The hardest time I had losing a pet was when my dog Ralph died in 2002. He was only seven years old and I not only wish I had gotten the chance to say goodbye, as he had died at the vet's clinic overnight, but I wish he had lived to old age.
I'm sorry for your loss. Abner looked like a beautiful cat! May he be in peace.
It's hard to say goodbye to pets. I said goodbye to the family tabby cat Tika in November 2010. She had been around since I was seven years old, so I remember the first few days without her in the house was weird.
I had to make the same decision recently. It is a hard one. I know you have no regrets except as you say, Abner is gone. I feel the same way about Archie.
He looks just like my kitty! So cute! She passed last Dec RIGHT after Christmas, and I came home and found her. She was a good friend though, as I'm sure Abner was to you! Here's to looking forward to seeing both our furry friends once again someday after we pass. :)
I just caught this and I'm so sorry! I had to let find a new home for Tally (Kane is allergic) but I was a mess for days and she is still OK and actually happy to not be near my spawn anymore. Cats are just special creatures and such a blessing for the time they are with us.
It's a hard choice, but he is pain free, and will be at peace. It's always harder on the living. I hope he guides another furry friend in your direction. You sound like you are the purrfect butler for any fine furry creature. He knows he was treasured and that's the best thing anyone could ask for.
and you know, my vet sent us a message, the rainbow bridge...it was comforting....and no, why would you ever forget....life is precious...i was there when my mother took her last breath....these moments are sacrid....sp?..any way i follow you.....ur a precious soul....we need to hit the rewind....it's what makes us a compassionate soul
so, so sorry for your loss...I was a dog person for years...had a cocker spaniel 13 yrs. and had to go through the same....and still re-play it in my head....some things you'll never forget...needless to say, I am now a cat person...1 deaf cat, one hearing cat...with love enough for even more
@deffcat Thank you! Yeah, of all the moments we humans replay in our heads throughout our lives, that particular kind of moment is one that must resonate for a long time. I'm glad you said this because I keep hitting the mental rewind button and was beginning to wonder.
Hi, Don't know you but came across a couple of your vids, I am so sorry for your loss of Abner (I watched the vid of Abners 14th B-Day) he was adorable, just made me want to rub his tummy :-) My mom lost 2 cats that she had gotten together as kittens, well they have since went to be with the Lord, Shawney was 15 when she passed (she was put to sleep for health reasons) her brother Shadow passed away at 17 yrs old, he passed away in his sleep. They were both LOVED so much. My mom still cries too.
@skaismith Thank you. I'm sorry about Shawney and Shadow. I suppose in the long run, we're really very lucky to have had a decade or so with them. They bring so much positivity along with them and leave it behind when they go - no wonder we wind up missing them so much.
I work at a vet and although I'm not in the thick of things I have seen this played out many times before. I am lucky that I have not had to make this extremely hard decision yet. I had a cat that had the same hyperthyroidism but I was a betting man and went for the more expensive radiation treatment instead of the pills hoping that it would pay off before he died. He had a couple more good years before I came back from a weekend away to find him dead under my desk. It's hard to lose a loved one
Oh, Curt, I am so late catching this video. I am terribly sorry to hear of your losing dear Abner. What a precious kitty he was. He lived a long, and happy life with someone that loved him dearly. What more could a kitty want? I lost my 18 year old cat and had to euthanize my last two 14 year old dogs all since September, so I can empathize completely. The decision is the hardest you can ever make, but knowing you are ending suffering is what you have to take away from this. Hugs, V
@trillian57 Oh wow... I am so sorry. Please accept MY condolences. That's too many in that block of time, Nd all I can think is that you must be even stronger than I already knew you to be.
You're right, there's an odd sense of relief in knowing they aren't hurting or scared anymore. It doesn't quite make up for the absence, obviously, but it does help with the struggle to find peace in the aftermath.
So Touching. Right as you said they have a way of getting under your skin, my 6 month old skidded across the coffee table taking many things with it. ;) Arn't they precious.
Howdy Curt, hope everything's good on the road. Diana let me know you were oot 'n' aboot so I sure didn't mind getting the reply by proxy, I'm just glad you're doing ok during a difficult re-equilibration time. So glad it's spring!
This is my second OhCurt video. Just ran across you in Jim's vid. BTDT and letting go does take a while. I left "Cuddles" paw prints on the fish tank for a year. I still have a living Ivy leaf that has his claw marks. We had a mobile vet come to the house. We didn't stay in the room. Glad I didn't because it took a while, which still haunts me. Thanks for sharing this with us.
@sodpoo Thank you. Cuddles sounds like a deeply loved kitty. I'm sure I'd be leaving paw prints alone for as long as possible too.
Sometimes the process they go through at the end can be disturbing to witness (the vet warned me of a long list of possible things before proceeding), so I don't blame you for opting out of that part. The most important thing is that they not suffer any longer.
I am so sorry! Difficult as it was, you made the right choice for Abner. I'm so glad you were with him till the end, he loved you and trusted you, and I'm sure he would not have wanted anybody else with him on those last few steps of the way. I can understand how it hurts, I lost my Marmoset Monkey 14 months ago, and I'm still struggling to let go, I miss him soo much. But, like Abner, I know he is free and without pain now. Take care, and thank you for sharing this!
@Rh1no1 Sorry for sparking the water works. And thank you for the sweet words.
I regret not being around to keep up with all the comments here. Everyone's kindness has been helpful beyond belief and the personal stories that were shared have been cathartic.
oh no...so sad. I know your heat hurts. Pets have a way of becoming much more and I know how hard it was to make that choice.I am so sorry I missed the info on FB. I was with Sterling...and I know how it feels all to well. My thoughts are with you sweetie...
I'm sorry to hear about this. I know I fear Violet dying. Pets are a very real part of our lives. I know I will get a new kitten shortly after she passes, and I will be able to love that kitten. However that kitten will not replace Violet in my heart, only in my home. Every pet is unique and special, and they all deserve to have a loving home that misses them when their time has come.
@P00P0STER0US Sorry for not replying myself. I'm on the road for work this week and was having trouble logging in (thanks, Google, for forcing unnecessary google account linkage!). I'm hanging in there.
Hope things are good for you at your end, P00P! :-)
Too bad about Abner. But when they start to hurt like that and they don't respond to medication then it's time to put an end to it.
Our family cats have usually gone 16-18 years or so. Recently (about five years ago), Zippy kicked at an early age because of a heart condition. Cheeto is still hanging in there at age 12 or so, and Sadie is only about 6 now. I lived alone for ten years or so before coming back to take care of my mom, but now I live with cats again, and won't be without them.
Dude 14 years is a long time, I have found that I love my cats (even though I fought it) But I am sold out for cats as pets.....I want a pic of abner you have my email....I want to remember.....
I knew I'd cry+I did. We've had many cats over the years. My youngest son was just entering kindergarten when we got Casey. He was a black short hair. Ryan+Casey were almost inseparable.
Casey would sleep all day until about 15 minutes before the school bus was due to drop off Ryan. At that time, Casey would climb on the back of the stuffed chair in front of our picture window in the living room+wait forRyan to get home. We had him 3 years beyond Ryan's high school graduation. Casey died at 15.
I know what you mean about that final release. I've had to put two of my cats down and when they go there's a sense of peace to it. My last cat was hyper thyroid and s had congestive heart failure, just before they put the fluid into her she licked my fingers telling me it was ok, that it was her time. I believe an animal knows and I believe they are thankful. This may sound weird to some people but if you've ever experienced that moment then you know it's true. Sorry for your loss.
watch him pass. Change can be difficult, especially change that we aren't expecting and that we don't necessarily want, but the experience definitely allowed me to think a lot more about my own mortality. There is so much that goes on here while were alive that we don't often take enough time to appreciate the fragility of how quickly it can be taken away. Going through the loss of a pet or a love one really does make you reevaluate everything and it's importance.
My dog Rex was also born in '96, and he was euthanized just this past November. He was having great difficulty with his hip(German Shepherd) and it was time to think about him and do the right thing for his condition.
I can completely relate to how you feel in that, you realize it's a cat and you don't want people to see the loss of your cat as being 'too sensitive', but I understand your emotions completely. I was also there during the procedure, and it was both relieving and saddening to
You are a better man than I. I barely had the courage to say "Goodbye" let alone be there when they took him a way. Never regretted the decision - just couldn't watch :(
The memories though are always there - so in a way, they never leave us.
I'm sorry to hear about Abner, but it sounds like you made the right decision, especially for Abner himself.
If only we were allowed to do the same with humans who are suffering in the same way. Controversial no doubt. But, nothing should have to suffer. Animal, or human.
Wow. Abner was a year younger than me. The only pet I ever had died when I was eight, and I still miss her. So I wish you the best of luck in moving on, though I see you already have a very positive mindset about it.
I am sorry for You and i know that vet thing did the same with my grandparents dog, it looked me in the eyes and it is one of the hardest moments of my life
I missed it on facebook so you have condolences Curt. I am well aware of how hard euthanizing a pet is. I will probably have to do that to my dog Lucy in the next 2 years and she will be the second one. I had to let my dog Ripley go 2 years ago. She was my first dog and it was really hard to let go of her. I wish you well man :)
My heart breaks for you Curt...it is so hard to say goodbye. No, you will never forget that moment. We have to love them enough to allow them to leave us. You loved him so greatly. Hugging you greatly!! Abner was so precious. Thank goodness our hearts eventually heal a little.
((Massive Hugs)). Don't be surprised if his soul comes back to the house and you catch something out of the corner of your eye occasionally. My dog has been gone nearly 15 years and every now and again my parents and I are certain we catch a glimpse of his black tail with a white tip disappearing to a part of the garden when he would always get up to no good ;).
I'm glad you have other fur babies to keep you company, that definitely helps :)
K I won't repeat what I said on FB but I will say that your selfless act of letting Abner go as you did shows the love you had for him. To put aside your own pain to release him of his is what love really is. *hugs*
So sorry Curt.. I have 4 cats..all over 16 and I know that all your pain is ahead of me. I've never stayed in the room when a pet has to be put down but I feel I should try to for the next one. I feel I owe them that much at least. I hope I can do it. Take care.
Being that I don't go to Facebook much, I didn't know. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. The grief is always a difficult thing to endure and soon the pain will be replaced with the joy of having known him. loved and been loved by him...anyway that is what I tell myself when I am forced to let go and learn to live without the love that was... xoxoxoxo
Rest in peace talkative little Abner. I miss you already. Love and hugs to you Curt. As a cat owner and lover myself my heart aches for you. (((Curt)))
That must be very hard for you but I'm sure that you know you did the best thing you could do. Losing someone you love always hurts, no matter if it's a human or a cat. That's something we always have to suffer, even if we know that the mourning goes away some day. Letting her go was an act of love. Always remember that.
Starting today I am house-sitting for my sister for two weeks. She has 6 cats and I love 'em, I lived with them (some from when they were new-born kittens). I'll certainly have a greater appreciation for this time with the cats even more now and make the most of it.
I'm so sorry about Abner, Curt! I had to put down one of my dogs years ago and held her as she passed..it Was a very hard thing to do and as you said, I'll never forget it! I hope in time you will fine peace... Maybe Abner will visit you as you sleep and give you some loving licks! :))
so sorry Curt, I know how you feel. I lost my dog by drowning accident in December. we had him for 10 years, it was so hard.
Just an observation.. but does everyone see photos and video of people and pets AFTER they pass differently than say the day before? Maybe its just me.
God the death of a pet is EXTREMELY painful. There's no way to deal with it with other people usually, there's no rituals like funerals we have for people. It takes time to get over and we do it differently.
When our cat was dying in 2009 we couldn't afford to have her euthanized, fortunately she wasn't in pain, and after a week we woke up one morning and she had died. I dug her grave in the backyard.
I cried more over that cat than when a very close friend died around the same time!
Sorry to hear about Abner but what a proud name to have carried all those years. Lick yourself all over and look nonchalant - that's what cats do in such circumstances so maybe it will help
Thank you for sharing this with us and sincere condolences. That fella was a part of your life and still is and there is no shame for feelings of grieve at all. The other way around would be the shameful way. He will always be part of your life as he will always be around as he will always be remembered.
It's a rough bit to go through. Abner reminded me of my sister's cat, incredibly affectionate, very needy, same meow. Days like these underscore that life is always changing.
:( Last year my dog Boo died after 14 years with me. I wish I had been able to give him euthanasia at the doctor's office, but it was too late. He suffered for a week before we realized he was dying instead of just having a usual bout of illness/lethargy. Poor thing. These precious little beings enter our lives & give us so much love & joy, but they always leave too soon.
I am so sorry to hear about Abner. I haven't a shadow of doubt that every day he appreciated how much you loved him and that he lived as happy a life with you as he possibly could have.
I think you made the right decision to be there with him at the end. I totally dred the thoughts of when I have to do through the same thing with any of my 3 cats. I'd like to be there with them too. Thing is, I just don't think I could hold it together long enough to do that, cont.
@Blinkazoid so it's probably best that I not be in the same room. Thankfully all 3 are still doing well. Suzy and Carly are in tip top shape. Babs (3 years younger than Abner) is slowing down some though. She doesn't have the energy she once did. I think she's starting to get a bit of arthritis in her back legs. She's still a lover of life and the boss of the household, and *still* occasionally puts Suzy in her place though, LOL. Take care Curt. And again, my condolences.
Well of course you haven't let go yet. Geez, it's only been a day! Give yourself some time to adjust. When my Fletcher passed away, we had been together for all but the first six months of her 16 1/2 year life. She was my furry companion, and the loss was substantial. There was a mourning period, as with any death. She's been gone for 11+ years now, and to this day she still appears in my dreams -- in a comforting way. As if to remind me that she has never really left me -- at least in my heart.
A beautiful tribute to Abner Curt. He was as blessed to share his days with you , as you he. I'm sorry for your loss...But, happy you had the courage to free him.
It is so new it's normal for you to feel like you can't let go yet. Went through that with our dog, my constant shadow, but I couldn't be in there when she was given the inyection. My husband was more courageous than me. For some reason I always remembered that you had a kitty named Abner, so sorry he is gone :(
I was there with my pets and I am glad I was. I hope me being there gave them some comfort. My cat Susie has been gone for more than a year and Chuck, my other cat, still looks for her in her special hiding place. Breaks my heart every time. They do get under our skin and I wouldn't want it any other way. Again, I am sorry for your loss.
The hardest time I had losing a pet was when my dog Ralph died in 2002. He was only seven years old and I not only wish I had gotten the chance to say goodbye, as he had died at the vet's clinic overnight, but I wish he had lived to old age.
I'm sorry for your loss. Abner looked like a beautiful cat! May he be in peace.
HaleyMary 4 months ago
@HaleyMary Thank you.
It's really tough losing them at all, but to lose them when they're still pretty young...!
OhCurt 4 months ago
It's hard to say goodbye to pets. I said goodbye to the family tabby cat Tika in November 2010. She had been around since I was seven years old, so I remember the first few days without her in the house was weird.
HaleyMary 4 months ago
I had to make the same decision recently. It is a hard one. I know you have no regrets except as you say, Abner is gone. I feel the same way about Archie.
479Lucy 6 months ago
@479Lucy It really doesn't help anything to hold on to those kinds of regrets anyway, I guess.
Very sorry to hear about Archie.
OhCurt 6 months ago
BTW, I love all those pics of him! So cute and funny! :)
tall32guy 6 months ago
He looks just like my kitty! So cute! She passed last Dec RIGHT after Christmas, and I came home and found her. She was a good friend though, as I'm sure Abner was to you! Here's to looking forward to seeing both our furry friends once again someday after we pass. :)
tall32guy 6 months ago
Curt I am so so so sorry about yer loss of Abner! I had no idea I know what you are feeling I am so sorry. R.I.P Abner!
Poeboi 7 months ago
I just caught this and I'm so sorry! I had to let find a new home for Tally (Kane is allergic) but I was a mess for days and she is still OK and actually happy to not be near my spawn anymore. Cats are just special creatures and such a blessing for the time they are with us.
Childofares2 8 months ago
@Childofares2 Thank you, Jenn. And well put.
Sorry to hear you had to give her up; glad she's happy at her new home, tho.
BTW, congrats on your new channel name (that sucks about the camera!!), and yep I'm on FB these days. Feel free to look me up! :-)
OhCurt 8 months ago
sorry for your loss...it is a real bitch losing these furballs...
dolcevitausa 10 months ago
@dolcevitausa Thank you. And, yep, so true.
OhCurt 10 months ago
It's a hard choice, but he is pain free, and will be at peace. It's always harder on the living. I hope he guides another furry friend in your direction. You sound like you are the purrfect butler for any fine furry creature. He knows he was treasured and that's the best thing anyone could ask for.
TuataraDude 10 months ago
@TuataraDude Thank you for that. And "butler" is the perfect (purrfect?) title for my role here.
:-)
OhCurt 10 months ago
@46carolinagirl Thank you. For me, he'll be a hard act for all other cats to follow.
OhCurt 10 months ago
and you know, my vet sent us a message, the rainbow bridge...it was comforting....and no, why would you ever forget....life is precious...i was there when my mother took her last breath....these moments are sacrid....sp?..any way i follow you.....ur a precious soul....we need to hit the rewind....it's what makes us a compassionate soul
deffcat 10 months ago
so, so sorry for your loss...I was a dog person for years...had a cocker spaniel 13 yrs. and had to go through the same....and still re-play it in my head....some things you'll never forget...needless to say, I am now a cat person...1 deaf cat, one hearing cat...with love enough for even more
deffcat 10 months ago
@deffcat Thank you! Yeah, of all the moments we humans replay in our heads throughout our lives, that particular kind of moment is one that must resonate for a long time. I'm glad you said this because I keep hitting the mental rewind button and was beginning to wonder.
OhCurt 10 months ago
Hi, Don't know you but came across a couple of your vids, I am so sorry for your loss of Abner (I watched the vid of Abners 14th B-Day) he was adorable, just made me want to rub his tummy :-) My mom lost 2 cats that she had gotten together as kittens, well they have since went to be with the Lord, Shawney was 15 when she passed (she was put to sleep for health reasons) her brother Shadow passed away at 17 yrs old, he passed away in his sleep. They were both LOVED so much. My mom still cries too.
skaismith 11 months ago
@skaismith Thank you. I'm sorry about Shawney and Shadow. I suppose in the long run, we're really very lucky to have had a decade or so with them. They bring so much positivity along with them and leave it behind when they go - no wonder we wind up missing them so much.
OhCurt 10 months ago
I work at a vet and although I'm not in the thick of things I have seen this played out many times before. I am lucky that I have not had to make this extremely hard decision yet. I had a cat that had the same hyperthyroidism but I was a betting man and went for the more expensive radiation treatment instead of the pills hoping that it would pay off before he died. He had a couple more good years before I came back from a weekend away to find him dead under my desk. It's hard to lose a loved one
kokohawk 11 months ago
Oh, Curt, I am so late catching this video. I am terribly sorry to hear of your losing dear Abner. What a precious kitty he was. He lived a long, and happy life with someone that loved him dearly. What more could a kitty want? I lost my 18 year old cat and had to euthanize my last two 14 year old dogs all since September, so I can empathize completely. The decision is the hardest you can ever make, but knowing you are ending suffering is what you have to take away from this. Hugs, V
trillian57 11 months ago
@trillian57 Oh wow... I am so sorry. Please accept MY condolences. That's too many in that block of time, Nd all I can think is that you must be even stronger than I already knew you to be.
You're right, there's an odd sense of relief in knowing they aren't hurting or scared anymore. It doesn't quite make up for the absence, obviously, but it does help with the struggle to find peace in the aftermath.
OhCurt 11 months ago
So Touching. Right as you said they have a way of getting under your skin, my 6 month old skidded across the coffee table taking many things with it. ;) Arn't they precious.
sugarandlance 11 months ago
@sugarandlance Ha! That's perfect, Justin. :-)
Thank you for this visual. The chuckle went beautifully with my morning coffee.
OhCurt 11 months ago
Howdy Curt, hope everything's good on the road. Diana let me know you were oot 'n' aboot so I sure didn't mind getting the reply by proxy, I'm just glad you're doing ok during a difficult re-equilibration time. So glad it's spring!
P00P0STER0US 11 months ago
This is my second OhCurt video. Just ran across you in Jim's vid. BTDT and letting go does take a while. I left "Cuddles" paw prints on the fish tank for a year. I still have a living Ivy leaf that has his claw marks. We had a mobile vet come to the house. We didn't stay in the room. Glad I didn't because it took a while, which still haunts me. Thanks for sharing this with us.
sodpoo 11 months ago
@sodpoo Thank you. Cuddles sounds like a deeply loved kitty. I'm sure I'd be leaving paw prints alone for as long as possible too.
Sometimes the process they go through at the end can be disturbing to witness (the vet warned me of a long list of possible things before proceeding), so I don't blame you for opting out of that part. The most important thing is that they not suffer any longer.
OhCurt 11 months ago
I am so sorry! Difficult as it was, you made the right choice for Abner. I'm so glad you were with him till the end, he loved you and trusted you, and I'm sure he would not have wanted anybody else with him on those last few steps of the way. I can understand how it hurts, I lost my Marmoset Monkey 14 months ago, and I'm still struggling to let go, I miss him soo much. But, like Abner, I know he is free and without pain now. Take care, and thank you for sharing this!
FoundthePearl1 11 months ago
goddammit this made me cry.
Rh1no1 11 months ago
I know how you feel and my heart hurts for you. I had to do the same. It hurts very much.
Rh1no1 11 months ago
@Rh1no1 Sorry for sparking the water works. And thank you for the sweet words.
I regret not being around to keep up with all the comments here. Everyone's kindness has been helpful beyond belief and the personal stories that were shared have been cathartic.
OhCurt 11 months ago
oh no...so sad. I know your heat hurts. Pets have a way of becoming much more and I know how hard it was to make that choice.I am so sorry I missed the info on FB. I was with Sterling...and I know how it feels all to well. My thoughts are with you sweetie...
MicheleMidnight 11 months ago
OH MY GOD !
Curt Im so very sorry !
I have lost 3 dogs and i still get emotional about it.
((((hugs))))
ASECONDCHANCEAROUND 11 months ago
I'm sorry to hear about this. I know I fear Violet dying. Pets are a very real part of our lives. I know I will get a new kitten shortly after she passes, and I will be able to love that kitten. However that kitten will not replace Violet in my heart, only in my home. Every pet is unique and special, and they all deserve to have a loving home that misses them when their time has come.
VioletKitty411 11 months ago
You doing alright today?
P00P0STER0US 11 months ago
@P00P0STER0US he's out of town on business but he said to tell you that he's ok, and thanks for asking (((hug)))
PrincessDiana161 11 months ago
@PrincessDiana161 Oh thanks Diana, I'm glad he's ok. I appreciate you passing that along.
P00P0STER0US 11 months ago
@P00P0STER0US Sorry for not replying myself. I'm on the road for work this week and was having trouble logging in (thanks, Google, for forcing unnecessary google account linkage!). I'm hanging in there.
Hope things are good for you at your end, P00P! :-)
OhCurt 11 months ago
I'm sorry I didn't know... Take good care, will you?
fehquig 11 months ago
Too bad about Abner. But when they start to hurt like that and they don't respond to medication then it's time to put an end to it.
Our family cats have usually gone 16-18 years or so. Recently (about five years ago), Zippy kicked at an early age because of a heart condition. Cheeto is still hanging in there at age 12 or so, and Sadie is only about 6 now. I lived alone for ten years or so before coming back to take care of my mom, but now I live with cats again, and won't be without them.
SomeUselessGeek 11 months ago
That's happened to me a few times....kitty cats are hard to let go of ..
Bl4zz3r 11 months ago
Dude 14 years is a long time, I have found that I love my cats (even though I fought it) But I am sold out for cats as pets.....I want a pic of abner you have my email....I want to remember.....
vmanvand 11 months ago
I'm really sorry for your loss. Abner was a beautiful cat.
SamsonSavage 11 months ago
I knew I'd cry+I did. We've had many cats over the years. My youngest son was just entering kindergarten when we got Casey. He was a black short hair. Ryan+Casey were almost inseparable.
Casey would sleep all day until about 15 minutes before the school bus was due to drop off Ryan. At that time, Casey would climb on the back of the stuffed chair in front of our picture window in the living room+wait forRyan to get home. We had him 3 years beyond Ryan's high school graduation. Casey died at 15.
DebUSA 11 months ago
I am truly sorry, Curt....my heart is with you.
xenafairy3 11 months ago
It takes time to let go. So give it time.
BGenerous 11 months ago
I know what you mean about that final release. I've had to put two of my cats down and when they go there's a sense of peace to it. My last cat was hyper thyroid and s had congestive heart failure, just before they put the fluid into her she licked my fingers telling me it was ok, that it was her time. I believe an animal knows and I believe they are thankful. This may sound weird to some people but if you've ever experienced that moment then you know it's true. Sorry for your loss.
spygirl43 11 months ago
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Curt. Abner was one of a kind cat here on youtube. Thank you for letting him into our lives. He will be missed.
HumanBlade666 11 months ago
I'm so sorry to hear about Abner - he was a right cat.
gabrielized 11 months ago
my cat also had to be euthanize d and i was in idaho when it all happened so i totally know how you feel and i am so sorry my heart is with you
BigBuds10 11 months ago
watch him pass. Change can be difficult, especially change that we aren't expecting and that we don't necessarily want, but the experience definitely allowed me to think a lot more about my own mortality. There is so much that goes on here while were alive that we don't often take enough time to appreciate the fragility of how quickly it can be taken away. Going through the loss of a pet or a love one really does make you reevaluate everything and it's importance.
My heart is with you dude.
SelfSameOther 11 months ago
My dog Rex was also born in '96, and he was euthanized just this past November. He was having great difficulty with his hip(German Shepherd) and it was time to think about him and do the right thing for his condition.
I can completely relate to how you feel in that, you realize it's a cat and you don't want people to see the loss of your cat as being 'too sensitive', but I understand your emotions completely. I was also there during the procedure, and it was both relieving and saddening to
SelfSameOther 11 months ago
So sorry to hear about Abner. Ive been there and it sucks. You look thin.
HUGS
1DRock37167 11 months ago
Cheers Curt. Best wishes.
JimmerSD 11 months ago
You are a better man than I. I barely had the courage to say "Goodbye" let alone be there when they took him a way. Never regretted the decision - just couldn't watch :(
The memories though are always there - so in a way, they never leave us.
dl737 11 months ago
I'm sorry to hear about Abner, but it sounds like you made the right decision, especially for Abner himself.
If only we were allowed to do the same with humans who are suffering in the same way. Controversial no doubt. But, nothing should have to suffer. Animal, or human.
andymooseman 11 months ago
Wow. Abner was a year younger than me. The only pet I ever had died when I was eight, and I still miss her. So I wish you the best of luck in moving on, though I see you already have a very positive mindset about it.
sxeheidi 11 months ago
I am sorry for You and i know that vet thing did the same with my grandparents dog, it looked me in the eyes and it is one of the hardest moments of my life
bjam89 11 months ago
I missed it on facebook so you have condolences Curt. I am well aware of how hard euthanizing a pet is. I will probably have to do that to my dog Lucy in the next 2 years and she will be the second one. I had to let my dog Ripley go 2 years ago. She was my first dog and it was really hard to let go of her. I wish you well man :)
Sugartalker 11 months ago
My heart breaks for you Curt...it is so hard to say goodbye. No, you will never forget that moment. We have to love them enough to allow them to leave us. You loved him so greatly. Hugging you greatly!! Abner was so precious. Thank goodness our hearts eventually heal a little.
PaintedRavensong 11 months ago
((Massive Hugs)). Don't be surprised if his soul comes back to the house and you catch something out of the corner of your eye occasionally. My dog has been gone nearly 15 years and every now and again my parents and I are certain we catch a glimpse of his black tail with a white tip disappearing to a part of the garden when he would always get up to no good ;).
I'm glad you have other fur babies to keep you company, that definitely helps :)
TheMouthonWheels 11 months ago
So sorry to hear this Curt.
SunnyDazStormyNitz 11 months ago
K I won't repeat what I said on FB but I will say that your selfless act of letting Abner go as you did shows the love you had for him. To put aside your own pain to release him of his is what love really is. *hugs*
capergirl1976 11 months ago
So sorry Curt.. I have 4 cats..all over 16 and I know that all your pain is ahead of me. I've never stayed in the room when a pet has to be put down but I feel I should try to for the next one. I feel I owe them that much at least. I hope I can do it. Take care.
giaco44094 11 months ago
had to do it with my cat elvis after 17 yrs. i couldn't be there, it was too much...but i don't regret it. as you say, it was time.
mungojorie 11 months ago
oh finally ure back! I missed you Curt, i rly did. <3
frequency1993 11 months ago
I experienced watching a pet pass once, but I haven't been able to do it since. Have had to let someone else do it. Fur babies are the best. *hugs*
dreamer72fem 11 months ago
You don't ever need to fully let go... Abner will always be a part of you.
Sandguy99 11 months ago
Being that I don't go to Facebook much, I didn't know. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. The grief is always a difficult thing to endure and soon the pain will be replaced with the joy of having known him. loved and been loved by him...anyway that is what I tell myself when I am forced to let go and learn to live without the love that was... xoxoxoxo
Rest in Peace little Abner...
GreatGig1 11 months ago
All the best my friend... =)
nbwulf 11 months ago
Rest in peace talkative little Abner. I miss you already. Love and hugs to you Curt. As a cat owner and lover myself my heart aches for you. (((Curt)))
ohjoannabanana 11 months ago
Aww..bless his little heart. Rest in peace Abner. I'm so sorry to hear this Curt - I didn't know. hugs, Chris
bugsinrug 11 months ago
You're welcome, Curt. I'm here anytime you need me.
KirneH004 11 months ago
That must be very hard for you but I'm sure that you know you did the best thing you could do. Losing someone you love always hurts, no matter if it's a human or a cat. That's something we always have to suffer, even if we know that the mourning goes away some day. Letting her go was an act of love. Always remember that.
Rest in peace, Abner.
ralfonzo83 11 months ago
So sad,but I know Abner is in Heaven
margaret30575 11 months ago
they become like children....hang in there...
achampag 11 months ago
Starting today I am house-sitting for my sister for two weeks. She has 6 cats and I love 'em, I lived with them (some from when they were new-born kittens). I'll certainly have a greater appreciation for this time with the cats even more now and make the most of it.
All the best!
NaturalTwentyFilms 11 months ago
I'm so sorry about Abner, Curt! I had to put down one of my dogs years ago and held her as she passed..it Was a very hard thing to do and as you said, I'll never forget it! I hope in time you will fine peace... Maybe Abner will visit you as you sleep and give you some loving licks! :))
mysteryglo 11 months ago
Curt, that was a beautiful video. I'm so sorry about the loss of your housemate, it's a strange feeling not having that presence anymore.
IsshinryuDragons 11 months ago
(((hug)))
PrincessDiana161 11 months ago
so sorry Curt, I know how you feel. I lost my dog by drowning accident in December. we had him for 10 years, it was so hard.
Just an observation.. but does everyone see photos and video of people and pets AFTER they pass differently than say the day before? Maybe its just me.
NBMonkey 11 months ago
God the death of a pet is EXTREMELY painful. There's no way to deal with it with other people usually, there's no rituals like funerals we have for people. It takes time to get over and we do it differently.
When our cat was dying in 2009 we couldn't afford to have her euthanized, fortunately she wasn't in pain, and after a week we woke up one morning and she had died. I dug her grave in the backyard.
I cried more over that cat than when a very close friend died around the same time!
TheDystopiaInside 11 months ago
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TheDystopiaInside 11 months ago
I know how hard this is, been there ((((Curt))))
Abner and you were lucky to have found each other to share your love.
xoxo
LeSaMilano 11 months ago
Sorry to hear about Abner but what a proud name to have carried all those years. Lick yourself all over and look nonchalant - that's what cats do in such circumstances so maybe it will help
MrRandomWritings 11 months ago
Thank you for sharing this with us and sincere condolences. That fella was a part of your life and still is and there is no shame for feelings of grieve at all. The other way around would be the shameful way. He will always be part of your life as he will always be around as he will always be remembered.
hamsonish 11 months ago
It's a rough bit to go through. Abner reminded me of my sister's cat, incredibly affectionate, very needy, same meow. Days like these underscore that life is always changing.
P00P0STER0US 11 months ago
:( I remember you showing a birthday video with Abner in it before.
confidential247 11 months ago
:( Last year my dog Boo died after 14 years with me. I wish I had been able to give him euthanasia at the doctor's office, but it was too late. He suffered for a week before we realized he was dying instead of just having a usual bout of illness/lethargy. Poor thing. These precious little beings enter our lives & give us so much love & joy, but they always leave too soon.
ghostofxmaspast 11 months ago
I am so sorry to hear about Abner. I haven't a shadow of doubt that every day he appreciated how much you loved him and that he lived as happy a life with you as he possibly could have.
I think you made the right decision to be there with him at the end. I totally dred the thoughts of when I have to do through the same thing with any of my 3 cats. I'd like to be there with them too. Thing is, I just don't think I could hold it together long enough to do that, cont.
Blinkazoid 11 months ago
@Blinkazoid so it's probably best that I not be in the same room. Thankfully all 3 are still doing well. Suzy and Carly are in tip top shape. Babs (3 years younger than Abner) is slowing down some though. She doesn't have the energy she once did. I think she's starting to get a bit of arthritis in her back legs. She's still a lover of life and the boss of the household, and *still* occasionally puts Suzy in her place though, LOL. Take care Curt. And again, my condolences.
Blinkazoid 11 months ago
:-)
tommy30507 11 months ago
Abner has had a good innings. May he rest in peace.
QRhuggies 11 months ago
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IWalk4tnt 11 months ago
:(
marniespeaks 11 months ago
...just as I know Abner will always be with you.
perrybarton 11 months ago
Well of course you haven't let go yet. Geez, it's only been a day! Give yourself some time to adjust. When my Fletcher passed away, we had been together for all but the first six months of her 16 1/2 year life. She was my furry companion, and the loss was substantial. There was a mourning period, as with any death. She's been gone for 11+ years now, and to this day she still appears in my dreams -- in a comforting way. As if to remind me that she has never really left me -- at least in my heart.
perrybarton 11 months ago
A beautiful tribute to Abner Curt. He was as blessed to share his days with you , as you he. I'm sorry for your loss...But, happy you had the courage to free him.
hallbe 11 months ago
goodbye abner. see you on the other side!
NannyCam 11 months ago
I apologize for not seeing your post yesterday. I am so sorry about Abner. He is one with the Force. Hugs and love, My Friend.
Blizzeekitty 11 months ago
♥ I love you Curt ♥
Zublime75 11 months ago
ya they do
Richmunnich 11 months ago
It is so new it's normal for you to feel like you can't let go yet. Went through that with our dog, my constant shadow, but I couldn't be in there when she was given the inyection. My husband was more courageous than me. For some reason I always remembered that you had a kitty named Abner, so sorry he is gone :(
ArgentineShamrock 11 months ago
I was there with my pets and I am glad I was. I hope me being there gave them some comfort. My cat Susie has been gone for more than a year and Chuck, my other cat, still looks for her in her special hiding place. Breaks my heart every time. They do get under our skin and I wouldn't want it any other way. Again, I am sorry for your loss.
timido66 11 months ago
That had to be very tough to witness. I think it will be a little while longer to let go, which is perfectly normal. Hang in there Curt.
jrsnyderjr 11 months ago
Here for you. Always hard to lose a cherished friend.
qiranger 11 months ago