said it clearly at 6:50 the black woman has a secret agenda that the black man is not aware of. I totally agree with this. reason being is because the secret agenda always comes up somewhere in the relationship without warning. expecting you to offer assistance on things that were never discussed. even after you have mad yourself available it never comes ot until its at the dire point of need. it all come down to communication and whne that does not do it you move on
and what agenda is that? considering that more blackmen are in ir relationships than we blackwomen are. sounds like its BLACKMEN that have the agenda here...
Evens1 Those of us such as myself that allow this system or this white power structure to keep us feeling bitter or resentful, This also causes some permanent damage. Over time once your body is so use to feeling that way it holds on to that feeling of disgust towards the system, Because the white power structure and racism is still in tact. Meanwhile those feelings never go away because there is no cure for living in a white capitalistic society.
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They gave the Jews, land and billions of dollars...They gave the black people welfare and food stamps and treat them like Animals
demarcos69 8 months ago
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demarcos69 8 months ago
LOVE YOUR HATS MAMA
JonGibeon 8 months ago
The real truth is that problems that are afflicting the black family are afflicting every family in America, the same problems that we are having with black women and black men being divided are also going on within the white family and women are not our true enemies just as Islam is not our true enemy, however, the true source of all of these problems is in fact that America is a great experiment that was set up and is being collapsed by Hindu Brahmans who have set up are collapsing everything.
pc0p1mp 9 months ago
Madame Ali served the cause of the equality of sexes well: she demonstrated that men are not alone in their ability to dress up in fake-ass Halloween African rags and spew ebonics-inspired, unscholarly, personal-to-universal ridiculous mumbo jumbo. LOL
Mononcsteph 10 months ago
Misogyny at its best...when a woman agrees with it.
gombis666 1 year ago
Her book states "By the year 2000, 70% of Blackmen will be unemployed, in jail or dead" well, we're knocking on the year 2011 and...her statistics were wrong 20 years ago. How can people not see that this woman is trying to profit off racisim? I wonder what she has to say about President Obama OR the fact that his wife is Black. I am sure she will come up with something negitive. Sad
lrmxr1 1 year ago
@lrmxr1
how are statisics wrong, are black men not the race that is most unemployed that is not a myth and she probably knows all about Michelle and Barack" I use blacks when it is convenient for me" OBAMA but this isn't about them.
tanio12 1 year ago
@lrmxr1 You make the wrong comment about her book. The truth is right in front of you. I have all her books and tape on this issue and it makes sense to me. We have a very serious issue about BLK relationships and it needs to be addressed and changed. Your comment about 1 example the Obamas was just that 1 example out of millions. Who were our examples before them, the Huggstables? This sister is on point.
bigreef2007 8 months ago
well this sister not only tellin the truth but she ain't talkin about no color purple
lculliver 1 year ago
THIS WOMAN IS A JOIKE, SHE BELIEVES THAT THE BLACK MAN CAN FOOL AROUND AS LONG AS HE CAN AFORD IT., SHE HAS A LOT OF FALSE BELIEF. SHE IS NOT IN MY OPINION TELLING THE TRUTH. SHE SEEM TO MIX IT UP
peeweemc88 1 year ago
@peeweemc88 i listened carefully to this video and have not heard that. your statement is not only incorrect but false, reflects no basis for your point
lculliver 1 year ago
Some of the smartest and toughest black guys I know are also the most pussy whipped guys I know and this woman is not helping. What ever happened to the good old fashioned alpha male?
ibxncgc 1 year ago
the only thing i am not in agreement is that, sister Ali is muslim or islam. the first true religion given to us and we follow from the beginning of the creation is Christianity. first the old Testament and after the birth of Christ is Orthodox Christianity.
the world will be a great place when we unite and follow the Orthodox Christianity.
waffiki 1 year ago
@waffiki That seems to be the problem. We are still believing and serving in the Whitemans false religion the Orthodox Christianity and church that help made us slaves in the first place. Much love to you Sister!
bigreef2007 8 months ago
@bigreef2007
the church that made us slaves are the catholic, protestant, muslim or islam. in the first place they took the religion from us. do not believe what you read. please research for yourself. we blacks have the writing, the alphabets, the civilization.....when we start to educate them and improve them, they destroy us and took everything of ours and claimed it's theirs.
waffiki 8 months ago 3
How can this be a black mans guide? and under the pretense its Biblical? 1Timothy says that women do not teach men, not have authority over them.
older woman are to teach younger woman to love their husbands...not criticize them
DO NOT HEAD this foolish woman, The Bible gives one course for believing woman to win unbelieving men....submission, quietness, and respect...then GOD will turn their eyes to the truth, as she falls into the order GOD intended, and the man sees The LORD is true.
DoulosQuinn 1 year ago
@DoulosQuinn "older woman are to teach younger woman to love their husbands...not criticize them" "The Bible gives one course for believing woman to win unbelieving men....submission"
is she not saying the same thing? what are you quarrelsome about?
NSLBC 1 year ago
@DoulosQuinn- How can a women not teach men as you say? When the women is the first teacher and nurse from the time we are born? It was my mother that taught me right from wrong, how to take care of myself and be a decent young man. My dad taught me how to be a man and how to take care of and protect women. We take the bible and read it wrong with out proper teaching and it may been your mother a woman that first taught you about that book. Much love to this Sister for being a great example.
bigreef2007 8 months ago
@bigreef2007 women canonly teach on a elementarylevel&with thatbeing said itslimited scope.women do what is bio-designed in theirnature which is a preprogrammed set of offspring nurture as allspecies.
But as theworld becomescomplicated forsurvival she is leftbehind? So in lieu of your statement,
you only get a form of kindergarden teachings.You were'nt born with a book thru conception,that is
for peoplewho don't haveupdated internal hardwiring which is why your mom revere
it as teacher of all!
jay1pizza 7 months ago
@bigreef2007 This sista here did not write a book onher own as shewas promoted into
the position.There isnothing shecan point out thatwe don't know already.Too much of
of our world are book & fame "inmates" thinking theyhave something different of measure when
really all this shitboilsdown to isCHARACTER! If the day when she or any other ghandi puts a bologna
sammich on my table I set this acidic worship shit to the side.& look at these dum coonish
niggaz arguing to caviar her table linens.pssh
jay1pizza 7 months ago
She ain't lying though. I just don't like when they put the pressure on this lady she wrote the black woman guide to the black man just out of fear the white man putting her out of a job. She should've held her ground. I love this book. I've learned first hand the viciousness of a black women. Before I can date another one I need to purchase this book again.
doscentoskay 1 year ago
All black girls like big cock
111imstupid111 1 year ago
lol...he's read the book three times in two days. he clearly loved this book. but as a black woman, i do believe shahrazad ali simply told the TRUTH. Of course people are going to get mad b/c the truth hurts.
phys08 1 year ago
BW have a problem with the word SUBMIT. Submission is not automatically given. It is earned and conditional, but when it is earned, MANY BW still fail to submit to her good husband. Even Sarah washed her man's feet and called him lord.
dantej32 2 years ago
SUBMIT!!!! sums up the reason why our families are destroyed as a whole!
But everytime I ask what has this "independent woman,cant no man tell me what to do" mentality do for better to the black the family none of them can give a legitamate answer?
guitarbyous 2 years ago
@guitarbyous profound. simply profound
dantej32 2 years ago
re:8:52 why are you so enraged if there's no truth in it?
Dear Sir, they're enraged b/c the book contains some truisms but arrives at a FALSE and TOXIC conclusion. They're enraged b/c ppl who aren't used this type of educated, slick-talking Black nationalist will be easily duped by the book! I'm "enraged" by lead and asbestos in walls though I don't live with that problem. Get it? You can be "enraged" about something that you are not.
p.s. I have no quarrel with Bl. Natl in general.
mobear44 2 years ago
IT's crazy how black teens have a high pregoo rate when these mexicans are walking around here with 15 toddlers and 2 babies in the stroller..... but it's cool bash the black women
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY: ya know, when does it start 2 beome critical observation? I mean, the friggin vid is a case study in itself about bw but u vehemently ignore that & take the typical "bash the bw" retort, fuck outta here! ps, yeah, i'm a bm & my mother is currently on dialysis waiting 4 me 2 give her my kidney, so dont reply with that 'i dont love my mother shit" had me when she was 19 (1980), ONLY CHILD! not like these sluts im pose 2 marry/settle down with! & mexican women, yeah they have alot
edupbeat 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY: of babies but its usually by ONE MAN! I know, i lived amongst them while in Phoenix, AZ, u dont know what the fuck you're talking about. hell, those are some of the most faithful/devoted women 2 their men.
edupbeat 2 years ago
U have Issues... first I was only speakin of the fact that we are the only ones who are frowned upon when we have Babies.. does the bible not say be Fruitful and multiply... It's not bw fault that the bm aren't in the home.. what man would allow anyone to run him away from his child lets guess a weak one and just so happens to be the bm.... but your quick to call the bw out for your short comings... agree not? as for mex's the word Usually does not fit... more like some..... but anywho
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@honeybcrissy: r u even trying 2 look at the whole vid? Look, the lady specifically talks about the bm being under scope since forever! She specifically states that the bw has NEVER been scrutinize! R u choosing 2 ignore that? That's the whole point of the vid is 2 (quickly) call out bw, look u know that u just wanna fucking argue, leave me the fuck alone, I have issue, lol, ok ma whatever
edupbeat 2 years ago
How am I arguing when you called me out.... watch out..... yo if you can't stand the heat stay out the kitchen.....your stupid....
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
granted, i was bogus 4 telling u 2 leave me alone but hell ma, you're comments dont even support the sisters vid, but its cool ma, trust me i;m just having fun on youtube didn't mean 2 get u going.
edupbeat 2 years ago
Your real cute.... I am 500 miles from being angry.....I did reply to one statement that was made you on the other hand took a lil far but don't worry I'll go as far as you take me... you go 90 I'll go 85 just I'm right on that ass
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
I meant to put Just "know" lol my typo
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY Many black women run the man out the house with the help of the POLICE. Am I lying?
TheELSABA 2 years ago
Question what kind of man lets anyone run him away from his dhildren..his seed... one guess..weak men.... So to your question yes..a weak man will run away from his kids because thats what he's use too....being away it's deeply inrooted can you say slavery it's that simple
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY The man will get away from THE WOMAN and NOT the children. But if the man were to stya and slap the woman in the mouth, then he is a monster. People like you place men in general at a NO WIN situation. Would it be better for the man to stay and take shit from the woman? would it be better for the children to see the parents in a loveless union? YES it is better to walk or else many men would go to jail for domestic abuse even though she may have laid hands on him first.
dantej32 2 years ago
pls don't get me started......but ppl like me right.... and your sure about that
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY Like I said you place men in a no win situation. We will either be weak or an abusive monster. To walk away from a volatile situation IS strength. I tell these self proclaimed "strong women". It takes more strength to STFU than it does to keep running off at the mouth. MANY BW tend to believe that talking and yapping is a display of strength.
dantej32 2 years ago
dantej strength is allowing a slave owner rape you while your punk as husband watched to save your husbands neck thats the anger deeply inrooted in blk women today the nerve of you you had no prob. with us protecting your neck then... I trust and believe woman came from mans rib and last I checked that was on the side of him not at his foot, his knee, nor his back but his side.... so if you can't handle a face to face word battle then run punk becuz blk men will be the last ...
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY Do you know any slaves walking around now? Why do you women always want to compare contemporary BW to the QUEENS of the past. There are not nearly as many of those queens around nowadays. that slave stuff you talk is for the birds. try being a little more contemporary. Men do not like to argue. BW love drama, so if it takes a slap in the mouth to get some peace rather than walking away, I will take your advice under advisement. Like I said. A man cant win
dantej32 2 years ago
DID I SAY WE ARE SLAVES NOOO.. PAY ATTENTION AND READ.... it is a feeling something deeply inrooted in all of us from generation to generation.... I never met a slave never been one but trust in believe if we were in person you would have brought one out of me.....
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY how can things be rooted in us from generation to generation? Some things culturally I can understand. But to say that the rape of the woman by massa while the punk ASS man as you stated stood by is irrelevant to today's BW. If that were the case, many of these sistas on youtube would not be promoting interracial relationships with white men so highly.
dantej32 2 years ago
Thats just an example of the type of anger and the orgin of it..... I will like to hear how the blk man stood up to other races like they do to the white man MLK preached non-violence in which a million men marched to bring about togetherness of the mass races had things thrown in there face and did nothing yet a few words out of a womans mouth makes a blk man slap her....ummm sounds backwards to me
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
you can't be for reals blk women promoting interracial relationships is from blk men promoting interracial relationships through the media... Interracial relationships aren't new it's just that today ppl aren't shamed by it nor hung for it
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY I just used the IRR as an example as to slavery being used as an excuse that is all. Not few words makes him slap her. THE CONSTANT badgering and challenging his authority is the problem. SHE needs to know when to stop. But to stop would be considered a weakness, right?
dantej32 2 years ago
Authority lol lol lol...well thats your believe your... I personally don't see andy authority when your going hand and hand noway will I start a family with someone I can't flow with natually... the problem with ppl today is that they RUSH and get mad when things don't turn there way or when things do not go Hand and Hand... Abuse is never the answer
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY Abuse is never the answer. The word of God is the answer. MANY BW do not listen to the word of God when they get a good man. And vice versa, but the man is the HEAD. Submission IS supposed to be natural to women when treated well. Instead BW become spoiled and start being defiant.
dantej32 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY Genisis 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you." THAT is authority
dantej32 2 years ago
But you gotta understand brother, that our women measure men by their finances First and far most! And they believe in the perception of what a man is according to the picture that society has painted for what a real, or good man is.
Just listen to the views of that sister you debating with. They are all worldly and arbitrary
have you ever heard of how our women used to always tell the masters wives,
"i wish i iz could have a hat like that"
Our women are very covetous!!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
Lol my bad for constantly interjecting, lady but..... WOW! The fact that she came from Adam (not literally his Rib) Doesnt translate to: EQUAL IN AUTHORITY! the most high gave us laws on whos the head.
guitarbyous 2 years ago
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HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
UGHHHH!!!!! and BLK MEN CALL BLK WOMEN UNSTABLE LOL... if a woman wants to be a house wife and wait on her man she is labled a gold digger, lazy and worthless... when a sista go get her own and say it's not your money I want it's just you blk men seem not all maybe the ones like you danteJ can't handle that so you lable blk women too strong.... ......and btw it takes Strength to IGNORE.... another fact women of all cultures are known to YAP amongt ea. other and at others so come again
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Judging by how you keep this going you must have been raised by a woman not a man becuz your YAPPING OFF AT ME... isn't that what women do as you say.... wow.... ppl like you are the reason blk fathers need to stick around so there sons won't grow up surfing the web to argue with women.... I'm gonna be the bigger person and IGNORE YOU lil dantej32
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY Well ignore me then. Let me get the last word. Get your facts str8. I do not label BW too strong. That was your imagination. Do not assume. I was raised in a 2 parent HH so I KNOW from experience how it is. Do YOU? I am not Arguing with you. BW aregue. I am discussing. Having civil discourse. I want a woman that works like I do. She wants to be treated equally, damnit WORK. Or else I pay the cost to be the boss. Latinas are known to yap, but when the man says be quiet she STFU
dantej32 2 years ago
LIKE i SAID WOMAN CAME FROM MANS RIB THERE FOR WE GO SIDE BY SIDE NOT BEHIND YOU NOT AT YOU KNEE NOR YOUR FOOT SO THAT STFU STUFF YOU CAN CUT.... IN MY HOME MY FATHER TREATED MY MOTHER WITH RESPECT THEY WENT HAND AND HAND THERE WAS NO I PAY THIS AND YOU DO THAT....AND THE COMMENT YOU MADE ABOUT LATINAS IS REALLY MESSED UP....
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY Going to the bible? It states that the wife is to submit to her husband. the husband must treat her well in order for her to submit. If he does not treat her well, she does not have to submit. the problem is that when MANY BW are treated well, they still will not submit to her husband. MAN is the boss because GOD told EVE to OBEY Adam
dantej32 2 years ago
I agree no God told Eve to obey Adam... meaning be his helping hand not run his bath water rub his feet when he say so... I agree with you somewhat on that but when you say treat her well what do you mean I hope not giving of Material things like I said many BW can get there own Material things we want YOU be a man let me help you through let me pick up your slack not carry your lunch bag
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY You need to read your bible more carefully, because when adam and Eve were kicked out of the garden, eve was told to listen to Adam. Go read it. Treating her well is caring for the weaker vessel as it says. Treating her well means to care for her mind and body. She was to be a HELP mate. ADAM was the head. MAN IS HEAD OF THE wife as CHRIST is head of the church. Christ loved the church and never abused it, That is how the husband should treat his wife for her to submit.
dantej32 2 years ago
Exactly her MIND and her body but more so her MIND so If my man ask me to do a certain thing I expect him to know it will be done to the best of my knowledge and abliity I do not need him to tell where to put because he needs to trust that I already know and If he questions that then we are together for.....
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
And i see alot of your opinions are from a worldly perspective and none are biblical or spirtual. Can i ask what are your views based upon?
guitarbyous 2 years ago
Glad you noticed...Yes my perspective is based on worldly observations meaning that both black women and MEN are far from living whats written... yes the word SUBMIT and OBEY tiggers and channels a deeply inrooted part of all of us and todays blk men use that towards his pleasure verse helping a sista see the better side of that through spirtual and biblical understandings....that explains why so many blk men marry STRANGE WIFES.... any thing else my brotha
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Well regardless to wether any man may use it to benefit his agenda, does that negate the righteousness of the commandments? Just as i may feel some of your points are taylored to your views,but regardless to your agenda, if your preference is in sync with righteousness and progress then wouldnt it only be wise to hearken to your philosophy rather than contend it and scoff based on "wordly observations" which will always give us deluded perspectives such as:
guitarbyous 2 years ago
both of us has issues so YOU CANT TELL ME NOTHING!!! LOL Kanye!
Where will that frame of mind ever get us?
And lets be honest, since when in 90's girl era,have a black man been able to talk to our women without them being combative?
And you are absolutely right about our men marrying "strange wives" especially the ones marrying white girls!! They need the pigments snatched off of they skin fa that shit!!
But one of the main reasons for that is the mentality of our ribs.
guitarbyous 2 years ago
You know... the whole fuck men! im a independent woman movement! The convoluted perception of a "strong" black woman thats being indoctrinated into the minds of our women.
At the same time, these are the same women in church faithfully on Sundays, but not caring or humbling themselves to the fact that the most high despises this behavior from his women, and LITERALLY considered them BITCHES!
Ecclesiasticus 26:25-27 You know you are a Israelite so whats up with your perspectives?
guitarbyous 2 years ago
@guitarbyous They think being strong is nagging and never shutting up and being defiant. I tell these so called BW that if they want t oshow real strength, try to STFU when the man asks me to. Cause they do not know when to do it.
dantej32 2 years ago
it's hard to shake whats deeply inrooted the words SUBMIT TO ME or OBEY ME hits home with a lot of us me never being a slave maybe I'm reading into it to much but it brings distrust out of many of us and I'll admit that... but If a black man shows his good intentions towards a good black woman and not a jezebel mind you I do believe things will change but as we see it today the jezebels is what many blk men go for
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Well black men where in slavery too. Were black men not in slavery?
But regardless to what we went through, we are still held accountable for our actions! our women still are blaiming us for the down fall of our people, without saying,Oh they went through salvery so cut em some slack. No we still have to be men.
guitarbyous 2 years ago
You must admit blk men today plays a big role in this the standards they set for many blk women is superficial and in the image of women who can't stand in the light of the sun for 4 minutes without being burned.... Young men today wants a woman with stright flowing hair.. light complection, thin, and has there own...
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
And you are right, but that was the Willie Lynch effect that was conditioned throughout us and all the nations in central America that were enslaved.
But for the record, I used to be prejudice to that red chick BS, but found out as i got older that, they were no prettier,smarter,sexier or nothing else if you get my drift! And am a living witness to that!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
cont'- and get upset when he realizes that Jezebel is Untameable those takes his angry on all blk women when the one he is looking for is right in his face ready to go hand and hand and follow his lead....
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Where she at? Lets be honest, Our women are Western minded now and are fulfilling prophecy. I wish there was a way, but our women dont wanna be saved!! not necessarily talking to you lady,but......
guitarbyous 2 years ago
Not all of our Women are Western minded some of us actually want to follow behind and pick up the slack when you grow tired I am here to continue at your request but to limit a woman to only cleaning and cooking and cartering only to your worldly PLEASURES and not to your NEEDS will be hard for todays woman because todays woman who wants to live right is constantly over shadowed by Jezebel to the point she's over looked thus gets use to tending for her own growing an ""independent ""mind set
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
And this where our people tend to go astray. See you and our women keep interpreting the term SUBMIT to words like LIMITED and COOKING AND CLEANING LOL! But that is not the point! what righteouss men are asking for are women that put family and home first,Not advertising they ass to a million other men on the street, stop fighting us, stop measuring our fortitude by our finances.
You gotta understand that our women's perception and attitude towards us is detrimental to our downfall.
guitarbyous 2 years ago
Yet when a blk woman comes along with her only establisments she is labled too strong and too independent at the same time young women who does not have her own establishments are called a gold diggers when she tries to find a man who is well established so she can be of assistance in bearing children, raising, cleaning, cooking, and in my eyes being strong meaning ready to pick up the slack when her man falls.... yet again the woman with good intentions is overlooked and Jezebel provails
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago 2
The issue with women with many accomplishments is the fact that it tends to make them 10x more haughty than our women already are. You know how women are(especially our women) Its all about out doing the next woman. And if you aint that token nigga you cant do nothing for them because other women are not covetous of that man. thats like when i were a little younger i went to dinner with a chick and she told me,straight up hold my hands because these hoes goin be mad when they see me with you!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
Many blk women like myself do not look at what job a man has how much money he brings in...I do not compare... I do not mind picking up where he lacks wheather that be in the home or in the field....I do however pay attention to what is it that he ask of me.. IF it's just for show because of my hips or sexually desires or if it's for money becuz some blk men are gold diggers too... I pass them by but It is rare to find a man with good intentions quite like yourself juding from your views
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Well lady,You are one in a Million! Because imma tell you, these chicks are ill !! LOL
guitarbyous 2 years ago
lol I know I see it everyday... I'm 24 I work in the medical field with women blk women who are 20yrs my senior who asks younger than myself and mimics what they see on TV... and we all know who runs the media and the subliminal messages they send....
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
cont. Now i didnt think nothing of it at the time, but later on all i could say is wow! So basically i was a object to make other women envious of her some kinda way. Now aint that a B!!! So its not about accomplishments, but its about they're intentions,strength dependence and confidence in their money. And when a woman's faith is in her money and accomplishments,all a man really feels he can do for her is have sex!! because all of these things are naturally a mans job,And what makes him proud
guitarbyous 2 years ago
con't you never have to work another day in your life...you can have maids to do that etc etc leaving the young blk woman to believe this is what she needs and thats how it's suppose to be not alot of our SO CALLED Leaders or shall I say OUr BOULE are misleading the masses and giving disinfo.... there was a point when music use to inspire a movement but for reason we as ppl have gotten no higher
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Tell me something, why isnt it so easy for a regular 9-5 cat to get a black woman to SUBMIT this easy?
guitarbyous 2 years ago
con't to pick up the ways of that JEZEBLE
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Its like, if your husband had a lady friend and he did all the things with her that you feel he should be doing with you(except sex) would that not cause problems somewhere down the line? Because you feel she is taking your place as HIS WOMAN! And the gold diggers issue is, they could care less about that man or being a wife! but they are focused on MONEY!! without regard to the fact that money dont last forever. And i guess if the money leaves she would be justified because you are....
guitarbyous 2 years ago
are you for real... Have your wife do as told and please the lady "FRIEND" who has no obligations as your wife does emotionally and mentally??? while the wife gets the wow of 2mins of your sexual pleasure.... You must have fell and bumped your head...HARD.... but on a real note BLk men need to lead by example please name one blk man that acutally has access to reach and deliver the message that we are to hear not just by saying but leading by example... most get a girl with the line.....
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Lol i never acknowledged it. i was just giving you an example of how money replaces some of the roles that men place in maintaining the family, In the form of another woman taking the role you are supposed to play. go back and re read it.
guitarbyous 2 years ago
Are you speaking of rap cats? cause if you are i cant speak for them. the relationships they have are NEVER based on love and family but, Smash whoever i want because all they standards, and morals go out the door when it comes to money.And also they dont have the naggin issue to worry about because.... you know! Our women will get Humble for money! which goes back to what i said before, OUR WOMEN MEASURE MEN ACCORDING TO THEIR BANK ACCOUNT!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
NOT ALL WOMEN measure men according to their account now a JEZEBLE would... And becuz so many men get upset with the untameable JEZEBLE he over looks his lady friend who he does everything with him(except sex) he runs he gives up and wonder to strange women... when the one he should of noticed was in his face the whole time it's just that she didn't fit the description of what worldly prospectives deem as a desireble woman.. leaving that friend to tend to herself or yearning for that attn....
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago 2
TRUE!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
And no when i say women im not speaking of every single woman,but the women that dont measure men in that manner, are in the minorty with a 10-90%
gap in between the two (just an estimate according to my experiences)
guitarbyous 2 years ago
so with that "accodint to your experiences" to come up with a estimate of 10-90% do it ever make you wonder if the problem with you being that the type of women you choose and the preferences you set forth...
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Na you misunderstood me. First off i havent been with that many women in that manner(Thanks to the most high and me comming into the truth) But i was speaking on just conversing with em, like at school, talking to them at work,just all out seeing MANY altercations, meeting thousands of them(i used to skycap), just listening to motives as a whole all trinkles back down to just about the same thing. And also in that 10% I added my mother and Two grandmas! LOL aint that cold blooded!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
lol your silly,( but not in a mean way), but I understand what your saying it's sad but true..... I will like to say it was nice :) debating with you... very rarely during any disagreement a brotha and sista can agree to disagree without being disrepectful we were the exception... hopefully you'll find your counterpart as Yah intended ...... Shalom, my brotha
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
Shalom!! Sister!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
And when you first meet a woman, 9 times out of 10 she will put on her representative.And wont show her colors until you have fell in love with that kind, obedient,lady like individual, but was only a substitute until the real her came back from her sabbatical.
guitarbyous 2 years ago
No longer "well established"? c'mon man.
And last but not least, what our women have to grasp into their thick heads(not necessarily you) is that this society WAS NOT BUILT FOR BLACK MEN TO PROSPER! And thats where our womens standards and expectations slay us in the middle of the streets. And they also have to understand that our condition was cunningly devised to destroy our family and they used our women as double agents!! i mean do you really think that our women that are going up in the
guitarbyous 2 years ago
same houses as we are,eating the same foods,raised by the same parents, follow the same rule etc, are just all out goin in two different directions in success rates because all them niggas just dont want shit,but the women wanna make something of themselves? HELL NO!
We have to pay for food and clothes once we make it to the front register just like anybody else. So in order for our families to get back righteous,our women would have to measure us as they did before we became westernized!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
LMAO!!
Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
Tts 2:5 [To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, OBEDIENT to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Rom 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to [her] husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of [her] husband.
guitarbyous 2 years ago
1Pe 3:6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, CALLING HIM LORD: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
And this is why our people are destroyed!
Because we have no understanding of the ordinance that was given to us to follow in order for our people to prosper.
but instead we adopted the order in vice versa, where the men call the women QUEENS, and exalt them as if they are the flock of the most high!!!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
& btw what I mean by blk women and men go hand and hand Before there was a MLK or a Malcom X there was a woman a BLK woman A strong Black woman who punk as husband dismissed her strength to survive and protect who you may ask HARRIET TUBMAN GOOGLE HER MATTER OF FACT READ UP ON IT
HONEYBCRISSY 2 years ago
@HONEYBCRISSY As it pertains to what I said about latinas, it is true. I was a caseworker and saw many latino families. the man was the HEAD of the home and he took care of the home, but he also loved the wife in many cases. Nothing fucked up with what i said. The latinas are brought up to listen to the husband. i am old enough to know. that is the problem with you young ones, you do not listen to reason or the experience of others.
dantej32 2 years ago
Ecclesiasticus 25:20 As the climbing up a sandy way is to the feet of the aged,so is a wife full of words to a quiet man.
Ecclesiasticus 25:18 her husband shall sit amoung his neighbours;and when he heareth it shall sigh bitterly.
Now tell me that aint on point with dealing with our women? If you ever dealt with our women, these scriptures will give you instant goosebumps due to its accuracy!
guitarbyous 2 years ago
Pro 21:19 [It is] better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
guitarbyous 2 years ago
As a black man i would not say i have given up on bw, but like many bw women like to say, i have expanded my horizon, been doing it for a couple of years now. Stress level has always been to the min. African American women are a joke, invest in an African or Afro Caribbean woman because they are more closer to planet earth than the AABW, she is on a totally different planet that has not been defined by scientist yet.
NYDASH28 2 years ago
@NYDASH28 you need to watch "Black Women Need to Shut The Fuck Up" Type that in your search engine.
mysticsunrise254 2 years ago
Why even think of the notion of trying to talk sense to bw? Anything critical of their behavior and character will always be deemed as bashing, it have many good brothers who try to speak real sense to these women but they not listen, so i say let them be, BW know everything, you can tell them what to do or what so say or how to dress or how to conduct themselves in public, so fuk it. It have tons of other women out there, why stress over a race of women who always want to play the victim?
NYDASH28 2 years ago 2
I never read the book,but who wouldn't be upset if someone is constsntley bashing you for what you do when you're the only one putting in the work.Pure foolinshness.
lakeside321 2 years ago
Try to be objective and listen to her? Has she ever watced herself on a talk show? All she does is interrupt, talk over people and shout them down. She's a clown.
fileboy2002 2 years ago
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concrete1989 2 years ago
If the sisters come back down to earth, we will have a chance to buld the community, because at the moment their on another planet.
startec25 2 years ago
Not all sistas startec 25. There are more who are down with true conciousness than you think.
candireign1 2 years ago
SOME QUESTION FOR BLACK WOMEN
1)How long did you know the guy before you got pregnant.
2)Did you ask him if he wants to have children
3)Was all you expectation matarial ones
4)Providing you did all that, and you fell out of love, are you going to stop him seeing child because he has a new woman.
5)Do you understand the importants of having a man in the house.
6)Do you excecpt that only a man can teach a boy to be a man.
startec25 2 years ago 2
Shalom, YAH-malik bless you.
prophetkey 2 years ago
Black women fell into the white women's liberation movement in the 1970's and literally kicked the black man out the house and out the family. The white ass devil didn't help matter either by giving Black Women jobs at the expense of Black Men having jobs. That's why we need strong Black Men that recognizes our need to seperate from white people.
rod11672000 2 years ago
We need strong warrior black men like Hannibal and Nat Turner. Black women have raise a bunch of sissy black men, no wonder we don't have soldiers like Hannibal. Black women want their sons to serve in the white man's military which is where they are brainwashed even further to serve the white man!
rod11672000 2 years ago
True THAT!
CanUhandledatruth 2 years ago
So the obvious question is: If black women are doing such a terrible job raising black boys, where are their fathers and why are they not stepping up to do the job of raising their sons?
dendys1 2 years ago
Black women are doing a bad job it a fact. 75% of black men in prison were raised by black women, 70% of black women single, the highest teen pregnancy are black girls. as the saying goes judge a tree by the fruit it bears we black men are the fruits of black women, everybody knows what black men are doing wrong the white man has told you a thousand times, but the problem is the sisters have not excepcted her part in this problem. the truth shall set you free
startec25 2 years ago
You totally missed the point of my question. If 70% of black women are single and the highest rate of teen pregnancy is within the black community, are black/absentee fathers not partially responsible for that? I already recognize that black women are partially responsible. The truth shall also set you free... Just because a woman is not with the child's father doesn't mean that the father can forfeit his fatherly duties. So once again, why are these fathers not stepping up?
dendys1 2 years ago
A boy learns to be a man by watching a man, which should be his father, in most black homes there is no man in the house, alot of black women have been taught that they don't need a man, and the only thing a man provides is money, 90% of black men were raised by black women. think about it
startec25 2 years ago
I will ask you the question again, why are black fathers not participating in the rearing of their children? You stated "alot of black women have been taught that they don't need a man". What does that have to do with his responsibility to his children? He doesn't have to be living in the home to do his fatherly duties. I am thinking about it, and i think you are just dodging the real question here. Where are these black fathers?????
dendys1 2 years ago
Well when you meet a man if you can tick the boxes above, the chances are he will still be around when you get pregnant, if women want to make a change in black men leaving their kids, if you have a boy find him a male role model, the only way a boy can be a man is from a man. it's not natural for any man to abandon his kids, the men that do it, are damged, black women have been saying that they can do it alone, as we can see they can't.
startec25 2 years ago 2
So, let me get this straight...It's the black woman's responsibility to make a black man not leave his children??? I am going to cease further conversation with you. You are totally bypassing a simple question, and you keep insisting on making excuses for the irresponsible black father while requesting that black women take full responsibility for everything. Black man, you need to face your faults just as the Black woman needs to face hers.
dendys1 2 years ago
A black woman is responsible for who she sleeps with, the point am making is 99% of black woman who have their baby father leave, knew from the begin that he was no good, I know women in that situation, the writing was on the wall from the begining, I would tell any young black girl to make sure the guy your sleeping with is the one you want to father your children, too many black women have spent to long building their career, and then pick up any old guy when time is running.
startec25 2 years ago
A black man is also responsible for where he puts his dick. If 99% of black men leave their children (according to you), that speaks volumes about the average black man. You have yet to hold black men accountable for their part. While you are out there preaching to young women, you need to be preaching to young men as well. Good luck with that whole facing facts thing you seem to have such a terrible time with. Peace...
dendys1 2 years ago
I did not say 99% black men leave their women to look after the kids on her own, i said 99% of the cases that the man left the women knew he wasn;t any good from the start. but still went ahead to have children with the guy.
startec25 2 years ago
Sounds like she's giving all the responsibility to the woman to lift their man up. WHERE IS HIS RESPONSIBILITY?? But why would ANY woman listen to a man you doesn't DIRECT. GUIDE. FULFILL. GRATIFY OR HAVE DISCIPLINE. NO ONE. It is a 50-50 partnership. "For every child out there out of control, disrespectful, ignorant and uneducated- they have a BLACK MOTHER WHO FAILED TO DO THEIR JOB AND A BLACK FATHER WHO FAILED TO DO HIS."
ericadegarmo 2 years ago
ok but we as black women have got to stop thinking that our nagging and complaining is going to change them b/c obviously it's not. We need a new strategy and that strategy is that we can only what we do we can't control bm so we need to chose better men and if we find ourselves single parents then we have to raise those boys and girls to be better than us b/c we obviously don't have any choice
05311990frog 2 years ago
All you have to do is meet the child, and you will know what the mum is like.
startec25 2 years ago
Who gives a shit about lost African American women who wants white men?
Let 'em have them! Plenty and I mean plenty, plenty, plenty of black woman all around the world, 99,98% of continental African women loves black men, not to mention all white women, latinos, etc who loves black men.
You sisters who love white men: Just go and dont look back! Dont think we are suffering without you...
LotN2 2 years ago
I don't know about the white woman part, but your are right, in saying let them go, the chances are that the one that are going over to white men are not any good, if they was they would have a black man.
startec25 2 years ago
all those who go to white men are no good, no chances its fact and 100% generalizable, all of them, because white men are no good and if a black woman wants a white man, obviously she cares alot about material, status and all these other no-good virtues.
LotN2 2 years ago
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DaNuAfrikan1 2 years ago
Check out this video and post your comments on youtube. Type in (Why Do Black Men Prefer White Or Lightskin Women?)
jerscat 2 years ago
My sisters are lost chasing the White woman's dream and the Black man is chasing it too!! Intergration became "assimilation"! The devil has totally divided us!!
redbonegal 3 years ago 3
Speak!!!
tamaradaluvgoddess 2 years ago
preach!
DaNuAfrikan1 2 years ago
i think negroid women in america know who they are.... unfortunately, most of negroid women arent concerned with connecting with their true bloodline because it will force them to be responsible for their intentions and most importantly "ACTIONS"!! this free world is designed to glorify caucasoid women and negroid women are stuck in the middle with trying to be successful,make it in corporate america, attempting to live the "american dream" it's a crazy world she's in.....
tonyblair999 3 years ago
well said.
DaNuAfrikan1 2 years ago
LOL !
magirecords2004 3 years ago
And lastly not All black woman do as stated in the book, it's only a generalization.
But I"ve definitely seen this amongst black woman.
liljjjj 3 years ago 2
She wasn't saying all dumb ass
youcantakeapunch 3 years ago
Kamaui you know it's very interesting how when black men are the perps it's cool,but the minute we put the magnifying glass under the sisters we should stop pointing fingers.
Men aren't bashing you for the past decades the black men has been bashed by all, now that you finally get criticized there's a problem?
liljjjj 3 years ago 2
I'm a young black man & I've seen behaviors outlined by Ms. Ali demonstrated by BW in other relationship. I agree with her 100% and some of you posters need to stop being ignorant actually read the book for yourself before making assumptions.
liljjjj 3 years ago 2
I am a sista in her twenties, I wanna know what is this agenda everybody says I have? All my life since I could remember I had love 4 BLACK/AFRICAN men (incl my father) even if it wasnt returned & I never thought 2 give up on them or bash them. So what is this all about... Just curious
Inquiring minds wants 2 know PEACE
vmwye 3 years ago
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NYDASH28 3 years ago
Like Ms Ali says your feelings ,opinions or emotions don't change the truth.
macadamien11 3 years ago 3
wow. 4
ObscureGlare 3 years ago
I don't think there was this much controversy when she released Blackmen guide to understand the blackwoman. I think I may have the title backwards. I think ill by her book. I nevered even heard of her.
smoking1212 3 years ago
I bought all of her books. She is the most influental Black woman to write. Sure, Terry McMillan & Toni Morrison (*yawn*) were good, but this is the woman that people need to read about and everything she said was true. The book came out decades ago, but the message still rings true even today.
KamenHanya 3 years ago
wow..wonder if she would say the same about michelle o.?
krystalxlyte 3 years ago
I ahve not read the book. But Let's br honest. WE BOTH HAVE ISSUES! We need to stop pointing fingers at eachother and start looking within and change ourselves. That's the only way we as brothas and sistas will unite. Sistas you have issues. Men we have issues. Sisas like my man say, if theres no truth in this book about you why are you so angry. Brothas lets stop bashing our sistas because we are not perfect.
KamauAmani 3 years ago 2
I've read this book over and over (and I've read the sequel). While I can understand the things we women need to change about ourselves, I feel the book makes black men look very innocent and forgive me, but dumb. Aside from that, I take what I can use (because I can't fully relate to any of the characteristics of any of the women in that book) and the rest I let it fly. Not talking about me.
DreamGyrl360 3 years ago
obdiane you would have to ask sister ali that question. if you listen to what the brother said about this secret agenda on this video clip then you would have a better understanding of what he meant by the secret agenda. I just agreed with the brother. thats all. have you exhausted your possibilities in using the agenda to keep tha black man in the home and raising his kids. if so I understand where you are coming from
fraz72 3 years ago
How does the black women have a "secret agenda that the black man is not aware of".If so, I think we would have used that "agenda" to keep black men in the home,employed and raising his childern. Not to mention, using it to keep him from fathering more childern outside of a current relationship. Hell, if Ms.Ali knows this secert.Why, is she sharing her man with another women?
obdiane 3 years ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
She ignorant!!!
TooCuteForWords 3 years ago
Justice I respect you reply to my comment but dont point the finger back at blackmen having an agenda. if so what is out agenda. do you think hat the black man actually has one. i would like to know what it is.hit me on
fraz72 3 years ago
I was only 10 then so all I remember of her were the skits that "In living color" used to do .I need to read this book by this queen.
blacktigerwu 3 years ago 3
the brother said it clearly at 6:50 the black woman has a secret agenda that the black man is not aware of. I totally agree with this. reason being is because the secret agenda always comes up somewhere in the relationship without warning. expecting you to offer assistance on things that were never discussed. even after you have mad yourself available it never comes ot until its at the dire point of need. it all come down to communication and whne that does not do it you move on
fraz72 3 years ago
and what agenda is that? considering that more blackmen are in ir relationships than we blackwomen are. sounds like its BLACKMEN that have the agenda here...
justicecarly 3 years ago
Evens1 Those of us such as myself that allow this system or this white power structure to keep us feeling bitter or resentful, This also causes some permanent damage. Over time once your body is so use to feeling that way it holds on to that feeling of disgust towards the system, Because the white power structure and racism is still in tact. Meanwhile those feelings never go away because there is no cure for living in a white capitalistic society.
10fDemdays 3 years ago