I'm almost 50 and I don't know what it is! You have to determine is it attraction, lust or an emotional necessity that deflects your self-respect.
All I know, if you can walk away from him/her for a distance of time and keep it movin. If you still feel vastly strong about this person being a part of your life. LOVE!
Ateyaaa i was the same way with my ex. I was soooo in love with him i thought about him ALL da tyme and we tlkd to each other 24/7. like we would have deep convos like from 1 in the morning until 1 the next morning and i knew it was tru love b/c we were inseperable i couldnt go 5 mins w/o tlkn to him and 2 this day i think i still have feelins 4 him b/c we really didnt break up sumthin bad happened n we jus had 2 end our relationship. well thats my love experience.
I ean really relate to you, I felt this way for ten years now it's been five years since I been single, I just don't want another relationship feeling like that my heart was too broke a then the person you fell inlove with years later is the father of your son and a crake head!
MissAmerica2008, I totally agree with you 100%. True love is of God, and does not wear off. And I think that it's important to love someone the right way. Which is not putting all your eggs in one basket...If you divide your eggs between God and your partner, then the foundation of your relationsgip cannot be damaged or destroyed...
I am so glad you spoke on things you know about and your own personal feelings as a single woman. Cause love as a married woman and a mother is different and only through experience can a person understand it.
God is love. If there is no foundation of the Father then there is no love. Love is not some mushy feeling or really liking someone because that wears off. It's recognizing the spirit inside of a person, embracing them for who they are, and realizing what you can contribute to better them and vice versa. That's why there are so many divorces, broken families, single parent households...we don't know love. We know flesh. Love is real...so is God.
I guess I'm in the like phrase, I do know what love is from my past relationship, now this person I'm talking to now is so cool and we get alone so well I decided to take things slow, and I feel everyone should try it it's also fun learning new things about a person and not having your emotions get in the way I just feel people are moving to fast these day and are not truly finding out what true love is, if you wait it will come and you won't have to question it.
I believe you should never get that wraped up into anyone..because any person can let you down..its a matter of understanding people and life......but love is unconditional like they type of love you have for your family, parents and children... lust is a desire for the flesh of another if your religous its considered a sin..and sins do not bring good results....
Yes I was there and when I was this guy couldn't no one tell me anything!! But when we broke up, and I got involved with someone else I knew what to expect and I had my guard up..We crossed paths a few years ago, (my ex) he wanted to rekindle the flame, I told him no..the past is in the past, and he did commend me for being strong..!! LOL
Hey everyone...It's Boss Ladi Toya in the building! Ateya, I just wanted to say that it was my pleasure to do the interview and the interview was great. Keep doing you, girl. I hope to work together with you soon. It will be GREAT! Be Blessed!
It's not just you girl, it's not just you. We've (men and women)all have been there. That place is a crazy house. I think your brain shuts down and your not thinking right.
Girl so SO true, because when I met my husband I lost my MIND for that man, I wanted to be with him everyday every hour, when we where apart I was feeling horrible until I was with him again.
When some of my friends fall in love it's like they forget themselves and also forget their friends and everything
I like the kind of love that the two know how to balance... best friend/lover kinda love... Where both don't let their love stop them from other things..
I dunno how it feels to be in love but it must make you feel kinda obliged to please/be there for your partner because that's what i see. I mean, it looks like flowers and roses atimes but it can make people lose their minds.
I've never been in love... And honestly, I don't know if i'm ready for it.
It's like this:
When I see my friends and other aquantances when they are "in love"... It's like they now have this barrier around them and they forget themselves and focus SOLELY on their partner. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't spend time with your man or be with him alot.... But people in love need to know how to balance!!
Everyone's experience is different, true. One test I put myself through is this: "What would I do if I hypothetically couldn't touch him or see him? Would I still be crazy about his mind and heart and be dying to talk to him?" If the answer is yes, it's more than lust - lust is generally about the body. It's just one question to ask. The difference between "love" and "in love" - goodness, that's a whole other hundred thousand words!
I feel that everyone's experience is different. The truth is that if you have to ask, it isn't love. You don't have to force true love. No only that but true love that you feel should never surpass the love you have for God and yourself.
when in love you want to marry him and have kids ,grow old together be there truly through good and bad rich or poor he's your hero , in lust its just sexual attraction theres nothing else in common but the feeling is so good that you think its love but he doesn't take you out or tell you he love you or hold your hand if he does its only in bed a guy told me its called "pillow talk" its all about sex,
you know i love the feeling of love, you just feel so special but when it's all gone, its like the best thing that you felt is also the worst thing that you felt. I just hate it when love turns into lying, cheating and jealousy...UGH!
You more or less hip the nail on the head. I have been in love a couple of time, but never to the point if I was being dogged I could not say later. I don't roll like that God first Christ second and my family third and my friends just as much as I love myself. Later sweetie hope you're not reading any native messages.
ateyaa i think ur definition of "in love" is more like "infatuation". Real love can stand the test of time and takes a lot of work and is not all flowers and roses and lovey dovey. It is compromise and deep commitment and accepting the ugly along with the beautiful in a relationship.
Lust is just purely sex, horniness and hormones. lol
Real love should be the best of bothworlds but it will also be the worst at times. But if you are both respectuful of each other it will stand the test.
Being in love can bring out the best & worst in you and make you do things you never thought you would do. I believe that a person knows whether or not he/she is in love is when EVERYTHING about the relationship & the 2 people involved clicks.
this may sound like a cliche' but when you are in love you really want to be a better you..You start wanting to UP your game, more responsible, healthier, look better, eat better,..lust has the opposite effect, you find yourself deteriorating
I agree with you a healthy love is wanting whats best for the other person and the best for yourself. It's not uneven or unreciprocated. Its a mutual "wanting" to grow old together and working, talking and walking towards the same goal. Its not material is spiritual.
OMG I can totally relate to what you was saying about being inlove that is how I felt with my husband still do but you are so right it does feel just like that SMOOCHES DIVA
Being in love is undescribable. I've been with the same person for 4 years now and when he calls I get this huge smile on my face, when I see him nothing else matters. I cant go 5 mins without talking with him lol. You couldnt have described it better, you were right on point!
My personal opinion, people confuse love for infatuation. Love is action. Love is when, as you said, your first thought of the day is that person's well being..your actions go to that..the butterflies and all of that is the beginning...real love outlasts the butterflies in the stomach, & the "I hang up..no u hang up..hang up on 3.." You never know being in REAL love, until you have found that person that you ARE spending the rest of your life with...and you have no regrets. I'm living it.
I feel youon this one. I have been with my man for 5 years and we still lovey dovey on each other. We always make sure we tell each other we love each other, never go to sleep upset and tell each other how much we mean to each other. Love is amazing, complicated, wonderful ... it's exhillarating!. I luv my boo and I am so grateful he found me and put the work in to show me true love.
Im 31. And I was with a guy i was in love with between ages 22-25.I knew i was in love when i realized he loved me so much that he never 2nd guessed anything i needed or wantd. Not material things but emotionally and physically. If was having a bad day before he did anything else he made sure my day got better. when was sick and couldn't get to bed and crashed on the couch,i woke up to him layng beside couch on da floor. He never felt unsure about me or our love and that blew me out the water.:)
Love is a decision to look past mistakes and issues and remain by the side of you significant other. It is not goosebumps, or butterflies, it is a decision.
Lust is truly physical. You like the physical..the looks or the sex. This can turn into love though...my 6 marriage is a result. We lusted initially but we then fell in love.
Like is...where there is room for another to come in and gain your attention as well. Where as love you decide to give it all to that special person.
I am a 24 year old that never really been in love before but I would like to experience it. I do believe that lust is all about physical attraction with little to no emotion. Love is more of a mental and spiritual attraction.
You have put it best. It is not the "butterflies" or the being a fool for someone.....it is being just that as you have put it. Which proverb is that?
I agree, heartbreak is so hard because just like when someone dies you grieve that loss! And its even worse when you dont have closure because it takes even longer to move on. I think lust is when you find yourself more intrigued with the idea of being with that person and love is when you just know despite their flaws you want to be with them, no matter what! I knew when I met my husband he was the one, not right away, but pretty early into the relationship. Weve been married 5 years now
This is how I knew I was in love with my son's father...and anyone else, just stop and think about this and imagine it...if you were in cardboard box with this person, u and him & ur kids(if u have any) and ya'll were homeless on the street and living in this box, even if he gets on your nerves, if you walk out of that box w/o him, will you miss him? If you say yes, then u in love with him :)
YESS thank you Ateya i need that. im a young girl & believe it or not i was ONCE in love, but i will fall in love again with the right god has for me. but really i couldnt go a day without talking to him . . .any of my girls or FAMILY tell me not to talk to him i wouldnt listen to them cuz i loved him so much. he broke up with me . .i felt like i needed him to move on, but for real you will get that wake up call. i did . .he wants me back, but i said "HELL NO"! everyone will go through this.
i have been inlove once and i am married to him, beign in love is when you are recpected and adored by your significant other. i just took a class on the 5 languages of love and everything described is a symptom of love and when it wares of that is when you see all the mistakes and everything you didn't know was there. Now, how you deal with things after the "i can't live without you" feelings has worn off, will really let you know that you are "inlove."
OMG!!!! I know exactly what you meant when you were talking about being in love with someone. My ex and I broke up about 5 months ago. It was so hard knowing that we would never be together. We had be together for almost two years and everything that you said about how you would wake up, go to sleep, eat, and just about everything you did you would think about him. But now it's time for me to move on. Cause I know that the person I'm meant to spend my life with is waiting for me. Thank Ateyaaa
I believe that the difference between love and lust, is the amount of time you are willing to invest in a person, no matter the circumstances. If two people are in love, and they are commited, they tend to work through the problems, and communicate. If you are lusting after someone, if he does something studpid, or insults you ect....chances are you are going to keep it moving because his actions are unacceptable. Being in love is your level of selfless-ness toward your mate.
My ex-fiance' in Houston put me through drama, cheating, arguing, and so much more. When we broke up, I moved. I live in LA now and Ive been married 2 yrs. My husband is my soulmate, has NEVER made me cry, and luvs me dearly (luvs my dirty draws) :)
When I look back at my ex, I cant believe I went through that, but had I not, I would not have recognized and appreciated my hubby for the REAL man he is.
i am in love and about to get married with this person and trust me, i knew he was the one on the first time we talked! i love him since then. you know it right away. i know what you are talking about, i went through the same thing in the past, but i think about it now and doubt if it was love. looking myself in the past and i think it was nothing but going after what you can't get. it's different from being in love.
I am so agreeing with you!! When I met my husband, I knew he was the one I was gonna marry!! I went through some bulls**t in my past and I knew right away!
hi ateya , yep u are soooo right i once was in love and i felt like i had to have this man 24/7 .. when ur in love no one can tell u anything negative about your partner, you feel like without this person u literaly will not servive. so yes u will know the differance between love and lust, lust is all about more of a fleshly desisre for an individual, more less than a emotianal attraction , so yea u will know
Yep, I recognise those signs lol. He comes around the corner and your stomach just flips and your heart is fluttering. I didn't believe he could turn out to be the worst thing I ever did, but you live and you learn and you move on. I have someone now I absolutely adore and who knows what real love is and shows me everyday. :) that's some good loving lol
Yeah, I just went through that over here in Iraq. This dude was a complete liar. It started off right but then he flipped to script completely on me when we went on R&R and then I realized that he was a selfish person. It hurt because I really loved him but he didn't love me in return.
i feel like when you feel that crazy sensation and feel like u cant live without that person and dont listen to anyone when they tell u bad things about them...when you cant go a day without talking to them or you go crazy you have to ask yourself if that is infatuation or love. i think INFATUATION can make you do crazy things but i think love is something much more sincere and not at all crazy
I know what u mean about being in love cuz I was with this guy who was cheating on me with my best friend and somone told me about but I didn't listen. Until I couldn't take anymore that is when I had the courage to leave.
everything u said was so true.i have a friend i met last year and we have been close ever since nd he has the best personality, i started noticing tht i think about him alot nd i thought i really liked him, i never told him. i dnt think he likes me more than a friend,but everytime i see him i get butterflies in my stomach nd i feel like nobody can bring me down.i havent seen him since school, but this summer i realized that i cant be without him. i love him nd he doesnt kno. i dnt kno wat to do?
Lust is the immediate attraction and desire to consummate that attraction. Lust is like a match. It burns intensely, but not for very long. Love develops over time as you get to know everything about the person who initially attracted you. After a year, when you've seen all the best and the worst in that person and you can still say that you love them, it's love. Love is like glowing embers, just as intense as the match, but continues to burn if fanned by compatibility and mutual values.
I think people are confused a lot between love and infatuation. I don't believe love HAS to be full of drama, heartache, anxiety, and taking over your life. I am in love and at first I will admit that I had that anxiety about him and not wanting to get hurt, and butterflies which I still get but that shouldn't and won't last. I have only TRULY been in love once and to TRULY be in love to me u have to have that first FALSE love that you thought was true to recognize real lasting ADULT love.
Love is something you truly know. I have only been in love once, and it was just as you describe. That person is always with you even when you two are apart. Very emotional. And lust is just an electric physical attraction. Once you "knock him down" or in other words have sex once maybe even twice, that desire to have that person disappear. It's almost as though after the sex you see them clearly. Lust is very tricky because you may actually think you are in love, but sex/love are diff.
I admit i'm in love. I get that fluttery feeling in my stomach and it kills me inside when i dont hear from him! But putting God first and lettn no man come before him is key.
★★Love and Lust... If u really diggin a person try and see if u could see urself married and raising kids w/ this person depending on their morals and values.. and if u cant see it. ur prob highly in LUST. thats wrks perfect 4 me. and if u can see urself married to them, doesnt mean their the one. just worth the shot. dont go head over heels to quick. it will hurt more in the end. <3<3
You are such a beautiful and intelligent lady. From my experience Love takes time and it will sneak up on you when you least expect it. Being in-love with someone you will know it by all the mixture of emotions that come on you at any given moment. You will feel like without that person you are not complete and you will find yourself thinking about them all the time. You will put that persons needs before your own and you care about their feelings. Lust will get old fast..
ive never been in love (scary b/c im 24yrs old) but i know that i cant rewrite the Lords plan for me....but i know that with love comes a lot of scarifice and compromise....youll have your ups and dwns but sticking things through is always important. but most importantly you cant lose sight as to who you are...(i know ppl that do and its a shame) and you cant adjust your wills, morals, and belief for anyone!!! thats my take on things....:-) im sure its a beautiful journey....cant wait
I agree with you Luvluxkat....and don't feel bad about not never being in love...I am 32 now and I never been in love....I think I am actually scared of it though...
to me, the worst part of love is that when you are truly in love, you make this person your best friend, your everything, your support center. and then when you break up.. you feel empty. i agree with you on the love and lust. love is overwhelming and emotionally taxing..lust is well.. you know.
You did a great job with the differences. I was in love once but I ran away from it and didn't act like should of because I was scared but now Im in a better place and is ready for love but refuse to put up with bs. I have had my sare of bs and males tryin to play me like Im stupid. So now Im takng my time and just playing it as it goes nothin serious at the moment.
What do you think about when a person is not in love nor lust, but basically is still in the relationship because the other party will not allow it to be over? Even when the person purposely becomes everthing the other says is not their type.
LOVE HURTS..THATS WHY ITS BETTER TO TAKE YOUR TIME AND NOT RUSH INTO ANYTHING..BECAUSE WHEN U RUSH YOUR NOT LETTING YOUR PARTNER GET TO KNOW YOU AND LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU..THEN YOU GET YOUR HEART BROKEN..AND THAT SHIT HURTS...where you feel like you cant breathe,your worried if hes with the other woman...your stalkin his every move.....trust me lol dont rush into love give it time...but it takes two to be in love..
i know im in love this is my second time. I know the first time whhen it ended i really could not let it go it was so hard but then i found this other guy my currrent boyfriend, and he really loves me. It really was hard fallin in love the second time because after my first i thought it would never happen again they god it did. But when u fall in love u wiil know and it is nothing like lust at all.
I feel like when you are in love with someone, you can envision spending the rest of your life with that person. Being in love goes beyond the physical. It's a spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical companionship. With lust, you can't see yourself being with that person for the rest of your life. It's purely physical. Of course a little bit of emotion will play in, but it is largely physical. When you are in love you can stop searching for "the one" cause you found him/her. That's just me..
Failed Love can be painful, because you pour yourself into someone, and therefore you feel empty when they hurt you. It takes time to become filled again. there are many people that would prefer not to fall in love, because when it goes wrong it's the most painful feeling of all. However when you live your life, at some point you will love again. You may use that love for only family, but you will love again.
This is a big subject , Love or Lust. To me Love go's beyond the physical it is a God given bond between Man and Woman. perfect love there no fear and it will not hurt you ,hit you or control you.Lust is the base of alot of problems in relationships ...it all about what the urge it wants it will not stand under pressure and it will leave u empty. Love is wonderful ..take the time to find real love , for it will stand the test of time
I can't eat when I was in love. can't sleep. Every phone call, I'm hoping that it is him. I carried that man in my spirit, When i am away from him more then an hour, I don't know what to do with myself. I pray for him more than I pry for myself. And his smile just lights my world. (lol)(lol) you remember those lines, huh. You are so right in what you say about being in love. Great vid. Thank you. I hope this made you smile alittle. (lol) ;-D
For me love has stages, in the beginning, I had a glow about me. I would be smiling and not even notice it. Its like the feeling you get when you received your most fav gift but multiplied by 100. Love for me was being concerned for him even more than myself. I wondered what he was thinking and where he was at the weirdest times. Now we can look at each other and say volumes but say nothing at all. Showing respect, commitment and communication. Now thats love.
when your in luv you'll know no one will have to tell ,you ,you get really unselfish you give more of yourself wow its the best feeling in the world. Its hard to describe in a few lines words
I agree, about the love feeling, I think that its what you feel, if you feel that the way your feeling is stronger than no other than that could be love, just different for different people!!
I am in love, and at the beginning, you don't want them to leave you, you get the butterflies when you see them, yada, yada. But it gets to a point where you are comfortable w/ being with them and it feels natural. But love is a beautiful thing, but as the relationship grows and the love is stronger, it is the greatest feeling ever.
i agree with everything u said... im in love now and thats exaclty how i feel... like if something ever happened to him I wouldnt know wat to do SERIOUSLY!!!
I didn't fall in love until I was 29 years old and I've been with him for 20 years. I had a lot of infatuations and crushes in my teens and twenties until I met him. Our love keeps changing and now , not in our thirties, we know we are soul mates. You are sweet and you will find mr. right because you exude confidence. He'll have to be strong, confident, and successful too.
I am truely in love with my man he does so much for me as well I do for him I mean girl you really would know if your in love with someone one or just lust you would love every thing about that person I mean everything lol
Pretty much sumed up what i was going to say. Geez that stomach ish and all that happened to me before. ...lool Its true...its good to go through that so you can be smarter next time.
"don't act like its just me" hilarious too funny lol
djgymnast07 5 months ago
I'm almost 50 and I don't know what it is! You have to determine is it attraction, lust or an emotional necessity that deflects your self-respect.
All I know, if you can walk away from him/her for a distance of time and keep it movin. If you still feel vastly strong about this person being a part of your life. LOVE!
ladyrose01z 1 year ago
I haven't been in love before but I've been in lust which lead to lots of sex then it dies down and you like blah next lol
MrSexxxy20 1 year ago
SO REAL
msbuttrfly504 1 year ago
me gusta mocho los comentario esta muchacha ella es buena muy muy buena.
Maria98321 1 year ago
So true!! You gotta be ready for yourself!!!
HourGlassbyLove 1 year ago
Ateyaaa i was the same way with my ex. I was soooo in love with him i thought about him ALL da tyme and we tlkd to each other 24/7. like we would have deep convos like from 1 in the morning until 1 the next morning and i knew it was tru love b/c we were inseperable i couldnt go 5 mins w/o tlkn to him and 2 this day i think i still have feelins 4 him b/c we really didnt break up sumthin bad happened n we jus had 2 end our relationship. well thats my love experience.
bmcgowan18 2 years ago
I ean really relate to you, I felt this way for ten years now it's been five years since I been single, I just don't want another relationship feeling like that my heart was too broke a then the person you fell inlove with years later is the father of your son and a crake head!
97superjason 2 years ago
That's a good one Ateyaa. I'm in my 40's and sometimes get the Love/Lust mixed up.
ladyrose01z 2 years ago
Yes! Preach! This video is the dead truth! You just described how I was with my ex!!
NvrSettle 2 years ago
hey when are you going to do another video for cooking i love those!
tnn4life 2 years ago
OMG PREACH GIRL!!!
MszMwilliams90 2 years ago
ATEYA I CAN RELATE!!! Enough said!
titideedee 2 years ago
MissAmerica2008, I totally agree with you 100%. True love is of God, and does not wear off. And I think that it's important to love someone the right way. Which is not putting all your eggs in one basket...If you divide your eggs between God and your partner, then the foundation of your relationsgip cannot be damaged or destroyed...
missallen777 2 years ago
I am so glad you spoke on things you know about and your own personal feelings as a single woman. Cause love as a married woman and a mother is different and only through experience can a person understand it.
DeltaEssence79 2 years ago
love last...
DeltaEssence79 2 years ago
God is love. If there is no foundation of the Father then there is no love. Love is not some mushy feeling or really liking someone because that wears off. It's recognizing the spirit inside of a person, embracing them for who they are, and realizing what you can contribute to better them and vice versa. That's why there are so many divorces, broken families, single parent households...we don't know love. We know flesh. Love is real...so is God.
MissAmerica2008 2 years ago 3
I guess I'm in the like phrase, I do know what love is from my past relationship, now this person I'm talking to now is so cool and we get alone so well I decided to take things slow, and I feel everyone should try it it's also fun learning new things about a person and not having your emotions get in the way I just feel people are moving to fast these day and are not truly finding out what true love is, if you wait it will come and you won't have to question it.
valerie1485 2 years ago
I believe you should never get that wraped up into anyone..because any person can let you down..its a matter of understanding people and life......but love is unconditional like they type of love you have for your family, parents and children... lust is a desire for the flesh of another if your religous its considered a sin..and sins do not bring good results....
ajserene 2 years ago
im guilty of lust!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
FavoritePurple 2 years ago
I FEEL YOU ON THIS!!!
NvrSettle 2 years ago
Again enjoyed the Boss Ladi show! Keep it up mam!
Porsha1LOVE 2 years ago
Yes I was there and when I was this guy couldn't no one tell me anything!! But when we broke up, and I got involved with someone else I knew what to expect and I had my guard up..We crossed paths a few years ago, (my ex) he wanted to rekindle the flame, I told him no..the past is in the past, and he did commend me for being strong..!! LOL
sabri35 2 years ago
Hey everyone...It's Boss Ladi Toya in the building! Ateya, I just wanted to say that it was my pleasure to do the interview and the interview was great. Keep doing you, girl. I hope to work together with you soon. It will be GREAT! Be Blessed!
babydoll1229 2 years ago
It's not just you girl, it's not just you. We've (men and women)all have been there. That place is a crazy house. I think your brain shuts down and your not thinking right.
Leianess 2 years ago
Girl so SO true, because when I met my husband I lost my MIND for that man, I wanted to be with him everyday every hour, when we where apart I was feeling horrible until I was with him again.
I LOVE LOVE =)
KierstenKay 2 years ago
When some of my friends fall in love it's like they forget themselves and also forget their friends and everything
I like the kind of love that the two know how to balance... best friend/lover kinda love... Where both don't let their love stop them from other things..
I dunno how it feels to be in love but it must make you feel kinda obliged to please/be there for your partner because that's what i see. I mean, it looks like flowers and roses atimes but it can make people lose their minds.
ladefizz 2 years ago
I've never been in love... And honestly, I don't know if i'm ready for it.
It's like this:
When I see my friends and other aquantances when they are "in love"... It's like they now have this barrier around them and they forget themselves and focus SOLELY on their partner. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't spend time with your man or be with him alot.... But people in love need to know how to balance!!
ladefizz 2 years ago 2
ikr sometimes they can go a lil overboard lol but hey i was once guilty of da same crime
bmcgowan18 2 years ago
Yess Yess yes
shardeysharelle 2 years ago
Everyone's experience is different, true. One test I put myself through is this: "What would I do if I hypothetically couldn't touch him or see him? Would I still be crazy about his mind and heart and be dying to talk to him?" If the answer is yes, it's more than lust - lust is generally about the body. It's just one question to ask. The difference between "love" and "in love" - goodness, that's a whole other hundred thousand words!
BrickRoux 2 years ago
I feel that everyone's experience is different. The truth is that if you have to ask, it isn't love. You don't have to force true love. No only that but true love that you feel should never surpass the love you have for God and yourself.
shehasavoice2 2 years ago
when in love you want to marry him and have kids ,grow old together be there truly through good and bad rich or poor he's your hero , in lust its just sexual attraction theres nothing else in common but the feeling is so good that you think its love but he doesn't take you out or tell you he love you or hold your hand if he does its only in bed a guy told me its called "pillow talk" its all about sex,
Ashanti808 2 years ago 2
you know i love the feeling of love, you just feel so special but when it's all gone, its like the best thing that you felt is also the worst thing that you felt. I just hate it when love turns into lying, cheating and jealousy...UGH!
bubblegirl1993217 2 years ago
Hi God Bless,
You more or less hip the nail on the head. I have been in love a couple of time, but never to the point if I was being dogged I could not say later. I don't roll like that God first Christ second and my family third and my friends just as much as I love myself. Later sweetie hope you're not reading any native messages.
LaCharla13 2 years ago
ateyaa i think ur definition of "in love" is more like "infatuation". Real love can stand the test of time and takes a lot of work and is not all flowers and roses and lovey dovey. It is compromise and deep commitment and accepting the ugly along with the beautiful in a relationship.
Lust is just purely sex, horniness and hormones. lol
Real love should be the best of bothworlds but it will also be the worst at times. But if you are both respectuful of each other it will stand the test.
LifeAftr6 2 years ago 10
Love is a disease
Turns you into someone you don't want to be.
ksha 2 years ago
I feel you girl!
SimplyAmiRa 2 years ago
Being in love can bring out the best & worst in you and make you do things you never thought you would do. I believe that a person knows whether or not he/she is in love is when EVERYTHING about the relationship & the 2 people involved clicks.
Greendestiny122388 2 years ago
girl preach! that was me bout 5 year ago. this dude had me buggin but I'm back to reality now lol!
bpt80ct 2 years ago
Girl get out of my bedroom lol I have the same set in King.
moeevehouston 2 years ago
this may sound like a cliche' but when you are in love you really want to be a better you..You start wanting to UP your game, more responsible, healthier, look better, eat better,..lust has the opposite effect, you find yourself deteriorating
epd0126 2 years ago 4
I agree with you a healthy love is wanting whats best for the other person and the best for yourself. It's not uneven or unreciprocated. Its a mutual "wanting" to grow old together and working, talking and walking towards the same goal. Its not material is spiritual.
nynalani 2 years ago
You are so right, I find myself doing that exact thing...
songbird4u 2 years ago
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jasminedenor 2 years ago
Amen....I felt the same way, And when you are done, it is on your time.
MSMILLA 2 years ago
OMG I can totally relate to what you was saying about being inlove that is how I felt with my husband still do but you are so right it does feel just like that SMOOCHES DIVA
muffinismylovers 2 years ago
love is sacrificing i and becomming we
tierrasings4u 2 years ago
loving someone is giving them the power to destroy you, but trusting them not to.
slimcutie08 2 years ago 2
Being in love is undescribable. I've been with the same person for 4 years now and when he calls I get this huge smile on my face, when I see him nothing else matters. I cant go 5 mins without talking with him lol. You couldnt have described it better, you were right on point!
ladiig0tswaqq 2 years ago
My personal opinion, people confuse love for infatuation. Love is action. Love is when, as you said, your first thought of the day is that person's well being..your actions go to that..the butterflies and all of that is the beginning...real love outlasts the butterflies in the stomach, & the "I hang up..no u hang up..hang up on 3.." You never know being in REAL love, until you have found that person that you ARE spending the rest of your life with...and you have no regrets. I'm living it.
jas4xj 2 years ago
I just don't understand how Ateya is single LOL. Fine, independent, no kids, and a nice body 2. You must be crazy..deranged like Martin say lol j/k
omeirdeleon 2 years ago 2
yes i'm in luv right now with this guy that i can't even be with n it's killing me:-(
jerseygirl149 2 years ago
I feel youon this one. I have been with my man for 5 years and we still lovey dovey on each other. We always make sure we tell each other we love each other, never go to sleep upset and tell each other how much we mean to each other. Love is amazing, complicated, wonderful ... it's exhillarating!. I luv my boo and I am so grateful he found me and put the work in to show me true love.
danioverton1 2 years ago
Im 31. And I was with a guy i was in love with between ages 22-25.I knew i was in love when i realized he loved me so much that he never 2nd guessed anything i needed or wantd. Not material things but emotionally and physically. If was having a bad day before he did anything else he made sure my day got better. when was sick and couldn't get to bed and crashed on the couch,i woke up to him layng beside couch on da floor. He never felt unsure about me or our love and that blew me out the water.:)
ruralglamour 2 years ago 2
Love is a decision to look past mistakes and issues and remain by the side of you significant other. It is not goosebumps, or butterflies, it is a decision.
Lust is truly physical. You like the physical..the looks or the sex. This can turn into love though...my 6 marriage is a result. We lusted initially but we then fell in love.
Like is...where there is room for another to come in and gain your attention as well. Where as love you decide to give it all to that special person.
Tynishalewis 2 years ago
I am a 24 year old that never really been in love before but I would like to experience it. I do believe that lust is all about physical attraction with little to no emotion. Love is more of a mental and spiritual attraction.
jnellegirl 2 years ago
Being in love is the most painful,wonderful,madnening thing mixed together. It is the best feeling in the world. Nice video Ateeya!
lavvy2585 2 years ago 2
I believe that Love is exactly what scripture says it is: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy,
it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
I've experienced love and if felt just like this to me.
caramelbeauty4U 2 years ago 5
I totally agree with you!
ILorick08 2 years ago
You have put it best. It is not the "butterflies" or the being a fool for someone.....it is being just that as you have put it. Which proverb is that?
jas4xj 2 years ago
I agree, heartbreak is so hard because just like when someone dies you grieve that loss! And its even worse when you dont have closure because it takes even longer to move on. I think lust is when you find yourself more intrigued with the idea of being with that person and love is when you just know despite their flaws you want to be with them, no matter what! I knew when I met my husband he was the one, not right away, but pretty early into the relationship. Weve been married 5 years now
ltoomey82 2 years ago
This is how I knew I was in love with my son's father...and anyone else, just stop and think about this and imagine it...if you were in cardboard box with this person, u and him & ur kids(if u have any) and ya'll were homeless on the street and living in this box, even if he gets on your nerves, if you walk out of that box w/o him, will you miss him? If you say yes, then u in love with him :)
MsGigglez233 2 years ago
YESS thank you Ateya i need that. im a young girl & believe it or not i was ONCE in love, but i will fall in love again with the right god has for me. but really i couldnt go a day without talking to him . . .any of my girls or FAMILY tell me not to talk to him i wouldnt listen to them cuz i loved him so much. he broke up with me . .i felt like i needed him to move on, but for real you will get that wake up call. i did . .he wants me back, but i said "HELL NO"! everyone will go through this.
ThaSilvaDolla 2 years ago
i have been inlove once and i am married to him, beign in love is when you are recpected and adored by your significant other. i just took a class on the 5 languages of love and everything described is a symptom of love and when it wares of that is when you see all the mistakes and everything you didn't know was there. Now, how you deal with things after the "i can't live without you" feelings has worn off, will really let you know that you are "inlove."
misjaguar 2 years ago
OMG!!!! I know exactly what you meant when you were talking about being in love with someone. My ex and I broke up about 5 months ago. It was so hard knowing that we would never be together. We had be together for almost two years and everything that you said about how you would wake up, go to sleep, eat, and just about everything you did you would think about him. But now it's time for me to move on. Cause I know that the person I'm meant to spend my life with is waiting for me. Thank Ateyaaa
MrsSmith021408 2 years ago
I believe that the difference between love and lust, is the amount of time you are willing to invest in a person, no matter the circumstances. If two people are in love, and they are commited, they tend to work through the problems, and communicate. If you are lusting after someone, if he does something studpid, or insults you ect....chances are you are going to keep it moving because his actions are unacceptable. Being in love is your level of selfless-ness toward your mate.
parissharpe 2 years ago
My ex-fiance' in Houston put me through drama, cheating, arguing, and so much more. When we broke up, I moved. I live in LA now and Ive been married 2 yrs. My husband is my soulmate, has NEVER made me cry, and luvs me dearly (luvs my dirty draws) :)
When I look back at my ex, I cant believe I went through that, but had I not, I would not have recognized and appreciated my hubby for the REAL man he is.
TheWritersProject 2 years ago 3
i am in love and about to get married with this person and trust me, i knew he was the one on the first time we talked! i love him since then. you know it right away. i know what you are talking about, i went through the same thing in the past, but i think about it now and doubt if it was love. looking myself in the past and i think it was nothing but going after what you can't get. it's different from being in love.
i so agree with jusme23!
miku1112 2 years ago
I am so agreeing with you!! When I met my husband, I knew he was the one I was gonna marry!! I went through some bulls**t in my past and I knew right away!
travlgirl 2 years ago
who would cheat on ateya???????????????
secretlyconcided 2 years ago 12
I was thinking the same thing as she was telling her story, that just shows men want to conquer all.
prettynpink2035 2 years ago
hi ateya , yep u are soooo right i once was in love and i felt like i had to have this man 24/7 .. when ur in love no one can tell u anything negative about your partner, you feel like without this person u literaly will not servive. so yes u will know the differance between love and lust, lust is all about more of a fleshly desisre for an individual, more less than a emotianal attraction , so yea u will know
ylabeaux1 2 years ago
Yep, I recognise those signs lol. He comes around the corner and your stomach just flips and your heart is fluttering. I didn't believe he could turn out to be the worst thing I ever did, but you live and you learn and you move on. I have someone now I absolutely adore and who knows what real love is and shows me everyday. :) that's some good loving lol
Cutchswife 2 years ago
Yeah, I just went through that over here in Iraq. This dude was a complete liar. It started off right but then he flipped to script completely on me when we went on R&R and then I realized that he was a selfish person. It hurt because I really loved him but he didn't love me in return.
jnette06 2 years ago
i feel like when you feel that crazy sensation and feel like u cant live without that person and dont listen to anyone when they tell u bad things about them...when you cant go a day without talking to them or you go crazy you have to ask yourself if that is infatuation or love. i think INFATUATION can make you do crazy things but i think love is something much more sincere and not at all crazy
lebronluvsaj 2 years ago
I know what u mean about being in love cuz I was with this guy who was cheating on me with my best friend and somone told me about but I didn't listen. Until I couldn't take anymore that is when I had the courage to leave.
Carribeanbabie 2 years ago 4
sorry you had to go through that hunny
summermonroe20 2 years ago
Aww thanks but yes I had my heart shattered...lol but its all good cause he wants me back and IT AINT HAPPENING!!!
Ateyaaa 2 years ago
ROTFLMAO
jeanettew808 2 years ago
everything u said was so true.i have a friend i met last year and we have been close ever since nd he has the best personality, i started noticing tht i think about him alot nd i thought i really liked him, i never told him. i dnt think he likes me more than a friend,but everytime i see him i get butterflies in my stomach nd i feel like nobody can bring me down.i havent seen him since school, but this summer i realized that i cant be without him. i love him nd he doesnt kno. i dnt kno wat to do?
arabiandelight16 2 years ago
LOVE is a BEAUTIFUL thing! I'm in LOVE for the FIRST time in my life!!!! It feels so good! It is completely different from lust! Trust me!
blkwmrsn 2 years ago
Loving the lighting.. The hair is georg... Work it honey!
MrsRoss02 2 years ago
Lust is the immediate attraction and desire to consummate that attraction. Lust is like a match. It burns intensely, but not for very long. Love develops over time as you get to know everything about the person who initially attracted you. After a year, when you've seen all the best and the worst in that person and you can still say that you love them, it's love. Love is like glowing embers, just as intense as the match, but continues to burn if fanned by compatibility and mutual values.
jusme23 2 years ago 3
I think people are confused a lot between love and infatuation. I don't believe love HAS to be full of drama, heartache, anxiety, and taking over your life. I am in love and at first I will admit that I had that anxiety about him and not wanting to get hurt, and butterflies which I still get but that shouldn't and won't last. I have only TRULY been in love once and to TRULY be in love to me u have to have that first FALSE love that you thought was true to recognize real lasting ADULT love.
Thickumz2002 2 years ago
i agree this vid was on point !
Spiderwoman74 2 years ago
Girl...you are speaking the truth. I agree 100%.
bkjane 2 years ago
Love is something you truly know. I have only been in love once, and it was just as you describe. That person is always with you even when you two are apart. Very emotional. And lust is just an electric physical attraction. Once you "knock him down" or in other words have sex once maybe even twice, that desire to have that person disappear. It's almost as though after the sex you see them clearly. Lust is very tricky because you may actually think you are in love, but sex/love are diff.
Victorylives33 2 years ago 2
I admit i'm in love. I get that fluttery feeling in my stomach and it kills me inside when i dont hear from him! But putting God first and lettn no man come before him is key.
darkdonatellah7 2 years ago 2
Love is about what you can give. (unselfish)
Lust is about what you can take. (selfish)
Falling in love is a beautiful thing between two People. "It's Amazing"
Ang
betterthaneverbeen 2 years ago
Love isn't a feeling. Its an action. Like an ability (:
It takes time and effort.
FOREVERNEiSHA 2 years ago 2
★★Love and Lust... If u really diggin a person try and see if u could see urself married and raising kids w/ this person depending on their morals and values.. and if u cant see it. ur prob highly in LUST. thats wrks perfect 4 me. and if u can see urself married to them, doesnt mean their the one. just worth the shot. dont go head over heels to quick. it will hurt more in the end. <3<3
kandiluvzu 2 years ago
You are such a beautiful and intelligent lady. From my experience Love takes time and it will sneak up on you when you least expect it. Being in-love with someone you will know it by all the mixture of emotions that come on you at any given moment. You will feel like without that person you are not complete and you will find yourself thinking about them all the time. You will put that persons needs before your own and you care about their feelings. Lust will get old fast..
songbird4u 2 years ago
i wish i could fall in love one day
Jonilee4292 2 years ago
ive never been in love (scary b/c im 24yrs old) but i know that i cant rewrite the Lords plan for me....but i know that with love comes a lot of scarifice and compromise....youll have your ups and dwns but sticking things through is always important. but most importantly you cant lose sight as to who you are...(i know ppl that do and its a shame) and you cant adjust your wills, morals, and belief for anyone!!! thats my take on things....:-) im sure its a beautiful journey....cant wait
Luvluxkat 2 years ago 2
I agree with you Luvluxkat....and don't feel bad about not never being in love...I am 32 now and I never been in love....I think I am actually scared of it though...
yummi29 2 years ago
to me, the worst part of love is that when you are truly in love, you make this person your best friend, your everything, your support center. and then when you break up.. you feel empty. i agree with you on the love and lust. love is overwhelming and emotionally taxing..lust is well.. you know.
SistaSledge101 2 years ago
You did a great job with the differences. I was in love once but I ran away from it and didn't act like should of because I was scared but now Im in a better place and is ready for love but refuse to put up with bs. I have had my sare of bs and males tryin to play me like Im stupid. So now Im takng my time and just playing it as it goes nothin serious at the moment.
ibrown00 2 years ago
What do you think about when a person is not in love nor lust, but basically is still in the relationship because the other party will not allow it to be over? Even when the person purposely becomes everthing the other says is not their type.
tlogroove 2 years ago
LOVE HURTS..THATS WHY ITS BETTER TO TAKE YOUR TIME AND NOT RUSH INTO ANYTHING..BECAUSE WHEN U RUSH YOUR NOT LETTING YOUR PARTNER GET TO KNOW YOU AND LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU..THEN YOU GET YOUR HEART BROKEN..AND THAT SHIT HURTS...where you feel like you cant breathe,your worried if hes with the other woman...your stalkin his every move.....trust me lol dont rush into love give it time...but it takes two to be in love..
jeanettew808 2 years ago 4
i know im in love this is my second time. I know the first time whhen it ended i really could not let it go it was so hard but then i found this other guy my currrent boyfriend, and he really loves me. It really was hard fallin in love the second time because after my first i thought it would never happen again they god it did. But when u fall in love u wiil know and it is nothing like lust at all.
Lilhaze1 2 years ago
I agree, now I know love someone an being (in love) it is a different.I know that!!~!!!
MzCarmelLion 2 years ago
I feel like when you are in love with someone, you can envision spending the rest of your life with that person. Being in love goes beyond the physical. It's a spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical companionship. With lust, you can't see yourself being with that person for the rest of your life. It's purely physical. Of course a little bit of emotion will play in, but it is largely physical. When you are in love you can stop searching for "the one" cause you found him/her. That's just me..
melbluvtouch 2 years ago 5
girl you pretty much summed it up lol!
camsygirls1979 2 years ago
Well said!
colorfulcandy777 2 years ago
my opinion, i think ppl should stay away from love. It hurts even if you with or not with the person.
special907 2 years ago
Failed Love can be painful, because you pour yourself into someone, and therefore you feel empty when they hurt you. It takes time to become filled again. there are many people that would prefer not to fall in love, because when it goes wrong it's the most painful feeling of all. However when you live your life, at some point you will love again. You may use that love for only family, but you will love again.
arisdi1025 2 years ago 8
im in love!
i say when your in love you will need to ask no questions. it will be so natrual. The best part is that he loves me just as much as i love him.
It needs three parts. intimacy, trust, and friendship.
weve been together for almost 2 years and i still git butterflies wen i see him! lol
dreaface214 2 years ago
This is a big subject , Love or Lust. To me Love go's beyond the physical it is a God given bond between Man and Woman. perfect love there no fear and it will not hurt you ,hit you or control you.Lust is the base of alot of problems in relationships ...it all about what the urge it wants it will not stand under pressure and it will leave u empty. Love is wonderful ..take the time to find real love , for it will stand the test of time
thcsoul 2 years ago 6
I can't eat when I was in love. can't sleep. Every phone call, I'm hoping that it is him. I carried that man in my spirit, When i am away from him more then an hour, I don't know what to do with myself. I pray for him more than I pry for myself. And his smile just lights my world. (lol)(lol) you remember those lines, huh. You are so right in what you say about being in love. Great vid. Thank you. I hope this made you smile alittle. (lol) ;-D
happydimples39 2 years ago 2
I did enjoy the radio show. I wasn't able to log in, but I was able to hear it, and it was very cool.
arisdi1025 2 years ago
For me love has stages, in the beginning, I had a glow about me. I would be smiling and not even notice it. Its like the feeling you get when you received your most fav gift but multiplied by 100. Love for me was being concerned for him even more than myself. I wondered what he was thinking and where he was at the weirdest times. Now we can look at each other and say volumes but say nothing at all. Showing respect, commitment and communication. Now thats love.
nikki841alex 2 years ago 3
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PolkaDottedLuv 2 years ago
what hair is this its nice
nailzngyrlystuff 2 years ago
when your in luv you'll know no one will have to tell ,you ,you get really unselfish you give more of yourself wow its the best feeling in the world. Its hard to describe in a few lines words
trixieaunt 2 years ago
I agree, about the love feeling, I think that its what you feel, if you feel that the way your feeling is stronger than no other than that could be love, just different for different people!!
funNsweetx3 2 years ago
I am in love, and at the beginning, you don't want them to leave you, you get the butterflies when you see them, yada, yada. But it gets to a point where you are comfortable w/ being with them and it feels natural. But love is a beautiful thing, but as the relationship grows and the love is stronger, it is the greatest feeling ever.
LoVeHoNeSTyLoYaLTy 2 years ago 3
Well said :)
PolkaDottedLuv 2 years ago
Great video Ms. Ateya, keep it up!
RiGolettoMicFiend 2 years ago 3
soooo true.. you said it right ..when your in love you will feel it and no can tell you different ..
ladyluv1000 2 years ago
i agree with everything u said... im in love now and thats exaclty how i feel... like if something ever happened to him I wouldnt know wat to do SERIOUSLY!!!
sonjaonyx8 2 years ago
This was so on point!!!!! I love my husband so much, and I still get that same feeling that I had 4 years ago.
prettygyrl83 2 years ago
So true!!!!:):)
loverofmakeup73 2 years ago
I didn't fall in love until I was 29 years old and I've been with him for 20 years. I had a lot of infatuations and crushes in my teens and twenties until I met him. Our love keeps changing and now , not in our thirties, we know we are soul mates. You are sweet and you will find mr. right because you exude confidence. He'll have to be strong, confident, and successful too.
meanmisty 2 years ago 2
yes girl i know what you mean. i have been there! it took me a year to get over his behind!!!
lfutrell82 2 years ago
good vid!
fedicia1 2 years ago
ive been in love befor and girl i know what youre saying with those butterflys in the stomache, BEST FEELING EVER, take care you rock, love ya
brendainny 2 years ago
I agree with everything you said. I guess I'm in love too, but I need to move on
divatude314 2 years ago
I am truely in love with my man he does so much for me as well I do for him I mean girl you really would know if your in love with someone one or just lust you would love every thing about that person I mean everything lol
sweetpoonanny77 2 years ago
Wow ii neva been iin love but ii would liike tew see how iit feels i heard iit feels out of thiis world
augaplum1995 2 years ago
Pretty much sumed up what i was going to say. Geez that stomach ish and all that happened to me before. ...lool Its true...its good to go through that so you can be smarter next time.
soca33 2 years ago
wow then i must be inlove lol . i feel that way right now ....
JAYLOR07 2 years ago
this is so true and AMAZING!!!!
mpmsgirl 2 years ago
so true!!
jhoneye 2 years ago