Rumination: No Love, No Sex - How long is too long?

[TheOneWhoisDrunk]

2 years later! Honestly I believe that I would get to into work and not worry about having a relationship. I never really persued one in the first place so I see it as normal everyday life if I continue with out a significant other.

[Zeeroyuy]

I'm a little late but I actually can resonate with your point of view. Not looking for but not apposed to love. I've once gone four years without a significant other. Now that I am single again (about 1.5 years now) and plan to go to Japan I don't even look for S.O.s. Even though I know people are grown and make their own decisions I wouldn't feel right roping someone in and then breaking their heart once I get on that plane.

P.S. I wouldn't rush Marriage just so they can go with me either.

[TaishaJason]

@Zeeroyuy I will agree that it's best to come to Japan unattached unless you plan on going back in only one year or your SO will come to Japan to join you.

[wii7036]

I, like you, am not really looking for anyone and would be fine not settling down but if it were to happen, I wouldn't be opposed.

[shabutie1337]

How long is too long? I went 3+ years w/o sex...I didn't have my first relationship until I was 26... and finding out that expectations of a partner going unfulfilled is even more difficult than being alone. I never pictured myself in a long term relationship up until this year when I turned 31 and I started feeling like I wanted to find someone worthwhile--yet still within me rings the fact I am better living alone in my own space...but companionship I still would like.

[TokyoGaijin23]

Re: Well Im almost ur age 39 A big guy been big my whole life never had girls friends or relationships Or Dates I guess its due to my low confidence or self esteem cause of my weight & how i looked Now as for how long is to long I haven't had sex with a girl since i was 19 & Don't member much as i was drunk I'v lost weight & gained it back just likes you Ima going to have the Lap Band procedure Done soon as in hopes that i will meet my sole mait soon as i want a family

[TaishaJason]

@TokyoGaijin23 Good luck with the big change - I hope it all goes well for you.

[MrRCRobinosn]

Hey brother, watched most of you vid's, and you've sort of become an inspiration and i would love to become an alt. but back to the Q at hand, i am in my early 20's, i lived in Oz for just under a year, i know there's no language barrier, but i was still a foreigner. I found that i made friends quite quickly. but never got round to the dating side, for me personally i didn't find it troublesome. i think if your happy with being who you are, it doesn't matter whether, your sexually active or not

[ViperaLLAP2U]

Went 10 years before meeting the person I wanted to be with. It was by choice not lack of opportunity. I think if you are happy with yourself, busy enjoying your life and fulfilled socially you don't have that "need". My friends kept asking,"But aren't you lonely? Don't you miss being with someone?" But I did not! I was having so much fun discovering me and my life.

[hyzhenhok]

I had one girlfriend in high school, a relationship that lasted about a year, and haven't had any since (I'm now 21). I realized its something I'm not really interested in pushing, because I don't "get" casual dating, and I don't have room for a serious relationship. I'm not too worried, though.

But you shouldn't be counting yourself down and out at 40! My dad was in his late 40s when he remarried to a (Russian) woman in her early 30s. Just keep an eye open. :)

[TaishaJason]

I'll be keeping both eyes open!  :)

[Ruffian26]

An extremely honest video. I'm currently waiting to hear if my application for JET has been successful and I must say that I really enjoy your videos.

[TaishaJason]

thanks. Good luck with your app.

[mikasaka]

I've gone 18 years so far... coming up to 19 years.

I honestly don't mind right now, but I definately want to have children one day. You can't really miss what you've never experienced right?

[thajonester]

I'm sure you can be a great father and husband if you wanted to. Maybe you can join a church in Japan or some sort of club to hang out with like-minded people. If you have, maybe you can comment on the experience? Good luck on your trip back to Japan!

[TaishaJason]

well - as I'm an atheist, I won't be joining any churches any time soon, but a like-minded club would be fun. We'll see what the future holds - my life is very up in the air right now and nothing's set, but I'm excited about the possibilities.

[pyrpoi]

St. Valentine is also the saint of bee-keepers plague and epilepsy, fun.

The longest I have been without sex is a year and a half, but much of my time has been spent in a long term relationship that has just ended.

I don't think being involved with someone or being sexually active are necessary.

Enjoy Japan again!

[DavidFausset]

I dont think that having a girlfriend is as rewarding as having a good friend. I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years and we live together. It isn't serious but the best thing about it is just having someone to talk too. Im at university right now and if I was on my own I think I would become depressed.

Although when I graduate I am not afraid to be on my own again; even for a few years.

[Niki926]

YEA JASON!!! I am so glad you are going back to Japan!

[TaishaJason]

me too!  :)

[nokomarie1963]

Actually, to finish my thought. My oldest brother is a Jesuit. His focus is his scholastic endeavors and his astounding weight of responsibiltiy. He says he needs friends but would be a terrible husband or father. I believe him. And, yeah, I think he does without sex. I was married 25 years and sex was out the window the last few. He was too sick. What would I do with that? What would I do with someone new? Sometimes there is no room.

[nokomarie1963]

It's OK to be alone. There is a lot more to life than romance. I'm a widow now but I don't anticipate any change.

[SwordOU]

I personally can go for quite a long time without a relationship or sex. I was a non-traditional university student, starting my freshman year right before my 35th birthday. During my 4 years at school, I lived on campus, and I wasn't exactly celibate, but neither was I involved in anything more than the most casual of relationships. Honestly, I was so busy at school that I had little time to miss it... I imagine the same thing can happen to someone in an ALT program or other job in Japan.

[GoSuperMario64]

Sorry about the long comment, maybe I should have made a video response.

Anyway, just read form bottom to the top to read it in order.

[TaishaJason]

thanks for the comments and you should ask that girl out - she might be "the one" and maybe she wants to go to Japan too :)

[GoSuperMario64]

To answer another question. I would not hold myself back from dating in Japan if I get to go. I don't know if I'll want to do it many years, so if I had a girlfriend there it would be nice.

But back to you. You seem to like Japan a lot. I'm sure if you find a girl there where the language barrier is not as big as your past history that maybe she will make a good wife for you. Your 40, your not OLD, keep going after them.

[GoSuperMario64]

The reason I said I think I will end up hurting her is because I don't know what is going to be happening to me when i graduate. I will be applying to the JET program for that following fall so I might be in Japan, I am also going to be apply to some places in California as a video editor if Jet does not except me. If I get to go to ether place and work that is a very long distance. and I would not want to put her through that.

[GoSuperMario64]

I have one girl right now, that I would really like to ask out but I think I will be hurting her in the end. She goes to school with me. Credit wise she is a year below me but she is a couple of years older. I know I am going to graduate in spring 2011 and the earliest she will is Spring 2012.

[GoSuperMario64]

Yo Jason! yea it is a few days late, I should subscribe to this channel too so I know when there is something new here too. anyway.

Yea to answer your questions. I am a 22 year old male. I use to date a lot. But it has been 3 years since I have been in a relations ship. I feel it gets a bit lonely not having a girlfriend at times.

[KikiRikku]

I don't think it's necessary at all but it's difficult to not want, at least to some degree, the comfort that a relationship brings. I believe I could go for around 14 years (after the age of 20) w/o any sort of relationship before feeling the affects of it. I find it hard because people have expressed that they wouldn't date an atheist (like myself) and I wouldn't date someone religious. Don't feel bad Jason! You're a great person who has inspired many! Thanks for the great videos as always! ^^

[BittersweetVictory]

My first boyfriend was at 18, and similarly I had sex for the first time at that age. I feel like since I waited 18 years, I could wait another 18 years as easily. Ultimately, I enjoy the "relationship" part of having a boyfriend wayy better than the "perks" like sex. I'm in a relationship of a year now, but if I were to go to Japan single, I think I'd focus more on living my life than looking for love. But keep your options open Jason, people have married at 65 for the first time!

[Usagi1pyon]

Well im ok with not being with someone, im 34 and never had a girlfriend but to me its no big deal. Im always focusing on the things i want to do in life, getting a girlfriend has never been high on my priority list as like going to japan and learning Japanese as well as being a college bum and taking a ton of courses for fun. I am sure their may be a time in my life ill want to have a significant other but for now my focus and my heart is totally on getting to Japan & learning their culture.

[tengyang2001]

Also, I think its easier to meet people if you live in a bigger city, but first, its important to KNOW WHAT YOU WANT, and NEVER compromise your Standards for women (or for anybody for that matter). Im absolutely sure that there are plenty of women who would be romantically interested after you have acquired enough Japanese; I really think its the language barrier. And to me, having a family after youre ready to settle down makes life more fulfilling.

[TaishaJason]

I hope so... I need to make a deal with Shimane - I'll work on my Japanese and they need to work on having more single women above 30... :)

[tengyang2001]

In order to have any meaningful and fulfilling relationships at all, people need to be able to really understand each other. Communication is like a bridge, it connects places that would otherwise be inaccessible. Therefore, I think its supremely important that enough Japanese is acquired to build a sturdy bridge.

[tengyang2001]

Im 26 years old, single, and havent had sex for a year now. From my own personal experience, I have noticed that as I got older, sex becomes less important and greater emphasis is placed on intimacy and friendship. Whats more important to me is to establish a genuine connection first; sex occurs naturally as the relationship progresses. To me, sex isnt too important, rather its self-development and personal growth; you'll naturally attract things you want after you're self-developed.

[NaruXD]

To be honest i didn't find it that hard to find a girl in japan, but i'll admit i'm only 25 (tomorrow 26 yay) and I spent my time in Osaka.

In December I came out of a 3.5 year relationship feeling all crap but then the winterbreak in Japan made me feel all good about myself again. So if you're younger and located near a bigger city don't think you'll have much problems.

Just head out to where the people are like Club Pure, Sam & Dave or just any space you think you can meet someone.

[mostawesomestjes]

I think I could be okay without a significant other. I've not been without one for a long time though. My fiance and I have dated for a little over 4 years. I guess being away for three years is kind of like being without one in a way, but we still talk almost every night on skype. This is the first time I've lived alone too. I enjoy it a lot. I don't know how I am going to readjust to sharing a house with my fiance.

It's been too long without sex for sure ^_^ (4 years... eesh!)

[YokosukaPatrick]

You're coming back?! YES! Are you going to be located in Shimane again or will you be closer to Tokyo? Maybe Nagoya which is where the gist of the JVlogging community is? Either way, this would be a great opportunity to finally meet you Jason! By the way, to answer the question, the longest I've gone without a relationship was 5 years, longest without sex was 3 years. I wasn't expecting anything, stuff just happens I guess. How long is too long? Well, that depends on the individual. Ja~!

[TaishaJason]

I'm going back to Shimane in March for a visit, and then I'll be working in Japan somewhere else starting in July.

[nyannyan123456]

iam 32 ,married to a good woman, we dont have children. although she pushes the subject often. jason i feel like you as for the kid thing. i feel i could be a good father, but the thought of losing more of my personal freedom scares the crap out of me.

[Owner46]

Relationships are not particularly important for me. But as far as sex goes, 2 weeks tops.

[nyannyan123456]

i dont think it would be to hard to find someone in japan. i vacation in tottori ,and the girls seem out going there. i think a lot of them just want to speak english to gaijin ,but hey it could be a good ice breaker.

[RainartXIII]

I'm 25 and the only relationship I've been was with a girl who turned out to be cheating on her boyfriend. How long Could i go? I went 24 years, so...I don't think that's an issue. I share similar ideas as you do, Jason. I don't know if I really want to get married, but maybe I would like kids someday. I don't like the idea of marriage as much as most do. When and if I go to Japan, I don't have any expectations of meeting anyone, or attempting a relationship as I wouldn't be there long enough.

[SuperKDot]

I'm 28 and it has been around 7 years since I've been in a serious relationship. There are some days that come around and I really long for that companionship, but for the most part I'm just living my life to the fullest. If I am meant to find love again, it can find me and I am not going to sit around waiting for it and missing out on life. :)

All the best in Japan, can't wait to see the new videos!

[graphicartman]

Jason I really enjoy all your vids, but if you took the time to sit on the other side of the camera and watch your own vids over the last few years I think you would sometime see a lonely look in your eyes.

[TaishaJason]

well - I do try to share and be sincere in the vids - but I don't do a daily vlog or share all aspects of my life. But this idea of going back to Japan for a possibly extended period of time got me to thinking about the topic of finding love/sex, etc.

I am lonely sometimes, but to be honest, I've felt more lonely in America at times these past few months than I ever did in Japan.

[LoneWolf852]

Do you have any thoughts as to why that is?

[StatuesBleedingGreen]

I really enjoyed this vlog

Hey man, it's not like you're ugly! I'm sure you'll find love one of these days. I know you're not specifically on the lookout for a wife but, hey, why not pay for some japanese lessons. You could always do a speed-dateing session in a bigger city with women your age or maybe you could force yourself to be on the lookout more.

Well, I wish you the best of luck Jason! I feel like I know you and hope your life turns out good!

[TaishaJason]

focusing on my Japanese language skills is priority one when I get back to Japan.

[markshmily]

Interesting video

I am single.... but I have a roommate.. so I wouldn't say I was alone. I never really feel lonely though. Sure there are some things about having a girlfriend that would be great.. but I can do without alot of useless drama and headache.

[Gaeilge2000]

Hey Jase, I was pretty heavy when I was studying in Japan MANY MOONS AGO. I had friends and all that, but I tried making the best of what I had. I had my friends, I had my studies to keep me busy and I had Tanaka-San's bakery on a street corner outside my university! He'd always catch me on my way home and give me a free sampling of his baked goods! I also travelled throughout Japan during my stay. Of course, I travel solo or with friends, but I gain from the experience I have.

[GuitarSlingerPK]

I had always thought I would be fine being single when I was a few years younger, but I'm not so sure now. I think it depends on the person, but I'm not the type who could live alone my whole life and get enough joy from work or hobbies to fill the void, though I wish I was, as it would make my life easier for now. How long is too long....well let's see how old am I...^_^

[Zojo87]

I've gone 22 years (and still counting) without a bf or sex. I think I can manage another 2 years or more if I go to Japan (^-^)

Btw, Jason have you ever thought about adoption?? I think you can still be a cool Dad!!!

[TaishaJason]

yes - if I came back to settle down in the US, adoption might be an option.

Of course, I could meet a woman who already has kids from a previous marriage and inherit some that way too.

[Zojo87]

Don't worry Jason. I didn't mention it in my earlier comment but there is always the chance that you'll meet someone with or without children that you can start a family with.

That option will never be crossed off the cards (^-^)

Hope to see you vlogging back in Japan soon!!

[jessman1999]

I'm 29 and have been single for over 3 years now. I want to find someone to settle down with not that I am almost 30. So, I know I can go a while while out sex, but do miss that physical intimacy with a significant other. I have never been one for the bar scene or 1 night hook-ups.

[AcousticAiden]

Back in high school I was known for being popular with the ladies. But ever since highschool ended, I just haven't really met anyone I really care enough for to start a relationship with. So I guess I can say the past few years I've been out of the game. I think I can hold out without sex or a relationship for awhile. It's been a few years already. I'm just concentrating on my future.

[AcousticAiden]

You would have been a great father, Jason. I'd like to see you one day come out and say in a video you are getting married and will be having a kid. I'm sure you will enjoy it once you have found that miss right.

[Enthir]

I was single for almost four-five years from 22 to a bit past 26. I lost track at some point so I am not 100% sure. Five years is a very long time to be single, but only if you are looking for five years. I did not have sex the last 2 years of my "singledom" I was not looking, so it wasn't that long for me. I only missed being in a relationship when I was seriously down.

I am guessing it is very relative and depends upon who you are and what your ideals are.

[kansaiPJ]

You are coming back in March? Great!!

Very thoughtful. I would tell you how long I've gone, but I don't want to see it in writing. LOL!

[TaishaJason]

gonna PM you guys soon with the details - hope we can meet up again. :)

[drhikarisan]

It's been a long time for me already. While I certainly hope to find someone special and eventually get married I think I could make it if not but it would be really really hard.

[pipster06]

love always seems to come when your not looking. I don't think i could last long without a partner, i think i'd feel too lonely, especially in a foreign country! but i'd really like to go, its one of those difficult decisions. i'd probably be able to go for 6 months to over a year by myself, but i don't think i could hack 5 years!

[stormko]

Good video. I like your honesty.

[TaishaJason]

thanks - I like your comment. :)

[42317]

Man, what a question! :-)

I had my first girlfriend when I was 12yo, but I lacked maturity and so she broke up. After that, hurt and insecure, it took 10 years before I touched another woman, living with her ever since.

I didn't, don't, and wouldn't miss the exchange of body fluids, not at all. But I realized that I need the love part, the mutual emotions, to save me from insanity.

Now that I'm heading towards the mid-thirties I feel I certainly want a marriage and a kid or two.

[joebevis92]

5* for going back to Japan

[KafkaOshima]

Of course this is just my situation, my return for the last year of my course is unavoidable, if a stay was possible if I found someone, maybe my answer would be different, but as it is, I have no plans to start a relationship in Japan.

[KafkaOshima]

Well, I'll be spending a year in Japan from September 2011 as part of my degree course, and if I find myself going out there single, I basically plan on not going out with anyone while I'm out. The simple reason behind this is that I just think it would be too difficult at the end of the year to either end it, or head back to the UK and keep up a long-distance relationship.

[TaishaJason]

yeah - which is one reason many Japanese women are hesitant to enter into a relationship with a foreign guy - cuz 90% of them leave after 1 or 2 years.

[KafkaOshima]

@TaishaJason Massively, massively late reply, but I noticed your reply in my inbox today for the first time. Just got me thinking back to when I posted my first comment; since then I've entered into a relationship with a Japanese girl who I met on exchange at my Uni in the UK, but have to wait a year before I go out to Japan and get to properly spend time with her again. Basically just wanted to say that you never know who might be worth it, said I couldn't do long distance, and look at me now!

[TaishaJason]

@KafkaOshima well, good luck with it. I too am trying to keep myself open to different possibilities.

[JDavis1186]

I've been single for... six years now?

I made no attempt at starting a relationship during college because I was busy with coursework... Also I was planning to go to Japan after graduation, and didn't really want anything serious to develop only to have to break it off or attempt a long-distance thing.

I can easily go the two-five years I intend to spend in Japan without a girlfriend. However, a serious relationship would be the primary reason I'd stay longer.

[LolRoxors]

Sex shouldn't be a man's first thing to find when out of his element. Personally, when I go to Japan, itl take me nearly 10 years to take it all in before I do some serious stuff with someone I love/like/etc.

[HouseInVisus]

Tough question, I'm still in my 20s but I've never really been in a relationship, and maybe Ill change my mind later, but I don't have any desire to start one. In fact, I enjoy living alone. Maybe a bit too much.

[TaishaJason]

yeah - I didn't want to become that hobbit man in his cave in Taisha during my last few years, so I did try to attend JET events and be involved, but then YouTube came along and stole all my will to interact with "real people" hahaha

[Graehaus]

me and my lady, have been together 19 years as of Feb 6th, and getting hitched this August. (Finally). Hard to say, i know people I know, my brother is hapy being GF-less. he has cool toys to play with, (computers, Wii, Xbox, etc.) and he is not looking, probably would like a GF, but it isn't important.

[TaishaJason]

congrats man - all the best!

[Hunter2621]

Currently I've gone 6 years without being in a relationship. No sex or dating in that time either and I plan on at least doing this for another year because of school. This hasn't been too rough on me since there has always been something I've been focused on.

I think I could easily do a year or two in Japan without a relationship too. It wouldn't be ideal, but I could be fine with it if that's how things played out.

I think it's only "too long" when you start to feel lonely or incomplete.

[rickyruffle]

It's kind of hard to say in terms of "difficulty"...

In a big city like Tokyo or Osaka I think they are many attractive females who are interested in foreigners. But then there's the difficult step of finding someone who you click with, someone who's personality and lifestyle you admire, someone who's worth seeing again.

It's kind of depressing in a way, knowing that you may never meet the "perfect one" in the sea of millions. But I think we have to at least try ^_^

[TaishaJason]

I'll keep trying - but I guess I'm not overly concerned about it or optimistic about it - but if it happens I'll welcome it

[Blueheart556]

I could go a Very long time without a relationship. Because of where I live, the demographic here has turned me off to that Idea. On top of that I do not have any desire to ever get married..I never have. I keep alot of friends as I dont like the idea of being lonely but I also love being alone. I have lived alone for a year and I loved it, Im back at home now (money decided). So I think I would do just fine for any length of time. As casual sex is easy enough to find. Im 18.

[melnoad]

Does Japan have a Big Brother type program that you can get involved in? It would be a good way to have a consistent impact on someone's life.

Only you can say how long it is for you. I know if somehow I lost my boyfriend now, I'd be single for a long time too.

[TaishaJason]

yeah - I hope no matter where I end up working I can still volunteer in the community and work with young people - it really is rewarding and fun

[hoosierhana]

i'm currently single for about 4 months now, it was a 3 1/2 year relationship. i tend to be with one person for a long time, then am single for a long time. maybe with a few dates in between relationships. i'm okay with being alone and sometimes it's nice to be "free" for lack of a better term. i'd like to marry someday, but it's not at the top of my priority list at the moment. but i feel i'm fine with or without someone.

ps, you would be a cool dad ^_^

[TaishaJason]

anything is possible right, so I'm not ruling out getting married - I guess I just don't stress about it as much as American culture would like me to. :)

Thanks for the comment.

[TheWoodnut]

I, too, liked living alone.

The longest I've been single was 5 yrs, and I've been single now for 4 mos, and I'm ok with that. I'd like a bf, but I'm not actively looking. I do want to eventually marry. I want to go to Japan, but I think it's unlikely I'll find a guy there. If I do, that's cool, but I expect I'll stay single while I'm there.

[TaishaJason]

I think more female JETs I've known have found a mate among the other male JETs than with Japanese men - JET couples are pretty common.

[EzKitty]

I can't make a comment on either since I haven't experienced either at 23. My thoughts are I'm not fully happy with myself so I'm waiting to even start dating until I've been in a career for a year. You might think of fostering kids in the future. Also, side note, it looks like you have lost weight, is that so?

[TaishaJason]

I'm probably eating healthier overall now that I'm back in the US with a wider variety of foods available to me, but I weigh about the same.

[TuikeTN]

I'm ok with single life. I'd like to get married one day but I'll wait to see if it happens. Sex... you can always get, but love is so hard to find.

[AkitaTom]

Great vid Jason. For me, 1 year is probably the max that i could go without somesort of relationship, where as sex.... 2-3 months before i would start losing it.

[TaishaJason]

tom - we all know you'd be climbing the walls after 2 or 3 days!! hahaha - j/k

Thanks for the comment.

[AkitaTom]

You know me all too well~ =P

[TkyoSam]

Wow, I can't believe it's been so long since I've met you here on YT bro. You left, now you are coming back and I am sooooo stoked!!!

I got more questions for ya, I'll pm ya later^^ I could go as long as I want without dating a chick, sex on the otherhand....well I can't go more than 6 HOURS without getting some. Good thing I work at a school xD! LOL

[AkitaTom]

Wow Sam, just wow.. lol.

[TaishaJason]

Sam doesn't possess that filter we all have for inappropriate comments - part of his charm I guess :)

[TkyoSam]

grass on the field...well you what I mean :D

[StatuesBleedingGreen]

Why is it you're always thumbs down on every comment I see you post xD

Atleast they're funny

[TkyoSam]

well, you know, some people don't like Sam's "If you can't take a joke, fuck you" policy^^

[NaruXD]

Bwahhahaa you perv but are you sure it's 6 hours seems kinda long for your doing!?

[ryokosdesire]

Living in the inaka would make it rough for a lot of people to find a girlfriend. When you add on all the other layers of complexity like language barriers and such, it could really make it a challenge. It sounds like the people living in the big cities don't have such a hard time, but then some of them might just be good story tellers. Have you tried dating sites? I hear those tend to work out more often than you might expect.

[TaishaJason]

yeah - I did, but most of the women were either in Tokyo (no surprise) or only wanted a language exchange partner. Finding a single woman in her 30s who can speak English and use a computer in Shimane - I'd have better luck with the Lottery. :P

[ryokosdesire]

lol Yeah I think you're right about that.

[angel21d]

Hmm this is a good question-- however, I have a boyfriend waiting for me in Japan if I get on JET (or another program) so I don't think I will have to answer this question :).

[JakeNM1993]

hey Jason i'm in my teens so not to much experience with the subject. I eventually want to settle down have some kids but just like you i'm not looking for it. I just want to fall into it if you know what I mean.

How longs to long? Well lets see I'm 16 and haven't really been in a relationship, some say its cause I'm chicken or square but really I'm just waiting till that moment when you just know. This is it!

[Ishidasouken]

I'm destined to go to japan and stay there for good, and also to get married and get children there

so I'm not concerned

I don't even look for a love relationship in my home country, because I know I'm going to japan eventually

[AkitaTom]

I'd be careful with that mindset.

[TaishaJason]

good luck - I hope you find what you're looking for

[andyhoov]

I've never been a fan of the whole relationship thing and quite frankly have a hard enough time meeting people who I can bear being around for extended periods of time. Maybe I'm an asshole, but I just can't stand the annoying little mind games and pit traps that make up the bulk of most relationships.

Also, being alone is a blast, but only for the minority. I think most people are afraid of being alone with their thoughts so that is why they are so obsessed with finding relationships.

[TkyoSam]

translation:  lonely virgin :D

[rickyruffle]

ouch Sam! ouch, hahaha

@andy hoov: I wouldn't say "being alone" is a blast but "being single definitely is. It's all about the mindset. Single guys could flirt freely without a guilty conscience, and of course all the other things that come with that ;)

Try being a confident, non-asshole of a male and enjoy your single life.

[TkyoSam]

I disagree, at the end of the night, who's gonna remember the nice guy who had somewhat an interesting conversation starter or the fat asshole who went around telling people they were ugly?

[rickyruffle]

you're right, they'll be too drunk to tell the difference ;P

[TaishaJason]

for 80% of my many years with my GF, we had a great time together and I look back on that time with a lot of fondness - I think there is value in relationships.

I went to Japan thinking I would be able to meet someone rather easily, and it didn't work out that way for me - so just a bit of a cautionary tale to compete with all the other vlogs about how easy it is to hook up in Japan.

[milootis10]

I'm young, 14, and I've had 1 girlfriend. It lasted about 24 hours. It was 1 1/2 years ago. Honestly, I didn't like it. I think I need more time...

PS: Are you planning on staying in Japan permanently?

[TaishaJason]

I love this comment! :)

I could easily see myself staying in Japan for another 5 to 10 years - we'll have to see how it goes.

[6663000]

I am pretty young to have a definite opinion. But I think there are some good things about living alone. I personally like to have a lot of time by myself to be able to sort of do my own thing.

I am 18 now (19 soon) and I have not really had any relationships that I would call "serious". I consider myself to be a pretty good guy, I can talk to people and have no real social dysfunctions or anything like that.

I just sort of enjoy being on my own, I don't feel like I need anybody at this point

[6663000]

I am the kind of guy who has a few close friends as opposed to a large group of people I call friends.

Having a girlfriend is not a major priority right now, if it was I would probably have one.

I started University this year and I honestly do not have a whole lot of free time. Between my job and school I usually don't even get any nights off on the weekend.

I'm sure during the next few years I will go out more and meet new people. But partying all the time is not really my thing

I'm content.

[TaishaJason]

content is good. :)

[Yokatta]

I'm 21 and I've not had a girlfriend myself. For me I want to be able to focus on getting my life on track, before I try to find someone to be with. If something came up, I don't think I would avoid it, but I'm also not out actively looking for anything either.

I don't know that it's a goal of mine to be married, but I wouldn't mind it if it worked out.

I don't think it would be hard to abstain from sex, as practicing 'self love' can help to keep a person sane.

[Smashingblue]

I've only really ever dated and haven't really had a girl I've been with for an extended period of time. I'm really considering seriously of coming to Japan this year to work and not sure what I'll do as far as seeking a relationship. As if I end up in the inaka I know how difficult it can be to find young people. If I do I'll be messaging you for tips on your attempts that worked and didn't. :P

[skitplace]

im 20 and I havnt been with a girl in 4 years :P Right now I feel that my goal rather is to get a nice job and go down that path but I agree with what you say, I wouldnt be opposed to it if it happend but it's not something I look for.

[litdemon]

I do have an interest in going to Japan that I'm in the process of arranging. If I were there for a long time, I would not be closed to a relationship. But who knows?

All in all, time will tell...

When my heart aches enough, maybe I'll act upon it. It just... as of now, my heart is focused on other things.

Good luck, Jason

[litdemon]

I've been going on 10 years without a girlfriend. Many times I've been dismissed as crazy, weird etc. for being single so long. I've really just not made it a priority to be with someone throughout these years.

After my last relationship, I realized I had a lot of growing up and maturing to do. I also hadn't set a course of goals for my life at that time. Tbh, all that's happened since then, I think that being single has been better for me.

[DerReisendeGaijin]

Dude, living alone rocks.

[TokyoBrando]

(ran outta room)

i think maybe you'd enjoy dating again when u are settled in Japan..i know real lfe meet ups are difficult so you could do what i do and rely on the good old internet..search for people who may live close in Japan near you, see their language skills and decide to meet or not..i get the feeling ur a good guy Jason :P

ps: you can adopt me if you want kids :P

[DerReisendeGaijin]

Great shirt, and great video Jason

[TokyoBrando]

hey Jason,

well people seem to assume on youtube for some reason that im a huge playboy type and popular with females, but its the complete opposite..i've only had 3 girlfriends in my life time (19 now)...

2 aus 1 japanese..and i've only had ex with 2 of them, years between each partner..so i've only had sex a few times really..so i guess i can hold on, and its good if it doesnt affect you too much..

[Ido013]

Happy St-Manatee day (in French it's St-Lamantin day, aka St-Lamentation day).

When in March? Are you going back to Shimane??