I watched this video almost 3 years ago and it changed my life. Im a ftm and it took so long to get over the fear, after i heard this video. i decided to transition. i even recorded the video and played it in the car and listened to it on my way to work. and everything u said in this video is soo true. thanks for making this video, it changed my life!!
I love you Charlotte, it has been almost three years since my transition and this video played a major role in conquering my fear, my life and of my nine year old daughter is now genuine and full of love. God bless you my sister
good message, however, it's almost always easier said than done.
in history... Gays feared comming out of the closset.
Blacks feared standing up against unfair segregation.
women feared standing up and demanding equal rights and the power to vote. and before that repressed peoples feared standing up for their religious fredoms. (and so this contry was founded) a refuge to those repressed. stand up it's the american thing to do!
yes hun i have dealt with the reactions from my family,i mean i was addicted to Heroin for 12 yrs because of my GID.I just new that in the end i could not hide behind that mask any more,it was eating me up.Today I'm 14 months clean,I have my funding,for my transitioning,& like you say no 1 has supported me,not even my mum,bless her...I cant wait to join you all on hear.I have so much to say about me Danielle coram xx I cry at times, its been so hard for me xx
This video has changed the course of my life mademe see life in a new perspective and taught me to not be afraid. Thank you charlot you change my life forever. :)
I've gone through and watched a bunch of your videos and they are awesome. You are absolutely gorgeous and you have amazing eyes(in both black and white, and in color) Thanks for the video!
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Did you ever have doubts in the beginning? I'm gonna go through this in 6 months, and i'm starting to get alot of doubts about even going through with it... I told my grandma the other day, and that I was starting counseling, and she put alot of doubts in my head...Now I don't know. Did you have any doubts in the beginning?? Please respond to me.
@dutico Idid have doubts, but I certainly wouldn't put it off. If you go to therapy and get a good gender therapist, you will be fine. These feelings never go away.
@karmatic1110 Thanks for responding to me. :) When I talked to my grandma, she said that maybe I was just a gay man, which isn't the case. One, I don't find myself attracted to gay men, only heterosexual men, and two I just feel like a girl. She just really through me off, because she said I don't have any femine qualities at all. But she is right, I really don't. But that is because I put on a front 24/7 =/ It's just becoming really stressful, and no one else in my family knows other then her
@karmatic1110 Thanks for responding to me. :) When I talked to my grandma, she said that maybe I was just a gay man, which isn't the case. One, I don't find myself attracted to gay men, only heterosexual men, and two I just feel like a girl. She just really through me off, because she said I don't have any femine qualities at all. But she is right, I really don't. But that is because I put on a front 24/7 =/ It's just becoming really stressful, and no one else in my family knows other then her
@karmatic1110 Yeah, you are right. I just need to go ahead and do it. I can't wait to start counseling in two weeks, and then really just start living.
@dutico Heres my 2 cents. I am a biological intersexed (hermaphrodite) person (male&female). But unlike trans folks, I dont identify mentally as one gender.I see myself for what I am: both. Ands I've learned to accept it. As fas as image? I prefer to have the "outward" appearance of a female. So in that respect, were the same. Its not easy to transition. U worry about: family, friends, etc. I was 35 when I transitioned to female externally. You will LOVE life. You do this for U - No one else!
@SstutteringSMRF A large percentage of those people are pretransition. Also, dysphoria doesn't exactly just go away, so not transitioning is rarely an option.
This makes me so sad. Such a confused person. This life is not 'your' life, it's God's life. The reason people have such a hard time is because it is WRONG to 'mess' around like this. There is so much more than this apx. 70 years life span we experience. Please don't mutilate, indulge, cave in, give in. 'Transitioning' ? There's no going back, then you're a freak - tragic. Does she look happy?!?? She is confused, tortured and most of all - mistaken.
Haha, you have no idea what you are talking about, and I am sure the God that you have no evidence for is different from the over 10000 that have existed in the past LOL.
@elle23076 The point of us transpeople making these videos is to enlighten others such as yourself. Clearly you not only learned nothing from this, but you are a prisoner to the biggest life of all: that your life "is God's life'. That is a slave mentality. IF God gave us life, then it it is up to us to pursue our dreams to our fullest extent. Furthermore, we are born trans, so God obviously knew we would transition before we ever did.
this video gives me so much strenght...i send a email coming out to my dad but i figure out his password and delete it...i afraid to see the years passing and still being afraid of transition cuz im only 15..but im triyng my best to send it for real this time
I watched this over and over two years ago, I then began transition. My life has improved 1000X's once I faced the fear I realized at the end of every day that nothing bad happened, in fact GOOD HAPPENS. Thank you Charlotte for being a beacon in my life.
This is so true! i remember coming out being so scared, but after i came out it wasn`t as bad as i thought, now im living as myself, this video really inspires me.
this video was something fundamental to me because it made me feel that there is no reason strong enough to be afraid of our life choices as related to our sexuality that is about our way of being in life in all its aspects and made me wake up to a new consciousness and gave me a new sense of freedom, thank you charlot even has a very special way of seeing life and convey their ideas. s really special.
well done to all who have done it as you are a person forget all who stand in your way take the leap if, all who dont accept you as you are are not worth the salt that they are made of be your self dont let fear stop you cos you are beautiful ignore all who say no go for it you will be loved
Wow, this video just about made me cry. I've lost more than 25 years to fear: I have only recently transitioned and I am so grateful now, even with the costs....
@karmatic1110 I try to look on the internet, but all I found were therapists from maryland, ohio, michigan, florida etc. I can't find some in my city.
i live in wyoming and its a prety dangerious state to live in if you are differant. I have finaly decided that i am going to make a transition. I am willing to accept the danger of being kild for what i am as apposed to letting it destroy me from the inside out. I am so scared of what is in store for me but i wont back down. also im sure i spelled alot of words wrong. im sory
But....how is it possible for someone to lose the attraction to the opposite sex that they're naturally born with. Were you asexual for a while? Why do men make better women than women, and vice-versa. Amazing!
When it all comes down to it, we gotta just be who we are......can't live our lives for other folks. :) And when it all shakes out, maybe some understanding results between us all. I still work to understand things...I grew up in the South afterall, but everyone is capable of understanding if they just think about things.
your video comes over as sincere,but it show a mirrored image that is easier to avoid..my own.
besides that it brings we to tears.....truth sometimes hurts..
look after yourself and I wish you happiness because you are doing something that I am not capeable of....;-) and I wish you all the happiness in the world..
I am 51 and fear has held me back since I was 18. Looking back had I known I was going to end up starting transition no matter how much I held back i would have transitioned back then. I am still afraid so this video is very important for me to watch and I will watch it over and over again.
At the very essence of all your videos is an inspiration I can't describe Karmatic. I have to say that first, no greater fear, in my opinion, is the void people create inside who try to belittle others to improve their self-esteem. Pathetic!
But your passion for life is just inspirational at its brevity, and by the way, what your hearing is from a guy (not transgendered).
All I can say is follow your bliss, because the most beautiful thing in the world is of course the world itself.
I am a product of the what the american male adults say a boy should be. Now that I am the adult and now that I have more information via youtube, I know exactly what kind of male I want to be and what kind of persona I need to show people. Your videos are really enlightening to straight males who find you attractive but would not cross that line.
Charlotte is most aruably the very best trans-spokesperson on YouTube. She's got:
Information ... Charisma ... Intelligence ...
the "Holy Trinity" necessary for an amazing ability to teach. You could become a professional speaker if you wanted too. Surely, you've got "The Right Stuff" to do so.
Wonderfully inspiring video. Thanks so much for making and posting it! So very helpful to so many of us!
...MtF's are one of the largest groups who are sexually assaulted. Not only that, one in twelve get murdered...Also, once someone is on hormones they are no stronger than a bio girl.
Hey, got a reputable source for that 1 in 12 statistic? Truly shocking. Have you read any explanation of why the number is so high? I mean, it's unbelievable.
This is without a doubt, my very favourite YouTube video to date and it is exceptionally well thought out and intelligent advice. It also was one of the huge factors and turning points in my decision to finally begin transition, I now have no regrets whatsoever, will begin HRT shortly and I feel I owe you a great debt of gratitude. Thank you so very much Charlotte.
I know exactly what your talking about. I'm a FTM and I've yet to even start therapy. I was terrified to tell my parents for fear of what they would say or do. I had a friend who helped me through it, though. She told me that if they won't tolerate me because of who I am, then they aren't worth it. I told my mother a few days later.
I just found your videos they are so informative and inspiring for trans people.. I love your honesty girl.. Thanks so much and I hope all the young trans women find your videos somehow..
You are brave and beautiful. You look very intelligent. The others? Don't care about them ! Become happy ! Forget the narrowminded people ! You are a wonderful human being !!!!!
I thought about it alot I just don't know who to talk to T-T I live near Howard brown health center maybe I could go there but i don't know what to say if I do go I live in Chicago IL great vid too 5/5.
Wow what profound and overwhelmingly positive advice. Your words have far reaching implications, not just for trans people but for anyone on the cusp of change of any kind in their lives. And yes you are extremely attractive; Im a fan.
You're beautiful and I admire you for following your heart. I couldnt imagine how difficult it is for the transgender or gay communities to go through the issues that you do. It takes a lot of strength, courage, and self-love to face those issues. God bless you and good luck on your journey.
Continued- to Anime Reader - I pressed send by mistake and could not go back to finish my reply ....
FYI, I uzsed the term "Angel" as it is most commonly used: to signify someone who is a good person - in this case it is a reference to her self-restraint in not replying with venom to your odious posts...
It was never meant to imply that she is a discorporate, messenger of God?
That is not all she is, she is also courageous, articulate and intelligent... and while age must gently fade our appearance, she will remain an elegant, dignified and interesting woman with the potential for enriching others' lives... unlike Anime Raider, who emerges from this a know-it-all transphobe, and that counts for even more!
I Was introduce to the transexuality concept by a friend of mine who is a transgender. She told me what it was to live her life and how all this happened to her and what were her thoughts, her feelings, her dilemmas...
I understand that she is a woman you was born with the wrong body. The minute i understood that, everything was clear in my mind.
today i post this mgs 6-27-09 9:30am u know you are rigth i dint look at it tha way i thin tha's what's stoping from bien what i can be? thenk you very much for tha comment i will try it whit out fear end soon? i will post a video about my thenks to you?
Some of you just don't get it, do you? She is *not* a guy, she never was, her body may have made a small mistake while it developed, but she was always and always be a woman! A real woman, from start to finish, the surgery is irrelevant, approval surplus to requirement, opinion cannot change what is: she's a real Angel.
Sweetheart, don't let what anyone says hurt you, everything about you says intelligence, style and quality! So: be well, be loved, be happy! Ad Majora!
I am so glad to read that, hon... I would love to ask so many questions... about transphobia in the US, about the political Trans scene there, level of organisation and legal protection. I am a cis-sexual, lesbian woman and I live in the UK, where the law forbids discrimination of gender identity or sexual orientation - so the likes of Anime Raider can be reported - and there is funding for gender re-alignment surgery.
What about where you live? Does the law protect your rights there? Hugggs!
I'm sorry. That's not how it works. She was at one point a "guy" as you put it. Her sex was at one point a male(note how I said sex and not gender because they are two different things) and now her sex was changed to female. The surgery is not irrelevant because it was practically life altering and I would put a lot of relevance on surgery that will change the way you live. Opinion can change what is, and now you're claiming her to be an angel? I thought she only changed her gender here.
Since you admit that sex and gender are two different things, don't you think it is a positive development that we can now do something to ameliorate the suffering of people who feel like the two things are not in synch? I think all GeaVox was saying is that opinion is not going to change the experience someone has of being "out of synch" or gender dysphoric. That's not to say that opinion can't affect anything. For example, I think the fact that people have become aware of transgender issues
has made it easier for people to undergo transition without so much fear of being persecuted or discriminated against. This is one way that opinion has changed the world we live in... for the better. As far as the surgery is concerned, I wouldn't say it's irrelevant in terms of a tg person's life, but in regards to how they identify inside it is irrelevant. That's not going to change -- surgery or no surgery.
and you would know because....? "anime raider x" huh?... let me see...
"Anime - Japanese:" アニメ " abbreviated pronunciation in of 'animation' "
Now, doesn't *that* handle say everything about how much you know of "how it works" huh? Is *that* where you get your vision of the world, pet? Animes?
Angel? what, pray, have "angels" got to do with anything, or do you believe in those too?
Oh, and opinion can change what is. After all, facts are based off of opinions. I suggest you remember this quote: "The driving force in the world today is the human heart - that is, human emotions... Our tools have become very powerful. Hate, not bombs, destroys cities. Desire, not bricks, rebuilds them." That especially applies to what you said.
Hello, I just found this by chance and I think it captures the most important emotion of a human: Fear. I'm not a transsexual myself, but I admire you, a lot. You have found yourself and that's what it counts. Live and prosper, you deserve it ^^
thank you for these videos.you are right on target. I am 38 years old and wish i would have transitioned at 18.But i had all those fears you described.Videos like yours help me find courage.thank you
Whoa. I had no idea you were trans. I am a transguy and (wthout sounding like a weird stalker) I was um.....glued to the video. You are so beautiful, edgey, sexy and I love your voice. Great video too by the way.
Wow. This is such a hard thing to get over. I wish I realized I could do this when I was going through the pains of having to grow up in the wrong body. I am beginning my transition at 43. I do fear the posibility of losing my job since I worked a lifetime to get to be where I am now. I will be transitioning in front of 224 other Firefighters.
i am mtf trans and i recently came out full time. i know right where you are coming from when you say that fear dictates peoples' lives. my anxiety of wanting to be out actually overwhelmed that fear and here i am now......all the way out. i loved the video.
Thank you so much. I wasted YEARS living in fear of who I wanted and needed to be. I only hope (and pray) that others will figure out who they NEED to be soon enough to get the best result. And that they find COMPETANT surgeons. Some of us weren't so lucky.
Wow....I am a bisexual woman and have personally not met many t-girls I found sexually attractive...not any actually. Not because anything is wrong with t girls, but you're just my first. I find you beautiful, intriguing, and very very sexy. I liked this vlog too. You are really pretty and I hope you feel that way each and every day.
i was just looking through somoenes videos and i saw this one and wow this video i couldn't even look away i was memorized on what you said i have been going through my life always wondering what if, thank you for your video.
a great video. you're very inspiring. and i think you would make a great friend. but don't forget, we're not all as strong as you. many people live with fear. it's not always easy to be yourself. some of us are not even sure who that is. we just carry on.
This video greatly inspired me a year ago to come out to my mom as an FTM transsexual. That part didn't go so well, but last year I was a suicidal wreck--now though I do have some fear, I have definitely overcome it and am much better off, both my physical and mental health have improved beyond I could previously imagine.
Fear is a terrible thing to live with. I denied myself my true life due to fear of redicule, the loss of family and friends and above all, my corporate career. I lived a very empty, semi alientated life. And when I declared enough was enough, and did transition and had my SRS+BA and facial, and yes, I did lose my career and most of my family, and friends but at least I feel happier, more contented, and above all....I'm 'ME'
sorry I messed up my last comment. Karmatic I wanted to say how powerful that was for me.I am tg but not going full time yet.I was on hormones for 9 months then stopped. The changes came so fast.I also have two sons and they aren't ready to know.I also need to remove my facial hair.I am beginning to work on my voice,thanks to one of your other videos. Thanks so much for doing what you do!
I watched this video almost 3 years ago and it changed my life. Im a ftm and it took so long to get over the fear, after i heard this video. i decided to transition. i even recorded the video and played it in the car and listened to it on my way to work. and everything u said in this video is soo true. thanks for making this video, it changed my life!!
jaysongamble1111 2 weeks ago
@jaysongamble1111 I'm so glad everything worked out :)
karmatic1110 2 weeks ago
I love you Charlotte, it has been almost three years since my transition and this video played a major role in conquering my fear, my life and of my nine year old daughter is now genuine and full of love. God bless you my sister
selenamrtnz1 3 weeks ago
@selenamrtnz1 I'd be lying if I said this comment didn't make me tear up just a little :) I'm glad I could help, even in a small way.
karmatic1110 3 weeks ago
good message, however, it's almost always easier said than done.
in history... Gays feared comming out of the closset.
Blacks feared standing up against unfair segregation.
women feared standing up and demanding equal rights and the power to vote. and before that repressed peoples feared standing up for their religious fredoms. (and so this contry was founded) a refuge to those repressed. stand up it's the american thing to do!
Segnet37451172 2 months ago
yes hun i have dealt with the reactions from my family,i mean i was addicted to Heroin for 12 yrs because of my GID.I just new that in the end i could not hide behind that mask any more,it was eating me up.Today I'm 14 months clean,I have my funding,for my transitioning,& like you say no 1 has supported me,not even my mum,bless her...I cant wait to join you all on hear.I have so much to say about me Danielle coram xx I cry at times, its been so hard for me xx
Danielle123442 6 months ago
Transsexuality has a remedy and its awesome: Estrogen is a dream potion in relieving dysphoria: also improves your handwriting!
freekylovejoy 7 months ago
This video has changed the course of my life mademe see life in a new perspective and taught me to not be afraid. Thank you charlot you change my life forever. :)
arnaldospatz 9 months ago
I've gone through and watched a bunch of your videos and they are awesome. You are absolutely gorgeous and you have amazing eyes(in both black and white, and in color) Thanks for the video!
octabreaker 9 months ago
oops. I grew up when society looked st the LGB
KristenMac100 9 months ago
@KristenMac100 Huh?
karmatic1110 9 months ago
Thank you for the message. I am a bit older and now seems to be the right time for this. I know it is harder but I
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YTubeArraignment 10 months ago
just what i needed to hear!! thank you much
sebastian73046 10 months ago
Did you ever have doubts in the beginning? I'm gonna go through this in 6 months, and i'm starting to get alot of doubts about even going through with it... I told my grandma the other day, and that I was starting counseling, and she put alot of doubts in my head...Now I don't know. Did you have any doubts in the beginning?? Please respond to me.
dutico 11 months ago
@dutico Idid have doubts, but I certainly wouldn't put it off. If you go to therapy and get a good gender therapist, you will be fine. These feelings never go away.
karmatic1110 11 months ago
@karmatic1110 Thanks for responding to me. :) When I talked to my grandma, she said that maybe I was just a gay man, which isn't the case. One, I don't find myself attracted to gay men, only heterosexual men, and two I just feel like a girl. She just really through me off, because she said I don't have any femine qualities at all. But she is right, I really don't. But that is because I put on a front 24/7 =/ It's just becoming really stressful, and no one else in my family knows other then her
dutico 11 months ago
@karmatic1110 Thanks for responding to me. :) When I talked to my grandma, she said that maybe I was just a gay man, which isn't the case. One, I don't find myself attracted to gay men, only heterosexual men, and two I just feel like a girl. She just really through me off, because she said I don't have any femine qualities at all. But she is right, I really don't. But that is because I put on a front 24/7 =/ It's just becoming really stressful, and no one else in my family knows other then her
dutico 11 months ago
@dutico Well you seem to know what you want hun :)
karmatic1110 11 months ago
@karmatic1110 Yeah, you are right. I just need to go ahead and do it. I can't wait to start counseling in two weeks, and then really just start living.
dutico 10 months ago
@dutico Heres my 2 cents. I am a biological intersexed (hermaphrodite) person (male&female). But unlike trans folks, I dont identify mentally as one gender.I see myself for what I am: both. Ands I've learned to accept it. As fas as image? I prefer to have the "outward" appearance of a female. So in that respect, were the same. Its not easy to transition. U worry about: family, friends, etc. I was 35 when I transitioned to female externally. You will LOVE life. You do this for U - No one else!
MsDallasRedhead 8 months ago
:') you make me feel strong with your words.
your amazing!
thank you!
love and light
Jane
JaneStarlight 11 months ago
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transexual are a cosnpiracy against men i hope the get aids
ihatetog 11 months ago
What about the high percent of becoming suicidal and transitioning and fear of being apart of that statistic
SstutteringSMRF 1 year ago
@SstutteringSMRF A large percentage of those people are pretransition. Also, dysphoria doesn't exactly just go away, so not transitioning is rarely an option.
karmatic1110 1 year ago
This makes me so sad. Such a confused person. This life is not 'your' life, it's God's life. The reason people have such a hard time is because it is WRONG to 'mess' around like this. There is so much more than this apx. 70 years life span we experience. Please don't mutilate, indulge, cave in, give in. 'Transitioning' ? There's no going back, then you're a freak - tragic. Does she look happy?!?? She is confused, tortured and most of all - mistaken.
elle23076 1 year ago
Haha, you have no idea what you are talking about, and I am sure the God that you have no evidence for is different from the over 10000 that have existed in the past LOL.
karmatic1110 1 year ago
@elle23076 The point of us transpeople making these videos is to enlighten others such as yourself. Clearly you not only learned nothing from this, but you are a prisoner to the biggest life of all: that your life "is God's life'. That is a slave mentality. IF God gave us life, then it it is up to us to pursue our dreams to our fullest extent. Furthermore, we are born trans, so God obviously knew we would transition before we ever did.
SmoothCinnamonX 11 months ago
"you're afraid of mabies..." so wise, dear.
zoyataylor 1 year ago
this video gives me so much strenght...i send a email coming out to my dad but i figure out his password and delete it...i afraid to see the years passing and still being afraid of transition cuz im only 15..but im triyng my best to send it for real this time
MrSiulsiul 1 year ago
I think it applies to a lot of choices in life =], ty for the vid.
Parogful 1 year ago
I watched this over and over two years ago, I then began transition. My life has improved 1000X's once I faced the fear I realized at the end of every day that nothing bad happened, in fact GOOD HAPPENS. Thank you Charlotte for being a beacon in my life.
selenamrtnz1 1 year ago
@selenamrtnz1 Aww, thank you for the sweet comment :)
karmatic1110 1 year ago
@karmatic1110
I would love to send you a pic of My daughter and I......email? facebook?
selenamrtnz1 1 year ago
You look a lot like Mariska Hargitay :)
kittengirlmaryann 1 year ago
You are a beautiful woman, inside and out. Thank you for sharing. ^^
skell2020 1 year ago
This is so true! i remember coming out being so scared, but after i came out it wasn`t as bad as i thought, now im living as myself, this video really inspires me.
moochachaa 1 year ago
I know this one's a couple of years old now, but it's one of your best. Great words.
Really special. Thanks.
controlfunction 1 year ago
I realy needed to hear this. Thank You.
transolivia 1 year ago
this video was something fundamental to me because it made me feel that there is no reason strong enough to be afraid of our life choices as related to our sexuality that is about our way of being in life in all its aspects and made me wake up to a new consciousness and gave me a new sense of freedom, thank you charlot even has a very special way of seeing life and convey their ideas. s really special.
arnaldospatz 1 year ago
i have an issue may i ask how did u come out to family and what should i do to tell them
sissybrandy21 1 year ago
I am terrified of losing my friends and of the part of me I'll ultimately have to say goodbye to (currently in the military).
Thank you for this video. It's helping a lot.
NatalieSD11 1 year ago
well done to all who have done it as you are a person forget all who stand in your way take the leap if, all who dont accept you as you are are not worth the salt that they are made of be your self dont let fear stop you cos you are beautiful ignore all who say no go for it you will be loved
gonetohell2010 1 year ago
"Shouldn't you fear not transitioning?" Well said, that resonates with me.
tofugoast 1 year ago
Wow, this video just about made me cry. I've lost more than 25 years to fear: I have only recently transitioned and I am so grateful now, even with the costs....
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JerrysTube 1 year ago
@JerrysTube Cher's son.
karmatic1110 1 year ago
This is so true. And this goes for everyone.
thegradschooldropout 1 year ago
This video is incredibly inspirational. I love how confident you are in what you are saying. Its quite reassuring.
bitemebetty 1 year ago
Hi, I'm pretttttttty sure I'm in love with you. ^_^
Gah, you're gorgeous and so smart. Thank you so much for sharing your message with YouTube.
sukiyaki113 1 year ago
Thnaks. I needed to hear that.
MrChris119 1 year ago
I'm 18 years old, I want to be transgender.
I have my hair, shape, and voice. All I need is the boobs and the female reproductive part to be complete.
But I don't know how to start.
popups46okay 1 year ago
@popups46okay Find a gender therapist in your area.
karmatic1110 1 year ago
@karmatic1110 I try to look on the internet, but all I found were therapists from maryland, ohio, michigan, florida etc. I can't find some in my city.
popups46okay 1 year ago
You are so elegant and so beautiful. You are so very brave.
shinyeyedwomyn 1 year ago
When this video started I just broke down in to tears because of what
happened to me when I was young and tried to start my transsition
young but when my parents found out they almost hit me in the face
with the bible and after that I felt ashamed of myself I really wish I
had that kind of stringth to this day I'm happy for you that you have
falowed your heart because I have ignored mine for so many years I
don't know if I'll ever be able to be what I really want to be
glfreak87 1 year ago
When this video started I just broke down in to tears because of what
happened to me when I was young and tried to start my transsition
young but when my parents found out they almost hit me in the face
with the bible and after that I felt ashamed of myself I really wish I
had that kind of stringth to this day I'm happy for you that you have
fallowed your heart because I have ignored mine for so many years I
don't know if I'll ever be able to be what I really want to be
glfreak87 1 year ago
i live in wyoming and its a prety dangerious state to live in if you are differant. I have finaly decided that i am going to make a transition. I am willing to accept the danger of being kild for what i am as apposed to letting it destroy me from the inside out. I am so scared of what is in store for me but i wont back down. also im sure i spelled alot of words wrong. im sory
mlane1986 1 year ago
thank you for this video.. I realy meen it.
Ladypurpulhair 1 year ago
But....how is it possible for someone to lose the attraction to the opposite sex that they're naturally born with. Were you asexual for a while? Why do men make better women than women, and vice-versa. Amazing!
Wander2012 1 year ago
You're very attractive :3
Very True Video.
KneeOnRaindrops 1 year ago
When it all comes down to it, we gotta just be who we are......can't live our lives for other folks. :) And when it all shakes out, maybe some understanding results between us all. I still work to understand things...I grew up in the South afterall, but everyone is capable of understanding if they just think about things.
Really good vid, btw.
Janet
onewomanandsomesongs 1 year ago
your video comes over as sincere,but it show a mirrored image that is easier to avoid..my own.
besides that it brings we to tears.....truth sometimes hurts..
look after yourself and I wish you happiness because you are doing something that I am not capeable of....;-) and I wish you all the happiness in the world..
amandetful 1 year ago
are you a female trying to be a male?
leesard17 1 year ago
this is an amazing video. YOU hit the nail on the head, don't be afraid of anything. It gets you no were. also i think your pretty cute ...
you kinda look like Mariska Hargitay.
squireminime 1 year ago
I am 51 and fear has held me back since I was 18. Looking back had I known I was going to end up starting transition no matter how much I held back i would have transitioned back then. I am still afraid so this video is very important for me to watch and I will watch it over and over again.
kimberlyannofgeorgia 2 years ago
Thanks for these encouraging words. I am full of fears but hope I will overcome and go my way :)...wishing you all the best!
sweetbosie 2 years ago
I'm afraid of spiders and nothing can make me otherwise,
Ayatron34 2 years ago
Thank you so very much. Like you say it is easier said then done. My soul searching continues, I live in total fear, because of the unknown.
steffyhabo 2 years ago
At the very essence of all your videos is an inspiration I can't describe Karmatic. I have to say that first, no greater fear, in my opinion, is the void people create inside who try to belittle others to improve their self-esteem. Pathetic!
But your passion for life is just inspirational at its brevity, and by the way, what your hearing is from a guy (not transgendered).
All I can say is follow your bliss, because the most beautiful thing in the world is of course the world itself.
UnsatiableEloquence 2 years ago 2
ONLY THING WE HAVE TO FEAR IS FEAR ITSELF ! As said by president FDR 1932.
Guys never have fear. Be real / be you / be happy / be gay / be str8 / just be .. If people don't like it, that's their problem, not yours.
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pompom11 2 years ago 10
great message ...much rather live being who i feel am than live scared being who somebody else think i should be
nochokin 2 years ago
I am a product of the what the american male adults say a boy should be. Now that I am the adult and now that I have more information via youtube, I know exactly what kind of male I want to be and what kind of persona I need to show people. Your videos are really enlightening to straight males who find you attractive but would not cross that line.
abbienorm2009 2 years ago
god your pretty!!!
sjclassics 2 years ago 4
R Uu ..................a boy or girl
noaccess2009 2 years ago
@noaccess2009 what a rude question! She is a woman---a transwoman, but a woman, nonetheless. Please don't ask rude questions.
laurelfan1 2 years ago 3
as in she's becoming a woman. or she was a woman who is becoming a man? i cant tell.
leesard17 1 year ago
If you'll forgive me for being totally out of context, I'd just like to say you have a beautiful nose.
getreallanguage 2 years ago
Charlotte is most aruably the very best trans-spokesperson on YouTube. She's got:
Information ... Charisma ... Intelligence ...
the "Holy Trinity" necessary for an amazing ability to teach. You could become a professional speaker if you wanted too. Surely, you've got "The Right Stuff" to do so.
Wonderfully inspiring video. Thanks so much for making and posting it! So very helpful to so many of us!
FanOfJanis 2 years ago
sorry i meant to say MtF lol
Damnedsoul53 2 years ago
How on earth would it be harder being biologically female?
karmatic1110 2 years ago 3
because we get raped and beaten and like men dont mess with you if youre as big and strong as them you know what im saying
Damnedsoul53 2 years ago
...MtF's are one of the largest groups who are sexually assaulted. Not only that, one in twelve get murdered...Also, once someone is on hormones they are no stronger than a bio girl.
karmatic1110 2 years ago 13
yes u are right..i,v been sexually assaulted.more than 50 times ..its .nothing to do with been ts woman or real woman...
1tsguk 2 years ago
@karmatic1110
Hey, got a reputable source for that 1 in 12 statistic? Truly shocking. Have you read any explanation of why the number is so high? I mean, it's unbelievable.
PaulDiracFRS 1 year ago
is it hard being FtM? because i feel it is harder being biologically female.
Damnedsoul53 2 years ago
You are so right. I've let fear control me so much. I've moved so slowly and I'm really just not happy.
stntylr101 2 years ago
thanks 2nd time i watched it this inspirers me
davisexkitten 2 years ago
Beautiful person!! Absolutely.
marsproject23 2 years ago 2
beautiful woman, damn, she`s hot.
Daniela6439 2 years ago
outstanding
christchurchlesbians 2 years ago
Beautiful, beautifully spoken, and needs to be heard.
jsgboggs 2 years ago
F.E.A.R., Forever Existing As Redundant!
TheDragonfly2000 2 years ago 2
Charlotte,
This is without a doubt, my very favourite YouTube video to date and it is exceptionally well thought out and intelligent advice. It also was one of the huge factors and turning points in my decision to finally begin transition, I now have no regrets whatsoever, will begin HRT shortly and I feel I owe you a great debt of gratitude. Thank you so very much Charlotte.
Very respectfully yours,
Alicia
AliciaTransmuted 2 years ago
You are a very good communicator! I'm sure your vids make a diff for a lot of ppl.
TheTourlous 2 years ago
I know exactly what your talking about. I'm a FTM and I've yet to even start therapy. I was terrified to tell my parents for fear of what they would say or do. I had a friend who helped me through it, though. She told me that if they won't tolerate me because of who I am, then they aren't worth it. I told my mother a few days later.
seththemuse 2 years ago
you're beautiful:)
suphattalow 2 years ago
I just found your videos they are so informative and inspiring for trans people.. I love your honesty girl.. Thanks so much and I hope all the young trans women find your videos somehow..
XOXO
Ashly
tsashly 2 years ago
You are brave and beautiful. You look very intelligent. The others? Don't care about them ! Become happy ! Forget the narrowminded people ! You are a wonderful human being !!!!!
henoch66 2 years ago 2
Its not that I want to be a girl I just want to know whats it like and getting a sex shange is not warth it.
ActionFilmsNeo 2 years ago
wow, u should be a psycologist
BarbaraMParis 2 years ago
I thought about it alot I just don't know who to talk to T-T I live near Howard brown health center maybe I could go there but i don't know what to say if I do go I live in Chicago IL great vid too 5/5.
llawliet420 2 years ago
Frak it I'm just gonna go its killing me not to, just sitting in my room again great vid
llawliet420 2 years ago
Grl! U hit it right on point!
krazime92 2 years ago
get a rocket launcher - you will fear noone then!
lizichell 2 years ago
I always preferred a nice silver bowie knife lol but that's good too.
llawliet420 2 years ago
what if you fear transsexuals but are one?
stoleninfo 2 years ago
off topic- you're really beautiful
benniskjaldbaka 2 years ago
You look so exotic and beautiful.
Great advice!
lastdancemaryjane1 2 years ago 2
Wow what profound and overwhelmingly positive advice. Your words have far reaching implications, not just for trans people but for anyone on the cusp of change of any kind in their lives. And yes you are extremely attractive; Im a fan.
devtank1 2 years ago 2
I thought I would never pass. I look totally different than I did prior to transition.
karmatic1110 2 years ago
It's not going to just go away.
karmatic1110 2 years ago
Too late? I transitioned at 27. At 24, you haven't even had the second hormone rush. That is a cop out.
karmatic1110 2 years ago
its great that your being your self!who u feel like being
uglypink9 2 years ago
you are beautiful :)
njh94chun 2 years ago 3
ok.now you are a hot lesbian.
delanima 2 years ago
OMG u are the best preacher, my spelling sucks. You are so deep, wow, u know what u r talking about.
mickeyCalvani 2 years ago 2
Good for you!
jimmerly 2 years ago 2
You're beautiful and I admire you for following your heart. I couldnt imagine how difficult it is for the transgender or gay communities to go through the issues that you do. It takes a lot of strength, courage, and self-love to face those issues. God bless you and good luck on your journey.
darlinggirl2 2 years ago
Continued- to Anime Reader - I pressed send by mistake and could not go back to finish my reply ....
FYI, I uzsed the term "Angel" as it is most commonly used: to signify someone who is a good person - in this case it is a reference to her self-restraint in not replying with venom to your odious posts...
It was never meant to imply that she is a discorporate, messenger of God?
GeaVox 2 years ago
great video! You look like Carly Pope
youtuba87 2 years ago
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yetanotheruser666 2 years ago
Product placement: JUST DO IT :)
UcanbeGOD 2 years ago
Thanks, you've really helped me to understand how my friend must be feeling
blackdragonUK 2 years ago
wow, you're really beautiful :)
xoxoaimeeluvxoxo 2 years ago 8
That is not all she is, she is also courageous, articulate and intelligent... and while age must gently fade our appearance, she will remain an elegant, dignified and interesting woman with the potential for enriching others' lives... unlike Anime Raider, who emerges from this a know-it-all transphobe, and that counts for even more!
GeaVox 2 years ago
I agree with you. Totally. And this is from a guy who has no intention of transitioning into anything. Why can't I have a decent girlfriend like her?
sweenyadam 1 year ago
I live in Québec(french part of Canada).
I Was introduce to the transexuality concept by a friend of mine who is a transgender. She told me what it was to live her life and how all this happened to her and what were her thoughts, her feelings, her dilemmas...
I understand that she is a woman you was born with the wrong body. The minute i understood that, everything was clear in my mind.
Ralipsi 2 years ago
today i post this mgs 6-27-09 9:30am u know you are rigth i dint look at it tha way i thin tha's what's stoping from bien what i can be? thenk you very much for tha comment i will try it whit out fear end soon? i will post a video about my thenks to you?
darkqueen47 2 years ago
Some of you just don't get it, do you? She is *not* a guy, she never was, her body may have made a small mistake while it developed, but she was always and always be a woman! A real woman, from start to finish, the surgery is irrelevant, approval surplus to requirement, opinion cannot change what is: she's a real Angel.
Sweetheart, don't let what anyone says hurt you, everything about you says intelligence, style and quality! So: be well, be loved, be happy! Ad Majora!
GeaVox 2 years ago 2
Haha :) It's fine. I find mean or naive messages funny. Not a single one hurts my feelings.
karmatic1110 2 years ago
I am so glad to read that, hon... I would love to ask so many questions... about transphobia in the US, about the political Trans scene there, level of organisation and legal protection. I am a cis-sexual, lesbian woman and I live in the UK, where the law forbids discrimination of gender identity or sexual orientation - so the likes of Anime Raider can be reported - and there is funding for gender re-alignment surgery.
What about where you live? Does the law protect your rights there? Hugggs!
GeaVox 2 years ago
Nice Comment GeaVox, Bravo :) Well Spoken! Or Typed :o
huseyin101 2 years ago
I'm sorry. That's not how it works. She was at one point a "guy" as you put it. Her sex was at one point a male(note how I said sex and not gender because they are two different things) and now her sex was changed to female. The surgery is not irrelevant because it was practically life altering and I would put a lot of relevance on surgery that will change the way you live. Opinion can change what is, and now you're claiming her to be an angel? I thought she only changed her gender here.
animeraiderx 2 years ago
Since you admit that sex and gender are two different things, don't you think it is a positive development that we can now do something to ameliorate the suffering of people who feel like the two things are not in synch? I think all GeaVox was saying is that opinion is not going to change the experience someone has of being "out of synch" or gender dysphoric. That's not to say that opinion can't affect anything. For example, I think the fact that people have become aware of transgender issues
quixandic 2 years ago
has made it easier for people to undergo transition without so much fear of being persecuted or discriminated against. This is one way that opinion has changed the world we live in... for the better. As far as the surgery is concerned, I wouldn't say it's irrelevant in terms of a tg person's life, but in regards to how they identify inside it is irrelevant. That's not going to change -- surgery or no surgery.
quixandic 2 years ago
"I'm sorry. That's not how it works."
and you would know because....? "anime raider x" huh?... let me see...
"Anime - Japanese:" アニメ " abbreviated pronunciation in of 'animation' "
Now, doesn't *that* handle say everything about how much you know of "how it works" huh? Is *that* where you get your vision of the world, pet? Animes?
Angel? what, pray, have "angels" got to do with anything, or do you believe in those too?
Right on Qixandic!
GeaVox 2 years ago
Oh, and opinion can change what is. After all, facts are based off of opinions. I suggest you remember this quote: "The driving force in the world today is the human heart - that is, human emotions... Our tools have become very powerful. Hate, not bombs, destroys cities. Desire, not bricks, rebuilds them." That especially applies to what you said.
animeraiderx 2 years ago
Cooor! You *really* find it hard to stick to the point, don't you!? Hate.. bombs... seems like you are looking in the mirror Anime Raider!
GeaVox 2 years ago
As a heterosexual identifying male, I must say Your really beautiful
Xxd3cayxX 2 years ago
whoa, you tricked me. i never knew you were a guy. I am a heteroguy and i think you're pretty, is that weird of me?
Scurry254624 2 years ago
you'r so pretty - and i never wud have guessed you were a guy before - no way! gorgeous!
tamesthetic 2 years ago
Hello, I just found this by chance and I think it captures the most important emotion of a human: Fear. I'm not a transsexual myself, but I admire you, a lot. You have found yourself and that's what it counts. Live and prosper, you deserve it ^^
sonofthewinds 2 years ago
thank you for these videos.you are right on target. I am 38 years old and wish i would have transitioned at 18.But i had all those fears you described.Videos like yours help me find courage.thank you
steelerful 2 years ago 2
I'm with Elodie on this. Thanx puppy lover =)
DulceJaja 2 years ago
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you.
ElodieDaniels 2 years ago
Whoa. I had no idea you were trans. I am a transguy and (wthout sounding like a weird stalker) I was um.....glued to the video. You are so beautiful, edgey, sexy and I love your voice. Great video too by the way.
BradinMe 2 years ago
Wow. This is such a hard thing to get over. I wish I realized I could do this when I was going through the pains of having to grow up in the wrong body. I am beginning my transition at 43. I do fear the posibility of losing my job since I worked a lifetime to get to be where I am now. I will be transitioning in front of 224 other Firefighters.
BradinMe 2 years ago
:D thi is a fantastic blog, thank you!!
Amadierunfast 2 years ago
So is it a girl switching to a boy, or a boy switching to a girl? I really can't tell.
NahMateYeah 2 years ago
wow! yer really pretty! and yer voice is so great! :D
MaryStewart 2 years ago
i am mtf trans and i recently came out full time. i know right where you are coming from when you say that fear dictates peoples' lives. my anxiety of wanting to be out actually overwhelmed that fear and here i am now......all the way out. i loved the video.
TaylorT345 2 years ago 2
Thank you so much. I wasted YEARS living in fear of who I wanted and needed to be. I only hope (and pray) that others will figure out who they NEED to be soon enough to get the best result. And that they find COMPETANT surgeons. Some of us weren't so lucky.
anniefriday13 2 years ago
You have a really nice voice.
It's pleasant to listen to, and I feel weird saying this stuff because I don't usually pay attention to voice.
ChaosRebel6 2 years ago
I want to believe that with all of the problems in the world that no one has enough free time to worry or have fear about someone's sexuality!
ekocentric 2 years ago
Wow....I am a bisexual woman and have personally not met many t-girls I found sexually attractive...not any actually. Not because anything is wrong with t girls, but you're just my first. I find you beautiful, intriguing, and very very sexy. I liked this vlog too. You are really pretty and I hope you feel that way each and every day.
sweets3000 2 years ago 2
i was just looking through somoenes videos and i saw this one and wow this video i couldn't even look away i was memorized on what you said i have been going through my life always wondering what if, thank you for your video.
dragonsea83 2 years ago
Wow, this is probably your best vlog ever. You nailed alot of stuff right on the head.
fotograffiti 2 years ago
you look like alyx from half life 2 ^_^
faszika 2 years ago 4
Thank you for the wonderful and inspiring words, they ring true.
selenamrtnz 2 years ago
great vlog and I hope it inspires those in the transgender gay & lesbian to be themselves. very cool.
paintedwarriors 2 years ago
a great video. you're very inspiring. and i think you would make a great friend. but don't forget, we're not all as strong as you. many people live with fear. it's not always easy to be yourself. some of us are not even sure who that is. we just carry on.
cerebe00 2 years ago
Great video, I found that once I overcame my fear of how I would be perceived and accepted, I was much happier.
Jensagirl 2 years ago
This is completely inspiring. <3
MerraMcMerra 2 years ago
Thank you Charlotte. really, thank you.
Kellycampbell09 2 years ago
I FOUND MY FAVORITE VIDEO OF YOU AGAIN.. soo i added it!!!! =P
XLEAHHXGOREXWHOREX 2 years ago
This video greatly inspired me a year ago to come out to my mom as an FTM transsexual. That part didn't go so well, but last year I was a suicidal wreck--now though I do have some fear, I have definitely overcome it and am much better off, both my physical and mental health have improved beyond I could previously imagine.
I love your video, it's very inspiring. <3
metacarpied 2 years ago 2
a clarion call.
splendidnoise 2 years ago 2
Fear is a terrible thing to live with. I denied myself my true life due to fear of redicule, the loss of family and friends and above all, my corporate career. I lived a very empty, semi alientated life. And when I declared enough was enough, and did transition and had my SRS+BA and facial, and yes, I did lose my career and most of my family, and friends but at least I feel happier, more contented, and above all....I'm 'ME'
amygurl63 2 years ago 3
congratulations :) i'm going to be going thru a similar thing in the upcoming years...so i'm hoping people are open to it.
Jeremybeach 2 years ago
oh woops. by "congratulations" i meant it for you being you, not for u losin gyour career lol that'd be mean!
Jeremybeach 2 years ago
Girl, good for you, You made the video that have alot of women/men in a hysteria.
At times We can be very Paranoid, and many many emotions make becoming you hard.
So thankyou, I being transsexual myself, understand the lurking fears, innuendos, and plauseable situations.
Thanks Again
Kel/Wi.
mzkellievictoria 2 years ago 3
sorry I messed up my last comment. Karmatic I wanted to say how powerful that was for me.I am tg but not going full time yet.I was on hormones for 9 months then stopped. The changes came so fast.I also have two sons and they aren't ready to know.I also need to remove my facial hair.I am beginning to work on my voice,thanks to one of your other videos. Thanks so much for doing what you do!
sabrinatink13 2 years ago 2
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sabrinatink13 2 years ago
Is it just me...or does she look like detective Olivia Benson from SVU?
new8745fan 2 years ago 5
Thank you so much for this:)
My life is difficult right now but this gives me hope for something better... I wish there more inspirations like you out there:)
jonich 2 years ago