Trouble telling people about depression and SA

[RedBrightNBlue]

Well said, good video. I also struggle with SA and Depression. In the words of my own father, "I feel depressed sometimes too ya know and then I look at a homeless person and I realize life is not so bad" He was really honestly trying to give fatherly advice here and its ignorant comments like that, when people think they're helping, that hurts the most. As if we didn't already feel isolated enough. Its a slap in the face to realize how someone must think of you.

[madarauchiha34]

ps i had this feeling since i was 9 years old

for proof today i was talking to my cousin and his friends joined after a period of time i got pist at them for being smart with me so i muted them so i told my cousin i muted them and he kickes me from the party his own relative that knew him for 11 years and he pits his fucking friends dude i felt like punching a wall that proves that not even my family members care about how i feel.

[madarauchiha34]

i pretty sure i have depression i took a test and got over 90% percent and i dont know if i can trust anybody because no one care about me NO ONE i overheard my parents say i am a pain in the ass and many more words that made me feel worse i started to lose more and more friends and i and also sure that i have no real friends everbody like i said is mean to me calling me dump stupid retarded for no reason i also tried to kill myself many times but dont know the fast way to

[nilesolma]

@madarauchiha34 Im sorry to say so nt you are folling yourself, why? Because I have some of the feelings you do, i too used to hate people and loathe them, being jealous of people etc. But if you learn to love and welcome people you'll become much more calmer and wiser, friends are the key please make yourself any friend possible they really help don't kill yourself please, you will find out that it is really unnecesary. I believ that SA can be cured through constant social expousre with friends

[KratEREZ]

Welcome to philosophy my friend. lol

[1108SASSY]

There are so many stigmas to have any type of mental disorder. Society as a whole has a very negative view of those with mental disorder. Until a person is affected by a mental disorder they do not understand or have empathy for the person. You have taken huge steps to break down some of the barriers surrounding depression and SA.

[sliderALT]

You're cool! I love how you took a bad thing and made it a positive. I truly respect that! I agree with everything you said and thought it was very articulate.

[maniacholo]

Another advice is you can call a friend, if you can't tell somebody about what you feel personally. Call them via 1800mumdad even if you run out of credit.. This will work..;)

[GenerationDarkness]

you cant describe social anxiety to people without it, no matter how hard you try. they just wont understand. plus, you dont even have social anxiety, how the hell would you know?

do you know how it feels like when people ignore/avoid you all the time? how on every lunch, we suffers of social anxiety always eat alone and is afraid of being seen alone? you have no idea.

[ThemanfromJapan]

that sounds truly terrible

[LeftHandGreen]

And when I do eventually talk to them I would have to put the conversation in my head first. What I would ask or say to them and I would visualize what they would say or ask back and what I would say to that. lol I dont know its not a good feeling when I cant talk to people when I know I want to. I felt it to be a phobia and that there was something wrong with me so I started drinking a lot because it made me feel confident but i needa quit and this could be my opening.

[LeftHandGreen]

Listen Ive dealt with the stress of social anxiety for so long. But the people I have problems talking to "my girlfriends uncle" I can now see that he and other people I have problems talking to have felt the same way and are in the same boat as me and that I dont need to be scared to talk to them. This video seriously just blew my mind that I cant believe ive never thought about it this way. I always want to talk to other people but cant seem to do it...

[wickedwind112]

You are really wise. I enjoy your insights on these issues. Thank you!!

[djdeathtone]

I just want you to know you are not alone. I love my Dad, but he has always said it is just in you head. Well, yeah it is., but something we cant stop, but maybe control to a degree. Always be you,. You know yourself better than all.

[PurePhrancis]

You sound like you would make a brilliant teacher.

Thanks for the video

[hjbit]

its hard to tell people you have social anxiety because people are ignorant assholes!! NO ONE UNDERSTANDS!!! it would be easier to be fucking crippled because at least people can SEE your handicap. but if you tell someone you cant do something because you have anxiety theyre like "big shit, so do i!!" and that condescending lack of validation makes me wanna beat the living fuck out of someone. i goi into combat adrenalin mode just going to the mall.

[joeatkinson0]

@hjbit you're the best.

[BeauMelodies]

i kno i hate when people think they can relate

[Bedazzler16]

You seem like a real nice dud. I got social anxiety and depression. Not sure if I had both from the start or if I have social anxiety creating a comorbid condition namely depression. I can speak to people and stuff but they see my anxiety and they see something is wrong with me and I lost a lot of friends and it makes me deeply sad

[BROKENTOILETSTORE]

deppresion is associated with low seritonin levels. most anti deppresants open up the receiver for seritonin. pot usage and caffine can also play a role in deppresion at a later state.

[666mamakoala]

Your videos are awesome; you speak rather articulately.

[scandycuz1]

The difference between people with social anxiety and without, is that in people with social anxiety, the brain has become wired to interpret anxiety and embarrassment as the most terrible thing in the world, as if it was a life threatening situation, while other people just shrug it off. people with social anxiety cant help the way they feel about social situations because their brain interprets them so differently. counseling and therapy can be very effective at reversing this process though.

[scandycuz1]

i recomend mindfullness meditation as a helpful tool for depression and social anxiety

[nowxthatximxdying1]

hi there very nice video i learned alot! :D <3

[littelrobinho]

nice video

[egreticide]

I agree that its awesome I have the anxiety cause it makes us better people right, like instead of some people who've never felt it like we have, so yeah I totally get that. Haha that sentence made no sense.. lol It SUCKS to have it though, grr...

[alenawww]

So far my experience is not to tell people about my inner problems. Even those who seem to like me at first. I'd try to appear and act normal as much as possible.

Haven't met those who could relate or understand. All people known to me want someone perfectly healthy and super cheerful. So it's probably not worth it to be open with them anyways.

[Chrissycbaq]

Hi i like your videos thanks for them they help me :]

[rockingyoucuzican]

This is an excellent post. I have social anxiety that is pretty much limited to public speaking, and when I try to explain what it feels like to be on the spot a lot of people dismiss it saying they feel the same. But in fact, they have no idea.

[bvm699y]

i'm feeling naughty at the moment 1

[lorenzoe69]

iv got depression, i went through it for yrs b4 i said something, but when i did it felt like such a load off my shoulders. Now i take pills 4 it, and im not afraid to let people no about it, i use to be though, i would go to scholl and pretend to be happy! GREAT VID, KEEP MAKING THEM!!!

[QuixoticBlues]

I am incredibly glad that this video and others are helpful to so many people! I'll tell you that they're wonderfully helpful for me. I love reading all of these comments and finding people who have had shared experiences!

[StealthyBob]

Sure most people feel those things but when it's a chronic problem it's much worse. I also suffer from social anxiety and bouts of depression. Check out my videos if you want.

[royalslump]

oops how many comments have i posted? i can only see one but i think i posted like 4 accidently, because each time i posted it didnt show up after i refreshed so i tried to remember what i said and reposted hehe. but its weird how i can only see my last one, the shortest one. hmm, maybe its youtube i dunno

[royalslump]

oh weird i finally see the other comment. so odd

[royalslump]

QuixoticBlues, you hit the nail. great video as always. please keep making videos, youre a great addition to youtube. im glad youre here

[StarveAndRun85]

Erg I hate it when people have those responses. The 3 friends I've told have been understanding but my parents haven't been.

I chose the friends I'm closest to and the ones that are the most openminded and not judging to tell.

I know people understand me and people like us but it's just I haven't found the right real-life people to discuss this with =\

[nosralkire]

good stuff. favorited, 5 stars. You are a Guru

[xcgirlie]

You made really good points throughout your video. I am being honest when I say this, I totally know how you feel and what you're going through. I know other peoples videos, like yours, help me with my own anxiety and depression and I think they will definitely help you as well because you can vent. So keep making videos and hang in there! :)

[QuixoticBlues]

I definitely LoL'd at "don't think so hard about it," that one's a classic. Thanks =)

[QuixoticBlues]

It occurred to me after posting this that you viewers might interpret what I said as hostile. I truly do appreciate it when people sympathize with me and let me know how they feel. Please don't worry that I will be scornful or offended. Thank you for all your kindness =)

[gizmo2084]

Hostile? Well, I think Abby touched on this a bit. I think what makes us frustrated is that sometimes we'll see emails that just say, "It's ok. It will be better tomorrow" and leave it at that. Or they will just offer a simple "SOLUTION." There is no solution for life. :) It's a work in progress.

Also, outgoing people are the last ones that will "get it" or truly understand. It's best to learn from those that used to be shy and overcame it.

[royalslump]

exactly! with SA, and with this in mind, i feel that my thoughts on conditions i dont have are more rational. i understand very little about others problems. rather than thinking 'i understand,' i think 'i want to understand' or 'i need to learn more.' it seems like the right approach. people with SA understand the most, followed by extremely shy people w/o SA, then shy people, and so on & so forth. everyone can relate, but that doesnt mean they understand how we think (or what the solution is!)

[gizmo2084]

royalslump, true. I should have posted "SA" instead of just "shy" since that's less severe than someone that has full fledged SA. You're right about the order of those that are able to relate.

Well said! :)

[QuixoticBlues]

Really good points getting made all around. I often really feel for people with any mental illness, for the social stigma and personal frustration that comes with it.

[gizmo2084]

I also think it's great that you are seeing that we all have a lot in common when before you might have thought that YOU were the ONLY one feeling this way. That's scary and lonely feeling.

For me I was isolated by my interests. For example: Science, art, history. That's academic stuff. So, going to a party and taking about science to a bunch of beer drinking party animals wasn't going to work nor did I want to do it. I did manage to loosen up and learn their language later on. :)

[caretaker1379]

it seems to me that people that haven't really experienced something truly don't know how to "comfort" the person that is going through the experience... we as people seem to have this... always be happy attitude... I don't really know... to be honest I think the best thing a person can do is just to listen to the person going through the experience and take it in and don't say anything... just let them know your listening.

[gizmo2084]

I agree with you that we all suffer from different types of anxieties. But what's different is that we all have our own ways of coping. Coping mechanisms are defensive tools we use to prevent being hurt of left out. That's fine. Because when we are out meeting new people there's no way that all of them will "get us" or accept us for whatever reason. Some might even be envious that we are able to be ourselves and they aren't (yet).