.........................no, no you won't.

[TCat770]

This was an amazing video. I needed to hear this!! I've never seen the guys video, but I'm sure happy you responded!

[ShrinkingWomanDiary]

You know evvery journey is different and all you can do is share yours and really he just needs to get on. If you want to give an opinion he should expect one in return! keep doing what you are doing! We appreciate you! Cheese is great but I am a DSer so I am a bit different!

[sudaniasuperwoman]

omg thank you for this video. i got "caught eating a cookie and my friend was like i "caught" you..i didnt know i was supposed to hide

[workingonfreedom]

@yjwmc: calm down. Breathe. You are fine and not in a stall. You may eat cheese and refried beans. I did and do and you can see my stats below.

[Youjustwatchmechange]

@workingonfreedom i just saw this, but thank you, you rock for being so encouraging.

[workingonfreedom]

I'm 4 yrs 6 mo. post op btw.

[workingonfreedom]

Let's see his video vlog in 3 yrs....we'll chat then..

277@ surgery, 132 @ 18 mo post op, 148 today by sheer WORK!

[meltingmamamelted]

@workingonfreedom NOD.

[Youjustwatchmechange]

so this is unrelated but....is dairy bad? i am in the soft food phase and found that the ricotta cheese has a ton of protein and makes a tasty ricotta bake (eggface recipe) but now im worried...yeah, im neurotic here in my first month. first stall and all...is cheese too calorie dense? and what is wrong with refried beans?! (from that guys video) *head explodes*

(this message has been brought to you by the letter N for neurotic)

[meltingmamamelted]

@Youjustwatchmechange Beans are a PERFECT FOOD.

[Youjustwatchmechange]

@meltingmamamelted  set that was what i had been told! thank you :)

[credregal]

@Youjustwatchmechange wouldnt whole beans be healthier than refired beans? Just asking because I'm not sure either,but mexican restraunts do use lard to make refied beans

[TheCandycoatedcenter]

I was encouraged by his video. I  did soul searching and thought about the surgery i will be having. Nit everyone is a richard simmons some are susan powterd of the world that way works for me but niether is better than the other. To me his vid should have just been looked at as abother approach not a wrong one.

[Skyreader1]

I think instead of berating one another help by being supportive. I don't think Chris meant any disrespect other than to know why people in the group who are eating crap by choice and expecting their tool to work and get them to goal are whining.Chris is a newbie. Help he and other understand. I have known plenty who followed the rules and never reached goal and eventually gain the weight back and then some. We all fall off the wagon. Some of us accept the consequences other not.

[meltingmamamelted]

@Skyreader1 Thanks for your comment. :) I don't know him -- so I don't know if he meant to disrespect -- but he did, harshly.

[meltingmamamelted]

@Skyreader1 And, now that he's removed all comments from his video, blocked everyone that has a differing opinion, it shows his truth. No worries.

[cancerfree200]

i am so glad you made this video..i have lost 131lbs and have not excersised..but i feel guilty sometimes cause i watch other videos and they are excercising..but i can not help the fact that my body has loss the way that it did..i so totally agree with everything that you said in this video...well said

[TheCandycoatedcenter]

I have enjoyed watching his videos as well as yours. However if it was ok for you to make a video with your opinon than it was ok for him to make one with his opinons and thoughts. I often think about vlogging myself on yt for the wls community but i worry about this type of drama. I hope everything dies down and everyone can agree to disagree.

[formerfatdudes]

@TheCandycoatedcenter

I don't think Beth said he couldn't offer his opinion, I think she was reacting to, responding to it with her own and how she feels there is a better approach to this.

Personally, I didn't see anything "wrong" with the video... but I didn't see anything constructive about it either. It was full of preaching without any teaching.

[TheCandycoatedcenter]

I agree with his video! I do not think he was supporting violence in any way. I also think that it may be coming across differntly then intended because he is a larger male ... And maybe people see that as more agressive than his heart and mind intended the video to be.

[liesehaley]

i responded and he deleted my post.. all i did was give ConCrit and he deleted.. of course he kept all his Atta Boy's!

[shrinkjf]

Harassment, really he was joking right? He needs to spank himself for being a bully.

My WLS "honeymoon pd" was in 85'. My un-honeymoon pd was in 89' after a 6th surgery to try to save my life and "reverse" the BPD. I then did become an "expert", conducted a WLS research study and found out a whole lota stuff I needed to know pre op. It wasn't public knowledge and some still isn't "transparent". WLS has its place only when consent is really "informed consent". You go Beth!

[Teacherdude24]

Well put!!! I am totally in agreement with you!

[jenontheband]

Support is absolutely essential. Thanks for this!

[blakkandi]

Great Video

[divataunia]

I literally feel asleep halfway through his video because all I heard was "white noise" and "judgement." Just talk about your own journey. Nobody else's journey is your business. GAH. My transition from bright-eyed newbie to remorseful from what I said sometimes many years post-op has been eye opening. This video was RIGHT ON~

[Skyjem1]

I agree, I'm pre-op, and from years of dieting know that people do what works for them. The shame-game does not work. It just makes people feel worse about themselves. People need to mind their own business. Unless I ask for your opinion, keep it to yourself.

[BadFattitude]

I do have to agree with you about the need for support &not hearing what I am doing wrong all the time or having to explain something I have said because the success gurus are telling me that I MUST exercise etc when physically I am lucky to walk in the morning. At the end of the day, I don't care if you walked/ran/jogged backwards for 10 miles so that means that I must also. What's good for the goose is not necessarily always good for the gander. Honk! Glad to know you & Mr. never exercised!

[meltingmamamelted]

@BadFattitude It's not entirely true -- he goes in spurts on the treadmill - I get walky sometimes. It depends on life.

[BadFattitude]

I was afraid to watch this-I was thinking-What did I NOT do right NOW? I watched Chris' video, & I think it was a gentle prodding of how to optimize the results of the surgery. The spanking or whatever I think was meant as a joke- I never paid much attention to it. You do make a great point about the message abuse sends to those of us that have suffered as children-albeit mental or physical- it is the root of many eating disorders. I could be missing the boat but I don't think he meant harm.

[meltingmamamelted]

@BadFattitude He's lost all respect. He reported me to YouTube for this video. Dude needs a little time in the corner.

[BadFattitude]

@meltingmamamelted Reported you? To You Tube? Does he know who you are??LMAO. That is just silly. Youtube is full of people's opinions, if you don't like it, ya move on. That does call for a SuperNanny time out!

{{{smh}}}

[meltingmamamelted]

@BadFattitude Yes. He says this video is cyber-bullying. Methinks he needs to take his balls home and go play with himself. <3

[liesehaley]

I think this spoke for many, Beth. Well done, and not done in a preachy or 'smack that arse' kinda way

[Ellewilliams]

Beth! Ugh! I agree with everything you said. When I was more of a Newb I had a MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH different outlook than now. I am no 11/2 out and the weight loss is MUCH MUCH harder. I've lost 160lbs.. BUT that still leaves me at 280lbs... which is the weight most people begin at. I have drawn away from the community because of the sentiment of repremands. Thank you for this response.. WE DO NEED SUPPORT.

[USArb1]

Great video. 

[meltingmamamelted]

@USArb1 Thank you.

[meltingmamamelted]

@overcoming2010 Please tell me about your job. Honest.

[meltingmamamelted]

@overcoming2010 BTW, don't call me sweetie.

[jjudijo]

nailed it on the head re: reprimanding.

[meltingmamamelted]

@jjudijo I don't need a Daddy. He doesn't need to be anyone's Daddy. WLS need not be a reason for spanking.

[CandiisSweetEnough]

I think you hit a very good point. Many people on You Tube that feel like they have "failed" with stop making videos if they are reprimanded. It's much easier to tuck your tail and walk away then feel that guilt for doing something "wrong". People need to continue to have support... even if they don't lose everything that the felt the should, it doesn't mean they will never get the chance again... it only means they will have to work harder to get there. Allow them to find their own way.

[meltingmamamelted]

@CandiisSweetEnough I keep quitting because of ... THAT.

[CandiisSweetEnough]

@meltingmamamelted Yeah, well, I am here to tell you that I ENJOY your videos! You have the same sense of humor as me! :) You have nothing to be ashamed of, from what I see! Glad that you got the chance to stand up to it this time.

[jillmbooth]

I want to check back on this fella when he is out of the honeymoon phase...3 plus years from now and see if he still is on his high horse. Redonkulous.

[meltingmamamelted]

@jillmbooth Check with him at 8 years and me at 10. Life happens.

[Mysstwalker83]

We dont need Weight Loss Surgery Evangelists lol

[meltingmamamelted]

@Mysstwalker83 Praize Jeeves.

[PatrinaStrippedBare]

There are things we don't always agree on Beth, but that was very well said.