wow! that is so right!!! The very thing I decided to ignore when my husband and I were just getting to know each other is the thing that is ending our marriage. 12 years down the drain!
Great video. Only thing is that I have on a couple of occasions been wrong.....and the person was going through something and they were not their normal self....so I try not to judge and I do pay attention without dismissing anything. I never write anyone off initially; however, I do build a case in my mind based on the evidence they give me......if the cons outweigh the pros....then Splitsville it is....after of course just confronting the person with the truth...if they lie then that is it.
sage advice indeed, and very insightful.This post resonated so deeply in me I HAD to comment. It's funny, I know one person in particular when I first met them they SAID things that i brushed aside that were literal verbal billboards that broadcasted who they WERE an ARE and that definitely came out at the end of the road, so to speak. It's interesting too, how you point out the kind of attractiveness some people have,not neccessarily physical, but socially. Great advice, yo.
You KNOW I know! Dude... I would have never met you, if I hadn't ignored the signs when I met a certain "producer" in Ohio. Don't get me wrong, I am glad that I had the chance to meet you, but if that whole experience could have been avoided... I don't think I'd miss it! Liar, Opportunist... all of the above. He even commented to the person that introduced he and I that he could tell that I didn't trust him... Why didn't I listen? All things work together for the good of them that love God.
Amen, just ended a relationship for this very reason! yes i loved him and my feelings were hurt but betta to end the foolishness now than years down the road and i end up lookin' like boo boo!! great message...its a new year ppl, dont drag mess into a new beginning!!
Great message, and I whole-heartedly agree, although it's sometimes hard to act upon. I have instances where I find something off about someone, but shrug it off thinking I'm over analyzing and such, or just misunderstanding the person. But of course, if the sense is really strong, I really keep my guard up.
wow - really needed to hear this. I am dealing with a friend who is like this, sometimes I really don't think she has my best interest at heart and is looking to be opportunistic, take advantage and manipulate... I have known this for a while, but their dazzling personality has blinded me! I think I will start questioning this behavior, if only for my sake (per I ultimately don't want to be hurt)...
The vocal coach turns life coach, and the result is more great content. I couldn't agree with you more, Erik. I'm an open book, and I always shoot straight.....a spades a spades, and what you see is what you get......I have learned the hard way over the years that not all are the same way, and some have hidden agendas.
There's a Rod Stewart song, OHH LA LA !
"I wish I knew what I know now, when I was younger" LOL.
Nice insightful video. It is better to come off potentially rude and understand the nature of their character and apologise than blindfold yourself. Besides, more people should be aiming to keep people who don't mind or appreciate your questioning of their character since it shows genuine interest in them and may highlight an ambiguous habit that they may want to clarify.
I would give so much to have lessons with you. You give off such a positive vibe in all of your videos and I can't help but enjoy watching every video of yours! Keep it up, and stay amazing! - Emma.
thank you for this video ! Because there are some things very similaw to what you've experienced and it is really encouraging to know that I am not alone and not the only person in the world who has to feel this way. :)
Yeah! I agree! I 've been through it too! You give such a person a chance and then end up wasting your time with a person who just uses your time and effort!
People dont realize that instincts and those first thoughts are alotta times right. They're the thoughts and feelings that people have before they can begin to second guess themselves...i learned that....great vid Eric♥
So true, there's a person at university with me who makes so so many friends and people praise him but soon enough they find out he's a liar and a cheat. It's amasing how low people can go just by being themselves.
this is very true i went through the same thing & im only 16
i wasted my time on a shady person for 2 years, iv def learned from it
cause the person used to bring me down everyday hed say things no person should ever say to a girl & ill never again let someone have so much control over me!
I like this Eric. Your theory also goes in so many ways and different dimensions..
Take people in a bumpy relationship.. I mean sure, relationships have problems, but sometimes, people are DEEP in denial..
Some people are caught up in the fantasy of what they want out of the girl/guy or "Hoping" they come around, they ignore all the signs in their face telling them NO.
I enjoyed this video. Thanks:)
thetambourinist7 1 month ago
Erik lets talk about this ..
Outstanding videos added to "PartnerCheated com" Forum and Discussion. thanks
PartnerCheated 9 months ago
yo Eric any tips on how to talk to girls?
cause everytime I do I tend to face away or stutter and can only get a few words out before everything gets awkward
so Im a socially awkward child my friends compare me to Raj from the Big Bang Theory lol
But seriously any tips?
OOO1239 1 year ago
wow! that is so right!!! The very thing I decided to ignore when my husband and I were just getting to know each other is the thing that is ending our marriage. 12 years down the drain!
setlikeafreebird 1 year ago
IF ONLY I WATCHED THIS VIDEO OVER A YEAR AGO LOOOOL IT WOULD SAVED ME FROM A SITUATION, WOOW, TRUE STORIES!!
jdmjno1 1 year ago
Hindsight is 20/20!!!
tanyatmr 1 year ago
Great video. Only thing is that I have on a couple of occasions been wrong.....and the person was going through something and they were not their normal self....so I try not to judge and I do pay attention without dismissing anything. I never write anyone off initially; however, I do build a case in my mind based on the evidence they give me......if the cons outweigh the pros....then Splitsville it is....after of course just confronting the person with the truth...if they lie then that is it.
jas4xj 1 year ago
sage advice indeed, and very insightful.This post resonated so deeply in me I HAD to comment. It's funny, I know one person in particular when I first met them they SAID things that i brushed aside that were literal verbal billboards that broadcasted who they WERE an ARE and that definitely came out at the end of the road, so to speak. It's interesting too, how you point out the kind of attractiveness some people have,not neccessarily physical, but socially. Great advice, yo.
TheSubwaysurfer 2 years ago
Thanks for useful advices!
37ArtiS 2 years ago
You KNOW I know! Dude... I would have never met you, if I hadn't ignored the signs when I met a certain "producer" in Ohio. Don't get me wrong, I am glad that I had the chance to meet you, but if that whole experience could have been avoided... I don't think I'd miss it! Liar, Opportunist... all of the above. He even commented to the person that introduced he and I that he could tell that I didn't trust him... Why didn't I listen? All things work together for the good of them that love God.
INDIAWHATLEY 2 years ago
WOAH! Are you serious?!?! I never knew that!! Wow!
lloyd614 2 years ago
Amen, just ended a relationship for this very reason! yes i loved him and my feelings were hurt but betta to end the foolishness now than years down the road and i end up lookin' like boo boo!! great message...its a new year ppl, dont drag mess into a new beginning!!
melodic21 2 years ago
This is good advise!
These people you are describing operate in covert hostility. They appear to be your friends but they will back stab you in a heartbeat.
zuly9999 2 years ago
Great message, and I whole-heartedly agree, although it's sometimes hard to act upon. I have instances where I find something off about someone, but shrug it off thinking I'm over analyzing and such, or just misunderstanding the person. But of course, if the sense is really strong, I really keep my guard up.
BabyFantasia 2 years ago
wow - really needed to hear this. I am dealing with a friend who is like this, sometimes I really don't think she has my best interest at heart and is looking to be opportunistic, take advantage and manipulate... I have known this for a while, but their dazzling personality has blinded me! I think I will start questioning this behavior, if only for my sake (per I ultimately don't want to be hurt)...
cyulove 2 years ago
I feel you, girl! Call a spade a SPADE and love yourself in the process! =)
Ur Friend,
~E~
lloyd614 2 years ago
The vocal coach turns life coach, and the result is more great content. I couldn't agree with you more, Erik. I'm an open book, and I always shoot straight.....a spades a spades, and what you see is what you get......I have learned the hard way over the years that not all are the same way, and some have hidden agendas.
There's a Rod Stewart song, OHH LA LA !
"I wish I knew what I know now, when I was younger" LOL.
Great advice mate, wise words, Erik.
JimJordan1000 2 years ago
Yo cuz you got some veiny ass forearms. I need to do what you're doing. Once again, great vid.
BigMarsh 2 years ago
LOL!!! Thanks, cuz! Well, I've just been kick boxing with hand weights. That's about it...(smile)
lloyd614 2 years ago
A (and) MEN! is all I have to say to this; it's a shame most of us had to learn the hard way. Totally agree!
TRAV
(HAPPY NEW YEAR btw!!!!)
WordSmith79 2 years ago
TRAV!! Thank you, man and Happy New Year to you, too!
lloyd614 2 years ago
Nice insightful video. It is better to come off potentially rude and understand the nature of their character and apologise than blindfold yourself. Besides, more people should be aiming to keep people who don't mind or appreciate your questioning of their character since it shows genuine interest in them and may highlight an ambiguous habit that they may want to clarify.
rararahs 2 years ago
I would give so much to have lessons with you. You give off such a positive vibe in all of your videos and I can't help but enjoy watching every video of yours! Keep it up, and stay amazing! - Emma.
EmmieonUtube 2 years ago 2
Awe, thank you, Emma!! Well, we'll see what the future holds. =)
~E~
lloyd614 2 years ago
your amazing baby!!!
dominic2342 2 years ago
Well said!
SomedayFantasy 2 years ago
This was a great vid., Erik. It is always important to follow your instincts and trust your vibes.
Doing so doesn't mean you're being rude, you don't have to ignore people or be immature about it, but you CAN keep them at a distance!
harlemw651 2 years ago
Agreed!!
lloyd614 2 years ago
Well SAID! THANKS SO MUCH!!
Taahinehaafeva 2 years ago
Dear Erik,
thank you for this video ! Because there are some things very similaw to what you've experienced and it is really encouraging to know that I am not alone and not the only person in the world who has to feel this way. :)
Thank you!
Emmilija 2 years ago
Erik here here....real talk and great advice. Don't waste your time or energy on those who aren't for you betterment.
26Rab 2 years ago
you hit the nail on the head. We do try to find something good in people even though we know what's there. Thanks for the reminder
ThatgirlGone 2 years ago
Story of my life
PhDmah 2 years ago 2
This is part of what Malcom Gladwell's book "Blink" is about check it out. where our snap judgements come from and how to control and understand them
qdubbs 2 years ago
wow your mouth so big.. its very easy ta talk for you.. damn i want your mouth
dimaflour 2 years ago
so true.
GODZILLA1998FILM 2 years ago
Well said!
SpitsBeaTz 2 years ago
how are you lloyd good to see you!
ghihwa 2 years ago
great advice! i thought this was another voice lesson, but i found something even better
rastheking 2 years ago 7
Yeah! I agree! I 've been through it too! You give such a person a chance and then end up wasting your time with a person who just uses your time and effort!
bcha85 2 years ago 4
Great advice! Thank you!
GeraldP1983 2 years ago 3
True......
DannyGrease 2 years ago 2
People dont realize that instincts and those first thoughts are alotta times right. They're the thoughts and feelings that people have before they can begin to second guess themselves...i learned that....great vid Eric♥
ravat313 2 years ago 2
So true, there's a person at university with me who makes so so many friends and people praise him but soon enough they find out he's a liar and a cheat. It's amasing how low people can go just by being themselves.
MonstermaniacBotB 2 years ago 2
this is very true i went through the same thing & im only 16
i wasted my time on a shady person for 2 years, iv def learned from it
cause the person used to bring me down everyday hed say things no person should ever say to a girl & ill never again let someone have so much control over me!
nikkipaulk 2 years ago
I like this Eric. Your theory also goes in so many ways and different dimensions..
Take people in a bumpy relationship.. I mean sure, relationships have problems, but sometimes, people are DEEP in denial..
Some people are caught up in the fantasy of what they want out of the girl/guy or "Hoping" they come around, they ignore all the signs in their face telling them NO.
Y4J 2 years ago 2