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  • Why does my fucking aunt thinks that I'm crazy because I'm quite and I don't have a girlfriend?? She wants to take me to a fucking Psychologist. Since when does being shy means you're crazy?? Being bullied at school when I was 12 had something to do with my new found shyness but that doesn't fucking means that it made me crazy. I don't really think that I will ever be able to become normal (society word). I also don't like taking that much cause it seems like I'm supposed to make conversation.

  • I hate being on the spot talking to people. I never know what to say, or how to respond to questions sometimes, and I just wanna hide in a cave from everyone!! :'(

  • Thank you sir! Just watching this video made me feel more confident when in social situations. In fact this is the only video I've ever seen that has actually helped me. I'll probably look more into it on the web site. :D

  • @careforsomehouse I know the feeling and I haven't overcome it. It's my first time watching these vids, but I think he's saying a way of loving that awkwardness is seeing that overcoming it little by little, while painful, will be very worth it. It's really hard for me to accept, but fuck... How's anything gonna change by me standing still? Nothing ever does.

  • it's hard to forget about it.. not easy ): how the hell can u love that awkwardness.. i'm worried about being awkward ;(

  • i want to be outgoing and comfortable but i am cursed with this fucking disorder that prevents me from being social. i actually make up excuses for not going out and mingling with my friends and sit on my computer all day because i am frightened to death of what people think about me physically and emotionally. the worst thing is that there is no cure :/

  • I give presentation to huge crowds, sometimes with press (camera's) and sometimes in another language or on TV. I learn to cope with the stress while I stand there and after a few minutes I'm fine. If I give another presentation the next day I'm fine. Doing it after a week gives me a little trouble, wait a month and I have to start getting over myself again completely.

    Still I can't find any good method to make my positive experience stick permanently so that I remain calm in future events.

  • This all has to do with low self esteem . I have the same problem , I turn super red in uncomfortable or insecure moments. I've learned tht laughing helps relieve this anxiety or just accepting it and say your feeling shy out loud. Embrace the feeling , tell people you're shy and it will make you yourself and them feel more comfortable in the social encounter. Hope this helps.

  • SA fucks my life up everyday!!! It's so painful I'd never wish it on anyone!

  • Idk if im the only one but does anyone else avoid places they might see people they went to school with or just avoid places were they might see someone they know but are not friends with? im so afraid of like going to the mall or places were i might find a person i went to school with because i dont know what to say or i feel like they're gonna judge me because i dont have any friends and so forth..

  • @akalashay all day

  • This shit is truly hell. Its like I'll truly beleive that I can do something involving s social setting. But when it comes down to it I cant. Its new years, and Id love to be partying with my friends, but I just cant, I know this thing makes you reject life. I really would prefer any other mental illness.... happy new years, hopefully not another years of this shit

  • So the basic message here is to not give a fuck...ok I can do that

  • Think of it like this. There is nothing to fear in this world. You're already naked. The world around you is built by people no smarter than you. Have a sense of superiority. What's the worst that can happen? One or two or three out of seven billion wont like you? Laugh at you? You have nothing to prove to them. Change your perspective on the world. Drop a tab of acid. Try shrooms. Whatever will help you unshackle yourself.

  • anytime i open my mouth some crazy shit comes outta of it, i cant help this so i decided it was better for me to just shut the fuck up for life

    thanks society

  • I always fucking turn red and i freakin hate that ... also my voice change horrible ... i dont really know why this happend but holly shit happens a lot

  • the worst thing about SA is i had to take public speaking in freshmen college. i barely passed that class and everyone laughed at me. i shook so much, even when there r just a small number of people.

  • @BWhoYouWantTuBe pretty much sums up how I act with other kids i dont know

  • i hate the part wen latr u replay that episode of ur awkward interaction with some1 over thousand times and lose more and more confidence.

  • after everything i say or do i immediately criticize it and wonder if it was stupid or could have done it better...i want to just be able to...FLOW!

  • Im a teen who literrally has no friends, because my social anxiety is so bad. I dont even know why, but I act like I do weed, while drinking a 2 liter of mountain dew. Oddly enough, I dont have the problem around my gf though... And I can make online friends just fine... But in real life, Im a crackhead acting jackass

  • i think i've had this since i was 2. i often force myself to do uncomfortable tasks but there have been times that i've completely shut down or flee from a situation. i get nervous often in social situations even when i'm online. i have a hard time opening up and some people regard me as a snob. i'm particularly shy at work, which hasn't helped me move up the career ladder.

  • @ndmda7 Dam i feel you bro, get some theoropy!

  • there was only like 2 times when i said wuts on my mind without thinking about it in 4 years

  • @ndmda7 i just randomly read this, cheer up dear ur not the only one feeling that way, i too feel like u do.. there is hope, always look on the bright side.. remember there r millions of people out there feeling the way u do, im a very awkward person and i cant communicate for shit i hope that makes u feel better, try and find some help bcauz it will do wonders xxxx

  • i like this.. but its kinda easier said then done, i mean when u get in the situation its totally different u just dont no how to act, its hard to be urself or love urself when ur constantly thinking about what other ppl r thinking when ur talking to them, we all care what ppl think of us.. i mean what if we were r selves and still without realizing it were being judged and the person were talking to thinks were wierd..

  • heres an easy solution just dont give a fuck what other people think anymore

  • I tried the gradual exposure method and it was going well at first but soon I realized I can't do it without beer. I just get so nervous I look so stupid. I don't know what to say and I shake so much. I want to be around my friends and family members but I act as if I don't want to be there. It just sucks! I now know that I have to drink little to be comfortable.I just have to keep it down as much as I can, that's all.

  • I have social awkwardness. I am always being judged. And I can't get a girlfriend. I'm in High School, and the biggest thing anyone cares about is losing their virginity. I think this is why I'm depressed. Why can't I wait to have sex and not be ridiculed. I want to have sex with someone I LOVE! Not to have sex just to lose my virginity.

  • @ndmda7 I hear ya man. I have that same problem so imma join lots o clubs an other stuff to get outta that. So far, it's been really fun hanging out with ppl without the fear of being judged. Try out for a sports team or someting an practice socializing wih ur piers. Trust me it helps :)

  • I h8 being shy:(

  • man this is realy shiit all my friends are out partying and im at home doing nuttin......

  • Because of social anxiety I have absolute zero Friends. Isn't that just great that I suffer from depression because of social anxiety.

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  • i went to the doctor and he diddnt even do tests just said social anxiety and pushed tablets on me -_-

  • @TableChip94 Dude thats bullshit, meds aint gonna do shit. Its the way we think that screws us up, well from my point of view, and from what my theoropist told me. I always have negative thinking, thats where i got SA from, and from my shitty childhood. Taking meds is going 2 alter your thinking and make you more depressed. Docs 2day don't help u 4 shit, all they do is slap you with a couple of prescriptions and you're out the door. Until you keep coming back, and its a never ending cycle.

  • @Davide131 lol i know they dont do anything i take 1 a day..... FML, and you're right its all psycological fear especially if you have inseccurities and things

  • @TableChip94 Ha yea dude 4 sure, i always "think" people r talking shit about me and looking @me weird when im in public. They do look at me, but i take it as a negative thing. Im always hypervigilant.I can't proach a stranger and talk 2 them cause i get really nervous and because of my nervousness i get a "blank mind" and can't think of anything to say, and it gets awkward. Its torture, the minute i open my eyes in the morning, its a constant battle and it depresses the absolut shit out of me.

  • @Davide131 i can relate

  • thank you, i have to take speech this yr and we do improv it was hard my heart was pounding soo hard omg im glad thats all over

  • has anyone seen a doctor for help? i no i need to but im too freaked out, i dont even know what to say

  • @xMarlboroChildx Going to the doctor on monday i'm trying to prepare myself for that its really hard for me to talk to anyone i don't know well hope i can get myself through the door.

  • @Adro8219 good luck with that.

  • @xMarlboroChildx Im getting theoropy, if u do go out and seek help, make sure they r professionals. I was getting theoropy from a social worker who thought he was a theoropist it was a disaster. Half of the shit i told him he didn't even know what i was talking about or how to respond. Make sure u get some1 who has their masters in theoropy andor psychology and not a bachelors degree in social work. Don't be afraid to get help its a nerve racking situation but ull b glad u did in the end

  • @xMarlboroChildx Go out and get help, when you're alone and feeling stressed, write everything u feel on paper and read it to him/her. Thats what i did, and my theoropist really understood, cause if you go in there and ure nervous and dont know what 2 say. Ure going 2 miss key points u wanted 2 tell him, then @ home ure going to say, fuck i should have told him that! Don't feel dumb, get help, if u dont you're going 2 drown in your depression and thats not what u want.

  • SA sucks. It's so fckn hard to live with in todays society. I find myself more afraid of social situations than death.

  • @potetgull0  you said that right

  • @potetgull0 Do you ever feel like you are suffocating when you are in crowds? That is the worst! =(

  • @InfuserGod tell me about it! i think i've never approached a crowd, ever, fearing judgement.. once, i accidently started one by talking to a couple of other ppl.. suddenly i had 8 ppl around me waiting for me to say something, rofl. AWKWARD, AWKWARD, AWKWARD

  • @potetgull0 i know right :'( people can be so mean

  • Anyone with SAD in North Jersey want to be friends? Message me on my channel.

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  • great one! ;) really appreciate it..

  • Does masturbation affect your social skills?

  • @pugs321 hahaha, yea it affects ur faith in god too

  • i feel like i would be more comfortable with having this if i didnt gag/dry-heave so much :/ anyone else have bad gagging?

  • Is this a robotic voice. It sounds electronically altered.

  • I only just found out I had social anxiety and I really hate it because it stopped me from having a fun social teenage life like most people around me had. But I now feel a bit comforted that Im not the only one that feels this anxiety and I hope I and other people that feel this way can overcome it sometime

  • i really hate social anxiety, i'm constantly asked if i can talk or not and when i'm asked to present things in school, i forget what i have to say and people laugh..yet because i have the highest grade in the class those same people will ask me for help. sometimes people say "oh, so that's what she sounds like..". my twin has it too and our family always laughs and puts us in uncomfortable situations..i can not leave my sister's siide because if this reason.

  • THANKS

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  • I have both shyness and social anxiety. I just hate going outside. The only people I go outside with are my lifelong friends who I rarely see. Otherwise, I make no attempts to meet new people unless absolutely necessary (like getting a job). I love being indoors.

  • @elr456 e too and its hard to change

  • I've resigned myself to the fact I'll never overcome it. I don't need to talk to people. I don't really need a girlfriend either. But at the same time my shyness isn't killing me.

  • I would rather that other people learn not to be such a-holes around people who aren't good at social situations. "Yep, I have nothing to say at this moment. Does that create an uncomfortable silence for you? Well, guess what, princess, you'll get over it. Don't be so precious". I don't need to alter myself to please the masses and be popular. That's what everyone learned in school. F*ck that.

  • @ion010101 I totally agree

  • All my friends have their friends that's my problem, I am so fucking afraid of what people think and I stopped going out to socialise because people terrorised me for 3 years.

  • Most people dont recover from social anxiety ( whether they have it severely or mildly). But what i have found is that we are all capable of dealing and coping with it so that we dont avoid the social situation. I think the best thing to do is dont even try to fight the anxiety. Feel it, acknowledge it, your guts churning, your heart beating fast, your likelihood of getting easily embarrassed. Then throw yourself into the fire. If you fuck it up no one will take you to jail or shoot you.

  • Man up...? Please this doesn't go away overnight unless you had it yourself...

  • You say to cure it is to embrace the feeling it just left me crying due to that feeling i have had in the past

  • Once a pretty girl was next to me, and i liked her. Little did i know that she liked me back. I avoided eye contact and talking. After that i realized that she liked me. I felt like a dum bum. did i mention that i suck at socializing/?

  • shyness is a biatch

  • if you really want to be free, learn buddhist meditation

  • man up

  • I'm shy, but mainly i just don't know what to say to people after they say something to me.

  • @ipodtouchgirl22 same fuckin here

  • @ipodtouchgirl22

    I have the same problem. It makes us look intelligence on the outside but its far from the truth.

  • does anyone else fell like their constantly being judged and feel like everybody is looking down on you? the awkwardness comes from feeling insignificant to the people your talking to and not knowing what to say. it sucks

  • @flymofo3eb yup, that's probably why i can only feel at ease around people with a big sense of humor because i don't feel like they're judging every word i say, they just wanna have a good time

  • @flymofo3eb i felt the same way for many years ,and suddenly i'm free of this nightmare,i became misanthropic,i hate people ,they fuck me up specially women ,can't wait to cheat on my next girlfriend,i just don't care what people think about me at all.i'm trying to control my anger a little before i get into a fight and crack somebody's head .

  • @saxzw dont hate people you gotta learn to love people and be more positive!

  • @xoxo1234321 I did love people and they screwed me in each and every possible way,maybe someday i 'll learn to control my anger,but i think i'll never look at the human race the same way again

  • @saxzw then you wernt associating yourself with the right people! please dont go crazy, keep the world safe!

  • @xoxo1234321 Don't worry i'm not gonna shoot random people,i'm not crazy,i just don't respect people anymore.

  • @saxzw okay thats good well i hope you will again someday

  • @saxzw no! "watch the shyness cure in a instant" video on the side suggestions!

  • @lilyslemonade That doesn't work for S.A.D,and it's too late for me now ,i cannot give details about all the bad things people did to me,specially women ,those greedy whores ,women loves more a ATM machine than their own family.

  • @flymofo3eb everyday

  • @xMarlboroChildx hang in there dude. im feeling a lot better and so will you. dont be afraid to get a therapist or drugs, they can help

  • @flymofo3eb i know what you mean...i feel that everyday

  • @seankitt30 get better bro =D

  • shyness is like cancer , its killing me , and do nothing but bad , i am like 16 i had never a girl , hardly have friends , and evreyones doenst expect that im freeking big i did a half year of boxing and some people are scared of me , some girls say im hot , but thanks to this freeking shyness , im nowhere

  • @superstijn16 i feel for ya, man. i dont kno if it helps u, but it helps me to kno im not alone. lots of people (who arent shy) say there is beauty in shyness, but i cant see the fucking beauty anymore. i dont kno ur opinions on weed, but a joint helps me get rid of some stress and feel good about myself for a little while. and it wont kill you or make u stupid. lol

  • the video helped me only in one way. To sympathize with others who have the same conditions. The fact that this thing is a standardized "condition" does not help me at all either. I know i m the one responsible to overcome it. I think i'm at the flattening part of the curve and good results are soon to come. Hang out with your loved ones more. here's a song for you: watch?v=cOX8FhUiw1k

  • Excellent!! Greate work. As they say the main reason for social phobia is the low self esteem. That's my experience...

  • this is the same mentality bodybuilders use when exercising.

  • it's quite hard to embrace something negative. it's like embracing hate./:

  • @xxoogossipgirl i agree =]

  • Other people, no matter how cocky they are, may think they have an influence on us when in fact they have none. Our mind is in complete control of our feelings and no one else can change that. Know that the only one you have to account for your troubles is God's gift to you, your mind. As a slave faces his master, face it with a humble admiration and love, no matter what it brings your way. It may take you time, but when you come to an understanding of this simple truth, you become free.

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  • I wasn't done, Youtube. God. Anyway, like I just said, the guy in the video is right. Think of someone who you are totally comfortable with. For me that would be my mom, my brother, best friend, etc. I can say whatever I want to these people because I don't worry about what they're thinking of me. Wouldn't it be great if you could feel the same way while talking to ANYONE? We can, but first we need to learn to be comfortable with the anxiousness we feel in social situations. Baby steps.

  • Guys, I understand your frustration with this video. I have Social Anxiety too, and I KNOW how horrible it is, especially when you're living in a world where no one seems to understand. "It's all in your head," my mother tells me. I've also been accused of making the disorder up. Pfft, that's a laugh. But the fact is that the moron in this video is right. In order to get over this shit we have to take baby steps, and the first step is to love yourself even when you look like an idiot.

  • The key to getting rid of such feelings as fear, and anxiety, is to truly understand that it's ourselves that do it to us. Other people provide the stimulus but it is only us that decide to fear. The sooner we come to this understanding, the sooner we'll be able to start changing ourselves for the better. So, always after a negative episode, in the calm, smiley voice of your mind say to yourself: you've done it again. You were able to shake me again but I accept it because I truly love you.

  • i hate social anxiety:( its so hard for me to keep friends but thank goodness i have some really good friends.

  • I'm a bit confused. This type of thinking seems a bit circular to me. "Would you have a social anxiety problem if you did not have that feeling?" Well yes, but at the same time, I don't think that feeling is just something I can learn to embrace.

  • resistence is futile . 

  • @theDarkabBis i agree. it's not easy. i feel fucking shy when i'm around hot girls. i wished i could just go up to them and start talking to them but unfortunately this shit inhibits me to do so. it's hard to overcome this shit.

  • @FallofDarkness55 fuck.. i feel the same

  • nice video. just lookin at the comments. i dont feel like the only one anymore..lol. but for me..i just shy too easily. thats probaly about it. then the anxiety kicks in.

  • i tried to overcome it by facing my fears n most turned out to be a disaster which made me quit trying as i have lived the embarrassment now i have become worse due to my memories feeling like i have no chance to change, im always going to b shy i just accepted it and i hate myself for the way i am,,i even get so panicked to talk on the phone arghhhhhh

  • @redsonja28 I suffered the same i learned trancendental meditation which really helped .i was going to commit suicide but didnt . i hope you find some peace

  • I just had a terrible and embarressing moment because of my paralyzing anxiety

  • I was one of the most popular kids in my school. It wasn't until I discovered my sexuality, things started to deteriorate. I now suffer from severe depression, suicidal thoughts, and anti social behaviour. It wasn't until 2 months ago I had social anxiety. I can now say social anxiety is the tree trunk of my state of mind. Now I know what is the issue, I can try to correct it...

  • I am always mute around new people but talk pretty freely around my friends...I really hate that people think I don't like them or that I am rude because I am quiet.

  • @dietsnapple89 we are in the same boat my friend

  • @dietsnapple89 i know what you mean, i'm sure my mates in school must think that i'm proud, or that i'm a snub..

  • i was skeptical to at first but i just didnt get what he was saying. what hes talking about is acceptance. anxiety is a normal human emotion. accepting it instead of fighting it. because the more you fight it the more nervous you get which i find to be true.

  • How in hell is it possible to love the fact that i'm about to pass out in front of people?

    This is insane or maybe I'm too stupid to understand it.

  • solution......alcohol

  • Ooo..im same way with ppl..but more around with guys...my heart starts to pound and i get this uneasy feeling, then i can barley breath. in college..i get this way more.

  • me too, i'm shy to socialize with other people. :(

  • @bingalscdo me too !!

  • Lol the moving through the clouds distracted me from what the guy was actually saying, Damnit, now i have to try and watch it again =S

  • easier said then done.

  • Honestly, I used to be the most outgoing person. This year, I've totally changed. I can't even talk in class without fucking up on my words, getting red, and being nervous...

    This is probably happening because for some odd reason I'm starting to care a lottttt more about what people think about me. It's so stupid. I wish I could overcome this fucking anxiety and go back to normal. -__-

  • @steeebaby It sucks, im the same way

  • I HAVE ALWAYS FELT THIS WAY and i have hated it. Sometimes though I can be sooo outgoing but it usually depends on the people I am around. does anyone take medication for this.

  • @jls41nj1 i swear im the exact same way!!

  • @jls41nj1

    Please don't take medicine for this, I did and it just makes you feel like shit and puts more money in the pockets of big corporations and messes with your mind. It's expensive. Drugs don't belong in your body. Plus if you decide to stop taking it, you have to KEEP taking it, in smaller and smaller doses until it's almost nothing, because your brain wont understand what to do when you all of the sudden just stop taking pills.

  • Whenever i eat a bunch of sugar i get over it. Im thinking about drinking because i heard people drink or sociability (70% of people that drink because of this) so im gonna try this. btw im 13.

  • @SongRemixer99 13 mate,,,,, yer only a kid growing up. you will grow out of it to a certain extent. i get like it when im stoned, makes me anxious. little things used to bother me untiln i looked at my mate. anytime he done something daft hed just laugh at himself an say '' ah fuck it an laugh'' an hes right,,,,,,,,ev1 laughin with ya then if ya can do dat. now he just dont give a fuck but in a good way if ya get me

  • @SongRemixer99

    trust me drinking isnt going to help

    it just makes things harder

  • BS bs bs...when your an emo-pussy, cry all the time & turn beat red over the stupidest things i am turning insane & my brain turning to mush i have no godadam friends. what a joke it is to exist living like such a FAG day in day out. diseased parents should be newtered. i wouldnt care if either mom or dad got shot they deserve it for being selfish and ruining someone's life without thnking about the consequences of passing on their disease

  • @BellaaMarlene cmon dont b so hard on urself...

  • I suffered this all throughout my life in school but in senior year was when I overcame my fear of social awkwardness and started making loads of friends. You guys should get some help from a dad or an elder brother because this problem could worsen as you age. Being able to speak clearly and make eye contact is a very important life skill to have mastered.

  • Everyday i suffer with shyness. It is really hard to make friends and talk to people. It really gets in the way of school also when i have to do a presentation in front of the class or something like that because i dont do such a good job in front of the class. I dont show eye contact, i talk to fast, and i talk to low. I just cant help it though.. some of my family members tells me that i have got to get out of my shyness but i cant just change like that ! I would if i could though. :(

  • @ASHKtv If you want to change, start with your thoughts. Instead of beating yourself down for what you consider are flaws, build yourself up by focusing on the positive parts of your personality. Positive affirmations help alot, they help us change our thoughts which will then help us change our behavior. Good luck to you.

  • @theDarkabBis ots nawt easy cuz ur so negitive thats where ur problems lyes my fren.. think about it..

  • this was actually pretty nice.

  • hahahaha I'M CURED!!!!!! ITS A MIRACLE HAHA

  • I'm a great guy with a great personality. I have a ton of love to give to the world. However, my entire life I've never been able to approach strangers and strike up a conversation. High school I spent lunches alone writing music. Now I'm in college and should be having the time of my life but I'm unable to meet many people. I spend most days alone in my dorm. I used to use music to connect to people. As of late, I haven't had much time though. Check out my channel if you'd like. Much love, all.

  • @armidylano44 It sounds like you have a good self esteem, and you're a good looking guy. Some people are the life of the party, others are more a one on one person, maybe just start reaching out to someone. You have a lot of music talent, but maybe interest yourself in others and little by little you can build meaningful relationships. Good luck to you.

  • i love this thanks!

  • I read the raw food diet is great for this.

  • @kassem435 Why don't you want to?

  • @kassem435 well i guess if you really dont want to be social then you dont have a problem or its that you want to avoid those social situations. All the video is saying is that when you do have a social interaction, which is inevitable, try to not let those feelings distract you (embrace them) so you can react like somebody that dosent have a problem. I realize this is not easy because I have SAD but you need to practice or you will have no progress. Aviodance just makes the problem worse.

  • but i hate how ppl think that ur mental when u have this!

  • @7topCelebrityzCollab People will not understand unless they go through it. I know how it adds to the suffering to worry what others think of us who have this.

  • So I CAN tell my boss he is a wanker. Thanks!

  • No matter what guys, hang in there. Dont give up. I know how hard it is. And people who dont have it dont understand it. I found a good way to get me through certain situations. Walk with your head up. Start by walking around with like a book on your head. And also, talk to yourself in your head when in a social situation! May sound silly but it works! When a negative thought comes just throw it away and think about something positive.

  • Hi everybody, i know what you all go through. Ive had social phobia for 3 years now and i have it bad. I cant even make eye contact with others. Not even family. I get stared at alot in public and it hurts because i used to be normal.. I wouldnt wish this upon anybody.. If anybody needs a friend who understands them for who they are just message me. Hope the best 4 u all

  • I can't overcome it....i've been like this since i was young. :(

    I decided to get home schooled cause i had p.e and i hated being in front of people...and i also had speech class and tons of classes where i had to go in front of the class or read out loud. And i would never do anything cause i would like panic and get scared and stuff, and i know i was gonna fail.

    Well anyway, home school is waaay better. No more speeches and talking out loud. :D

  • @1xXeMyXx omg im egsactly the same i quit my second yr of uni recently it was horrible to do presentations, in this case run away from them im insanely shy i decided to do n online course hope it will be okay coz i dont want to go back lol :D

  • im so shy and it sucks because when i need to present a project in class i would always skip that day or say its not done or something like that