What to do about a co-worker who is mean: Dealing with jealousy on the job

[xoblackout]

Thank you so much for this. A girl is acting this way to me and I guess I just gotta keep acting nice.

[whitehmong1]

There is monster like that at my workplace. He is the devil from hell and it doesn't matter how nice you to this monster nothing changes. My best option is pray to god for help.

[SammySpectacular10]

I used to work at a Daycare I knew my boss since i was born she was like a family friend so i thought hey great i can work with her this will be great! No! she turned into a totally different person working with her and I was forced to quit everything i did was always wrong i tried helping the kids pick a toy up she would lecture me saying we're not here to be friends and play with kids always walked in and assumed i was doing something wrong when i wasn't so i quit.

[whitehmong1]

@SammySpectacular10 Dont you know families, friends and work dont mixed

[SammySpectacular10]

@whitehmong1 I know that now, and I'll never work for a friend of the family again.

[archifx]

Personally for me killing with kindness it just doesn't work. 1st because I have to waste all this energy in being fake, then sometimes the mean co-worker catches the trap.. but then I have to be fake all the time (which is draining), and have to pretend I like this person which I will never like because you know the moment you are not "winnie pooh" in front of them, they are going to crush you into pieces. I just try to ignore them, but overall.. just try to find another job, it's too draining.

[cayenechilli]

@archifx yes, true, it varies on every individual, sometimes it works, sometimes not. the ignore strategy no longer works if they are so consistent and keeps on repeating things--or when you are already too much provoked. we can't be numb all the time, and especially when we are already too much stressed or burnout w/ work, we don't want these stuffs to add up. it is not a situation where you only see them once to ignore and forget. yup i agree, that finding another job can be a better option.

[whitehmong1]

@archifx True.. these monster dosen't care. This is their daily pride and joy...lol

[DarianCrouse]

I work with two people who are like this but being nice is actually a weakness. Instead of trying to work things out like adults, they resort to childish tactics like texting about me and not speaking to me. While I'm a big boy and can take it and actually don't care, I feel sorry for them because karma is around the corner.

[meliify]

can you be my mother lol im 23 i need youuu jus started a new job ughh the girls are killing me and im so nice i dont deserve it!

[cayenechilli]

the smile thing could be good, but remember that there are other more mean people, who, when feel offended or disappointed(or being unsuccessful of their "mean" lines), their pride will take over, they're gonna make the best effort to bring you down until other people will lose trust on you or even lose your job.

[archifx]

@cayenechilli exactly. Sometimes they don't stop and keep getting worst and worst.

[A2J4DAYS]

I love this advice. Such a beautiful lady giving sound answers.

[jvillavic]

kindness only works with authoritarian folks (basically they explode) , other bastards are more intelligent and would try to hurt you indirectly by seeking allies. i suggest to quit the job and broke their nose, at least they may learn the lesson.

[cayenechilli]

@jvillavic true, I super agree with everything you said---others may be intelligent or too clever, its deadly, and yes the indirect strategy and brainwashing others to be their allies is also true. we don't have to get our pride just to stay in that place when we have a choice to quit.

[SumMer70401]

HAHA! Ok.... a moment into this video i bust out laughing. When you said "smile"

I had a humiliating work experience. I worked at a high-stress hospital, and one of my collegues comes in my face, when all the other employees were around, and YELLS...in my face. I just sat there calmly and waited for her to finish.

But next time, I'm gonna add the smile. For a nice touch:) haha.

Uggg can you believe people like this?

[quelita28]

How do you deal with snitches at work?

[qhairful]

Thank you . I have a neighbor just like this. I just smile and they seem to get confused.

[pandamadness1]

Thanks I needed this.  I know a person who has a very nasty boss at work, who takes rounds picking at people instead of being positive. I will pass this advice along. You are wonderful to guide us all!

[emeraldenjoli]

Not realistic.

[Jujisan007]

some people are mean to me at my job already but its got nothing to do with them being jealous >.> they consider me annoying, so the jealousy intimidated part Im not so sure of

[acushnet22]

WTF advise is that? I use baseball bat and a tracking device on thier car. flat tire tool helps too.

[MichelleSerenaXo]

thanks for the advice Marie! I need to hear this right now

[292COOPER]

You have very good advise ! All your videos i watch i learn something . Thumbs up to having another good video !

[n68firebird]

I wouldn't know about the "kill 'em with kindness" approach; I think assertiveness is a better answer for certain situations. Pick your battles, if you ignore or sidestep someone else's nastiness they may just escalate the situation to the point where you have to say something - such as, "that was uncalled for" or the like. Some people don't respect other peoples' 'space' or the fact that everyone has rights in the workplace.

[whitehmong1]

@n68firebird Agreed

[Symbolism07]

Everything you said is very true. I'll be the first to admit that I've guilty of being an ass the newbies. I have a habit of being really mean towards the new members of my circle of friends, I just get really jealous because usually they're really outgoing (im not), funny/witty ( which yet again, im not), and they tend to be the center of attention ( which I never am). I made a new years resolution to be nicer and to try not to become so easily jealous because I know its not a good way to be.

[whitehmong1]

@Symbolism07 Amen... God must have answer someone prayed

[p4474]

completely true even for sports

[mariedubuque]

That is too funny!

[redbaron427]

@landth78 lmao! I've thought the same thing.

[landth78]

I love the way you talk in these videos :)

It's almost as if you're telling us a really big secret

Today in class, my teacher said "Does anyone know?" And then I immediately pictured you saying "A viewer wants to know..."