Male Niggas Abandon Their Kids...Why? That's What Niggas Do!

[Dimensions100]

My dad wanted to leave when I was born because of my mom(she's...f*ed up). But, he couldn't do it, and I thank God he's still here, helping me to find courage in myself to grow...btw you are right...

[CulpepperMinuteman]

I just discovered you and would like to say Thank you very much for the wisdom you share, and God Bless you. You are an awesome human being, wish more could be like you.

[UrbanTimes]

if you sleep with a tramp then what are you ? I would not call a woman a tramp if I had sex with her because most of the time guys know what type of woman he slept with . So he a HOE too

[Tanisha0782]

My sistas got to stop jumping into bed with lames and getting pregnant.....there is no way they did not know they was not about anything in the beginning.....smh

[themanitasdeplomo]

Your voice sounds like Samuel L. Jackson sometimes! 

[Antiks72]

@themanitasdeplomo Sure does.  I wish he would say something from one of his movie.

[jessicabirton]

my baby daddy white he still a lost cause

[MrWriteminded]

The night vision makes you look like you are in your thirties.

[tmotofga]

@MrWriteminded

Thanks. My mind feels as sharp as it did when I was in my 20s.

[Dwnsoufboi870]

this is y this channell has "quickly" became my favorite of all on youtube....T is gonna tell the truth...i respect and value ur opinion so much......peace

[partisanliberal]

Thanks for the truth and honesty. Change must come from within, it's time to stop condoning bad behavior. It's all about taking responsibility, playing the victim and blaming others doesn't cut it.

[0119alt]

You said it perfectly.

[BrownImagesProject]

If he shoots his life force in her then it's his responsibility to take care of the child and to support financial needs to the woman.

[mantleofvalor]

@BrownImagesProject

They used to call that marriage.

[1oftxfinest09]

beautiful childhood story.;..(

[49jubilee]

if a man doesn't care for his family, and he goes to church hes WORSE THAN AN UNBELIEVER-- thats in the BIBLE

[jumpingonglass]

Why would you sleep with a hoe raw

[tmotofga]

@jumpingonglass

I wouldn't.

[jumpingonglass]

Yeah they abandon they children and say black women crazy. I take care of my kids and I love my woman ( a black woman). she not crazy cause I love her the way I'm suppose to.

[DaTruth683]

The 1st 2:40 is funny, although I don't think you are trying to be funny...not the message but the delivery is funny, something like Paul Mooney....

[TheAfroCelt]

It's not always like that and if you can't see that the situation arises straight out of institutional white supremacy then you've got it severely twisted.

[tmotofga]

@TheAfroCelt

Then what's my excuse, my Father's, his Brother's, my Grandfather's, paternal and maternal? Oh, blame it on rain or the white. What in Hell has caring for your seed got to do with slavery (unless the white man's is standing at your door yelling at gun point, Nigga, abandon your kids)?

[ivey1luv]

@tmotofga Than you for this video AND for this response cause he was throwing me off.

[geewizard97]

@TheAfroCelt Sorry boss, I couldn't come into work today. Boss says, " What's the matter AfroCelt". I got a really bad case of institutional white supremacy. It's really bad. I'm having to abandon my kids, smoke blunts all day and I'm gonna have to find a fat chick w/ low self esteem to support me. Where my Obama money at! I want reparations! More money for doing nothing.

[InfoOnly2U]

@tmotofga funny you say that. Only in America they will kill you for trying to be a father. At the age 24 I almost had a heart attack fighting for my Lil ones. Still fighting to this day since there birth.. Don't think they want abandon there children but don't think that they can keep on fighting...

[Almondjoi2006]

Thank you.

[InterspeciesErotica7]

"Bums and Tramps breed more bums and tramps that suck the life blood out of the community" NEW T-SHIRT!!

Thank you

[tmotofga]

@InterspeciesErotica7

I'll buy 10.

[InterspeciesErotica7]

Can I have your permission to make that blue box saying into a t-shirt? Everything up to "community"

~Thanks

[tmotofga]

@InterspeciesErotica7

Do you.

[InterspeciesErotica7]

@tmotofga

Do you mean 'you do'? Just making sure. Your word has truth

[tmotofga]

@InterspeciesErotica7

I don't know what blue box you speak of, but have at it.

[buttlord123]

its kind of weird you look like a white guy in the night vision

[Biostech2008]

This is a beautiful message, people don't understand men like you and myself. But we're not hypocrites, we wouldn't want to grow up without the love of our parents, so why would we subject our children to that?

[tmotofga]

@Biostech2008

No truer words my friend, but this video is painful to brothers, correction, bums guilty of it and the sisters who chose them. Peace.

[HOODYWOODRECORDS]

Dude I can tell that this issue touches you & speaks to you in a visceral way but I'm sorry to tell you my friend that you are misguided & ill informed, "Men" particularly Black Men are not the problem. I'm sick & tired of Men catching hell and blame for the poor choices that so many Women make. We live in a culture that no matter how bizarre or outrageous, despicable and irresponsible a woman's behavior it is ultimately the man whom is to blame & should take responsibility for it... Bullshit!

[ststriker]

This is a real powerful and touching video. Have you ever considered being a priest?

[tmotofga]

@ststriker

I am a Minister. I require no man to confess sin to me. I instead serve Man and unhesitantly rebuke morons. Thanks for the kind words.

[foreverprofit]

I really hate when people make that excuse, When you ask someone why dont they raise there child the first thing they mention is something about the WOMEN, what does the WOMEN has to do with YOU taking care of A CHILD that YOU help MAKE.

I don't understand why some men who no how it feels to grow up with out a father do the same  thing to their children. I don't get you knew how it feel, but they do the same.

[cokoqt81]

@timetowakeuppeople: i have made mistakes as well, dont want you to think that im bashing you. just trying to enlighten you. you seem pretty bitter about the situation. pray about forgiving yourself as well as your sons father and move on. there is no such thing as a ugly deadbeat gene. if you did a good job like you said you have done then you shouldnt worry if your son will be a deadbeat. kudos for raising a good, productive, responsibile man.

[cokoqt81]

@timetowakeuppeople: 1. What u were doing with a 47 year old man and u were only 24?(2 each its own) 2. Cant get mad at him because u put yourself in that predictament. Ur part to blame as well. u slept with him. U CHOSE HIM 2 b the father of your child. I pray that u dont talk about his dad in a negative way let him learn that for hisself. i give u props 4 taking full responsibility of ur child.

[reformedinchrist]

Another 5***** vid.

[urssie]

This is really touching. I really pray that some men would take full responsibilty for their "seed". I am glad you posted this, but you will still have some n****s in the world who would think different. AND YESSSS....THEY ARE PURE-DE-BUMS!!!!!

[HILL1776BILLY]

Drive Time is the most important vids on U-Tube

[HILL1776BILLY]

I wish i could vote 10 stars

[HILL1776BILLY]

If the mother is a bad women, If you do the right thing, At LEAST your child will have a great father. Think about it, It makes all of the difference in the world. You would deserve your childs love and become a true hero. Ask God for help and make it happen!

[dredsdomain]

You're right on, way to call it like you see it. Don't stop doing these vids, your message on personal responsibility and not self pity is very inspiring.

[time2wakeuppeople]

Thank you for speaking out. Most men feel its their right to walk out on their kids and go off and make other families. I am a single mom and I have a son. Thankfully he doesn't want kids so I don't have to worry about the "ugly dad" gene showing up in my grandkids. I wish there were more men who would call out other men for their behavior. I tell my girls wrong is wrong even if we do it.

[lil580]

couldnt of said it better bruh 5/5!

[prettybassdoll]

Great video. When you talked about your dad willing to die for you, it made me cry. My dad hasn't been around since I was 4 . I went to visit him in another state and he did not want to see me and was embarrassed because he had a girlfriend my age.

[tmotofga]

Don't pass that on to yours. I'm sorry fro your experience. None the less, you have the power to do better for your kids if you have or plan to have any. Any love never realized with your Father will be gained in your kids. Peace and be blessed.

[prettybassdoll]

I have a son only and I have been teaching him christian values that grandmother taught me. We are both musicians and work in the music ministry at our church. I am going to show him your video. GOD Bless

[WilBarn99]

You are a Good Man TMOT and you are right! Women should stop having kids by men who have no intentions of ever marrying them. Women must have self respect for your body and wait for marriage. It does the Black community much harm with all the children from broken homes.

[time2wakeuppeople]

GIVE ME A BREAK! Why is that you all feel its the women fault? I was left to raise a son by an education 47 year old man when I was 24 years old. I didn't have anymore kids and I have raised my son to respect him self, me, and his community. Every women doesn't get to see an asshole for what he is and since I prayed for this man to come into my left it would seem that God is at fault for creating this piece of shit. Broken homes are created by lazy men who just want to get their freak on.

[WilBarn99]

Yes, I do know there are many liars and decievers out there but YOU did choose to have sex with a man you are NOT married too. Something is broken or dead in the Black race to the effect that most of Blacks do not see the value of marriage and the joy of parenthood.

Something is very wrong!

[time2wakeuppeople]

Well I guess when a man tells you that he's married after the two of you are engaged with the whole trip to jewelry and everything. I not sure that marrying a person who expect you to pay for their divorce is really the person to spend your life with. I do believe marriage is a great thing. My parents have been married for 42 years and my married was pregnant before they wed. My father just happened to be a man and took responsiblity. We look at the bad and think its the whole. Stop doing this.

[WilBarn99]

That's a clue right there....when he starts taking you to jewelry stores on the first or second date. He is trying to throw you off that he is already married and also give you a false hope that he will marry you.

Yes, I do know a lot of married men DO lie.

[GMPNY]

Trying to get a message to you.

[seekingjustthefacts]

Thank you for this video. You are one of the rare few who are finally holding those black men who abandon their children accountable. For too long our "leaders" have either avoided this issue or make excuses because of the belief that black men are already "victimized" by the system. What they fail to realize is that the most revolutionary act a black man can do to buck the system IS to raise and mentor his children. (cont)

[seekingjustthefacts]

I am a product of the 50's. I remember when more than 95% of the homes in my community had black fathers, deeply involved with raising their kids.

This was when the majority were leaving the south and moving into the cities. They brought with them their old African values. I watched as the system denied them jobs and forced them from the homes if their family was to receive some "welfare" assistance. I watched how painful it was for them to do this. (cont)

[seekingjustthefacts]

But, their absence put a burden on the mother, and left their children with no direction. This is what they system wanted. Now, generations of black boys grow-up thinking that it is their "birth right" to father children and abandoned them for any reason. Our mothers and fathers left the plantations with NOTHING. Some with only the clothes on their backs. They worked menial jobs for a penance, but still managed to put food on the table and more importantly STAY TOGETHER. (cont).

[seekingjustthefacts]

For the young black males who do make babies and not take care of them, you do not realize that you are playing right into the enemys hands. That is precisely what they want you to do. I love my black men and sons. I WANT you to make it. There are no other men on the EARTH like you. But you are most beautiful at your best . . . son, father, uncle, brother, cousin and BLACK! It is time for a change!

[gtman67]

TMOT i love your videos man, don't even acknowledge the negative comments from the idiot "Youtube critics". They have no idea who you are what your message is and even if they do, there just out to find a video they can start sh** on. Youtube is a great place to get message across but at the same time a hard one.All of the comments you receive are not an accurate description who is benefiting from your videos like myself. Don't give up on your goal and much love.

[BLKMRM]

good video man.

[AintBehavinMis]

Someone sent me this article called:

Why Women should stop having children.

After listening to this video and reading a few comments, I find this article relevant for women contemplating having kids for knucklehead men who turn around and abuse the kids and abandon mothers and kids. you can find it on: survivingdatingdotcom forward slash question mark p equal 1091

(I have to write it like this rather than the regular way because youtube won't let you post links.)

[SPARKWISDOM]

The children are the ones that suffer when the biological father's CHOOSE not to emotionally and/or financially take care of their children! Send what you can, call on birthdays and holidays, write letters, one man I know created a blog, do what you CAN do! The children grow up accepting disappointment and defeat at a young age. The lack of the dad messes with the CHILD'S self esteem and many times causes them to develop an approval addiction. Children NEED 2 parents!

[lakechaney]

What gets me is the fact that a lot of these females who have several kids by several different men who have a pattern of no goodness. And soon after, they continue to have kids by different men. I guess they just keeping it real. From there the kids grow up to be no good; robbing, stealing, and dealing.

[SPARKWISDOM]

@lakechaney I had 3 children with my ex. The problem is when you're with them, you don't realize they are NOT going to be there once you have the kids. The same person you marry is not the same person you divorce. The same person you meet and have a relationship with is NOT the same person you exit from. Either way, the children suffer. The men and women have to accept responsibility and start new wherever they are for the child's sake.

[crawprincess87]

If you make a baby take care of them. IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THE BABY'S MOTHER. Take care of your child. ITS NOT THAT HARD PEOPLE. And women stop having all those babies. THATS NOT CUTE.

[kemetBC]

tmot says: "I don't give a rat's a-- about who to blame" and " this video was not about blame and finding fault. (while he is blaming and finding fault in the video)

THEN SAYS: "Male -iggas ABANDON their kids"/"That's what iggas do"

"this video is about father's who dont take care of their kids "

(looks like it could be contradiction/hypocrasy here...And how do those acts(if proven true), set an example in promoting correctness and good character?? )

[tmotofga]

I am going to let you have that comment and leave it up for you have no idea of whom I am. Peace.

[tmotofga]

You have my vote. Thanks.

[arockyway2go]

Why does society as a "WHOLE" constantly shun their responsibilities to their families and push them off on the tv,computer,or some video game? I remember when it took parents AND the community they were in to raise responsible children(it wasn't that long ago). HEY PEOPLE !!!!!!!! RESPONSIBLE CHILDREN ARE A DIRECT PRODUCT OF RESPONSIBLE PARENTING. WELCOME TO LIFE,DEAL WITH IT !!!!!!!!!

[BigZeb5]

Your right. The truth will come out sooner or later

[tmotofga]

That is absolutely the Truth. A kid finding out that the Father was always there will have an impact so profound that the mother will not be able to even contend with and her guilt may even destroy what she thought she had with the child.

[BigZeb5]

Some good advice. Hey but sumtimes the mother won't allow the father to raise their child. the parents put their kids in the middle of somethin they had nothin to do with. My sisters wouldn't dare keep their kids from seeing their father like some women do

[tmotofga]

At the very least, send the checks, gifts, cards, letters, provide insurance and keep the receipts. One day the kid will want to know the truth and you can not only just tell, you can show them.

Peace

[JSharmaine]

Great video as usual, TMOT! There are too many people in this world dodging responsibility, and not being held accountable for it.

[momzilla57]

i see many comments blaming it one sex rather than the other......it takes two to make a child , they are both responsible.....if you do not want a child then do not have sex.if you do not want the responsibility then do not have sex. if you need sexual relief then go solo with yourself....sorry to be gross about it but people need to learn restraint ,

[JSharmaine]

Well said I agree 100%! Best comment on here!

[nancydrew5]

@momzilla57 "it takes two to make a child , they are both responsible.....if you do not want a child then do not have sex"

Yes it takes two to make a child but only ONE to prevent one. Both genders take control of their own contraception independent of the other. I'm all for having responsible enjoyable sex if both parties are on the same page and want that. Having responsible sex doesn't have to result in an unwanted pregnancy nor does it makes someone out to be a tramp or a bum either.

[angelsnupnup7reborn]

It is so easy to use the word LOVE in vain. As time passes it seems we as a people have lost that which made others say we have SOUL.We now have entered the realm of the souless so it is no shock to me that criminal and other immoral behaviors have increased among us. We no longer hear others or ourselves say that we have soul,the soul is the life of the body when it leaves we are declared dead. So perhaps our words are useless as words can NOT move the dead. Your parents were honorable,Peace

[Antichrist91672]

we need to tell them. wear protection! as a man decrease the odds of having unwanted children. protect your self. we've all been with women we regret. wear protection. it is soooo simple. if it is a woman u are not proud to be with better yet don't touch her!

[nancydrew5]

@AntiChrist91672 "we need to tell them. wear protection! as a man decrease the odds of having unwanted children. protect your self"

AMEN!! well said.

[Antichrist91672]

i advocate we tell the when they are young. i date a girl once who had this program in the hood for young girls. i told her while you have there attention bring in other women and tell them about life- for real. tell them their life experiences. i feel we need to tel boys the same. i told my son over and over again. watch out for the pitfalls and what some of them are especially for men.

[SPARKWISDOM]

@antichrist91672 I agree. Programs ARE what are necessary. We have to create the solutions to the issues.

[naturally4us]

Tmotofga I love you. You care to much. May God bless you and keep you and give you peace.

[tmotofga]

I Love You back. Thanks.

[lakechaney]

I blame these black women for this. Look at the choice of men they sleep with: thugs, gangstas, drug dealers, men in and out of jail. I guess they think they are keeping it real and hood, but everybody ends up suffering.

[nancydrew5]

@lakechaney Why blame it all on the black woman? Why not the men who choose to have bareback sex with women? Can't these thugs, gangstas, drug dealers, men in and out of jail make a simple choice' to wrap up their johnson and not make babies in the first place? It's not rocket science. Responsible sex from both genders will prevent unwanted pregnancies. However a man who chooses to have bareback sex inside of a fertile woman runs the risk of making babies & that blame falls solely on him.

[kemetBC]

@nancydrew5, 1st you correctly say: "Responsible sex from both genders will prevent unwanted pregnancies. "

Then you turn around and undermine it all :

"However a man who chooses to have bareback sex inside of a fertile woman runs the risk of making babies & that blame falls solely on him."

Are you saying when a male dosent use a condom,the female has been somehow forced against her will ,or without her knowlege to have sex ? It looks like that's what youre saying .Why?

[nancydrew5]

KemetBC I was responding to Lakechaney's comment that he blame black women for this by who they choose to get preggers with. And no that is not what I am saying, that is how you are 'choosing ' to interpret what I said. My comments were plain as day and pretty clear. Nobody forces a man to have bareback sex regardless of if he is a thug, hoodlum or a successful educated man. Men are solely responsible for where they deposit their sperm independent of the woman. wear condom no babies!

[kemetBC]

@nancy drew..."Nobody forces a man to have bareback sex" (nobody forces a female to lay down and have bareback sex,right??)

"Men are solely responsible for where they deposit their sperm independent of the woman." (erm, When a male deposits his sperm in a female and is not raping her, isnt SHE allowing the male to have unprotected sex with her?? By allowing a male to have UNPROTECTED sex with her,Hasnt the female decided along with the male to take the risk of a baby and/or disease??)

[nancydrew5]

@KemetBC I never said that a woman is being forced to have sex. You're the one who brought the word 'force' in here. I said, "CHOOSE'. BIG DiFFERENCE'. When men 'choose' to have bareback sex inside of a fertile woman they run the risk of a pregnancy period! It's a man's job to monitor where he 'chooses' to deposit his sperm. . Again my comment about blame was in response to lakechaney. A man can't blame a woman for getting preggers when he 'chose' to have bareback sex in the first place.

[kemetBC]

@ nancydrew5, I asked 2 questions, instead of answering them,you duck and dodge them with red herrings and "sematic speak" misdirection tactics to take the focus off the questions:

"When men 'choose' to have bareback sex inside of a fertile woman they run the risk of a pregnancy period! It's a man's job to monitor where he 'chooses' to deposit his sperm" Again, Isnt the female allowing the male (that has chosen to go "bareback") to have unprotected sex with her?

[nancydrew5]

@KemetBC These questions you are asking can be turned right back around and asked of the man too. So why don't you answer your own rhetorical questions? Regardless of if a woman 'allow's a man to have bareback sex with her or not, the onus is still on a man to take responsibility for his own contraception and decide where he deposits his sperm. Asking me that question doesn't change that fact. Regardless of what a woman allows or doesn't allow. Men who don't want babies should wrap it up.

[kemetBC]

@nancy drew,You duck and and dodge questions very well and you're also very creative at doing so(a lot females are),However, fact is, you haven t answered the questions asked:

Again:By allowing a male to have UNPROTECTED sex with her,hasn't the female decided along with the male to take the risk of a baby and/or disease??

[nancydrew5]

KemetBC . Right back atcha, whatever you say to me, will be turned right back around and applied to you & your gender. I don't owe you an answer KemetBC so stop demanding one lol. These are rhetorical questions, you already know your own answer so what difference does it make what my answer would be when you've already decided what you chose to think? Did you answer my questions? I don't care if you don't by the way. I don't need to validate my thoughts by 'your answer' or what you think.

[kemetBC]

@nancy drew,

From the very beginning, I asked you questions, you duck and dodge them, via spin doctoring,semantic/doublespeak­,red herrings,wild accusations of what you think I know and word soup etc.  Simply distraction tactics.nothing more You put a lot of effort into avoiding answering them,why?

[nancydrew5]

@kemetBC "you duck and dodge via spin doctoring,semantic/doublespeak­,red herrings,wild accusations of what you think I know and word soup etc. "

Wow I did alla dat? lol I'd hate to think (according to you) what I would do on purpose, maybe I could take to the sky on a natural high...lol ;) You're funny. & all because you seek to make your point thru my answer. But just like a man practicing safe sex isn't contingent upon a woman your point shouldn't be contingent upon my answer. I'm done.

[kemetBC]

"all because you seek to make your point thru my answer".--nancydrew5

"your point shouldn't be contingent upon my answer. I'm done". --nancydrew5

In other words: If you answer my questions,you would make my point(s) and in order NOT to do that,You have to shamelessly duck and dodge my questions via word soup and red herring distraction/misdirection tactics.

People do that kind of thing when they practice deceit.

[kemetBC]

@nancydrew5

You keep ducking and dodging the questions and I keep comming up with more...

In what way(s) does this one question Ive asked you several times unfairly neglect or overlook the responsibility of both genders???

By allowing a male to have UNPROTECTED sex with her,hasn't the female decided along with the male to take the risk of a baby and/or disease??

[nancydrew5]

@kemetBC When a man deposits his sperm into a female isn't HE allowing her to have UNPROTECTED sex with him and have control over whether 'his'sperm meets an egg and becomes a potential baby that he is responsible for? By the man allowing HIMSELF to have UNPROTECTED sex with the woman, hasn't 'HE' decided to take the risk of being a baby daddy and/or get a disease? When a man decides to have unprotected sex, he forfeits all rights to 'his' sperm once it enters 'her body'.

[tmotofga]

@kemetBC

i cosign that last statement.

[lakechaney]

You must be one of those females who got caught up with some thugs.

[liberatingtruth]

Good video brother. I have two daughters from a woman that I didn't want to be with anymore. But I'm taking care of them to this day because we're both responsible for raising them even though we aren't together. That's just being a responsible man and parent. I can't see it being any other way brother. I definitely wouldn't leave them hanging to be raised by another man. 5*

[marcdaddy33]

great video, tmot

[1908prettylawyer]

EXCELLENT video! I couldn't agree with you more. God bless you.

[doltonsfinest]

Tmot. Please dont stop with the videos. You have made a difference in my life tremendously, I am now celibate at 31 years old. I am preparing myself for greatness. We need you.

[tmotofga]

I am not quitting on you. "WE", are going to a new level. We are setting sail and leaving the shore.

All of these videos were simply a call to achieve something Greater in OUR Lives.

It's time we leave those who wish not to go or hear the call.

These videos will remain up in case others wish to join us.

God has given me something greater to share with those like your self and "WE" shall build it together and we shall enrich "OUR" Families and "COMMUNITIES".

[TheNoleboo]

TMOT - Maybe I think too much but blk males not taking care of their babies is a part of a bigger issue that blks face - it's called self-hate.

People in general are facinated with everything that comes out and off them - whether it's a pimple or clipped finger nails. For someone to have almost a replica of his own self and turn his / her back on it, it simply means that he doesn't like himself; if you don't like yourself you can't care for anything that comes from you or look like you.

[tmotofga]

If I can get ONE Woman to avoid a Bum and ONE Man to avoid a tramp, that is 2 kids that that have FIGHTING chance of not growing up to be a Tramp or Bum.

We gotta start somewhere. One Life at a Time.

[TheNoleboo]

When I think about it, self-hate is the cause of blk issues. If you don't value yourself, you'll do anything. That's the reason why a blk-owned business cannot strive in a blk neighbourhood etc. We scream everyday that whites don't like us but the ugly truth is we don't like ourselves. If we did, we wouldn't care so much whether or not others do. We would get everyday and do what we have to do to take care of ouselves and family etc. Man as a people we have deep issues. May God help us!!!!

[tmotofga]

I understand. Still, one Life at a a Time. That is ALL we have. Let's use that. Peace and One Love. Don't quit.

[QuartuvLarry]

I would've come and listened whatever you title it. But you know me, pal! Haha!

[tmotofga]

Q, you are one of my best friends. It goes without saying. Just as I will with Angel and a few others, before this year is over, we too will break bread together. Be well and prosper.

[siggyboss]

Happy 50th! That's a monumental year.

I disagree with your video. Using your logic the woman has the choice to have the child, but the man has no choice in caring for it. It doesn't matter if the woman is purposely using the child to entrap the man. Blanket statements rarely work, and it doesn't in this context.

You're making the false assumption sex and procreation are one in the same. Men and women are at times only interested in sex.

[tmotofga]

Thank you for Bday wish..

I am going to respond against my better judgement for this should have been easy to grasp.

1. If you only want sex, wear a damned condom, get a vasectomy, take a pill or jack off. It is real easy to avoid having a kid.

2. The choice is TO CARE for the child. They choose not to.

3. If a women is trying to trap a man, HE IS STILL THE FOOL for He walked into it and HE CHOSE HER. You make your bed(s), sleep in them.

That's all I have to say.

CHOICE AND CONSEQUENCE.

[siggyboss]

Thank you for the thoughtful response.

In reference to your #1 bullet, there are men who are responsible (e.g. wear condoms). If the condom breaks it's irrelevant under your framework. I could easily blame the woman for not getting a tubal ligation.

As to #3, I consider it extreme that a man who has been deceived is always at fault and responsible. Women who are deceitful should bear the responsibility, and this will discourage using children to entrap men.

[tmotofga]

Watch more of my videos. Those women are just as responsible. However, this video was not about them. As far as them paying, they get theirs. They are the single women of whom most will never get married for they have multiple kids by multiple men along with Many other issues and they are constantly looking for men who are foolish enough to be tow trucks.

That still not excuse a bum from caring for his seed.

[siggyboss]

I'm a subscriber to your channel, and agree with a lot of your views. Nevertheless, I will chime in now and then when I disagree.

[tmotofga]

Always.

It is how we learn from each other.

I just pray that we all can avoid the pitfalls because once we are in the hole, the reason why is irrelevant when we simply want to get out.

Unfortunately in many cases, we can't. Therefore ewe have to adapt 9ie, an unwanted child that still needs to be cared for).

Peace and One Love.

[nyiskillinme]

People are only thinking on a lower level they get low results & the children always get the worst of it.

[kkilo34]

Another great video.

[XPRIZZNUH]

Amen

[SPARKWISDOM]

So what is the solution? No babies out of wedlock. These sorry ass men walk away, start over and have more children. Tmot...what do we do? I've personally made the decision to marry a man that had a wonderful father in his life and allow him to be the example to my children. My ex and the father of my 3 children CHOOSES not to financially OR emotionally support our children because he does not "like" me. Whatever! Men that do NOT take care of their children are SORRY BUMS!

[Evens1]

Bravo!

EV

[asas2jh]

Weak parents breed weak children. The cycle continues!

[tmotofga]

Bums and Tramps breed more bums and tramps that suck the life blood out of the community and then they blame others and accuse those who call it out Uncle Tom, Sellout, Agent and Slave.

Good Lord, Help Us.

[asas2jh]

Told you before, its so hopeless trying to change things. The media and 'black leaders' have more airtime selling thier messege of blame and not having to be responsible that you cant dent thier messege.

[JSharmaine]

True!

[nancydrew5]

Until the govt stops making it profitable for people of a certain socioeconomical and educational level to stop breeding, you'll see this. I'm all for sterilization. I say people who fit certain criteria should be sterilized and then then once they pass a benchmark (set by you TMOT), then they can get unsterialized and then the govt can give them a benefit for having passed that benchmark. lol

[tmotofga]

I set bench marks for me and mine. Others are free to accept or reject.

[nancydrew5]

Tmot it was a tongue in cheek comment. Of course people have to set their own rules and guidelines to live by.

[PObserver]

It's abysmally low, when in our society life is disregarded as openly as it is. I have issues with people who even sell animals, but parents who aren't parents is on a different magnitude.

[JSharmaine]

"It's abysmally low, when in our society life is disregarded as openly as it is." - Amen!!!

I have issues with people who spay/neuter pets. I believe that it's taking away what they were put on this earth to do, but that's just my opinion.

[Dexduzdiz]

GOD BLESS U MAYN!!!!!!!!

[Fockersnextdoor]

Good story T, I told my sons the same things you say in this video and so far they have listened. thanks for sharing