@ElrickXD I'll be nice and reply, since OsakaPapa sucks sometimes at replying/checking things(ie texting me back a week later). He's back in the states and hasn't gone back as of yet.
This is just a moment of homesickness, immagine your life while you were in NJ, while you were dreaming like a fool to go in Japan, but that decision will be always in you mate..
half way through the novel: "It is great to travel"
last line of the book: "We must cultivate our garden - Il faut cultiver notre jardin"
There is a time to go out & explore and a time to go home.
Reverse culture shock is a short term state to overcome, but then you need to ask what do you return to? Family = real. Friends come and go. New Jersey is just a place, and set to change dramatically for the worse: peak oil, the Great Recession ....
i have a question about pets, i really can't see myself without my two cats, do you think they will be okay if i bring them with me to japan?? Love the video btw thanks for sharing..
i no what u fell but i am going to japan even when i have: frends good family n u could just move to other house if i would want to get alone in finland but i will have need to be in japan n i will come back home to visit at summer to see parents sister
Not to mention that i prefer Japan over any country xD Yeah i know. Sounds weird right? But like youve said. I just don´t feel right in my country, It´s quite different when youre just going to a country because you like certain things about it. Than going there because that is the place meant for you. =) Sure i will miss some friends, but i will always keep in touch with them, AND my family =). It is time for me to start fresh. It is time to go to japan! =)
I LOVE JAPAN!!! For me it is a complete paradise like i said before xP And it doesn´t matter if i won´t find any friends at first ( wich i doubt ) Because it will all begin to build up after a certain time =) We have to give time and dedication to certain things. This is my goal in life, I want to work and live in Japan because that´s what i have always wanted for me =) Period. Japan will be my new home, and for me, that is everything.
I know what you mean OsakaPapa =) But the great part of living abroad, is that you get to meet new people, and have wonderful new experiences! In my situation, i simply despise the western society. Sure, i have learned not to completely lock myself in a room because of it, but it is still something that leaves me uncomfortable. Japan for me is paradise, It has EVERYTHING i love. The People, The Culture, VIdeo-Games, Anime, Food, Etc. I feel like i was born in there xP
All those things you mentioned are the things I gained by living abroad. Maybe because you have a big family that gives you the emotional support. But I feel that generally most only have acquaintances that won't go out of their way or interrupt their own busy schedule to help. Just my observation. Sounds like you were homesick. I am less alone living in Thailand than back in the States. Thanks for showing both sides. My channel shows some of the reasons why an older person would benefit
You don't have to explain why your leaving in a month. I've seen many people like this young man who leave the U.S. and get "home sick" and then use it to rationale their fear of loneliness. Thats all that is. Dude nothing stays the same. Those friends that your rushing home to be with aren't always going to be there the way you think it will be. As for the familiy thing...its good that you love your family but what will you do when they start getting on your nerves. hmm back to Japan??
I lived in Europe for a good while and Im from Los Angeles, Ca. I missed my family and friends so much because I went by myself when i was 16 for school and was in many different parts of Europe.
I missed so much of the small stuff from home because everything is done so differently over there that i wasnt used to it. Even if i wanted to call back home i had to wait until a good time because of the massive time difference.
overall i had a great experience but theres no place like home.
@baddogonline lies my girlfriend is japanese and im black she tells me all sorts of stories of her girls liking guys of other race to them its exciting but they do tend to act shy and ofcourse their are those who want to date outside their race but they are either afraid to or their parents disapprove of it so they do and they dont just like most people in the world :) hope that helps
And btw at least in Asia (i think it goes for Japan as well) It is so hard to make new friends! Native thais speak no english at all. Even on my international school most asian students have REALLY bad english. So communication is hard. And I live here for 6 months learning Thai is not an option.
And what I leave behind is what I left behind is so weird. Like I really miss my best friend hes like my brother, I miss getting up in the morning and being able to make my own coffee (I live in a hotel so I dont have that stuff nor am I allowed to have that in my room ), I miss the ease of travel in The Netherlands, I miss my Playstation lol and ofcourse my family.
And yea I like where I am from when you are living in a foreign country for a while YOU WILL REALISE WHAT YOU MISS!!!
I have been living in Thailand now for 4 months. And before that I was in Vietnam as well but I am dying to go back home. I really didnt think I would get homesick for the total duration of 6 months but I did there are so many things I miss.
And btw I have been living in a hotel for the past 4 months (sounds good right?!?!) biggest mistake ever. Get an apartment cause a hotel will never feel like a home when you get back from school ( in my case school). An apartment will give a sense of home.
hey man, I'm from around Philly and I know exactly what you mean when you say you feel like something's missing. I was on tour with a band for three months, and we traveled all over Japan for a month. During those three months on tour, I missed my family and friends back home. Now that I'm back home, I miss all the experiences on the road and especially in Japan. In fact, I discovered your videos, cause I was feeling nostalgic.
im also from new jersey. east brunswick. i moved to connecticut to be closer to my family, but i miss my friends who i hardly get to see. i hate CT so id gladly go back to NJ. if you can afford it, you should have an apartment in america, and one in japan, and live like 6 months in each. or like 3 months at a time and switch back and fourth or somethin like that. whatever you decide to do, good luck
i hope you don't have to leave japan too, i just found your videos and i want more (like i said). i know it's a selfish reason, but living in such a place is great, even if you miss your friends and family (that's normal) i think you were very brave from the start for living in japan alone! as for me i will live in osaka next year, but i wont be alone so i am allright! but i also think if you will be back home the gap may remain because you'll miss osaka...well time will show!
I am just going to toss out random sentences that came to mind during your video: the job situation here is not so good. If you have work, stay and save money for another year and reconsider. How can you be sure that when you come back that your friends don't move on, get married. etc. Family is always there. A lot depends on how much you need each other. Come back for a visit and check things out. What did you think you liked about japan before you went?
Man... I hope you don't have to leave. Or at least I hope you end up going back... this might sound creepy, but I was looking forward to meeting you in Osaka someday.
I understand how you feel completely. I have lived abroad and traveled all over, but GA is definitely home. I used to think that I wanted to live abroad permanently, but as I've gotten older I've realized this is where I want to settle down. I plan on going to Japan (I'd like to teach English there) and have a few other places on my list, but this is where I want to get married, raise children, etc. As awesome as other places are, and I definitely miss a few of 'em, GA wins for me.
u made a really good point about really asking oneself how you're gonna cope in a new environment without the comfort of having your close friends and family nearby.My cousin moved to Denmark for a year and she had a tough time there in terms of bonding with and getting friends. And it's not like she's a social klutz.. She has a big circle of close friends at home and when she moved to Copenhagen, she had a tough time in the beginning..she'd pretty much call me once a week.LOL. i felt 4 her.
Personally I just try to be thankful for what I have. I know that's sounds cliche. But I just try to be true to myself. Sometimes it is hard to know what to do next. Just don't BS yourself. It's better to fail doing something you like then to not try to do what you want to do.
Personally I just try to be thankful for what I have. I know that's sounds cliche. But I just try to be true to myself. Sometimes it is hard to know what to do next. Just don't BS yourself. It's better to fail doing something you like then to not try to do what you want to do. Good job with the videos!!
Hi. I understand your situation. You have family and friends that you are close with. They live far away from you. You are in a drastically different country and culture and you live alone. That can suck...
I was serving in the Middle East when I was 18. Moved around a lot. Since then I have had several jobs working at home and abroad. You make friends only to leave them behind to pursue your next goal or opportunity. But that is life.
I up and joined the airforce just to get away and try and change my life. There was nothing wrong with it. Had awesome fam and friends but knew that really we are alone in this world and while an awesome support group they can be you really have to hash out life on your own. Like Mick says we all have our lives and move on when we get older. We will always love eachother but we all have our own fam and obligations and have to live our own lifes. Thats what you will be going home to eventualy
pt 2 You are young and havnt been gone too long so things might just pick up where u left off but eventually everyone must go their own ways and make their own lives. All my good buddys are now all married and live many miles away from me. I have a few friends now but never like the best ones from bk in the day. I guess I have lots of issues in that nothing is holding me down anywhere so I can up and move. I have ambitions to leave the US because Im pretty sure Im never getting married etc
pt3 so I can live a selfish life. I dunno, It would seem that you should always follow your instincts. Never have regrets when it comes to the ones you love. Missed oppertunities suck and hard to get back. Use this as a learning experience so if you wanted to return to Jland you can do it better than before. Perhaps you felt like you didnt leave properly... Go home and fix that and make peace with yourself. Then when the time is right give it another shot and do it better.
pt4 Where ever you go, there you are. You can have a plan but its not always going to turn out like you think. So no regrets and follow your heart. Life is free and you can do what ever you want! When ever you want! There is a common thing about ppl that like to travel, like Micki, we get the ichy feet. And that could be you and you just may not be happy unless you are on the move.
I never had any strong emotional ties to my parents as a child, thus their estrangment to me. Friends.. I can't really get because of social anxiety (apparently I'm liked but not approached).
It bothered me more when I was your age...I did a lot of traveling & had extended separations from friends & family. I'd be home a week & I'd have itchy feet again. Since I've been in my 30's, I've been married, so I'm never actually alone. I see a lot less of my friends, even if they were close, theyre busy with their own family commitments & stuff...I don't know, all I'm saying is, friends will always be important, but its not as important to hang out or go out together when you get older imo.
@MicknFumi I love my family, I have 3 sisters & a brother. We've all been separated by distance over the last 15 years for a lot of the time & its rare for us all to be present for big occasions. But we stay in contact through phone calls & these days, the internet. So we stay in touch & so yeah...I don't miss them. Right now I'm 1.5 hrs South of my parents & 2 of my sisters are in Europe (London & France)...I know exactly where your coming from with the something always missing feeling though!
I'm planning on living abroad, and i've actually thought about this before too. I have friends here that I am going to miss and family to but I can't wait to get out of here it's so boring. I will definitely want to come back afterward but I want to travel until it's no longer fun which is like never.
sorry for taking up space, but yea..there are always ways to get to where yo truly want to be. I dont know them all, im just learning as i go. You were right about being international. For me it truly lets embrace the life i was given. I'll go "home" when im ready and not until then. its adventure time for me, and im gonna milk it until dec 21st 2012 passes lol. Say phuck it, and try forrest gumping ur way for a change. payed 4 english, and opening doors daily. thats my 2 cents. spend it freely
I wasent ready to go home, but my money was gone almost. no choice right? fawk nooo!! I just went complete hustler, launched operation "stay in asia". I was down to 500$ i got the cheapest seat to hong kong, landed with $200usd and got to business. I hit the internet, prostituted myself as an English Tutor, and worked my way into an actual teaching job w/ a visa. The world is yours my young white brotha, the ride only ends when you want it too. msg me for advice or ideas, watch some vids, etc.
I was going complete rockstar with the locals. Drinking whisky and cokes str8 outta lawsons daily. Hooking up with girls, gettin high and feeling like an outlaw for it lol (japans laws are harsh). Anyways..after a visa refresh to Korea, and on my final 90days as a tourist, I realized i had nothing waiting back home. of course friends and family..but also the same life i've known until that point. I didnt want to go back. But japan isnt too easy on "immigration". I overstayed by a month.
(Part 1)hmmm... first of ur vlogs ive watched. Interesting, and the topic touches on things i have in fact went through. Dude i wound up in Japan after a break up. My Ex lives in Osaka. I was going to live with her there for a while blah blah. it went south needless to say. My mother turned the lemons into lemonade (as most moms can) and said I should go to JP anyways. I saved up a little money and planned on going for a 30 day trip. It turned into 7 months. By the 1st week...
I think what has to happen is you have to really have a place grow on you to stay there. The thing you notice with a lot of people on YouTube that live in Japan and plan on being there a while , is that they have established a new family in Japan. It's true there are things you simply cannot replace from the area you grew up in because it has became you and a part of you're culture but in time so will the new area. You have to decide if you want what was in the past or what will become !
you're easily one of my top three expat's i like to watch. by far your best video. i think too, though, what have you gained by going abroad is important too. living alone and being 'alone' are two different things and i think you're talking about the former? although i'm just a faceless d-bag, you conjured up a lot of thoughts and emotions for myself. in so few words, you've yet to hit the tip of the iceberg. God bless.
well said! and great points, and always good to know what your getting in to. Pros and cons will will and have always been there. but to tell you the truth you can always take trips as a get away to see your friends. or vice versa, personally I want to go cuz friends music and to brighten my brain to learn something with out help just from sheer will have a great tale for your self to enjoy , you make your own history, the memories you can pass dinner table or chill out with friends.
I've never been to japan but i was studying abroad in canada previously, which is really not that different from here, but i just sort of assimilated. It was home then and when i got back home i fell into my "normal" footsteps just as easily. I'm not sure if there is a secret to it, but as long as i feel comfortable and have some people to hang out with i'm good in most situations. :) Will it be more difficult if i ever decide to live in japan? I just don't know
If you had a family like mine and had friends like mine, I would not go back if I ever leave someday and travel some where else in the world! But if you have to you have to, but just consider all options...! :{
"Those you leave behind only make room for more to be made." That's kinda of my though on the situation. I don't lead the happiest life, but I don't hate it, I love my family, even though its not perfect., the situation I'm in has made me a better person. I know I can't stay here forever, that's not what I want. If and when I do make it to Japan, I shouldn't have any problems adjusting, I've always been an independent person. Not everyone is the same though.
I haven't lived outside my own home before. So honestly, I think it would be PUHR-RITTY interesting... I would at least try to bring someone I know well enough and can get along with to live in Japan. Being completely alone ain't really something I could cope with. D:
@countumga I'd also like to add that, though I do love the Japanese culture, its' people, the video games, the anime, oh yeah... Love it all; but like I mentioned, I'd probably go with someone else so that I'm NOT alone. And though I would go to learn the language and culture and the many quirks of Japan, I would come back home & live here in California, because they happen to offer the most work in Voice Over, which is something I want to do for a living.
I just graduated High School and it's made me realize that if I ever decided to leave for Japan to study abroad that I'm really going to miss people. I do like where I live and I'm glad to live here. Recently, I don't really know how I will fare living in a new country by myself starting fresh when I'm already comfortable with my life. The only experience I have traveling abroad is to Spain with a few students without my family. But as you said that's a different experience than being alone.
Great topic. I plan to go to Japan in 2-3 years. The one friend I have is going to do the same thing. Since I don´t like most of my family and hate my life here, I don´t think it´s going to be a problem. Oh well, good luck to you with evereything :)
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ElrickXD 1 week ago
@ElrickXD I'll be nice and reply, since OsakaPapa sucks sometimes at replying/checking things(ie texting me back a week later). He's back in the states and hasn't gone back as of yet.
therandeffect 1 day ago
Your bike was stolen?!? IN JAPAN!?!? ooooooo I though that didn't happen....?
sweetfeat1 5 months ago
@sweetfeat1 Have you never heard of the yakuza!?!?!?!
Morpun 1 month ago
@Morpun the yakuza doesn't steal bikes... stop watching anime and basing your knowledge of japanese culture of of that ...
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@rc1260 Oh my your an idiot! It was a joke, also ive never seen anime in my life
Morpun 1 month ago
So what happened to you? YOU back in Jersey now?
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h2inuyasha2 7 months ago
This is just a moment of homesickness, immagine your life while you were in NJ, while you were dreaming like a fool to go in Japan, but that decision will be always in you mate..
tearhere11 7 months ago
Voltaire's Candide:
half way through the novel: "It is great to travel"
last line of the book: "We must cultivate our garden - Il faut cultiver notre jardin"
There is a time to go out & explore and a time to go home.
Reverse culture shock is a short term state to overcome, but then you need to ask what do you return to? Family = real. Friends come and go. New Jersey is just a place, and set to change dramatically for the worse: peak oil, the Great Recession ....
SillyWillyFan47 8 months ago
You sound homesick brah. Time to go home, :-)
wrouillie 9 months ago
i have a question about pets, i really can't see myself without my two cats, do you think they will be okay if i bring them with me to japan?? Love the video btw thanks for sharing..
prettylittlecupcakes 9 months ago
i no what u fell but i am going to japan even when i have: frends good family n u could just move to other house if i would want to get alone in finland but i will have need to be in japan n i will come back home to visit at summer to see parents sister
and mayby my friends
bioniclefani0 10 months ago
Not to mention that i prefer Japan over any country xD Yeah i know. Sounds weird right? But like youve said. I just don´t feel right in my country, It´s quite different when youre just going to a country because you like certain things about it. Than going there because that is the place meant for you. =) Sure i will miss some friends, but i will always keep in touch with them, AND my family =). It is time for me to start fresh. It is time to go to japan! =)
WaterCrystalline 11 months ago
I LOVE JAPAN!!! For me it is a complete paradise like i said before xP And it doesn´t matter if i won´t find any friends at first ( wich i doubt ) Because it will all begin to build up after a certain time =) We have to give time and dedication to certain things. This is my goal in life, I want to work and live in Japan because that´s what i have always wanted for me =) Period. Japan will be my new home, and for me, that is everything.
WaterCrystalline 11 months ago
I know what you mean OsakaPapa =) But the great part of living abroad, is that you get to meet new people, and have wonderful new experiences! In my situation, i simply despise the western society. Sure, i have learned not to completely lock myself in a room because of it, but it is still something that leaves me uncomfortable. Japan for me is paradise, It has EVERYTHING i love. The People, The Culture, VIdeo-Games, Anime, Food, Etc. I feel like i was born in there xP
WaterCrystalline 11 months ago
Great vid... I'm 23 and have set myself a goal to move abroad and am working towards it vigorously. I live in N.J. as well!
FLAC05 11 months ago
All those things you mentioned are the things I gained by living abroad. Maybe because you have a big family that gives you the emotional support. But I feel that generally most only have acquaintances that won't go out of their way or interrupt their own busy schedule to help. Just my observation. Sounds like you were homesick. I am less alone living in Thailand than back in the States. Thanks for showing both sides. My channel shows some of the reasons why an older person would benefit
retirecheapjc 1 year ago
You don't have to explain why your leaving in a month. I've seen many people like this young man who leave the U.S. and get "home sick" and then use it to rationale their fear of loneliness. Thats all that is. Dude nothing stays the same. Those friends that your rushing home to be with aren't always going to be there the way you think it will be. As for the familiy thing...its good that you love your family but what will you do when they start getting on your nerves. hmm back to Japan??
Orctrist 1 year ago
I lived in Europe for a good while and Im from Los Angeles, Ca. I missed my family and friends so much because I went by myself when i was 16 for school and was in many different parts of Europe.
I missed so much of the small stuff from home because everything is done so differently over there that i wasnt used to it. Even if i wanted to call back home i had to wait until a good time because of the massive time difference.
overall i had a great experience but theres no place like home.
xxBettyPagexx 1 year ago
Do the Japanese women like dating American men? I've heard they discourage dating outside their race. :(
baddogonline 1 year ago
@baddogonline lies my girlfriend is japanese and im black she tells me all sorts of stories of her girls liking guys of other race to them its exciting but they do tend to act shy and ofcourse their are those who want to date outside their race but they are either afraid to or their parents disapprove of it so they do and they dont just like most people in the world :) hope that helps
jayubig 1 year ago
And btw at least in Asia (i think it goes for Japan as well) It is so hard to make new friends! Native thais speak no english at all. Even on my international school most asian students have REALLY bad english. So communication is hard. And I live here for 6 months learning Thai is not an option.
koosjuh75 1 year ago
And what I leave behind is what I left behind is so weird. Like I really miss my best friend hes like my brother, I miss getting up in the morning and being able to make my own coffee (I live in a hotel so I dont have that stuff nor am I allowed to have that in my room ), I miss the ease of travel in The Netherlands, I miss my Playstation lol and ofcourse my family.
And yea I like where I am from when you are living in a foreign country for a while YOU WILL REALISE WHAT YOU MISS!!!
koosjuh75 1 year ago
Anyway I will be going home to my real home in little over 1 month :) Back home to The Hague The Netherlands!!
koosjuh75 1 year ago
I have been living in Thailand now for 4 months. And before that I was in Vietnam as well but I am dying to go back home. I really didnt think I would get homesick for the total duration of 6 months but I did there are so many things I miss.
And btw I have been living in a hotel for the past 4 months (sounds good right?!?!) biggest mistake ever. Get an apartment cause a hotel will never feel like a home when you get back from school ( in my case school). An apartment will give a sense of home.
koosjuh75 1 year ago
hey man, I'm from around Philly and I know exactly what you mean when you say you feel like something's missing. I was on tour with a band for three months, and we traveled all over Japan for a month. During those three months on tour, I missed my family and friends back home. Now that I'm back home, I miss all the experiences on the road and especially in Japan. In fact, I discovered your videos, cause I was feeling nostalgic.
P.S. way to represent the Phillies!!
drummerboytoo86 1 year ago
What? There are niggers in Japan?
KingHarkiniann 1 year ago
@KingHarkiniann lol
blade1417z 1 year ago
im also from new jersey. east brunswick. i moved to connecticut to be closer to my family, but i miss my friends who i hardly get to see. i hate CT so id gladly go back to NJ. if you can afford it, you should have an apartment in america, and one in japan, and live like 6 months in each. or like 3 months at a time and switch back and fourth or somethin like that. whatever you decide to do, good luck
ihateschool778 1 year ago
i hope you don't have to leave japan too, i just found your videos and i want more (like i said). i know it's a selfish reason, but living in such a place is great, even if you miss your friends and family (that's normal) i think you were very brave from the start for living in japan alone! as for me i will live in osaka next year, but i wont be alone so i am allright! but i also think if you will be back home the gap may remain because you'll miss osaka...well time will show!
Oguriblubb 1 year ago
So have you found out whether you'll stay or go yet?
shibuyakun 1 year ago
I am just going to toss out random sentences that came to mind during your video: the job situation here is not so good. If you have work, stay and save money for another year and reconsider. How can you be sure that when you come back that your friends don't move on, get married. etc. Family is always there. A lot depends on how much you need each other. Come back for a visit and check things out. What did you think you liked about japan before you went?
Space has run out. there's morell
hangawara 1 year ago
Man... I hope you don't have to leave. Or at least I hope you end up going back... this might sound creepy, but I was looking forward to meeting you in Osaka someday.
dumplingfriend 1 year ago
I understand how you feel completely. I have lived abroad and traveled all over, but GA is definitely home. I used to think that I wanted to live abroad permanently, but as I've gotten older I've realized this is where I want to settle down. I plan on going to Japan (I'd like to teach English there) and have a few other places on my list, but this is where I want to get married, raise children, etc. As awesome as other places are, and I definitely miss a few of 'em, GA wins for me.
SweetGAMomo 1 year ago
u made a really good point about really asking oneself how you're gonna cope in a new environment without the comfort of having your close friends and family nearby.My cousin moved to Denmark for a year and she had a tough time there in terms of bonding with and getting friends. And it's not like she's a social klutz.. She has a big circle of close friends at home and when she moved to Copenhagen, she had a tough time in the beginning..she'd pretty much call me once a week.LOL. i felt 4 her.
heomak 1 year ago
Personally I just try to be thankful for what I have. I know that's sounds cliche. But I just try to be true to myself. Sometimes it is hard to know what to do next. Just don't BS yourself. It's better to fail doing something you like then to not try to do what you want to do.
SPACIALDEMENTIA 1 year ago
Personally I just try to be thankful for what I have. I know that's sounds cliche. But I just try to be true to myself. Sometimes it is hard to know what to do next. Just don't BS yourself. It's better to fail doing something you like then to not try to do what you want to do. Good job with the videos!!
SPACIALDEMENTIA 1 year ago
Hi. I understand your situation. You have family and friends that you are close with. They live far away from you. You are in a drastically different country and culture and you live alone. That can suck...
I was serving in the Middle East when I was 18. Moved around a lot. Since then I have had several jobs working at home and abroad. You make friends only to leave them behind to pursue your next goal or opportunity. But that is life.
SPACIALDEMENTIA 1 year ago
I up and joined the airforce just to get away and try and change my life. There was nothing wrong with it. Had awesome fam and friends but knew that really we are alone in this world and while an awesome support group they can be you really have to hash out life on your own. Like Mick says we all have our lives and move on when we get older. We will always love eachother but we all have our own fam and obligations and have to live our own lifes. Thats what you will be going home to eventualy
edtomorrow 1 year ago
pt 2 You are young and havnt been gone too long so things might just pick up where u left off but eventually everyone must go their own ways and make their own lives. All my good buddys are now all married and live many miles away from me. I have a few friends now but never like the best ones from bk in the day. I guess I have lots of issues in that nothing is holding me down anywhere so I can up and move. I have ambitions to leave the US because Im pretty sure Im never getting married etc
edtomorrow 1 year ago
pt3 so I can live a selfish life. I dunno, It would seem that you should always follow your instincts. Never have regrets when it comes to the ones you love. Missed oppertunities suck and hard to get back. Use this as a learning experience so if you wanted to return to Jland you can do it better than before. Perhaps you felt like you didnt leave properly... Go home and fix that and make peace with yourself. Then when the time is right give it another shot and do it better.
edtomorrow 1 year ago
pt4 Where ever you go, there you are. You can have a plan but its not always going to turn out like you think. So no regrets and follow your heart. Life is free and you can do what ever you want! When ever you want! There is a common thing about ppl that like to travel, like Micki, we get the ichy feet. And that could be you and you just may not be happy unless you are on the move.
Eh, dont sweat it man, its all going to work out.
Gambatte!
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Im done, LOL!!!
edtomorrow 1 year ago
I never had any strong emotional ties to my parents as a child, thus their estrangment to me. Friends.. I can't really get because of social anxiety (apparently I'm liked but not approached).
I will leave nothing behind worth returning to
fathomthisss 1 year ago
It bothered me more when I was your age...I did a lot of traveling & had extended separations from friends & family. I'd be home a week & I'd have itchy feet again. Since I've been in my 30's, I've been married, so I'm never actually alone. I see a lot less of my friends, even if they were close, theyre busy with their own family commitments & stuff...I don't know, all I'm saying is, friends will always be important, but its not as important to hang out or go out together when you get older imo.
MicknFumi 1 year ago
@MicknFumi I love my family, I have 3 sisters & a brother. We've all been separated by distance over the last 15 years for a lot of the time & its rare for us all to be present for big occasions. But we stay in contact through phone calls & these days, the internet. So we stay in touch & so yeah...I don't miss them. Right now I'm 1.5 hrs South of my parents & 2 of my sisters are in Europe (London & France)...I know exactly where your coming from with the something always missing feeling though!
MicknFumi 1 year ago
I'm planning on living abroad, and i've actually thought about this before too. I have friends here that I am going to miss and family to but I can't wait to get out of here it's so boring. I will definitely want to come back afterward but I want to travel until it's no longer fun which is like never.
JakeNM1993 1 year ago
sorry for taking up space, but yea..there are always ways to get to where yo truly want to be. I dont know them all, im just learning as i go. You were right about being international. For me it truly lets embrace the life i was given. I'll go "home" when im ready and not until then. its adventure time for me, and im gonna milk it until dec 21st 2012 passes lol. Say phuck it, and try forrest gumping ur way for a change. payed 4 english, and opening doors daily. thats my 2 cents. spend it freely
dirtbaggz 1 year ago
I wasent ready to go home, but my money was gone almost. no choice right? fawk nooo!! I just went complete hustler, launched operation "stay in asia". I was down to 500$ i got the cheapest seat to hong kong, landed with $200usd and got to business. I hit the internet, prostituted myself as an English Tutor, and worked my way into an actual teaching job w/ a visa. The world is yours my young white brotha, the ride only ends when you want it too. msg me for advice or ideas, watch some vids, etc.
dirtbaggz 1 year ago
I was going complete rockstar with the locals. Drinking whisky and cokes str8 outta lawsons daily. Hooking up with girls, gettin high and feeling like an outlaw for it lol (japans laws are harsh). Anyways..after a visa refresh to Korea, and on my final 90days as a tourist, I realized i had nothing waiting back home. of course friends and family..but also the same life i've known until that point. I didnt want to go back. But japan isnt too easy on "immigration". I overstayed by a month.
dirtbaggz 1 year ago
(Part 1)hmmm... first of ur vlogs ive watched. Interesting, and the topic touches on things i have in fact went through. Dude i wound up in Japan after a break up. My Ex lives in Osaka. I was going to live with her there for a while blah blah. it went south needless to say. My mother turned the lemons into lemonade (as most moms can) and said I should go to JP anyways. I saved up a little money and planned on going for a 30 day trip. It turned into 7 months. By the 1st week...
dirtbaggz 1 year ago
I think what has to happen is you have to really have a place grow on you to stay there. The thing you notice with a lot of people on YouTube that live in Japan and plan on being there a while , is that they have established a new family in Japan. It's true there are things you simply cannot replace from the area you grew up in because it has became you and a part of you're culture but in time so will the new area. You have to decide if you want what was in the past or what will become !
Monarch816 1 year ago
@OsakaPapa, I'm from NJ too and I know how you feel when come to being homesick. But, dude don't give up, you're doing a great job!
Ericgtx 1 year ago
you're easily one of my top three expat's i like to watch. by far your best video. i think too, though, what have you gained by going abroad is important too. living alone and being 'alone' are two different things and i think you're talking about the former? although i'm just a faceless d-bag, you conjured up a lot of thoughts and emotions for myself. in so few words, you've yet to hit the tip of the iceberg. God bless.
19fas88 1 year ago
want to know something im going to keep typing so im going to make a video for you!
APOKALYPSE34 1 year ago
well said! and great points, and always good to know what your getting in to. Pros and cons will will and have always been there. but to tell you the truth you can always take trips as a get away to see your friends. or vice versa, personally I want to go cuz friends music and to brighten my brain to learn something with out help just from sheer will have a great tale for your self to enjoy , you make your own history, the memories you can pass dinner table or chill out with friends.
APOKALYPSE34 1 year ago
Just do what is the most important to you, to where your priorities lie...we'll support ya no matter what.
You only live this life once, might as well make the most of it :)
AM648 1 year ago
I've never been to japan but i was studying abroad in canada previously, which is really not that different from here, but i just sort of assimilated. It was home then and when i got back home i fell into my "normal" footsteps just as easily. I'm not sure if there is a secret to it, but as long as i feel comfortable and have some people to hang out with i'm good in most situations. :) Will it be more difficult if i ever decide to live in japan? I just don't know
scienceman83 1 year ago
If you had a family like mine and had friends like mine, I would not go back if I ever leave someday and travel some where else in the world! But if you have to you have to, but just consider all options...! :{
TheGhostOfSabotage 1 year ago
Part 1 of 2
"Those you leave behind only make room for more to be made." That's kinda of my though on the situation. I don't lead the happiest life, but I don't hate it, I love my family, even though its not perfect., the situation I'm in has made me a better person. I know I can't stay here forever, that's not what I want. If and when I do make it to Japan, I shouldn't have any problems adjusting, I've always been an independent person. Not everyone is the same though.
reaper4255 1 year ago
@reaper4255
Part 2 of 2
With that said, there's no place like, but even them, home is where you make it.
Regardless if you go home or not, you can always go back, or somewhere else for that matter.
In the end, you do what you gotta do!
Also, don't stop making videos if you do go home, we watch you cause we're interested in YOU. =P
reaper4255 1 year ago
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reaper4255 1 year ago
I haven't lived outside my own home before. So honestly, I think it would be PUHR-RITTY interesting... I would at least try to bring someone I know well enough and can get along with to live in Japan. Being completely alone ain't really something I could cope with. D:
countumga 1 year ago
@countumga I'd also like to add that, though I do love the Japanese culture, its' people, the video games, the anime, oh yeah... Love it all; but like I mentioned, I'd probably go with someone else so that I'm NOT alone. And though I would go to learn the language and culture and the many quirks of Japan, I would come back home & live here in California, because they happen to offer the most work in Voice Over, which is something I want to do for a living.
countumga 1 year ago
I just graduated High School and it's made me realize that if I ever decided to leave for Japan to study abroad that I'm really going to miss people. I do like where I live and I'm glad to live here. Recently, I don't really know how I will fare living in a new country by myself starting fresh when I'm already comfortable with my life. The only experience I have traveling abroad is to Spain with a few students without my family. But as you said that's a different experience than being alone.
AFXisgreat 1 year ago
Great topic. I plan to go to Japan in 2-3 years. The one friend I have is going to do the same thing. Since I don´t like most of my family and hate my life here, I don´t think it´s going to be a problem. Oh well, good luck to you with evereything :)
KonahaAliana 1 year ago
i understand what ur saying..... but i would stay in Japan
HUMBUS94 1 year ago