Starflower666, 666? The number of the beast ... Why ? That sounds like an invitation for the devil, don't be surprised when he shows up! Ask Jesus to show you the way , I am also co-dependent ,but people always let me down apparently I'm too needy ? But Jesus is always there for me , never lies to me, loves that I klieg to him! Finally I have found the perfect man for me : )
my mother got her husband to abuse me verbally at the last holiday gathering.
she was more into covert gas lighting!
always had to spoil my joy growing up! flirted shamelesly with my boyfriend. always haughty and critical in the guise of care. never smiled...beautifully dressed and made up while i was not. she was a model , a dancer then an academic...all succesfully so.
an extreme narcissist, and im paying the price, with my own issues of dependancy etc...
I often wondered why my husband would go out of his way to over-decorate and try to make Christmas special, only to turn around and get angry/controlling/ruining any happiness. His worst time is when the holiday is over. It's like he is trying to destroy all he created, or maybe just tired of putting on the celebratory face.He loves being the reason for our happiness, but then is miserable when we are happy. It is so sad! I would hate living what he has to live through day after day.
Christmas is a special time for students. You pretty much can't stay in residence/halls, all your friends have gone home. You go home too. Coincidentally, it's also a time when you have to do important revision for the early January exams. Always nice to come home to trouble for them.
Merry Christmas Sam, this topic is so personal for me as I said in N's hate happy people video comments, this is a vey timely subject ! I think you should make greeting cards to give to narcissists ,LOL, can you imagine ...? I've been reduced to tears on every holiday and special day for almost 25 years. Understanding the reason has helped me so much. Thank you Sam, but without the reason for the season ,Jesus Christ , I would not of found the strength to get through , so anyone that has lost h
My narcsissist is the "Older" friends, of rapist's. I suspect. She turns any other direction, moves, everytime I try to gather facts about her or them. They her and them, already said it once, already with lies, accusations that sound like lies, supporting the like, are the people daily in the area's of life yelling lies in the store, braodcasting everything telepathically, like the schizo-elite, as we call them here. Furthemore, follow and date, and relationships the whole way there-abduction
I am almost too old to have children feel disgusting, and am alway's emailing the same person every time/calling the same people. No one picks me up, no one reviews my interviews, and no one calls. I wonder how I am wronged? They have a "prearragnged" lie, for every one on the next proof I obtain, and lie lie lie lie!
Strangely enough, my N is only seemingly "normal" and "present" on holidays. As of a year ago, I refuse to celebrate every holiday or birthday with him - basically, I'm pissed because the ONLY time he's neither raging, nor critical are the holidays. However, as soon as the festivities start to wind down he takes off to either sit by himself and watch sports or go "meetup" with his primary supply collecting little gifts and/or cards. How does this make any sense, given what you've described?
@organysntracey1 Duh! answering my own question here - I just figured out that he "behaves" because other's are present and obviously he's used to get doted upon. This year should be very interesting, as I am doing my "no contact" holiday.
After he gives me something, he calls me a "F*#king thief" and black mails me with rage. Now I just laugh at him in his face as a punishment after 9 years of abuse. Thank you Sam for bringing me growth so I can protect myself without going insane with self pity.
One narcissist hates this video lol. Can someone be like this even if they were not abused because this sounds exactly like my sister in law. From what I understand (by her boasts) is that her family is the best in the world and everyone elses is dysfunctional. She can't not be invited to family events but she sure brings the mood down no matter how much we try to please her.
Pleased you put this up Sam.................its a replica of my experience with a Narc at xmas......thank goodness I found you Sam, because since I did, he is out of my life for good.......and I shall have a merry xmas.......................and I wish you a merry xmas too!!!!
Cont. we will make presents or I will let them pick out something special for him. As parents I think this is something we should teach our kids. Plus, giving is so much more fun than getting. Except, when it's your husband and he never gives anything. He told me he doesn't comprehend the idea of gift giving..so why does he like to get gifts? I told him it hurts to purposely be ignored all the time. He told me the reason he doesn't buy me gifts is because he doesn't want to spend the money.
My situation plays out like this...... My husband loves it when I have a birthday party for him, cook his favorite foods, have family over and we all give him presents. He likes to get Christmas presents, fathers day presents, etc. He is the center of attention. Then when it's my birthday, Christmas, mothers day....he skips me. He doesn't give me presents..he treats me like I'm nothing. This has been going on for 16 years. It hurts. I teach the kids how to make cards and sometimes..cont.
@oscie1 To protect my kids. His family is scary and abusive and I am the only barrier between them and my kids. I've never been a "doormat" type of person.....but I have no choice....I feel trapped.
I totally agree ....On a similar note, you think most narcissistic people are also lousy gift givers? On purpose..even? I have experienced this ....but when there is someone around that the narcissist wants to impress....I've noticed that they do actually give something thoughtful & special....and it's really just crazy-making. I wonder why they do this.
@fetishisticrose I think the Narc loves mind games. It's all about control to the 'nth' degree. We recently discovered that our mother is a Narc (for years we just though she was nasty,tough, awkard,confrontational,fearless). She always gave lousy gifts,but now since my MIL & FIL are around our kids more....well, thats 'more copetition' the gif giving has improved dramaticaly! She's even giving them age-appropriate gifts now! It's all mind games!
Starflower666, 666? The number of the beast ... Why ? That sounds like an invitation for the devil, don't be surprised when he shows up! Ask Jesus to show you the way , I am also co-dependent ,but people always let me down apparently I'm too needy ? But Jesus is always there for me , never lies to me, loves that I klieg to him! Finally I have found the perfect man for me : )
Kathydrel 1 month ago
my mother got her husband to abuse me verbally at the last holiday gathering.
she was more into covert gas lighting!
always had to spoil my joy growing up! flirted shamelesly with my boyfriend. always haughty and critical in the guise of care. never smiled...beautifully dressed and made up while i was not. she was a model , a dancer then an academic...all succesfully so.
an extreme narcissist, and im paying the price, with my own issues of dependancy etc...
starflower666 1 month ago
I often wondered why my husband would go out of his way to over-decorate and try to make Christmas special, only to turn around and get angry/controlling/ruining any happiness. His worst time is when the holiday is over. It's like he is trying to destroy all he created, or maybe just tired of putting on the celebratory face.He loves being the reason for our happiness, but then is miserable when we are happy. It is so sad! I would hate living what he has to live through day after day.
4evrstrng 2 months ago
@4evrstrng It's the same thing with my family.
Octane64 1 month ago
@Octane64 It's nice not to be alone. :)
4evrstrng 1 month ago
Haha! 'No good deed goes unpunished; happy holidays'.
happyorangeanimation 2 months ago 15
that was an excellent account of what to expect and how to avoid major problems. Thank you for the gift of knowledge.
kellycat2552 2 months ago 24
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Personally, I only feel such animosity during Valentine's Day. But my narcissistic mind is always proud that my birthday often coincides with Easter.
LeHuyAnh 2 months ago
Christmas is a special time for students. You pretty much can't stay in residence/halls, all your friends have gone home. You go home too. Coincidentally, it's also a time when you have to do important revision for the early January exams. Always nice to come home to trouble for them.
MikaShelley99 2 months ago
Sam..what does the Covert Narcissist act like on the holiday's?
GigglePoet 2 months ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths
Merry Christmas Sam, this topic is so personal for me as I said in N's hate happy people video comments, this is a vey timely subject ! I think you should make greeting cards to give to narcissists ,LOL, can you imagine ...? I've been reduced to tears on every holiday and special day for almost 25 years. Understanding the reason has helped me so much. Thank you Sam, but without the reason for the season ,Jesus Christ , I would not of found the strength to get through , so anyone that has lost h
Kathydrel 2 months ago
My narcsissist is the "Older" friends, of rapist's. I suspect. She turns any other direction, moves, everytime I try to gather facts about her or them. They her and them, already said it once, already with lies, accusations that sound like lies, supporting the like, are the people daily in the area's of life yelling lies in the store, braodcasting everything telepathically, like the schizo-elite, as we call them here. Furthemore, follow and date, and relationships the whole way there-abduction
astrologyfox 3 months ago
I am almost too old to have children feel disgusting, and am alway's emailing the same person every time/calling the same people. No one picks me up, no one reviews my interviews, and no one calls. I wonder how I am wronged? They have a "prearragnged" lie, for every one on the next proof I obtain, and lie lie lie lie!
astrologyfox 3 months ago
Strangely enough, my N is only seemingly "normal" and "present" on holidays. As of a year ago, I refuse to celebrate every holiday or birthday with him - basically, I'm pissed because the ONLY time he's neither raging, nor critical are the holidays. However, as soon as the festivities start to wind down he takes off to either sit by himself and watch sports or go "meetup" with his primary supply collecting little gifts and/or cards. How does this make any sense, given what you've described?
organysntracey1 3 months ago
@organysntracey1 Duh! answering my own question here - I just figured out that he "behaves" because other's are present and obviously he's used to get doted upon. This year should be very interesting, as I am doing my "no contact" holiday.
organysntracey1 2 months ago
Grat vid thanks for sharing
resistanceunion 3 months ago
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After he gives me something, he calls me a "F*#king thief" and black mails me with rage. Now I just laugh at him in his face as a punishment after 9 years of abuse. Thank you Sam for bringing me growth so I can protect myself without going insane with self pity.
tinyctlo 3 months ago
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tinyctlo 3 months ago
One narcissist hates this video lol. Can someone be like this even if they were not abused because this sounds exactly like my sister in law. From what I understand (by her boasts) is that her family is the best in the world and everyone elses is dysfunctional. She can't not be invited to family events but she sure brings the mood down no matter how much we try to please her.
RaeAyla 3 months ago
Pleased you put this up Sam.................its a replica of my experience with a Narc at xmas......thank goodness I found you Sam, because since I did, he is out of my life for good.......and I shall have a merry xmas.......................and I wish you a merry xmas too!!!!
Persephone535 3 months ago 2
'Like', as usual. Good advice. Thanks Sam!
kozychik 3 months ago
Is what I've written narcissistic behavior? Or is he just plain mean?
Wivanunu 3 months ago
Cont. we will make presents or I will let them pick out something special for him. As parents I think this is something we should teach our kids. Plus, giving is so much more fun than getting. Except, when it's your husband and he never gives anything. He told me he doesn't comprehend the idea of gift giving..so why does he like to get gifts? I told him it hurts to purposely be ignored all the time. He told me the reason he doesn't buy me gifts is because he doesn't want to spend the money.
Wivanunu 3 months ago
My situation plays out like this...... My husband loves it when I have a birthday party for him, cook his favorite foods, have family over and we all give him presents. He likes to get Christmas presents, fathers day presents, etc. He is the center of attention. Then when it's my birthday, Christmas, mothers day....he skips me. He doesn't give me presents..he treats me like I'm nothing. This has been going on for 16 years. It hurts. I teach the kids how to make cards and sometimes..cont.
Wivanunu 3 months ago
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oscie1 3 months ago
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@Wivanunu Why have you allowed yourself to be a doormat for so long?
oscie1 3 months ago
@oscie1 To protect my kids. His family is scary and abusive and I am the only barrier between them and my kids. I've never been a "doormat" type of person.....but I have no choice....I feel trapped.
Wivanunu 3 months ago
@Wivanunu Im sorry to hear that
oscie1 3 months ago
I totally agree ....On a similar note, you think most narcissistic people are also lousy gift givers? On purpose..even? I have experienced this ....but when there is someone around that the narcissist wants to impress....I've noticed that they do actually give something thoughtful & special....and it's really just crazy-making. I wonder why they do this.
fetishisticrose 3 months ago
@fetishisticrose I think the Narc loves mind games. It's all about control to the 'nth' degree. We recently discovered that our mother is a Narc (for years we just though she was nasty,tough, awkard,confrontational,fearless). She always gave lousy gifts,but now since my MIL & FIL are around our kids more....well, thats 'more copetition' the gif giving has improved dramaticaly! She's even giving them age-appropriate gifts now! It's all mind games!
dylandebbiesteph 3 months ago