May 20, 2008, 1033am Phone message from my bipolar mother

[tarajoworkman]

I am just recently cuting off contact with a mother just as sick...it is so hard to have your own mother say such awful things....Im glad Im not alone.

[SpiritedRose]

You know what this is not bipolar. When your bipolar your fighting deep depression(sleeping) and hyper mania (usually very hyper, creative and happy).. you don't do abusive stuff like this. Your mom must have something else wrong with her mentally.

[ikanspelle]

@SpiritedRose This is someone having a severe manic episode. Deep depression is NOT just "sleeping" and hyper mania is not always happy. Sometimes it can be paranoia and anxiety.. I'm tired of reading things like this by people who have no idea. This is why people who are bipolar are treated and regarded the way they are. When I become manic I am irrationally angry. People get mad at bipolar manics but don't actually want to help them with support. They only judge them & think they're better..

[gangsta2027]

im so sorry.

thats how my mother in law is

and we've done the same, we

HAVE to monitor her when she's

around our baby and she's not allowed

to have my daughter in her possesion

unless me or my fiance is in the room.

it sucks man.

but i know how you feel.

[rhinojjusa]

Maaan I know what this shit is like. My moms is bipolar but she takes like a goddamn suit case of pills everyday. I dont see it helping anything. The arguments we get into are un real. People would probably think I dont love my mom at all if they heard us fight but you gotta fight fire with fire. Bi polar basket cases are no fun to live with.

[jacobloversg]

I understand what your going through. My mom is Bipolar. I am Only twelve and that sounds like something my mother would say to me on one of her manic days. Good luck and i don't think u are doing anything wrong. protective services took me away from my parents about a year ago because my mom was too dangerous so don't feel bad for protecting your kids

[tudlytops]

I'm just happy that my daughter has always been here for me and as for my hubby he will never leave me. Love makes people strong.

The stop talking to her under the excuse of protecting your children??? Bi-polar runs in families remember what you done if or when you become one, when it is you or one of your children that needs support

[skydiversmith]

i will pray for u n ur family. u c, im bi-polar and i thinkk your mom would be herself by meds maybe. helped me out alot

[nonlivinghuman]

Dude, I'm sorry. Props to you for maintaining your sanity.

[BlazeHero005]

Ahhh!!!! Bipolar people scare me :(

[cherylgg]

all of you scare me

[BlazeHero005]

...Believe me. I'm just as scared as you are.

[cherylgg]

Your mother has an illness. An illness that can be inherited. What if you or one of your children end up with bipolar? Will you abandon a child the same way you abandoned your mother. What if you get ill, do you want to be abandoned and unloved. Bipolar is a physical illness, a brain illness. It is an illness like heart disease. If you get sick with bipolar, cancer or heart disease, do you want to be left alone by people who were suppose to love you. How hurtful. My heart breaks for mom.

[SFJane]

sorry to step in here Namegoes but I see this person who has no clue what is going on.

cherylgg, No where is it written that you have to be a martyr for someone else's mental illness.

nowhere is it written that one must suffer because of someone else's mental illness

I constantly remind people in my own writings and videos that getting distance from people like Bipolar Mother is the best thing you can do for your own mental health

and Bipolar is not like cancer. It is NOT

Stop with that lie

[cherylgg]

well my mother is dead so I guess I am away from her and I cant see where it has helped me one dam bit. I think it might be better if I could confront her. I know it would do no good but I cant do nothing now. She has been cold in her grave since 1993

[SFJane]

cheryl you are obsessed with other people's bipolar videos, take a break, seriously and if I had not already mentioned it, you are weak

[mybipolarmother]

If I get to the point that my mother has, I would fully expect everyone to discard me like a used kleenex. And rightly so.

If someone else becomes mentally ill, I would require that they seek effective treatment.

If one of my adult children refuses to acknowledge that their behavior is a problem, blaming everything on everyone else, I'd give them every opportunity, support & encourage them, and if they still refuse to even try to change then yes, I'd cut contact with them too.

[kh909]

@mybipolarmother

My mom is bipolar too, she's worse than this actually... but I would NEVER cut off all contact with her. EVER. She's my mother, and I have respect for her. I'm ready to fight for her for the rest of my life and hers.

[cherylgg]

Shame on you for cutting off all contact with your ill mother and not letting her see her grand children. Your children need to be taught about mental illness and they need to be taught love and compassion. This is not some old lady on the street we are talking about. It is your mother. You have a responsibility towards her as her adult son. She did not ask to be bipolar and maybe there are reasons (side effects) for not taking meds. Bipolar is an illness like heart disease or cancer.

[SFJane]

wow you are just chock full of psychiatry's Big Lies aren't you? Why don't people like you actually do research? If you researched his blog you would have answers to your questions , if you actually bothered to research and meta analyze you would quickly find out that there is not one shred of real incontrovertible unambiguous scientific proof that Bipolar is a disease like cancer. What complete bullshit, and you part of some kind of Anti ICP coalition? You have all sorts of time to waste

[mybipolarmother]

My children ARE being taught about mental illness, and love and compassion too. Your assumption that any of the above requires contact with an insane and toxic person is really amusing.

Bipolar is not like any physical disease, and especially my mother's version, which includes dysphoria, paranoia, and narcissism.

The ONLY way to protect my kids from her is to eliminate contact.

[zmajski777]

Oh my god...I married a bipolar woman for half a year and was managing her mood swings untill it got worse. And you are so right....if they dont acknowledge something is wrong with them it's bad and sad equally... coz you can only save your self....Plus my mother in law is a shizofrenic and she hears whatever she wants and have that mother instinct to support her child in whatever my wife's faze...I will be divorcing soon...I swear I tired everything a normal person can do....I understand you.

[SFJane]

ok good, you did cut off all contact with her and your kids, so she is only poisoning you with her calls to your cell.

amazing clips man, these should be case studies for social workers and mental health clinicians.

if you have a family member that sounds like her, run.

[cherylgg]

How can she "poison" him. He is suppose to be the "normal" one right? It is his mother we are talking about...not some casual acquaintance. If he was going to be poisoned it would have happened a long time ago. Or what the hell...maybe he already is poisoned.

[SFJane]

you would do best do listen to every conversation *and* read his blog.

Go on a fact finding mission before revealing your ignorance in the comments section

And I had a mom just like that, a poisoner, a deceiver, a conniving, manipulating, selfish, deluded narcissist of a mother and I have not laid eye on nor spoken to her in over ten years.

Tell me any human being needs to have toxic messages like that in their answering box. I don't allow my mom to say such things to me anymore

[cherylgg]

You are the one that needs to go on a fact finding mission. Your MOTHER (not some old woman off the streets) has a biological brain-based illness. You admit she has bipolar and yet you act as if you do not know what it is.

[cherylgg]

Why cant you just give her unconditional love and when she says hateful things to you say kind and loving things back to her. You are suppose to be NORMAL..right??? You cannot be normal if you see fit to argue and upset a person who is diagnosed three times by three different doctors as having a major mental illness. A major mental illness that could be inherited by one of your children.

[cherylgg]

This is not a problem you need to run away from but a problem you need to face. God gave you the mother that you have for a reason.  I am not saying it will be easy.....get the support of your church or some good friends who are sensitive and intelligent.

[SFJane]

you have no clue what you are talking about you are so ignorant its not worth getting as upset as I was the the other day at your comments, come down to planet earth and get a clue please,

also look up child abuse, believe it or not Bipolar moms can be despicable child abusers, hell is too good of a place for my mother

[cherylgg]

Your mother needs love and support not abandonment. Your children need to be protected most via education as I mentioned earlier. You may need to supervise visits or keep visits short. You dont have to listen to her when she is irrational.you can leave.but you can love her and return to her when she is feeling better

[SFJane]

you are not talking to me now, I don't have kids, too scared I would abuse them because thats how I learned to deal with kids from my mom

[dantemustkill]

my mom called my girlfriends mom to tell her that she was stealing me and that i am a liar...

so i think you understand what i feel when i say..

i am so sick of defending myself against accusations that dont even make sense..

its a sad situation, i think more people need to know about, so thanks for posting. this really does speak to me man.

[cherylgg]

How did your mom get your girlfriends mother's phone number. If you know your mom has an illness that could affect your social relationships why don't you cover yourself better. Also, if you know your mom is bipolar...why do you feel you have to defend yourself against the acusations of a person in the throes of a grave mental illness? Instead of defending yourself against her accusations why not try loving her through them.

[dantemustkill]

yea your right. i should understand better. but for me there wasnt a time in wich she switched to bipolar mode. it seems as though ive always been attacked and that kindof ... i dont know, i just have never had the "caring mom" to begin with. always conflict.

and also.. caller ID lol.

[cherylgg]

My mother suffered schizophrenia and was abusive. It makes me cry because it was so horrible. Mean "NORMAL" people would be saying hurtful stuff to me like, "if your mom loves you so much why would she do something like that to you?" and one time when I was crying for my mother....a frustrated caseworker said, "Why do you keep crying for?I hope they (the court) sends you back home to your mother where she can beat you everyday, you obviously enjoyed it." People suck? All of you do!