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  • Women want to be with leaders.

  • I think the reason women spurn "nice guys" is because too many of them have a hidden agenda. Too many nice guys have an unstated but HUGE sense of entitlement. They feel the fact they're so "nice" entitles them to get the women they want. Doesn't work that way. Women don't owe you their romantic attention just because you think you're a nice guy.

  • @fileboy2002 I agree, but at the same time, I disagree...the main problem with nice guys, is that, they have extremely high "social anxiety", they're extremely uncomfortable around other human beings, let alone women...most nice guys are clueless to the current trends, most are loners, with little or no human contact, and many are unemployed...trust me, the easiest way to get chicks, is by having a job, because the "9 to 5" creates familarity...

  • @GemCan78 Yup. Those things are sometimes true, too.

  • @ MrSmammered, Where is the logic in that statement??

  • This why I do not feel bad for women in an abusive relationship. You deserve it.

  • ANDY SERKIS?

  • Another obvious factor is the jerk appreciate loyalty and devotion because he is insecure and sensitive. But nice guys view this as weakness they don't want loyalty and devotion. That isn't challenging enough. So it is better for you to pursue whatever disloyal women you prefer and stop insulting the jerk as if you're some type of f*cking saint. Your secret is out you bring dishonor. If someone talked smack about his woman the jerk would tell him to get f*cked unlike you.

  • @abby495 And yes, the reason that the overconfident guy can navigate his way in the world, is because, for the most part, they're natural actors, and students of human nature...whereas the "nice guy", is so wrapped up within himself, with his overwhelming insecurities, that he doesn't even stand a chance...and yes, you're correct, nice guys usually hate females...heck, you can tell from some of these YouTube posts...

  • @GemCan78 Consequently the nice guy disqualifies himself. He needs to be more impersonal or his behavior will prevent not only succes with women but success in anything else. There are women who do this too but socieity has conditioned them to redeam themselves by being breaders. The only difference is they will take it out their rage on their pets and kids who will go on to become serial killers.

  • The jerk can learn from the nice guy and vice versa. Why vilify the G...the one who is the flip side of the coin? Why not look at yourself and ask if women don't like my feedback how can I improve? Do you think you're the only person in the world who has had to improve himself? Anyone who wants success will have to change their behavior to make success possible. It is just like a job...you have to be a certain way to be productive. Do you want a raise? Gotta do the work. True story. Real world.

  • @abby495 For one thing, let's get rid of this "jerk" persona, once and for all...those "jerks" that you're talking about, because I, actually am one, are really overconfident guys who aren't afraid of rejection...and yes, "nice guys" have alot of problems, because many of them have severe social anxiety disorders, which have been unresolved since childhood...trust me, there were times when I was the "nice guy", and got stiffed, I'm not going to lie to ya...

  • @GemCan78 What jerk persona? It is simply a continuum. The people who favor one or the other are the ones who don't see the BIG PICTURE. When you map it over time you find all that life is dynamic. Nothing stands still as long as one is alive one has been both the jerk and the nice guy it is the flip side of the coin. But which haters want to hear that? Yes I know these issues stem from childhood this is why I mentioned therapy & improvement. It really isn't a dirty word.

  • Women who go for assholes/bad boys/jerks are women who aren't ready for settle down. On that note, attraction to those guys (listed above) are the result of daddy issues. Those daddy issues usually require counseling. Instead of counseling, the women will act on their issues (promiscuously, drugs, ect).

  • I actually believe women are attracted to 'tough' males due to nature engraving into our biological system. We're animals at the end of the day, and in the animal kingdom the females want the successful males so as to have a better chance for their offspring to survive. This natural instinct is still buried away within us, though we don't want to be mistreated. Also, if a woman handed everything to you on a silver platter, wouldn't you become bored? We all need a challenge from time to time.

  • No you are attracted to power. you want to be a queen and you want a conqueror for a husband, because you know he'll give you want you want. It ain't going anything to do with nature.

    If a tough guy was going to boss you around, you wouldn't stomach for any of it.

    It is all about power. ACCEPT IT!

  • @SmartGuy4today LOL! I am naive? No. A jerk doesn't work hard to please women? You are mistaken. He loves his woman and he loves her devotion to him and he depends on her. The nice guy on the other hand hates women. He takes no action and he thinks a woman will read his mind. He needs a psychic. Besides the so called 'jerk' provides. I am not even sure why he is called a jerk? Everyone respects the provider who has no malice.

  • There are three types of man in this world. The nice guys, "probly is smart, good looking, but lacks confidence, and sometimes is too damn scared to make a move. The gentlemen, "Knows what he wants, respect himself and people, not afraid to take chances, and then you have The Jerk, overconfident, who pretends to be a gentlemen just to get in her pants. Do nice guys always finish last. Hell yes because they're too nice.

  • @FifaSpect You're right...all this bullshit, about the "Alpha Male", is what it is, total bullshit...if there was such a thing, as the Alpha Male, then 99.9% of men in America, would flunk the test...the problem is, with the collapse of the nuclear family structure in America, the gender roles have all but blurred, with most men not really knowing how to conduct themselves...and the same goes for women too...

  • @GemCan78 Exactly. Well said. A lot of guys out there have no clue what they want, or what they're looking for. A lot of nice guys blame women for going after the jerk when they don't realize that woman are attracted to men with confidence. Women don't go after the assholes, they goes for the guys with the confidence. It's a sixth sense women have, they can smell it from a mile away. All the nice guys reading this need to grow a pair of nuts and start believing themselves.

  • The corporate culture (that continually infiltrates a media-saturated society via vested interests) promotes and exults "jerk" values at every turn while downplaying the immorality, aggressiveness and superficiality of the capitalist system. People strongly resist having their comforting illusions dissipitated, so will construct rationales designed to 'explain away' unfavorable reality. Honesty has never been humanity's strongest suit - it's strongest suit is cruelty, which in turn attracts many

  • @TheeUnidentified I agree with much of you say. Women are too stupid to know that there is a difference between being nice and lack of self confidence. Two different adjectives but they buy into the American media brainwashing that has been rammed into their stupid heads.

  • @gmccord1970 Also, women need to date a jerk loser because it does two things: a) it gives them a challenge to try and "change" or "fix" them and

    b) it gives them something to talk about to their loser friends

    It's all about the drama. Nice stable guys don't bring drama to their worthless lives so they move on. Now a nice guy can do one of three things:

    a) become a dick and not give a shit

    b) find a smart Christian woman with values

    c) date a foreign woman where there is less drama

  • It is not about the guy. It is about the time.

    Women work like clocks. They have a period they are most sexually frustrated and will have sex with just about anyone, known as their period. And throughout much of the rest of the time they had no or very little desire for men at all. If there is it is completely platonic.

    The best advice is not to change who you are, but scope around women for a very long time and do so consistently. Eventually you'll hit one of them at that right time.

  • @SmartGuy4today Um....no. I agree with the last part about not changing who you are because I firmly believe that there is someone for everyone out there, but the first part of what you said is utter nonsense.

  • Well you are wrong on both parts.

    There is not a woman for any man. The most pathetic of all men such as myself will have no one in their life. You women are too evil to allow each of your kind be with each of my kind. Accept that.

    And as for the first part. It is not utter nonsense. Stop trying to dismiss the truth because it allows me an opportunity to be equal to your kind in terms of power. Learn to share your power instead of hogging whatever you can for yourself. Stop being so selfish.

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  • @SmartGuy4today

    I am a woman, and I have a period. I think I have a better sense of understanding about how it affects me than you do.

    And I wasn't trying to start an argument with you. I agree with you that a person should not change who they are in an attempt to find someone, that's not anyway to find happiness. And the fact that you count yourself out, and refer to yourself as "the most pathetic of all men" makes me very sad. By thinking this you are simply limiting yourself.

  • @SmartGuy4today But it is your life, you have the right to live it however you please.However, you are grouping all women together into this blood-sucking, selfish, evil identity. Not everyone is like that. Everyone is unique with their own individual traits, which you cannot deny. Not every girl is a knock out, hot chick who has men at her beck and call and uses them to her disposal. Nice girls get hurt too. I've been rejected, I've been heart broken.

  • @SmartGuy4today

    We're a different sex, but guess what, we're still human beings and many a time we experience the same pain as you do. Myself, and other women I know, have been rejected by men who have picked a total jerk/idiot over us. But I do not presume to group all men into one category as you have done with women, or make assumptions that men have all the 'power' because a few of them have done me wrong. There are jerks, and there are nice, genuine people. And they exist in both sexes.

  • Species can differ quite enormously between genders. There is a species of fish in which the male is nothing more than parasite that leaches onto the female and gives her the ability to procreate.

    Human males are very different from human females. Human males tend to respond better to external influences, while females tend to respond better to internal influences. Females tend to be more selfish and males tend to be more ignorant and stubborn. Females have a better chance at mating.

  • @SmartGuy4today Excuse me? LOL. I'm sorry, but we don't go on a sex rampage when we're on our periods nor do we go dry and sour in bed when we're not. I love pleasing my man and will do so on a regular basis, I only lay it off when I'm ON my period. I find it quite odd that you would consider every woman to be like this. You clearly haven't met very nice women, or you just don't have a clue about them.

  • You women always go on a sex rampage. You have rampaged my sex for eons, controlling us with your voice on procreation and your deceptiveness of servitude.

    How can you argue that men had ever ruled the world, when it has always been the mother or top wife who decided who the heir was going to be and sometimes it is not even the King's own sons. Examples are with Augustus Caesar's wife choosing his heir even though it wasn't his son. Or the numerous other Empresses and Queens who did the same.

  • @SmartGuy4today Maybe you should get in touch with your own power instead of generalizing about women. For one thing you are biased when you say they tend to be more selfish. Everyone has free will. You want something from women perhaps you should modify yourself to get what you want instead of passively expecting women to give it to you. After all, they aren't conditioned by society to be the aggressors are they?

  • women feel the need to find security wether it be financial or physical or emotional, but there is a problem and that there is no such thing. there is no security in life, we are all flawed people and things happen that are not in our control and that is life.

  • women shouldnt need a man to make them feel pretty. people need to come to grips with the reality of who they really are and work on the the things that make them less of a man or woman. being a jerk or an asshole or going around tryin to act tough does not make you a man at all, but these women misconstrue that as confidence or what being a man is about. being a man is many different things that are aquired as men mature.

  • @keltecdan Well said...in my opinion, the main problem is that, the gender roles have been blurred and even, reversed, which is why this is a major problem in America...I'm more than sure, that this dilemma didn't exist over 50 years ago, but with the sexual revolution, and the rise of mainstream Feminism, most men feel that they either A: don't have a place in modern American society, or B: they are intimidated by strong, independent women...this is only going to get worse...

  • i meant to say daring.

  • yeah but if you watch that movie unfaithful..it will give you a good explanation..the wife has an affair with this dude..and he's not really a bad dude,but the husband even tough a nice guy...he was a bore..women at the end want to be swept up their feet..!! that's kinda like the prince charming syndrome ..charming really does not mean nice to women it means dearing...and that somehow is attrative to them.....

  • Love doesn't exist. It's a myth, get over it. No offense but you have to realize that it's about money and appearance. She's not spending your personality and she's not mooching off of your ugly looks.

  • Bad Boy = desirable ( Rich & Attractive )

  • I am 16 years old and find "bad boys" to be repulsive. I think the real issue is that really good looking people tend to have nasty personalities, and so good looking guys are typically assholes. A majority of girls prefer to be with the hot mean guy than the ugly nice guy. I just happen to be ridiculously picky and will wait around for the rare nice AND attractive guy [of course smart, funny, etc.].

  • @Alanabunny Please do not change. I just read an article about Amanda Seyfried admitting she likes bad boys. You sound very intelligent, so you will probably go to college later. That will be the real challenge for you in terms of sticking to your guns. You may very well meet a good looking nice guy, or an average looking bad guy.

  • Bad Boy = Attractive or RICH !!!!!!

    Character means NOTHING !!!!!!!!

  • Cause women are idiots. I do not feel bad for women who get verbally or physically abused by some asshole...they deserve it.

  • @pissoff124 You're putting too much assumption into it. I was verbally abused a lot by my ex boyfriend, but it was a gradual process where I didn't realize it was happening until it was too late. He had successfully alienated me by such a point, and no, I did not want that type of treatment. I have learnt my lesson and will never allow it to happen again, but I certainly did not deserve it.

  • Power, power, power, power.

    You allowed your man to have more power than you and now you are all upset about it. WAH WAH WAH WAH!

    When one man has finally achieved equality to how you women have treated us for centuries regardless of us being good or bad, obedient or not. Which is different when it comes to men, because men have to rationalize everything they are doing otherwise they cannot do it, you get all stingy. You should be glad he was verbally and not physically violent, you bitch.

  • @SmartGuy4today Oh, the many assumptions you have created upon me. I was very young when it happened and it was my first relationship, I was inexperienced. No, I'm not glad he was verbally, despite the other possibilities that could have followed, and I wouldn't consider myself selfish for thinking otherwise. You're talking to me like I'm some sort of femnazi, when you're the male equivalent. Hypercritical much? I don't care much for your rational thoughts.

  • Blah blah blah...

    All you women want is power.

  • @SmartGuy4today Lol! Riiiight.

    Like I said; the male equivilent of a femnazi, hypercritical bastard :)

  • I would have to want power greater than you to be the male equivalent of a feminazi. (By the way, you cannot spell). All I want is equality. Equal treatment and fair treatment.

    Stupid bitch.

  • @SmartGuy4today Look at my previous post; an intelligent man would have realized a typo considering a spelt it correct beforehand.

    How on earth have you come to the conclusion that I'm a feminist? 'You' started giving 'me' hassle, and now you're preaching how unfair I have treated you when I have only given you the exact same treatment as you gave to me. If you don't like being shot, don't hand out the bullets. If you want fair treatment you should give fair judgement, ass hat.

  • @SmartGuy4today You have to understand, that the Feminist movement has created a massive "blur" in gender identity...nowadays, most females want their "cake and eat it too", most of them could give a rat's ass about their offspring, which is why America has quickly degenerated into a aberrated society...Feminism is designed to destroy the traditional values of White Middle-America, which is why White males are constantly demonized in the media...there is a racial component to it...trust me...

  • @GemCan78 Sure continue with your rant and follow the fallacy you that women who like sex are whores. Something doesn't fit. If you blame women for your problems that isn't realistic. Both men and women make mistakes and the longer you blame one gender for all follies the longer you will wander in the wilderness of confusion. Therapy isn't a bad word. Again examine who shapes your idea of women take the advice of Socrates.

  • @SmartGuy4today The ironic thing, that is really sad when you come to think of it, is that, most females who like jerks end up being just like their mothers, whom they swore they would never emulate...the jerk has zero qualities, yet "abby495" keeps giving them attributes that they can't possibly have...this is the current American social mindset, the more you're against "doing the right thing", the more you'll be accepted, and it's killing our way of life...

  • @GemCan78 Why would you know? Also you seem to ignore the guy you insult and call a jerk PROVIDES. Yeah. He loves women but the nice guy despises them. The jerk wouldn't be successful if he didn't love women and give them all a little bit of himself. Maybe you are talking about a nice guy turned jerk who isn't the same. His POV is wanting to hurt women b/c they didn't date him. You cannot vilify the jerk and deny that he has a soft side which he usually only shows to the woman he loves.

  • Not everytime. I chose the good guy.

  • so what u basically saying is that, girls are like bitches (female dogs) you be mean they obey you.

  • @djBC10000 yep pretty much!

  • Nice Flamengo jersey.

  • Don't worry they will keep you around to marry you! while they are slutting themselves to the bad boys

  • Yes women suffer from Stockholm Syndrome to a certain degree. It's evolution. Only years ago we had to cower behind our men and depend on them for everything, so if you have a weak husband you were screwed. Surival of the fittest. Now it's different but it takes time for humans to adjust and for culture to adjust. Still many women especially ones raised in religious households are taught to be quiet and know their role. Men used to beat us with clubs remember? Lol.

  • Respond to this video...  Fuck women. Their mentality will keep most of us single forever. Have no money, no muscle, an average car? Prepare to die and rot alone.

  • @AManofWitMk2 No dude, don't die alone. EXPAND your options and go overseas. Go to Russia, Latin America, Brazil, and SE Asia. Just pick up a second language and visit a country. Trust me, you'll see that there are far more options than American women.

  • My advice let her chose the place. Pay for the drinks and u slap her. She wears the pants but u slap her. Can't go wrong like 1+1= 11

    yeh

  • First of all, they are Girls (not women) usually age 14-25ish. They simply do not yet understand how society in a financial/career sense works because they do not have enough life experience. They are usually in school (HS or college) still and working a low paying job when doing so. They have a high hope that replays in thier head "someday life/money/family will be better". They LIVE by this catch phrase. They THINK thier tattooed/pierced badBOY (not man) will one day be wearing a suit and tie

  • "Bad boys" portrays beta male characteristics, and beta males finish last throughout the animal activity. Women are naturally drawn to "bad boys" because they are confident, aggressive, dominant, unpredictable, spontaneous, fun, exciting and they don't care if they lose a woman. "Jerks" are "ballsy" have more arrogance (cocky/arrogance) more masculine etc. They exhibit alpha male traits, and alpha males always comes first. Blame evolution

  • @JLuvs0fficial To tell you the truth, the "Bad Boy" and "Nice Guy" paradigm all started back in the 1960s when it was portrayed in the media, and it's probably when the feminism started kicking in. From now on, you can render the term "Nice Guy" completely obsolete and replace it with "Milquetoast". That would be a proper term, because it's the Milquetoast persona and characteristics/qualities disguised under the "Nice Guy" term that has made it the opposite end of the spectrum of a "Bad Boy".

  • I think attraction to another individual actually comes from the unconscious mind. The thing about that part of the mind is that "logic" doesn't work. It's like a more primitive part of the mind that is more amenable to operant and classical conditioning. The bad boy (or jerk) is good at conditioning her to think he is actually an "alpha" when in fact he is just the opposite and it's logically obvious he is not. But guys like me see this and are stumped.

  • Has anyone noticed that men think of sex 24/7, but they just don't respect an easy lay? They think that girl was too easy and anyother guy might take her away. Women say they want a "nice guy", but they just don't take nice guys seriously. They think Mr. Nice will go away with any good-looking babe. Women like it nice, but only after you pass their shit tests and proove no woman can fool you. That's why they like men who don't "need" them. These men aren't easily manipulated by female BS.

  • You have no idea how often I see the girls I like choosing to be with some jerk instead of a nice guy like me. And it doesn't help that I happen to have Asperger's syndrome, either.

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  • I am so going through this right now...

  • Jerks are strong (better to work out than to keep up a discussion), they are dangerous (otherwise their life is pretty boring), they can defend their girls (even if it means putting the girl's life in danger). Girls' life are very empty actually, they need some mainly stuff...we guys are more flexible and we don't need a girlie girl to be happy with someone.

  • @wondermega4ever The problem is, that, ever since the late 1960's, with the Sexual Revolution, both males and females have lost their way...the problem with men, regardless of whether they are nice or not, they have allowed females to define them...most so-called jerks, actually are putting on a "show", trying to impress the girl, and sometimes, the girl falls for it...whereas, the "nice guy", is too stupid to understand human nature, so they have no "rouse" whatsoever...

  • @GemCan78 ""nice guy", is too stupid to understand human nature" So, I take it you're one those women who prefers the jersk over the nice guys? You compliment THEM and shun the nice guys. Way to go. Next time a "jerk(who is smart and intelligent and STUPID) slaps the shit out of you and calls you a bitch then leaves you for a better-looking woman, just look on the bright side, at least you have your "man!" As for the nice guys we're going overseas to find a good woman who will trat us well.

  • @pretearking Holy shit, so you're saying that I'm a woman? For one thing, I'm a guy who used to be both a "nice guy", and "bad boy", but now, I'm neither...and yes, nice guys don't understand human nature, because they're too busy putting females on a pedestal...the nice guy tends to kiss everybody's ass, because he doesn't have a backbone, or mind of his own...judging from the vitriol that you just posted, maybe you're one of those "nice guys"?

  • @GemCan78 Just because you were a pussy "nice guy" doesn't meant that defines what a "nice guy" is. That's just you and only you. You yourself seem to have this ridiculous image of the "nice guy" being a pushover who kisses eveybody's ass just because he doesn't have a back bone? And you say that YOU used to be a nice guy? So, what you are saying is that you did all this and now you think that EVERY "nice guy" is a little wussy man like you were. Nice! :-D

  • @pretearking Man, some chick must have rolled over you, hard...you're taking this way too seriously...for one thing, practically every guy on the planet, has been rejected at some time or another...I look back at all the chicks who rejected me, and I say to myself, I'm glad I never got with them, because the majority of them, are mentally ill, drug addicts, who can't stay out of jail...and yes, alot of nice guys are bitches, because they don't put their "goods" out...

  • @GemCan78 Foreign women are smarter and better looking then you American cunts anyway...

  • @pretearking Thats true!!

  • @wondermega4ever Actually, you just described a strong, confindent man. Not a "jerk!" A jerk will ditch his GF. A jerk will call her a bitch. A jerk will forget to take care of his child. A jerk will cheat. Also, being a jerk does NOT mean you are strong. And any pussyman with a gun can be considered "dangerous!" It takes a REAL MAN(something a JERK isn't) to defend his girlfriend. That's not something that a jerk would do unless he's trying to get into her panties. Nothin else.

  • @pretearking And another thing...you're buying into this ridiculous image of the "jerk", a self-centered, angry, musclebound, athletic, gang banging, type, who only cares for himself...well, I got news for ya, there are so many different kinds of jerks, whereas, there is only one kind of nice guy...there are jerks who are, doctors, lawyers, athletes, rockstars, scientists, politicians, fathers, etc...whereas the nice guy, are ridiculously clingy, even though the chick ain't putting out...

  • @GemCan78 "there are jerks who are doctors, lawyers, athletes, rockstars, scientists, politicians, fathers, ect."

    And there are "nice guys" who are doctors, lawyers, athletes, rockstars, scientists, politicians, fathers, ect. Sooo what's your point? You say that jerks can be all this and nice guys can't? That doesn't even make sense but, this is coming from YOU so I can't expect better from a simpleton... My bad :/

  • @wondermega4ever Also, you thing it's all about muscles. You are what people might call a "meatheaded loser." Jerks don't read books because "reading is for chumps!" All they do is party party party! You can't get an education from THAT!

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  • bad girls like nice guys though.

  • @doctorw2 I tend to disagree...that may be true, but it's quite rare...A "pandora's box", of sexuality has been released, and if you saw my most recent comment, it has left alot of people, both male and female, alike, in a constant state of "flux"...the problem with "nice guys", is that, they for the most part, are loners, whom nobody wants to be bothered with...human beings are attracted to other human beings who roll in "packs"...because it shows that your social acumen is valued...

  • women are morons of course they are going to love jerks.IF you want a girl to love you more treat her like shit and the reason why I am saying this is, because I have a girl and I slap her now and then when she gets out of line and would she still take a bullet for me? yes of course she would.

  • @shiam35 I hope that was sarcasm because you sound too cavalier about ''slapping'' your girl. If I were that girl, you wouldn't be able to hit me a 2nd time and I'm not bluffing here.

  • @PopCulture20 That's how real man do it. If you can't keep your girl in check then you aren't a real man. Girls need to realize that a man always have the last say.

  • Hey, all you have to do is look at me and you'll know why ladies love us. I am hot and sexy, and I get ladies all the time, and I can be as bad as I want to be, and they still love me. But I know that women will never like a bad guy no matter how nice he is. Check me out ladies, and you know it's true.

  • The genesis of the elevation of the bad boy to the status of "most desirable male", started in the late 1960's...ever since, criminality in America is seen as cool, while following the rules and being respectful towards people is frowned upon...any wonder why there are more criminals in America, than any other Western nation? A woman who likes criminals, and breeds with them, is only going to create another generation of criminals...it's sad when you come to think of it...

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  • @abby495 Well wait a second, here. "Confident" and "jerk" aren't really synonymous.

  • @scotmckay Yeah but why are they both succesful?

  • @scotmckay I am an Asshold & Rich !  I get LOTS of Pussy !

  • @scotmckay True, he got confused I think. Because isn't it true that "jerks" often seem like confident men?

    I think your vid makes a valid argument, but I personally believe that this whole concept is nothing short of a function of natural selection gone bogus in our modern lives, kinda like the sex drive in humans. I you think back 40.000 years picking the jerk makes all the sense in the world, and rationalizing it, and pondering upon it in modern terms just makes no sense... (?)

  • @theanvilcracks a jerk doesn't have to be confident...the woman by he being a jerk wants to changing him.....and tell her friends i know him and you don't...that's denial

  • @abby495 Yeah, you're kinda right, because nowadays, in American society, there's such a lack of trust, that people have to basically live by their wits...we are truly living in an age of survivalism...nice guys are usually trampled on, because they don't have a clear set identity of self, while at least the jerks, know where they stand...

  • @GemCan78 So Gem would you consider yourself a nice guy? Also what do you mean that Nice guys don't have any identity? Thats not true at all, I mean everyone has an identity, so I don't understand that.

  • @GemCan78 Well the so called jerk makes his own destiny. He isn't looking for anyone to tell him who he is or what he should do. He goes and gets it because it is necessary to be that way after childhood is over.

  • @abby495 My Dear, the jerk has no destiny, unless he is in politics, or some other field that requires Machiavellian skill...most "jerks" are actually males who are just as insecure as the "nice guys", and in fact, they're even more self-destructive than the nice guys, since most jerks end up with a criminal record...why can't those "jerks" raise their children? Why do jerks always leave their females with the tab? If they were real men, then they would step up to the plate...

  • @GemCan78 Again the difference between the jerk and you is he loves women. Of course he's insecure but he goes ahead with the ACTION anyway does he care about looking like a fool? No. Maybe being loved was important enough for him to take a chance. Women admire guys who have balls even if they have nothing else going for them. Did the females who were with the jerk ask him if he wanted to have children? Or did they have kids to hold onto him?

  • @abby495 And you also said, "the nice guy hates women"...in all actuality, the "nice guy" idealizes women to such a degree, that he is intimidated by them, which is why he can never get to "first base"...actually the jerk disrespects women, which is why women constantly fight for the jerk's attention...there is no such thing as a "jerk provider"...in any case, then, that is a normal man, who is just doing what he is supposed to do...it's funny, you never seem to mention children at all? Why?

  • @GemCan78 Bullsh*t. He has a vendetta against women he wants to blame women for his problems. Men are supposed to take ACTION. If you are a woman what good is a man who can't take action. Are you supposed to be the man now? You're supposed to fight both of your battles? I am familiar with the nice guy he brings dishonor upon you by not defending you like a real man should. You are left defending yourself and him. True story. That makes a woman feel unloved clueless one.

  • A jerk doesn't work hard to please women. You are naive.

  • Women don't say that they want "bad boys". I don't know anyone over 25 who talks like that.. The media created that myth. I've been shy and introverted my entire life and yet I've never had trouble getting women. I think many of these self-defined "nice guys" are potential stalkers and rapists. They become "friends" b/c they can't accept the alternative. Why don't "nice guys" befriend homely women? They're just as superficial as their "bad boy" counterparts but hide behind false modesty

  • i think that girl like a project o_o

  • im a girl and i hate girls like that! its sad :( they go out with terrible guys just because of shallow reasoning. i only like nice guys. the jerks stay my friends or are kicked to the curb! i hope other girls will get a grip and join me.

  • @maddi3bab33 Bull Shit!! You know you would much rather date a cool awesome bad boy like me then an ugly bald guy who happens to be nice!!

  • @xhemexx okay yes i have to admit, bad boys are pretty damn sexy ;] then again i change allot. im not as nice as i used to be... nope not at all. but still, if a guy tries to push me around i would dump him. plain and simple. nice boys dont have much of personalities. and yes most nice boys are nice cuz that is all they have. but anyways the bad boys are waaayyyhayyyhayyy more interesting.

  • @maddi3bab33 It doesn't mean good men are not sexy too. I was being alittle on the joking side when I said that bald good men will never be as attractive to women as a bad crule bad guy. Thats not true at all, and I went over the line on that. I mean maybe with the people undeer 25 years of age that may be partly true, but when it comes to over and ike in their 30's and 40's etc, most women don't think that way unless they have something wrong with them. So I just wanted to clear that up.

  • @maddi3bab33 You say you are not as nice as you used to be? In what way? Also EVERYONE has some sort of personality!! What do you mean Nice guys have no personality?

  • @xhemexx MOST nice guys have no personality. they are usually shy and usually get stepped all over ( i have a strong mind and body, i dont want to abuse some ni9ceguy if they go out with me lol). and the part about bad boys being sexy, is in both personality and looks. its just more common for a good looking guy to be cocky about his appearance, in cockiness is confidence. i like confidence allot ;)

  • @maddi3bab33 There is a difference between being cocky and being genuiny confident!! There are many "not so good looking guys" out there that are also very confident and yet without being cocky. They conduct themselves well by showing respect to others and caring about the ones he loves and respecting them. Living a life of courage, honour and integrety and good values. They have good character and stand up for what he beleives and is in no way a pushover, but will be assertive when/if need be

  • @xhemexx though that is true, the groups of those guys are rare compared to the amount of the stereo typical nice guys. and "good values" can be different things in many peoples eyes...

  • @maddi3bab33

    You should be pushed off the freedom train then. As a born peon you refuse to follow your superiors and you defy orders. This can also be called insubordination in my book.

    Well that long-awaited plunge should be an orgasmic experience for you. It's the once-in-a-lifetime thing as you embrace a brave new world. Okay okay I'd hold your hand to the edge before I let go and liberate you.

  • @maddi3bab33

    Dear girl. Attraction is not a choice, so no girl should be hated for what she feels. I have been a nice guy and I know all the theory behind this. So I have made adjustments. The only women attracted to nice guys that I know, are dominant feminists.

    All the other women want a challenge. They want to feel loved indeed, but if you give it to her, the attraction is over. Women are attracted to what they don't have YET and therefore bad guys are a challenge and nice guys are boring

  • @Foreverguga1 Attraction can be created. As Eric Rogell said, if not, then all women would be with 6'2 football players who cry at sad movies while standing on stage with a dog and telling jokes. Women are validated by feelings, whereas men are validated by the physical. So if a woman keeps chasing the feelings she wants, that means she will keep chasing the guy who dangles them in front of her. Henceforth, that is part of the challenge women mention.

  • @thetracyshow

    That is true, but what kind of feelings are you talking about?

    Feelings and emotions are not a logical choice at all.

    That's why no man can create attraction by logical acts such as showing interest, being nice, showing her you are there. In fact, most women are attracted to the opposite. Indifference

    That's why men attract women they are not interested in. If you want to attract women you like, you have to avoid giving in to your intuition that says you have to try hard

  • @Foreverguga1 The feelings I refer to would be along the lines of a woman saying to herself about a guy, 'I need you to make me feel pretty, I need you to make me feel safe, I need you to make me feel giddy, I need you to make me feel special, I need you to make me feel loved.'

  • @thetracyshow

    You just said it. " I need you to"

    It is womens goal to feel loved and to feel pretty. Some men wave a big white flag that says " You are my number one, the ultimate beauty "

    I call it the ice cream effect. It makes women happy for a while, but if they get too much of it, it is no good.

    Succesful men are the ones that make her doubt if she really is pretty

    " Everyone says I'm pretty, but he doesn't. Why? Am I not good enough? "

    This man gets to her and creates attraction

  • @Foreverguga1 What most men don't realize, is that the majority of females have severe self-esteem issues...they convince themselves that they don't deserve a good man, which is why they waste their entire youth on jailbirds, gang members, druggies, women beaters, etc...at the end of the day, females have plenty of options, but they basically "burn their bridges", but they bitch and complain when they're 35, about, "where are all the good men"?...sad and sickening...

  • Let me make a metaphore. In south Africa, hunters trap apes by making a hole in trees and putting food in it. They make the holes small, so the monkeys need a lot of time to get the food out. If the holes were large, the food would be out in a minute. What happens is that the apes keep chasing the food in "difficult trees" even if a hunter shows up with a gun. They would rather die than give up.

    That's how it is with girls and bad boys. Girls would rather die than give up the challenge

  • What attracts women? order of importance:

    1) CONFIDENCE --> And young women fail to distinguish confidence from arrogance

    2) self control / I don't care attitude --> Never ever let her know that she can affect your mood by what she does. YOU are in control

    3) Be mysterious --> Their curiosity progresses to serious attraction. Don't give in to her need for info

    4) Be a challenge -->If you have cheated on women, it is a challenge for her to keep you faithful

    5) sense of humour

    6) your looks

  • the way I see it women are brought up to be taken care, having their choices made 4 them of and having strict rules, its their nature

    plus women are attracted to testosterone believe it or not, pretty much the sense they get when u take dominance in the relationship. I know how most of ya guys feel. 19 years and i get cheated on a lot for the "bad boy", i'd like to believe females arent all like that but it just isnt reality to me :/

  • This is just something very common in Western society. Go anywhere else in the world and it's a different story. American women (all races) claim the perfect guy must be a doctor, have lots of money, and have a nice car. Women are evil, and many men are brainwashed.

  • @braziliannegro

    lol You are a goddamned fool. You don't know shit about women or Americans.

  • Never feel sorry for these woman involved in "Domestic Violence" they deserve it.

  • @Blackwater200 I ussually don't to be honest. I care about good ladies, and for THEM I would be my best!! The bad ones, unfortunately I am indifferent if they get beat or abused in ANY way by a guy...I mean it's their choice, they wanted to date them right lol. They need to take responsibility for their actions and choices.

  • kick it with some nerdy chick  who is like that and find out for yourself

  • Well, it's simple. Many of the jerks are hot and good looking, and many of the nice guys are bald and bad looking. So no matter how nice and good and how much character the bald guy has, the woman will always pick the good looking full head of hair bad boy, no matter how bad he is. That pretty well says it all. Now if Now if nice guys had hair or somehow got their hair back or grew it, then they would have women too.

  • @xhemexx I'm sorry, but that was the in the top 10 STUPIDEST things I have ever read on youtube.

  • @xhemexx ur an idiot. get the fuck off youtube.

  • @xhemexx I do agree with part of your post and disagree with the rest because I will agree to the fact that these wannabe thugs girls choose to go out with are good-looking, but I have to disagree with the fact that not all nice guys are homely-looking because as a straight guy, I will admit that there some ''geek types'' who are attractive-looking and I'm one of them lol, but you gotta realize girls also want the guys that appear to be dumbfounded or else it's no shot for the guy.

  • @xhemexx There are guys who want ''dumb girls'' & and there are girls who want ''dumb guys'' so it goes both ways.

  • Why Women Really Prefer Idiot / Jerks Over Nice Guys?

    BECAUSE THEY ARE STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @GoldeWC Damn right! Women are shit.

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  • @GoldeWC You're right, absolutely right.

  • your all stupid, put it this way, THE AVERAGE MALE IS BADDER THAN THE AVERAGE FEMALE....SOO IF THERE IS A BROTHER AND SISTER, THE BROTHER WILL ALWAYS BE BADDER THAN HIS SISTER, JUST LIKE HE WILL ALWAYS BE TALLER....so in an equal pairing the guy will be badder than his female counter part

  • That's deep!

  • I don't want to ask why women prefer jerks. I want to ask why women /say/ they want someone of all the qualities of a nice guy (nice, patient, thoughtful, balanced) but still won't accept them.

  • love itz

  • Here's how I'd put it: much like the "white guilt" MLK described, nice guys experience "man guilt", and do what they are told to do by modern feminism in order to become worthy to today's women, who nearly all identify as feminist. However, what works in theory doesn't work in practice; her natural expectation for the man to fill the manly role kicks in, and the once-demanded theoretical expectations of feminism lose out...along with the nice guy.

  • @randommagnum EXACTLY. Women don't pick a man, their body is perfectly capable of forming decisive arguments on it's own, and without the consent of her conscious mind... Of course the same, though not always as evident, is also true for men; we don't pick women, our body does, and then our conscious self rationalizes until it hurts! Free will has limited application, even if it would seem that we employ it everywhere, the truth is that biology controls us, and thank goodness for that!

  • Thanks Scott for the liberating insights

  • Real women like real men. Some people just get stuck in their teens.

  • @jaskamakkara nah good women like assholes too

  • Women Love To Be Beaten!!! If A Guy Hits Her She Won't Leave Him!!! Case Closed!!!

  • @DylanBStringer91 As disgusting as it is, it's true. It took me years to figure that one out... There's a reason why they never tell the police about their boyfriend. It's because they love it.

  • @83uoykcuf Exactly!!! 

  • @83uoykcuf yeah when her boyfriend hits her she has multiple orgasims.....

  • @DylanBStringer91 That sounds harsh when you read it, but when you sit back and think about it the countries with the highest reports of domestic abuse are in latin America and these countries also have the lowest divorce rates....Hmm

  • Please don't assume that we're all the same. I hate being around bad boys, and only dumb women fall for them. I find nothing attractive about them. I am happily married to a wonderful man who I highly respect and he respects me as well. I have friends like me who also likes nice guys and can't stand the sight of bad ones. I like to be treated like a lady, not abused.

  • @rosegarden56 your 1 out of like 50 because I don't believe your friend your just sticking up for her

  • @24Elementman First of all, I don't have friend who date jerks. I can't stand the sight of them and I refuse to listen to their complaints if they're dating one. The friends I choose are a lot like me. My friends only like good guys because no one in their right mind wants to be abused or treated like crap. Most of them are married to nice guys who treats them with respect. Bad guys? I never, ever liked them even as a teenager. I never thought they were cool because they turn me off.

  • Women just aren't very bright.

  • @DeathToLiberalism Maybe the women you know aren't very bright. I was never attracted to bad guys - they totally turn me off. My husband is a great guy and I'm very fortunate to have him.

  • @DeathToLiberalism hey m8 not all of us Ladys belong to the thinktank convention!!!

  • @floydgirl7 yeah you do

  • Here is the middle ground. A good guy. The guy will be a nice guy but he's going to have his day's when he's a jerk, and know's when not to be nice, or a jerk.

  • Be the Jerk, but don't hit her. Words are more effective, trust me, they are.

  • Makes me laugh, that women always say men are so immature, but when the nice guys out there finally mature, they always go for the jerks. I for one don't feel bad if a jerk calls his GF a whore, slut ect. Because there are nice guys out there. Of course hitting a women is a no no.