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  • Sam, your video touched me so much and brought back to mind my teenage years. I went through a lot of the same stuff you told about going through yourself. Wish I could have hugged you every time I noticed you being close to tears. Think you must have the cutest sneeze in history! Keep up the good work, just discovered your videos today! xoxo

  • Thank you for this video. I really needed to head some of this. I'm at a deep moment in my depression from a lot of loss and death in my life in the past year. Checking out the link now.

    Thanks again.

  • @TheSurrealcast Stay strong, and thanks for watching. Feel free to email me whenever you want at kindagayblog@gmail.com

  • @KindaGayBlog Thanks. I really appreciate the fact that you were able to record your coming out transition, it's a hard topic. I would email you but I wouldn't want to dump that much stuff on someone. A psychiatrist would probably be better bet.

  • We're not here on the planet to make people happy, our purpose is to teach the word of God to those who don't yet know or understand the word of God. Its not your sexuality that saves you, but your faith and trust in Christ. Read Psalms 118:8.

  • mate! you are beautifull human being. Your honesty and trust to tell everyone you so private experience have really moved me. Thank you for doing this!

  • 2:00 Middle school is always the worst place to learn :/

  • I loved this video but especially when you sneezed! It was so unexpected!

  • Thanks for sharing your experience! You are very brave and would be a cool person to get to know. Wishing you the best.....

  • I'm Lathan from small town, USA.

    You describe everything so well. I was an athlete but it didn't matter because of the dressing nice, made the other guys not like me and call me all the names they could. The only the differences was that I came out in high school because I was so tired of living two different lives, also that lead to me getting attacked by 6 guys in the locker room after practice, were they beat me down pretty bad and that wasn't even the worst of it. You are awesome to share!

  • @ThroughMyEyes100 Hey I'm sorry you had to go through that. You were very brave for coming out when you did. I hope things are better now!

  • He does care about me AS A FRIEND and a BRO at best, I did smile, laugh a lot but he already is out of my life since my mom pulled me back from US to my country just so she can "take care of me" >_< Yes it sucks and I'm still asking if it get better for 2 years now. Just toe make the matter worse, I'm a divorce kid and being home is more like being hell while I have almost no friend. Those few friends that I have can only offer me a shoulder while I need a hand :(

  • I came out in 11 grade, I was popular. To my supprise, everybody excepts me. I was the class clown in hs, sometimes, my friends went overboard on kinda gay jokes( which I normally dont mind cuz I know they don't mean it) and they apologize for it (which I kinda enjoy haha). I drunk texted a friend about the guy i'm in love with. It leaked and he chased me to the stair and said "it's ok :)". He is my bestie now. To my dismay, I turned out to be transexual and it's been another tough time for me:(

  • You describe the sense and symptoms of depression very well, and your remedies create many possibilities. I am going to perform coming out monologues at my university and I am excited. I forgot to look at all these videos to pull emotion and inspiration from them.

  • @nobodysdc7 Hey, thanks a lot! That's very cool of you to say. I think the scariest thing is not knowing why you're feeling what you're feeling. There's no shame in being depressed. Life is not all rainbows and unicorns. Good luck with your monologues!

  • lookin for the strength

  • hi by the way. 

  • i saw the video. MY EYES MY EYES!!!!!!! :(

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  • THAT WAS AWESOME! Loved the beginning with the eyes and the sound lmao. And wow dude, I feel the same way you felt. Right now I'm depressed and feel very much disconnected, it's good to have you to relate to. And I can't believe how much you sneeze haha. Thanks for being such a down to earth person and sharing. Keep it up! and be happy! :)

  • THAT WAS AWESOME! Loved the beginning with the eyes and the sound lmao. And wow dude, I feel the same way you felt. Right now I'm depressed and feel very much disconnected, it's good to have you to relate to. And I can't believe how much you sneeze haha. Thanks for being such a down to earth person and sharing. Keep it up! and be happy! :)

  • THAT WAS AWESOME! Loved the beginning with the eyes and the sound lmao. And wow dude, I feel the same way you felt. Right now I'm depressed and feel very much disconnected, it's good to have you to relate to. And I can't believe how much you sneeze haha. Thanks for being such a down to earth person and sharing. Keep it up! and be happy! :)

  • have you and your boyfriend ever eaten each others shit. ? i heard some gay men are into that. i find it yucky but whatever. ill still think you are cute even if you have done that. :)

  • @zebredpooding Um, no. That's not a "gay men" thing. Have you seen 2 girls 1 cup?

  • @KindaGayBlog OMG U saw that video?? I SAW IT TOO ITS SOOOOO DISGUSTING!!!!!!

  • @zebredpooding because that's sensitive and relevant to the video. yeah.

  • it never gets better ...

  • @Man2012Super With that attitude it doesn't! :(

  • @KindaGayBlog yeah sorry I was depressed at that moment , but it's kinda hard when ur living in a muslim society ,but it gets better I guess

  • people who come out seek attention and want to be noticed in my view.

  • Great job Sam and for sharing your story

  • @THEROBBIEKSHOW Thanks Robbie! :)

  • I'm glad you decided to make an "It Gets Better" video. I've watched a ton of them but I really relate to certain elements of your story... particularly the part about how depression affected your life. I'm still in the "waiting for it to get better" phase and just taking it one day at a time. I'm glad you're at a good place in your life:)

  • @halfbro That's all you can do for now, but it sounds like you're on the right track. :) Hang in there and know we're right there with you.

  • *hugs*

  • Sam, I love your videos. I never feel like you're "performing" for an audience; there's no artifice standing between you and your viewer. Thank you for your thoughtfulness and sincerity.

  • @whitmansspider What a nice comment. Thank you!

  • I was cracking up, but it was all AWE's..I love you man!!!

  • Those eyes at the beginning of the video..

    Made my life. So proud of you!

  • great video like always but this can't go unnoticed... what kind of sneeze was that?

  • @ERAUPRCWA It was a fast motion sneeze! :) I sneeze really weird, I know. Most people think it's a cough, and I never sneeze just once or twice. It's a whole episode and it can be really dangerous when I'm driving!

  • Now, even with all the flak we catch from homophobic people, we don't have to think we are all alone. There is hope. We can see others have survived, thrived and found love and acceptance. It does get better! Thanks and keep up the good work!

  • Wow, Sam, what a beautiful video, full of empathy and understanding. I'm so glad LGBT people have the tools of Youtube, blogs and message boards to be able to express ourselves and to give encouragement to others. The truth of our lives can be expressed openly.

    Your description of growing up in a small town resonates with me but growing up in the 1960's there were no resources to tell us it would get better. You had to leave the area or just endure the best you could where you were.

  • @bilcal Thank you! Yes, I'm so thankful for the resources the LGBT community have now. Before I came out, I was always online listening and reading other people's coming out stories. The internet is such a valuable tool for us in that it lets us know that we are never alone in our struggle.

  • You talking about middle school actually made me tear up a little. Like you mentioned you do come out a stronger person. Its sometimes fun to see people I went to school with get bent out of shape over the most piddly things. They my have been the bad asses in school who liked to pick on people but as adults they are the biggest babies I have ever seen. Great video man :)

  • @shadetree84 Thanks Garrett! Yeah, once bullies leave their little high school kingdom and are let out in the real world, they're usually scared and alone. That's when they either change their ways or take another path into drugs and crime.

  • I agree, it does get better. It will always get better. A quote I heard first from a friend that always helps me in rough spots:

    "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, then it's not the end."

  • I feel the same way you did then right now every day I know something is going to make me sad or hurt or break me down inside an it's scarry an you know the feeling when your deep under water that's how I feel all the time an I feel like I'm going to go nowhere in life. an it's just reall sad

  • Very good video Sam. I related with quite a few of those feelings you shared. I really need to work on my confidence and self esteem. Thank you for sharing them and thank you for that Tiny Buddha link! That is a really great site. Keep it strong man.

  • Ur videos r great!!! I could not relate more with them;it's impossible. I go back in time and realize there were signs also of being gay and I go just like that "so gay" but I now accept it proudly and I'm also proud of our community. Sam, thanks for sharing ur past, mine is very similar with even the same timing lol

  • I wanted to write a big meaningful comment to show how much your story and I had a lot of parallels and how I feel wonderful knowing that my story is shared, but...I can't think of anything. So...I'm going to try and put everything I was going to say in these next few words.

    Thank you *hugs*

  • I spent the last three years in that 'zombie mode'. I've been slowly overcoming it this past year. I don't have many friends, but I cherish the couple that I can actually count on, but I still spend most of my time trying to understand my past and how I got to where I am now. I really don't think 'healing' is anywhere near, but oh well.

  • Wow, very emotional and honest, I've had short bouts with depression as well and it is really is hard to claw your way out because nothing seems meaningful or worth giving a shit about when you are stuck in a depression. Sam, i'm glad you added your voice to the It gets better project...it has really helped me and countless others.

    Hugs, David

  • It's really strange how this video made me feel better because it's been 5 years since fully being out and around 7 years since I've been bullied (though I wasn't out at the time and hadn't even figured it all out for myself either). It's strange because for me being gay isn't really an issue these days and that just goes to show how it really does get better.

    I agree it does make you a stronger person but in time I think it becomes almost a non-issue. Thanks Sam, this was a great video! :)

  • It takes a lot of inner struggle to deal with it all. I certainly feel that disconnection, it crept up on me and now I don't know how I can undo that. It's damn scary. I'm not out, but I'm certainly nearly at the other end of it all :). I still have problems in social settings though and it get's me down a lot. Feeling like you never fit in sucks. I look forward to the day when I can get a hot older italian boyfriend ;)

  • Great video....I agree that you have to let people in...I have a really hard time doing that :O(

  • @depfox Oh that's something I still struggle with, definitely. Of course that could just be the pessimist in me.

  • @depfox I'm just not learning to let people in... recently I came out, which is a BIG deal because now after 23 years I'm finally being comfortable with myself to share myself with the people around me. 22 years of living a lie really kills you on the inside and outside. I couldn't bring in my 23rd birthday living a lie and unhappy.

  • @ERAUPRCWA 26 yrs old. Couldn't take it no more. Came out to closest friends Siblings. Has been a great experience so far. I couldn't deal with living a lie either after so many years of denying myself.

  • @ang0585 yeah, funny enough the people I was worried about telling have actually embraced me more now that I've told them something so personal. My bonds have become closer and my relationship with my parents is better. Now they're not 100% supportive but they've been dealing with it just fine.

  • It would be phenomenal if you could understand just how much of my biography you broadcast across YouTube. Your life and mine are stunning in similarity on many levels - emotionally, psychologically, intellectually - really rather weird - but thank you for your insightful articulation, the sharing of your strength, and your kindness to allow others to follow your success.

  • @YCFGUZJCGBJCEFOZBRNQ What a beautiful comment, thank you! It makes me so happy that you can relate.

  • I had a lot of dark days like that. Thanks for talking so eloquently about yourself, bro.

  • @aidenx182 Yep, been there, done that. It's no fun. But the great thing about life is that it changes, and when it does, we grow and learn.

  • Awww, big hugs hun. I'm so glad you made it through that dark time. You're an awesome person and I'm glad I found your channel. Stay sweet <3

  • Thanks for all of that...

    Greetings from Poland! :-)

  • same thing i did :)

  • "Pumping those plastic 5 pound weights listening to.....Destiny's Child"...lmao. That and the little rabbit sneezes made my day.

    Great video, really appreciate your honesty.

  • @DoctorSpaceman89 Haha, thank you. I can't believe I actually admitted to doing that!

  • :')

  • A great addition to the series. :) Thanks for sharing. 

  • I’m so glad you made it through all this. You experiences are a huge help to others. You have become an Awesome man Sam, thank you so so much for sharing. Here's to a Bright future..

    Have a great day my friend,

    ~Russ

  • Your good looking ! :)

  • I can totally relate , thanks for making this video :) .

  • 14-17 were my dark years. I was never really picked on for being gay or maybe I was and didn't realize it. After a while I realized its not going anywhere and I learned to accept it.

  • @nyncblue Yeah, those can be tough years for any teenager. Being gay only puts that much more stress and pressure on you. I'm glad you were able to accept yourself.

  • Thanks for a very honest video. I think you addressed a major issue that leads to the depression. Not knowing what your future will be like because we often at that age have no reference point. Unless you have older out gay family members you don't know "Oh! two (Wo)Men can be together and have a great life" You don't know that they have jobs and homes and get along like everyone else even though they are out.

  • that was my middle school life. i was the only asian person in my class and these two kids, one was white and the other spanish, wud constantly pick on me. in the 7th grade i tried to fit in and tried to find a gay friend and he picked on me too. during middle school being gay makes u isolated. the straight and the gays both pick on u. high school is like a time for emotional development and i was desperate for a boyfriend. i dont even kno wat my plans r for the future yet

  • Great video! Friends accepting me is what helped me out. Like you I never thought I could be out, being from a mormon family and all I never thought I could accept myself. I am still in the process of being more open with my family. It's true things do get better with time and things have been getting better for me in recent times. Again great video.

  • yesterday was the first day in my life when someone screamed faggot at me , I was in my bike, I just looked at him with my psycho face and kept on going happy riding my bike, it actually didn't affected me at all, it was kinda funny... besides , this kind of things makes me stronger as a person, you just gotta look on the bright side :D hugs for you and pier.

  • everything got better fast for me cause when i came out everyone stopped bullying me :D and i made like a million more friends o:!

  • You might hear thousands of people saying "It gets better" over and over but you never know when you saying it will be at just the right time and place to make a difference. Thanks for sharing Sam

  • Is it a cosmic coincidence that I uploaded a video about bullying two days ago ? xD

    Great video there, I love how you always manage to mix serious business and funny stuff ^^ I went from tears to roflmao, to tear, to smile =) it also worries me that some things you said are word by word what happened to me .__.

  • yeah i had some school kid bullying, but mostly from my angry father in the form of often severe beatings. sux when your bully has control over ur whole life.

  • Wow, just... wow. You have no idea how happy I am to have found your channel. It's so easy to relate to you. Loved the video, almost fell off the chair with the beginning and the sneeze part, and the message at the end was awesome. Hope you feel better after talking about it, you looked sad ;_; It's never late for a video like this, you may have helped someone with it :D

  • hey,am from hong kong and 11th grade myself,i used to got teasing when i was 7~8 grade,nothing serious but enough to strike my sprite down a little bit.but things gets better now,no one would ever tease on me now.Actually,,my sexuality bring me even more female friends~which is kinda great i guess.But,that is so hard to have a gay close friend here to share feeling with or a boy friend who dosen't just wanna screw ya.=[

  • Welcome to the community Sam, we love you and the world needs you.

  • When did you come out as being gay again? I didn't catch that. I cam out as being gay in the 8th grade. Big hug.

  • @ConnorMay1993 I came out when I was 23 to my best friend. I was going to add the link to my coming out story in the description box. Thanks for the reminder!

  • @KindaGayBlog LOL - I did the exact same thing @ the same age. My best friend then said he was bi. And he had noo Idea I was gay.

  • There's always a place for another " It gets better " video !

  • How are you at a Scottish accent? You remind me of Richard Madden from "Game of Thrones" and "Sirens".

  • Sam ... Hang in there, mate. My warmest hug to you.

  • Hugs and lots of love <<33

  • Thanks for posting so much recently. Glad I stayed up until 6AM now!

  • Great video Sam, thank you! :)

  • This is the second time you've made me tear up haha. Great video :) I started watching when you had like 4 vids and what made me love you was how much I relate to the problems and emotions you talked about, its dumb but I feel like you make these vids just for me >.<. Thank you, Sam you really are helping a buttload(lol) of people ;)

  • @PersonaBreak Aw, wow thank you! I always look so sad in my videos, so I hope people don't get depressed watching me! I really appreciate your feedback and support. After making this video, I felt a big sense of release. It's so therapeutic to talk about it.

  • WHAT THE HELL WHATS THAT HAHAH was that a sneeze or cough lol :D

  • @justinalexander2010 Ha, I get asked that all the time. It was a sneeze! :)

  • @KindaGayBlog O ok haha yeah i laughed my ass off :D LOL well first was confusion then laughter :P

  • Thanks, Sam. Big hug....

  • @2Majesties Thanks for watching. *hugs back* :)

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