I've had an affair, should I tell my spouse about it?

[chucknchar]

its your right to know, let the consequences be what they are

[bigphat200]

If you trust your spouse then just do that , why do they have to tell u everything. They may need to keep it to themselves. If your going to trust them. Trust them period. I trusted a friend and when things didn't work out i can atleast say i still trust they will do the right thing. because if i don't trust them then I would just go crazy. Everyone goes through something in there live that hurts, why add to the pain. It's up to your spouse to tell u or not. Trust and be there for them.

[zuniga6412]

it's a deal breaker.devorce.

[littlegreenjason]

@zuniga6412 Lack of punctuation and correct spelling is a deal breaker for me :) 

[zuniga6412]

@littlegreenjason : Wow, put yourself out of your own misery if your that touchy. ;)

[littlegreenjason]

@zuniga6412 Ouch! Snap!

[gusterson]

what is the name of this counselor-she has really good advice and insight.

[sajanraghavan]

Some blessed people do a great work that touch other people who do not feel so blessed yet...this is one such thing.

[bmwjohnson]

Excellent!