I was a young mom who parents did not talk to....having two kids by17...now my kids r 18 17 n 11 n i am very honest n truthful to them. We have a great relationship n they come n talk to me not only that they trust what i say....so conversation works but it starts when there young so talk talk talk
We have to tlk to these kids and be honest. My mama kept it real with me. She tld me exactly how my first time would go. She told me that it would hurt & it would only last a few min. She set real expectations for me. She explained the mind frame of the guy and that it wasn't going to be a fairy tail. Her favorite line was " all sex is going to get you is a wet ass." lol She taught me the value of my body and my v. I feel like 2day lots of moms r not honest w/ their girls about sex.
Ditto to mya0818 I would love your take on getting younger children in line with discipline. Seems like you have already been thru it and could really give some good advice. Please
Fully agree we as parents have to be strict but not to strict cause l find that does push your child to rebel. My mother was old school and l knew from a early age-Don't bring No Babies in this house. And because of that l didn't have my child until l was grown but l do feel you need to be open & honest with your children Be a Parent Not a Friend.
Her being strict did help tho cus I had friends having sex in. 6th grade and some of them have babies and done had sex w/ over 10 guys. I'm about to be 19 still w/ my first love. I would get talked about getting a boyfriend at 16 becus that's very late to get one considered to teens now but I'm glad I waited.
Very true being too strict does scare teens. My mother did that. I didn't get my first boyfriend til I was 16 I told her but still haven't told her I'm sexually active. I'm 18 and lost my virginity like 2 months before my 18th bday. I will be 19 in a couple months
One of your best vids to date!!! Advice was extremely helpful!!! Growing up under overly strict conditions can do just as much harm or even more than growing up with no rules!!! My baby girl is only two but I pray for her future everyday!! Thank you soo much for this one muffin!!!
I would take it back but I cant. I love this vid and I hope that it encourages mothers out there, particularly African American mothers to talk to their children about sex and yes, instill the fear in them. Because i can guarantee you that had my Mother talked to me, I would have waited much longer to have sex. Luckily I always listened to everything else she and my Dad taught me and im doing ok (no kids, working a masters degree, but no better than anyone else). But I could have gotten the talk
I am the eldest of 2 children between our parents. I have a younger brother 2 years behind me. I NEVER got THE talk. Never got a talk about getting my period. My mom was like, well the pads are under the sink. And I was like, "Thats all I get?". My brother got the talk, I even think my dad went as far as buying him condoms and his dumb butt as 1 kid (that we know of). I sure wish my Mother would have sat me down and talked to me because the way I lost my virginity was messed up and I wish that..
I wish either one of my parents would have talked to me about guys when I was younger... I was left to figure things out on my own and oh boy that wasnt pretty!!!
Lmbo, you are too right about this topic. Coming from the caribbean was different for me, my mom would say if you kiss a boy you would get a baby.. Or your tounge would fall out if u said liked a boy.. Lol crazy right but hey I turned out good..
I loved the video! You are speaking the truth! And I have a question for you. I'm 19 and I'll be 20 Wednesday. I work, go to school and pay bills & pretty much do what I"m supposed to do but my mom has the biggest problem with tattoos esp. with the ones on my body lol. so how do you feel about your kids and tattoos and piercings? I have one on my wrist, top shoulder bone, and hip and stomach. and I just love ur tattoos so I want to know ur opinion on how u feel about it with ur kids. Thanks (:
YOU ARE HILARIOUS, you wanted to cry when your son told you he had sex. I feel you though. I have 2sons ages 11 & 5. I have a little bit more time. I wanted girls but im kinda glad now. I told my son to listen to me if i say dont date a specific girl. I said just know that your momma is the interfering type. My husband thinks it is hilarious. I am ready to block ALL HUSSIES!
You are 1000% right girl, my mom is from the Caribbean and man when she was talking about sex it was like pulling teeth she was like don't have sex cause you'll die or don't kiss a boy cause you'll get pregnant. So when I got my first computer I did researched. Thank god I was a strong headed young woman.
See strikness now means less strife later in life. I mean my daughter is suffering now because of all i tried to do she did not want and now that she is semi on her own she wishes i could tell her what and what not to do. I tell her I pray for her everyday and hope that whatever i tried to instill she passes it on to her child.
I talk to my girl about sex and she is 5. She asked me! So I told her sex was something adults do to have a baby, and no one should touch her "special place". She knows what a vagina is I told her when she was like 2. The kids are so fast, she as asked me about having a boy friend too. There is a little boy that loves to chase her and the other kids say he "likes her" I baby told then she can't have a boy friend. She is 5! Public Schools
I talked 2 my daughter about real life. I talked about my experiences & I withheld NOTHING. She got the good, the bad & the ugly-diseases, babies, emotional consequences, what the Bible says, guys being jerks-the whole 9 yards. I treated her with respect & I LISTENED 2 her. I let her know her thoughts & feelings r important 2 me. I taught sex is natural & beautiful--not dirty. I SHOWED-not taught-her how 2 b a lady & respect herself. I didn't threaten or dictate. I gave her luv & understanding.
I think thats great advice I'm 22 and I never wanted to be like the women in my family Babies but no husband i was on birth control when i was 14 didnt need it back then but my mom suggested it and id take it with my flinestone vitamins everyday... she explained to me that sex can kill you, or the life you dream of having and present obstacles that im not ready to tackle (alone).. I appreciate my mom for not allowing me to feel that it was ok to do as she and my aunt did have babies at 16..
Parents should be more open about sex. Hiding it, making it into something dirty or refusing to provide birth control comes back to bite you in the end. I graduated from a catholic school two years ago; in that time at least 10 of my friends have children, and one doesn't know who the father is. My boyfriend and I waited for almost 3 years (we were both virgins) until we felt we were ready and I was on birth control. We are still happily together and planning on getting married after college.
Both my parents sat me down at age 2 to have The Sex Talk. Yes, age 2. And drilled in the info for 5 years that followed. As a result, I had ZERO interest in rebelling and having sex JUST to have sex. In my case, the information gave me an edge, I remained focused on school and was never tempted to "find out" what it was all about. Lost virginity after being engaged, at 22. Be open and sincere, and informative. Its an individualized talk, but 4 the most part, its best that the info comes from u.
my talk was dont come home pregnant at 8yrs old not u have a choice this is the difference btween good touching and bad stuff like that then when i did get pregnant ur keeping the baby or get out and no one will take u in i do it very diffrently she is now 6 and knows good touching and bad and ect, the bad things that happened to me wont happen to her
You have to be realistic. My mom gave me a detailed talk about sex just so I wouldnt be so curious I guess... I mean it worked. She allowed me to start dating at 16 and I didnt start having sex until after I graduated high school. It was my choice. She wanted me know the ins and outs before I became sexually active. I didnt feel the need to "sneak around". Sex was never a taboo subject around the house, its just a part of life.
My mom was very strict on me to she didnt let me do nothing i couldnt hang out with my friends or nothing i always had to stay in the house. she use to tell me i better not have a boyfirend until i am 30 i had my first child as soon as i graduated highschool my mom never talked to me about sex
Hey Divas It is important that you talk to your kids about this issue and ladies if you have any concerns you should go to someeone you can trust but if you guys have NetFlix check out this movie and you'll see why you should get the correct information its called JUST ANTHOER GIRL I.R.T its a really great movie check it out!
April I to have an open door policy with my kids. I was a young mom and im go glad my oldest didn't have a child so young she is now 24 and a college graduate. Now i just have my two lil that are heading into there tweens(omg)but my ex-husband and i should able to talk with the kids about it all. As always LOVE your video's keep doing what u do.
Okay, I`m almost 20 years old, and I will be on the 20th of this month. I'm a virgin, and my mom always boast about that when the BIRDS and the BEES conversation come up. I feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. I want her to stop telling other individuals about my personal business, but how do I tell her without hurting her feelings. Me and my mother are EXTREMELY close, btw.
@xDestinyCharisma I share your history. Had VERY close, say-anything type of relationship with my mother, remained a virgin till I was engaged, at 22. (mind you, I regret losing it that night when I did! LOL) Considering the close relationship, remind her that you TRUST the safety of your relationship and would love to continue sharing with her, and that your ability to share with her will be affected by her discussing this particularly private issue. Boundaries, you know?
@xDestinyCharisma HEy Diva well I can see how that would make you feel, we as mothers be so proud of our kids we sometimes dont know how to handle it so we run off at the mouth about it, however that is your mom so you really need to say mom can i talk w/ u and let her know I am so happy that you are proud of me for all my accomplishments but one of the things you r proud of really makes me uncomfortable when you tell ppl & then just take it from there she will understand I promise
@muffinismylovers thank you so much...I'm going to talk to her asap Bc I feel uncomfortable when people speak about sex. I really appreciate the advice. =)
None of us girls had a baby until now and we're 32 (twins) and 36 years old now. We really need to discuss these things with boys and girls way before they reach the age when it starts happening, which we all know is a lot sooner now than it was back in the day.
Good vid. But we really need to stop treating girls and boys different. I know people do it thinking girls need more protection and they will be the ones preggers. But we need to be just as concerned about our boys out there making babies with someone else's daughter. My parents had us three girls locked down and let my two brothers do whatever. Turns out my brother got a girl preggers and the situation caused as much drama as it would have if it had been one of us girls
I don't think that its bad for younger people to have kids I'm 22. I had my son at 19 and I also married my husband. Yea my parents were mad but my son is well taking care of. I just think its all how mother's handle there situation. My mother was very verbal abusive calling me ugly and other names so I took comfort in people that said I was pretty. My husband is the second person I had sex with and our son was planned.
Great video! I had my first boyfriend at 16 & told my parents, so they said soon after that when I wanted to get birth control to just tell them and they would take me to get a prescription. When I was 17 I had sex for the first time & I did go and get pills so everything was great. Parents--take the advice in this video! Know what your kids are doing by making them feel comfortable talking to you, rather than forcing them to sneak around and miss out on your guidance.
Thanks for sharing this vid on how you talk to your kids about sex. I love my mom to death but she was very strict as well. I do thank her for that cause it did keep me out of trouble as well as instilling the Lords word within me and my brother. B/c I would see how she would blow up over small things, I was always afraid to come to her with this and other issues. Kudos to you for letting your kids know that they can come to you :)
parents but maybe if they sat down and talked to me about serious issues and the real world, things might have been different. make no mistake tho i take full responsibility for my actions and i love my babies, wouldnt change my life for anything right now! but the road getting here couldve been a lot smoother.
i hear u about how being too strict can make ur kids rebel! i grew up in a christian home with strict parents telling me dont do this, do this, thats not right, no sex before marriage its a sin...all that stuff. granted i didnt have a boyfriend or first kiss til i was 18, but after we broke up i started to experience the world and whats it..and let me tell yooooou, i was NOT prepared. now here i am, 23 with 2 kids. their father and i are together but not yet married. im not blaming this on my...
I really wish my mom would've had this talk with me. I'm 19 now, I lost my virginity at 15 to a guy I thought "loved" me. I regret it to this day. That's a special moment in every girl's life & my experience was horrible.
Something else to worry about is H.P.V. Once you have it you can't get rid of the virus, and it can kill you. I personally know three women who have it. And my husband diagnoses cellular diseases. He told me that what killed Farrah Fawcett, was likely caused by her having unprotected anal sex (it's transmitted anally, vaginally, orally) with somebody who was infected. It could've been in her system for decades before she was symptomatic, and by the time she was diagnosed, she was dying.
black women have the leading new cases of HIV everyday, and i work w/ them. empower them, but don't underestimate their experiences. most of the girls in my high school were sexually active freshman year.
i feel like often teaching kids on sex is biased. we promote abstinence to girls, and give boys condoms. think of the difference between your son telling you that he's had sex, versus your daughter saying the same thing. FYI- it's not working. you should be giving condoms to both, and saying, "i really think you should wait until you're ready + have a commitment to someone, but if u choose to have sex, be safe and think of the pros + cons of choices". we don't do that in the black community..
This is so true you start your platform at a young age and build from there I was married and had my first child by age 20. My mother was horrible to talk to about sex and therefore when I started having sex I had no one to talk to. When I got pregnant she put me out and thank God my husband married me. I was a freshman in college when I got pregnant. I'm glad that happened to me because it made me a better mom to my daughters. I talked to my 13 year old about sex vaginal and oral because with
im 21 n my daughter is 4. i was scared of my parents n the sex talk with my mom was"you have sex youll get pregnant". even though she was right, i rebelled n i wasnt informed enough to be doing so. the upside to bein a teen mom is i know what i wish someone would have told me at X age, n i can be that open door parent with my daughter. i also plan on tellin her, in details that make her hate sex, dumb decisions ive made with guys in my life too so she knows im not just mean or talkin out my ass.
I not trying to push bible down any throats. But SEX is design for man and woman for procreation in a marital status. COMMITMENT is ultimately what we want anyways. The video didn't cover possible complications ie stds, regrets, disappointment, pain, struggles. It did cover how to prevent some issues but why not explore those issues for minute and half of pleasure.
My mom scared the hell outta me! I guess that's why I'm still a virgin lol. She showed me pictures of rotten coochs and told me some stories. That about stopped me! Especially since I've gotten my heart broken once, It's really hard to trust any guy so I'm holding out until i'm married.. hopefully.
Well there is enough coverage about when someone may have lost their virginity and when should we talk to our kids about sex. But I didn't hear any stands on choosing to wait for marriage. No one talk to me when I was growing up. However once you know better you do better. The video didn't cover this as any option. Media today plays a big part in our society choices. But we see the deprivation and yet we as individuals enable our future generations to continue to play in to our worlds plans. I'
@MrsNeneTilus OMG I was so scared & nervous 2 talk 2 her about it cause my mother really didnt do a good job w/ it so my daughters god mother started talking 2 her about it when she was 7 & showing her pads & stuff girl it was the most uncomfortable talk I almost died, & now I have to talk 2 my 9 yr old about it & I just want to die for real cause you just want them to stay babies but that will never happen its a hard and touchy subject it took me 4ever 2 talk 2 my husband bout my own period
Love the real talk sista!!! You are very down to earth and I think that your doing the best job ever raising your children. I have a 19 yr old son too and it wasn't easy telling him about how to be safe and try to hold out and sustain from having sex. Well, I know he's engaging in it now but he has a steady girlfriend and now he's away at college. I am so proud of him for taking off on his own and trying some new things in his life. However, it was never easy raising him alone.
im glad that you made this video i love the fact your so honest on all your vid. a lot of mothers need to communicate better with their kids about safe sex and also provide trust between them. i love you girl. keep, keeping it real! God bless you and your family.
my mom was very strict too but it definitely paid off and i realized what she was doing. i talked to my son about sex at age 11 and i took him to the library and we checked out books on sex, diseases, drugs and alcohol and watched documentaries. we discussed what he read and watched. long story short, i absolutely agree 100% with you april...thanks for opening up to us and giving wise words and advice. ~thanks diva!!! ~
i got pregnant at 16 and i really didn't know much about sex because my parents never talked to me about it. Communication is super important which is why my mother and i talk to my younger 14 year old brother about it. i even made him put a condom on a cucumber in front of me. My husband already decided that he will talk to my son about it and if we ever have a girl i will, and it is going to be at the latest when he or she are 13.
Really good advice, and a really good topic. It's a very important convo parents need to have with their kids even about drugs and what not. I am 23 and my sister is 19 with just that small gap the generation is just getting faster and faster. I think also that people are making more things acceptable and not willing to take responsibility for their children's well being. You can't expect the schools to teach your child everything. They didn't give birth to them. You have to make sure they have
My mom was very strict but my father was easy to talk to about boys and sex. I didn't start having sex until I was 18 years old and I had my child when I was 25 years old. My ex-husband and I talk to our 12 year old daughter about sex and std.
i think that you are a very open parent. my mother and my dad and my grandparent are the main factors in my life, im 21 , i lost my virginity at a young age, but with love and support and respect for my body and myself. my parents and grandparent, were open for me to talk to me about sex, about relationships, about problems or insecurities as a young child. So i think it is awesome as a mother that you are open to be there for your children about sex especially how you handle it with your son.
so you are about the same age I will be when my son is 19:) you make me smile cause I want 5 kids too and I was wondering what life would be like.... can you do a video about what its like.
My mom was rough. As soon as "nature" hit I was told if I got pregnant, me, my dog and my baby would be kicked out and no one in the family would take me in. That was my talking to!
@polifonyann YES Diva see my mom called them mud puppies to me lol she was so strict to me oowww i couldnt stand her at times but I am grateful for her now cause she taught me a lot and her strictness really paid off
I have old fashion extremely strict Asian parents. And the greatest(not) thing is, I am the only daughter. Ever since I can remember my parents would lecture me about being "fast". At that time I felt like they were pestering me. They always assumed I'd be pregnant and gone at a young age. So to me, I always wanted to prove them wrong. learned about abstinence, protection, STD's etc. on my own. Now, at 23 I am child-less, and not "gone". As I a teenager I played sports and hated boys. Hahah
my opinion: talking to your kids about beautiful God given Sex should not be a touchy subject. Conversation should be age appropriate. Mom and Dad did just gave a little info.every year. We knew about sex as early as 3rd/4thgrade.It cured a lot of my already curiosity. I love that my parents gave it to me straight and with great honesty...doesn't mean we were pefect, just means that if we did F up it wasn't because we didn't have the information...PEACE
My family never talked about it but I guess I was so scared I would disappoint them I was in college until I finally did ANYTHING. I'm the second of a set of triplets and none of us had sex before we were 21. Some people find that very hard to believe but it's true and we all waited. I can say I had no regrets and I'm glad I waited.
My parents talked to the 5 of us openly about sex.Sex wasn't shameful,or ugly.It was 2 be respected.3girls/2younger boys,we all got the same talk.treat yourself well and your partner,protect yourself.pills don't prevent AIDS.prepare 4 hurt feelings as boys usually only want you 4 sex.boys don't use girls for sex.treat them the way you want your sisters/mom to be treated.God made us all sexual beings.Sex has a place in life don't rush it.use proper anatomy names when they are toddlers and older
I wish my mom had been more open to birth control,I had already been sexually active but she didn't know. We had gotten into a huge fight.Her husband,not my father, didn't think I should have been on it. It pissed me off the most 'cause I didn't think h e had any say in anything I did. So now I feel I can't tell her anything without him knowing.The compromise was that I had to pay for the birth control myself.Mind you at the time I was18 and didn't have a job but received fafsa for school.
My son is going to be 13 in two months and I've been open with him about his body since he was 2. Only proper terms were used when referring to his private parts. As he got older I educated him little by little, age appropriate stuff. He had questions I answered them. Open is the way to go because the things these kids are exposed to would make you cringe. When he started to like girls he told me about it and was not shy about it at all. Making sure they get the right info could save their life.
You are doing well April. I like your methods dealing with this situation and your kids. Granted, everyone's situation is going to be different and everyone's method is not going to work the same for everyone.
When it comes to sex, there's no choice between birth control and safe sex. IT'S BOTH ... THERE ARE NO OPTIONS. ALSO,don't take this the wrong way, why would you supply your son with condoms, but not your daughter ? She's a girl, and and so is the girl your son's going to. Who are you looking out for ? They're BOTH capable of bringing home babies OR diseases. Is it about what society says, or is it about what the reality is ? What it looks like, or what the truth is ...
I have three sons, I just told them straight up about sex. I provided condoms for them. I remember my mom not telling me anything, partially the reason there here. Tell your kids whats up. Thats just like sending a Marine to the front line and not giving them any training or knowledge on how to protect themselves or anyone else. There are to many STD's kids can get from not knowing. Knowledge is POWER, we half to trust they will use it wisely.
@LovelySexasarus I agree..sex is more "out" in the open now days and so are diseases. so its a MUST to tell your children about sex and how to protect themselves, for their own safety. Its like teaching them what to do against a bully or a stranger...you have to tell them.
@OhShytThatGurl no they don't teach sex ed in school anymore. omg yesterday *im in this medical careers class where we do clinicals etc etc* my classmate tells everybody on the bus "nobody uses condoms anymore" and then she announced her pregnancy . . i was just like . . I WISH I WOULD GET PREGNANT AND HAVE THE NERVE TO SMILE ! my mama would whoop my ass so hard wooh jesus !
My mom was super strict too. However,she told us the truth about sex and not getting pregnant or getting V.D. AIDS had not come into play yet. You have to be realistic.Girls WILL wear makeup & they WILL have a boyfriend before 18 ... out front or on the sneak. All of her teaching did not stop me from doing what I thought I knew ( I'll inbox you my story, girl). 1. You HAVE TO talk about sex to your 9 yr. old, and that good touch bad touch mess won't do. "Bad" touches can feel REAL GOOD ! [con't]
Wow...I didn't have a boyfriend until I went to college. My mom was super duper religious and super duper strict. The motto in my house was "keep you books open and your legs closed." My Dad was a military man, really easy-going and kind, but I can say that I had a healthy fear of my Dad and I never wanted to disappoint him. I think that's what kept me from really acting out. But how do you balance between trying to be a "friend" to your kids and being their "parent"?
im 19 and i have never had this talk with my mom i wish i had because i ended up doing stupid things but i found God and changed my life around. oh btw i do not nor have ever had children I've just had some real scares. wish i would have waited to share that with my husband. :/
Parents have to talk to theory loss, o thought I ones cause my friends was teaching me. I can tell my mentee thinks she know a little something, but no ma'am. As you het older you realize its not just about the sex, OTS about everything else and you are piling pm emotions.
I loved this video! I'm 19 and I know how much parents can be strict and touchy on the subject but you explained it very well. I agree with you 100% love you!
I try to use every chance I can get with my boys to discuss sex.. I got pregnant at 15 its something that I regret I had the worst sex talk ever "you get a period you get pregnant" ???? I made the choice to give her up because I wouldnt have been able to provide BUT I make sure that I go in to in depth discussion with my sons and I will but condoms and I hand them out I monitor FB phones ect ... I tell them how handsome they are so some heffa dont gas them up and have them sprung .
men should be taught sexual responsibility like females. that double standard has caused so much damage. parents need to take responsibility for their children's sex education other than that they leave it open to the schools who r being barred by religious org. & politicians or their peers that spread misinformation. birth control is not just abt pregnancy it's also about protecting yourself against stds.
This is a scary topic. My baby is still young but I cringe at the thought of having to tell her eventully. I lost mine around 16 or 17, Can't remeber because I did it for all of the wrong reasons and I truly regret it. It wasn't even so much about not being in love but I was just not emotionally or mentally prepared for the responsiblity that comes with it. Just my point of view but sorry Diva, I don't have a real answer. I wish I did :(
It can depend on the child and the relationship,some can handle being more strict, and others might need it a different way. But it's not just what they can't handle physically but mentally 2.
There is just too much dating violence and stds around now 4 people to still be so naive about teenage relationships and not wanting to talk about what kids see and hear about constantly.
Im 20 & I dont even have kids but I think its very important to tell kids the truth when it comes to Sex. Like some parents try to sugarcoat sex talk & thats okay if the child is younger than 16 or whatever. But if they are not dry sugarcoat tell them what is really up you know. If they react to it negatively & decide to have sex or get pregnant anyway then thats on them at least u let them know
iJust really wish early on my mom would've instilled condoms and birth control and gynecologists visits with me. i still haven't been to a gynecologist and i'm turning 18 in 9 months. i wish i'd have known what a condom looks like before i "engaged" in activities and saw one and i wish she would've told me about birth control back when i was 13 not just for sex but because my cramps are PAINFUl nothing works - no advil - no goody's - no tylenol - no midol (doesn't even phase) - NOTHING :(
@naveahsmoments Hey Diva well you really dont need your mom to take you to a GYN if you have a planned parenthood in your town you can go on your own they dont contact your parents because it is a privacy act, so you can by all means go and also get birth control if you would like. I think sometimes it is hard for parents to talk about sex to they're kids because they just dont want to face the reality that theyre children are growing up and having sex give planned parenthood a call
@naveahsmoments they dont teach sex ed in school nomore? wtf thats how i found out what a condom was our school made us take sex ed and did free testing etc
@Brena1971 You are sooo right, all opinions matter. this person could probably shed some light on how teens feel about things these days (i.e. being pressured etc.)
Great topic
MsJazzyJ77 3 days ago
I was a young mom who parents did not talk to....having two kids by17...now my kids r 18 17 n 11 n i am very honest n truthful to them. We have a great relationship n they come n talk to me not only that they trust what i say....so conversation works but it starts when there young so talk talk talk
MsJazzyJ77 3 days ago
I can't believe I'm just discovering ur videos! Ur really funny and I think tht everything you said is right
kiancanda 1 week ago
I really like this video! Being too strict is too harmful. I think it's really important to allow teens to have access to birth control.
VaisaNacia 2 weeks ago
We have to tlk to these kids and be honest. My mama kept it real with me. She tld me exactly how my first time would go. She told me that it would hurt & it would only last a few min. She set real expectations for me. She explained the mind frame of the guy and that it wasn't going to be a fairy tail. Her favorite line was " all sex is going to get you is a wet ass." lol She taught me the value of my body and my v. I feel like 2day lots of moms r not honest w/ their girls about sex.
Jewelrybox101 2 weeks ago
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@Jewelrybox101 omg i love this "all sex is going to get you is a wet ass" sound like my mom
HairGician 5 days ago
Ditto to mya0818 I would love your take on getting younger children in line with discipline. Seems like you have already been thru it and could really give some good advice. Please
LifeAftr6 2 weeks ago
19... seems a bit extreme.
prettylolitadoll 2 weeks ago
Ha I love the pouch idea when I have kids ( longtime from now only 19) I'm so stealing that it's genius
nice9292 2 weeks ago
Fully agree we as parents have to be strict but not to strict cause l find that does push your child to rebel. My mother was old school and l knew from a early age-Don't bring No Babies in this house. And because of that l didn't have my child until l was grown but l do feel you need to be open & honest with your children Be a Parent Not a Friend.
NYCCHOCOLATE7777 2 weeks ago
I love your technique.
msbarbie21336 2 weeks ago
Her being strict did help tho cus I had friends having sex in. 6th grade and some of them have babies and done had sex w/ over 10 guys. I'm about to be 19 still w/ my first love. I would get talked about getting a boyfriend at 16 becus that's very late to get one considered to teens now but I'm glad I waited.
Assata18 2 weeks ago
Very true being too strict does scare teens. My mother did that. I didn't get my first boyfriend til I was 16 I told her but still haven't told her I'm sexually active. I'm 18 and lost my virginity like 2 months before my 18th bday. I will be 19 in a couple months
Assata18 2 weeks ago
One of your best vids to date!!! Advice was extremely helpful!!! Growing up under overly strict conditions can do just as much harm or even more than growing up with no rules!!! My baby girl is only two but I pray for her future everyday!! Thank you soo much for this one muffin!!!
MrsOrganics 2 weeks ago
Awesome video!!!!!! I have younger kids and am having trouble with disapline .. can u make a vid on this topic?????
mya0818 2 weeks ago
I would take it back but I cant. I love this vid and I hope that it encourages mothers out there, particularly African American mothers to talk to their children about sex and yes, instill the fear in them. Because i can guarantee you that had my Mother talked to me, I would have waited much longer to have sex. Luckily I always listened to everything else she and my Dad taught me and im doing ok (no kids, working a masters degree, but no better than anyone else). But I could have gotten the talk
badazzbrnskngirl 2 weeks ago
I am the eldest of 2 children between our parents. I have a younger brother 2 years behind me. I NEVER got THE talk. Never got a talk about getting my period. My mom was like, well the pads are under the sink. And I was like, "Thats all I get?". My brother got the talk, I even think my dad went as far as buying him condoms and his dumb butt as 1 kid (that we know of). I sure wish my Mother would have sat me down and talked to me because the way I lost my virginity was messed up and I wish that..
badazzbrnskngirl 2 weeks ago
I wish either one of my parents would have talked to me about guys when I was younger... I was left to figure things out on my own and oh boy that wasnt pretty!!!
leeida3780 2 weeks ago
Lmbo, you are too right about this topic. Coming from the caribbean was different for me, my mom would say if you kiss a boy you would get a baby.. Or your tounge would fall out if u said liked a boy.. Lol crazy right but hey I turned out good..
SexyBalck86 2 weeks ago
I loved the video! You are speaking the truth! And I have a question for you. I'm 19 and I'll be 20 Wednesday. I work, go to school and pay bills & pretty much do what I"m supposed to do but my mom has the biggest problem with tattoos esp. with the ones on my body lol. so how do you feel about your kids and tattoos and piercings? I have one on my wrist, top shoulder bone, and hip and stomach. and I just love ur tattoos so I want to know ur opinion on how u feel about it with ur kids. Thanks (:
Brittanee88 2 weeks ago
YOU ARE HILARIOUS, you wanted to cry when your son told you he had sex. I feel you though. I have 2sons ages 11 & 5. I have a little bit more time. I wanted girls but im kinda glad now. I told my son to listen to me if i say dont date a specific girl. I said just know that your momma is the interfering type. My husband thinks it is hilarious. I am ready to block ALL HUSSIES!
21angali 2 weeks ago
You are 1000% right girl, my mom is from the Caribbean and man when she was talking about sex it was like pulling teeth she was like don't have sex cause you'll die or don't kiss a boy cause you'll get pregnant. So when I got my first computer I did researched. Thank god I was a strong headed young woman.
mrsross742009 2 weeks ago
You are such a fun open person. Am 21 and never been in a real relationship don't want to rush to the wrong person. Love your videos D:
londonpie72 2 weeks ago
This was a great video , can you do"real talk video's" more often . Please .
jazziethomas 2 weeks ago
See strikness now means less strife later in life. I mean my daughter is suffering now because of all i tried to do she did not want and now that she is semi on her own she wishes i could tell her what and what not to do. I tell her I pray for her everyday and hope that whatever i tried to instill she passes it on to her child.
quillwritesright 2 weeks ago
This post made me realize how much more I love my mother. What a wonderful woman she is. I'm going to hug her as soon as I see her <3
altimablackberry 2 weeks ago
I love this real talk you can tell you are a good mother I m taking notes for when my little one gets older
BrownSugarGirl80 2 weeks ago
Great advice. Even though it is uncomfortable to talk to our kids about sex it is a huge mistake not to.
chele1017 3 weeks ago
I talk to my girl about sex and she is 5. She asked me! So I told her sex was something adults do to have a baby, and no one should touch her "special place". She knows what a vagina is I told her when she was like 2. The kids are so fast, she as asked me about having a boy friend too. There is a little boy that loves to chase her and the other kids say he "likes her" I baby told then she can't have a boy friend. She is 5! Public Schools
ladysgreen 3 weeks ago
I talked 2 my daughter about real life. I talked about my experiences & I withheld NOTHING. She got the good, the bad & the ugly-diseases, babies, emotional consequences, what the Bible says, guys being jerks-the whole 9 yards. I treated her with respect & I LISTENED 2 her. I let her know her thoughts & feelings r important 2 me. I taught sex is natural & beautiful--not dirty. I SHOWED-not taught-her how 2 b a lady & respect herself. I didn't threaten or dictate. I gave her luv & understanding.
vaustin2 3 weeks ago
Thanks for this video. I can appreciate your advice. At what age would you parents should talk to their kids about sex?
saucechick11 3 weeks ago
I think thats great advice I'm 22 and I never wanted to be like the women in my family Babies but no husband i was on birth control when i was 14 didnt need it back then but my mom suggested it and id take it with my flinestone vitamins everyday... she explained to me that sex can kill you, or the life you dream of having and present obstacles that im not ready to tackle (alone).. I appreciate my mom for not allowing me to feel that it was ok to do as she and my aunt did have babies at 16..
ImJusDesz 3 weeks ago
I agree 200%.keep being a great parent!
brownbusybee 3 weeks ago
Parents should be more open about sex. Hiding it, making it into something dirty or refusing to provide birth control comes back to bite you in the end. I graduated from a catholic school two years ago; in that time at least 10 of my friends have children, and one doesn't know who the father is. My boyfriend and I waited for almost 3 years (we were both virgins) until we felt we were ready and I was on birth control. We are still happily together and planning on getting married after college.
xojellybeanxo1392 3 weeks ago
Both my parents sat me down at age 2 to have The Sex Talk. Yes, age 2. And drilled in the info for 5 years that followed. As a result, I had ZERO interest in rebelling and having sex JUST to have sex. In my case, the information gave me an edge, I remained focused on school and was never tempted to "find out" what it was all about. Lost virginity after being engaged, at 22. Be open and sincere, and informative. Its an individualized talk, but 4 the most part, its best that the info comes from u.
Misslou2425 3 weeks ago
my talk was dont come home pregnant at 8yrs old not u have a choice this is the difference btween good touching and bad stuff like that then when i did get pregnant ur keeping the baby or get out and no one will take u in i do it very diffrently she is now 6 and knows good touching and bad and ect, the bad things that happened to me wont happen to her
tymylove05 3 weeks ago
beautiful...you should consider modeling a little..because you look good for you age.
SkyMosaic 3 weeks ago
You have to be realistic. My mom gave me a detailed talk about sex just so I wouldnt be so curious I guess... I mean it worked. She allowed me to start dating at 16 and I didnt start having sex until after I graduated high school. It was my choice. She wanted me know the ins and outs before I became sexually active. I didnt feel the need to "sneak around". Sex was never a taboo subject around the house, its just a part of life.
karmen2260 3 weeks ago
My mom was very strict on me to she didnt let me do nothing i couldnt hang out with my friends or nothing i always had to stay in the house. she use to tell me i better not have a boyfirend until i am 30 i had my first child as soon as i graduated highschool my mom never talked to me about sex
carmelasworld24 3 weeks ago
Hey Divas It is important that you talk to your kids about this issue and ladies if you have any concerns you should go to someeone you can trust but if you guys have NetFlix check out this movie and you'll see why you should get the correct information its called JUST ANTHOER GIRL I.R.T its a really great movie check it out!
mrsdavis990 3 weeks ago
April I to have an open door policy with my kids. I was a young mom and im go glad my oldest didn't have a child so young she is now 24 and a college graduate. Now i just have my two lil that are heading into there tweens(omg)but my ex-husband and i should able to talk with the kids about it all. As always LOVE your video's keep doing what u do.
ahallm3 3 weeks ago
Hi April..Love those earrings..I have them in turquoise color but I love the red..I will need to purchase yours too..very informative video...thanks.
yanniet 3 weeks ago
Yea bout time. I was gonna say.....where is the real talk videos. I was waiting to smoke a cig wit you. No cig though. Love the earrings.
ritamayjune 3 weeks ago
Hey, I have a serious question for you?
Okay, I`m almost 20 years old, and I will be on the 20th of this month. I'm a virgin, and my mom always boast about that when the BIRDS and the BEES conversation come up. I feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. I want her to stop telling other individuals about my personal business, but how do I tell her without hurting her feelings. Me and my mother are EXTREMELY close, btw.
xDestinyCharisma 3 weeks ago 4
@xDestinyCharisma I share your history. Had VERY close, say-anything type of relationship with my mother, remained a virgin till I was engaged, at 22. (mind you, I regret losing it that night when I did! LOL) Considering the close relationship, remind her that you TRUST the safety of your relationship and would love to continue sharing with her, and that your ability to share with her will be affected by her discussing this particularly private issue. Boundaries, you know?
Misslou2425 3 weeks ago
@xDestinyCharisma HEy Diva well I can see how that would make you feel, we as mothers be so proud of our kids we sometimes dont know how to handle it so we run off at the mouth about it, however that is your mom so you really need to say mom can i talk w/ u and let her know I am so happy that you are proud of me for all my accomplishments but one of the things you r proud of really makes me uncomfortable when you tell ppl & then just take it from there she will understand I promise
muffinismylovers 3 weeks ago 4
@muffinismylovers thank you so much...I'm going to talk to her asap Bc I feel uncomfortable when people speak about sex. I really appreciate the advice. =)
xDestinyCharisma 2 weeks ago
@xDestinyCharisma im 21 and a virgin too.. im wating for marriage...
kellyannabama 3 weeks ago 2
None of us girls had a baby until now and we're 32 (twins) and 36 years old now. We really need to discuss these things with boys and girls way before they reach the age when it starts happening, which we all know is a lot sooner now than it was back in the day.
TulipK555 3 weeks ago
Good vid. But we really need to stop treating girls and boys different. I know people do it thinking girls need more protection and they will be the ones preggers. But we need to be just as concerned about our boys out there making babies with someone else's daughter. My parents had us three girls locked down and let my two brothers do whatever. Turns out my brother got a girl preggers and the situation caused as much drama as it would have if it had been one of us girls
TulipK555 3 weeks ago
I don't think that its bad for younger people to have kids I'm 22. I had my son at 19 and I also married my husband. Yea my parents were mad but my son is well taking care of. I just think its all how mother's handle there situation. My mother was very verbal abusive calling me ugly and other names so I took comfort in people that said I was pretty. My husband is the second person I had sex with and our son was planned.
lil1fasho 3 weeks ago
great advice!
naturalminnie 3 weeks ago
Great video! I had my first boyfriend at 16 & told my parents, so they said soon after that when I wanted to get birth control to just tell them and they would take me to get a prescription. When I was 17 I had sex for the first time & I did go and get pills so everything was great. Parents--take the advice in this video! Know what your kids are doing by making them feel comfortable talking to you, rather than forcing them to sneak around and miss out on your guidance.
TheVioletKat 3 weeks ago
Thanks for sharing this vid on how you talk to your kids about sex. I love my mom to death but she was very strict as well. I do thank her for that cause it did keep me out of trouble as well as instilling the Lords word within me and my brother. B/c I would see how she would blow up over small things, I was always afraid to come to her with this and other issues. Kudos to you for letting your kids know that they can come to you :)
Allis86 3 weeks ago
i have missed these videos
pinkplease 3 weeks ago
parents but maybe if they sat down and talked to me about serious issues and the real world, things might have been different. make no mistake tho i take full responsibility for my actions and i love my babies, wouldnt change my life for anything right now! but the road getting here couldve been a lot smoother.
AllAboutTheEj 3 weeks ago
i hear u about how being too strict can make ur kids rebel! i grew up in a christian home with strict parents telling me dont do this, do this, thats not right, no sex before marriage its a sin...all that stuff. granted i didnt have a boyfriend or first kiss til i was 18, but after we broke up i started to experience the world and whats it..and let me tell yooooou, i was NOT prepared. now here i am, 23 with 2 kids. their father and i are together but not yet married. im not blaming this on my...
AllAboutTheEj 3 weeks ago
I really wish my mom would've had this talk with me. I'm 19 now, I lost my virginity at 15 to a guy I thought "loved" me. I regret it to this day. That's a special moment in every girl's life & my experience was horrible.
MzReginaR0SE 3 weeks ago
Something else to worry about is H.P.V. Once you have it you can't get rid of the virus, and it can kill you. I personally know three women who have it. And my husband diagnoses cellular diseases. He told me that what killed Farrah Fawcett, was likely caused by her having unprotected anal sex (it's transmitted anally, vaginally, orally) with somebody who was infected. It could've been in her system for decades before she was symptomatic, and by the time she was diagnosed, she was dying.
LillyPickle3000 3 weeks ago
black women have the leading new cases of HIV everyday, and i work w/ them. empower them, but don't underestimate their experiences. most of the girls in my high school were sexually active freshman year.
marcellemillion 3 weeks ago
i feel like often teaching kids on sex is biased. we promote abstinence to girls, and give boys condoms. think of the difference between your son telling you that he's had sex, versus your daughter saying the same thing. FYI- it's not working. you should be giving condoms to both, and saying, "i really think you should wait until you're ready + have a commitment to someone, but if u choose to have sex, be safe and think of the pros + cons of choices". we don't do that in the black community..
marcellemillion 3 weeks ago
This is so true you start your platform at a young age and build from there I was married and had my first child by age 20. My mother was horrible to talk to about sex and therefore when I started having sex I had no one to talk to. When I got pregnant she put me out and thank God my husband married me. I was a freshman in college when I got pregnant. I'm glad that happened to me because it made me a better mom to my daughters. I talked to my 13 year old about sex vaginal and oral because with
Got2lovelace 3 weeks ago
im 21 n my daughter is 4. i was scared of my parents n the sex talk with my mom was"you have sex youll get pregnant". even though she was right, i rebelled n i wasnt informed enough to be doing so. the upside to bein a teen mom is i know what i wish someone would have told me at X age, n i can be that open door parent with my daughter. i also plan on tellin her, in details that make her hate sex, dumb decisions ive made with guys in my life too so she knows im not just mean or talkin out my ass.
ChingysGurl928 3 weeks ago
I not trying to push bible down any throats. But SEX is design for man and woman for procreation in a marital status. COMMITMENT is ultimately what we want anyways. The video didn't cover possible complications ie stds, regrets, disappointment, pain, struggles. It did cover how to prevent some issues but why not explore those issues for minute and half of pleasure.
athenaslester 3 weeks ago
My mom scared the hell outta me! I guess that's why I'm still a virgin lol. She showed me pictures of rotten coochs and told me some stories. That about stopped me! Especially since I've gotten my heart broken once, It's really hard to trust any guy so I'm holding out until i'm married.. hopefully.
iMMUHBAD0N3 3 weeks ago
Well there is enough coverage about when someone may have lost their virginity and when should we talk to our kids about sex. But I didn't hear any stands on choosing to wait for marriage. No one talk to me when I was growing up. However once you know better you do better. The video didn't cover this as any option. Media today plays a big part in our society choices. But we see the deprivation and yet we as individuals enable our future generations to continue to play in to our worlds plans. I'
athenaslester 3 weeks ago
How did you talk to your lil girl about her period my sister ask me about I damn felt out
MrsNeneTilus 3 weeks ago
@MrsNeneTilus OMG I was so scared & nervous 2 talk 2 her about it cause my mother really didnt do a good job w/ it so my daughters god mother started talking 2 her about it when she was 7 & showing her pads & stuff girl it was the most uncomfortable talk I almost died, & now I have to talk 2 my 9 yr old about it & I just want to die for real cause you just want them to stay babies but that will never happen its a hard and touchy subject it took me 4ever 2 talk 2 my husband bout my own period
muffinismylovers 3 weeks ago
Love the real talk sista!!! You are very down to earth and I think that your doing the best job ever raising your children. I have a 19 yr old son too and it wasn't easy telling him about how to be safe and try to hold out and sustain from having sex. Well, I know he's engaging in it now but he has a steady girlfriend and now he's away at college. I am so proud of him for taking off on his own and trying some new things in his life. However, it was never easy raising him alone.
BHT68 3 weeks ago
im glad that you made this video i love the fact your so honest on all your vid. a lot of mothers need to communicate better with their kids about safe sex and also provide trust between them. i love you girl. keep, keeping it real! God bless you and your family.
pinkkiwipuff 3 weeks ago
my mom was very strict too but it definitely paid off and i realized what she was doing. i talked to my son about sex at age 11 and i took him to the library and we checked out books on sex, diseases, drugs and alcohol and watched documentaries. we discussed what he read and watched. long story short, i absolutely agree 100% with you april...thanks for opening up to us and giving wise words and advice. ~thanks diva!!! ~
rintube12 3 weeks ago
i got pregnant at 16 and i really didn't know much about sex because my parents never talked to me about it. Communication is super important which is why my mother and i talk to my younger 14 year old brother about it. i even made him put a condom on a cucumber in front of me. My husband already decided that he will talk to my son about it and if we ever have a girl i will, and it is going to be at the latest when he or she are 13.
G00700279 3 weeks ago
Great topic... and i got two little girls... I know this talk is coming and i need all the input that i can get!
BinkyTful 3 weeks ago
Really good advice, and a really good topic. It's a very important convo parents need to have with their kids even about drugs and what not. I am 23 and my sister is 19 with just that small gap the generation is just getting faster and faster. I think also that people are making more things acceptable and not willing to take responsibility for their children's well being. You can't expect the schools to teach your child everything. They didn't give birth to them. You have to make sure they have
MrsSmithsince08 3 weeks ago
I'm commenting before I even watch this because I saw "Real Talk Diva" in my subscriptions and let out my best Khia-voice "YASSSSS"! Haha :)
supernobody 3 weeks ago
My mom was very strict but my father was easy to talk to about boys and sex. I didn't start having sex until I was 18 years old and I had my child when I was 25 years old. My ex-husband and I talk to our 12 year old daughter about sex and std.
TheUniqueGemini 3 weeks ago
i love a mother that actually cares and pays attention!
dkcmusic 3 weeks ago
My daughter is nine and i talk to her already.....it's better to know than to not know
shaliyah22 3 weeks ago
i think that you are a very open parent. my mother and my dad and my grandparent are the main factors in my life, im 21 , i lost my virginity at a young age, but with love and support and respect for my body and myself. my parents and grandparent, were open for me to talk to me about sex, about relationships, about problems or insecurities as a young child. So i think it is awesome as a mother that you are open to be there for your children about sex especially how you handle it with your son.
amborcutie 3 weeks ago
@muffinismylovers OMG you replied to me :) ! yayy and thanks
naveahsmoments 3 weeks ago
@naveahsmoments you are welcome Diva
muffinismylovers 3 weeks ago
so you are about the same age I will be when my son is 19:) you make me smile cause I want 5 kids too and I was wondering what life would be like.... can you do a video about what its like.
bebegurl31291 3 weeks ago
My mom was rough. As soon as "nature" hit I was told if I got pregnant, me, my dog and my baby would be kicked out and no one in the family would take me in. That was my talking to!
polifonyann 3 weeks ago 2
@polifonyann YES Diva see my mom called them mud puppies to me lol she was so strict to me oowww i couldnt stand her at times but I am grateful for her now cause she taught me a lot and her strictness really paid off
muffinismylovers 3 weeks ago
I have old fashion extremely strict Asian parents. And the greatest(not) thing is, I am the only daughter. Ever since I can remember my parents would lecture me about being "fast". At that time I felt like they were pestering me. They always assumed I'd be pregnant and gone at a young age. So to me, I always wanted to prove them wrong. learned about abstinence, protection, STD's etc. on my own. Now, at 23 I am child-less, and not "gone". As I a teenager I played sports and hated boys. Hahah
MuFFugginLover 3 weeks ago
my opinion: talking to your kids about beautiful God given Sex should not be a touchy subject. Conversation should be age appropriate. Mom and Dad did just gave a little info.every year. We knew about sex as early as 3rd/4thgrade.It cured a lot of my already curiosity. I love that my parents gave it to me straight and with great honesty...doesn't mean we were pefect, just means that if we did F up it wasn't because we didn't have the information...PEACE
checkout1cdc 3 weeks ago
I love this, my mother would threaten me...& I definetly used to sneak out at night & I got pregnant at 16.
Shakirian 3 weeks ago
My family never talked about it but I guess I was so scared I would disappoint them I was in college until I finally did ANYTHING. I'm the second of a set of triplets and none of us had sex before we were 21. Some people find that very hard to believe but it's true and we all waited. I can say I had no regrets and I'm glad I waited.
02survivorace 3 weeks ago
@02survivorace So you all waited until married or turning 21...Big difference.
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checkout1cdc 3 weeks ago
My parents talked to the 5 of us openly about sex.Sex wasn't shameful,or ugly.It was 2 be respected.3girls/2younger boys,we all got the same talk.treat yourself well and your partner,protect yourself.pills don't prevent AIDS.prepare 4 hurt feelings as boys usually only want you 4 sex.boys don't use girls for sex.treat them the way you want your sisters/mom to be treated.God made us all sexual beings.Sex has a place in life don't rush it.use proper anatomy names when they are toddlers and older
checkout1cdc 3 weeks ago
Not related to the video, but you should add some Aloe Vera and Vitamin E to your curling burn, so it doesn't scar.
ileorin 3 weeks ago
This was a good video on a topic that needed to be discussed
SeeItLikeItSub2It 3 weeks ago
Girl, you had me cracking up laughing when you broke out that hot pink pouch...lol
successismine100 3 weeks ago
I wish my mom had been more open to birth control,I had already been sexually active but she didn't know. We had gotten into a huge fight.Her husband,not my father, didn't think I should have been on it. It pissed me off the most 'cause I didn't think h e had any say in anything I did. So now I feel I can't tell her anything without him knowing.The compromise was that I had to pay for the birth control myself.Mind you at the time I was18 and didn't have a job but received fafsa for school.
AlinaGeorgina 3 weeks ago
Where did u get your instyler from love?
swaggaBR3 3 weeks ago
My son is going to be 13 in two months and I've been open with him about his body since he was 2. Only proper terms were used when referring to his private parts. As he got older I educated him little by little, age appropriate stuff. He had questions I answered them. Open is the way to go because the things these kids are exposed to would make you cringe. When he started to like girls he told me about it and was not shy about it at all. Making sure they get the right info could save their life.
Badgalnicola 3 weeks ago
You are doing well April. I like your methods dealing with this situation and your kids. Granted, everyone's situation is going to be different and everyone's method is not going to work the same for everyone.
Butterscotchchick 3 weeks ago
When it comes to sex, there's no choice between birth control and safe sex. IT'S BOTH ... THERE ARE NO OPTIONS. ALSO,don't take this the wrong way, why would you supply your son with condoms, but not your daughter ? She's a girl, and and so is the girl your son's going to. Who are you looking out for ? They're BOTH capable of bringing home babies OR diseases. Is it about what society says, or is it about what the reality is ? What it looks like, or what the truth is ...
JUSTREADMYBOOK 3 weeks ago
I have three sons, I just told them straight up about sex. I provided condoms for them. I remember my mom not telling me anything, partially the reason there here. Tell your kids whats up. Thats just like sending a Marine to the front line and not giving them any training or knowledge on how to protect themselves or anyone else. There are to many STD's kids can get from not knowing. Knowledge is POWER, we half to trust they will use it wisely.
LovelySexasarus 3 weeks ago 11
@LovelySexasarus I agree..sex is more "out" in the open now days and so are diseases. so its a MUST to tell your children about sex and how to protect themselves, for their own safety. Its like teaching them what to do against a bully or a stranger...you have to tell them.
jasmineheaven2 3 weeks ago
i'm 18 and my mother still tells me "no fucking, no drinking, and no drugs" lmso. been telling me since i hit puberty.
knobylob 3 weeks ago
@OhShytThatGurl no they don't teach sex ed in school anymore. omg yesterday *im in this medical careers class where we do clinicals etc etc* my classmate tells everybody on the bus "nobody uses condoms anymore" and then she announced her pregnancy . . i was just like . . I WISH I WOULD GET PREGNANT AND HAVE THE NERVE TO SMILE ! my mama would whoop my ass so hard wooh jesus !
naveahsmoments 3 weeks ago
My mom was super strict too. However,she told us the truth about sex and not getting pregnant or getting V.D. AIDS had not come into play yet. You have to be realistic.Girls WILL wear makeup & they WILL have a boyfriend before 18 ... out front or on the sneak. All of her teaching did not stop me from doing what I thought I knew ( I'll inbox you my story, girl). 1. You HAVE TO talk about sex to your 9 yr. old, and that good touch bad touch mess won't do. "Bad" touches can feel REAL GOOD ! [con't]
JUSTREADMYBOOK 3 weeks ago
Great info girl!!
MekaL32 3 weeks ago
Wow...I didn't have a boyfriend until I went to college. My mom was super duper religious and super duper strict. The motto in my house was "keep you books open and your legs closed." My Dad was a military man, really easy-going and kind, but I can say that I had a healthy fear of my Dad and I never wanted to disappoint him. I think that's what kept me from really acting out. But how do you balance between trying to be a "friend" to your kids and being their "parent"?
nakjon 3 weeks ago
*meant talk to their kids!!
MzChellesoul 3 weeks ago
im 19 and i have never had this talk with my mom i wish i had because i ended up doing stupid things but i found God and changed my life around. oh btw i do not nor have ever had children I've just had some real scares. wish i would have waited to share that with my husband. :/
mrstzeed 3 weeks ago
Parents have to talk to theory loss, o thought I ones cause my friends was teaching me. I can tell my mentee thinks she know a little something, but no ma'am. As you het older you realize its not just about the sex, OTS about everything else and you are piling pm emotions.
MzChellesoul 3 weeks ago
I loved this video! I'm 19 and I know how much parents can be strict and touchy on the subject but you explained it very well. I agree with you 100% love you!
svictor11001 3 weeks ago
I try to use every chance I can get with my boys to discuss sex.. I got pregnant at 15 its something that I regret I had the worst sex talk ever "you get a period you get pregnant" ???? I made the choice to give her up because I wouldnt have been able to provide BUT I make sure that I go in to in depth discussion with my sons and I will but condoms and I hand them out I monitor FB phones ect ... I tell them how handsome they are so some heffa dont gas them up and have them sprung .
TheMFDGrind 3 weeks ago
lol @ telling your daughter its nobody's business but ours, but you've made it a part of the video...
Anisha618 3 weeks ago
men should be taught sexual responsibility like females. that double standard has caused so much damage. parents need to take responsibility for their children's sex education other than that they leave it open to the schools who r being barred by religious org. & politicians or their peers that spread misinformation. birth control is not just abt pregnancy it's also about protecting yourself against stds.
fanatic709 3 weeks ago
This is a scary topic. My baby is still young but I cringe at the thought of having to tell her eventully. I lost mine around 16 or 17, Can't remeber because I did it for all of the wrong reasons and I truly regret it. It wasn't even so much about not being in love but I was just not emotionally or mentally prepared for the responsiblity that comes with it. Just my point of view but sorry Diva, I don't have a real answer. I wish I did :(
Wikibeauty 3 weeks ago
It can depend on the child and the relationship,some can handle being more strict, and others might need it a different way. But it's not just what they can't handle physically but mentally 2.
There is just too much dating violence and stds around now 4 people to still be so naive about teenage relationships and not wanting to talk about what kids see and hear about constantly.
luvslife04 3 weeks ago
Im 20 & I dont even have kids but I think its very important to tell kids the truth when it comes to Sex. Like some parents try to sugarcoat sex talk & thats okay if the child is younger than 16 or whatever. But if they are not dry sugarcoat tell them what is really up you know. If they react to it negatively & decide to have sex or get pregnant anyway then thats on them at least u let them know
MarcyT0the0princess 3 weeks ago
iJust really wish early on my mom would've instilled condoms and birth control and gynecologists visits with me. i still haven't been to a gynecologist and i'm turning 18 in 9 months. i wish i'd have known what a condom looks like before i "engaged" in activities and saw one and i wish she would've told me about birth control back when i was 13 not just for sex but because my cramps are PAINFUl nothing works - no advil - no goody's - no tylenol - no midol (doesn't even phase) - NOTHING :(
naveahsmoments 3 weeks ago
@naveahsmoments Hey Diva well you really dont need your mom to take you to a GYN if you have a planned parenthood in your town you can go on your own they dont contact your parents because it is a privacy act, so you can by all means go and also get birth control if you would like. I think sometimes it is hard for parents to talk about sex to they're kids because they just dont want to face the reality that theyre children are growing up and having sex give planned parenthood a call
muffinismylovers 3 weeks ago 14
@naveahsmoments they dont teach sex ed in school nomore? wtf thats how i found out what a condom was our school made us take sex ed and did free testing etc
OhShytThatGurl 3 weeks ago
@naveahsmoments HURRY UP AND GO TO YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD PARENTHOOD BECAUSE THEY START CHARGING WHEN YOU TURN 18 IDK IF IT'S FOR ALL BUT YOU SHOULD GO
swaggaBR3 3 weeks ago
@angelbabyjeb @Brena1971 aww thanks !
naveahsmoments 3 weeks ago
im 23 i lost mine when i was 19 i regret it i should of waited lesson learned
OhShytThatGurl 3 weeks ago
@OhShytThatGurl me too. i regret it too.
bigvinamac 3 weeks ago
iWould give my opinion but i'm 17 and well i would get ambushed with responses .
naveahsmoments 3 weeks ago
@naveahsmoments YOUR opinion matters!
Brena1971 3 weeks ago
@Brena1971 You are sooo right, all opinions matter. this person could probably shed some light on how teens feel about things these days (i.e. being pressured etc.)
checkout1cdc 3 weeks ago
@naveahsmoments I dont think you would get ambushed hun.
angelbabyjeb 3 weeks ago