This is really interesting. I have the total opposite view. I am a gay mid 20 yr old guy in Australia who suffers from body dysmorphia and what I witness in the gay community is the opposite, whereas if you are super skinny, you are automatically "hot". Even if you have an unattractive face and disgusting personality, but are super skinny, you are automatically "hot". Whereas if you have a cute face, beautiful personality but are slightly curvy or a few extra kilos, no one will even look at you
@Thanx1982 I wasn't at all referring to you. You are very young. What I mean is gay men are so obsessed with youth and beauty that many older gay men end up alone.
@duran66 I know what you mean, the thing is that looks are what gay men try to control in a desperate attempt to not be picked on, and to get accepted. As a youngster/unfortunately even adults people may make fun of someones mannerisms if they are effeminate, which some can't help, to counter that, many try to dress nice, look younger, become really buff, hair, skin etc.
@Thanx1982 The series, Queer as Folk explored this theme in depth. If male homosexuality is completely based on how beautiful someone is, what happens when the youth fades? I see a lot of older gay men getting married, so maybe it's not as big an issue as I think it is. Then again, I don't think there has been a study involving older gay men and there satisfaction level with relationships.
Gay culture is utter consumerism, just like consumerism in society at large, only gays don't need to be repressed and hypocritical about it, they can just go for it, ANYTHING goes. THIS is the appeal of the gay-scene.
Obviously such licentiousness can generate exhilaration and high moods but in terms of cultural content, food for the mind or heart, it's completely empty. It's a drug & after a while people get off it -if they're lucky.
Gay culture is utter consumerism, just like consumerism in society at large, only gays don't need to be repressed and hypocritical about it, they can just go for it, ANYTHING goes. THIS is the appeal of the gay-scene.
Obviously such licentiousness can generate exhilaration and high moods but in terms of cultural content, food for the mind or heart, it's completely empty. It's a drug & after a while people get off it -if they're lucky.
@duran66 I think that there is a lot of issues with all sides. I will say that some older men have completely discounted what it may be like to be a youth in the gay community. Not saying you but, some older men not only feel like our opinions are invalid for not being in the aids epidemic but also, just based on our looks we have no struggles. There is no relationship to appearance to looks and self esteem and many forget that on a continuous basis. Does anyone remember how much high school
@Thanx1982 sucked LOL? The youths are or can be very mean to each other. There is no such thing as people being nice to one another because they are another gay fellow that deserves common courtesy and respect. There is nobody saying hello to eachother on the streets or anything of the like, there are times people are not even noticed if the other doesn't want to sleep with them. A lot of people assume to be young is to have so much happiness. nobody ever mentions how youth may struggle
'I think it has more to do with homosexuality as a youth culture. I have a feeling that older 40+ gay men have it pretty hard.'
There's no culture at all. People as leave home & they come out are all superexcited to FINALLY discover gay life. They're so excited that they don't care that what they've found is a seedy nightlife revolving around massive addiction to cruising on a backdrop massive ingestion of of alcohol and cigarettes and recreational drugs for those interested.
It's a very unhealthy way of living, not only physically, but psychically, spiritually. It's degrading, emptying, nihilistic.
So by the time the enormous excitement and relief of being among peers fades somewhat, many gay men leave the scene, knowing it won't fulfill them.
I think it's a bit of a myth they're ejected from it because they would be over the hill by age 35. Everybody can more or less easily get laid in the gay-scene but most of the younger 'men' are so self-absorbed...
...so narcissistic and mindless and have a very deluded self-image that hardly makes them sexy or beautiful.
On the other hand, a mature man, even way above 50 IF NOT ADDICTED, when goodlooking, relaxed and OK with himself will exude a much more powerful sex-appeal.
After all, what most gays ultimately want is a real man, isn't it? The pretty bitches will get sodomized by strangers and they can call this succes but they're really victims trapped in a repetitive, eroding scenario.
The gay lifestyle is based WAY to much on the phsyical reason inpart for problems with some gays and body image. FIRST things that should be in any profile is caring & honesty i seek,but most gay profiles start with body stats. Nothing more gross then a 50yo man trying to look like a 18yo in body yet u tend to also only see that in gay lifestyle. I think a grown man should have some man weight. Most gay porn is Anorexic twinks.
Even when i didn't contribute anything....i really laughed my ass off (i have ADHD too) when you say, ''Ok, that's all for now''.....and the video lasts another 4 minutes or so.. HAHA!
I think beauty is a strange thing.. Fact is, i have to be attracted to someone at the first place...so at that point beauty is very important. But mostly women (or people in general) who try too hard to look good, are not interesting to me. A beautiful person with an ugly personality looses it's beauty. A ''not so beautiful'' person with a great personality can become beautiful. And that's the kind of beauty i like. My god, did i drinked too much beer...or does it make sense?? :L)))
I don't have a life...but i liked to watch (still watching) you vids...and why not comment. I am from the Netherlands and my English vocabulary isn't yet how it should...anyway, i think the guy below described it really well. All i can say, i am a simple guy who only cares about personality. I am not gay so i don't know about that, but i think it's all about connections, or things that have nothing to do with the outer layer. I don't say i don't care about appearance.. :)
ps keep making more videos. love the topics you discuss. heres a topic to ponder what is up with the no homo thing are certain heterosexuals that insecure that they have to say that? are they trying to hide hidden desires or what?
totaly on point. theres so much ground to cover on the issues you talked about. we live in such a visual society that we tend to get blinded on what real beauty is. im a leader not a follower so i never feel pressured to look a certain way if you cant like me for me f*ck you. everyone is beautiful in there own way and for those who deal with anorexia cause they think they dont look good enough need to know its whats inside that matters most. looks fade in time but the heart remains
This is really interesting. I have the total opposite view. I am a gay mid 20 yr old guy in Australia who suffers from body dysmorphia and what I witness in the gay community is the opposite, whereas if you are super skinny, you are automatically "hot". Even if you have an unattractive face and disgusting personality, but are super skinny, you are automatically "hot". Whereas if you have a cute face, beautiful personality but are slightly curvy or a few extra kilos, no one will even look at you
mraaronoerson 1 month ago
nice rat tail lol
bipolardiscussions 2 months ago
great video
astrolabe1976 4 months ago
Hey, were did you download the video from? i think i need to see it
freshwaterfunnyman 5 months ago
@freshwaterfunnyman This video? It's mine I made it.
Thanx1982 5 months ago
I think it has more to do with homosexuality as a youth culture. I have a feeling that older 40+ gay men have it pretty hard.
duran66 6 months ago
@duran66 Can you elaborate? What do you mean 40+ gay men have it pretty hard?
Thanx1982 6 months ago
@Thanx1982 I wasn't at all referring to you. You are very young. What I mean is gay men are so obsessed with youth and beauty that many older gay men end up alone.
duran66 6 months ago
@duran66 I know what you mean, the thing is that looks are what gay men try to control in a desperate attempt to not be picked on, and to get accepted. As a youngster/unfortunately even adults people may make fun of someones mannerisms if they are effeminate, which some can't help, to counter that, many try to dress nice, look younger, become really buff, hair, skin etc.
Thanx1982 6 months ago
@Thanx1982 The series, Queer as Folk explored this theme in depth. If male homosexuality is completely based on how beautiful someone is, what happens when the youth fades? I see a lot of older gay men getting married, so maybe it's not as big an issue as I think it is. Then again, I don't think there has been a study involving older gay men and there satisfaction level with relationships.
duran66 6 months ago
@duran66
Gay culture is utter consumerism, just like consumerism in society at large, only gays don't need to be repressed and hypocritical about it, they can just go for it, ANYTHING goes. THIS is the appeal of the gay-scene.
Obviously such licentiousness can generate exhilaration and high moods but in terms of cultural content, food for the mind or heart, it's completely empty. It's a drug & after a while people get off it -if they're lucky.
suddenlyitsobvious 5 months ago
@duran66
Gay culture is utter consumerism, just like consumerism in society at large, only gays don't need to be repressed and hypocritical about it, they can just go for it, ANYTHING goes. THIS is the appeal of the gay-scene.
Obviously such licentiousness can generate exhilaration and high moods but in terms of cultural content, food for the mind or heart, it's completely empty. It's a drug & after a while people get off it -if they're lucky.
suddenlyitsobvious 5 months ago
@duran66 I think that there is a lot of issues with all sides. I will say that some older men have completely discounted what it may be like to be a youth in the gay community. Not saying you but, some older men not only feel like our opinions are invalid for not being in the aids epidemic but also, just based on our looks we have no struggles. There is no relationship to appearance to looks and self esteem and many forget that on a continuous basis. Does anyone remember how much high school
Thanx1982 6 months ago
@Thanx1982 sucked LOL? The youths are or can be very mean to each other. There is no such thing as people being nice to one another because they are another gay fellow that deserves common courtesy and respect. There is nobody saying hello to eachother on the streets or anything of the like, there are times people are not even noticed if the other doesn't want to sleep with them. A lot of people assume to be young is to have so much happiness. nobody ever mentions how youth may struggle
Thanx1982 6 months ago
@duran66
'I think it has more to do with homosexuality as a youth culture. I have a feeling that older 40+ gay men have it pretty hard.'
There's no culture at all. People as leave home & they come out are all superexcited to FINALLY discover gay life. They're so excited that they don't care that what they've found is a seedy nightlife revolving around massive addiction to cruising on a backdrop massive ingestion of of alcohol and cigarettes and recreational drugs for those interested.
suddenlyitsobvious 5 months ago
@duran66
It's a very unhealthy way of living, not only physically, but psychically, spiritually. It's degrading, emptying, nihilistic.
So by the time the enormous excitement and relief of being among peers fades somewhat, many gay men leave the scene, knowing it won't fulfill them.
I think it's a bit of a myth they're ejected from it because they would be over the hill by age 35. Everybody can more or less easily get laid in the gay-scene but most of the younger 'men' are so self-absorbed...
suddenlyitsobvious 5 months ago
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@duran66
...so narcissistic and mindless and have a very deluded self-image that hardly makes them sexy or beautiful.
On the other hand, a mature man, even way above 50 IF NOT ADDICTED, when goodlooking, relaxed and OK with himself will exude a much more powerful sex-appeal.
After all, what most gays ultimately want is a real man, isn't it? The pretty bitches will get sodomized by strangers and they can call this succes but they're really victims trapped in a repetitive, eroding scenario.
suddenlyitsobvious 5 months ago
The gay lifestyle is based WAY to much on the phsyical reason inpart for problems with some gays and body image. FIRST things that should be in any profile is caring & honesty i seek,but most gay profiles start with body stats. Nothing more gross then a 50yo man trying to look like a 18yo in body yet u tend to also only see that in gay lifestyle. I think a grown man should have some man weight. Most gay porn is Anorexic twinks.
timm9 6 months ago
Even when i didn't contribute anything....i really laughed my ass off (i have ADHD too) when you say, ''Ok, that's all for now''.....and the video lasts another 4 minutes or so.. HAHA!
skapoosh 1 year ago
I think beauty is a strange thing.. Fact is, i have to be attracted to someone at the first place...so at that point beauty is very important. But mostly women (or people in general) who try too hard to look good, are not interesting to me. A beautiful person with an ugly personality looses it's beauty. A ''not so beautiful'' person with a great personality can become beautiful. And that's the kind of beauty i like. My god, did i drinked too much beer...or does it make sense?? :L)))
skapoosh 1 year ago
I don't have a life...but i liked to watch (still watching) you vids...and why not comment. I am from the Netherlands and my English vocabulary isn't yet how it should...anyway, i think the guy below described it really well. All i can say, i am a simple guy who only cares about personality. I am not gay so i don't know about that, but i think it's all about connections, or things that have nothing to do with the outer layer. I don't say i don't care about appearance.. :)
skapoosh 1 year ago
ps keep making more videos. love the topics you discuss. heres a topic to ponder what is up with the no homo thing are certain heterosexuals that insecure that they have to say that? are they trying to hide hidden desires or what?
jvadude88 1 year ago
totaly on point. theres so much ground to cover on the issues you talked about. we live in such a visual society that we tend to get blinded on what real beauty is. im a leader not a follower so i never feel pressured to look a certain way if you cant like me for me f*ck you. everyone is beautiful in there own way and for those who deal with anorexia cause they think they dont look good enough need to know its whats inside that matters most. looks fade in time but the heart remains
jvadude88 1 year ago