Challenging Behavior in Young Children

[SouthernGibbs]

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[smiileyogurt]

Parents need patience to understand the meaning behind the behavior to lead them to properly communicate.

[daggertoungeomega]

So I guess I have be on some sprirtual warfare in his enviroment. In addition what in the dark shall come out to the light because i know things and they know things my son is kid is my priority im going to teach him restraint and i will be happy for him to meet with me so he could vent all he wants cuase he is my kid. I also teach him about those who pick on people and dragg people into negative spaces. My kid is first as he is being enlightened. He will use his talents to reppell.

[daggertoungeomega]

to ensure that what ever work i do is not being messed up. they will be present at every junction in his school. this behavior comes form the ignorance and the teachings handed down in the hood and in schools cause tuff love creates resistance. So when a child is yelled at beaten etc this is what happens. My job is to teach my son explian to him why what he does is wrong and how people are affected by his actions and how they affect him. If i have to send a thousand guardians i will do so.

[UtubeDuDeDuh]

@daggertoungeomega This behavior comes from the ignorance of the parents plain and simple. Children don't get that 'Joshua' when they enter school. Parents who are ignorant to that fact and stand in denial are the same parents who always want to blame the school and the teachers. It has nothing to do with picking on a student. Like shown in this clip the other students had no problem going on there mats but joshua thinks he cant kick and not listen, etc its the parents who cause that.

[daggertoungeomega]

I work hard buit when a target is put on a child it's creates a bias in those who are supposed to teach. So what happens is they illicit a negative response which only continues to set the child back so they actually do more harm than good. It's like that kid who struggles to stay out of trouble but gets constantly harrased then in turn gets fustrated and lashes back. My son is first and he is going to get a real education. So I am going to send 25 guardians to watch over my kid.

[PaganPunch]

@love182427 Yes, absolutely out of love not anger. They get beat up by kids daily and the kids know they aren't getting spanked there.

[kittyminty]

awch... a video about emotional child abuse...

[formers95]

TIME FOR DICIPRINNNNN U NON ASIAN KID!

[TheAstroble]

Push ups are just as effective. Non physical . Lets them get the frustration out with each push up and then they are ready to talk and tell you what they want. Works with every one I know and us.

[StunningPuta]

i learned all this when i was in college. this brings back memories from my child guidance class. if that were me i would be really firm and i would say

"this is not a choice" then i would use an I-message for example

i see your not on your mat

your waking up the children

i'm worried children might not get to sleep

you don't have to go to sleep but you do have to stay on your mat

or i would offer an alternative quiet activity such as looking at a book or doing a puzzle

[AlphahawkA25]

hire more than one teacher in each classroom, one deals with group activities, the other handles children individually, especially those with troubling behaviors

[BoyChibi]

grab his little ass by his legs and slam his ass on the wall, jk

[AlphahawkA25]

@BoyChibi thats called child abuse

[BoyChibi]

@AlphahawkA25 it was a joke retard ._.

[hollylynnsears]

The child needs to be shown consistency. If a teacher states not to do something and he does it, he needs imediate consequence..not through spanking either. A simple, " You need to lay on your bed and stay in your spot for x amount of minutes. If you do not do this then x will happen". A consequence could be not particpating in a fun event. Children respond better to positive rewards and tend to not do well with negative consequence. Reward good behavior, ignore bad behaviors.

[aarondawe]

I am soooo sick of the psychology of it all. The fact is we have been using this garbage for DECADES, and what we have created is a society full of spoiled , self-indulgent, self-centered kids, with wimpy parents. Is everybody out there afraid to use some old-fashioned, tried-and-true discipline with children. Uh-oh, I forgot...we aren't supposed to even use the word "discipline" because it offends our politically correct "experts."

[brukernavn1]

Also, this behaviour is often a result of the lack of self-regulation due to lack of myelinisation of the connections between the prefrontal cortex and the limbic system. As D. Stern and A. Schore have shown us, adults can interfere in these processes in both good and bad ways. If you can teach yourself to attune to the child's failing affect-regulating processes, you can help her overcome this, and in the process strengthen the neural connections that will help her self-regulate in the future.

[brukernavn1]

If he doesn't want to take his nap, how about just taking him somewhere else for a while? He's old enough to not necessarily need a nap every day.

[Kay2be2M]

@brukernavn1 I know right, they force kids to do things that their bodies just don't want to comply with, it's stupid to think that every child will fall asleep at the same time. Plus other temper issues have occured over kids not wanting to eat or drink something, I've seen most preschool teachers and assistants wanting to force the kids to eat everything on their plate or drink their milk. How am I going to force someone to eat or drink something they don't like? it's wrong.

[gtf455]

I thought this video was going to lead up to some strategies.....

[HeroicPhantom]

0:00-1:14

1:34-2:00

2:37-2:53

[suddenlyitsobvious]

A child that PLAYS healthily outside and gets wholesome food -no sugar and junk- will naturally go to sleep in a healthy, safe environment. Simple.

[suddenlyitsobvious]

Pfft! "Help the child learn more positive behaviours"...

The man as a pavlovian "trained" (tortured) animal, who's behaviours are to be programmed. What a sad, sad outlook.

Let's not forget that the only reason the child behaves this way is because the parents have issues THEY need to work on. Of course it's easier to simply drug the child and manipulate him.

Parents' failure to make a healthy connection.

[kuroneko99]

my son was just like these kids....then we took wheat and dairy out of his diet, and the melt-downs and tantrums went away.

[AnakinMatai]

@kuroneko99 Yes, gluten and casein are known to cause some aggressive and over-emotional responses to situations. I myself am gluten-free and have noticed significant changes in my anxiety levels.

[AnakinMatai]

@kuroneko99 Yes, gluten and casein have been known to cause some aggressive and over-emotional responses to situations. I myself am gluten-free and have noticed significant changes in my anxiety levels.

[heartlessvietboy]

We want to record the behavior of our children so that we can break down every single move to understand the free human mind.

[PastaBakeMilkShake]

This is NOT the way to deal with children. Whilst I am against child abuse, parents have every right to give their child a clip round the ear if they are misbehaving. Why do you think kids play up? Because they know there are no consequences. Brats.

[pinapleexpress22]

this is why women should stay the hell out of day care... let a man teach this chld to stop being a peice of shit the old fashion way.. a bottle of windsor and a wooden spoon to the ass... worked great for me

[digimon675]

i useto get time outs all the time at preschool

[aspie777]

How could any child sleep in an environment like that?! The teacher needs to lower her voice and get down to his level to relate to him. The room is so bright and overstimulating. It needs to be dimmed to aid relaxation. Did anyone else notice that little Joshua still has his shoes on? How can he sleep like that?

[GailMult]

Anticipate. Face to face communication.  Not that snotty tone of voice. Really mean what you say.

[MondoBeno]

2:42, the teacher should've

1. taken the boy aside

2. gotten down to his eye-level

3. said "your behavior is not acceptable, are you going to play nicely?"

4. (if he continues the behavior) put him in time out, one minute for every minute of his age.

[MsBluesparkle]

@MondoBeno one minute for every minute of his age is baloney, kids under 5 are not even ready for that sense of time yet. time out should be a last resort anyway redirection, logical consequences and lost privileges come first

[iampotts02]

the kid didnt look tired he didnt want to sleep!

[mccmariah]

she needs 2 take him 2 his his bed if he does not go by himself after 1 warning and keep putting him to bed even if it takes 100 trys. it will not take long b4 he knows u need 2 do what the teacher say. not just with him but with any child

[Mrsplay100]

I just see some misguided adults trying to make a young child lay down with no friends or toys when he probably wasn't tired!

He resorted to kicking because he couldn't deal with the situation. Why didn't someone take him outside to play with him. Instead they abused their power and control. He looked too old to be napping in the day.

Shame on you people who suggest force and punishment in this situation.

[ayyeitskyle]

Explain to them how bad it is.

Demonstrate it and let them see how important it.

[RFJrulez]

A very relateable case of a problem behaviour. Thanks for uploading this piece of information.

[BitchyGrandma76]

0:15 does that child have Autism?

[HIYA67]

beat the child stupid it works great if h does it again do it again

[shadupp]

this is too fucking funny

[ScotlandtheBrave931]

challenging behavior is when a child is acting like a spoiled little shit and the best course of action is a slap or a beating

[maxx88]

all right Joshua..if you don't go back on your matt im going to half to cave your head in with a cinder bloc....

[09Boxerchick]

Pick little Joshua up and put his ass ON his bed. And if little Joshua doesn't stay, spank it! Quick, EFFECTIVE and no nonsense.

[CertainAsTheSun]

@09Boxerchick,Spank **it**? Excuse the fuck out of me... Don't you mean HIM? The boy isn't a thing, he's a person, even if he's smaller than you.

[DakaSha]

@CertainAsTheSun haaaaaaaaaaaaaahahahahahaha

[Cintimama]

@09Boxerchick ...

I hope you don't have children...if you do. God help them. Cuz yr a ...bia

[Adora2008]

@09Boxerchick Spanking wouldn't work in this case, because that would teach the child it's okay to hit. The teacher should have took him aside and said Your behavior is not appropriate you can either choose to lie on your bed or read a book but playing right now is not an option because the other children are trying to rest.

[MsBluesparkle]

@Adora2008 she did do this, it didn't work, she even pointed out another child that the little boy would wake up

[whelenvortexr4]

@09Boxerchick spanking a convenient punishment its okay to sapnk when your kids misbehaving in a car ride,but time out is longer once youre spankins done you can go play.

[privatepile762]

@09Boxerchick Ah, yes! Let's harm the child, invoke fear and pain, and teach him it's best to hit when you really want something. Great advice. Fool.

[ma2centsworth]

@09Boxerchick

obviously, that's how you were raised. You're the result of insensitivity.

[jrissell1]

@09Boxerchick but if you are in a day school it is against the law to spank! and would you want someone to spank your child?

[FiestyCat86]

Unfortunately in the child care system thats not an option and so we are taught to handle children without violence. Also in that situation that is overkill. If the child is doing things are dangerous (ie touching a hot stove, going for the curling iron etc) then I think as a parent a sharp smack on the bottom is a must, but otherwise words and coping mechanisms are always the best option. It takes a great deal of patience to learn these techniques, but lazy parenting is uncalled for.

[conservativemama09]

@09Boxerchick Ummm...you can't see that this is a daycare? You spank someone else's kid, and you go to jail sweetie.

[TheImogenDevaux]

@09Boxerchick Lets just hope you never have a child with challenging behaviour.

[benjaminredcloud]

@09Boxerchick And a sure way to solve your housing issues: you'll earn a long sentence for child abuse charges.

[lqrpage]

@09Boxerchick ya right u cant spank children in a daycare u have to redirec him by giving him option. alos talk to the parents . maybe he is put to sleep early during the day and wake up late. which make it hard to sleep during nap time . i think u should provid activies that burns up energy for example dancing and runing . maybe he will be tired and want to rest during nap time . thier could many reson why the child is mis behaving u have to find out what cousin his behaver and try to solve it

[pressbox1492]

@09Boxerchick wow, that's the most common sence thing i have heard

[Jearhby]

@09Boxerchick He needs an ass whoopin... if he kicks me his but going to be red as a cherry.

[mrserven]

So...did we learn how to deal with challenging behaviors? I must have missed that part.

[davidNtonya]

Some children have "bad behavior" despite the parents best effort to help the child stop. Some children are wired different and are harder to help. I am a parent of a child like this and I've done it all and things seem better for a while, but it never lasts. We spank, do timeouts, grounding, have calm rational conversations, meds, therapy and even had to hospitilize her...nothing works as a long term solution...I just have to remain calm(very hard to do) and help her through it. ~T~

[mizzdixie]

@davidNtonya how did u gt through it/ my daughter is 5 and has been having problems since she was 2, she yells, talks back, steals, lies, screams at me...weve done everything and it just get worse and worse...shes a sweet beautiful girl but no one gets to see that through her behavior...ppl stoped inviting us to their houses bc of this behavior any advice plz help

[RinEdition]

@mizzdixie don't give her attention when she throws a fit!! Just ignore her or something! My mom used to try to comfort me when I threw fits as a child, and she would be nice to me after words. I ended up throwing tantrums into my early teens as a means of getting attention. :( Unfortunately it took a while, but eventually I realized how childish I was being.

[Mandy09Cheal]

@davidNtonya I have done all the above but my son continues to struggle to even get through activities of daily living. (He has just been diagnosed with ADHD only a few weeks ago so i am still struggling to learn how to cope.) My heart goes out to all parents struggling with difficulties with their children, it's so hard to go through and people can be very rude and say things that are not helpful and even point fingers at the parents and label them as BAD parents.

[mmgmom]

Sorry, but where is the example on how to have dealt with that child better? I find this video not very helpful, just to simply say that someone handled something badly and not give a concrete example of better teaching. Maybe because there is not always a quick solution for everything. It's so easy to criticize caretakers/parents and so hard to do it yourself.

[Gilch30]

I've just been hired as a therapist working with seriously emotionaly disturbed children k-6.. Videos like this are a help for everyone, especially those in the field of daycare. Thank you.

[MondoBeno]

I've seen worse than this, and it can drive the teacher to the breaking point. When that little boy didn't want to go on his mat for naptime, it was a problem because:

1. It's disruptive.

2. The teacher can't bend the rules just him.

But too often, the parents don't train the kid to behave at home. See the Supernanny episode THE WESTONS.

[MondoBeno]

Look at 0:27-0:44. That is what NOT to do. She's talking AT the boy (no eye contact or direct, serious speech). Also, she's talking so loud that she disturbs the other kids.

Watch the Supernanny videos if you want examples.

Try looking for opportunity to offer praise (like if the kid cleans up or helps out).

[ediself]

agreed totally. how is that showing to the kid that other children are trying to rest if she speaks so loud? speaking in a barely audible voice might even have done the trick lol.....

[blingwave]

so where is the advice?

[TheLastHyuuga]

slap him

[ihatetaft]

Daddy needs to take his belt and spank him.

[Acidic0man]

Shitty Parents make Shitty Children!

[Mandy09Cheal]

@Acidic0man Not in all cases!!! Sometimes an underlying medical condition is a contributing factor.

[MEGerberUSN]

I found this to be an excellent resource. thankyou.

[gringoculero]

these days children are expected to be nice studious students and "pay attention" before they are developmentally ready to do so.

Then "meds" come along and cure all right teachers>? make sure u get the parents to sign so that the school "nurse" IE Secretary. can give out meds, just like ONe flew over the CUkoos nest? Pink floyd song anyone?

[moonlightXsonata]

I worked in a daycare and that clip is all too familiar...

[InfinityeXpress]

The teachers should never spank the kids, its the parents responsibility to teach their kids how to behave in school. Spanking is a last resort when verbal confrontations is not enough. There's only so much a teacher can do. I was spanked and it never emotionally damamged me.

Furthermore, spanking is not abuse unless you take it too far. Parents do it because they love their kids and want them to be raised right with limits.

[sugarpiexoxo1987]

whipping a child for behaving badly creates the problem worse..you have to intervene and use the skills you have to be able to handle children with behavior issues..if you spank a child, think wisely if its a good reason about why you spank them. But it won't solve anything.

[Thegamer5150]

when I was that young my parents never gave me a nap

[Flashtheman2]

Expultion? In Pre-k? pathetic schools!

[TwilightLink37]

One more thing: I didn't get expelled. Thaak God!

[TwilightLink37]

I once had behavioural problems when I was 7. Now I don't!!! :D I'm sure it was a sign of AS because I was diagnosed with it at that age. School is not as hell as it was! :D

[PrincessENC]

thanks for sharing, very helpful tips in this clip

[arabian4life99]

these kids need some beating so they learn

[XsumowrestlerX]

How the hell do you get expelled from preschool?

[pocayama2]

YEah I wonder too lol.

[Mandy09Cheal]

@XsumowrestlerX It can happen. My son was in danger of it this year. He had to see a psychologist, welfare officer, doctor and pediatrician. He has since been diagnosed with a disorder.

[Ovaljean]

HE NEED HIS BEHIND WHUPPED!!!!!!!!!