Just saw ur video thank you for the advice,my dad had a serve stoke and is paralysed and keeps forgetting my name,but I will stay strong for him,love you penn xxxxx
That meant a lot and I could really relate. My mom passed away rather young from the 4th bout of cancer which was terminal and it absolutely changed her. I found it very difficult to put the mother and woman I knew so well in the past and get to know the woman she became. That last line in the video struck me deep down, that is absolutely correct.
I know what Penn is talking about! MY mom is going to be 82 this year and she has been in and out of the hospitla for the last few years and i am really close to her .
and i cann't help of thing what's going to happend to me, after she's dead.
We all know that we have to die and cannot live forever, yet it is so incomprehensible and painful to watch one's parents waste away and eventually die. I love my parents dearly for who they are today, still, when memories of happier times that I shared with them appear in my mind, I am filled with so much tenderness and grief. You are a good and gentle giant.
Wow, I realize that this channel is basically dead but I just have to say that the more I see of Penn Jillette the more I like him. He sometimes comes across as just an opinionated asshole but more and more I see that he is a real person and his opinions are VERY similar to my own. Thanks Penn!
(maybe Teller should do something like this so we can see what he's really like)
thats really fucking sad, Penn has a deep genuine heart felt video like this, then bails. whats the matter big guy, afraid your non-pragmatic side is showing? hey, who id the poor schmo who had to take his channel for him when he pussed out? hey guy/lady why dont you make your own videos, this channel has plenty of subscribers to entertain
I'm a deeply religious man and have studied many religious and philosophical texts. This is one of the most profound sentiments I've ever come across.
This is powerful. You can see his pain and it's so easy to empathize. Hey, buddy, we're with you. At least I am.
It's hard remembering how powerful and impressive your parents were in their prime when they don't think of themselves that way. When they don't understand that even the tiniest things they did had impact and meaning. Missing them for who they were rather than who they are.
I'll take your advice to heart, Penn. You're a good, kind, smart guy and it shows in all of these clips.
This is tremendously good advice for those who are dealing with aging parents but, really, the same advice goes for every single relationship in our lives. If we can do our best to see people as they really are, right now, not as we want them to be, not as they once were, not judging them by others "like them" we've known, well, that's the heart of the matter.
Penn, I had the pleasure of meeting you the other week after your show at the Rio, however I didn't see this video until tonight. I would like to thank you for your advice, as my parents get older and begin to fade I occasionally fear how it would tear me apart to see them in a weakened state. To stand helplessly beside one's parents as they wither one can only hope to love them as they are, when time is so precious. Thanks again, and I hope you bring back the videos.
Thank you Penn...My nephew shared this with me...My father is gone, I never got the chance to really get to know him, my mother is in a nursing home. I took care of her at home for a year before it got to be too much for me to handle...it is so hard watching my proud strong, hard headed mother lay in that bed and disappear day after day...thank you for reminding me to cherish each moment.
I am a fifity year old man who is currently living with his parents who are rapidly losing the ability to take care of themselves. I very much appreciate this video and am planning of making several of my own in an attempt to connect with others who are going through this kind of situation.
I have lost a few dear members of my family, and i"m thinking, how is it possible to love different versions of the same person different ways? Are they not the same people? If you mean, don't be enamored with a vision of the past, I can understand. But we aren't all so fortunate to have our loved ones die in a state of peaceful clarity. My grandmother, in the years before she died, turned into a horrid version of her former self. Am I to try to make peace with that skewed version of her?
Hi Penn fans. Penn Says videos have been discontinued, so you won't be seeing any new content on here. You can check out our Profile on our Channel Page for more info. We'll still be checking in, so hope to keep chatting with you all! Thanks!
"Get to know and love your parents for who they are now." Excellent advice also for people who had troublesome relationships with their parents while growing up, if the parents have become kinder and wiser with age.
Thank you, Penn, for sharing this message. This advice is more comforting than any religious afterlife wishful thinking. One day my parents will be in the same state, and I will love them until they pass on.
Lost my Dad last September. Mom is still with us but in decline. I just stumbled on to this video and I profoundly appreciate Greenberger's insight and you taking the time to explain it. Thank you very much.
Damn... I want to say "u suck" for making me tear up... I'm going thru this shit now with my mom... It's fucking killing me. I'll try to somehow find a way to see her as some sort of "new person". I doubt i can do it man, it just isn't the same. i can't finish this
You're a good man, Penn. In fact you're one of my heroes. You were instrumental in helping me free myself from 12-Step indoctrination, to understand atheism and become an atheist. Now you talk with great humanity and real emotion about a very important aspect of life.
My mom is 74, and I spend time with her every day. She's crazy about you too! 5*!
Penn, I'm a rather large fan of yours and I appreciate this video. It really is an amazing way to look at things. However I am a Christian and I also like to hope that I will see them in an afterlife. However I also respect your perspective as well. I'm glad you can speak like this and to the other Atheist posters. There are quite a few people that would rather condemn than try to understand that of others views. Again, I'd like to say Penn, that I'm glad you posted this. You're a good man.
Thanks for sharing Penn... My pops passed away @ 53 with an Aortic Aneurysm. Life changed so much for everyone in the family. Family came out of nowhere to help, and sadly some to hurt. I treasure each day with my Mom. She toils everyday and will never fully recover from the loss. But all I can do is be the best her son can be.
First off, thank you for sharing. I have been having recent bouts of crippling panic attacks brought on by thoughts of my parents fading, and eventually, myself as well. I know exactly what you meant and how you felt when you talked about your dad and your mother transitioning into an unfamiliar and inevitable part of life. Basically, I just want to thank you for making me feel like im not the only one, and for giving the only advice on how to deal with a loved one's fade into memory.
Thank you for sharing this with me Penn, my father is having health problems and this information really strikes a heavy octave with me. I only hope that I can display the same level of emotion when the time comes to say goodbye for the last time. Thanks again. Your shows make a difference and it's always good to hear your opinion on any subject. Dude, don't be sorry, loving my parents for who they are now is great fucking advice.
I'm not able to avoid the grief of dealing with an ill parent. It simply is what it is for me, the present. What I have been able to do is learn more her family's Italian history, what she enjoyed as a young woman, her neighborhood, friends ... etc.
I recall when I lived in Jamaica Plains MA that my roommate, who was in his early 50's at that time, his mother was best friend's w/ Penn's mother. What really parallels this scenario is that the death of my roommate' parents devastated him and he lost everything. This is because his love of his parents were so great and he took care of them in their declining years.
What's interesting about this is that Penn doesn't seem upset when describing his parents as they were towards the end, but does seem moved by his memories of how they were in the past. And his sentence about having plenty of time to mourn later I guess still includes now.
ive been guilt tripped into visiting my grandparents, soon, who i have very little in common with. I don't know how to go about talking to them. But perhaps your advice is a good one. Just go and talk to them and learn who they are now in there lives rather than prod for amusing stories of their past to fill the time.
My father died with full faculties, but frail. We were entirely different people, and that was OK.
My mom now needs my help to get up. That was a struggle for me to come to grips with this last summer, thank you Penn this will help me cope with what will come.
My grandfather was very frail in his last few years, but I always remember the good times we had and all the advice he gave me, and that he said that he was proud of me. I miss him. Thank you, Penn.
My mom has had Alzheimer's for 10 years. Each time her disease progresses, I lose one mom and gain another. This is probably a common mindset for caregivers. A way to deal and stay sane for them.
I hope nobody thinks I'm trying to belittle their love for their parents, either past or present, when I say this but I think it needs to be said: It never ceases to amaze me how many people assume all parents are worthy of love and/or respect. I think you'd be very surprised to find that the number is much lower than you think.
That's a difficult thing to do...trying not to remember how they used to be. Very difficult not to remember. Loving them is the easy part, not remembering them they way they used to be is not. I feel ya Penn.
wow touching stuff there Penn, i think your parents were very lucky to have you as their son and to have your love right up until the end. My motto has always been 'accept people for who they are, not who you think they should be or who they were, and love abundantly.' Love ya Penn
My mother and I fight all the time about thing. She is a 56 year old woman who grew up in El Paso, Texas. I am a 29 year old woman that grew up in Columbus, Ohio. So we see the world very differently. I have been saying lately that I can't wait to finish my degree so I can move to another city and away from her. But I also had never heard anyone say what you said in your blog. Thanks for setting me straight.
Thank you. I am going through this now and have been getting very frustrated. This is the approach I need to take and I think everything wil work out better. She is not the same person.
my father is 92 and suffering from moderate dementia he and i never had a close relationship when i was young but now he lives with my wife myself and our 14 yr. old daughter and these past few yrs.that he has been with us have been the best and closest that we have ever been i treasure each and every day
I actually like my father now, he is in his 70's with all kinds of health issues, when I was young he was not a nice guy and now he has mellowed with age and is nice and funny and I feel like I know the "real" him more now than ever...thanks Penn.
Thank you for sharing this, Penn. I lost my Mom years ago, and now my Mother-in-Law, who is the greatest, is suffering from MS, and I think this advice will be helpful in getting my wife and I through this. Stay strong
Weren't you in Fantasia 2000?
ooozetoons 1 month ago
Oh wait I forgot about pennpoint
mcdonaldization 1 month ago
When the fuck are there gonna be new vids?
mcdonaldization 1 month ago
love ur videos but hate ur Crackle player >_<
tyrantenvoy 1 month ago
Just saw ur video thank you for the advice,my dad had a serve stoke and is paralysed and keeps forgetting my name,but I will stay strong for him,love you penn xxxxx
mymightyboosh 2 months ago
I appreciate the advice given on the aging parents. It is appropriate advice for me now to hear.
MossyQuartz 2 months ago
Cool.
Adam13171717 4 months ago
New show :)
TheAplombMan 4 months ago
Awww man come onnn! I just woke up and found out pennsays... And I'm crying after watching this. So profound, really.
My love to you, Penn and to all the people that passed or has to pass through such a difficult change like that
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Chantinelle666 7 months ago 2
That meant a lot and I could really relate. My mom passed away rather young from the 4th bout of cancer which was terminal and it absolutely changed her. I found it very difficult to put the mother and woman I knew so well in the past and get to know the woman she became. That last line in the video struck me deep down, that is absolutely correct.
DeadbySunriseFAN 8 months ago
Great advice. I never had that situation with my parents but will remember it in case the situation arises for me or someone near.
drandersw 8 months ago
Nice mix of comedy and pathos.
cjwright79 10 months ago
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WOW! Thats a heavy one. Thanx, I'll try.
SuperNefarious13 1 year ago
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WOW! Thats a heavy one. Thanx, I'll try.
SuperNefarious13 1 year ago
WOW! Thats a heavy one. Thanx, I'll try.
SuperNefarious13 1 year ago
WOW! Thats a heavy one. Thanx, I'll try.
SuperNefarious13 1 year ago
I miss these so fricken much. I'd love to have Penn come back for just one more of these, or even a short series of them.
pumarunner88 1 year ago
I know what Penn is talking about! MY mom is going to be 82 this year and she has been in and out of the hospitla for the last few years and i am really close to her .
and i cann't help of thing what's going to happend to me, after she's dead.
missy12061 1 year ago
How will you deal with your aging parents? bit.ly / SeniorParents
SeniorParents 1 year ago
A brilliant video. What absolutely correct advise.
GomersRevenge 1 year ago
This was a great video, but why no recent sharing? Such a shame.
periurban 1 year ago
We all know that we have to die and cannot live forever, yet it is so incomprehensible and painful to watch one's parents waste away and eventually die. I love my parents dearly for who they are today, still, when memories of happier times that I shared with them appear in my mind, I am filled with so much tenderness and grief. You are a good and gentle giant.
corolmist 1 year ago
Wow, I realize that this channel is basically dead but I just have to say that the more I see of Penn Jillette the more I like him. He sometimes comes across as just an opinionated asshole but more and more I see that he is a real person and his opinions are VERY similar to my own. Thanks Penn!
(maybe Teller should do something like this so we can see what he's really like)
uglybob6666 1 year ago
Thanks for sharing, it must have been really hard sharing that.
MetalTCG 1 year ago
thats really fucking sad, Penn has a deep genuine heart felt video like this, then bails. whats the matter big guy, afraid your non-pragmatic side is showing? hey, who id the poor schmo who had to take his channel for him when he pussed out? hey guy/lady why dont you make your own videos, this channel has plenty of subscribers to entertain
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PeteJernigan 1 year ago
I lost my parents around the same time as you, Losing my parents caused me great sadness .
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nicolettepowell 1 year ago
I'm a deeply religious man and have studied many religious and philosophical texts. This is one of the most profound sentiments I've ever come across.
Rensune 1 year ago
Penn Im a huge fan , love the new John Lennon tribute video by the way
Cheers, and God BLess
John Rich
johnrichchannel 1 year ago
Aww bless your heart! Wise advice. I'm sorry for your great loss.
RunAMuckGirl2 1 year ago
Thanks Penn :')
mikerodeman 1 year ago
I don't agree with Penn on numerous issues, but I really appreciate this video. It's definitely from the heart. Well done.
biosrep 1 year ago
This is powerful. You can see his pain and it's so easy to empathize. Hey, buddy, we're with you. At least I am.
It's hard remembering how powerful and impressive your parents were in their prime when they don't think of themselves that way. When they don't understand that even the tiniest things they did had impact and meaning. Missing them for who they were rather than who they are.
I'll take your advice to heart, Penn. You're a good, kind, smart guy and it shows in all of these clips.
GoodAvatar 1 year ago
It's clear that you were close to your Parents; It comes through here. I can relate. Thanks for this
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Wow, I thought you were total dick before I watched this.
Great advice. I just lost my mom and this rang true.
Respect from a left wing martial arts dude.
redstartn 1 year ago
Wow, I thought you were total dick before I watched this.
Great advice. I just lost my mom and this rang true.
Respect from a left wing martial arts dude.
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Wow, I thought you were total d ick before I watched this.
Great advice. I just lost my mom and this rang true.
Respect from a Socialist- martial arts dude.
redstartn 1 year ago
Wow, I thought you were total dick before I watched this.
Great advice. I just lost my mom and this rang true.
Respect from a Socialist- martial arts dude.
redstartn 1 year ago
Wow, I thought you were total dick before I watched this.
Great advice. I just lost my mom and this rang true.
Respect from a Socialist- martial arts dude.
redstartn 1 year ago
Wow, I thought you were total dick before I watched this.
Great advice. I just lost my mom and this rang true.
Respect from a Socialist- martial arts dude.
redstartn 1 year ago
Good advice. My parents are still ok but starting to fade. I will take this to heart and start over.
Please don't be sorry for your emotion. It is normal and ok to feel like that in this situation....Hugs.
lironess 1 year ago
almost cried, dont do that to me daily,i would be a sad person
millionareguy 1 year ago
This is tremendously good advice for those who are dealing with aging parents but, really, the same advice goes for every single relationship in our lives. If we can do our best to see people as they really are, right now, not as we want them to be, not as they once were, not judging them by others "like them" we've known, well, that's the heart of the matter.
justalittledust 1 year ago
Penn, I had the pleasure of meeting you the other week after your show at the Rio, however I didn't see this video until tonight. I would like to thank you for your advice, as my parents get older and begin to fade I occasionally fear how it would tear me apart to see them in a weakened state. To stand helplessly beside one's parents as they wither one can only hope to love them as they are, when time is so precious. Thanks again, and I hope you bring back the videos.
Picard1138 1 year ago
@Picard1138 Hey there. Since Penn Says has ended, we would recommend emailing this to Penn at webmaster at PennAndTellerDotCom Thanks!
pennsays 1 year ago
I have spinal deterioration. I care for my elderly mom. It is hard. You have
helped me out tremendously. I thank my husband for his help. But most
of all you, for putting it into prospective for me.
TheNestling 1 year ago
I want to see him more :(
Is there an outlet?
TheGiantNoodle 1 year ago
@TheGiantNoodle Check out his Twitter page to see what he's up to now: @pennjillette
pennsays 1 year ago
I will pass that advice on. It was very moving.
ronaproject 1 year ago
Thank you Penn...My nephew shared this with me...My father is gone, I never got the chance to really get to know him, my mother is in a nursing home. I took care of her at home for a year before it got to be too much for me to handle...it is so hard watching my proud strong, hard headed mother lay in that bed and disappear day after day...thank you for reminding me to cherish each moment.
Shellyz2u 1 year ago
Thank you. and Wow. So relevant to so many.
eladnel 1 year ago
I am a fifity year old man who is currently living with his parents who are rapidly losing the ability to take care of themselves. I very much appreciate this video and am planning of making several of my own in an attempt to connect with others who are going through this kind of situation.
ArizonaDelRio 1 year ago
I have lost a few dear members of my family, and i"m thinking, how is it possible to love different versions of the same person different ways? Are they not the same people? If you mean, don't be enamored with a vision of the past, I can understand. But we aren't all so fortunate to have our loved ones die in a state of peaceful clarity. My grandmother, in the years before she died, turned into a horrid version of her former self. Am I to try to make peace with that skewed version of her?
truthfulltube 1 year ago
Best of wishes to Penn. He has been a guiding light in dark times of my life. Sounds corny but those are the truest words I can say about the man.
worldofthablind 1 year ago
Thank you so much Penn wonderful advice.
God bless.
Patternpop 1 year ago
Penn is a deep guy. He's not a total bullshitter.
pumarunner88 1 year ago
Thanks for your input, i can feel you on this. Very moving.
Chggy317 1 year ago
Hi Penn fans. Penn Says videos have been discontinued, so you won't be seeing any new content on here. You can check out our Profile on our Channel Page for more info. We'll still be checking in, so hope to keep chatting with you all! Thanks!
pennsays 1 year ago
@pennsays
this was an amazing video sir
MickeyLWalker 1 year ago
well done Man. Well said. and we must all listen to this.
megalisstudio 1 year ago
Penn, I hope you are having a great break, but I can't wait until you come back! You are the best!
luchaguate 1 year ago
sniff...this is beautiful.
berkeleygirl1962 1 year ago
"Get to know and love your parents for who they are now." Excellent advice also for people who had troublesome relationships with their parents while growing up, if the parents have become kinder and wiser with age.
GoingForBroken 1 year ago
I'm so happy I stumbled onto your page today to see this. Great message, man. God bless -no disrespect to you.
Rtardftw 1 year ago
Thank you, Penn, for sharing this message. This advice is more comforting than any religious afterlife wishful thinking. One day my parents will be in the same state, and I will love them until they pass on.
termanedieter11 1 year ago
you know the usual video intro and outro sound bits don't quite fit this video
dashizl 1 year ago
Lost my Dad last September. Mom is still with us but in decline. I just stumbled on to this video and I profoundly appreciate Greenberger's insight and you taking the time to explain it. Thank you very much.
Fresno1199 1 year ago
So beautiful, Penn. Anyone could see how much you adore your parents. I'm tearing up now myself.
ShiksaWithChutzpah1 1 year ago
I've never seen Penn say choked up.
Maj0ra 1 year ago
It is very good advice.
killer3596 1 year ago
Very profound indeed. Thanks, man.
schratboy 2 years ago 2
Damn... I want to say "u suck" for making me tear up... I'm going thru this shit now with my mom... It's fucking killing me. I'll try to somehow find a way to see her as some sort of "new person". I doubt i can do it man, it just isn't the same. i can't finish this
VimisiDigitalMedia 2 years ago
Were did Pen go? It's been Quite a while since he has post a video.
ih8u4ewa 2 years ago
@ih8u4ewa He's still on break. We'll let you know when he gets going again.
pennsays 2 years ago
@pennsays I can't wait to see more videos, though I'm sure Crackle can't be making that much money off of these videos. :/
tcadroas 1 year ago
@tcadroas We're working on it. :-)
pennsays 1 year ago 2
seeing your comments about how he's coming back made me happy, penn's muh hero.
MeestaKeefGirly 1 year ago
just... Thank you!
SnakeladyGreta 2 years ago
You're a good man, Penn. In fact you're one of my heroes. You were instrumental in helping me free myself from 12-Step indoctrination, to understand atheism and become an atheist. Now you talk with great humanity and real emotion about a very important aspect of life.
My mom is 74, and I spend time with her every day. She's crazy about you too! 5*!
MaxwellDrum 2 years ago 8
Penn, I'm a rather large fan of yours and I appreciate this video. It really is an amazing way to look at things. However I am a Christian and I also like to hope that I will see them in an afterlife. However I also respect your perspective as well. I'm glad you can speak like this and to the other Atheist posters. There are quite a few people that would rather condemn than try to understand that of others views. Again, I'd like to say Penn, that I'm glad you posted this. You're a good man.
TehRoadkill 2 years ago
I'd like the bigots to see this video. Atheists care too. Some people just don't want to believe that.
I'll try to keep this advice with me through the years. If I cannot keep it in my memory until I need it, at least I can pass it on to others.
Thinking about the afterlife they will experience, or about how prayer is the only way to deal with the situation seems, to me at least, insulting.
Some good, secular advice from a respected and trusted source of wisdom. Thank you Penn.
gbratboy1 2 years ago
Awesome advice Penn, I'll TAKE it!
Dougster 2 years ago
wow... thank you...
billberryminute 2 years ago
This is the best way to handle that situation penn.I did it the same way with my farther. great advice my friend. c]:-)
1dockthorwho23 2 years ago
thanks for sharing...makes sense
Guinnie 2 years ago
Thanks for sharing Penn... My pops passed away @ 53 with an Aortic Aneurysm. Life changed so much for everyone in the family. Family came out of nowhere to help, and sadly some to hurt. I treasure each day with my Mom. She toils everyday and will never fully recover from the loss. But all I can do is be the best her son can be.
Nexusmagicshop 2 years ago
First off, thank you for sharing. I have been having recent bouts of crippling panic attacks brought on by thoughts of my parents fading, and eventually, myself as well. I know exactly what you meant and how you felt when you talked about your dad and your mother transitioning into an unfamiliar and inevitable part of life. Basically, I just want to thank you for making me feel like im not the only one, and for giving the only advice on how to deal with a loved one's fade into memory.
thorshammr 2 years ago
Wow, its like Penn talked about his parents and got all emo and then gave up doing these things.
SnakeOilSam1 2 years ago
@SnakeOilSam1 Ha, not quite. He's just on a break. He'll be back.
pennsays 2 years ago
Please post more vids, Penn! We love ya, man!
P0mt3 2 years ago 2
Where's Penn? :(
vomitwut 2 years ago 2
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN????????
cliffyknight 2 years ago 4
That is a very insightful way of looking at the situation of dealing w/ aging loved ones. Thanks, 5 stars
ScarlettKnights 2 years ago
Wise words indeed. Thank you for sharing it with us.
tammiettt 2 years ago
Thank you so much for posting this.. I appreciate it more than you will ever know.
nibjet 2 years ago
Did you just say "Ya'll" at the beginning of your video? You just made this Texan feel right at home. Thanks, Penn.
jancar2012 2 years ago
Thanks, Penn.
gruelin1 2 years ago
@shadowdymond
That's what I like about him so much. He's a teddy bear.
1983Bantam 2 years ago
Thank you for sharing this with me Penn, my father is having health problems and this information really strikes a heavy octave with me. I only hope that I can display the same level of emotion when the time comes to say goodbye for the last time. Thanks again. Your shows make a difference and it's always good to hear your opinion on any subject. Dude, don't be sorry, loving my parents for who they are now is great fucking advice.
KANNABULL 2 years ago
Where does Penn live? It looks like a desert behind him.
thesimpsons2345 2 years ago
@thesimpsons2345 Las Vegas.
pennsays 2 years ago
Thanks for that.
PatMoriarityDotCom 2 years ago
I'm not able to avoid the grief of dealing with an ill parent. It simply is what it is for me, the present. What I have been able to do is learn more her family's Italian history, what she enjoyed as a young woman, her neighborhood, friends ... etc.
Ciada91 2 years ago
No need to appologize.
larrysupersport 2 years ago
I recall when I lived in Jamaica Plains MA that my roommate, who was in his early 50's at that time, his mother was best friend's w/ Penn's mother. What really parallels this scenario is that the death of my roommate' parents devastated him and he lost everything. This is because his love of his parents were so great and he took care of them in their declining years.
crh4878 2 years ago
That made me teary eyed. Thank you Penn for sharing this with us.
FableForge 2 years ago
does penn still have that video up where he ran into the christians at borders? If so would someone tell me the name of it so i can watch it?
kilija383 2 years ago
Penn
You are a good man.
timothygmd 2 years ago
What's interesting about this is that Penn doesn't seem upset when describing his parents as they were towards the end, but does seem moved by his memories of how they were in the past. And his sentence about having plenty of time to mourn later I guess still includes now.
pennsays 2 years ago
Yeah Penn, and I bet a lot of memories about deceased parents are often pretty strong around the holidays. Anyway, hope you're feeling better
lefty6584 2 years ago
LOL who are you?
Josh3455 2 years ago
Great Advice Penn
OshidaYaguchi 2 years ago
This is why I tell my friends to watch Penn.
Parents, teach your children well.
Galt425 2 years ago
Thank you Penn, for sharing that deep part of yourself with the rest of us.
devsvester 2 years ago 2
ive been guilt tripped into visiting my grandparents, soon, who i have very little in common with. I don't know how to go about talking to them. But perhaps your advice is a good one. Just go and talk to them and learn who they are now in there lives rather than prod for amusing stories of their past to fill the time.
Dracanic 2 years ago
Thanks Penn, I am trying to do what you said. I got a little more time to do that.
jun17k 2 years ago
penn, don't be making me sad... what's wrong with you
lefty6584 2 years ago
yo mama
KhmerD0g 2 years ago
Wow what do you know, Penn really is human. Real emotion. Funny how a dead loved one can do that to you. I found that out the hard way.
SnakeOilSam1 2 years ago
My father died with full faculties, but frail. We were entirely different people, and that was OK.
My mom now needs my help to get up. That was a struggle for me to come to grips with this last summer, thank you Penn this will help me cope with what will come.
Peace.
CurtHowland 2 years ago
End every conversation with "I love you".
When a loved one dies, you'll have regrets. But that won't be one of them.
ravenslaves 2 years ago
My grandfather was very frail in his last few years, but I always remember the good times we had and all the advice he gave me, and that he said that he was proud of me. I miss him. Thank you, Penn.
88ragtime 2 years ago
I take back what I posted about the "Penn Says" segments previously. He is both inspired and exceptional. Thanks for these Penn.
mikeadk 2 years ago 2
Thanks for the words, Penn. I lost my mom in 2007. And you're right: there's plenty of time to mourn later.
jjohn2006 2 years ago 3
Pushing the boundaries of what a vlog can be. Thanks Penn.
ex0rdium 2 years ago 8
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LeathermanFan 2 years ago
As much as I have always enjoyed your wit and intelligence. It was humbling to see you with your guard down.
and see you as I'm sure your close friends do.
I'm positive you were a good son.
Having lost both my parents..to see them fade...now myself at 50 I wonder how my children will handle my own fading.
I hope I can get them to watch this ..
Thank you..Sir.
thatVeteran 2 years ago 2
My mom has had Alzheimer's for 10 years. Each time her disease progresses, I lose one mom and gain another. This is probably a common mindset for caregivers. A way to deal and stay sane for them.
JoMadge 2 years ago 3
I hope nobody thinks I'm trying to belittle their love for their parents, either past or present, when I say this but I think it needs to be said: It never ceases to amaze me how many people assume all parents are worthy of love and/or respect. I think you'd be very surprised to find that the number is much lower than you think.
WintersetCoyote 2 years ago 2
That's a difficult thing to do...trying not to remember how they used to be. Very difficult not to remember. Loving them is the easy part, not remembering them they way they used to be is not. I feel ya Penn.
teufeldritch 2 years ago
Just brought tears to my eyes. Very good advice.
CherryTeresaDotCom 2 years ago 3
Thank you.
Rome890 2 years ago
wow touching stuff there Penn, i think your parents were very lucky to have you as their son and to have your love right up until the end. My motto has always been 'accept people for who they are, not who you think they should be or who they were, and love abundantly.' Love ya Penn
Angeltears2431 2 years ago 3
Penn, thanks for your comments.
My mother and I fight all the time about thing. She is a 56 year old woman who grew up in El Paso, Texas. I am a 29 year old woman that grew up in Columbus, Ohio. So we see the world very differently. I have been saying lately that I can't wait to finish my degree so I can move to another city and away from her. But I also had never heard anyone say what you said in your blog. Thanks for setting me straight.
JackieFiest 2 years ago
Well said, Penn
HolyJumpinJeezuz 2 years ago
that makes a lot of sense. our parents need us to be there for them like they were for us, especially in the end.
panzer903 2 years ago
Thank you. I am going through this now and have been getting very frustrated. This is the approach I need to take and I think everything wil work out better. She is not the same person.
MaderaGuy 2 years ago
my father is 92 and suffering from moderate dementia he and i never had a close relationship when i was young but now he lives with my wife myself and our 14 yr. old daughter and these past few yrs.that he has been with us have been the best and closest that we have ever been i treasure each and every day
dragonflychainsaw 2 years ago
I actually like my father now, he is in his 70's with all kinds of health issues, when I was young he was not a nice guy and now he has mellowed with age and is nice and funny and I feel like I know the "real" him more now than ever...thanks Penn.
Horseinthefog 2 years ago
Thank you for sharing this, Penn. I lost my Mom years ago, and now my Mother-in-Law, who is the greatest, is suffering from MS, and I think this advice will be helpful in getting my wife and I through this. Stay strong
raybaby1977 2 years ago
Thanks for this, Penn. My mother is on the downhill slope, and it's so hard to not grieve for what she's lost.
JGRUMPY 2 years ago 4
Thank you.
immikeywhite 2 years ago 2
Thank you for this. It really makes you stand back and realize that you may not get to do such a thing in the near future.
kevilinsky 2 years ago 3
Great advice. I would never have thought to try it.Thanks,Penn,
maxweltonsbrays 2 years ago 4
Wow. Thanks Penn.
VeniVidiVid 2 years ago 4