LOL! That made me "KAW" outloud like a bird. Sorry, I know, random XD
Anyway, great points, and I totally agree. ^_^ Ive been a victim a lot lately, of this sorta thing... But hopefully, if delt with correctly, I can open friends and family up to see that I, as well as them, am a different, unique person, walking my very own road of experiences and growth out into the world. =]
not to seem ultra emotional, but i damn near teared with this post. not because it was so heart felt, it was but thats not why, whenever you make a video it directly speaks to what i am feeling. within this past week, i've had to really check some friends who have crossed the line and i was just amazed at how angry it made me that they thought i was too dumb to see. i plan on e-mailing you with an herb my mom really believes in and i'd like to thank you for positively affecting my life
A good example of Example #1 is the phrase: "I know how you feel." It's so commonly said and often with the best of intentions. However, it can have the opposite effect when said to someone who is suffering..
Also, on a lighter note, I feel like Example #2 applies to "Labyrinth" with David Bowie. When I saw that movie at 10 years old, I thought it was magical. When I saw it again at 25, I was horrified. Not from the story - but the frame of mind the writers had to have been in.
The second persons issue is that they aren't able to be straightforward and ask for what they want. They may have been taught not to ask or they may not understand their worth. Instead of asking you they make you think they want it. They would benefit from learning to meet their own needs and also valuing themselves and what they have to offer. ;-)
I think the issue with the first person is that they are a pessimist. They may also trying to be helpful, yet it's coming from their limited viewpoints from their limited experience. The unwarranted advice thing is huge. Sometimes you have to ask people to stop because if the person is pessimistic it can mess with your head. You don't really want to take advice from that person because they are not seeing a complete viewpoint of what is possible.
I appreciate your videos so much, I take away so much from what you have to say. Thankyou for making videos, spreading your light and knowledge to others.
Good video! I agree, one of your best ones as well. I think it's an issue we all deal with, when people ask us to do things as if it would be good for us, when in reality, it's intended for their benefit. Most of the time these people would never do the thing they are asking of us if we asked them the same thing of them. It can be difficult personally speaking, to be honest with ourselves and them in this sort of a situation, but I think it can be a positive thing to do in the long run.
Some people believe it's socially important to talk all the time. Most of the speech is gossip and putting others down with the added gusto of exaggeration, fast speech and the desire for the listener to get on the band wagon (agree, join in, exaggerate too). In an encounter like this there is no room for real communication. There's no "being here now". It's as if the person wants u to take a vacation from awareness. The person isn't talking to u, with u, but at u. I guess it's the same as ve
When you mentioned about how people do things for their own benefit as if they were doing it for yours, I immediately thought about how friends would call me and tell me about how great this party is going to be or how fun this club is going and how i should be there only to find out later that I'm going to be the one driving them there.
I like when you dig deep into topics like this. It's too bad more people don't think about these things. I liked the reciprocity figure 8 relationship concept. Good visual to keep in mind.
i just found you on you tube. very cool.
terbuck2 1 month ago
"Virbal Diarreah on someone"
LOL! That made me "KAW" outloud like a bird. Sorry, I know, random XD
Anyway, great points, and I totally agree. ^_^ Ive been a victim a lot lately, of this sorta thing... But hopefully, if delt with correctly, I can open friends and family up to see that I, as well as them, am a different, unique person, walking my very own road of experiences and growth out into the world. =]
wolkittysama 2 months ago
thank you sifu
lordtoranaga 2 months ago
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j9fishee 2 months ago
thanks a load.
XXahir 3 months ago
@XXahir you are welcome!
herbgardner00 3 months ago
Thank you. For sharing your wisdom here. Really love how you are opening up more and more, as you communicate your ideas about how people behave.
It's great that you're getting more and more 'noticed' too, let's hope it continues :)
Steve
SelfHelpCollective 3 months ago
not to seem ultra emotional, but i damn near teared with this post. not because it was so heart felt, it was but thats not why, whenever you make a video it directly speaks to what i am feeling. within this past week, i've had to really check some friends who have crossed the line and i was just amazed at how angry it made me that they thought i was too dumb to see. i plan on e-mailing you with an herb my mom really believes in and i'd like to thank you for positively affecting my life
mattbednarowicz08 3 months ago
@mattbednarowicz08 no problem, thanks for sharing! im glad this came at the right time and i hope your situation balances out nicely.
herbgardner00 3 months ago
This guy really has it all figured out. Awesome stuff.
davko79 3 months ago
I'm really glad I've found this information
trank31337 4 months ago
What are your thoughts on Social Anxiety? Can you please make a video regarding this disorder?
help me>.<
jaime105 4 months ago
Thanks for sharing your insights.
mir0ki 4 months ago
“We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein
omgitsFelz 4 months ago
Great video!
A good example of Example #1 is the phrase: "I know how you feel." It's so commonly said and often with the best of intentions. However, it can have the opposite effect when said to someone who is suffering..
Also, on a lighter note, I feel like Example #2 applies to "Labyrinth" with David Bowie. When I saw that movie at 10 years old, I thought it was magical. When I saw it again at 25, I was horrified. Not from the story - but the frame of mind the writers had to have been in.
thegodlessgeneration 4 months ago
great ;) thanks
dancingram79 4 months ago
The second persons issue is that they aren't able to be straightforward and ask for what they want. They may have been taught not to ask or they may not understand their worth. Instead of asking you they make you think they want it. They would benefit from learning to meet their own needs and also valuing themselves and what they have to offer. ;-)
msubscriptions 4 months ago
I think the issue with the first person is that they are a pessimist. They may also trying to be helpful, yet it's coming from their limited viewpoints from their limited experience. The unwarranted advice thing is huge. Sometimes you have to ask people to stop because if the person is pessimistic it can mess with your head. You don't really want to take advice from that person because they are not seeing a complete viewpoint of what is possible.
The second persons issue is that they aren't ab
msubscriptions 4 months ago
Thumbs up for verbal diarrhea!
faheeta 4 months ago
Ah ha... I like, I like a lot, Brandon. Keep'em coming.
romeome77 4 months ago
I appreciate your videos so much, I take away so much from what you have to say. Thankyou for making videos, spreading your light and knowledge to others.
youareaWALRUS 4 months ago
@youareaWALRUS thanks for watching =]
herbgardner00 4 months ago
Hey man! I've been watching your videos for a while now. Thanks a lot! You've help me greatly in the process of finding the truth.
bjanbjan 4 months ago
@bjanbjan thanks for letting me know, i really appreciate that
herbgardner00 4 months ago
Good video! I agree, one of your best ones as well. I think it's an issue we all deal with, when people ask us to do things as if it would be good for us, when in reality, it's intended for their benefit. Most of the time these people would never do the thing they are asking of us if we asked them the same thing of them. It can be difficult personally speaking, to be honest with ourselves and them in this sort of a situation, but I think it can be a positive thing to do in the long run.
StephenDruesedow 4 months ago
you best video until now , in my opinion :D
by the way, what is a youtube partner ?
sotorarroz 4 months ago
@sotorarroz thanks :)
it allows me more control over my channel as well as revenue sharing from the ads.
herbgardner00 4 months ago
great topic brandon. thank you for sharing :)
justkittykate 4 months ago
@justkittykate thanks for watching !
herbgardner00 4 months ago
Cont...I guess it's the same as verbal diarrhea.
When speaking:
Come from the heart
Establish a connection (with the other person)
Speak clearly
BonnieJeanTlq 4 months ago
Some people believe it's socially important to talk all the time. Most of the speech is gossip and putting others down with the added gusto of exaggeration, fast speech and the desire for the listener to get on the band wagon (agree, join in, exaggerate too). In an encounter like this there is no room for real communication. There's no "being here now". It's as if the person wants u to take a vacation from awareness. The person isn't talking to u, with u, but at u. I guess it's the same as ve
BonnieJeanTlq 4 months ago
When you mentioned about how people do things for their own benefit as if they were doing it for yours, I immediately thought about how friends would call me and tell me about how great this party is going to be or how fun this club is going and how i should be there only to find out later that I'm going to be the one driving them there.
th3tru3spirit3 4 months ago
I like when you dig deep into topics like this. It's too bad more people don't think about these things. I liked the reciprocity figure 8 relationship concept. Good visual to keep in mind.
musto24 4 months ago
Great video, very insightful and well said. You have a wonderful way with words
PhilosopherFresh 4 months ago
God i hate my employer :-(
methos1022 4 months ago
@methos1022
Than Kill him.
signupsigma 4 months ago
verbal diarhea, i like that term
kapoof2 4 months ago
@kapoof2 lol, yeah, i thank my girlfriend for that
herbgardner00 4 months ago
@herbgardner00 thank you, Girlfriend of Herbgardner00 =]
kapoof2 4 months ago
@kapoof2 hehe, my name is brandon BTW :)
herbgardner00 4 months ago
@herbgardner00 and i am stephen =D
were friends now, woohoo
kapoof2 4 months ago
Yup! Totally. Your openness, authenticity, and honesty is a breath of fresh air.
WinWinSituations 4 months ago
love your videos....they are the best-to the point, full of useful and eay to follow info!!!! thank you!!!!!
laurina411 4 months ago 8
Oh, just noticed you've already a YouTube partner. It is probably extremely late but - congratulations, it's quite an accomplishment.
Deizelcore 4 months ago 9
@Deizelcore thanks :)
herbgardner00 4 months ago
I love your videos, they really cause reflection.
stinkyslinky432 4 months ago 2
@stinkyslinky432 good! ;)
herbgardner00 4 months ago