Your wife is lucky. I wish you guys a happy and lasting marriage. I feel like people don't value marriage as much nowadays and many guys are commitment phobic yet they want you to give it up to them. That way after he is done using you he can easily move on tot he next on with no strings attached. It is always the woman's loss.
You are a rare species of men. Most people are losing their vaues nowadays. I am not saying one should be like the virgin mary or mother theresa, but it is good to maintain your religious values. You can enjoy life while not comppromising your values by having a moderate balance.
t might have not been your time, but your the one letting others know your story and sharing the example. If you didn't make such a mistake then others wouldn't be seeing this right now. Thank you =)
thanks for your opinion, i was wondering if i was right to keep my virginity until i find the right girl, you made me certain that I do. you are a nice man.
to the poor woman who proudly proclaims her sexual immorality because it's her "choice"-can we also mention a few common consequences which are NOT permitted by choice to everyone. These include, unwanted pregnancies, STDs (gon. & sphy. come to mind) , emotional anomia, low self-esteem and in some cases Sterility associated with HPV. The life of a porn star is NOTHING to be happy about. The reason it's v a sin is BECAUSE we are blessed to be given the wisdom & laws of GOD. God is LOVE
@TheZakAtack Yes, and there are plenty of secular videos that support your view. Many godless vids actually promoting this beautiful and natural thing which it is, but of course we see the abortion rate, divorce rate, teens with babies.. So your way must be the best way.. (sarcasm intended)
Only takes ONE week to get back hiv results, I agree with you. I don't see why everyone doesn't go get tested with their partner first, it only takes a week for them to have that paper for you.
wow dejuan, thank u for saying it like it is and coming from a mans perspective really sheds alot o light on the whole sex before marriage thing.. im a virgin and well im saving myself for marriage.. alot of ppl think its overratted an soo last century, but i dont want to be just another number to some guy or another statistic.. to my future husband i wana be the only one... and it might sound selfish but i believe good things come to those who wait... just my 2cents on this..
The reason why I'm saving myself for marriage is because I want to please the Lord in this area, I desire to be obedient to him. I'm 30 years old and still a virgin and going strong. This is an area where a lot of young christians are weak, but I'm very strong in.
Yes but if ur saying its wrong because its dangerous or because the bible says so...like I said, belief. Murder, rape etc, are actually illegal, premarital sex isn't. By all means believe what you want but please don't preach. Not everyone believes what you believe, there not going to just cos u want them to. I'm also sick of so many teens being so irresponsible and giving us a bad name. Teens get so much stick these days and its not ALL our fault.
So instead of going on about something that really doesn't face the issue but runs away from it, try actually educating about these issues. A lot of these issues exist BECAUSE of these attitudes. If there was more freedom and wisdom instead of fear and denial, I think these things wouldn't be so much of a problem.
Actually, I talk alot to this young person at work about these things. You can't judge me by 2 sentences. I don't preach AT people. I know everyone doesn't believe what I believe! If I turn on the tv, radio, internet I'll find that out fast, right. They are preaching their gospel every second of the day. I don't do that to people, but I'm not ashamed of the Gospel of Christ for it i the Power of God unto Salvation. It's amazing how everyone gets bent out of shape when christ. give their view!
Fair enough, but a lot depends on what you believe. Nobody I know was ever ashamed or embarrassed after & neither was I. (+ if your smart about it its not as dangerous as you might think, but its true, a lot of people mess it up, education is what prevents these dangers)
It's great -and precisely why I don't like the thought of premarital sex. Some ppl call people like me frigid -which is kinda offensive sometimes, but I think it's a safer option.
I'm curious -what do you think about arranged marriages?
im with u on dat one. u never really knw. its not like ur partner is gonna tell u dat they have an std rite b4 yall have sex lol yea rite. and i 2 regret my 1st time, i hate da peron dat it wuz with and i wish it wudve never happened. my grandma alwayz told me dat 9 out of 10 ppl r goin 2 regret their 1st time and she wuz rite (rip grandma) but yea dejuan i understand where u cummin 4rm. dats real
I agree. you gotta be careful. Life Isn't a game Where you can just pick up a green Mushroom and get another Chance. hell, I'm 16 And I can't get a girlfriend 'Cause I'm so damn picky about their personality. lol
---Like people, STDs are alive. But unlike STDs, people have brains and ought to use them to avoid getting STDs. Marraige is a posible way to do that. But, its no more perfect a way than many others (including condoms). Still, if thinking it's perfect makes you happy, then think so. After all life is just a series of choices, and we all make them with our greatest happiness in mind.
Love many; trust few; always protect your own body.
Marriage isn't for everyone. So pre-martial sex isn't the real issue here. Some folks want to trick themselves into believing the reason we have STDs in the first place is because God is punishing us for our wicked sexual acts, and I think that's BS. Maybe the rise in STDs come from our ignorance about sex, carelessness, disrespect for self and the people you mess with.
I know someone who was married and contracted herpies from her husband. (not that he was deceitful, he been had it) but that brings up a question. if some1 has an std does it mean they can't or shouldn't be married??
wow. dejuanp. peace on to you. cuz this is really the truth. preach brother, preach. i love the fact that you are telling what is real. but look at this scenario if you dont knoww the girl how you going to love the child. people got to understand, but still in the same sense they (the guy) are responsible for them selves and if they do a irresponsible thing like produce a child they should take care of the child.
I regret losing mine so early. I really should have waited, but nothing I can do now.
Teenagers don't know anything about love? I'm kinda offended. I believe I know what love is since hate is all I've known since I was a child... But hey...
i mean relationship love...hell, a lot of adult may not know what it is...being married i feel is the completion(if you marry for the right reasons..i.e. love, stability, god's will) not saying those reason are guaranteed to happen. but if our partners doesn't abide by the marital rules, we're not to blame and we won't have to stand before god and answer for their wrong doing. yeah, 'o' is not whatcha want eve:)
Dejuan you're of a different species of men honestly. Men around my way are so caught up in having fuck buds/friends with bennies they're not into relationships or even marriage. Commitment is a phobia. I think they getting from the not having a father commit to them and on top of that they're mother probably weren't either.I didn't have a mother's commitment and I think that's what made me so asexual. I just can't see myself giving it up without marriage sex is too intimate in my point of view.
Sex is dangerous period! You can't even say that it's safe to be married because of all this tip toe shit nowadays. My friend's aunt died from aids cause her husband brought it home to her.
You may never know what your husband/wife is doing either. Just because someone is married doesn't mean they can't catch an STD etc. Spouses do cheat. But I do get your point.
But I am not procasual sex. I just wanted to make my point above. I'm actually doing the celibacy thing right now. Sex is way overrated.
Great video, Dejuan. I also wish I had waited. God had very specific reasons for wanting us to save sex for marriage, not just to "ruin our fun." I can't deny I enjoyed sex, but there's just something missing when you don't value it enough to save it for marriage.
You never know if your wife/husband isn't cheating on you while you aren't looking either by that standard at the beginning, DeJuan...unless you follow them around 24/7.
I felt fine with the person I gave my virginity to. My ex is a wonderful man. <3
I'm fine with having lost my virginity pre-marraige. I have seen far too many people get married way too young because they want to be married before they lose their virginity. Those couples also end in divorce far too quickly...
but, a serious relationship, if ur not shagin, its like, i cudnt imagine marrying sum1 i ent shaged. and the ting about oral sex is, lads cn bak outa dat like - naa i dun do dat, but its expected of girls to, an if yer like na, its like wt ? haha (not tht i jus do wha he tels me 2) and, they make flavord condoms inint, 4 oral, but why al the lube on em? u dun need dat much lube 4 ur bloody mouth!
Id only have sex with someone I was in a committed relationship with but to me that doesn't necessarily mean you have to be married. Im 29 and im not getting married any time soon, becoming a wrinkly virgin just aint me. I wouldn't have children outside of marriage though, no way no how.
I don't see any difference between oral sex and the good old fashioned bump and grind, they're the same thing.
lol......typical man, everything goes back to football. : )
emily: if you're having sex, don't ever think that children are out of the question...it can happen. condoms bust, have holes, birth control isn't 100 percent effective. abstinence is though. stop searching for that fruit newtie. you don't need it! i can say that cause i stay smashed out...lol. gotta get married baby, then god will give you the license to do it, like me;)
Babe im a grown woman, im fully aware that having sex can result in pregnancy regardless of the precautions you use. If I get knocked up he's marrying my arse quicker than you can say shot gun wedding.
I don't need a license, im my own person capable of making my own decisions, I only live life the way it suits me.
Stop trying to make me go without my fruit newtie Mr I get to tap it every night Porter. ;)
In all seriousness as someone who grew up without a father the one thing I will make sure my children have is a decent father figure. Im a pretty good judge of character, the man I have children with will be honourable, I know that.
emily: lol....okay. 'he's marrying my 'arse':) ? okay, didn't know you did hillbilly weddings. don't think it'll work itself out that way my love:) or you'll be unscrewing his bird everytime he leaves out of the house. force him to marry you, cause you have a baby..oh yeah, he'll love you. you're not grown. a grown up can clean their own house...ohh cheap shot. j/k
LOL....I can clean my own house baby I just choose to employ someone else to do it. One of the joys of being an adult.
I wouldn't force someone to marry me, im just kidding. Im aware that by having sex I may get pregnant and that's a risk I take. Im also aware however that the type of man I have sex with is decent and honourable so im not worried. ;)
Not only casual sex is dangerous, but sex in general is dangerous. You also stated oral sex, I work in a Clinic and dated from the Jan of 2008 about 40 girls were diagnosis with an STD and 2 were diagnosis with HIV. This is serious, the girls who had the STD wasn't worried about it. The ages were between 13 and 20 years old. What the heck is going on.
Not only casual sex is dangerous, but sex in general is dangerous. You also stated oral sex, I work in a Clinic and dated from the Jan of 2008 about 40 girls were diagnosis with an STD and 2 were diagnosis with HIV. This is serious, the girls who had the STD wasn't worried about it. The ages were between 13 and 20 years old. What the heck is going on.
This is a great video stressing something that a lot of people don't take seriously. I've kept myself from sexual activity b/c of my beliefs, my self-respect, and the ridiculous number of STDs out there. I always just tell guys straight up what the deal is and if they can't handle it then I don't have time for them.
Ppl say it makes the relationship "stronger" but if it was really that strong to begin with, you wouldn't really need sex, right? But a lot of people obviously think otherwise.
I've seen a couple of folks at work with rashy mouths so your comment about oral sex is true. I have also heard a lot of sad stories from friends, when we were teenagers, about the regret they felt about loosing their virginity. Just for rushing into sex and not waiting for the right time, when they were truly ready. My mom always told me to wait as long as you can because only you have to look at yourself in the mirror, not the person you've rushed into bed with. Really good video DeJuan.
Its def wonderful to hear a man say something so insightful, and actually mean it! Seems like alot of guys can say thins but they dont attatch any meaning to it...
cont...i think that wold be a better message then wait until you get married because some people like i said wont take marraige as serious as it should be taken and may even rush getting married to have sex...just my little opinion but kudos for actually making a vid opening the discussion again =)
well i guess my other comment didnt show but basically i was saying i think its better to say IMO, that you should try to know your partner as close to 100% as possible before having sex with them because marraige doesnt give you some kind of STD immunity some ppl dont take being married as serious as it should and even if one is serious about it that doesnt mean the other is as serious..
love to hear your thoughts on it. you know i had you in mind when making this vid. don't be as upset as you are. make him want you...:) believe me, stop worrying and get on with your life, you'd be surprised at how fast a man will come to your beck and call. but it shouldn't be like that. he shouldn't be coming at all. get yourself together right now while you're young so when life 'really' starts you'll already have the foundation laid out.
WOW!!! You are a wonderful man and I appreciate you for this video. You are really speakin da truth. I was jus thinking about all dis stuff becuz you really don't kno a person like you think and these days you can't trust nobody.
Best Video u've made ever. I really felt ur honesty.
And share d same views but i'm kinda struggling keepin my V as a 21yr old female. But after watching I knw I'll be aight. Its funny hw God gets our attention, isnt it?
I've been rather busy at the office. I can usually manage even when I'm busy but these past few months have been extra busy man. But I've been watching you son!
aww. thanks for watchin my vid. Glad you speakin' bout it too.. I think its sad that a lotta teenagers feel pressure to have sex. Especially wit my younger sister i feel worried. Sex is kinda losin' its value and a lotta ppl are contracting std's, even Aids. Thanks!!!!!
NeSSa: yeah, some videos capture me and i can't help but respond. the words you spoke in here were wonderful. please stay the same and don't change. i totally respect you for who you are my love...:)
lol...why did you look back @ 6:45 as if you were hiding?
misscamara12 4 months ago
Your wife is lucky. I wish you guys a happy and lasting marriage. I feel like people don't value marriage as much nowadays and many guys are commitment phobic yet they want you to give it up to them. That way after he is done using you he can easily move on tot he next on with no strings attached. It is always the woman's loss.
misscamara12 4 months ago
You are a rare species of men. Most people are losing their vaues nowadays. I am not saying one should be like the virgin mary or mother theresa, but it is good to maintain your religious values. You can enjoy life while not comppromising your values by having a moderate balance.
misscamara12 4 months ago
No sex before marriage is definitely the way to go.
robinsonjd1978 9 months ago
t might have not been your time, but your the one letting others know your story and sharing the example. If you didn't make such a mistake then others wouldn't be seeing this right now. Thank you =)
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maduharshi 1 year ago
thanks for your opinion, i was wondering if i was right to keep my virginity until i find the right girl, you made me certain that I do. you are a nice man.
Tomacomo 1 year ago
Respect to you brother...
lifelessperson1993 1 year ago
to the poor woman who proudly proclaims her sexual immorality because it's her "choice"-can we also mention a few common consequences which are NOT permitted by choice to everyone. These include, unwanted pregnancies, STDs (gon. & sphy. come to mind) , emotional anomia, low self-esteem and in some cases Sterility associated with HPV. The life of a porn star is NOTHING to be happy about. The reason it's v a sin is BECAUSE we are blessed to be given the wisdom & laws of GOD. God is LOVE
shieldsff 1 year ago
@TheZakAtack Yes, and there are plenty of secular videos that support your view. Many godless vids actually promoting this beautiful and natural thing which it is, but of course we see the abortion rate, divorce rate, teens with babies.. So your way must be the best way.. (sarcasm intended)
freespeachrulez 1 year ago
@freespeachrulez Marriage is the cause of all divorce.
philnoll 11 months ago
well a hug is not a big deal but i will try to wait so i can be safe and that way i'll know he respects me.
sk8rgrl3303 2 years ago
Hey. I gotta ask. What if people don't believe in God? Should they still get married?
philnoll 2 years ago
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03alexp 2 years ago
love is not equal to sex
estherliewian 2 years ago
You dont know anything about "sex today" because you're a virgin. Congratulations, you just gave me douche chills.
IGotDoucheChills 2 years ago
good things cum to those who wait
camthejock 2 years ago 3
believe me man, some, not all, teenagers know what love really is.
Jimjim1902 2 years ago
it's so refreshing to hear this, i wish more men thought like you, you'll be a great model for your children
Xblackhawks19 2 years ago
Just get tested with your partner if you have doubts.
Bonus good side : post negative test sex is one of the awesomest
elgringoborracho 2 years ago
Only takes ONE week to get back hiv results, I agree with you. I don't see why everyone doesn't go get tested with their partner first, it only takes a week for them to have that paper for you.
ktc311 3 years ago
You have such a good look, plus are so outgoing. Your wife is nice looking but why doesn't she put on makeup?
ktc311 3 years ago
Good on you! I think you're doing the right thing making this video. Your a good role model for everyone.
TeeJay1625 3 years ago
I lost my v card at 18 too and the only thing i do regret is not being married. i feel u
dahustla10 3 years ago
wow yur a smart man. I love your logic, damn dude your views on sex and everything...amazing. your wife is lucky
stazzylove456 3 years ago 2
wow dejuan, thank u for saying it like it is and coming from a mans perspective really sheds alot o light on the whole sex before marriage thing.. im a virgin and well im saving myself for marriage.. alot of ppl think its overratted an soo last century, but i dont want to be just another number to some guy or another statistic.. to my future husband i wana be the only one... and it might sound selfish but i believe good things come to those who wait... just my 2cents on this..
Thanx again
xChAn3lx 3 years ago 3
Which their were more men with your mindset
ZJEENR 3 years ago 4
i regret it but God has restored and i am so blessed for that! when i think about how he saved me i jus break out in tears man honestly.
Roobin08 3 years ago
The reason why I'm saving myself for marriage is because I want to please the Lord in this area, I desire to be obedient to him. I'm 30 years old and still a virgin and going strong. This is an area where a lot of young christians are weak, but I'm very strong in.
mercyhurstchic 3 years ago
Do you know if premarital oral sex is a sin?
Skooz88 3 years ago
LOL! are you serious?
JacobRSGHRB 3 years ago
Yes.. could you kindly tell me?
Skooz88 3 years ago
@mercyhurstchic good 4 u..same here
patriciacarrasco 1 year ago
Dejuan, you should see Pam Stenzel's "Sex Has a Price Tag" it's on youtube. She tells it like it is.
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teahonline 3 years ago
Alot of people do things that are wrong, including murder and aren't sorry for it. Only God will truly bring a soul to repentance.
Godcorpusa 3 years ago
Yes but if ur saying its wrong because its dangerous or because the bible says so...like I said, belief. Murder, rape etc, are actually illegal, premarital sex isn't. By all means believe what you want but please don't preach. Not everyone believes what you believe, there not going to just cos u want them to. I'm also sick of so many teens being so irresponsible and giving us a bad name. Teens get so much stick these days and its not ALL our fault.
dawoel 3 years ago
So instead of going on about something that really doesn't face the issue but runs away from it, try actually educating about these issues. A lot of these issues exist BECAUSE of these attitudes. If there was more freedom and wisdom instead of fear and denial, I think these things wouldn't be so much of a problem.
dawoel 3 years ago
Actually, I talk alot to this young person at work about these things. You can't judge me by 2 sentences. I don't preach AT people. I know everyone doesn't believe what I believe! If I turn on the tv, radio, internet I'll find that out fast, right. They are preaching their gospel every second of the day. I don't do that to people, but I'm not ashamed of the Gospel of Christ for it i the Power of God unto Salvation. It's amazing how everyone gets bent out of shape when christ. give their view!
Godcorpusa 3 years ago
Fair enough, but a lot depends on what you believe. Nobody I know was ever ashamed or embarrassed after & neither was I. (+ if your smart about it its not as dangerous as you might think, but its true, a lot of people mess it up, education is what prevents these dangers)
dawoel 3 years ago
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i lost my virginity last year at age 17 and i loved it i think your just one big pussy.
jiujitsu909 3 years ago
Keep it up, man. God Bless. Pray for change.
lruter 3 years ago 3
quite a handsome guy and good values to learn to
Kirwina 3 years ago 3
hey dejuan im serious bout this question did you and your wife wait until yall were married to have sex??? plz reply
badboy593 3 years ago
I agreed with this video.
It's great -and precisely why I don't like the thought of premarital sex. Some ppl call people like me frigid -which is kinda offensive sometimes, but I think it's a safer option.
I'm curious -what do you think about arranged marriages?
munchkinhugs 3 years ago
@munchkinhugs i feel like im "frigid" too cuz i think of sex in love in practical terms cuz u gotta be smart...
patriciacarrasco 1 year ago
im a virgin but i couldnt help but nod at everything you said in this video. haha.
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blabbertooth369 3 years ago 3
i regret losing mine to the person I did also
JustRANSOM 3 years ago
im with u on dat one. u never really knw. its not like ur partner is gonna tell u dat they have an std rite b4 yall have sex lol yea rite. and i 2 regret my 1st time, i hate da peron dat it wuz with and i wish it wudve never happened. my grandma alwayz told me dat 9 out of 10 ppl r goin 2 regret their 1st time and she wuz rite (rip grandma) but yea dejuan i understand where u cummin 4rm. dats real
lavonpimpin 3 years ago
I agree. you gotta be careful. Life Isn't a game Where you can just pick up a green Mushroom and get another Chance. hell, I'm 16 And I can't get a girlfriend 'Cause I'm so damn picky about their personality. lol
5/5
MrpotatoChips 3 years ago
hey man your great but you have to watch my bill murray video if you want to see somthing great
sargeant99 3 years ago
Great video as always ;-)
I really like ur opinions :-)
5/5
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MelMonae 3 years ago
gettin my michael jackson on baby! lol...:)
dejuanp 3 years ago
---Like people, STDs are alive. But unlike STDs, people have brains and ought to use them to avoid getting STDs. Marraige is a posible way to do that. But, its no more perfect a way than many others (including condoms). Still, if thinking it's perfect makes you happy, then think so. After all life is just a series of choices, and we all make them with our greatest happiness in mind.
Love many; trust few; always protect your own body.
IbnSheba 3 years ago 2
Marriage isn't for everyone. So pre-martial sex isn't the real issue here. Some folks want to trick themselves into believing the reason we have STDs in the first place is because God is punishing us for our wicked sexual acts, and I think that's BS. Maybe the rise in STDs come from our ignorance about sex, carelessness, disrespect for self and the people you mess with.
gloriousmandestroya 3 years ago
I know someone who was married and contracted herpies from her husband. (not that he was deceitful, he been had it) but that brings up a question. if some1 has an std does it mean they can't or shouldn't be married??
stardaisy23 3 years ago
wow...i'm speechless
JClax10 3 years ago
wow. dejuanp. peace on to you. cuz this is really the truth. preach brother, preach. i love the fact that you are telling what is real. but look at this scenario if you dont knoww the girl how you going to love the child. people got to understand, but still in the same sense they (the guy) are responsible for them selves and if they do a irresponsible thing like produce a child they should take care of the child.
MUSTSEEVID 3 years ago
I regret losing mine so early. I really should have waited, but nothing I can do now.
Teenagers don't know anything about love? I'm kinda offended. I believe I know what love is since hate is all I've known since I was a child... But hey...
Oral sex *..shivers..*
...*..shiverssss..*...
kweencessX 3 years ago
i mean relationship love...hell, a lot of adult may not know what it is...being married i feel is the completion(if you marry for the right reasons..i.e. love, stability, god's will) not saying those reason are guaranteed to happen. but if our partners doesn't abide by the marital rules, we're not to blame and we won't have to stand before god and answer for their wrong doing. yeah, 'o' is not whatcha want eve:)
dejuanp
dejuanp 3 years ago
wow that's DEEP and so true. "HOW PROFOUND." LOL
Great point. I try to make every decision based on what would I say when I stand before God.
Collegechick06 3 years ago
Dejuan you're of a different species of men honestly. Men around my way are so caught up in having fuck buds/friends with bennies they're not into relationships or even marriage. Commitment is a phobia. I think they getting from the not having a father commit to them and on top of that they're mother probably weren't either.I didn't have a mother's commitment and I think that's what made me so asexual. I just can't see myself giving it up without marriage sex is too intimate in my point of view.
SOS2oo8 3 years ago 7
Sex is dangerous period! You can't even say that it's safe to be married because of all this tip toe shit nowadays. My friend's aunt died from aids cause her husband brought it home to her.
ShutUpMiMi 3 years ago 8
well, i'm just speaking from personal experiences..sorry about your loss. i know that there is no 'safe' way now...
dejuanp 3 years ago
Sex in marraige is also dangerous b/c u never know what ur spouse is doing.
Stay up my brotha!
106harlem232 3 years ago 2
Yes, make him wait and have him show is STD status.
justwant2laugh 3 years ago
You may never know what your husband/wife is doing either. Just because someone is married doesn't mean they can't catch an STD etc. Spouses do cheat. But I do get your point.
But I am not procasual sex. I just wanted to make my point above. I'm actually doing the celibacy thing right now. Sex is way overrated.
justwant2laugh 3 years ago 2
Great video, Dejuan. I also wish I had waited. God had very specific reasons for wanting us to save sex for marriage, not just to "ruin our fun." I can't deny I enjoyed sex, but there's just something missing when you don't value it enough to save it for marriage.
alnewberry 3 years ago
You never know if your wife/husband isn't cheating on you while you aren't looking either by that standard at the beginning, DeJuan...unless you follow them around 24/7.
I felt fine with the person I gave my virginity to. My ex is a wonderful man. <3
I'm fine with having lost my virginity pre-marraige. I have seen far too many people get married way too young because they want to be married before they lose their virginity. Those couples also end in divorce far too quickly...
JadeyChi 3 years ago 3
Off topic... I was just over GurltalkkTV's page & I suggested that it'd be greaaat to see a collabo with him...(just throwing that out there) LOL
:) x
k252 3 years ago
but, a serious relationship, if ur not shagin, its like, i cudnt imagine marrying sum1 i ent shaged. and the ting about oral sex is, lads cn bak outa dat like - naa i dun do dat, but its expected of girls to, an if yer like na, its like wt ? haha (not tht i jus do wha he tels me 2) and, they make flavord condoms inint, 4 oral, but why al the lube on em? u dun need dat much lube 4 ur bloody mouth!
bt yh, shud b 4 marriage n dat,
(ahaha i kno ur gon b like .. hells.. haha :/ )
no1helenUK 3 years ago
agreed about the lubey mouth!
uwww123 3 years ago
he put it on my mind when he said that...
dejuanp 3 years ago
Id only have sex with someone I was in a committed relationship with but to me that doesn't necessarily mean you have to be married. Im 29 and im not getting married any time soon, becoming a wrinkly virgin just aint me. I wouldn't have children outside of marriage though, no way no how.
I don't see any difference between oral sex and the good old fashioned bump and grind, they're the same thing.
lol......typical man, everything goes back to football. : )
xcurvyliciousx 3 years ago
emily: if you're having sex, don't ever think that children are out of the question...it can happen. condoms bust, have holes, birth control isn't 100 percent effective. abstinence is though. stop searching for that fruit newtie. you don't need it! i can say that cause i stay smashed out...lol. gotta get married baby, then god will give you the license to do it, like me;)
dejuanp 3 years ago
Babe im a grown woman, im fully aware that having sex can result in pregnancy regardless of the precautions you use. If I get knocked up he's marrying my arse quicker than you can say shot gun wedding.
I don't need a license, im my own person capable of making my own decisions, I only live life the way it suits me.
Stop trying to make me go without my fruit newtie Mr I get to tap it every night Porter. ;)
xcurvyliciousx 3 years ago 2
In all seriousness as someone who grew up without a father the one thing I will make sure my children have is a decent father figure. Im a pretty good judge of character, the man I have children with will be honourable, I know that.
xcurvyliciousx 3 years ago
emily: lol....okay. 'he's marrying my 'arse':) ? okay, didn't know you did hillbilly weddings. don't think it'll work itself out that way my love:) or you'll be unscrewing his bird everytime he leaves out of the house. force him to marry you, cause you have a baby..oh yeah, he'll love you. you're not grown. a grown up can clean their own house...ohh cheap shot. j/k
dejuanp 3 years ago
LOL....I can clean my own house baby I just choose to employ someone else to do it. One of the joys of being an adult.
I wouldn't force someone to marry me, im just kidding. Im aware that by having sex I may get pregnant and that's a risk I take. Im also aware however that the type of man I have sex with is decent and honourable so im not worried. ;)
xcurvyliciousx 3 years ago
I don't rush into sex, I have sex once a relationship has formed and it feels right.
xcurvyliciousx 3 years ago
PREACH!
Auragirl86 3 years ago
Your story about how you lost your virginity hit very close to home for me. Great video, 5 stars.
gonickogogo 3 years ago
Not only casual sex is dangerous, but sex in general is dangerous. You also stated oral sex, I work in a Clinic and dated from the Jan of 2008 about 40 girls were diagnosis with an STD and 2 were diagnosis with HIV. This is serious, the girls who had the STD wasn't worried about it. The ages were between 13 and 20 years old. What the heck is going on.
honeydip28 3 years ago
Not only casual sex is dangerous, but sex in general is dangerous. You also stated oral sex, I work in a Clinic and dated from the Jan of 2008 about 40 girls were diagnosis with an STD and 2 were diagnosis with HIV. This is serious, the girls who had the STD wasn't worried about it. The ages were between 13 and 20 years old. What the heck is going on.
honeydip28 3 years ago
CHUCH!!
Man, I wish I'd waited to lose my virginity. We waited until marriage, but even then, we both wish we had been virgins.
thicflair 3 years ago
This is a great video stressing something that a lot of people don't take seriously. I've kept myself from sexual activity b/c of my beliefs, my self-respect, and the ridiculous number of STDs out there. I always just tell guys straight up what the deal is and if they can't handle it then I don't have time for them.
Ppl say it makes the relationship "stronger" but if it was really that strong to begin with, you wouldn't really need sex, right? But a lot of people obviously think otherwise.
stinachristina 3 years ago
I've seen a couple of folks at work with rashy mouths so your comment about oral sex is true. I have also heard a lot of sad stories from friends, when we were teenagers, about the regret they felt about loosing their virginity. Just for rushing into sex and not waiting for the right time, when they were truly ready. My mom always told me to wait as long as you can because only you have to look at yourself in the mirror, not the person you've rushed into bed with. Really good video DeJuan.
tshalik 3 years ago
tshalik: thanks...don't worry i'll talk about it some more. i had to run out that's why the video ended prematurely..lol.
dejuanp 3 years ago
hey DeJuan, looking forward to the net installment. Love the advice and have a nice Sunday.
tshalik 3 years ago
Its def wonderful to hear a man say something so insightful, and actually mean it! Seems like alot of guys can say thins but they dont attatch any meaning to it...
AggieLady2005 3 years ago
cont...i think that wold be a better message then wait until you get married because some people like i said wont take marraige as serious as it should be taken and may even rush getting married to have sex...just my little opinion but kudos for actually making a vid opening the discussion again =)
justmomo89 3 years ago
well i guess my other comment didnt show but basically i was saying i think its better to say IMO, that you should try to know your partner as close to 100% as possible before having sex with them because marraige doesnt give you some kind of STD immunity some ppl dont take being married as serious as it should and even if one is serious about it that doesnt mean the other is as serious..
justmomo89 3 years ago
love to hear your thoughts on it. you know i had you in mind when making this vid. don't be as upset as you are. make him want you...:) believe me, stop worrying and get on with your life, you'd be surprised at how fast a man will come to your beck and call. but it shouldn't be like that. he shouldn't be coming at all. get yourself together right now while you're young so when life 'really' starts you'll already have the foundation laid out.
dejuanp 3 years ago
pt2
word of advice(school, job, degree etc) whichever works for you. don't want the baby to come and you only got like fitty bucks in the bank sandwich.
dejuanp 3 years ago
Good advice from uncle P.
xcurvyliciousx 3 years ago
Thanks...
jiatv 3 years ago
I agree with Curly Mo.
xcurvyliciousx 3 years ago
WOW!!! You are a wonderful man and I appreciate you for this video. You are really speakin da truth. I was jus thinking about all dis stuff becuz you really don't kno a person like you think and these days you can't trust nobody.
peachez111184 3 years ago
YOU'RE SO RIGHT!!!
inluv123 3 years ago
Best Video u've made ever. I really felt ur honesty.
And share d same views but i'm kinda struggling keepin my V as a 21yr old female. But after watching I knw I'll be aight. Its funny hw God gets our attention, isnt it?
Luv u djuanP
veranasti 3 years ago 3
Go ahead boi, preach on, it's so important to wait, we all have made mistakes but one thang about it once it's gone, it's gone forever!
southerngirlTam 3 years ago
preach it.
khayav 3 years ago
thanks khaya...where have you been my man?
dejuanp 3 years ago
I've been rather busy at the office. I can usually manage even when I'm busy but these past few months have been extra busy man. But I've been watching you son!
khayav 3 years ago
aww. thanks for watchin my vid. Glad you speakin' bout it too.. I think its sad that a lotta teenagers feel pressure to have sex. Especially wit my younger sister i feel worried. Sex is kinda losin' its value and a lotta ppl are contracting std's, even Aids. Thanks!!!!!
weakNeSSa 3 years ago
NeSSa: yeah, some videos capture me and i can't help but respond. the words you spoke in here were wonderful. please stay the same and don't change. i totally respect you for who you are my love...:)
dejuanp 3 years ago