Aye! What an amazing story, thank you for sharing it.You seem to be a outstanding and down to earth guy so your parents did a great job raising you. I hope you and your parents can work things out.
@MrJason300 I knew I was "different" from my early childhood so I had already taken the time to figure out what exactly that was by 13. My parents found a PFLAG website in our browsing history and that pretty much outed me to them
@jacobyoutubification Your parents should love you regardless, they don't have to approve of you being gay but they should always love you. Christianity (in my opinion) is more harmful than good. God doesn't make junk and he loves us all.
sheesh, this is a very crazy story. i hope coming out to my parents is a bit more stable than that. i guess i'm doing everything in reverse by coming out to my parents last. but at least everything is good and stable now amongst your family :)
Well I know how this goes I was sent to counseling kind of thing... Parents hated it mom reacted the same way the only difference is that you went to Spain lol... and snowcones... but yeah check my coming out video :D
I can tell from watchint your qs well as others videos about coming out that i was sheltered. I didnt know ppl really got mad like that. my mon passed before i got to tell her but the rest of my family didnt care one bit. they appoligized that i felt the need to hold it in. Im sorry that u and anyone else reading this had a hard time with it. Stay true urself!
your parents really love you my BF was shunned from his family his mom said your not my son anymore and he hasent spoken to her since btw was brave 2 leave for spain not many ppl would of done so
I get that you love your mom and all, but where does your mother get off calling you a 'coward'? It's not like she was giving you much of a reason to stick around since she was acting all dramatic and silly over this. That woman has a lot of nerve, I'm sorry, but I have to say that. Her actions and reactions to all of this really ticked me off. *shrugs*
I know this is way back in the year, but, why would your parents go on your phone to get into your Facebook account anyway? That's such an invasion of privacy. But yeah, I'm glad things are better with you now.
I am lucky in the uk to live in Brighton as its so liberal here and a lot of gay people live in this part of the country. Same sex couples can hold hands in public and no one cares. Good luck to you and your boyfriend, it gets easier as you get older and i have maybe ten years on you and being gay is not something i think about. My attitude to family is accept it or don't be in my life, mine are fine now but not to start with. Its just a shame you have to fight so hard just to be who you are.
My parents are doing the same thing. I tried to explain that i was gay and my dad said that nobody in his family was gay and i wasnt about to be the first. my mom just ignores it like nothing ever happened now. niether of them will really talk to me. and quite honestly i dont even know what to do at this point. I mean, im only like fifteen, so i guess i have to wait and see still, and to be honest i lost my train of thought halfway through this comment:)
Hi,I just came across your profile be accident and listened to your video. What a summer you had.I dont blame you for going to spain as Its what your parents needed to have some think time.I couldnt get over your mum saying those awful things about you having cancer and hacking into your privacy,thats well out of order. I just wish you all the best and follow your own heart as you deserve to be happy as we all have that right. xx
Well done mate on being true to yourself despite your parents beliefs. You are an inspiration to other people in similar situations. Wishing you the very best life has to offer
It is amazing to me how many people call themselves Kristchin and then disown their kids for being gay - yeah like Jesus would do that....(rolling my eyes). Spanish boys rock!!!
I really enjoy watching your videos - I hope you make more soon. My mother is an evangelical Christian as well and openly opposes homosexuality so I haven't told her yet. Doesn't help that her only other child - and my younger brother - is also gay.
Thanks for posting this. I'm sure it will be really helpful to others who don't have the full support of their family. I do hope that your own family comes around.Your courage and hope are to be admired.
Wow. Sorry you had to go through all that. It's obvious though that you're pretty strong though because now you're just so matter-of-fact about it. Not everyone could handle a situation like that and come out swinging at the end of it. Good job.
Keep making videos! Please! People need to see that the gay community isnt just a stereotypical group void of diversity. You need to get your story out there more. I live in a rural community in Montana and I came out on the front page of the newspaper. You have no idea how important people like you are in the fight for homosexual civil rights! Peace, always!
Going to Spain wasn't that crazy of an idea. It sounds like tons of fun. I guess it would have been bad to use their credit card to buy the ticket, but other than that, the time away is a perfect idea. My escape ended up being I moved to Atlanta from south AL. Not really Christian family, but really country and bordering on redneck!
I'm so proud of you young people with such courage. Just keep fighting the good fight. With all the political negativity around US. It's crucial not to give up.
By the way, you were not foolish for leaving the country. Based on what you said, your mother responded poorly. The person you and every other gay person is not morally wrong. This is a problem your parents have. Stand strong.
I, too, grew up in the bible belt. Though religion was present, it wasn't the severity of your situation. I believe you made all the right decisions, including going to Spain. Your parents reacted irrationally, and you responded accordingly. They're much older and should have more control of themselves than a college-age person. It's wonderful of you to help your cousin, too.
Never underestimate the toxicity of religion. It is the root of all evil.
Listen, youre obviously a smart guy. You hand in there. I grew up in the bible belt of the south and even though I lost all but two friends out of dozens, I promise you it gets better - and you clearly know this. Today, I have a partner of 13 years, we have a three year old and live an amazing life with LOTS of gay friends (some couples we know have been together longer than us - if you are interested in knowing - but clearly not everyone needs to be a couple to be happy). Keep up the videos!
When I was 16 my parents sent me to a Christian "counselor" to convert me to being straight. It didn't work...and I hang that over my mother's head when she bugs me.
It sounded like you had one hell of a summer. I am glad things are working out for you and I hope things get better as the days go by. I agree with your friend you could make a movie or at least a short season tv show of your ventures lol, But all in all be safe and stay bless and congrats on the bf. ^ ^
Yay! Everything is (kinda) sorting itself out :-) but I'm sure your mum only said the things that she did out of anger or the heat of the moment... if she looked back on that conversation I'm positive she would take back those words, and here, at the end of the day, you're their son and they will do whatever it takes to make you happy :D I haven't actually come out yet but I don't really feel that urgency to "be true to myself"... Did you always want to come out or what?
I know how you feel about how the heart wants what the heart wants. I was in Scotland this past summer and I met a guy from Colombia and he was totally hitting on me and I never got his name. To make a story short, I wish I would've gotten his name. :/ so enjoy the guy you are with. He's gotta mean something if it's that far in distance :D
Welcome back! I am glad things worked out for you. You got a lot of people worried especially when the videos were deleted from your site. You are an inspiration to other people who are OUT there...
WTF you flipped to SPAIN!! hahahah. Legend!! But yes, bit drastic.
Happy you are back!! And a bf? Great!! You seem weirdly more mature. Still cute. But different. .... and fix your hair! (haha, just to balance the comment).
I'm still not out...I think they may be upset, but I work in another country, so the parents are coming to terms with my issues and stop trying to fix me - since they know i might just never come home then. You are more brave than me!
You make an excellent point about being true to yourself. I've seen so many marriages crap out because somebody tried to be straight and just ended up lying to their spouses and children. "This above all; to thine own self be true, then thou canst be false to any man."
Dude, that's an amazing story! My parents are the exact same way. Conservative Christian, sent me to a therapist, etc. But seriously, that's crazy! Looks like you'll have quite a bunch for your back to school essay. XD
YES! write a novel! And believe it or not, many of your friend MAY NOT out you to other people. so, you may have to keep coming out to people! Like I said, I am 47 and I am still coming out to people. But you are so on target "BE TRUE TO YOUR SELF!" - Blessings!
I feel blessed that my family is so accepting of me. It helps that a few relatives are gay... even my grandpa, lol. Your Mom really said that she'd rather have a son with cancer than have a gay son?? That breaks my heart as I'm sure it broke yours as well. I can tell that you are strong enough to overcome the adversity that is especially seen in your neck of the woods. I wish you all the best and stay true to yourself.
@101starwarsfan Nope, he lives in Spain and my parents live here in Dallas. They have seen him on skype but they still aren't extremely comfortable with everything. They said hello and are trying and for now that's plenty for me
@jacobyoutubification Great video, kid. Sounds like your parents are coming around. My mom cried at first, now she calls me on the phone to ask me how the gays feel about Obama, or Perry! I keep trying to convince her I don't know all the gays! I"m in Dallas too. I don't want to know all of them!
Great video, kid. Sounds like your parents are coming around. My mom cried at first, now she calls me on the phone to ask me how the gays feel about Obama, or Perry! I keep trying to convince her I don't know all the gays! I"m in Dallas too. I don't want to know all of them!
Congratulations on taking such huge steps. You're a brave young man. In time, I think your parents will truly appreciate your letting them in (I like "letting in" instead of "coming out").
hey buddy. hang in there. all you can do is be truthful. You seem like a normal guy. They are lucky to have such a normal son. Most gay men are wild and crazy and are very bitter to their parents. Tell them they got lucky with a son like you, cause i know alot of parents that are alot worse off.
@theswimkid3 I did this one on the first go because I just had a lot of stuff that I knew I wanted to say. Plus I am not too tech savvy so it's worth it to me to do it in one take that way I don't have to worry about editing ha
Jacob, This is the first of yours I've seen. I am glad that you are strong and believe in yourself and I do hope that you celebrate your life! You have had a tough road of late, I do hope that it continues to get better for you. Great advise and words of wisdom. Take care - Rand
Bah, you return as I leave for China. No youtube in China. Lame. Not only that but it's not exactly the friendliest place for us gay blokes- so it looks like its back into the closet for me. But anyways, sorry to hear about all the shit you went through, but glad things are looking up !! Good luck for the future !
It's a joy to see how changed you are; you seem so much more relaxed, so much more confident, and so much smiley than we've seen you before. I'm very happy that this has happened for you - you deserve it!
You seem like a fine young gentleman... I draw coruage from your videos and I am very happy you've found someone. I'm 44 years old and letting my life pass me by in the closet. Keep creating videos. You're helping me on my journey to come out. I was in Spain for two weeks last year. I loved it! Madrid, Barcelona and many more locations. Spain is the best!
Glad to hear/see things have got better for you and you have got more confidant. Good luck with everything and I look forward to seeing more videos from you! :)
I wish I had that kinda cash so that i could run away to Spain for a whole MONTH >_> lol. I'm glad your back, I only recently discovered your channel a few weeks before you went MIA.
I wish you all the best! Keep making videos they really are helping me... understand things a lot more. I have that same kinda epically christian family so i'm watching your vids from inside my closet ^_^...
I can definitely relate to the part about your parents trying to set you up with girls. My parents are well aware that I'm gay but they still have taken the liberty to select a future wife for me. They tell me all the time about how nice and extremely beautiful she is! lol And the best part is that they know her from their weekly prayer group!!! How perfect is that? lmao
Awsome glad to see u back..u look like u have more confidence from ur last videos(the ones u deleted) lol good that ur good and well ya its really sounds like u have an "awsome" summer hahaha lol well have fun and be safe with ur journey through this lol peace
So glad to hear back from you Jacob :) life is tough, but it gets better. You are right about being true to yourself. I was furious when my babe wanted to go to Spain for school, lol I'm not selfish, but long distance relationship is awful. Spain was a good choice for you, I'll be going to Spain when begs me to. =p
That was an awesome video!! My summer was basically the same way. Good to have you back. I totally forgot you were there lol. Then again I was just as busy as you with work and school. DUDE, SPAIN lol
I am still awed by your courage. I can't imagine having such a hard time with my parents. The cancer comments must have been particularly hurtful. I think you're adorable and you look like one of the nicest guys in the world. I wish you the best and I look forward to your future videos.
After my mom accepted me (not that she likes it and still doesnt try to get me to be with these "girls") she constantly assumes I'm having wild sexual affairs with multiple partners and the big one "UNPROTECTED." Whenever I go out she always tells me, "please where a condom, I don't want you to get AIDS." I'm 22 and have only had 4 partners over a span of 6 years. I wonder, as time passes with you and your mom, if she'll harrass you by hanging AIDS over your head. Hope I'm not alone there.
dude, when ur having such a hard time coming out, then disappear subs worry. i remember those other vids, wish you can restore them at some point., the kids need to see there are bad coming out stories (that hopefully have a good ending). i hope you got some good advice from us on YT, theres so much great advice on YT. DONT deal with this stuff on your own, get some help. Did you figure your parents would come around? One good sign is if they start to ask questions about your new life. 1 LIFE
You are amazing, and going to Spain was the right decision. I am glad to hear that all is well now. This is like your "It Gets Better" video. Your story is like what Dan Savage suggested in his video, search "Dan Savage coming out" except you did it BEFORE graduation! Good luck with your long distance romance. Who knows if it is the one or not, only time will tell. Have a great year in school.
I think ur parents will get that one day, and I can see ur still very energetic which is good. Parents can be mean and hurtful but at the end they will still love their kids...
Congratulations firstly on finding that special someone and second being true to yourself. I can completely understand falling for a Spaniard as I fell for one when we met in the UK 7 yes ago. We're now married, in a loving relationship and have moved to my home country of NZ. All the best for the future and keep documenting your story by videos.
I am glad that you are having everything work out and you should be very proud that you did this while still a young man. I did not come out until my 30's and I beleive I hurt myself the most. I am very happy for you and I am sure you are going to have a wonderful life.
Your mom sounds like a bit of a cruel drama queen. Mothers are very controlling...she probably is the same with your father. I can't believe she didn't suspect you are gay. My mother was very jealous of my BFs. She wanted to be more important to me than they were. Sick...I know. Parents are hetero and only understand the boy-girl thing. Many parents look at their gay kids as if from another planet.
Buddy, I can 100% sympathize with you. I'm 23 and told my mom a year ago and she said she'd rather me be a drug addict than be gay. Parents can be absolutely full of shit and hurtful.
It's a fairly decent way to go about telling them, honestly. The problem was essentially how they went about taking it. I think it was pretty admirable for you to tolerate them for so long. No disrespect to your otherwise lovely parents, I'm sure.
Ecstatic to see that you're back! :D I love your videos, and I feel like I can relate, A LOT. I'm gay, and my entire family is crazy religious as well. I want to come out to them after I finish university and move out (I live in Australia), but I'm not sure if I can even last till then. The dishonesty is killing me. But I'm trying to persevere, and your videos always give me hope. It inspired me to come out to more of my close friends, and it's been great ever since. Thank you :)
Glad to hear things are improving with your parents, and it will only get better, it's hard to go back into being non-accepting. And even with the Christian thing, there are many people who have that faith but still accept their gay children, but there ARE ways that you can show them that Gay + Christian can exist. Whether you actually believe in the faith yourself is obviously up to you, but if you want to get your parents to know it's okay, do the research for Bible interpretations to help u
Watching the drastic change of your life and how things are better for you is really encouraging and gives hope to every closeted gay guy like me. You are a good role model, thanks man.
Really glad for you things kinda worked out. They can say the most awfull things to you, but at the end of the day youll always stay related and they wont drop you.
I am a Christian and gay:) and I have always wanted to write a book on my life and what I have experienced; having a relationship with God and being Gay....the worst stage in my life was when I believed I had to get rif of my homosexuallity....
@oaxboy1 I know. Its so much harder being gay and christian. but the 2 things are too much a part of me to let go of either. Jacob if u see this, i hope whatever happens with your parents you remember that God will always love you and be there for you whenever you need! You give me a lot of inspiration cuz im yet to fully come out to my parents as well, and being christian and in my country the culture is totally against it so its gonna be tough. ( Homo sex is illegal in my country)
No matter what happened between you and your parents we are here for moral support =)...
There are more worst situation than you dealing with parents as being gay so don't feel bad for your self.. it is normal dealing with parents, just smile and forget what they said. =)..
my parents are like yours, so I dnt ever see myself telling them tbh. i wish I had your strength to do what you did. probly should be telling my friends too but too chicken :/
they might never be accept it but giving them that month definitely helps so they can deal with it and think. Dow you speak spanish???? since you;ve been in spain for so long. YES!! its been a crazy summer...for both of us (i chose to got the other way: tell friends and party) Your last bit of advice definitely helps....still don't know if I should tell my parents yet but thanks
Aye! What an amazing story, thank you for sharing it.You seem to be a outstanding and down to earth guy so your parents did a great job raising you. I hope you and your parents can work things out.
liquidst8 3 days ago
Wow, found out by 13? What made your parents realize that?
What extremes.. cancer vs. gay.. wow
MrJason300 3 days ago
@MrJason300 I knew I was "different" from my early childhood so I had already taken the time to figure out what exactly that was by 13. My parents found a PFLAG website in our browsing history and that pretty much outed me to them
jacobyoutubification 1 day ago
How tall are you?
imprssvobsssn 3 days ago
@imprssvobsssn short
jacobyoutubification 1 day ago
@jacobyoutubification That's why you never show you legs;)
imprssvobsssn 4 hours ago
@youllWANTmetoo777 21 but 20 when this video was made
jacobyoutubification 3 days ago
@jacobyoutubification Your parents should love you regardless, they don't have to approve of you being gay but they should always love you. Christianity (in my opinion) is more harmful than good. God doesn't make junk and he loves us all.
smurfboywv 3 days ago
@jacobyoutubification You are so cute.
youllWANTmetoo777 3 days ago
sheesh, this is a very crazy story. i hope coming out to my parents is a bit more stable than that. i guess i'm doing everything in reverse by coming out to my parents last. but at least everything is good and stable now amongst your family :)
BeBreezyTV 1 week ago
You are fucking cute. Like super cute. I want you.
youllWANTmetoo777 1 week ago
also how old are you?, if your 18 you should be able to do what you want
dansci03 2 weeks ago
Your parents went through your phone?, and flipped out?, how rude of your parents not to consider your privacy, and then say that type of stuff
dansci03 2 weeks ago
Well I know how this goes I was sent to counseling kind of thing... Parents hated it mom reacted the same way the only difference is that you went to Spain lol... and snowcones... but yeah check my coming out video :D
collegeforfun 2 weeks ago
What did I learn from this vid? Never ever think snowcones solve anything!
imprssvobsssn 2 weeks ago
@imprssvobsssn my mom still won't eat them....
jacobyoutubification 2 weeks ago
Furious, were they??
miclo22 2 weeks ago
Crazy story. Similar to mine except for the plane ticket to Spain and the snowcones haha
roryyooooo 2 weeks ago
@roryyooooo yeah...my story is a little unusual i suppose
jacobyoutubification 2 weeks ago
I can tell from watchint your qs well as others videos about coming out that i was sheltered. I didnt know ppl really got mad like that. my mon passed before i got to tell her but the rest of my family didnt care one bit. they appoligized that i felt the need to hold it in. Im sorry that u and anyone else reading this had a hard time with it. Stay true urself!
MrJonathancompton 2 weeks ago
your parents really love you my BF was shunned from his family his mom said your not my son anymore and he hasent spoken to her since btw was brave 2 leave for spain not many ppl would of done so
baklauno1 3 weeks ago
U CANT CURE BEING GAY NOTHINGS WRONG WITH US
baklauno1 3 weeks ago
You are so gorgeous
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great job looking forward to see your road to life thanks
10mysammy 1 month ago
I get that you love your mom and all, but where does your mother get off calling you a 'coward'? It's not like she was giving you much of a reason to stick around since she was acting all dramatic and silly over this. That woman has a lot of nerve, I'm sorry, but I have to say that. Her actions and reactions to all of this really ticked me off. *shrugs*
KendallHartz 1 month ago
my parents had just about the same reaction and it never got resolved and now we don't talk about it and just go about life as usual
torpidCerulean 1 month ago
I know this is way back in the year, but, why would your parents go on your phone to get into your Facebook account anyway? That's such an invasion of privacy. But yeah, I'm glad things are better with you now.
HurtMeSoul108 1 month ago
Congratz!!! :D
shaquanshia 2 months ago
This sounds so much like me!!!
MrBrett95 2 months ago
your bf is lucky to have you :)
SIMULATORMEX21 2 months ago
I am lucky in the uk to live in Brighton as its so liberal here and a lot of gay people live in this part of the country. Same sex couples can hold hands in public and no one cares. Good luck to you and your boyfriend, it gets easier as you get older and i have maybe ten years on you and being gay is not something i think about. My attitude to family is accept it or don't be in my life, mine are fine now but not to start with. Its just a shame you have to fight so hard just to be who you are.
imninalu 2 months ago 2
I always wondered what happened to you...
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SO you live in Dallas?
TheChristopher2006 2 months ago
You are a very attractive man
Aronhiioman317 2 months ago
thanks for share your story is so import to us to know the somebody has a happy ending..
riesgo79 2 months ago
How did they know when you were 13? You don't act gay at all.
jamstrings100 2 months ago
My parents are doing the same thing. I tried to explain that i was gay and my dad said that nobody in his family was gay and i wasnt about to be the first. my mom just ignores it like nothing ever happened now. niether of them will really talk to me. and quite honestly i dont even know what to do at this point. I mean, im only like fifteen, so i guess i have to wait and see still, and to be honest i lost my train of thought halfway through this comment:)
nreed1996 2 months ago
dude you are good guy, keep your head up high!!!
alovebaby41 3 months ago
Nice 2 meet U. Good vid. Thx 4 invite.
ShadowYrk 3 months ago
Hi,I just came across your profile be accident and listened to your video. What a summer you had.I dont blame you for going to spain as Its what your parents needed to have some think time.I couldnt get over your mum saying those awful things about you having cancer and hacking into your privacy,thats well out of order. I just wish you all the best and follow your own heart as you deserve to be happy as we all have that right. xx
hinckleyboy1 3 months ago
You seem dull, but at the same time interesting.
Also your like the kind of guy I want! lol
RelmJoshMichaels 3 months ago
You're a total cutie, you know that? lol
02grigg 3 months ago
Well done mate on being true to yourself despite your parents beliefs. You are an inspiration to other people in similar situations. Wishing you the very best life has to offer
mccormickmartin 3 months ago
It is amazing to me how many people call themselves Kristchin and then disown their kids for being gay - yeah like Jesus would do that....(rolling my eyes). Spanish boys rock!!!
gerardo523 3 months ago
Where have you disappeared to again???!!! I misss you!!!
MrTedder10 3 months ago
Glad things turned around some because half way through your video my eyes were tearing up a little bit.
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I really enjoy watching your videos - I hope you make more soon. My mother is an evangelical Christian as well and openly opposes homosexuality so I haven't told her yet. Doesn't help that her only other child - and my younger brother - is also gay.
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WOW ur gorgeous!
guywiththelongcirl 4 months ago
Thanks for posting this. I'm sure it will be really helpful to others who don't have the full support of their family. I do hope that your own family comes around.Your courage and hope are to be admired.
HerrOvsadog 4 months ago
Wow. Sorry you had to go through all that. It's obvious though that you're pretty strong though because now you're just so matter-of-fact about it. Not everyone could handle a situation like that and come out swinging at the end of it. Good job.
RegularGayGuy 4 months ago
You are naughty! Spain? Wow.
johntakai8429 4 months ago
Let's go back to Spain together. You and your boyfirend and me. We'll pay rent and everything will be cool....
SPAIN ROCKS!!!
Fer007able 5 months ago
So... When are you coming back to Spain? :P
vitolpa 5 months ago
@vitolpa As soon as I can! (I am trying to study abroad again for the fall of 2012!)
jacobyoutubification 5 months ago
@jacobyoutubification I truly hope you get it, then! Everyone deserves to be happy. You'll be welcome in Spain! :)
vitolpa 5 months ago
you're beautiful!
kgsved 5 months ago
Damn Dude, you are super cute, sexy and fine!!!
3FromTheOutside 5 months ago
Why cant I find a sexy gay man like this!!!!??? WHY!?
Bain1998 5 months ago
Keep making videos! Please! People need to see that the gay community isnt just a stereotypical group void of diversity. You need to get your story out there more. I live in a rural community in Montana and I came out on the front page of the newspaper. You have no idea how important people like you are in the fight for homosexual civil rights! Peace, always!
MrHolipowerz 5 months ago
Sweet!!!
bjraynal 5 months ago
Going to Spain wasn't that crazy of an idea. It sounds like tons of fun. I guess it would have been bad to use their credit card to buy the ticket, but other than that, the time away is a perfect idea. My escape ended up being I moved to Atlanta from south AL. Not really Christian family, but really country and bordering on redneck!
nmybriefs 5 months ago
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nmybriefs 5 months ago
¡Quédate en España!
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Great to hear things have improved so much and that helping other with story. What kind of classes are you taking.
zxcbyyyy 5 months ago
Great to hear things have improved so much and that helping other with story. What kind of classes are you taking.
zxcbyyyy 5 months ago
I'm so proud of you young people with such courage. Just keep fighting the good fight. With all the political negativity around US. It's crucial not to give up.
bambinoitaliano 5 months ago
really glad you are back man, i almost unsubscribed when i say an empty channel.
djianthomas 5 months ago
By the way, you were not foolish for leaving the country. Based on what you said, your mother responded poorly. The person you and every other gay person is not morally wrong. This is a problem your parents have. Stand strong.
boxerboy07 5 months ago
I ran out of characters in my first comment, but I wanted to add that I think you're absolutely adorable.
Cheers
beeblmeyer 5 months ago
I, too, grew up in the bible belt. Though religion was present, it wasn't the severity of your situation. I believe you made all the right decisions, including going to Spain. Your parents reacted irrationally, and you responded accordingly. They're much older and should have more control of themselves than a college-age person. It's wonderful of you to help your cousin, too.
Never underestimate the toxicity of religion. It is the root of all evil.
Finish school, and best of luck to you!
beeblmeyer 5 months ago
Listen, youre obviously a smart guy. You hand in there. I grew up in the bible belt of the south and even though I lost all but two friends out of dozens, I promise you it gets better - and you clearly know this. Today, I have a partner of 13 years, we have a three year old and live an amazing life with LOTS of gay friends (some couples we know have been together longer than us - if you are interested in knowing - but clearly not everyone needs to be a couple to be happy). Keep up the videos!
boxerboy07 5 months ago
When I was 16 my parents sent me to a Christian "counselor" to convert me to being straight. It didn't work...and I hang that over my mother's head when she bugs me.
sympatador 5 months ago
Great words of wisdom glad you're back!
JBoyd10 5 months ago
You lead an interesting life, we should all be so lucky. Hope things continue on the up and up.
JBoyd10 5 months ago
Mine was the same as yours, I also went from being closeted to well my parents aren't ok with it but they are still talking to me XD
KiaroXD 5 months ago
It sounded like you had one hell of a summer. I am glad things are working out for you and I hope things get better as the days go by. I agree with your friend you could make a movie or at least a short season tv show of your ventures lol, But all in all be safe and stay bless and congrats on the bf. ^ ^
OldSpice305 5 months ago
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RachieMuse 5 months ago
Yay! Everything is (kinda) sorting itself out :-) but I'm sure your mum only said the things that she did out of anger or the heat of the moment... if she looked back on that conversation I'm positive she would take back those words, and here, at the end of the day, you're their son and they will do whatever it takes to make you happy :D I haven't actually come out yet but I don't really feel that urgency to "be true to myself"... Did you always want to come out or what?
spafrocorporation 5 months ago
I know how you feel about how the heart wants what the heart wants. I was in Scotland this past summer and I met a guy from Colombia and he was totally hitting on me and I never got his name. To make a story short, I wish I would've gotten his name. :/ so enjoy the guy you are with. He's gotta mean something if it's that far in distance :D
KennyMohr1237 5 months ago
I like the way you talk :)
creatiu 5 months ago
Welcome back! I am glad things worked out for you. You got a lot of people worried especially when the videos were deleted from your site. You are an inspiration to other people who are OUT there...
joeyinla 5 months ago
WTF you flipped to SPAIN!! hahahah. Legend!! But yes, bit drastic.
Happy you are back!! And a bf? Great!! You seem weirdly more mature. Still cute. But different. .... and fix your hair! (haha, just to balance the comment).
I'm still not out...I think they may be upset, but I work in another country, so the parents are coming to terms with my issues and stop trying to fix me - since they know i might just never come home then. You are more brave than me!
SSuperCuriouss 5 months ago in playlist More videos from jacobyoutubification
You make an excellent point about being true to yourself. I've seen so many marriages crap out because somebody tried to be straight and just ended up lying to their spouses and children. "This above all; to thine own self be true, then thou canst be false to any man."
burghler 5 months ago
Whew glad to see you back. I was concerned there for a while.
burghler 5 months ago
I wonder who's the lucky guy... LO ODIO! (lol j/k)
k4th4rt1cSTATE 5 months ago
a very handsome young man!
jlavasser 5 months ago
I'm happy to see your videos again. Thanks for sharing your stories with us.
shallowmic 5 months ago
Dude, that's an amazing story! My parents are the exact same way. Conservative Christian, sent me to a therapist, etc. But seriously, that's crazy! Looks like you'll have quite a bunch for your back to school essay. XD
alexmanian 5 months ago
YES! write a novel! And believe it or not, many of your friend MAY NOT out you to other people. so, you may have to keep coming out to people! Like I said, I am 47 and I am still coming out to people. But you are so on target "BE TRUE TO YOUR SELF!" - Blessings!
TYEDYEGYE1 5 months ago
if it is any consolation, I am 47 and my parents still think I am "just going through a phase" LOL!
TYEDYEGYE1 5 months ago
Well that video speaks for it self! Whats his name?
MrDimsumbigone 5 months ago
I feel blessed that my family is so accepting of me. It helps that a few relatives are gay... even my grandpa, lol. Your Mom really said that she'd rather have a son with cancer than have a gay son?? That breaks my heart as I'm sure it broke yours as well. I can tell that you are strong enough to overcome the adversity that is especially seen in your neck of the woods. I wish you all the best and stay true to yourself.
Captainskier 5 months ago
have your parents met your bf?
101starwarsfan 5 months ago
@101starwarsfan Nope, he lives in Spain and my parents live here in Dallas. They have seen him on skype but they still aren't extremely comfortable with everything. They said hello and are trying and for now that's plenty for me
jacobyoutubification 5 months ago
@jacobyoutubification Great video, kid. Sounds like your parents are coming around. My mom cried at first, now she calls me on the phone to ask me how the gays feel about Obama, or Perry! I keep trying to convince her I don't know all the gays! I"m in Dallas too. I don't want to know all of them!
datlaw214 5 months ago
@jacobyoutubification
Great video, kid. Sounds like your parents are coming around. My mom cried at first, now she calls me on the phone to ask me how the gays feel about Obama, or Perry! I keep trying to convince her I don't know all the gays! I"m in Dallas too. I don't want to know all of them!
dtijmusic 5 months ago
@jacobyoutubification God, what a scandal...
gsotoaz 5 months ago
You are such a great human being Jacob!!!
myeyeswillburn 5 months ago
Congratulations on taking such huge steps. You're a brave young man. In time, I think your parents will truly appreciate your letting them in (I like "letting in" instead of "coming out").
mdstudio 5 months ago
hey buddy. hang in there. all you can do is be truthful. You seem like a normal guy. They are lucky to have such a normal son. Most gay men are wild and crazy and are very bitter to their parents. Tell them they got lucky with a son like you, cause i know alot of parents that are alot worse off.
travb8661 5 months ago
congrats on everything Jacob, i hope you keep doing so well, and maybe introduce your boyfriend to us... come on don't be shy ;)
dbfast 5 months ago
So glad to hear you're good with your parents again, and that things worked out allright! I missed you. It's so good to hear from you again!
Fixcan4U 5 months ago
You have one lucky bf!
mjwirick 5 months ago
lol you are probably this is probably the only vid on youtube with no dislikes.
karuigami 5 months ago
You're pretty amazing. Seems like you are much more mature and rational than your parents! Hope things go better in the future
buttonsg1 5 months ago
I wanna give you a hug after hearing what your mum sayed! :O
That is horrible!
HatebeingBORNthisWAY 5 months ago
We missed youuuuuuuuu, welcome back :D of course I stayed subscribed, I love your videos.
MasterJessav 6 months ago
defiantly a very cute smile!
lucasdegennaro 6 months ago
great vids glad your back and all is well
kajuncoon 6 months ago
how do you make such long videos in one take??? (it doesnt seem that you do any editing) hahaha that would be so hard
theswimkid3 6 months ago
@theswimkid3 I did this one on the first go because I just had a lot of stuff that I knew I wanted to say. Plus I am not too tech savvy so it's worth it to me to do it in one take that way I don't have to worry about editing ha
jacobyoutubification 6 months ago
Brave man.
Rcannon614 6 months ago
Jacob, This is the first of yours I've seen. I am glad that you are strong and believe in yourself and I do hope that you celebrate your life! You have had a tough road of late, I do hope that it continues to get better for you. Great advise and words of wisdom. Take care - Rand
RandMcM 6 months ago
YES! So glad you're making videos again, and incredibly happy to see how well things are going for you :)
thatawkwardone01 6 months ago
Great that all is working out for you. Like your vids.
TheCynedd 6 months ago
I would never unsubscribe to you because you love Brand New
wouldy0ukindly 6 months ago
Bah, you return as I leave for China. No youtube in China. Lame. Not only that but it's not exactly the friendliest place for us gay blokes- so it looks like its back into the closet for me. But anyways, sorry to hear about all the shit you went through, but glad things are looking up !! Good luck for the future !
Ryan3789 6 months ago
It's a joy to see how changed you are; you seem so much more relaxed, so much more confident, and so much smiley than we've seen you before. I'm very happy that this has happened for you - you deserve it!
KiddemoreGreen 6 months ago
I love this video. I love the story, and I agree with a friend of yours that says you should write a novel.
Can't wait for the new video.
Aleksay89 6 months ago
You seem like a fine young gentleman... I draw coruage from your videos and I am very happy you've found someone. I'm 44 years old and letting my life pass me by in the closet. Keep creating videos. You're helping me on my journey to come out. I was in Spain for two weeks last year. I loved it! Madrid, Barcelona and many more locations. Spain is the best!
dznyman 6 months ago
Glad to hear/see things have got better for you and you have got more confidant. Good luck with everything and I look forward to seeing more videos from you! :)
PinkBabylon 6 months ago
I wish I had that kinda cash so that i could run away to Spain for a whole MONTH >_> lol. I'm glad your back, I only recently discovered your channel a few weeks before you went MIA.
I wish you all the best! Keep making videos they really are helping me... understand things a lot more. I have that same kinda epically christian family so i'm watching your vids from inside my closet ^_^...
SkyKingEX 6 months ago
"I was studying abroad in Spain"
I can just imagine your parents saying "If only our son were studying a BROAD in Spain!" ;-)
Joking aside, you are one strong, levelheaded young man. Keep it up! :-)
Godbluffer 6 months ago
I can definitely relate to the part about your parents trying to set you up with girls. My parents are well aware that I'm gay but they still have taken the liberty to select a future wife for me. They tell me all the time about how nice and extremely beautiful she is! lol And the best part is that they know her from their weekly prayer group!!! How perfect is that? lmao
halfbro 6 months ago
Good to see you're back. Long-distance relationships just SUCK. Been there, done that.
begmickey 6 months ago
that's what believing in primative pathetic religions will do to people, sorry to here about your parents narrow minded views
lifestealer22 6 months ago
Awsome glad to see u back..u look like u have more confidence from ur last videos(the ones u deleted) lol good that ur good and well ya its really sounds like u have an "awsome" summer hahaha lol well have fun and be safe with ur journey through this lol peace
Whtevrichooz98 6 months ago
best part of the video 4:57 you have the best smile
iamluisgaribay 6 months ago
Good to see you're still around =) Crazy year indeed !
GayGHvain87 6 months ago
So happy to hear from you Jacob. :)
banesnake 6 months ago
stupid moments make the BEST stories. also, you're adorable. let's talk. message me.
andrewstkitts001 6 months ago
So glad to hear back from you Jacob :) life is tough, but it gets better. You are right about being true to yourself. I was furious when my babe wanted to go to Spain for school, lol I'm not selfish, but long distance relationship is awful. Spain was a good choice for you, I'll be going to Spain when begs me to. =p
BOSTONBLITZ 6 months ago
lol "You can cuss on youtube... it's the internet."
1234coolcody 6 months ago
CANCER? O_O WOW ._.
awopeldoon 6 months ago
That was an awesome video!! My summer was basically the same way. Good to have you back. I totally forgot you were there lol. Then again I was just as busy as you with work and school. DUDE, SPAIN lol
Asurenai31 6 months ago
Welcome back man... Its so good to see that you still have your shit together...
kkreicker1 6 months ago
I am still awed by your courage. I can't imagine having such a hard time with my parents. The cancer comments must have been particularly hurtful. I think you're adorable and you look like one of the nicest guys in the world. I wish you the best and I look forward to your future videos.
seblepage 6 months ago
you probably wont show us pictures of your boyfriend but im still going to ask if you will show us a picture of your boyfriend lol.
danx4567 6 months ago
O and props to your diligence and relationship ;)
kizzle707 6 months ago
After my mom accepted me (not that she likes it and still doesnt try to get me to be with these "girls") she constantly assumes I'm having wild sexual affairs with multiple partners and the big one "UNPROTECTED." Whenever I go out she always tells me, "please where a condom, I don't want you to get AIDS." I'm 22 and have only had 4 partners over a span of 6 years. I wonder, as time passes with you and your mom, if she'll harrass you by hanging AIDS over your head. Hope I'm not alone there.
kizzle707 6 months ago
thank god ur bak! ur 1 of my favorite utubers! happy ur bak man :)
junpeithesurvivor 6 months ago
dude, when ur having such a hard time coming out, then disappear subs worry. i remember those other vids, wish you can restore them at some point., the kids need to see there are bad coming out stories (that hopefully have a good ending). i hope you got some good advice from us on YT, theres so much great advice on YT. DONT deal with this stuff on your own, get some help. Did you figure your parents would come around? One good sign is if they start to ask questions about your new life. 1 LIFE
sleekcartim 6 months ago
You are amazing, and going to Spain was the right decision. I am glad to hear that all is well now. This is like your "It Gets Better" video. Your story is like what Dan Savage suggested in his video, search "Dan Savage coming out" except you did it BEFORE graduation! Good luck with your long distance romance. Who knows if it is the one or not, only time will tell. Have a great year in school.
lancecowboy 6 months ago
I wish i could give you a big hug.
terryandgabriel 6 months ago
I think ur parents will get that one day, and I can see ur still very energetic which is good. Parents can be mean and hurtful but at the end they will still love their kids...
myzackfair01 6 months ago
Congratulations firstly on finding that special someone and second being true to yourself. I can completely understand falling for a Spaniard as I fell for one when we met in the UK 7 yes ago. We're now married, in a loving relationship and have moved to my home country of NZ. All the best for the future and keep documenting your story by videos.
rjthekiwi 6 months ago
I am glad that you are having everything work out and you should be very proud that you did this while still a young man. I did not come out until my 30's and I beleive I hurt myself the most. I am very happy for you and I am sure you are going to have a wonderful life.
jamiegreuber 6 months ago
i want to see your cuosin
matbonucci 6 months ago
Your mom sounds like a bit of a cruel drama queen. Mothers are very controlling...she probably is the same with your father. I can't believe she didn't suspect you are gay. My mother was very jealous of my BFs. She wanted to be more important to me than they were. Sick...I know. Parents are hetero and only understand the boy-girl thing. Many parents look at their gay kids as if from another planet.
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DouglasUrantia 6 months ago
tell us about your new beau
garyjsimm 6 months ago
Buddy, I can 100% sympathize with you. I'm 23 and told my mom a year ago and she said she'd rather me be a drug addict than be gay. Parents can be absolutely full of shit and hurtful.
TheOnlyStandard76 6 months ago 16
It's a fairly decent way to go about telling them, honestly. The problem was essentially how they went about taking it. I think it was pretty admirable for you to tolerate them for so long. No disrespect to your otherwise lovely parents, I'm sure.
OriginalAndFunnyName 6 months ago
Ecstatic to see that you're back! :D I love your videos, and I feel like I can relate, A LOT. I'm gay, and my entire family is crazy religious as well. I want to come out to them after I finish university and move out (I live in Australia), but I'm not sure if I can even last till then. The dishonesty is killing me. But I'm trying to persevere, and your videos always give me hope. It inspired me to come out to more of my close friends, and it's been great ever since. Thank you :)
alecz4eva 6 months ago
Glad to hear things are improving with your parents, and it will only get better, it's hard to go back into being non-accepting. And even with the Christian thing, there are many people who have that faith but still accept their gay children, but there ARE ways that you can show them that Gay + Christian can exist. Whether you actually believe in the faith yourself is obviously up to you, but if you want to get your parents to know it's okay, do the research for Bible interpretations to help u
blahblahqaz 6 months ago
4:54 - 4:59.. hahah. cute smile.. haa
keithtae 6 months ago 37
Im so glad you made a video again :)!
ChrisIVF 6 months ago
Watching the drastic change of your life and how things are better for you is really encouraging and gives hope to every closeted gay guy like me. You are a good role model, thanks man.
ytlm 6 months ago 2
Really glad for you things kinda worked out. They can say the most awfull things to you, but at the end of the day youll always stay related and they wont drop you.
RomanThatsMe 6 months ago
You make me so happy, you better make more videos!
Rexvolt 6 months ago
I am a Christian and gay:) and I have always wanted to write a book on my life and what I have experienced; having a relationship with God and being Gay....the worst stage in my life was when I believed I had to get rif of my homosexuallity....
oaxboy1 6 months ago
@oaxboy1 I know. Its so much harder being gay and christian. but the 2 things are too much a part of me to let go of either. Jacob if u see this, i hope whatever happens with your parents you remember that God will always love you and be there for you whenever you need! You give me a lot of inspiration cuz im yet to fully come out to my parents as well, and being christian and in my country the culture is totally against it so its gonna be tough. ( Homo sex is illegal in my country)
darkprince3007 6 months ago
U r awsome and I just love your vids:) so glad ur back.....
oaxboy1 6 months ago
I plan to come out when the timing is right.
=l
Cause my parents are battistic crazy.... Asains in general are crazy. It is gonna be like a poorly sync soap opera man!
GarrukishVol 6 months ago
I'm glad to hear that everything is better with your family! even if they don't fully accept it they are trying!
GLAD TO SEE YOU BACK AND MAKING VIDEOS AS WELL!!
gostanford1 6 months ago
dude, please write that novel. i'd be a best seller lol
thekevinlife 6 months ago
Will you marry me?
Im happy that things are working out for you now!
Ive watched all your vids from the beginning.
You're awesome!
robmort91 6 months ago
No matter what happened between you and your parents we are here for moral support =)...
There are more worst situation than you dealing with parents as being gay so don't feel bad for your self.. it is normal dealing with parents, just smile and forget what they said. =)..
Skyethur 6 months ago
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Skyethur 6 months ago
I MISS YOU AND YOUR VIDEOS =)...
Skyethur 6 months ago
my parents are like yours, so I dnt ever see myself telling them tbh. i wish I had your strength to do what you did. probly should be telling my friends too but too chicken :/
josephjuvenile 6 months ago
they might never be accept it but giving them that month definitely helps so they can deal with it and think. Dow you speak spanish???? since you;ve been in spain for so long. YES!! its been a crazy summer...for both of us (i chose to got the other way: tell friends and party) Your last bit of advice definitely helps....still don't know if I should tell my parents yet but thanks
Alfie729 6 months ago