Dating Advice for Women: The Real Reason Men Won't Approach You

[sweet95earth]

so i am a girl and i should feel like a monster. scarryyy.

[lawshorizon]

Approach anxiety has little to do with fear of rejection. In olden times, if you approached the wrong girl, her boy friend, husband, father, and their buddies would bash in your brains. Instinctively, guys sense this. Even these days, in my experience, you could be beaten up by a gang or threatened. It’s much easier to approach a girl who’s alone to avoid undesirable entanglements. Interested girls, who are bright, will often make themselves more accessible to be approached.

[craploco]

Here is a tip. If a guy talks to you. Make sure not mention that you have a boyfriend (true or false) less than thirty seconds into the conversation that is the most common form of rejection. 

[H3ll0M0NK3Y]

Hey! Devon, I actually did messaged him my number on facebook and told him I was attracted to him but he only just smiles at me when he sees me and I don't want to feel so pushy by going up to him because I made the first move! what do I do?? thanks

[dancingram79]

nice, but ... soneyimes a gentleman might be afraid to aproach you, and other times he might find you attractice but hes steal not interested... so, if you smile or wave, you might cone off as desperate I heard... who gets this? so I guess its a chance there you just have to take ;)

[Playitrightnow]

I am a guy and i laughed at this video cause he is right,..men are terrified of women,..Women have to be more aggressive,. and going over to a guy and saying,"what are you waiting for" is a good one. I'd love to see a guys reaction on that one. Ha Ha. ..btw, i am a 6-2,220lb. tough Irish boy and seeing a woman 5-2,108 and she scares the hell out of me.

[pomfan07]

no wonder guys don't approach me :( That happened all the time in college :(

[CyberCounselingCentr]

good work devon- keep it up

[JennyDason]

@HanaSeung Same here

[JennyDason]

@stephxbones Awww thats not a good thing to think every body are beautiful on their own way maybe u should give them a smile lile he said

[stephxbones]

I always thought guys didnt approach me because I wasnt pretty enough for them :/

[Youkolvr]

@stephxbones I thought that too or that I just wasn't their type.

[bellabella123xxx]

This is sooo helpful, thankyou... Keep doing these vids xx

[nalaskingdom]

lol are you single? lol no im kidding....nice video.

[rungirl05]

thank you for this video. im a pretty girl who gets stared at constantly by men but rarely ever approached by the guys i want. i always thought that the reason they didnt approach was because they werent interested enough. didnt know they were terrified.

[HanaSeung]

This is the first of your videos I have watched... you are brilliant! That has happened to me reacently... there is this boy in my college who I like and everytime I see him he looks at me and smiles, this had been going on for like over 1 month... I couldn't work out why he did that yet even if I was sitting alone he would never come over... x

[TheEricMorante]

Awesome video man.

[taregh1]

i think you need to stop bro , girls are running out ...

[MissMegara]

Real good video. Good advice too. Come to think of it your videos are the most imformitive I've ever checked out due to pure curiousity. Normally I watch vids on how to get a guy & such cuz most of them just give me a laugh, but yours are quite good. =)

[plentystuffs]

hahaha so guys want gals to take the rejection on their behalf now cos if you wink at a guy that you think likes you and he does not like you, then you get rejected !!!

or better still slept with and then rejected....he can send his friends , pigeon mail whatever he prefers but its important a guy approaches...that is his part of the deal. Mine is to smile and say yes.

[2441883]

I was looking for tips to keep him interested when I came across this video. I had to stop just to say this: PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES. In my opinion, most men are not really hung up on that sort of thing. You need to be self confident and look like you can take care of you. And be nice. I know you could add more, but basically... like yourself! And know you are pretty! Work it. Now, back to the video.

[AfroNinjaX]

Listen to this guy. He is a genius.

[grachious]

im glad you said this cause i was gettign the feeling that guys were scared around me unless they'd had a couple of drinks lol

[bliss38]

I had a guy who not only wouldn't stop staring at me, but would approach and stare at me from different angles. I got so pissed, I finally turned around and gave him a glare. He realized and apologized. It turned out he was a hairdresser and was admiring my haircut. That eased the situation right away, I felt quite flattered, smiled and thanked him. : )

So you never know why one might stare.

[sarahjf2007]

ok so its true. people have told me I'm "too pretty" for men to ask me out but I felt ridiculous assuming such a thing.

great. now I just want to cry.

& people think the pretty people have it easier...

[kelly980]

@sarahjf2007 just ask out guys you like moron

[sarahjf2007]

@kelly980 uh WOW I never thought of that! duhhhh! omg thats like a totally brilliant suggestion! ACTUALLY that IS how Ive met boyfriends before- by asking them out. so I guess the fact that you assumed not makes you the moron... my point is, it isnt fun to always be the one doing the asking. not only are you are moron but youre probably ugly since you felt the need to be a jerk to me on my post. & dont bother messaging me- I wont be reading anymore of your nastiness.

[kelly980]

@sarahjf2007 you probably won't read this but i called you a moron because you don't know how lucky you are being pretty. Ugly girls can't get guys but you can have almost any guy you want and are complaining that you have to put in a tiny bit of effort because they're intimidated by you. Ugly girls would kill to be in your position. When you're older and look back and realise you were being stupid. By the way I'm a guy.

[MissMegara]

@sarahjf2007

Sarahjf2007 you are not alone with people telling you that you're too pretty. I get that a lot too. I too felt silly thinking that to be a true statement, 'cause I'm not into myself like a lot of gals I know. So just chin up w/ not being alone! =)

[thekingofpopj]

no no no no girl ask boy out ok ok

[Astafar13]

I'm a guy and this is 100% correct. I'm actually very outgoing and I talk with cashiers etc, but those are times when I'm :already: interacting with her. I'm terrified to walk up to a girl out in public. I actually LOOK for those signs he mentioned because if she's staring at me I know I at least have her attention so my chances are a little better. If she smiled or gave a little wave, I'd know she was at least friendly and even it went nowhere I'd feel better approaching her to break that ice.