Should I Move 3,000 Miles To Be With Him?

[Jayna]

...did I read that right? If you move, you have nothing. If he moves, he'll have job opportunities. But he won't consider moving AND is giving you an ultimatum? Are you serious woman? If I were your friend I'd have slapped you. Use your brain and think, why would a person who is supposed to love you not even consider moving to be with you? I tell people, don't ask me to do things you're not willing to do yourself. On principle, don't move and consider finding a new man. You deserve much more.

[john123wayne]

i agree with jayna. i got this chick in south america. she lives in chile. i live in the usa. we have been nuts for each other for five years. i have visited her multiple times for weeks.

the reason i dont go live with her is i have a 2,000 a day job here. she wont move here cuz she lived here for ten years and she missed her mom and dad. so what am i saying, if i could get a 2,000 a day job in santiago, chile i would move. bottom line, the guy should move if there are job opportunites for him.

[Pabosangel]

If he's not even willing to move to where she is, and he says it's going to be over if she doesn't move...then it doesn't sound like that great of a relationship. A real relationship is about both parties making sacrifices~!

[Ludacryst]

She should get out of that relationship purely because he said it would be over if she didn't move. There's job opportunities where she is, why can't he just show her what he's made of and move there? If he can't make it there, why not meet in the middle? Why is it guys make us feel forced to move in LDR's instead of making it semi-easier. If they loved us they'd try to understand what we're feeling and realize its a lot to us too.

[i say she should move on]

[mariem179]

hell no! u should move out of this relationship..

[infiniteme0586]

this is the most useful advice i have ever heard from this channel! good job yourtango

[meka4996]

be a stay-at-home wife, why not?

[MaicoMoon]

Him saying it's going to be over is a red flag there, idiot.

[starbucksandollars]

lol

[NGB2010]

Never move for anyone. The guy won't leave the state where his family is -- geez. Someone needs to cut the cord.

[pintobeans77]

Ugh, I made this mess TWICE. Men would ask a lot and promise a lot but never give back anything. Never again.

[Deroliebe]

I didn't like the married couple. Sometimes their advice annoyed me.

Physically, Tamsen's face annoyed me. It looked like it was squished in.

[SilentBat]

You're the new ask your tango!? noooooo! bring back the nice married couple!

[yourtango]

Dr. Diana has a lot of great relationship advice! However, Matt and Tamsen will be back soon, so stay tuned!

[portugal82]

Why not both leave and meet in the middle, it's not fair at all for a DATING couple to just suddenly force one to move.

[LillianMay8630]

QUESTION FOR EVERYONE, my man sometimes talks to me like crap and I am tired of it, its just a phase because he doesnt do this all the time, how can i use positive reinforcement or some other technique to try and work on this problem and not just give up on 3 years of relationship and leave him, I want to avoid that as much as i can

[portugal82]

Do the same thing to him and WHEN he gets upset and show's that he doesn't like it and asks you "why are you talking to me like that" ask him how it feels and then tell him, you have just walked in my shoes. That's just how i deal with the type of problem you have. But check out what other people say and have a better idea, this might not work and end your relationship and that would not be good.

[vibrant151]

i agree with you, but I would take you more seriously if you took the Hair out of your eyes!

I expect that with a 15 y/o but come on you are a grown woman!

[moolikeachicken]

...Personally, I like this woman alot.

Who cares about her appearance? : /

[EvilPaola]

She's good with her advice, but I got pretty attached to Matt and Tamson.

[yourtango]

Dr. Diana has a lot of great relationship and dating advice, so stay tuned for more! Plus Matt and Tamsen will be back with another round of episodes soon.

[laf1024]

that was very sound advice she gave, but matt and tamsen also provided good advice.

[Unavailable123x]

I like her so much more than Matt and Tamsen. They gave awful advice most of the time.

[ncfwhitetigress]

If he's not equally into it, the answer is NO.

[VIPPlayer83]

bring matt & tamsen back

[EliteParanoia]

No, Matt and Tamsen suck. <_<;

[brianwurst1234]

That's a no.

[XxRynethxX]

Better advice than Matt/Tamsen would give, but please make an effort to look less drag.

[divine0dude]

moron below me is gay....

who also counts goes in the list 2 ...

[ponyningning]

first. good advice.