your question goes across all races of women its just the main focus has been on blk women, being potrayed as drama queens, divas etc, cause society wants u to percieve its jus blk woman n not other women across the races that .do drama. do ur research n check how many women from other races kill their partners, murder thier kids,beat up their partners ask tiger woods now thats real drama compared to a blk woman's hissy fit lols.
this gender war will never end because black men are always going to want to prove they are right and black women will do whatever it takes to get attention weather positive or negative, so i retire from the so called gender war because this is just a circle jerk
(read below first) the house and the direction the ships gonna sail and when these dudes let them be captain they run all over them cheat on them and cant stand or respect them. inside they feel like hes not a real man bc they cant control them. on the flip side the same girl finds a dude whos gonna be the captain of the ship and when she starts that drama he finishes it with a slap upside her head throw her on the bed make her shut the fuck up and sleep it off. now the girl found a real man
sistas are losing that feminine side of them self. its all this freedom. never before in history could a women sleep around and still be respected and treated equal in society. its foreign to them. so the only way for them to deal with it is to try to be more like men. you think it doesnt effect women psychologically dressing like men straight women wearing jeans and t shirts being treated equally. it does. so these women wanna be the man too. they wanna tell you what to do controlling
Many of us Black women will not invest positiveness, tenderness and warmth in others if we don't feel those qualities are vested in us. The energy we put out is often the energy we get back. If Women do not have a healthy exchange of emotional energy, we end up expanding negative energy and the cycle spits negative energy back at us. This is where the drama steams from.
Emotionally destitute Black women, are the ones who have to stop at the drama queen station to get filled.
Out of all the women in the world, Black women are notorious for developing unhealthy, ruinous relationships. Women crave validation; they want the energy of being desired (not lusted after like meat) invested in them. This is missing w/ many BW.
ALL women need to be full filled emotionally. Where is this fulfillment suppose to come from? Healthy relationships. Eve didn't come conscious to just trees, animals. She was built and constructed to function with another human being. All people are in need of healthy connections w/ ppl, but the majority of women are particuarly in need of having ppl to spend emotional energy on and having those ppl invest energy in them.
Based on the examples, I can understand the confusion. Some women get started w/ the wrong men. The good guys don't approach our baby girls. The bad guys do. These young women then develop a taste for that type. Then you have the influence of the media. I think -- no, I know - a lot of black women are strong and want success. If you are an educated, non-drug dealer type, having problems w/ women, develop your inner strength & a strong sense of self and don't over do it or smother the woman.
These women are addicted to emotional stimulation. The only form of ES most women are familiar with is drama, so thats what many of these women seek. And your right alot of women dont feel like their good enough so they keep fishin in the gutter. I made some vids on the subject, hope they help...
@cjjaxxon men don't want drama...men want to have a peace...women want drama because they want their emotion to be triggered...that why they follow thugs
@MrBkofi The so-called "thugs" and "bad boys" are dramatic themselves. Yes, with women being primarily emotional anyway, they do tend to gravitate toward men who are also emotional.
I would say yes black women are addicted to drama. I work with all black women and they have the worst attitudes I have ever seen in my life. I am serious.
Unfortunately there are men and women that thrive on drama. I know members of both sex that start drama where there is none and can't stand to be in a peaceful environment. They are so prone to drama and dysfunction that when it is absent, they will create some. Sad, but true!
For some women the drama equals passion which they mistake as love. It 's really just emotion based. The hardest thing for a woman 2 do is turn from someone who she thinks she's in love with. When that happens she isn't really thinking about whats best for her, she's just thinking I LOVE HIM. So he may dog her out she'll say amidst tears, "but I love him", he may hit her,she'll say "I know he didn't mean it., I love him" etc. love makes u stupid sometimes
"Some" Black females are taught, from birth, to seek out drama.
What most folk don't understand is why.
REASON
The drama, that they seek, create or fall into is used by them later as a reason to get out of a relationship. Therefore, they can be what they were also taught to be... the Independent Strong (single) Black Female.
I see your point. It is just crazy that they want the "good" brother, but run away from that "good" brother. Maybe that's where the whole black women/low self esteem come into play.
"It is just crazy that they want the "good" brother, but run away from that "good" brother."
It's not so much that they don't want the good brother. Think of it as.. they want their independence more.
They are taught to seek independence because for much of Black American history, the male was powerless. Therefore, the females had to rely on themselves. Independence.
At the same time. the BF is still a female who wants the good man, BUT they can't go together.
The tactics that she would use to break the marriage in are all........... drama based tools.
She may begin to accuse the guy of cheating. Complain that he doesn't spend enough time with her, complain that he spends too much time being "UNDER HER".....
What ever the tools, they are all drama based. in time, they guy gets sick of the whole thing and leaves her.
She then blames him for leaving her, yet all of her drama is never questioned by anyone. She is now again FREE.
True! Good observation. I think that many people do that way. "Oh, I'm married now, so I don't have independence." Living together means just that. You can pick up anytime and step, if things aren't going your way.
I've never seen it explained that way. But I've seen people do it. No one will call it out for what it really is. What % of BF could understand and accept what you wrote? I would say 100% would understand but the real question is how many would ADMIT TO OTHERS that this true. The tactics you talk about make the guy look guilty of doing something not her. She has her cover. "He did this/ he didn't do that". All the while, she can't or won't admit to what she really wants.
This is interesting Evens1. In what way do men want to be needed by women? Because if a woman "needs" a man for financial support she is viewed as a golddigger. Yet I know some "independant" women who need men for the emotional support. Also being "independant "and self reliant are typically characteristics of an adult so 1)are you saying it's not preferable for a woman to be an adult if she wants to be in a relationship? 2) in what way do men want to be needed by a woman? please comment thanks
Many of the men I know, and some of them have cheated or have been tempted to cheat because of this, want to be "needed". Not for a woman to cling to them but rather he wants her to come to him like he has importance to her, that she actively seeks him out, whether for his words or actions. Kinda like "he's the Man" not in a macho way tho. I think they equate that to a part of love.
@TSmitty3000 This is true I hear lots of girls, not just black women talk about how they like bad boys. However, men do the same exact thing some of yall go for strictly looks. the model chick or the one with the tits/big ass. No wonder why people have issues, to busy looking at things that don't matter as much (looks, money,status, etc) . Then they got the the rude awakening.
@summerchick621 The five senses get in the way; taste, smell, hearing, sight and touch.If these components are "right" people will chose their mates from them. People that connect spiritually "make it". Even emotions are over-rated because emotions are often based on loving someone as long as they act and do what we want them to do.
@TheAmbassador11 ahh so true! Sometimes in relationships and even in life itself. A person can be their own enemy once you think about it. What people in general no matter what color or gender or anything else do is blame others for their mistakes. I see this ALOT. sometimes you have to be true with yourself and figure out what needs a little changing. Because you know what they say "like Attracts like".
@TheAmbassador11 and also one thing I don't get with people. I hate when they get in a few "Bad" relationships then all the sudden all Black Men/ Women are a certain way. Those are the type of people who keep on dating the same type( over and over) and then turn around and complain about it. So even if you worked, dated, had relations with all black men or women doesn't mean they all are like that. I had some bad experiences with some black men but I don't blame ALL..
@TSmitty3000 Thank you for saying some and not all or even most. That really pisses me off when people generalize. I am not the type to like drama at all, keep that away from me. but I hate when people disregard us good black women and act like we don't exist. I keep myself from negative, drama attracting people in general..I could care less about colors.
your question goes across all races of women its just the main focus has been on blk women, being potrayed as drama queens, divas etc, cause society wants u to percieve its jus blk woman n not other women across the races that .do drama. do ur research n check how many women from other races kill their partners, murder thier kids,beat up their partners ask tiger woods now thats real drama compared to a blk woman's hissy fit lols.
EdenBeauty100 7 months ago
this gender war will never end because black men are always going to want to prove they are right and black women will do whatever it takes to get attention weather positive or negative, so i retire from the so called gender war because this is just a circle jerk
jrufus11 9 months ago
(read below first) the house and the direction the ships gonna sail and when these dudes let them be captain they run all over them cheat on them and cant stand or respect them. inside they feel like hes not a real man bc they cant control them. on the flip side the same girl finds a dude whos gonna be the captain of the ship and when she starts that drama he finishes it with a slap upside her head throw her on the bed make her shut the fuck up and sleep it off. now the girl found a real man
realOGfromthahood 1 year ago
sistas are losing that feminine side of them self. its all this freedom. never before in history could a women sleep around and still be respected and treated equal in society. its foreign to them. so the only way for them to deal with it is to try to be more like men. you think it doesnt effect women psychologically dressing like men straight women wearing jeans and t shirts being treated equally. it does. so these women wanna be the man too. they wanna tell you what to do controlling
realOGfromthahood 1 year ago
It's not just black women... it's women in general
Slanguaj 1 year ago
@Slanguaj I gotta agree with that.
SirManUp 1 year ago
part 3
Many of us Black women will not invest positiveness, tenderness and warmth in others if we don't feel those qualities are vested in us. The energy we put out is often the energy we get back. If Women do not have a healthy exchange of emotional energy, we end up expanding negative energy and the cycle spits negative energy back at us. This is where the drama steams from.
Emotionally destitute Black women, are the ones who have to stop at the drama queen station to get filled.
ladyEulaelie 1 year ago
continued..
To sum up my answer better...
Out of all the women in the world, Black women are notorious for developing unhealthy, ruinous relationships. Women crave validation; they want the energy of being desired (not lusted after like meat) invested in them. This is missing w/ many BW.
continued.
ladyEulaelie 1 year ago
ALL women need to be full filled emotionally. Where is this fulfillment suppose to come from? Healthy relationships. Eve didn't come conscious to just trees, animals. She was built and constructed to function with another human being. All people are in need of healthy connections w/ ppl, but the majority of women are particuarly in need of having ppl to spend emotional energy on and having those ppl invest energy in them.
Continued....
ladyEulaelie 1 year ago
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70 a high percentage of black women are addicted to drama
TheLou28 1 year ago
I think these black women have some kind of mental issues.
kambridge967 2 years ago
Based on the examples, I can understand the confusion. Some women get started w/ the wrong men. The good guys don't approach our baby girls. The bad guys do. These young women then develop a taste for that type. Then you have the influence of the media. I think -- no, I know - a lot of black women are strong and want success. If you are an educated, non-drug dealer type, having problems w/ women, develop your inner strength & a strong sense of self and don't over do it or smother the woman.
votesmatter 2 years ago
These women are addicted to emotional stimulation. The only form of ES most women are familiar with is drama, so thats what many of these women seek. And your right alot of women dont feel like their good enough so they keep fishin in the gutter. I made some vids on the subject, hope they help...
logician3 2 years ago
Yeah men and women seem to love drama but you hear it from women more.
cjjaxxon 2 years ago
@cjjaxxon men don't want drama...men want to have a peace...women want drama because they want their emotion to be triggered...that why they follow thugs
MrBkofi 1 year ago
@MrBkofi Agreed!
cjjaxxon 1 year ago
@MrBkofi The so-called "thugs" and "bad boys" are dramatic themselves. Yes, with women being primarily emotional anyway, they do tend to gravitate toward men who are also emotional.
TheAmbassador11 2 months ago
yeah, it's true but please don't assume this spirit of chaos attitude dwells only in black women. This attitude is colorless.
isata88 2 years ago
I would say yes black women are addicted to drama. I work with all black women and they have the worst attitudes I have ever seen in my life. I am serious.
jr543266 2 years ago 5
Unfortunately there are men and women that thrive on drama. I know members of both sex that start drama where there is none and can't stand to be in a peaceful environment. They are so prone to drama and dysfunction that when it is absent, they will create some. Sad, but true!
Moknosmusik 3 years ago 4
is it me or is tsmitty's head getting bigger in every vid? i guess its all the hot air.
riddickvonsayian 3 years ago
if it aint the stank attitude, its the way the always got to blow shit up to be worse then it really is.
riddickvonsayian 3 years ago 3
cause they try to live every day of their life like its an episode of all my children. no my bad, most think they live on days of our lives.
riddickvonsayian 3 years ago
are black women addicted to drama? are you kidding me? if you look black women up in the dictionary, it will say soap opera
riddickvonsayian 3 years ago
LOL! If I had something in my mouth, I woulda hurled!!!
cjjaxxon 2 years ago
For some women the drama equals passion which they mistake as love. It 's really just emotion based. The hardest thing for a woman 2 do is turn from someone who she thinks she's in love with. When that happens she isn't really thinking about whats best for her, she's just thinking I LOVE HIM. So he may dog her out she'll say amidst tears, "but I love him", he may hit her,she'll say "I know he didn't mean it., I love him" etc. love makes u stupid sometimes
nomorewords1977 3 years ago
TSmitty
"Some" Black females are taught, from birth, to seek out drama.
What most folk don't understand is why.
REASON
The drama, that they seek, create or fall into is used by them later as a reason to get out of a relationship. Therefore, they can be what they were also taught to be... the Independent Strong (single) Black Female.
EV
Evens1 3 years ago
I see your point. It is just crazy that they want the "good" brother, but run away from that "good" brother. Maybe that's where the whole black women/low self esteem come into play.
TSmitty3000 3 years ago
TSmitty wrote
"It is just crazy that they want the "good" brother, but run away from that "good" brother."
It's not so much that they don't want the good brother. Think of it as.. they want their independence more.
They are taught to seek independence because for much of Black American history, the male was powerless. Therefore, the females had to rely on themselves. Independence.
At the same time. the BF is still a female who wants the good man, BUT they can't go together.
EV
Evens1 3 years ago
Part2
As silly as this sounds, this is a reality for many (not all) BF. They want two totally seperate things at one time.
PROBLEM
A "Good Man" wants a female who needs him. In fact, all men have to be needed & cherished in order to stay with any female.
The Black female's INDEPENDENT attitude is also the death of her being able to have that Good man.
SHE therefore UNKNOWINGLY, sets the stage to crash the relationship, because her freedom is more important than any man.
Evens1 3 years ago
Part3
She crashes the relationship when she FEELS that she is loosing her sense of INDEPENDENCE!
EXAMPLE
We have all seen couples who live together for 5 - 15 years, but somehow, can't seem to get married.
Why doesn't she leave if he can't commit to her in marriage?
ANSWER -The open relationships lets her feel that she is still INDEPENDENT.
If they get married, that "FEELING" would turn into one of powerlessness in her mind. She would then start to break the marriage.
EV
Evens1 3 years ago
Part4
The tactics that she would use to break the marriage in are all........... drama based tools.
She may begin to accuse the guy of cheating. Complain that he doesn't spend enough time with her, complain that he spends too much time being "UNDER HER".....
What ever the tools, they are all drama based. in time, they guy gets sick of the whole thing and leaves her.
She then blames him for leaving her, yet all of her drama is never questioned by anyone. She is now again FREE.
EV
Evens1 3 years ago
Funny, I know guys who has done the same thing. I guess it goes both ways.
imthekingoftheworld 3 years ago
True! Good observation. I think that many people do that way. "Oh, I'm married now, so I don't have independence." Living together means just that. You can pick up anytime and step, if things aren't going your way.
LovelyLockes 3 years ago
Hey Sister Lockes!
I am happy that you understand the logic in my statements (you are one of the BW who would.)
Questions
1.) Have you ever seen this problem explained this way?
2.) What percentage of BF would you guess could understand & accept what I wrote?
EV
Evens1 3 years ago
I've never seen it explained that way. But I've seen people do it. No one will call it out for what it really is. What % of BF could understand and accept what you wrote? I would say 100% would understand but the real question is how many would ADMIT TO OTHERS that this true. The tactics you talk about make the guy look guilty of doing something not her. She has her cover. "He did this/ he didn't do that". All the while, she can't or won't admit to what she really wants.
LovelyLockes 3 years ago 2
This is interesting Evens1. In what way do men want to be needed by women? Because if a woman "needs" a man for financial support she is viewed as a golddigger. Yet I know some "independant" women who need men for the emotional support. Also being "independant "and self reliant are typically characteristics of an adult so 1)are you saying it's not preferable for a woman to be an adult if she wants to be in a relationship? 2) in what way do men want to be needed by a woman? please comment thanks
nomorewords1977 3 years ago
Many of the men I know, and some of them have cheated or have been tempted to cheat because of this, want to be "needed". Not for a woman to cling to them but rather he wants her to come to him like he has importance to her, that she actively seeks him out, whether for his words or actions. Kinda like "he's the Man" not in a macho way tho. I think they equate that to a part of love.
LovelyLockes 3 years ago
Mz Nomorewords wrote
"In what way do men want to be needed by women?"
To find the answer to that, google:
A.) Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus- by John Gray
B.) The Surrendered Wife - by Laura Doyle
C.) The Surrendered Single...
EV
Evens1 3 years ago
@TSmitty3000 This is true I hear lots of girls, not just black women talk about how they like bad boys. However, men do the same exact thing some of yall go for strictly looks. the model chick or the one with the tits/big ass. No wonder why people have issues, to busy looking at things that don't matter as much (looks, money,status, etc) . Then they got the the rude awakening.
summerchick621 1 year ago
@summerchick621 The five senses get in the way; taste, smell, hearing, sight and touch.If these components are "right" people will chose their mates from them. People that connect spiritually "make it". Even emotions are over-rated because emotions are often based on loving someone as long as they act and do what we want them to do.
TheAmbassador11 1 month ago
@TheAmbassador11 ahh so true! Sometimes in relationships and even in life itself. A person can be their own enemy once you think about it. What people in general no matter what color or gender or anything else do is blame others for their mistakes. I see this ALOT. sometimes you have to be true with yourself and figure out what needs a little changing. Because you know what they say "like Attracts like".
summerchick621 1 month ago
@TheAmbassador11 and also one thing I don't get with people. I hate when they get in a few "Bad" relationships then all the sudden all Black Men/ Women are a certain way. Those are the type of people who keep on dating the same type( over and over) and then turn around and complain about it. So even if you worked, dated, had relations with all black men or women doesn't mean they all are like that. I had some bad experiences with some black men but I don't blame ALL..
summerchick621 1 month ago
Good insight...........lmao...You look like Mike Jones in this video....WHO!?.....Mike Jones!
luvphatass 3 years ago
lmao!!!!
TSmitty3000 3 years ago
@TSmitty3000 Thank you for saying some and not all or even most. That really pisses me off when people generalize. I am not the type to like drama at all, keep that away from me. but I hate when people disregard us good black women and act like we don't exist. I keep myself from negative, drama attracting people in general..I could care less about colors.
summerchick621 1 year ago